Comments on: Bullying – Making Your Child Bully-proof!

By: Alejandro Krivanec

Alejandro Krivanec — Fri, 05 Nov 2010 16:37:47 +0000

Well, Thanks for posting! I really enjoyed the report. I’ve already bookmarked this article. Well said and timely bit of writing on your part.

By: Annette Cannon

Annette Cannon — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 04:20:01 +0000

Hi Lucie and Sally
Bully is sadly a thing that many children will encounter. In the early years I believe that the pushing from a two year old comes down to not being taught the correct social behaviour. For ‘normal” children it is something that as mums we teach our children how to socialise appropriately but for our children with ASD it is the hardest thing to teach. To teach a child with ASD the correct socialably acceptable behaviour is very frustrating as these children just don’t get it – but as a mum of a teen ASD child it does work – takes alot longer to teach but they know exactly what bullying is all about
Lucie – Those children that aren’t simply taugh what is right and what is wrong when it comes to sociallising do sometimes go up to be bullies – I only say this because I have seen my son grow up with children (over a perios of six years or so) and their behaviours do not change. And Yes it comes down to parenting – we have a responsibility to our children to give them and teach them about every aspect of life – the good and sometimes the bad.
Sallie – hope all is well – nearly finished reading your book for the second time 🙂
Annette

By: Allison

Allison — Wed, 05 May 2010 03:18:24 +0000

I have a 4.5 year old son with Asperger, so we haven’t yet started school. but i will take on board your sugestions on problem solving and try and empower my son to handel and create better handling stratergies of bullies.

By: admin

admin — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 05:03:59 +0000

Hi Lucie,

I am not 100% sure I know how to answer this question, as at 2 .5 years old our son David was the one doing the pushing, much to our dismay!

In his case, as I learned much later – he would react physically when other children would invade his space or interrupt his train of thought. It did create some very difficult times for us and I was always apologising to somebody 🙂

I would be interested to know if the other mother did anything or said anything to you? Because if I was the other mother I would be using the situation to
1. Explain to her son that pushing is not acceptable.
2. Have her son apologise to your son and then
3. Model how they can play together appropriately and ask you if you would mind if they could both play together, but with you both present to help ensure that there is a learning experience.

Sally

By: Lucie

Lucie — Sat, 10 Apr 2010 02:37:15 +0000

LOVE this article Sally.. you are a very talented writer with some excellent ideas. This artical left me wondering though.. is bullying deeply ingrained from a young age? Is it hereditary?

My son is only 2.5 years old and at the tender age of 2 years old he encountered his first bully.. another 2.5 year old in the playground. Now this got me thinking, WHERE on earth does a 2.5 year old boy learn about bullying? My poor old son was SO dissolusioned, here he is a good little boy, very obedient and thinks that everyone likes him, well, you should have seen his face when the other little boy kept trying to push my son over! He was shocked, I was shocked.. I’m assuming this other little boy had learnt this behaviour from parents or siblings.. who knows..

Any ideas?