Comments for Lived To Tell http://www.livedtotell.com 35 year old mother of two trying to live with panic disorder and depression without losing her sense of humor. Tue, 09 Mar 2010 03:20:21 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 Comment on Brett Reider Is Alive and Doing Well by Penny http://www.livedtotell.com/2007/10/27/brett-reider-is-alive-and-doing-well/#comment-8274 Penny Tue, 09 Mar 2010 03:20:21 +0000 http://www.livedtotell.com/2007/10/27/brett-reider-is-alive-and-doing-well/#comment-8274 I am thankful that you and your family are doing well. The boys are so cute. I pray that you and your beautiful wife have a long and happy life together. God Bless you and your family I am thankful that you and your family are doing well. The boys are so cute. I pray that you and your beautiful wife have a long and happy life together. God Bless you and your family

]]> Comment on Brett Reider Is Alive and Doing Well by Stephanie http://www.livedtotell.com/2007/10/27/brett-reider-is-alive-and-doing-well/#comment-8273 Stephanie Mon, 08 Mar 2010 17:47:01 +0000 http://www.livedtotell.com/2007/10/27/brett-reider-is-alive-and-doing-well/#comment-8273 Dear Brett, I saw your story on HBO yesterday for the first time. Words cannot express the sympathy that I felt for you and your sister. Nor can words express the living hell that the two of you were put through. I am a mom taking care of the most precious daughter in the world and I feel bad even raising my voice to her. What your mother did to you both was unspeakable. How she slept at night is beyond me. What you did was in self-defense ALL THE WAY. You and your sister will be in my daily thoughts and prayers for a long time to come. Dear Brett,
I saw your story on HBO yesterday for the first time. Words cannot express the sympathy that I felt for you and your sister. Nor can words express the living hell that the two of you were put through. I am a mom taking care of the most precious daughter in the world and I feel bad even raising my voice to her. What your mother did to you both was unspeakable. How she slept at night is beyond me. What you did was in self-defense ALL THE WAY. You and your sister will be in my daily thoughts and prayers for a long time to come.

]]> Comment on Brett Reider Is Alive and Doing Well by Pam http://www.livedtotell.com/2007/10/27/brett-reider-is-alive-and-doing-well/#comment-8271 Pam Sun, 07 Mar 2010 21:39:38 +0000 http://www.livedtotell.com/2007/10/27/brett-reider-is-alive-and-doing-well/#comment-8271 Thank you for putting up this website. I recently saw the documentary again and also wondered how Brett is doing. I am very glad to know that he has moved on and has a wonderful family of his own. He and Alissa endured sever abuse and I think his story also showed that this happens in homes that to the outside appear normal and happy. It also shows the emotional toll that it takes on children, especially when they have no where to turn for help. When I saw the documentary, I was shocked that he was charged and tried then sentenced to prison. Based on the background, he was acting in self-defense. Again, I was happy to hear Brett and Alissa are doing well. Thank you for putting up this website. I recently saw the documentary again and also wondered how Brett is doing.
I am very glad to know that he has moved on and has a wonderful family of his own.
He and Alissa endured sever abuse and I think his story also showed that this happens in homes that to the outside appear normal and happy. It also shows the emotional toll that it takes on children, especially when they have no where to turn for help.
When I saw the documentary, I was shocked that he was charged and tried then sentenced to prison. Based on the background, he was acting in self-defense.
Again, I was happy to hear Brett and Alissa are doing well.

]]> Comment on Hell-Oh! by Belle http://www.livedtotell.com/2010/02/24/hell-oh/#comment-8269 Belle Sun, 07 Mar 2010 19:01:11 +0000 http://www.livedtotell.com/?p=758#comment-8269 You sound much more in control. I think you are really taking the right steps to freedom from the pain. I know Nathan leaving will be hard, but I've learned that hanging on to our children doesn't serve either their or our best interest. You have been a good mom, and he knows you love him. Based on my experience, they do what they are gonna do and if he makes mistakes, well.......you will still be there for him and I'm guessing he knows that! You sound much more in control. I think you are really taking the right steps to freedom from the pain. I know Nathan leaving will be hard, but I’ve learned that hanging on to our children doesn’t serve either their or our best interest. You have been a good mom, and he knows you love him. Based on my experience, they do what they are gonna do and if he makes mistakes, well…….you will still be there for him and I’m guessing he knows that!

