One of the the most important things about being a good problem solver is to give up the negative.

Solving Problems

You have to set about problem solving in a positive way or you will never get anywhere.

Often people approach a problem with their mind already made up that they will never solve it.

Well here’s the thing if you think you cannot do something then chances are you will fail when you try.

You have to think positively.

You have to come at a problem thinking - I can solve this, no problem.

A positive attitude is about keeping your mind open, which is important to problem solving, in general.

When you approach a problem with a can do attitude you are able to stop yourself from getting frustrated easily.

You are more open to letting your ideas flow and more likely to try out several solutions.

A positive attitude may just be the single hang up you have.

Think about how you approach problems.

Are you always going into the situation thinking you will never solve the problem? If so, then maybe simply by changing your attitude you can improve your problem solving skills.

Give it a try. The next time you approach a problem, think positively.

Tell yourself you can do it, that you can solve the problem.

Do not let yourself go to the negative.

A positive attitude is a major thing when it comes to problem solving.

Do not forget that your attitude can be a huge influence.

Keep it positive for the best results.

Keep Your Integrity

It’s more precious than diamonds or rubies.

The old miser said to his sons:

“Make money; get it honestly if you can, but get money:”

This advice was not only terribly evil, but it was the very heart and soul of stupidity:

It was like saying, “if you find it you can’t get money honestly, you can easily

get it dishonestly.

“Poor fool!”

Not realizing that one of the most difficult things in life is to make money dishonestly!

Prisons are full of people who tried to follow this advice; without realizing that you can’t be dishonest, without soon being

found out, and that when this happens as it will, nearly every road to success is closed.

Society blackballs those whose integrity is doubted.

It doesn’t matter how respectable and nice a person may seem to be, none of us want to hang with a person

we suspect deals with “false weights and measures.”

Honesty is the basis for all success in life (financially).

Uncompromising integrity is priceless.

With integrity comes a peace and joy which cannot be achieved without it–and this is something that money can’t buy.

A person who has a reputation for being honest, may appear to be poor, but they have the trust of their community –because everyone knows that if they promise to return something that they have borrowed — they will.

Remember that “honesty is the best policy.”

Emotions & Personal Growth and Development

Take a little time to learn about how your emotions can have an effect on you and deter you from making progress in your personal development.
At what time you understand how the emotions work, you will appreciate the problems you battle and you will find it easier to relax.
It is necessary to understand your emotional responses and what causes them to heat up if you intend to improve your life. It takes effort, so get started now.

How emotions react:

Emotions react to negative stimulus or positive stimuli.
These stimuli develop from our environmental changes, personal relationships, and often act in accord to what you observe based on your perceptional views.
When the emotions are triggered, then it will cause a reaction.

Examining what emotional responses mean we can see that our past learning, influences, etc all play a part in the development of emotional stimuli.
For instance, when you start your first relationship. What occurs?
First, you start out on the right foot and then abruptly as the relationship develops you find that you have differences, which for most people lead to argument.

Your subliminal mind will store the hidden messages or negative thoughts, reactions etc taking in what the conscious mind cannot handle.
Over the years you will encounter similar issues that trigger the emotions, whereas buried messages will trigger a response and it all reveals self in the emotions.
Thus, the emotions may feel threatened, which may cause you to react in anger.

What it takes:

What it takes to reverse these emotional responses so that your mind and body is relaxed are you to dig into your subliminal mind and discover what truly makes you sad or angry. Once you challenge this area of your mind, you will find answers.
In time, you might learn that what occurred at that moment in your relationship had little to do with the emotional responses you felt.

In short, somewhere in your childhood, some similar action occurred which perhaps caused you to feel angry at the time your relationship was heated.

At what time you explore the subliminal mind you often find why, who, what, when, how, and other aspects of your emotional responses, thus finding answers to many problems.

Take some time to learn more about emotional responses. By learning you will encourage self-growth, which is the process of personal development and growth.

You want to abandon any negative energy that flow to the emotions.
These negative energies include, fear, doubt, resentment, etc.
By abandoning these negative energies you will give you room to grow.
Learn forgiveness, because you will need to forgive if you want to abandon fear, doubt and resentment.

Your best bet in personal development and growth is to develop a mind that focuses on peace and love.
Love and peace above all else will help you discover you and deal with any other negative energy that may crop up.

Once you have an understanding of your emotions it will be easier to probe into your subliminal mind and continue to encourage relaxation. In this area of your mind are many hidden messages, which you must explore to manage your emotions or emotional responses.

The first step to delving into emotional management and subliminal learning however is to encourage body and mind relaxation.

Take some time to learn how to meditate.

This process or technique will assist you with exploring your subliminal mind through guided relaxation.

Also, take some time to learn the benefits of self-talk.
Learn how this natural skill can direct you to explore the subliminal mind and manage your emotions.

And above all else have some FUN in your life

Can self talk help?

We can use self-talk skills to develop our personal abilities to control our lives. We often think when we hear voices that its not a good thing, well some times it’s a good thing to hear the inner voice, what is good about hearing voices well the inner voice will help you to solve some of your problems. The inner voice can help you to talk you though some of life hardest choices.

How does your inner voice help you?

When using your inner voice you have to learn if it’s to help you, the inner voice can be bad as well as good. There is a big difference when it comes to the bad inner voice as well as well as the good inner voice. You have to learn to be able to figure out the difference between the two of them. You want to move to control the negative private speech, or thoughts that develop in your mind.

