Today is your day.

Today is your day to take responsibility.

Today is your day to stop thinking tactically and own a seat at the strategic table.

Today is your day because no one is going to hand you your dream role on a silver platter.

Today is your day to own what community management means to you, your organization and your community.

Today is your day to keep beating the drum and show your organization how the fluffy side of engagement aligns with business goals and objectives.

Today is your day to share the stories of community members with folks in your legal, human resources and IT departments.

Today is your day to understand and embody the needs, challenges and desires of those you represent.

Today is your day to begin mapping connections between the organization and the community to find gaps and opportunities for monitoring, observation and engagement.

Today is your day to educate your organization about what it means to be a community manager through your actions.

Today is your day to be what the community needs you to be at the time they need you to be it.

Don’t squander away the this day or any day. Own today for all todays.

I am not a big fan of resolutions, just as I don’t wait until the end of the year to evaluate success. I prefer to always be in a state of progress (towards perfection, of course). Last year, I was introduced to the concept of three words to live by instead of setting typical resolutions. Rather than keeping the words I have chosen for 2012 close to my chest, let me share what I have chosen to become this year. You hold me accountable.

Coordinated

All of us know I love a beautiful flowchart and have a process or dashboard for everything I do. When I say I want to be more coordinated, this is not to be confused with more organized. I want to see, feel, hear and touch the process. Become one with the process as a dancer becomes one with music. My organization skills are like the choreography of a dance. It is time for me to know more than the steps, but dance them, as well. I want my feet and hands to move in sync with rhythm of the music.

Author

I have been saying for quite some time how I want to be a writer, a novelist. To be such, one has to write.  I have not been writing. Fear has been my greatest obstacle and I am working each and every day to conquer that beast…the beast of my own creation. The characters in my head have a story to tell and it is my responsibility to give them a voice.

Tempted

I would not describe myself as being impulsive. I do love a plan (especially when it comes together), but it is time to live in the moment. I will not become the extreme opposite and embrace the wild child within (some of you have seen this Lauren). Instead, I will embody the attitude to take action when an opportunity is presented. Perhaps this new attitude will lead me to a destination half way across the world or an afternoon at a local museum. Whatever the adventure, I am ready.

All that said, I need to go build a mind map now and determine how I am going to make these words my reality!

Books are not dead. If anything, they are more alive than ever now that we can read whenever and wherever on our smartphones, tablets and laptops. I started a vlog series this year featuring reviews of fiction and non-fiction reads inspiring me or aiding my temporary escapes from reality. I am never more happy than when reading a book. Forget Tiffany & Co. – walking into a Barnes & Noble takes my breath away. Here are some books I read or re-read this year that may help you ring in the new year on the right note:

1. Mindset: The new Psychology of Success – This has to rank #1 on the list because it has caused me to rethink what I think I know about abilities versus talent and the differences between a fixed and growth mindset. My husband read this book first and would not stop quoting from the text, so I had to break down and read it for myself and so happy I did.
2. Sophie’s World: A Novel About the History of Philosophy – Travel through time with Sophie, a fourteen-year-old girl, as she embarks the journey of understanding herself and the meaning of life. This book cannot be consumed quickly and requires one to digest the questions and take the journey alongside Sophie. You couldn’t ask for better teachers than some of the greatest minds our history has known!
3. Bossypants – Read the book or download the audiobook (tune out the holiday music or your chatty third cousin in-law) and I guarantee you will laugh…and laugh continuously throughout the book. Tina did not wait for her life dream to be handed to her on a silver platter. Her hard work ethic and determination spurred her forward then and today. Let this bossy gal give you a swift kick in the pants to get you on your path to success.
4. How to Win Friends and Influence People – Originally released in 1936, this book is as applicable today as it was then. This is the best business, community, relationship…life book, I have ever read. Make it a ritual to read once a year (or more, as needed)!
5. The Hedgehog and the Fox — "The fox knows many things, but the hedgehog knows one big thing." This fragment of verse by the Greek poet Archilochus describes the central thesis of Isaiah Berlin’s essay on Tolstoy’s work. This essay is discussed in another great follow-up read, Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap…and Others Don’t.
6. Speaker for the Dead – The second book in the Ender series, is more powerful than the first book because the author examines how a culture is born and what happens when different cultures collide. I could not put this book down.
7. Sound Business – After watching the TED talk given by author, I wanted to learn more about the science of sound helped organizations master the art of listening.
8. Digital Habitats: Stewarding Technology for Communities – This book examines where communities and technology intersect and a good primer for anyone with community management responsibilities.
9. The Creative Habit – Creating masterpieces take time and hard work. There is no magic formula, other than making a commitment to yourself and confronting your fear. The practical experience and advice in this book may help you start 2012 without any excuses to block your path.
10. Hunger Games – I read the entire series because I wanted to know what all the fuss was about…now I know and the books did not disappoint, but the first book was the best. This is not so much a science fiction story as it is the tale of human survival. Would you survive?
11. Inside the Magic Kingdom: Seven Keys to Disney’s Success – The tips may seem like common sense, but certainly not common practice. Discover how community is built into the culture of Disney and learn some insider secrets about Disney that will help you with Trivia Pursuit or temporary rock star to your kids.

