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WHY DID SHE KILL HERSELF?

2015-07-13T06:37:00.001-07:00

She cuts because no one can hear her. She's crying through the blood that drips down her arm, but still nobody can hear her cries for help...

All she needs is a hug and someone to tell her she will be ok. What ever her situation is or has been in the past, she needs to know that she matters. She eventually cut too deep and left this world way before her time..
She left behind a father who now wishes he would have taken the time to ask what was wrong with his baby girl.

She left behind a mother who cries herself to sleep every night remembering her babies' touch.

She left behind a baby brother who is now confused and is still waiting for big sister to come home.
She left behind a best friend who blames herself everyday, wishing that she would have seen the signs...

What ever battle you are facing today, I need you to know that you are loved!
You mean the world to someone! Life can be hard at times, but God only gives his hardest of battles to his strongest of warriors! You only get one body in this life. Take care of yourself and embrace every scar or imperfections you carry. You are perfect the way you are .

For the ones who feel alone.. "You're never alone in this battle! I love you .

2015-07-13T06:29:00.001-07:00

let’s get a few sex tips

2015-07-13T06:24:00.000-07:00

So, let’s get a few sex tips straight from the horse’s mouth, shall we? Here’s what men want you to know about what they like in bed:
1. Take control.
As much as our hombres love to be “macho macho” men, they also love being dominated. Maybe it’s a mommy thing; Latina moms are no joke!
Regardless of the reason, climb on top of him, grab him by the wrists and make him your bitch. You can even use whips, chains or a blindfold. Ask your man what he prefers, and ask him how rough he wants it.
Make sure to choose a safety word!

2. Blow him.
Who knew?! Kidding.
Men love blowjobs. It’s quick (if you’re doing it right and know his sweet spot), and you can blow him pretty much anywhere. One man even told me he loves “spontaneous BJs.” So get on your knees and blow, chicas.

3. Talk dirty.
Men love it when you utter filthy words in their ear. “I want a woman to tell me what she wants in a really nasty way,” said one chico from Boston.
How nasty? It depends on the guy. Some men love it when women curse. Others want a woman to talk about how much you love their junk. Describe it in graphic detail, explaining how good it feels in your…. you get the jist.

More from Latina: 3 Latinas Who Found Love Online

4. Show him what you want.
“I love it when a woman takes my hand and puts inside her,” one hombre admitted. It’s not because he doesn’t know how to find your spot; he just thinks it’s sexy when a woman can lead the way.

Again, men love it when women are aggressive and confident in bed. Show him what you want with your fingertips!

5. self service in front of him.
Whether you are using a vibrator on your clitoris or using just your hands, self servicing is such a turn on for men. You can touch yourself pre-s*x, or you can just self service in front of him while he jerks himself off.
“It’s a fantasy,” one guy admitted, “maybe because of P0*n, but it’s hot to watch a girl give herself an climax.” Yes, chicas, men love voyeurism. Put your hands in your panties, and put on a one-woman show!

6. Talk to him in Spanish.
It isn’t a cliche; men love it when you speak to them in Spanish during s*x. Call him “papi” or tell him to give it to you duro while he’s sexing you doggy style in front of a mirror. No matter what words you choose, he will be in heaven! There’s nothing like the mother tongue to turn a man on.

More from Latina: 7 Ways To Take Charge In The Bedroom

7. Praise him.
All men want to feel like they are the best you’ve ever had. So praise him like the Greek god he wants to be.
During the act, tell him how good it feels when he licks you there. Tell him that he’s driving you loca because his Johnson is in control. That will not only boost his confidence, but it will also motivate him to open up about what he wants sexually.

He will tell you what he truly desires, and that’s what you want — because he’s the horse that really matters. Gud luck ladies enjoy ur day.

2015-07-13T06:21:00.000-07:00

Food Clinic with Bedzinah Kingsford and 45 others

How To Tighten the Vagina and Keep Away Any Bad Smells

Have you ever wondered once or twice or more, how tight your vagina was, or whether your vagina has a bad smell? If you're married or sexually active, you probably want to know how to take better care of your vagina. It will definitely be on your mind when you want to do the do or it's time for your partner to go 'down'. I also talked about Vaginal Yeast Infection and Best Herbal Cure For Candida To Reduce Vaginal Itching. Read post to stop itching from my timeline.

