Step Two.

Step Three…

FAIL.

So.  Plan B.

Nice how Plan B involves the pressing of the widest parts of my thighs from not one, but TWO sides.  Lovely.

I love the kids faces here.  And the fact that Will took my sunglasses off and put them on his head.

• Absence of Alternatives with Remember the Gulf
• Citizen of the Month with I Cannot Imagine
• Flying Tomato Farms with Junk Food and Other Magic and Local Food in Vermillion Schools Hurrah
• Cold Spaghetti with No Need for Missionaries
• Fledgling with Hands ON and Get to Know Tim Wise
• Knitnut with What’s Harper Got Against the Census Anyway
• Mary Murtz with I Get a Little Soap Boxy… and The Choices We Make the Things We Hold Onto
• Food Ponderings with Welcome
• ShrinkWrap with Why I Should Not Allow My Dad to Drive Me to the Airport
• Collecting Tokens with Petroleum Junkie Part 3
• Bayou Woman with Gulf Spill Update
• Shore Acres with Galveston Rising – The Trees
• Parenting by the Light of the Moon with Lessons for my Son
• Taco Girl with Global Giving Green Open Challenge
• The Bottom of Heaven with The Bluest Eye Bloggers Roundtable, and participants: Cold Spaghetti with Poverty, Invisibility, and Dignity,  Zetta Elliot with Legacy of Colorism, Xavier Passavant with Human Rights and Global Reach, and Claudia with Celebrating Toni Morrison’s TBE

Readers:

• Alejna
• Holly
• Lily

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Canon said to wait a week after shipment; it might take them a day to get to the box, assess the situation, and call with a cleaning and repair estimate.  After a week, I checked.  The package never arrived.

Because it never left Memphis.

So I call Memphis.  Over several phone calls, I learn:

– The box lost its routing slip.

– They found the box and opened it to examine the contents.

– They found “a Canon camera” and a box with “EF 17-40″ on it.  Sounds promising, but more information is needed.  Except.

– They won’t confirm the type of camera, won’t check that the one lens is still in the box (EF 17-40 is the wide-angle lens) and won’t confirm the existence of another box (the other lens).  “I just don’t know.”  They repeat.  “No, I can’t go down there.”  They explain with fake remorse.

– No.  They can’t take a picture of the box or do more to discover what is there, or, at least, “it is very unlikely.”  Ultimately, all they can do is read the notes because “It’s not their department.”  I ask to speak to the department checking the box, the floor, whatever.  They say that they will “have to have them call me back.”  Okay.  Finally, something positive.  “They’ll call later on tonight,” they tell me.

– Except no one calls back.

So, this morning, I call again.

– Oops.  Their bad.  Yeah, well, that camera and lens from last night?  We sold it on ebay last night can’t find it now.  Fill out a claim form.

– No, we can’t help you fill out the form, with all those crazy questions and numbers.  “It’s not our department.”  And?  “No, no one from that department is in today.”

FedEx decided to open up my shipment and keep what they liked.

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But here is the stupid part: I only insured the package for the value of the contents, NOT the replacement value.  And the replacement value?  Almost twice the insured value ($2000 versus $3800).  Also?  The camera is very hard to find now, as it’s an older model.  I’d waited several years for it to fall in price in the used market and finally found a price low enough about 16 months ago.  How will I replace it?

I was crying hot tears of anger and regret as I wrote down the necessary tracing and control numbers from FedEx, numbers that are suppose to help me in this claim.  Why was I so stupid?

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The lesson: INSURE THE HELL OUT OF ANYTHING YOU SEND.

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And also?  If driving through Memphis, please pull over a take a giant shit on the lawn of FedEx.  Just for me.

Eyes: Oh yes, they are that blue.

Hair: Worn, preferably, spiked in the center.

Skills: Fluent in French.  Good at all athletics.  Likes to dance.

Extra special: He loves his Mama.

We didn’t get to this place because we planned it.  I’m not even exactly sure how it all happened.  We took a lot of risks; life is a lot of ups and downs.  Job insecurity.  Liquidation of savings.  Inability to plan in advance.  More than a year of repeated denials for health care.  Uncertainty.  Working crazy hours, on different schedules, for weeks at a time.

