Comments for Personal Development - UrbanMonk.Net http://www.urbanmonk.net Bliss. Success. Love. Sun, 22 Nov 2009 02:03:27 -0800 hourly 1 Comment on Reader Discussion: Ask Me Anything You Want by Rob http://www.urbanmonk.net/818/ask-me-anything-you-want-2/#comment-14301 Rob Sun, 22 Nov 2009 02:03:27 +0000 http://www.urbanmonk.net/?p=818#comment-14301 @crisitna Hello there! It seems to me that you are halfway to the solution already - you have recognised your problem and you seem to have an excellent grasp on it's definition and origin. This is a positive step for you and you have taken another tentative step by asking for help. It is clear to me that you already have the capability of fixing this problem with your own willpower and imagination. The most common way to deal with procrastination is to make a list of everything you want to achieve and break it down into the smallest possible tasks. You must then set yourself a target to achieve one small task in a reasonable time limit. Make it easy, stick to this target and when you achieve it, pick another task or two, set a new deadline and achieve it. You can then begin to order and prioritise the remaining tasks and before you know it you will be more than half-way done. Once you have achieved this milestone you will have momentum on your side! If web design is something that interests you and you enjoy doing it you will have no trouble once you get started and you will be blessed with a job you enjoy - surprisingly, not many people take that chance. So you need to be brave and do what you want to do. You must train yourself not to mind if others take credit for your achievements - as long as you are enjoying it, what does it matter? No one else can share your own sense of achievement so you must learn to celebrate your own success and reward yourself in your own way! When you get past that 50% mark, buy yourself a treat, something that is for you only like a spa day, a telescope or tickets to see a show. When you start to acknowledge your own achievements in this way you are reinforcing your own positive behaviour and when others notice you doing this, perhaps they will also want to do the same, however you must not be disapointed if they don't. You create your own opportunities in life and by working hard and displaying dedication and a professional approach, you will eventually get noticed by the right person, who will offer you a new opportunity with a new challenge and bigger rewards - you must have faith in yourself and your ability to create your own destiny. Good Luck. @crisitna Hello there! It seems to me that you are halfway to the solution already – you have recognised your problem and you seem to have an excellent grasp on it’s definition and origin. This is a positive step for you and you have taken another tentative step by asking for help. It is clear to me that you already have the capability of fixing this problem with your own willpower and imagination. The most common way to deal with procrastination is to make a list of everything you want to achieve and break it down into the smallest possible tasks. You must then set yourself a target to achieve one small task in a reasonable time limit. Make it easy, stick to this target and when you achieve it, pick another task or two, set a new deadline and achieve it. You can then begin to order and prioritise the remaining tasks and before you know it you will be more than half-way done. Once you have achieved this milestone you will have momentum on your side! If web design is something that interests you and you enjoy doing it you will have no trouble once you get started and you will be blessed with a job you enjoy – surprisingly, not many people take that chance. So you need to be brave and do what you want to do. You must train yourself not to mind if others take credit for your achievements – as long as you are enjoying it, what does it matter? No one else can share your own sense of achievement so you must learn to celebrate your own success and reward yourself in your own way! When you get past that 50% mark, buy yourself a treat, something that is for you only like a spa day, a telescope or tickets to see a show. When you start to acknowledge your own achievements in this way you are reinforcing your own positive behaviour and when others notice you doing this, perhaps they will also want to do the same, however you must not be disapointed if they don’t. You create your own opportunities in life and by working hard and displaying dedication and a professional approach, you will eventually get noticed by the right person, who will offer you a new opportunity with a new challenge and bigger rewards – you must have faith in yourself and your ability to create your own destiny.

Good Luck.

]]> Comment on Reader Discussion: Ask Me Anything You Want by Mary http://www.urbanmonk.net/818/ask-me-anything-you-want-2/#comment-14299 Mary Sun, 22 Nov 2009 01:16:40 +0000 http://www.urbanmonk.net/?p=818#comment-14299 Hi Albert! Me, again. I don't have a question, but I do have a comment. I,also, have been in some similar depressive areas of my life. I read a book called "The Four Agreements". Turned my whole attitude around. Living in the present moment is key to a successful way of getting joy in life, no matter what. Hope this helps. Go'in out for ice cream. I don't care if it is November. I like ice cream. Mary Hi Albert!
Me, again.
I don’t have a question, but I do have a comment. I,also, have been in some similar depressive areas of my life. I read a book called “The Four Agreements”. Turned my whole attitude around.
Living in the present moment is key to a successful way of getting joy in life, no matter what. Hope this helps.
Go’in out for ice cream. I don’t care if it is November. I like ice cream.
Mary

]]> Comment on What your ego is and how to stop it from obscuring your inner peace and unconditional love by Albert http://www.urbanmonk.net/59/what-your-ego-is-and-how-to-stop-it-from-obscuring-your-inner-peace-and-unconditional-love/#comment-14298 Albert Sun, 22 Nov 2009 01:07:35 +0000 http://www.urbanmonk.net/59/what-your-ego-is-and-how-to-stop-it-from-obscuring-your-inner-peace-and-unconditional-love/#comment-14298 Hi Celeste, thanks for the comment :D I'm glad it helped so much. Be careful of going on a "witch-hunt" though, and turning this kinda stuff into some obsession. It doesn't seem egotistical to tell someone that you were a graphic designer. ;) Hi Celeste, thanks for the comment :D I’m glad it helped so much. Be careful of going on a “witch-hunt” though, and turning this kinda stuff into some obsession. It doesn’t seem egotistical to tell someone that you were a graphic designer. ;)

