Moreover, acting with clarity and confidence assures our children’s safety and security, protecting them as they grow. When, therefore, we approach each decision with a clear sense of purpose and a steadfast commitment to our values, we create an environment where children feel safe and supported. As a result, this intentional way of parenting shields children from harm, as well as guides them confidently along their path forward. Consquently , this helps them to grow into resilient and empowered individuals.

In this context, the acronym FUTURE offers a compass to help us secure the path ahead for our children. By providing direction and clarity, this guides us in making choices that protect, nurture, and empower, ensuring every child the opportunity to thrive in a safe and loving environment.

The FUTURE Compass

Picture is based on content by author and inspired by research.

The FUTURE framework, outlined above is supported by recent research from the past decade on the topic. This framework aligns well with nurturing, evidence-based practices discussed in our last article which emphasizes love, safety, and inclusion. Full methodologies and results are available in the original studies listed at the end of this article.

Foundations: Building Security

Research has shown that when parents feel emotionally healthy and secure, their children benefit in profound ways (LaMonica et al., 2025). Indeed, children grow up stronger—emotionally, physically, and mentally—when we create safe and loving environments (ibid). As parents feel good about themselves, we’re more likely to practise positive parenting, offering praise and showing affection. This means that well-adjusted parents will influence their children positively.

Notably, the well-adjusted parents does not necessarily resort to harsh discipline like yelling or spanking. These individuals build home responsibly, ensuring that their children feel safe, have a good learning environment to growth and develop strong social skills. These children who are cared for by their well-adjusted parents often thrive as they adapt to their social environment and overcome challenge quite readily.

Consequently, we, as parents ,must continually adjust to the unpredictable rhythms of daily life. The challenges of life, some expected others unforeseen, require us to adapt our responses, whilst adhering to our core values, even when circumstances shift. We grow stronger and build resilience, as we adjust, adapt and and adhere, enabling us to create environments where our children can thrive, no matter how the world around us changes.

Unlearning Harm: Challenging Outdated Norms

Every parent is a member of the bigger community of caregivers. They hold the responsibility of continually reflecting on and challenging outdated or harmful practices. These practices include approaches that are unfavourable to the growth and development of children, such as beating, spanking or yelling, which do not serve the children’s best interests. Recent evidence shows that moving away from such approaches opens the doors to healthier outcomes.

Every child’s growth paths are determined by their social environment and upbringing. Therefore, they are always more ready to adapt to their environment than their adult caregivers and parents. Henceforth, parents and caregivers ought to learn to evolve, to meet the adaptive nature of children (Carl et al., 2024). These motivations encourage us to refine our attitudes and adjust our behaviours; as a result, we can confidently reduce children’s anxiety, depression, and poor academic performance while fostering healthier emotional and academic development. We must be willing to seek support when it is needed and stay open to fresh, evolving ideas. By doing so, we show our commitment to unlearning outdated perspectives and relearning better approaches—so that we can intentionally create environments where every child has the opportunity to flourish.

Responsibility: Modelling Empathy and Integrity

Our actions as parents and caregivers speak volumes. This can be observed when we model responsibility, empathy, courage, and integrity. Our attitude and actions shape the values and social skills of the next generation. Modern research identifies parental modelling as a key predictor of prosocial behaviour and ethical decision-making in children (Haley M LaMonica et al., 2025). By adjusting our own emotional responses, adapting to our children’s needs, and adhering to principles of kindness and honesty, we create a living example for our children to follow. This daily practice not only strengthens family bonds but also empowers children to become compassionate, responsible members of their communities.

Environment: Creating Safe, Empowering Spaces

Children flourish when they are surrounded by safety, encouragement, and opportunities to grow (Verifying…, no date). In fact, when families and communities come together to create nurturing spaces—whether at home or in the neighbourhood—children develop emotionally, physically, and socially. Furthermore, by making safety a priority, encouraging active participation, and upholding values of inclusion, we help every child feel respected and protected. These collective shared efforts build the foundation for lifelong wellbeing and healthy development.

Imagine a circular wheel with FUTURE at the centre. Each spoke represents one principle, radiating outward. Surrounding the wheel are three orbiting spheres—independent variables that influence the child’s future:

•  Parental Mental Health
•  Access to Education
•  Community Safety

These variables feed into the wheel, either reinforcing or weakening the spokes. The dependent variable is clear: the child’s future. And it is not negotiable.