But being in this crazy place is the best thing in our lives.  The thing for which we’re the most proud.  We have time with our kids, flexibility in our lives, and fulfilling careers.  Both of us.  On our own terms.  It’s not that we just got here — it’s what we do everyday.  It’s never been about working to a point or reaching a goal, it’s about living right now and doing it the best way that we can.  Somehow, the rest just manages to work out.

My new job is less risk and more defined, but has the common hallmarks of something that fits me: it’s flexible, has many opportunities that can go in whatever direction I take them, and involves domestic and international projects.  It’s got an “interim” prefix for now, as I didn’t apply for it and have to go through a formal process of Provost approval and interviews before the role begins straight off with the Director title.  Plus, since I’m officially a student until the PhD diploma is in my hand, I have wait until December before getting to the next step.  Which is perfect as it means I can try things out for awhile to see how everything fits.  Meanwhile, it puts me into a supportive academic school Uptown, within biking distance through some of the prettiest parts of our city, where I can sit in my corner office on the top floor and see the bell tower, gracious oaks, and green quad of the main campus.  One of my colleagues is completing the site visits to the African continent, which will allow me to focus on fall travel to Belize and India.  The India trip will be more extensive.  We’ll all go, visiting with friends and staying for Diwali, the Indian festival of lights.

It’s very, very exciting — and right now, as I transition from one position into another (and get my defense draft through committee for a September defense), very, very busy.

Check these out.

This is it’s match.  Really.

Or, you could go with the big stripes.  Yup, this set has THREE socks.  THREE!

Made by these folks.

And sent to me by Magpie, who ABSOLUTELY MADE MY DAY.

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PS: I’m reading The Island of the Colorblind and am on a black-and-white photo binge in honor of the achromats of Pingelap.  Also?  This socks will rock my Danskos.

“Don’t worry about what you should do,” he told me as I fretted over what I was going to do with my life, “work hard at what you like and doors will open for you.”

At the time, it was what I needed to hear to calm me down and focus on just getting through college.  Now I look back at that advice as a reminder to be open and flexible.  Life isn’t about getting to an end point.  It’s about the process.  So I’ve put faith in the process — of doing what feels right.  It has meant taking risks, walking away from sure-things  in favor of the unknown, and sometimes just doing whatever it is that makes the least amount of sense.


Eight days ago, I was finishing teaching class when an opportunity fell from the sky and landed smack-dab on my head.

Even if I had been paying attention, I don’t think I would have seen it coming.  It means a lot of changes (and short-term, a lot more to balance) but opens up seemingly endless possibilities for incredible projects and work opportunities.  The door was open.  There was no way to say no.

Lots of people — friends, strangers, family members — have connections to Sam.   Like when we met our friend, Bryan, at Disney World a few months back?  Bryan was Sam’s Daddy.  The girl at the pool who played with Kate yesterday during swim break is Sam’s sister.  Sam’s Mom and I also share some similarities.  For example, we both have a Diva Cup.  Except that mine is plain; Sam’s Mom’s has princesses on it.

It’s not strange for a kid to have an imaginary friend, so we haven’t paid Sam a whole lot of mind.

Except.

Kate is the kid who comes into our bed everynight, often because “the ghosts won’t let her sleep.” Part of her bedtime routine of tucking her in is announcing to various monsters and ghosts (most of which are named “Georgia” or “Frederick”) that it’s bedtime and Kate is done with playtime.  On some nights, they are can be very persistent.

And Sam?

Sam, she’s told us, used to live in our house.  I didn’t really pay much attention to this, as I’m quite certain our house isn’t in California.  Maybe Kate was making a continuity error.

Oh, but also?  Sam’s dead.

“What do you mean, Sam’s dead?”

“He’s not alive anymore.”

oh.

So.  Someone tell me.  At what point does developmental appropriateness cross into contact with The Beyond?

Is this something she’ll outgrow without exorcism?

On Sunday, he took the kids to the Global Wildlife Center in Folsom.  He also took these pictures of them.

Hearts?  Get ready for a beating.