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		<title>“Seven Stanzas at Easter”</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 02 Apr 2010 22:02:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[John Updike]]></category>
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		<description>I found this beautiful poem several months ago on Rob Marsh's blog and have been eagerly waiting for Easter to post it. As I have been reading Adrian Warnock's Raised With Christ and seen more and more tweets from various believers about the importance of the resurrection, these lines have taken on even more resonance. [...]&lt;div class="feedflare"&gt;
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		<title>“Dude, what’s your problem?”</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Jan 2010 18:12:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[calling]]></category>
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		<description>a2’s men’s group met this morning for the start of the spring semester. As we shared our dreams and goals for 2010, a recurring theme was calling: “I want to know what my purpose is”; “I don’t want to wonder what I’m supposed to do; I want to be certain”; “It’s time for me to [...]&lt;div class="feedflare"&gt;
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		<title>Review: The True Saint Nicholas</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 24 Dec 2009 13:00:26 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[books]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Christmas]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Saint Nicholas]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Santa Claus]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[William J. Bennett]]></category>

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		<description>&lt;em&gt;The True Saint Nicholas: Why He Matters to Christmas&lt;/em&gt; is an easy and informative read. Bennett is a masterful storyteller, transforming what could be a dry encyclopedia entry into an engaging tale. The book is divided into three sections of three chapters each: Life of Nicholas, Legends of Nicholas, and Legacy of Nicholas.

In Part One, Bennett takes the sparse historical materials as well as the legends and hagiographies and combines them into an interesting story of Nicholas' life, filling in cultural and historical details and making clear what's certain and what's supposition. I appreciated Bennett's occasional use of Scripture and focus on Nicholas' faith and service to God. This is not about a historical figure who happens to matter to Christians; this is about a Christian who happens to matter to history.&lt;div class="feedflare"&gt;
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		<title>Emmanuel: the gift already given</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 20 Dec 2009 14:53:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[meditations]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[Richard John Neuhaus]]></category>

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		<description>Over the past few years, I've done fairly well in making some sort of observance of Lent, but Advent has generally escaped me—undoubtedly because the weeks leading up to Christmas are always incredibly busy in ways that the Lenten season never is.

Advent, as those in liturgical churches know, starts on the fourth Sunday before Christmas; Advent Sunday (today), not only starts the Advent season but also marks the beginning of the liturgical year. For much of the Christian world, this day signals changes in prayer, ritual, and family practices leading up to the celebration of Christ's birth. For the rest of us in low-church settings, Advent passes right on by without so much as a mention, though Christmas will likely get some attention in the December services.&lt;div class="feedflare"&gt;
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		<title>fourth week of Advent</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 20 Dec 2009 13:46:16 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Advent]]></category>

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		<description>Purify my conscience, Almighty God, by your daily visitation, that your Son Jesus Christ, at His coming, may find in me a mansion for Himself; who lives and reigns with You and the Holy Spirit, one God, now and for ever. &lt;em&gt;Amen&lt;/em&gt;.&lt;div class="feedflare"&gt;
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		<title>first week of Advent</title>
		<link>http://feedproxy.google.com/~r/Charis/~3/6tmdDOC1nF0/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 30 Nov 2009 00:48:24 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
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		<description>Almighty God, give all of us grace to cast away the works of darkness, and put on the armor of light, now in the time of this mortal life in which your Son Jesus Christ came to visit us in great humility; that in the last day, when He shall come again in His glorious [...]&lt;div class="feedflare"&gt;
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		<title>week of July 5</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 05 Jul 2009 12:10:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
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		<description>O God, you have taught me to keep all your commandments by loving you and my neighbor: Grant me the grace of your Holy Spirit, that I may be devoted to you with my whole heart, and united to others with pure affection; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, on God, for ever and ever. Amen.&lt;div class="feedflare"&gt;
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		<title>week of October 5</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 05 Oct 2008 19:20:54 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
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		<description>Almighty and everlasting God, you are always more ready to hear than we to pray, and to give more than we either desire or deserve: Pour upon your church the abundance of your mercy, forgiving us those things of which our conscience is afraid, and giving us those good things for which we are not [...]&lt;div class="feedflare"&gt;
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		<title>two tools for developing a love filter</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 04 Oct 2008 15:05:06 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[living the life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[love]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[perspective]]></category>
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		<description>I concluded my &lt;a href="http://charis.danbutcher.com/2008/10/return-of-the-annoying-people-or-i-need-a-love-filter/"&gt;last post&lt;/a&gt; with the idea that Jesus' wisdom in dealing with difficult people was the result of filtering their actions and His responses through love--what I termed a "love filter." 

I should note here that a love filter isn't rose-colored glasses; choosing to filter people and the world through love is not choosing to ignore problems or act as if none exist. We saw last time that Jesus didn't ignore problems; rather, He had the wisdom to know when to confront and when to overlook.

So the question becomes, "How do we love as Jesus loved? How do we develop that wisdom?" This is by no means an exhaustive list, but here are two things that are helping me.&lt;div class="feedflare"&gt;
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		<title>return of the annoying people; or, I need a love filter</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Oct 2008 11:24:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Dan</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[living the life]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[confrontation]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[relationships]]></category>

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		<description>Getting an eternal &lt;a href="http://charis.danbutcher.com/2008/09/getting-some-perspective-on-annoying-people/"&gt;perspective on annoying people&lt;/a&gt; helped some, but it didn't solve the problem. For the last few days, I've been having fantasies of telling this person--let's call him Alan--of telling Alan off: kindly and gently, but still telling him off.&lt;div class="feedflare"&gt;
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