Let this framework be your compass. Because securing the future of children isn’t just a goal—it’s a daily practice.

Image: Pic Prepared by Author Hanifa K. Cook

Foundations: Building Security

Research consistently shows that creating emotional, physical, and cognitive security for children leads to healthier development and long-term well-being. Secure foundations are associated with resilience, better learning outcomes, and social competence (Haley M LaMonica et al., 2025).

Understanding: Teaching Life Skills

Staying informed as a parent and passing on relevant life skills is vital. Studies highlight that children whose parents actively teach and model such skills are better equipped to navigate challenges, adapt to change, and thrive in diverse environments (Calderon-Villarreal et al., 2025; Haley M LaMonica et al., 2025).

Trust: Being Present and Consistent

Recent literature highlights the importance of trust This essentially means being a present, consistent, and protective caregiver is essential for a child’s emotional adjustment. Studies have shown that such engagement fosters attachment, reduces behavioral issues, and instills a deep sense of security (Steffel and Liu, no date; Haley M LaMonica et al., 2025).

Unlearning Harm: Challenging Outdated Norms

Another evidence of positive influence of the well-adjusted and presently committed parents can be seen from the willingness to challenge and move away from harmful or outdated parenting practices. These intentionally supports positive outcomes, whereby interventions that are focused on shifting parental attitudes and behaviors significantly reduce in negative outcomes such as anxiety, depression, and poor academic performance (Carl et al., 2024; Haley M LaMonica et al., 2025).

Responsibility: Modeling Empathy and Integrity

Modeling responsibility, empathy, courage, and integrity shapes children’s values and social functioning. Modern research identifies parental modeling as a key predictor of prosocial behavior and ethical decision-making in children (Haley M LaMonica et al., 2025 ;Calderon-Villarreal et al.,2025).

Environment: Creating Safe, Empowering Spaces

Safe, empowering environments contribute profoundly to healthy child development. Studies show that children prosper in communities with supportive social structures, physical safety, and opportunities for engagement (Verifying…, no date; Owens, 2025).

The Orbiting Variables: Key Influences

Parental Mental Health

Research underscores that parental mental health directly influences both parenting quality and child well-being. Support for parental emotional adjustment leads to more responsive, nurturing childrearing practices, ultimately securing better developmental outcomes (Rocha et al., 2025; Steffel and Liu, no date; LaMonica et al., 2025).

Access to Education

Research also underscores that parental mental health directly influences both parenting quality and child well-being. In this regard, the parents themselves may seek emotional and mental support to help them in adjusting to their multi-faceted roles as parents, caregivers, leaders, and even career individuals. Such support can lead to more responsive, nurturing childrearing practices, ultimately securing better developmental outcomes.(Rocha et al., 2025; Steffel and Liu, no date; Haley M LaMonica et al., 2025)

Globally, access to quality education remains the single most powerful lever for breaking cycles of poverty and empowering future generations. Children with consistent educational opportunities show higher achievement, self-efficacy, and long-term economic success. (Children’s right to education – Humanium, 2025; 251M children and youth still out of school, despite decades of progress (UNESCO report), 2024).

Community Safety

Safe communities are fundamental. Recent studies highlight that when communities are safe and well-resourced, children exhibit higher social competence, reduced trauma, and robust developmental milestones (Owens, 2025; Verifying…, no date).

This nurturing, inclusive approach is in harmony with the ChildhoodSpeech visual brand—soft tones, rounded edges, and child-safe icons—signifying the loving, protective environment every child deserves.

Let this evidence-driven FUTURE framework be your family’s compass. Securing the future of children is not a distant aspiration—it’s a unified, daily practice, shaped by every decision, boundary, and word of encouragement (Verifying…, no date; Haley M LaMonica et al., 2025).

References and Bibliography

⁂251M children and youth still out of school, despite decades of progress (UNESCO report) (2024). https://www.unesco.org/en/articles/251m-children-and-youth-still-out-school-despite-decades-progress-unesco-report(Accessed: December 18, 2025).

