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Comment on Whatever you do, don’t call me a housewife. by Q8mommas

Q8mommas — Wed, 16 May 2012 05:46:22 +0000

GOOD FOR YOU! Dont feel the need to explain to the world what you are! I hate labels and I admire your work ethics, waking up at 5 and then juggling design work and housework. I also admire the way you don’t BABY your child! It will make her stronger and independent (I try to do this but just fail every time, i admit that i am weak-hearted when it comes to my kids!.)

Comment on Cultural Gender Segregation by Nevine

Nevine — Thu, 10 May 2012 20:54:44 +0000

I spent two years going through the whole guys-talking-in-one-place-women-and-children-couped-up-in-another-place thing. At first I thought the women were feeling left out and it was all the guys’ fault for excluding us, but later I realized that they were perfectly content with this arrangement. Except whenever one would ask her husband to help with the kid he’d get irritated and say it’s her “job” not his. She would then snap at him but dutifully do what he says. I rarely go out with this group now.

Comment on Cultural Gender Segregation by Nesbi Maret H

Nesbi Maret H — Sun, 06 May 2012 16:23:43 +0000

I agree, child rearing is for both parents not just the Mom’s

Comment on Whatever you do, don’t call me a housewife. by Ann

Ann — Wed, 02 May 2012 07:47:00 +0000

Jess, you are trying too hard to make people accept you. Happiness and contentment comes from one trying to accept oneself as one is. And not bothering about what other people think of you. I for one, dont understand why you are so angry. If people say “oh you are so lucky, you dont have to get up early in the morning and deal with all this office crap” have you considered for a moment even, that perhaps it could be truly what they feel? That they would love to also stay home, and do things what and when they want, including working from home or freelance, but certain reasons don’t permit them? It could be monetary, or emotional stemming from a need to be financially independent. Or perhaps, their husbands prefer that they work (which believe me i have seen and heard so many ladies lament). Or, it could be simply that they are more career minded but have to also balance home, though they might not be so inclined to. You should be happy for yourself, and consider yourself blessed for such a lovely and supporting family. Nobody thinks you are stupid. And if anyone has called you that to your face, its perhaps because he or she is a very ill-mannered and uncouth person. The first step is to be happy and accept yourself. You dont have to prove yourself to anyone. And from your rant, it seems you are very unhappy about things. Nobody says you have to be an extension of your husband or your child. But come to think of it, every one who is part of a family is actually an extension of each other, while still being one’s own person. That’s what gives you the feeling of intimacy and belonging. Your job doesn’t define you. Only who you are as a person, does. Figure what it is that is actually bothering you. And you wont be so angry. Regards.

Comment on Whatever you do, don’t call me a housewife. by jessyz

jessyz — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 16:59:25 +0000

I usually don’t care what people think about me. I can’t really remember a time to when I fit in in my entire life, but sometimes it really stings.

Comment on Whatever you do, don’t call me a housewife. by jessyz

jessyz — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 16:57:30 +0000

Thanks Nevine, it is sad about the stereotyping and while I understand it is always easier to categorize people, maybe if the stereotypes weren’t so negative they wouldn’t feel so offensive.

Comment on Whatever you do, don’t call me a housewife. by Fruitful Fusion

Fruitful Fusion — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 16:56:30 +0000

Excellent excellent excellent post. I loved and could so relate to it. I pretty much don’t fit in anywhere but hey I’m through with thinking about what others think. I found this post so inspiring like that. Thanks so much for.sharing your thoughts.

Comment on Whatever you do, don’t call me a housewife. by jessyz

jessyz — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 16:52:44 +0000

Hugs are always appreciated. Yes I have decided to stand up to people when they are out of line.

Comment on Whatever you do, don’t call me a housewife. by jessyz

jessyz — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 16:51:28 +0000

Lasto I am flattered, I try

Comment on Whatever you do, don’t call me a housewife. by jessyz

jessyz — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 16:49:23 +0000

hahaha yes that is true. كلهم جيران