]]> Comment on Reader Discussion: Ask Me Anything You Want by Albert http://www.urbanmonk.net/818/ask-me-anything-you-want-2/#comment-14297 Albert Sun, 22 Nov 2009 01:03:34 +0000 http://www.urbanmonk.net/?p=818#comment-14297 Hi Jordan, thank you for your comment. I am really sorry, but I really can't say much - as mentioned in the main post I am simply not qualified to, and it's very difficult to know the full story via the internet. What I can say - there is no shame in finding professional help. (I might be a bit biased, as I am training to become one myself) If you're worried about finding a lousy therapist, remember that it is perfectly in your rights (and to your benefit) to move on to a different person if you think the current one is not good for you. Also, there's nothing wrong with crying. In my experience, it's a very healing thing to do. Hi Jordan, thank you for your comment. I am really sorry, but I really can’t say much – as mentioned in the main post I am simply not qualified to, and it’s very difficult to know the full story via the internet.

What I can say – there is no shame in finding professional help. (I might be a bit biased, as I am training to become one myself)

If you’re worried about finding a lousy therapist, remember that it is perfectly in your rights (and to your benefit) to move on to a different person if you think the current one is not good for you. Also, there’s nothing wrong with crying. In my experience, it’s a very healing thing to do.

]]> Comment on Reader Discussion: Ask Me Anything You Want by Jordan http://www.urbanmonk.net/818/ask-me-anything-you-want-2/#comment-14296 Jordan Sat, 21 Nov 2009 22:42:58 +0000 http://www.urbanmonk.net/?p=818#comment-14296 My mind is in a sad state these days. Every time I think something positive, another thought will arise finding away to blame myself for it, and somehow convince me I'm still not innocent, and I'm guilty. Anyways, I don't like the fact of taking anti-depressent medication, as I feel it's a useless money grabber for big corporations, but I don't know what else to do. There's not much opportunity to do anything where I am, and I'm stuck in the same self-defeating routine. I'm considering therapy... but am also shy and don't wanna end up crying in front of the therapist, that'd be too akward and I know I would. Always afraid I'll get the therapist who it's just a paycheck for... how should I comfort myself into growing the balls to do therapy, or should I just take anti-depressent meds? My mind is in a sad state these days. Every time I think something positive, another thought will arise finding away to blame myself for it, and somehow convince me I’m still not innocent, and I’m guilty.

Anyways, I don’t like the fact of taking anti-depressent medication, as I feel it’s a useless money grabber for big corporations, but I don’t know what else to do. There’s not much opportunity to do anything where I am, and I’m stuck in the same self-defeating routine.

I’m considering therapy… but am also shy and don’t wanna end up crying in front of the therapist, that’d be too akward and I know I would. Always afraid I’ll get the therapist who it’s just a paycheck for… how should I comfort myself into growing the balls to do therapy, or should I just take anti-depressent meds?

]]> Comment on What your ego is and how to stop it from obscuring your inner peace and unconditional love by celeste http://www.urbanmonk.net/59/what-your-ego-is-and-how-to-stop-it-from-obscuring-your-inner-peace-and-unconditional-love/#comment-14295 celeste Sat, 21 Nov 2009 20:28:50 +0000 http://www.urbanmonk.net/59/what-your-ego-is-and-how-to-stop-it-from-obscuring-your-inner-peace-and-unconditional-love/#comment-14295 Albert..thank you so much for this article. I especially appreciate the visuals (the blotches, the thought, the magnified thought, the large thought still visible). It is undoubtedly an ego statement of sorts to say that "I am a visual person"...but I definitely learn things much better when I see some sort of graph/chart/visual interpretation. The images you put together are perfect to describe the thoughts in this essay. I do not think the article too long at all. I even read all the comments. I am sorely tempted to even tell you that I "was" a graphic designer...and therefore that is why I am so taken with your good graphics. (why should you care? lol..I just have this habit of continually telling people about "who" I am). Through your article I have come to see how constantly and relentlessly I identify myself as a tall, talented, Irish, cat-loving, depressive, oil painting, over achieving, under achieving, blahblahblahblah person. Believe me, I have so many blotches and leftover magnified thought shadows I suspect my core doesn't see the light of day! But...wait. Yes...it has....because I read this article. It's brilliant and generous. AND I'm super grateful for the illustrations. Albert..thank you so much for this article. I especially appreciate the visuals (the blotches, the thought, the magnified thought, the large thought still visible). It is undoubtedly an ego statement of sorts to say that “I am a visual person”…but I definitely learn things much better when I see some sort of graph/chart/visual interpretation. The images you put together are perfect to describe the thoughts in this essay. I do not think the article too long at all. I even read all the comments.
I am sorely tempted to even tell you that I “was” a graphic designer…and therefore that is why I am so taken with your good graphics. (why should you care? lol..I just have this habit of continually telling people about “who” I am).

Through your article I have come to see how constantly and relentlessly I identify myself as a tall, talented, Irish, cat-loving, depressive, oil painting, over achieving, under achieving, blahblahblahblah person. Believe me, I have so many blotches and leftover magnified thought shadows I suspect my core doesn’t see the light of day! But…wait. Yes…it has….because I read this article. It’s brilliant and generous. AND I’m super grateful for the illustrations.

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