Calderon-Villarreal, A. et al. (2025) ‘Parental involvement barriers and their influence on Student Self-Regulation in Primary education,’ Education and Urban Society, 57(4), pp. 327–346. https://doi.org/10.1177/00131245251314489.

Carl, T. et al. (2024) ‘Increasing parent help-seeking for child mental health: A study protocol for the growing minds check-in, an online universal screening tool,’ Contemporary Clinical Trials, 149, p. 107801. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cct.2024.107801.

Children’s right to education – Humanium (2025). https://www.humanium.org/en/right-to-education/.

Hoang, N.-P.T. et al. (2024) ‘Place-based approach to support children’s development towards sustainable development goals: A scoping review of current effort and future agenda,’ Children and Youth Services Review, 164, p. 107873. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.childyouth.2024.107873.

LaMonica, H.M. et al. (2025) ‘Parental emotional adjustment as a primary target for parenting programs: a cross-sectional study,’ BMC Psychology, 13(1), p. 601. https://doi.org/10.1186/s40359-025-02646-8.

Owens, C. (2025) The Kids in Communities Study: what is it about where you live that makes a difference to children’s development? https://earlychildhoodmatters.online/2017/the-kids-in-communities-study-what-is-it-about-where-you-live-that-makes-a-difference-to-childrens-development/.

Poverty and its Impact on Students’ Education – NASSP (2019). https://www.nassp.org/poverty-and-its-impact-on-students-education/.

Rocha, S. et al. (2025) ‘The impact of parenthood on mental health within the academic community: highlighting vulnerabilities and identifying high-risk groups,’ Humanities and Social Sciences Communications, 12(1). https://doi.org/10.1057/s41599-025-05178-z.

Steffel, C. and Liu, Y. (no date) The Impact of Parental Mental health on Children’s Mental health in childhood and later adulthood: a systematic literature review. https://huskiecommons.lib.niu.edu/studentengagement-honorscapstones/1551.

Verifying… (no date). https://www.preventioninstitute.org/projects/cradle-community-focus-community-safety-and-healthy-child-development.

Welsh, B.C. et al. (2024) ‘Early Developmental Crime Prevention and Social Impact over the Life Course,’ The Annals of the American Academy of Political and Social Science, 714(1), pp. 74–96. https://doi.org/10.1177/00027162251341938.

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Back then, I didn’t know how far writing and learning about childhood from the eyes of an adult  would take me. I only knew that children deserved to be heard—not just corrected, not just taught, but truly understood. That placeholder logo symbolises the existence of life from birth to childhood: to listen deeply, to speak gently, and to build something that could hold the voices of children with care

Since 2008, I’ve been quietly exploring the subject of childhood speech and development—observing, learning, and evolving. With each insight, a clearer vision began to take shape, one that now finds expression in a visual form.

You may recall that 2007 was the year Apple launched the first iPhone. I still remember my own first iPhone: the 3Gs. Back then, blogging was just beginning to gain traction, and internet marketing was the buzzword of the moment. I couldn’t quite wrap my head around the idea of merging marketing with the online world—it felt too commercial, too far removed from the heart of my work. So instead, I taught myself to build websites from scratch, using them as a canvas to refine my writing and share my reflections.

Over time, I began applying what I’d discovered about childhood development—both as a parent and an educator. And I must say, the results were encouraging. (I’ll share more about that in another post.)

But today, I want to talk about something symbolic: the new logo.

To bring this vision to life, I sought the help of a talented designer—Gavin Cook. What he created now sits quietly in the top left corner of our site. It’s no longer just a mark. It’s a message. A visual heartbeat of my work and everything this blog stands for.

And there’s more. With the help of my secondary school friend Albert—whom I reconnected with after more than 30 years—he and his team brought a fresh design to the entire website. Their contribution has given childhoodspeech.com a renewed sense of purpose and presence.

This isn’t just a rebrand. It’s a reflection of growth, connection, and clarity. The logo and site design now speak the language of love, protection, and intentional communication—values that have always been at the core of my work.

What the New Logo Represents

At first glance, it’s simple. But simplicity is strength. The curved speech bubble, softened edges, and gentle teal tones reflect our core values:

• Safety: Every child deserves to speak without fear.
• Clarity: Communication should be intentional, not accidental.
• Growth: Language is not just learned—it’s lived.

