Comments for How to Crush Without Being Crushed

Comment on What is a ‘Successful’ Crush? by Janis

Janis — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 21:52:32 +0000

“Toss it out into the public and, suddenly, there isn’t as much control.”

There never is, in a real relationship.

“Inserting it’s objective facts in place of our imagined perfections. Getting our pristine pedestals (and those we put upon them) dingy and covered in grime. Slowly, surely, and often painfully forcing us to accept what is as what is.”

True. So how does one learn how to deal with the non-pristine, non-perfect world of reality if one never lives in it?

Comment on Failure and Success: Telling Someone About the Crush (Part II) by How to Crush Without Being Crushed » What is a ‘Successful’ Crush?

How to Crush Without Being Crushed » What is a ‘Successful’ Crush? — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 12:48:57 +0000

[...] of the comments I got from last week’s tale of successfully crush revelation raised the question of what a successful crush [...]

Comment on Failure and Success: Telling Someone About the Crush (Part I) by How to Crush Without Being Crushed » Failure and Success: Telling Someone About the Crush (Part II)

Fri, 05 Mar 2010 16:55:22 +0000

[...] time I share a couple of stories from my own life. Just a little while ago, I told you about one that didn’t go so well. Now I’d like to share a much more positive [...]

Comment on Breaking the Silence: 5 Steps to Announcing Your Crush by How to Crush Without Being Crushed » Failure and Success: Telling Someone About the Crush (Part I)

Fri, 05 Mar 2010 12:34:00 +0000

[...] I’ve talked about how to tell someone you have a crush on them and why you’d want to do that. I figure now it’s time I share a couple of stories from [...]

Comment on Why Speak Up by Kier

Kier — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 21:29:27 +0000

We’re all so confused about things in high school it’s amazing we don’t just explode. Everyone sends mixed messages, because things are changing so quickly within themselves.

Not much I did in high school in the crushing or romantic arena went well. Comedic, in retrospect, but tragic at the time.

Point #2 is a common one in most things. Our own perceptions of things involving us tend to skew very far on way or the other. In cases dealing with the prelude to romance, we either think we’re being super stealthy or totally obvious. The truth of the matter usually lies somewhere in between.

Comment on Why Speak Up by spleeness

spleeness — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 15:27:28 +0000

Hmm, probably the last time I told someone I had a crush on them was in high school? I don’t remember but it probably didn’t go so well (“well” being defined as them liking me back).

Some good points you brought up here though. I like #2 — it’s true, we’re not as subtle as we think! I have to remember this.

Comment on Breaking the Silence: 5 Steps to Announcing Your Crush by How to Crush Without Being Crushed » Why Speak Up

How to Crush Without Being Crushed » Why Speak Up — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 12:44:31 +0000

[...] last week’s post about how to tell someone you have a crush on them, I was met again and again with two major [...]

Comment on A Real Broken Heart by How to Crush Without Being Crushed » The Month Gone, the Month to Come

How to Crush Without Being Crushed » The Month Gone, the Month to Come — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 12:09:16 +0000

[...] at some other media out there–like the videos that have gone up in the past few weeks and the neat articles that I come across. I’m always on the lookout for new and interesting things to [...]

Comment on The Seven Types of Crushes by How to Crush Without Being Crushed » Breaking the Silence: 5 Steps to Announcing Your Crush

Tue, 23 Feb 2010 12:48:06 +0000

[...] staying on the vine a little longer. Granted, I did kind of limit myself to only one or two of the seven types of crushes I make note of, but I’m going to save up all my Hollywood crushin’ for Dragon*Con, when [...]

Comment on Mending a Broken Heart by Kier Duros

Kier Duros — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 05:39:36 +0000

Agreed on both counts.

One of the best things I’ve learned over the years is how to be complete in and of myself. Having other around add to me, but, if they go, I am no less than I was when I met them… and I was a whole and functioning person then.

Time and space remind us of our wholeness of self–or lack thereof. And if there’s a lack of it at the beginning of a relationship, that romance is built on shaky ground.