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Then The Following Week I Felt Very Depressed, And The Week After That Quite Dreadful Flat And Weepy. As If I’d Lost A Baby Again. I Hit Absolute Rock Bottom And In My Worst Moments I Imagined I Felt Quite Suicidal. That Mood Did Not Really Life Until I Started The Next Round Of Treatment And I Felt I Was Doing Something Positive Again. The Next Time The Treatment Went Smolthly And The Time After That It Worked And We Had Our Baby, So We Were Delighted. But I Could Not Pretend The Whole Thing Was Without Its Problems.

One Of The Most Difficult Aspects Of Ivf Is The Emotional Stress. It’s Often Described As Being Like A Ride On An Emotional Roller Coaster. This Is Irrespective Of Whether The Treatment Is Successful Or Not. An American Study Of 156 Women That 83 Per Cent Of Those For Whom Treatment Was Unsuccessful Said That They Found The Experience Stressful. But 88 Per Cent Of Those Who Became Pregnant Said The Same. Many Say That The Stress Is Not In The Treatment Itself, Not The Physical Pain, Nor Strain Of Injections Nor Scans, But In The Waiting Involved. For Test Results, For The Follicles To Grow And Especially At The End, Waiting To See If The Treatment Had Worked. By Knowing Where The Stress Is Likely To Come, It Is Possible To Plan To Alleviate It. Or A Couple May Feel That Is Not Acceptable And Decide Not To Go Ahead.

Many Couples Start Treatment With A Backlog Of Stress. Many Come To Ivf Only After Years Of Infertility, And Often After A Number Of Painful Or Embarrassing Investigations. Infertility Itself Is Recognized To Be A Major Source Of Stress, And There Is A Lot Of Literature On The Psychological Complications It Can Cause. Studies Have Shown That Especially For Women, Fertilizer Problems Can Be Among Life’s Most Upsetting Experiences, Comparable With The Death Of Close Friend, Or Divorce. They Can Lead To Feelings Of Hopelessness, Frustration, Depression, Anger And Isolation. It Some Women They Lead To Very Low Self- Esteem, Even If They Have Successful Careers And Busy Lives, Like This One.

I Feel Such A Failure. My Partner Says It’s Not Me, It’s Him, But I Think It’s Me Who’s Not Getting Pregnant. I Know It’s Illogical Because As A Friend Said It’s Like Saying You Are A Failure Because You Do Not Have Brown Hair. I Don’t Know If Anyone Who Has Not Had Problems Can Understand.

Other People Come To Ivf After The Grief Of Repeated Pregnancy Losses. Here Again, What For The Professionals Is Often A Minor Medical Problem Is For The Woman A Major Trauma. Miscarriage Can Cause Enduring Grief, Even If The Pregnancy Is Lost At A Very Early Stage. Grief After An Ectopic Pregnancy Is Often Not Recognized At All, As Medical Attention Is Normally Focused On The Potential Treat To The Woman’s Life And Possibility Of Saving Her Fallopian Tube.

Despite Hits, Studies Have Shown That Most Couples Starting Ivf Are Emotionally Strong And Enjoy A Good Relationship. Indeed, It Is Often Argued That Is Would Be Impossible Even To Complete The Treatment Otherwise. The Bulk Of Research Indicates That Couples Tipped Into Real Psychological Problems As A Result Of Fertility Problems And Ivf Are The Exception. The Stress That Most People Encounter Is The Result Of Basically Healthy And Well Adjusted People Going Though Difficult Experiences.

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