For getting your vagina tight, I know Kegels are great and I practice them when I remember. By the way, am I the only one who gets aroused doing Kegel exercises?

About how to keep away the bad vagina smells, bear in mind that all vaginas have their own natural smell, maybe I should say scent. That unique scent can be an aphrodisiac for your partner, but when your vagina starts smelling too fishy, there's something fishy.

You need to get rid of that smell from the inside out, and from the outside in. Below are the top 10 tips I found.

1. Eat a good quantity of citrus fruits like Oranges and Lemons

2. I don't know what Indian Gooseberry is but it's supposed to help for OK vaginal odor

3. Add fresh yoghurt to your diet

4. Garlic is your friend, as it helps keep away bacterial infections

5. Tea Tree Oil is mentioned too, I've never used it. I know it's great for hair too.

6. Drink lots of water, of course.

7. Use water every time you use a toilet, a wipe may be better than tissue paper. Avoid using douches. Soap is alkaline and messes with the pH levels in your vagina. Sometimes I use soap on my labia but I never, ever use soap to wash my inner labia or vagina. The inside of your vagina is designed to clean itself, that's what (normal, healthy) discharge is all about. So water and your own hand is the way to go, in my opinion.

8. Keep the vaginal area clean and dry also keep your pubic hair short.

9. Choose cotton underwears or those with cotton in the vagina area. Or go commando, that is, without undies at all.

10. During your period, change your sanitary pads or tampons frequently and use panty liners during your ovulation. (Contact us for treated Sanitary pads & Panty liners)

I would love to hear your own ideas of getting rid of vaginal odor. Please leave a comment below.

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How To Love A Woman – 10 Ways For Men To Love

2015-07-08T06:16:00.001-07:00

Men seek comfort, confirmation that they are ok. Most men are, at heart, uncertain about themselves. Men want answers to many questions, an important one is “How to love a woman?”

Do you know what love is? You form a relationship and get married to affirm your place in the world. You learn, you think, how to treat a woman, how to be with her. You call that love. But ultimately it doesn’t seem to work. You wonder where love went.

Perhaps it was never really love in the first place, perhaps it was an attempt to feel the comfort you found with your mother. A man’s wife, girlfriend or partner is not his mother. The love you need to show her is of a totally different kind. It’s critical that you understand this in learning how to love a woman. See Men Who Can’t Lovefor a view on why you might find it difficult to love your woman.

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Here are 10 ways to access this love and create an amazing relationship, how to love a woman:

1. Start by loving yourself

If you are unable to love yourself, you are unable to love someone else.

This is something that men, particularly, have trouble with. You might respect yourself, think you are absolutely amazing, but loving yourself, that’s a bit sissy.

No it’s not, it’s the basis of life and the basis of a balanced personality. If you have a troubled relationship you should look, first of all, to yourself, this is often where the trouble lies.

2. Tell her you love her

This is lesson two of how to love a woman. Tell her you love her!

This means saying the words so she completely understands and is in no doubt about it. You love her. She needs you to say this all the time and she needs you to volunteer it, not say it in reply to her questioning.

The worst thing you can say is, “You know I do.” She doesn’t, that’s why she’s asking… Duh…

3. Just love her for herself

Your love is not conditional, it is not based on any special qualities. You love her.

Women have qualities we love in them, perhaps they’re smart, or sexy, or inspirational, or funny, or even rich. This is not why you love her, you love her just because of her, nothing else.

Even though you celebrate everything that she is, even though you worship her for what she does in the world, she needs to know that you simply love her, no matter what. This is so crucial.

4. Live in your power

Whilst a man in love is an emotional being he must not stop being the man he is.

Your love should come from the power inside yourself, from your very soul. The love must be part of your power as a man and it must be part of how you live.

You must remain just who you are, you must be the man she met and fell in love with.

She finds excitement in your masculine strength, particularly when it laced with love. Don’t ever let her down.

5. Don’t live in the past

Never dwell on the past and use it to judge your woman.

Life does not always treat us well and we certainly don’t always treat life well. Things go wrong and we mess up. Strife in our loving relationship is something to let go of once it’s over, it’s something to let slip into the past.

We must learn the lessons and move on ensuring that we don’t go there again. Move on and live, always, in the present.

6. Get to know her

How often do you say, “My wife doesn’t understand me.” What you really mean is, “I don’t understand my wife.”