This logo doesn’t shout. It listens. It holds space. It reminds us that speech is not just sound—it’s identity. It’s the bridge between a child’s inner world and the people who love them.

Why This Milestone Matters

Rebranding isn’t cosmetic—it’s spiritual. This logo marks a shift from “blogging about childhood” to building a movement that protects children through intentional speech and action. It’s a visual anchor for the FUTURE framework, the coaching programs, and the community we’re growing.

It’s also a signal to every parent, educator, and caregiver who visits our site: you’re not alone. You’re part of something bigger. Something that speaks for love, not just language.

What Comes Next

This milestone is not a finish line—it’s a launchpad. With this logo, we recommit to:

• Speaking for love
• Communicating for confidence
• Inspiring for growth

We’re not just changing how we look—we’re changing how we lead. Every program, every post, every conversation from here on out is rooted in this new identity.

A New Chapter Begins

The next time you visit childhoodspeech.com, take a moment to notice that little symbol in the corner. It’s more than design—it’s direction. It’s holding the voice of every child we’ve ever protected, and every one we still must.

Let it remind you that you’re part of this journey. That your voice matters too. And that together, we’re building a world where every child is heard, held, and honored.

Welcome to the new chapter. Let’s speak love into every corner of it.

— Hanifa K Cook

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This is a post that delves into my private and personal reflections, stirred by the solemn moments spent at my parents’ graves. I was overcome with emotion as I reflected upon the pictures of my parents’ final resting place on my phone. In some way, I felt I needed to keep looking at the pictures so that I could once again feel their presence, hear their voices, and gaze at their presence at home as they went about their work. I felt a sense of peace and sadness that I still cannot put in words. I am grateful for the time I had with my parents and the memories we shared.

My profound loss of my father haunted me for many years, only becoming evident when I became doubtful, discouraged, and self-conscious. My education, love, and business failures weighed heavily on me, each task and action tinged with grief. Seeking my own redemption, I traversed the path of personal development alongside mentors, coaches, and trainers. As I pursued this goal, I craved the guidance only a father could provide. Despite investing considerable resources, both financial and time, I remained unfulfilled.

Around 2015, I discovered the transformative power of public speaking, a skill I had honed since my first appearance on a school stage at age 12. I vividly remember how I plucked up the courage to attend a meeting at the Singapore Chinese Chamber of Commerce Mandarin Toastmasters Club. My goal was to reimmerse myself in Mandarin. Considering how challenging and arduous the task would be, it wasn’t something I would have done. It seemed to me that if I didn’t take the plunge, I would remain unfulfilled.

If I could only stand before an audience and share stories about how I developed into a multilingual individual, perhaps I would believe in myself again. Indeed, grief left an indelible mark, lifting my spirits. In many ways, I believe that each speech, meticulously crafted, rehearsed, and presented, evoked the same feeling of connection my late father felt when he saw me make my acting debut on Chinese TV.

As I stood at the pinnacle of my achievements, elected as President and achieving Distinguished Toastmaster (DTM) status, I invited the entire family to witness the installation ceremony. My mother, seated in her wheelchair, received my best, embodying the daughter she knew who loved speaking Mandarin. I felt her presence then, as I feel it now.

While I grieve my father’s passing, I prefer to celebrate my mother’s remarkable life. Mum had been a widow for more than 30 years. She epitomized devotion, faith, and unconditional loyalty in her roles as a mother, wife, and daughter. I celebrated the extraordinary journey of this woman in one of my speeches, weeks before she left us.

They were two distinct individuals, showering love in their own respectable and honourable ways. Likewise, our legacy will be remembered for the accomplishments and endeavors yet to unfold. We must embrace this fact.

Our children interpret and feel about us in the same way as we form impressions about our parents. So as we watch and celebrate our children’s growth and development, we must also allow them to form impressions about their adult caregivers because what parents leave behind is how these children will eventually use or adopt to move them forward in love, life, business and careers.

 

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I Was Inspired, Creative And Productive

Topics about personal growth and development from childhood to adulthood has always captivated me. Consequently, when I decided to discover various methods of raising my daughter to speak three languages, I involuntarily become a student of my growth and personal development.