]]> Comment on Brett Reider Is Alive and Doing Well by Shansi http://www.livedtotell.com/2007/10/27/brett-reider-is-alive-and-doing-well/#comment-8268 Shansi Sun, 07 Mar 2010 15:10:45 +0000 http://www.livedtotell.com/2007/10/27/brett-reider-is-alive-and-doing-well/#comment-8268 Thank you Alissa for your bravery both in being the one constant person for your brother and for sharing your documentary ....you were the best 'big sister' anyone could ask for. I wish only the best life can offer for you and your family and for Brett and his family. A peaceful life begins with a peaceful mind. Thank you Alissa for your bravery both in being the one constant person for your brother and for sharing your documentary ….you were the best ‘big sister’ anyone could ask for. I wish only the best life can offer for you and your family and for Brett and his family. A peaceful life begins with a peaceful mind.

]]> Comment on Brett Reider Is Alive and Doing Well by Emily Corbitt http://www.livedtotell.com/2007/10/27/brett-reider-is-alive-and-doing-well/#comment-8266 Emily Corbitt Sun, 07 Mar 2010 14:02:05 +0000 http://www.livedtotell.com/2007/10/27/brett-reider-is-alive-and-doing-well/#comment-8266 Me and my family are glad to see that you are doing well, and that you have started a family of your own. You have very beautiful children, and I hope your sis and father are doing well. Me and my family are glad to see that you are doing well, and that you have started a family of your own. You have very beautiful children, and I hope your sis and father are doing well.

]]> Comment on Brett Reider Is Alive and Doing Well by Kevin http://www.livedtotell.com/2007/10/27/brett-reider-is-alive-and-doing-well/#comment-8265 Kevin Sun, 07 Mar 2010 13:50:29 +0000 http://www.livedtotell.com/2007/10/27/brett-reider-is-alive-and-doing-well/#comment-8265 I am a 43 year old father of three and just watched the doc and for the first time in my life I am lost for words. Brett, God bless you and your family, may your life be filled with joy and love and also for your sister too. Stand tall and proud my friend and always remember you done nothing wrong you just stopped the cycle, once again God bless you and your sister and your families......Kevin I am a 43 year old father of three and just watched the doc and for the first time in my life I am lost for words. Brett, God bless you and your family, may your life be filled with joy and love and also for your sister too. Stand tall and proud my friend and always remember you done nothing wrong you just stopped the cycle, once again God bless you and your sister and your families……Kevin

]]> Comment on Brett Reider Is Alive and Doing Well by Kiralie Power http://www.livedtotell.com/2007/10/27/brett-reider-is-alive-and-doing-well/#comment-8264 Kiralie Power Sun, 07 Mar 2010 12:08:37 +0000 http://www.livedtotell.com/2007/10/27/brett-reider-is-alive-and-doing-well/#comment-8264 Brett & Sara, I such watched the file that Allissa made on TV. It is 3:30 am. I just wanted to express my joy to find that you all are continuing and having a happy life. I am a 61 year mother of two. I have tried my whole to do the right thing but I still married 2 alcoholics and my kids suffered . I tried to protect them ... but somehow my mind was altered and somehow I figured that the verbal abuse that I got would tickle down and make them stronger somehow. It is nothing like you had to endure. I have a girl that doesn't blame me but my boy has issues that he has to face. Our mental heath is so much of who we are. We must be grounded and balanced. I applaud you and you life. We all have to do the best we can do. My son is 25 and starting to come around. He lived with me at the house and I give him freedom but his choices aren't the best sometimes...but then he is 25. He always needed a good example of a man to follow. I saw a piece on TV about Temple Grandin PHD. There is a TV movie of her life. She is autisic and the story is very inspiring. We have to pay attention to this because this is a very big thing we have to solve. Thank you for sharing your story. We can't sweep anything uder the rug. Thank God that we don't live in a "Donna Reed World" anymore. Kira Brett & Sara,
I such watched the file that Allissa made on TV. It is 3:30 am. I just wanted to express my joy to find that you all are continuing and having a happy life. I am a 61 year mother of two. I have tried my whole to do the right thing but I still married 2 alcoholics and my kids suffered . I tried to protect them … but somehow my mind was altered and somehow I figured that the verbal abuse that I got would tickle down and make them stronger somehow. It is nothing like you had to endure. I have a girl that doesn’t blame me but my boy has issues that he has to face. Our mental heath is so much of who we are. We must be grounded and balanced. I applaud you and you life. We all have to do the best we can do. My son is 25 and starting to come around. He lived with me at the house and I give him freedom but his choices aren’t the best sometimes…but then he is 25. He always needed a good example of a man to follow.
I saw a piece on TV about Temple Grandin PHD. There is a TV movie of her life. She is autisic and the story is very inspiring. We have to pay attention to this because this is a very big thing we have to solve. Thank you for sharing your story. We can’t sweep anything uder the rug. Thank God that we don’t live in a “Donna Reed World” anymore. Kira