So, what will you be reading as you stand in that crazy airport security line or trapped inside a car on the four hour drive to the middle of nowhere? You will be reading The Flinch – my bonus #12 book for you. There are no excuses in 2012.

What was on your must-read list in 2011?

Just over a week ago my husband and I took a whirlwind vacation to Istanbul with a stop in Rome on the journey to our final destination. Of course, you know me, the typical Type-A personality, I like having a plan and a process. This does not mean I cannot be spontaneous. Other than a dinner reservation on one night of the trip, we did not schedule a minute-by-minute itinerary. Yes, we had a list of places we would like to visit, but did not want to feel any more rushed than our four day trip was by default.There was pre-trip planning and a plan to be had, however.

You see, I did not want us to be “that tourist” – you know the one I am talking about. I can see you cringe right now. Let’s not generalize either. It is not just the Americans visiting other countries. There are folks fitting this description of every culture, gender and age. Unfortunately, folks tend to generalize the population of an entire country based on the case of one rotten apple. Just take a read through this post on the most annoying habits of tourists. How many of us have ever committed one of these fouls due to ignorance or blatant disregard?

So, I may not have planned my every move in Rome and Istanbul, but I did study the habits and customs of the cities visited. Trust me, I had my fair share of sticking out like a sore thumb in high school. My goal when visiting any location (this includes within U.S.A. too) is to put on the hat of an anthropologist and study the community before entering. Perhaps this study habit is the product of my career as a community manager or developed as a military brat visiting and living in a multitude of countries. There is nothing worse than being “that tourist,” knowingly or unknowingly.

Applied anthropology may be a useful practice extending beyond your annual vacation planning. You may consider applying this research habit to your daily online ventures, as well. It is so easy to hop from one blog or community platform/group to the next without hesitation or consideration of the inhabitants and regular participants in these spaces. Interrupting a conversation or insulting a community member because you did not have context of prior conversations or actions is a blunder similar to “trying to touch in on London’s Oyster system using a paper ticket.”

Before you can map the connections between your organization and community, you have to understand the methods, motivation and venues of participation.

Observe

• Try to be an impartial observer and look at the community surroundings and interaction through the lens of one without bias.
• Read between the lines and examine the underlying emotional triggers of what is said and shared or not mentioned.
• Look at the content being shared and discussed to pinpoint trends and hot topics.

Lurk

• Go for a community walk (similar to a photo walk) and take action without being disruptive and document landmarks or other areas of the community space or platform you have not noticed before:
• How are people organized within the community? Are there subgroups? What is the cause of these subgroups and current conversation topics/exchanges?
• How do people influence each other and outcomes?
• How much space is allocated to sharing different types of content (i.e. documents, blog posts, discussion forums, etc)? Is discussion enabled and encouraged around content?
• What type of information is considered important enough to label as announcements or advertise prominently within the community space? Does this priority of information align with conversation and subgroup organization observations?
• What topics of conversation or forms of engagement utilized in common community areas?
• What type of lingo is used in conversation to reference topics and company/brand/product/service mentions?
• What level of emotion is expressed in the interactions? What is the tone?
• What types of interaction is observed? Is the interaction limited to community members or are there official company spokespeople participating?

Question

• Interview community members (Once again, don’t just analyze the answers to your questions, but observe how and what is said and not said in reply) to help make sense of the information gathered during the observation and lurking stages:
• How do community members discuss the community with friends outside the online community space?
• What would community members change about the space and interactions?
• Who are the (perceived) community heroes?