Childhoodspeech® Discovering A Child’s Mind From The Lens Of An Adult

I remember being with a group of people learning about WordPress and blogging on the internet. The instructor explained to us that we need to pick a domain name that best represents our aspiration to share our knowledge to the world. We followed the recommended steps. We thought about how others see us, and we saw ourselves. At that time, my dear cousin was with me, so we could discuss more deeply about how we saw each other. I felt vulnerable. But it was also the first time I felt noticed.

After much deliberation and searching for keywords on Google keyword search, I produced the word, “Childhoodspeech”. I decided to use this as my domain name and since nobody had this name before, Childhoodspeech populated the first page of Google search results. Seeing Childhoodspeech® on the first 9 lines made me even more enthusiastic and gave me the motivation to start blogging.

I was never short of ideas to write. I typically would stay up late to finish my blog and post it right away. When ideas kept pouring in, I also realized that much of what I was writing about reflected my own childhood. I was indeed surprised at how much I know about this topic and decided to keep going. Although I have had many challenges along the way, including complete shutdown of the website and hackers trying to erase the digital footprints, I have been able to keep this blog alive for more than 10 years.

2023 marks the fourteenth year of Childhoodspeech®. Throughout the time from 2008 to today, I would share my experience, insights, and wisdom of Childhoodspeech® freely and voluntarily.  Childhoodspeech®, a way of knowing how a child thinks from the lens of an adult gave me reason to understand how I should raise my only daughter in the best way possible.

By the time I published my first book titled Parenting Inspired, Follow The Parth Where The Child Loves To Grow, I had already embarked on the next phase of personal development. I was on stage speaking Mandarin as a publics speaker and teaching Mandarin to foreign speakers. I became quite a familiar face at Toastmasters International, specifically the SCCCI Mandarin Toastmasters Club. I also started participating in international events by Tony Robbibns, T. Harve Eker, Ken Mingkus, Les Brown and Success Resources.

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The years of writing Childhoodspeech® had given me the foundation needed to speak about personal development. I was ready to speak but I had to learn how to do it. Whilst writing sorted my thoughts, speaking arranged them. Doing both writing and speaking creates the opportunity to deliver my work. I started coaching and training others. At one point, I was individually coaching three hundred people who were seeking to unravel their authentic selves through personal growth and development. I travelled to Taiwan, Indonesia, Malaysia, and China. I picked up new skills and became a certified trainer and coach. Within 3 years after joining Toastmasters International, I became an accomplished public and professional speaker.

New Behaviour With New Opportunities

One wise decision always led to another better opportunity. With new opportunities, I began to adopt new behaviors. I became an explorer of sorts. I got involved in the speaking and coaching business. The business itself led me to think about the practicality of blogging. I began to write less. I write so little that I eventually left writing. I wanted to but at last, I could not find the time to write. I had speaking engagements and was conducting leadership training programmes for entrepreneurs and business executives. I was growing fast.

Pondering Over Lack Of Inspiration

As I found success in personal development as a writer and speaker, I also discovered that the practice needed to be translated into monetary rewards. This was when I come a crossroad. How do you determine how to monetize creative pursuits, especially when they are deeply personal and meaningful to you?  One cannot put a price tag on the time and effort on developing skills and talent, especially when that person is yourself. As I seek to transform into a paid professional, I saw this big gap between creativity and productivity.

As I mentioned earlier, when work seeks you, you become creative. And creativity can be easily kiiled if we do not know how to turn towards organizing and presenting them in a manner that is useful, applicable and beneficial to others. To be productive means to translate the creatives into meaningful and practical knowledge for others to use.

Like many homemakers, I had to juggle time between fulfilling family obligations and managing work responsibilities. In this juggling act, I chose to focus on my family and dedicate myself to raising my daughter. Needless to say, my time for blogging was reduced. I had learnt and tried. I knew how to create websites and cultivate a devoted following using social media. I am self-directed and self-driven. But family had to come first.

Reviving Childhoodspeech®

Childhoodspeech® has always held a significant place in my life, whether it involved recounting my own childhood experiences or discussing topics of interest to parents and children. As I write this blog after almost 9 months, I wish to turn my attention inward, delving into the depths of my heart and revive the energy that I once had.

Childhoodspeech® is the space I created to explore every aspect of childhood through the lens of an adult. It holds the key to unlocking memories that flicker before us like vivid motion pictures. It allows me to delve into the mind of a child by reconnecting with my own childhood self.