Love can only grow and deepen through understanding. You can never get to the point where you think you know everything about her, no woman is that simple. She is a complex person that even she doesn’t understand.

You need to love her and get to know her with patience and determination.

7. Count your blessings

Count the blessings you have together, the things you have achieved together, all that you are as a couple.

This should be a regular part of your life together. While I said, above, don’t live in the past, it’s ok to recount the great things in the past. This must be tempered with looking at the amazing things you are going to do in the future.

As a rule of thumb it is advisable to expect a future way beyond one that you can imagine. Expectations can lead to frustration if they limit you, expecting them to go way beyond is a good step into the future.

8. Give love, always

Love is about giving rather than receiving.

Love is a creative force that grows out of the desire to give more than you receive.

It is crucial that you are able to receive the love that is offerred to you otherwise it quickly dies, but you have to focus on the contribution you make to her.

“Give and you shall receive”, but give without expecting anything in return.

9. Pay attention to her

Women need attention all the time.

It is absolutely vital that you understand this. Many of the annoying habits that women have are merely attempts to get your attention. Take heed of them and pay attention.

Men are focused and directed and can easily lose themselves in what they are doing. This is one of the qualities that many women love in their men, but not to the exclusion of them.

You need to find a balance that shows how important your woman is to you without losing your passion for your mission.

10. Start afresh each day

Start again as if it was the first day of the relationship.

Welcome her into your world and look forward to your day together. Give her your love and tell her you love her. Do it again in a different way and repeat. Im sure I dont have to tell you where to go from here.

This refreshing of your love will keep it alive and bring you closer to each other. Through this your love will deepen and become an essential part of everyday you spend together.

So what is love… really?

It’s an overwhelming emotion you have about another person, an emotion that you can’t truly explain but you can’t get rid of.

It makes you want to be with that person, hold them, touch them, have sex with them. It shows itself as an exchange of energy, a polarity, that excites your soul.

Love makes you feel great and totally transforms life. Love is worship of the other person, the woman who is divine for you.

Love is the power house behind our lives, it is the reason we live.

Source: http://grahamreidphoenix.com/2011/02/10-ways-to-love/

How To Love A Man – 10 Easy Steps For Women

2015-07-08T06:00:00.000-07:00

A month ago I wrote a popular post about “How To Love A Woman – 10 Ways A Man Can Love” with my recommendations to men on how to love their woman.

In it I said, “How often do you hear men say, “My wife doesn’t understand me.” What they really mean is, “I don’t understand my wife.”

There was lively discussion on that point, in particular, and a female commenter turned the tables saying,

“I’m sure plenty of women don’t understand men, and they could do well to try and listen more rather than think it’s all about them. Big assumption goes on in many places that men don’t have to be understood, they just want one thing etc.”.

While agreeing with her I felt that this is for a woman to talk about, not for man. I see my aim here is to help men understand themselves and women.

She went on to say,

“Who is better qualified to talk about what a man needs than a man? How can women learn if men don’t speak up? I don’t see much about that. Not that any one man can speak for all men, but I would love to see more men speak up. Maybe in the future we’ll see a post from you about what women need to know about men, about how to love a man?”

Being a man I couldn’t fail to rise to the challenge, so here’s the lowdown for women on how to love a man:

How To Love A Man

1. Start by Loving Yourself

As I said to the men, this is not being selfish. If you are unable to love yourself you are unable to love someone else.

Women often have trouble with this because they spend too much time loving others. They can airbrush themselves out of the picture and use up all their love on their man, their children and others.

Loving yourself is the basis of life and the basis of a balanced personality. How can you take another’s love for you seriously if you don’t belief you are worth loving?

2. Just Love Him For Himself

Men have many qualities we love, perhaps they’re strong, or sexy, or inspirational, or funny, or even rich. Understand that this is not why you love him, you love him just because of him, nothing else.

Your love is not conditional, it is not based on any special qualities. You love him.

Men, however, often think that it’s their special blend of qualities that attracts you. Encourage your man to understand that it’s not those qualities but their being themselves that you love. This is so crucial in knowing how to love a man.

3. Live In Your Femininity

Whilst you may want to impress the man you love you must not stop being the woman you are. Your love should come from inside yourself, from your very soul. The love must be part of your femininity — however you express it — and be part of how you live.