]]> Comment on Brett Reider Is Alive and Doing Well by Toni Jenkins http://www.livedtotell.com/2007/10/27/brett-reider-is-alive-and-doing-well/#comment-8260 Toni Jenkins Thu, 04 Mar 2010 06:27:05 +0000 http://www.livedtotell.com/2007/10/27/brett-reider-is-alive-and-doing-well/#comment-8260 Dear Brett and family , I am so HAPPY to find out that your are well . I saw the HBO DOC years ago , I always wondered about you . I see you are very well . Im very happy for you . Dear Brett and family , I am so HAPPY to find out that your are well . I saw the HBO DOC years ago , I always wondered about you . I see you are very well . Im very happy for you .

]]> Comment on Hell-Oh! by leonardo http://www.livedtotell.com/2010/02/24/hell-oh/#comment-8256 leonardo Sat, 27 Feb 2010 03:06:59 +0000 http://www.livedtotell.com/?p=758#comment-8256 I think we're all learning a lot from your experience. The fact that a moment that you share with someone else is subjectively YOUR moment no matter how it affects the other person is an important observation to me because often I tend to be more concerned about how that sharing affects the other person, lessening the impact on myself. But, it is ME that must move forward if I am to survive. Otherwise, there will be no sharing at all. The other great point that you make is that in letting Nathan go you are experiencing a new level of yourself, one that you might not have been exposed to if you were to try to stop him. You cannot control what the ultimate outcome will be when someone so close decides what he wants to do. All you can do is offer your logic for/against the action, hope for the best, and help him learn from the experience of his new venture. But this is an emotional level which you've never had to face before and it raises your own self-consciousness because all that you've taught him gets hung out there. Sure, you can do little more. He will be who he has become and who you created. This is important for him. It is much more important for you because he knows where to return if he has to, but more importantly he will be out there being what you made him. And you are there and you will continue to be there. You are now home base. I think we’re all learning a lot from your experience. The fact that a moment that you share with someone else is subjectively YOUR moment no matter how it affects the other person is an important observation to me because often I tend to be more concerned about how that sharing affects the other person, lessening the impact on myself. But, it is ME that must move forward if I am to survive. Otherwise, there will be no sharing at all.

The other great point that you make is that in letting Nathan go you are experiencing a new level of yourself, one that you might not have been exposed to if you were to try to stop him. You cannot control what the ultimate outcome will be when someone so close decides what he wants to do. All you can do is offer your logic for/against the action, hope for the best, and help him learn from the experience of his new venture. But this is an emotional level which you’ve never had to face before and it raises your own self-consciousness because all that you’ve taught him gets hung out there. Sure, you can do little more. He will be who he has become and who you created. This is important for him. It is much more important for you because he knows where to return if he has to, but more importantly he will be out there being what you made him. And you are there and you will continue to be there. You are now home base.

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