Before I could revive, I must first uncover the source of my uninspired state.

Next Blog …. to be published.

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I have been blogging on Childhoodspeech® for more than 10 years. My purpose is to discover how a child thinks and sees the world. In the decade long journey, I found myself uncovering events that happened in my own childhood. Although there were many events, I seem to remember only those that triggered me emotionally.

Childhood memories are always dear to us. Whenever we share these memories with our loved ones, we hold on to those images and try to reconnect to that time with fondness. So why do we love talking about our childhood?

For a long time, we have been told that our upbringing will influence how we live, think and behave when we become adults. And so when we look at other people’s behaviour, we quietly wonder how they have been brought up. This is not unusual and for most of us, we may not even realise that we are quietly judgmental too. I have learnt that in order not to judge others by their behaviour, we should first inspect ourselves. Consider whether we have at times behaved in the same way. As I have said, our upbringing can influence the way we live, think and behave as adults.

The child does not deliberately hold on to the memories but the memories create some kind of long term affiliation with the child. As we age, this affiliation continues to follow us and will instantly resurface to reconnect our minds to a time we can remember.

Childhood memories also trigger us to think and reconsider our actions. My daughter is an adventurous person. She learnt to cycle, swim and skate at a very young age and had no need for supervision. One day, my husband and I took her to the park. Her father was cycling. She was on her rollerblades. Her father gestured to her to hold on to the back of the bicycle and attempted to pedal away. But he was too quick. Before my daughter could hold on to the bicycle, my husband had cycled away. That caused her to fall off her rollerblade and she landed on the ground, breaking her arm in the process. Until today, my daughter did not want to ride her bike. Neither does she want to rollerblade. She had to sit for her primary school leaving examinations with a cast on her left arm.

This event has etched itself in her memory for the rest of her life. She remembered how it happened, why it had happened and the reason why she still fears falling off when she rides a bike or rollerblades.

 

So why do we remember these events?

Firstly, we witness the entire process and we take note of every detail, especially when we see how it happened.  The child has recovered from her injuries, but it will take her some time to fully recover emotionally.

This is the reason why we should never judge a person by their behaviour, not unless the behaviour is harmful to others and the person.

Secondly, this is growth. By remembering events that happened to us during our childhood, we realise how far we have grown since the incident. We have met new people and experienced new things. We want to feel that we have grown into an adult. So talking about our childhood is the only way for us to have pride in ourselves.

Thirdly, we want to stay faithful to ourselves. The thought of running away from our own childhood is like walking away from our own life. We want to be responsible for our own happiness, so we keep these memories dear and close to our hearts. They remind us of our better selves.

Fourthly, we feel that people are ready to listen to us when we talk about our childhood. Let me explain. When you listen to two people talking about childhood memories, you will notice how focused they are. They dig into each other’s minds as they talk about a time they spent together as kids. It was a time and a place where only they could share. As soon as they discovered that moment in time, their eyes locked and the mind began to retrieve all kinds of previously stored information. As the listener, you will not interrupt. You feel the joy and gladness of two people sharing a moment. This is a private conversation and yet you are given access to it just by being there. The more you listen, the more you realize that you miss your childhood too. You will try to get into the conversation by asking questions or smiling at how happy these two people are. But you also quietly wish that you can share your childhood memories with someone.

 

Childhood is the subject of much talk for a number of reasons. This is why I call this blog Childhoodspeech®. Childhoodspeech® facilitates healthy conversations between people who enjoy telling stories about their childhood. Some people find childhoodspeech(R) conversations tough, rough, and harsh. Speaking of their childhood will only bring feelings of pain, hurt, abuse, and even abandonment for people in these groups.

So what can we do to protect our children from remembering those unpleasant childhood memories?

1. Stop trying to correct every mistake that a child makes. The child who learns from mistakes will learn to toughen up and seek ways to change his or her approach to achieve better results.
2. Give ample space between you and the child to allow you to observe. Also, take note of when and how you should step in to help, guide or give advice.
3. Remove personal attachments to the future of your child. You can only prepare the child for the challenges of the future but you are not the child’s future.
4. Remove all temptations to control the child’s future and behavior. Identify your goals for the future and if the child is a part of those goals, offer your support.
5. Don’t set any expectations for the child. If the purpose of creating memories is to create healthy childhood memories, then the key is to let the child take the lead. This is because a child loves to grow. 