Remain just who you are, be the woman he met and fell in love with, that’s how to love a man.

He finds excitement in your femininity, particularly when it laced with love. Don’t ever let him down.

4. Don’t Be His Mother

Men often retain a bond with their mother and like to be looked after by them. Don’t drift into being his mother or try to supercede her. He needs you as a lover.

Women can end up just taking care of their man and men accept this. This is potentially disastrous. He doesn’t really want this from you.

This is especially true after you have children. Take care you still treat him as your lover, this will be what he is missing.

5. Get To Know Him

How often do you feel a man drift away from you saying, “my wife doesn’t understand me”. Don’t let him go there, understand him.

Love can only grow and deepen through understanding. You can never get to the point where you think you know everything about him.

You may think a man is simple, in fact he is a complex person that even he doesn’t understand.

You need to love him and get to know him with patience and determination, this is a key to how to love a man.

6. Count Your Blessings

That means the blessings you have together, the things you have achieved together, all that you are as a couple.

This should be a regular part of your life together. It’s ok to recount the great things in the past but this should be tempered with looking at the amazing things you are going to do in the future.

7. Give Him Space

Whilst a woman often needs attention, a man needs space and time. Men thrive on being focused and directed and sometimes need to clear their minds to focus on what is important to them at that moment. Accept it may not be you.

It can be important to give him time to respond to a situation. Women often respond immediately, instinctively, but a man can take more time, to reflect and formulate a response. Understand this and give him the time, don’t jump in.

There are times, also, when men need space just to be… well, nothing. Men thrive on periods of emptiness, allow them that. Get this right and you will really know how to love a man.

8. Receive As Well As Give

Love is about giving more than receiving but if you give too much you close off the channel for love.

It is crucial that you are able to receive the love that is offerred to you by him otherwise it quickly dies. It may not come in the form you expect, look out for it, however subtle, and accept it in the spirit it was given.

Don’t shower him with more love than he can receive.

Give him time to respond.

9. Make Him Feel Amazing

Men need to feel good about themselves and often don’t. They may live in their power but not be convinced by it.

Make him feel he deserves it, make him realise he is the man he would like to be.

It’s important to do this from a genuine appreciation of him and his qualities.

He should believe what you say otherwise everything disappears.

Inspire him to be more of himself. You have to understand this to know how to love a man.

10. Start Afresh Each Day

I talked about this in, “How do You Keep it Fresh? – 10 Steps to Heaven“. I said,

“Start again as if it was the first day of the relationship. Welcome her into your world and look forward to your day together. Give her your love and tell her you love her. Do it again in a different way and repeat. I’m sure I don’t have to tell you where to go from here.”

This applies equally to you and your man. The refreshing of your love will keep it alive and bring you closer to each other. Through this your love will deepen and become an essential part of everyday you spend together.

As a woman you will succeed if make your man feel amazing. Inspire him to feel more of himself, then he will feel like a man.

Source: http://grahamreidphoenix.com/2011/02/10-ways-to-love/

Why My Courtship Failed

2015-07-08T05:46:00.000-07:00

I spent my teen years sure I’d have a first-kiss-at-the-wedding, fairy-tale courtship and happily-ever-after marriage with beautiful children. After all, if I am “committed to courtship,” believe that “true love waits,” and say “marriage is ’til death do us part’,” what else is needed? My beliefs will direct my future.

At 23, I married. At 24, my husband divorced me. Life spiraled into a maze of brokenness, a gritty reality many friends and acquaintances found uncomfortable. I fell. I got up again. Broken heart, broken life, broken dreams.

My ideals failed me. The courtship formula did not protect me from devastation. Saving my purity for my husband and being betrayed by him triggered feelings of loss and disillusionment. I felt cheated, like someone who paints a masterpiece only to give it to a friend who shreds it.

If a break-up is a broken bone, divorce is an amputation. How do you recover and return to normal? You don’t. You learn to live life differently. In my opinion, you become a stronger individual. It’s not the most desirable way to gain strength, but for those who must walk this path, it works.

Why would I want to go back to being that idealistic, naive, and self-assured girl? Here is beauty–here is grace. Here is a life of rich colors and vibrant sights which make my heart beat faster. I would never have been capable of loving and appreciating another person so deeply if my world had not been shattered. I would have felt entitled to a perfect life and happiness by following all the rules.

