China Adoption Blog

International adoption... from America.

grant — Wed, 31 Oct 2007 13:12:15 +0000

Perhaps more A-parents (which is a trendy abbreviation for "adoptive parents" I can only promise I'll try never to use again) should read more stories like this one, in which England's foreign secretary, David Miliband, is praised by a mother who adopted from Shenzhen eight years ago. He's just adopted internationally, too.

From the United States.

There's more detail about his adoption in ... more

Speaking clearly, understanding each other: the eyes have it.

grant — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 22:11:18 +0000

What is that baby really saying? A lot of frustration seems to be tied up with language - and what they call "language delays" are all too often a part of parenting kids adopted internationally. Toddlers like to be understood - and when son (son!) uses a new word and realizes that we know what he means, his face lights up.

Of course, babies have their own language, and chances are, if you're an average parent adopting from China, you'll be meeting these new kids when they're really quite new indeed, so what you need right away is some kind of baby translator... more

Randy Cassingham vs. Big Brother

grant — Mon, 29 Oct 2007 16:41:11 +0000

If you're soon to be traveling to adopt a young Chinese person - or if you're just the type to be interested in other people's trips - you could do worse than to cast your eyes over Randy Cassingham's travel blog.

If you haven't heard of Cassingham, he's one of the godfathers of internet publishing. He's been running a for-profit e-mail newsletter, This is True, since the mid-90s. It collects news stories from the world press - focusing on the bizarre, idiotic and just plain unbelievable... more

Asian-American Role Models: Franklin Chang-Diaz, Plasma Rocketeer.

grant — Fri, 26 Oct 2007 17:36:13 +0000

As parents of kids from China, it's important (they tell me) to seek out Asian-American role models - people who are relatively noteworthy and who are both Asian and American, who live well here, in this society. So here's another one.

Scientist. Adventurer. Atom Scrambler.

Dr. Franklin Chang-Diaz is a Costa Rican-American of Chinese descent. The Chinese press typically calls him Zhang Fulin (張福林 ), his Chinese name. That's the same "Fu" you'll see in a lot of adopted kids'... more

Google's Chinese translator.

grant — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 20:26:32 +0000

Those who have already been through the process of adopting a child from China will, I'm wagering, immediately understand why Google's latest web thing is so cool. Just take a look:

This is a page from a Chinese music-and-food... more

Language milestones

grant — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 15:21:28 +0000

One of the things about parenting that I find interesting - I was just talking about this with a friend yesterday, in fact - is the way milestones work. It seems like parents-by-adoption are a little more obsessed over developmental hurdles, and for good reason - institutional infancy has a way of interfering with development in lots of little ways. For example, when we met Daughter, she was just turning 1 and had yet to learn to crawl. She could roll around and grasp things, but she'd never had enough time just lying on the floor to get the hang of moving from point A to point B. Now... more

Other People's Journeys

grant — Tue, 23 Oct 2007 13:34:29 +0000

If you've already adopted a child from China - or are just considering adoption from China - you'll probably be interested in reading as much as possible about the process. Not just the dry "fill in this form, then make this appointment" stuff, but the actual experience of taking a journey from your own homely house to that country over there (the one between Russia and Thailand) and coming home with a small human being in tow.

I'm quite fascinated by the story told in Cindy Champnella's The Waiting Child, although I haven't read the whole thing. There are excerpts ... more

Language lessons: Getting on the stick!

grant — Mon, 22 Oct 2007 13:57:33 +0000

I have been a bad adoptive parent. I'm beginning to get the idea that parenthood is really one long negotiation involving equal parts frustration (because they never do what you want them to do) and guilt (because you never wind up doing what you should be doing). One of the things I feel like I should be doing - one of the Big Important Things for internationally adopted kids - is signing Daughter up for Mandarin lessons.

She's four, she's brilliant, and she's taking ballet.

She likes ballet. She does well at it. But when she's 24, I wonder if she'll... more

Genes! And other China news...

grant — Fri, 19 Oct 2007 13:15:30 +0000

Because traveling families (and other people with a connection to China, like, uh, people who've adopted from China) need to know what's going on, here's just a few headlines from the Middle Kingdom:

The Dalai Lama just got a medal from America's government, and boy, is the Chinese legislature ticked off. That official statement is as good a way as any to learn China's version of Tibetan history. It also ends dramatically:

No force can stop the progress of Tibet in the great family of the Chinese nation. All attempts to interfere in China's internal affairs and undermine... more

And now, a word from Hui-neng

grant — Thu, 18 Oct 2007 13:13:53 +0000

One day, the Leader of the School called all his pupils and declared, "Life and death are serious things. You pupils waste your time making offerings, seeking worldly blessings and not even trying to break out of the cycle of life and death! If you give yourself over to delusions, how can blessings save you? Go to your rooms and think for yourselves!

"Those who have true wisdom, use it! Each of you has to write a verse for me. For the student who best sums up the basic ideas taught by the Buddha, I will hand over my robes, naming that person the next Leader... more