I will end with the most significant part. Always share your childhood memories with your child. It is essential to establish a connection with your child. Show them pictures of when you were a child, or gifts and trophies you had when you were kids. A child always find great joy in sharing and by the same token, when you share stories and talks about your childhood, you will only get one thing in return. A child who listens will be ready to share and talks about his or her childhood experiences with you. Childhoodspeech® bonds you and your child.

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Have you ever wondered how to speak Chinese quickly?

Hi. I want to share with you a simple method by using everyday objects and pictures. Research has shown that we process information quicker when we connect it with photographs.

Connect words with pictures

Imagine saying the word hamburger. What comes to your mind?

 

 

bread
meat patties
sauce
onions etc

But how does this information come about?

It came to us from our memory. We have stored a picture of the hamburger we once had. So learning to speak a foreign language with photographs or photographs, especially food, is one of the quickest ways to kick-start your speaking Chinese journey.

As a cross-cultural communicator and consultant, a speaker and a certified trainer, I love to show people how to speak Chinese as a foreign language to help them communicate and socialize more confidently. I learned Chinese since I was a kid. I’ve always been watching how my ordinary and uneducated parents pick up a foreign language.

Imagine a situation in my house. There is my brother, me and my sister. The three of us took up Chinese as our foreign language other than English. My mother tongue is Malay. So parents always struggled with making us understand their point of view in their language. Over time they also had to pick up what we learned to get through life every day. As I watched my parents learn to speak English and Hokkien, I came to understand that one does not require a book or a translator to get started to speak a foreign language at all.

Today I will show you a method that I’ve been using and also daily. It is so easy, and everybody can use it.

 

Ordering Food In A Restaurant

So imagine you are going to order food from a restaurant. We usually will see a picture of the dish on the menu. However, at some very high-end restaurants or dining places, you may not even see photos of the food on the menu.

 

I love to cook. This is my steamed fish. I use this as an example to help you build your vocabulary with a simple dish. – Hanifa K. Cook

So how do you get started? Firstly, you will look at the name of the menu. In this case, it is steamed fish. The word ‘steamed’ is an adjective. ‘Steam’ can also be used as a verb or a noun. So by looking at the word, you can immediately decide whether to order the food.

Now when you’re reading a Chinese character, you will notice that there will not be any Han Yu Pin Yin or the transliteration to help you pronounce. So how can you learn how to speak this word? The first thing is to ask the waiter or your friend who is dining with you. So that’s how you get started, right? So these are simple ways you can use to pick up a language quickly, either with the help of your friend or the waiter.

When you look at a photograph of the food, you also tend to deconstruct the dish. You do this to form a picture of what this dish is. For instance, you want to find out if it’s steamed or fried. So, you will start asking a lot of questions. It is because this is a dish that you have eaten before. You are familiar with this dish. Or you are simply curious. As a result, you’ll start to deconstruct this dish.

 

We deconstruct the dish even before we order the food.

 

Here I have deconstructed the dish, and I have added words to each picture. I have yet to categorize them, whether it is a noun or adverb or whatever. But this is how we see things when deconstructing a dish.

I see fish, steam, soup, thyme,e oven, water. You can also use other words that come to your head like chilli, tablecloth and there are the eyes, the fins, the tail, right? So the more you start to collect information from this picture, the more likely it will help you form a list of words and build new vocabulary. Next, you can categorize them as a noun, an adjective, a verb or an adverb. Then, you form a sentence with the SVO formula.

 

What’s SVO?

As we form sentences, we want to use these sentences to help us convey a message to our friends. Excellent, that is how quickly you learn to speak Chinse quickly. The primary difficulty is forming a sentence. If you find this challenging, then it is that you do not know how to make a sentence in the first place. You may think it is a silly way to put it. Indeed, that is how it is. But that is the actual reason people keep getting frustrated with speaking Chinese because they seem to only focus on building vocabulary instead of making sentences.

Today I will show you a simple way to get started. It is called the SVO method. SVO stands for subject, verb and object.

Here are some examples.

and in a subject, of course, you can see in the sentence is,

I eat a banana

She walks to school,

He speaks Chinese.