Instead of feeling entitled, I am thankful. Not thankful that I have some perfect love story and happy marriage. But thankful for a place to call home, a son who loves me, and a reason to get up in the morning.

I thought courtship would yield my ideals. But any man-made convention will ultimately fail. Even in outwardly appearing successes there is brokenness. Brokenness and beauty go hand in hand. The one is more than worth the pain of the other.

Courtship, ideals, and living a “good life” do not protect anyone from bad things happening. The teaching of emotional purity often causes great harm (which is a whole series of posts in itself!). Wouldn’t it be better, if need be, to date and reap a broken heart a few times, if in the end you find someone who is good and kind? Could this not possibly be better than marrying the first guy you’ve ever been attracted to, so your heart will be “pure”?

Perhaps the first man you ever loved will be good and kind. Perhaps it will be the third or fourth. Neither occurrence is superior. They should both be valid, respected options. And in courtship they aren’t.

I’m divorced. I’m a single mom. And I have a beautiful life rich in God’s grace. I would not be any more happy or fill-in-any-positive-emotion if I’d never been divorced, never been a single mom, or never seen my world ripped to shreds. I don’t sit around wishing things turned out differently. There are far worse things than a broken heart or a broken body.

Why do we see pain as bad, whether it’s the pain of a broken bone or a broken heart? I fractured my pelvis in 2011 and the pain was excruciating. Even a year and a half later, there is an ache when I walk too much in one day. Yars ago my heart broke, and the pain was excruciating. Even half a decade later, there is an ache when I least expect it. This is not bad.

It’s all about beauty and grace. If you look to the right of this post, you’ll see two quotes, my life mantras as it were. “Beauty will save the world” and “Your grace was not taken.” No one can steal my peace and joy. The grace I walk in is mine alone.

As one of my friends told me, “No man controls my life.” If we put the control of our life in the hands of a man or a formula, we are sure to be disappointed.

“What went wrong?” People ask me. “What could you have done differently so life will fit your ideals? What went wrong?” I think that is the wrong question. It may be what we want to ask, what we want to accomplish, but it is not the right question. Maybe there is no right question. Certainly there are no answers to the “why’s”.

If there is beauty–and there always is–it is enough for me. I’ll spend my life pursuing it, instead of asking questions.

I welcome your thoughts and comments. I’m just making one small scratch on the surface of this topic.

Source: http://natalienyquist.com/courtship/

The place of prayer in marriage

2015-07-08T05:33:00.000-07:00

INTRODUCTION

According to Kwakpovwe (2010), “Thou shall stop believing that marriage is a union of pain because of what some people made out of it. Thou shall believe that if God is the principal, then it is indeed beautiful’. Marriage was instituted by God Himself. He said in Genesis 2: 24 that “Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh”. Kwakpovwe sees marriage as a school when God is the principal. He said that the C-word is what is learnt first in the school. That word is communication.

You do it with two main people, your classmate (spouse) and to the principal (God). If you find out something in your classmate (spouse) that you not appreciate, simply pull out the C- word and connect with the principal. Your classmate is just a student like you. If they were graduates, they would be perfect but because God is not finished with him/her yet, take it as a challenge and work on it together. So the importance of prayers in marriage cannot be over emphasized. Many people lead busy lives and have trouble finding time to pray for their spouses. Many marriages have stood the taste of time because they pray consequently; many have collapsed because they failed to pray.

I want you to know that you don’t have to look for Satan’s trouble before he comes after you. The fact that you are a Christian; you are already his enemy. Job did not look for his trouble. Satan went after him because he was blameless and upright. Job 1:8. Satan attacked the family and brought destruction, pain and agony upon the family. Job 1: 13-19. Since this is not a prayer seminar, I will discuss only some few things about prayer because there are a lot to be said and in a forum like this, one hour is not enough to do justice to.

1. Prayer is a command: We are commanded to pray. “Watch and pray, lest you enter into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak” Mark 14: 38

“Pray without ceasing” 1 Thessalonians 5: 17

2. Jesus is our perfect example: When Jesus Christ was on earth, He always took time out to talk to God. “And when He had sent them away, He departed to the mountain to pray”. Mark 6: 32. “Now it came to pass in those days that He went out to the mountain to pray, and continued all night in prayer to God” Luke 6:12; John 17: 1-26.