The bad inner voice is when the voice is telling you to do something that is wrong and you know its wrong but the voice in your mind is telling you that it’s ok; nothing is going to happen to you. The bad inner voice is stronger than you are able to handle so you really need to be learn a way to be stronger than the negative inner voice.

If the negative inner voice is too strong and you are unable to handle this you may have to go and get help for the problem. Your local family doctor can help you to get pointed in the right direction. Although you have to learn as well that the negative inner voice can pretend to be the good inner voice causing major problems. When I talk about bad inner voices these are might to be as bad negative thoughts that you have, the good inner voice that I am talking about is the positive things that you may hear in your head.

You want to listen to these voices. The positive voices will encourage you to do what is right. When you do what is right it makes it easier to see what you must accomplish to develop your personal skills and personal growth.

What is FEAR?

Is it false evidence appearing real or is it something different to you?

If you consider yourself a person of fear, you should know how your fear could cause serious problems. Sometimes it may only take a tragic moment is all it takes to reveal a violent reminder of how one’s lacks mortality and control over one’s life.

Often mother’s teach their children to never trust man. Today, women are independent and don’t have that need to depend on their husband if a marriage should break up. Some women often enter into a marriage, with an escape clause in case the marriage should fail. This is due to the woman being afraid of her husband doing to her what one’s father may have done to one’s mother.

Other women are afraid of infidelity. They are afraid of feeling trapped. Women at one time pulled together to gain strength over men. Today, the relationship between men and women are ending. Often women will devote 100% of her to a marriage only to see it fail by the man. This is devastating for the woman involved. Often, if there are female children at home, this action will actually warp a child’s mind against the opposite sex. Could this be the reason so many children turn out to be gay? Many children soon turning into adults have sworn that they would never let anything like this happen to them. Many times things are said and then the same pattern reoccurs again.

You can guard your emotions. One hates to end up in counseling to save a marriage or to stay sane. Women try so hard to console their partners and share love for just that one, when inside she is actually dying. Many times women figure out that at the base of the problem, it had all been her fault for placing her trust in the wrong person.

If one puts all their trust into people, one will surely fall short in their expectations of life. Today there is a widespread of fear when it comes to trusting men. There is often a lot of stress that comes when one is attempting to be in control of a relationship that will ultimately rob one of all the joy and happiness in their life. One should live in freedom, not in fear.

The first step for releasing your fear is to give up total control. So often, the windows of one’s soul become clouded from so much fear. When this happens, one often looks upon one’s life with distrust and dread.

Often fear is looked upon as a feminine emotion. Because of this, one may discourage fear in their daughters. There have been times when children were punished for showing fear. Years have passed for many women and they continue to live with fear. This emotion can start to affect others in one’s life. Emotional communication is how one releases their true emotion to others. This emotion is naturally transmitted to those that are closest to your situation. Often those closest to you will notice the reflection and isolation by means of one’s looks, words and body language. Don’t let fear conquer your life and well being. Speak out and let it be known. Seek the proper help you deserve to live a fulfilled life.

One seldom stops and thinks back to understand as to why one can’t see how much like their parents they have become, when one was so quick to harshly judge them. When one judges their parents, one’s understanding becomes darkened, and the fear sets in to repeating their failures and surplus. One must begin to deal with their fear to establish positive habits and responses.

Each individual has a different level of tolerance to fear, depending on how well one has learned to cope when things don’t go their way or when one is faced with an unbearable situation that they must deal with.

And what do you think ?

Happy Chinese New Year

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Year of The Metal Tiger

Kung Hei Fat Choy

Steps To A Better Life

Asking and wishing for what you want doesn’t always mean you get it.

We all learn that lesson as children.

Learning how to ask is a lesson many people never properly learn.

Knowing how to ask for what you want can mean the difference between getting it and just continuing to want it.

Even more important than knowing how to ask, is knowing what you’re asking for.

Understanding what you want and the reasons you want it can give you valuable insight to the thought process that is necessary to achieving your desires.

Asking for riches without know what you want those riches for may not bring you the happiness and satisfaction you anticipated.

Realizing why you want money can help you understand what your real desire is.

Do you want it to provide security for your family, or because you really want the power money buys.

The goals here are different.

And while obtaining one, doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t get the other, it also doesn’t mean you will either.

Asking for another job is good example.

Why do you want another job?

Is it a second job you want? Or one that pays more?

Or are you really wanting a job that you can enjoy doing?

Not knowing why you want another job, can lead to dissatisfaction when you get what you asked

Do You Think You Can?

As we are all recovering from the the madness of the Festive Season and and the excitement of a New Year and a new decade I can across this poem that I would like to share with you.

If you think you are beaten, you are;
If you think you dare not, you don’t.
If you’d like to win, but think you can’t
It’s almost a cinch you won’t.

If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost,
For out in the world we find
Success begins with a fellow’s will;
It’s all in the state of mind.

If you think you’re outclassed, you are.
You’ve got to think high to rise.
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.

Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man;
But sooner or later the man who wins
Is the one who thinks he can.

“Thinking” (also called “The Man Who Thinks He Can“) by Walter D. Wintle

And later, probably inspired by this poem, Henry Ford is supposed to have said much the same thing with; “Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right.”

And you know what? They were both absolutely correct.

If you think you can’t do something, then you almost certainly can’t do it, and so you won’t even try to do it.

Sometimes you’ll try and then surprise yourself, but most of the time you’ll meet your own expectations.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Does it?

When it boils down to it, those are there are only two things that separate the successful from everyone else.

#1 – They THINK they can do it – they believe it.

#2 – They don’t give up until they achieve what they believe they can.

And there you have it – the recipe for success.