 

As you can see, each of these sentences consists of a subject, a verb and an object. That is your typical sentence. So when we’re looking at translation, you translate the following simple sentences.

‘I eat banana’,

“They play football”,

‘He speaks Chinese.’

So this is not at all challenging because all you need to do is place those words that we have discussed earlier into the different categories.

I eat a banana.

The banana eats me.

You can already get started to speak Chinese by using everyday objects and also a picture.

Just look at the picture here. What do you see?

Use this picture and build your vocabulary words

 

1. 1. Make a list of things you wish to learn about this picture

1. 1. Organise the list, do not try to use verbs, adjectives or adverbs

1. 1. Use the simple sentence formula SVO and for a sentence.

1. 1. Translate the sentence using this formula : I see ‘name of thing’

1. 1. Translate this sentence word for word.

1. 1. I see curtain, I see window, I see trees (omit the article the), I see you.

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Do you see me?

Do you see the curtain behind?

And do you see the window?

Do you see the tree?

So from the picture, we can tell a lot of stories. You can get a snapshot of this picture and start putting words around them. Register these words in your mind. Next, form sentences with these words.

I can see this.
I can see that.
I can speak Chinese.

See how fast you can get started to speak Chinese with the SVO method.

 

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Jazima’s Live Recital At LASALLE College of the Arts

Someone once said to me, “Hanifa / Annie, when you have a child, you have them forever.” These are the words that keep ringing in my mind every time I look at my daughter, who is now 19 years old.

From the time I started blogging on Childhoodspeech, I have often told myself that unless I am able to raise and lead my own child to success, I can never experience true success in life. Eversince then, whenever I set out on my journey to be a professional speaker, I have always made certain that my daughter’s education and dreams will also be fulfilled. I believe this is the reason why our lives become meaningful.

My musically talented daughter, Jazima Cook, has been attending classes at the LLASALLE College of the Arts for the past 3 years since 2018. April 28, 2021 marks the last day of her 3 year Diploma course and my husband and I were amongst 10 guests who were invited to watch her perform live in front of her teachers. She sang 6 songs in total.

Her original composition, All On My Own, was my favourite. As she she started singing the first notes, I noticed a sudden silence enveloped the room. At first, it was just dead silence. As soon as the first note hit the air, I felt her earnest and warmth in my arms. I felt a tear in my eye as I reflected on those nights she sat in front of the piano with a guitarist, Syafiq, as they created the melody together. Hannah, one of her closest girlfriend, sat quietly beside. As the music broke the silence, her beautiful voice started to fill the space and I started to listen to every note with pride, gratitude and relief. Here is my daughter, Jazima Cook, all grown up and she sang her song like a story and it was beautiful.

Jazima’s Childhoodspeech^R success has finally arrived.

At the end of event, we waited outside the room. We saw a party of friends and crew members gathered as they spoke about the performance. Those who were invited included Hernando, Dzaky, Hannah, Bri, Ridz (Ridzuan) and Saheid. We were fortunate to watch her perform because during the Covid-19 pandemic, it has been difficult to open the stage to more people.

I had a chance to speak to her vocal and piano teachers. They had these to share.

“She has finally found her own voice and came out on her own.”

“I am the examiner, and she ticked all the boxes. It is not common to find such professionalism in a student. The band knew what to do without her having to say much. She has to perform more.”

“You guys (parents) did all the hard work, I just kinda push her along. That is all.”

These are the words any parent would like to hear from the teachers. It makes me happy and proud. On a day like this, the only thing left to do. To celebrate with gratitude and embrace the success.

Jazima Cook, my daughter, will pursue her degree with direct honours in music at LASALLE College of the Arts. Congratulations!

If you would like to know how I raised my daughter to realise her own dreams and tap on her inner potential, you may purchase the book from Amazon.

There is an entire chapter on how to look for the child’s 5 love that were submitted to London when I studied long distance for the Diploma in Montessori Method. I still use these methods to this day whenever I learn something new, including riding a bicycle. I shall discuss in the coming blogs.

In conclusion, I am just proud to share this great news with you. When we approach learning like a child, we can be 100% certain that we will keep our mind and hearts open.

You may wish to follow the talented Jazima Cook on her Facebook.

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