3. We should pray for our spouses

It is necessary to know that we need to uphold our spouses in prayers. Omartian [2004] speaking about the power of a praying husband said “Refuse to worry about how and when your prayers will be answered. You don’t have to make it happen. It’s your job to pray. It’s God’s job to answer. Leave it in His hands. When you do, you will not only enjoy answers to your prayers, but you will also see great changes in yourself, your wife, and your marriage. What do you want from your spouse? Tell God.

4. Plant some prayer seed

Kwakpovwe [2014] said that if you fail in life, it will be because you failed on your knees. He said, if you are experiencing chaos, plant some prayer seed. If things are unusually difficult, if your health is failing, plant a prayer seed. I also feel that if children have not come into the marriage, if that in-law is troubling you, if your spouse’s eyes are open to someone outside, plant a prayer seed. Prayer can transform your destiny just like Jabez. Because of Hannah’s prayer, a child was added to the family. You can do something amazing with your marriage if you line up your life on your knees. No one can teach you how to pray. You learn how to pray by prayer. You must be involved for things to work well in your life.

5. You must birth through prayer what God has promised. God led people to prophesy about your marriages on your wedding days or during you’re your engagements or sendforths. The mistake most of you have made is just fold your hands and think because men of God have spoken, things must come to past.

According to fomum [nd] prayers starts in the mind of God. It is revealed to the spirit of man who then prays it back to God and it is answer by the Lord. God has his will in his heart. He reveals that will to the seeking and waiting saint. If that one then carries the will on his heart and wrestles it through in prayer, the will of God now prayed through by the believer gets back to him in heaven through prayer from earth He delights to answer. We must seek to receive that which God has promised us through prayer.

In 1Kings 18:1 God told Elijah to go show himself to Ahab; and He will send rain upon the earth.

The prophet told Ahab to go up, eat and drink, for there is a sound of the rushing of rain [1^st King 18:41]. When Ahab went, the prophet went up to the top of Carmel, and he bowed himself down upon the Earth, and put his face between his knees, taking the position of a woman in labour for prayers so that he might birth the rain that the Lord had promised Ahab.

It should be noted that the easiest way to change the character of a person is not to preach many sermons to him but to labour in prayer until Christ is fully formed in him or in her. Some feel that by nagging you can change your spouse for good. The quickest way to have the character of your wife, husband, children, parents brought to harmony with that of Christ is by organising prayer.

6. For marriages to remain, healthy, cooperate prayer is required.

Chavda [1998] said that the Lord is speaking a new prophetic word about an old prophetic word. The old word is ‘’pray‘’ the new word is pray corporately. In Mathew 18:19 Jesus says, that if two of us will harmonize together as touching anything, it shall be done for us. God is calling the church today to cooperate prayer [Mathew 25:23].

The Lords breath is glowing causing cooperate prayer to spring forth across the earth. Catch the breath as a family.

The enemy hates prayer, particularly cooperate prayer because he knows that when two or more will come in agreement with the Holy Spirit, the devil will lose every time. Remember, Satan’s main strategy is to divide and conquer. “Jesus said” Every kingdom divide against itself is brought to desolation and a house divided against itself is brought to desolation, and a house divided against a house falls. [Luke 11:17b].

We should together pray for our children. If you are not covering your children in prayers every day, you are leaving their lives to chance. You need to cover every aspect of your children’s live in prayer. You should know that you don’t have to be perfect parents but praying parents. Omartian [2014] opined that there is no more powerful prayer than that of parents for their children.

God has given you spiritual authority over your children and your prayer have power. This does not mean that there will always be an immediate answer. Sometimes it can take days, weeks, months or even years. But your prayer are never meaningless. If you are praying something is happening.

Even if you will forget anything, don’t forget the issue of corporate prayers. It is said that the family that pray together, stay together. Kwakpovwe [2014] said that team work is a divine secret of uncommon success. Determine to be an agent of unity. Fight against the spirit of ‘I’ and seek after the spirit of ‘We’. Keller cited by Kwakpovwe [2014 p 63] said alone we can do so little, together we can do so much. Satan is determined to pluck you out of bunch. Alder cited by Kwakpovwe [2014] observed that when ‘I’ is replaced by ‘We’. Illness becomes wellness. Never have you neglected praying together as a family.

CONCLUSION

Marriage is not a bed of roses. No matter how well you think a marriage is, there are challenges and they only way to overcome the challenges is by prayer on our knees individually, corporately, for ourselves, our Children and everyone around us.

How to keep a courtship alive

2014-02-21T03:28:00.003-08:00

To keep your relationship alive there are certain things that must be done. For any relationship to be active and going smoothly, these tips must be strictly adhered to. The tips are as follows;-

1. There is a need for you to create time to pray together about your future and any satanic traps.

2. The persons in courtship need to jointly attend intending couple’s class or marriage and family school. Family transformation training.

3. It is ideal for intending couples should be in constant touch with each other via phone call, text, e-mail; write each other regularly, especially when you live in different towns or cities.

4. Discuss as adult, minimize disagreement and if there is any, see a counselor.

5. Trust each other and of course be trustworthy

6. Exchange gifts and visit each where Satan won’t take advantage of you.

7. Share spiritual assignment e.g. reading through the bible in three months or less, share prayer agreement and requests at night, appointing a day or more per week for fasting, attend conference together, exchange books on relationship and other areas of concern together e.t.c.

Factors responsible for the terminating a courtship; the Christian way.

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Courtship can be broken owing to a number of factors. However, it must not be broken any how because the emotion and life of human being are involved. The factors responsible for broken courtship include but not limited to;-
1.       Wedding
2.       Medical conflict e.g. if both intending couple are ‘AS’ , ‘SS’ genotype they can amicably part ways
3.       Church directive: when gross indiscipline, illegal business, unfaithfulness, backsliding are discovered.
4.       God’s directive/ godly counsel of godly people who knows the mind of God on that relationship than the parochial, sentimental and emotional, un-reasonability of the intending couple.

5.       Irreconcilable differences and orientations.
6.       Death of an intended partner
7.       Insanity
8.       Immorality/ double dating
9.       Constant misunderstanding and disagreement.
10.   Lack of inner peace about the relationship.
11.   Mutual agreement to amicably part ways for extraneous reasons.

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This world is full of changing standards, which makes marriage not to be in high esteem. Many couples stay together until their physical attraction wanes or problems arise some times not even serious problems and then they separate or divorce.Sadly,traumatized children are often left in the wake of marriage troubles. It is important to note that nowadays qualities that bind families together are lacking namely - loyalty, genuine love, and natural affection. Does this erosion of values and its effects on family life concern you? Do you hold marriage in high esteem?

The following five keys can make a world of difference in any marriage:

1. Marriage should be recognize as a union ordained by God. What is God's view about divorce? God viewed marriage as a sacred union. He frowned seriously at divine and separation. Couples should be faithful to each other just as God wants believers to be faithful to him. Malachi 2:14-16. Clearly, show that God does not take a casual view of marriage ; he takes note of how husbands and wives should treat each other.

2. Husband should be responsible.
How should an husband treat his wife? When important family matters arise, someone has to make the final decision. Husbands are assigned the role of decision taking. The husband is the head of the family. In like manner, the husband is to honour his wife and consult her on family matters. Husband should provide the necessary things that will make the family successful.

3. Wife should be supportive.
The wife complement the husband in all ways.She supplies important qualities to the marriage and does not compete with the husband but gives a loving support, thus promoting peace within the family.Likewise, the wife should feel free to express her opinions in a dignified, respectful matter, just as she would like her husband to speak to her.

4. Expect challenges and be realistic.
Marriage are put to test by thoughtless or unkind words, financial problems, serious illness, or the stress of raising children. There are challenges in marriage but tribulations or trials need not weaken a marriage . Godly wisdom is the main means to resolving potential decisive issues.

5. Faithfulness should be the watch word.
Few things do more to undermine a marriage success than fornication, or sex outside the marriage, which is the only basis for divorce acceptable to God. What can couples do to help them avoid being tempted to look outside the marriage for sexual satisfactions? Husband should render to his wife her due ,but let the wife also do likewise to her husband.

Finally, it is pertinent to note that some might consider these five keys old- fashioned. But the results say otherwise. In fact, they are similar to the results that come to a person who looks unto God for divine guidance in all aspects of life including marriage. Surely, the wisdom of God is the surest answer to man's marital troubles or challenges on earth.

Adeyeye Adeniran
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