These questions are just the tip of the iceberg of the information you can and should glean before participating in any community. You are just a tourist like any other until you become familiar with the habits and customs of your community. Avoid being labeled as the ignorant tourist. Your Internet connection may be your passport and transfer you immediately to any community destination, but citizenship is a process. In online communities, citizenship is earned with trust and credibility.

It may be hard to believe, but I am not, by nature, a social person. I enjoy public speaking (after A LOT of practice) and have no problem navigating a board room or Twitter chat, but a cocktail party gives me hives. This morning, as my daughter, the social butterfly, flitted from kid to kid around the room at the school holiday party, I stood away from the crowd of chatting parents. I was simply content observing the kids and parents enjoying the gathering. At the table filled with food, a student sat by herself, engrossed, not in an animated conversation with another child, but in the pages of a book. This young girl was me twenty years ago, though not much has changed.

It just so happens the father of the girl at the table had pulled away from the crowd and was standing next to me. We struck up a conversation and both of us joked about being anti-social. I mentioned this was ironic considering my job and naturally he inquired about my career. Now, no one outside our social media bubble knows exactly what I do for a living, so I kept my description of community management brief. His first reaction was nothing like I had ever received.

“What a creative job,” he said.

Wait a second. Creative? Did this man just describe my job as creative? I suppose when I am neck deep in policy and process development, I do not feel creative, much less describe my position as such. This description took me by surprise in a very good way. It was great to think of myself as an artist instead of an egghead. Also, it was a good reminder to embrace the creativity between the guardrails. After all, haven’t I said before the reasoning behind policy and process was the knowledge and freedom to communicate?

Being creative takes a lot of work when we are working so hard to be adults. We miss the vibrant colors or the joy of coloring outside the lines using every crayon in the box. As author Twyla Tharp, states in her book, creativity must be made part of your life, as a habit. Once again, creativity takes a lot of work. It is one thing to read the words of this book and quite another to act and reflect creatively. As I pondered why the gentlemen from the party described my position as creative when I thought and felt anything but, I began to wonder if I was pigeonholing creativity as a chaotic mess.

The recent Fast Company article about Hollywood director and legend, Martin Scorsese encapsulates the art and science of creativity. Scorsese outlines his creative process of historic reflection, indulgence and learning how to play the inevitable corporate game. This man is anything but a chaotic mess. He reflects precision to the core. A man who has built processes and teams to create visual masterpieces. The chaos is channeled while creativity is maintained and reflected.

Now this is more my style.

I am awful at drawing and can barely paint by numbers, yet maintain other creative outlets.

1. Writing Fiction (Yes, I am actually writing and can hear, “Do the work!” coming from Julien – no more flinching.)
2. Digital Scrapbooking
3. Traveling

I’d like to think that actively engaging in these outlets has allowed for my creativity to shine though the policy, diagrams and books I hide behind.

What are your creative outlets? What does being creative mean to you?

Now let me be clear, I have never been a huge fan of the ‘For Dummies’ books. Don’t get me wrong, I have cracked a couple of those books in the days when I was attempting to learn how to code. I have, however, read the recent, Online Community Management for Dummies book by the wicked smart Deb Ng and have to say it is the best I’ve read in this series.

If you are new to the community management role, this book is for you. Deb outlines the many hats you must juggle as a community manager both on and offline. The book is comprised of seven parts ranging from community governance to hosting meetups and is full of tips and tricks from someone who has the battle scars of fostering a community. The underlying theme of each chapter is the focus on the health of the community…not the numbers or superficial and false indicators of success.

The role of community manager is anything but new, but it is the “it” job at present. If you are making the case for a community manager, the final section is comprised of three top ten lists that may help you with your cause. The lists outline the tasks, skills and best practices of a community manager. A community manager is an integral part of the organization because he/she is the bridge between the organization and the communities it serves. This is no position for a dummy, but everyone needs a good roadmap or refresher course, so pass on this book on to your community team. Start a discussion about how you can begin fostering a healthier dialog online and offline.

Thanks to Wiley and Deb Ng who sent copy of this book to me. Good news for readers…I pre-ordered this book months ago and have a highligher-free copy to give away. Please enter a comment below about why you would like to read this book or pass along to your community manager.

“Question with boldness even the existence of a God; because, if there be one, he must more approve of the homage of reason, than that of blind-folded fear.” – Thomas Jefferson

As I dig out from the depths of my post-Blog World Expo LA Inbox, I feel myself bubbling over with renewed energy and drive. As if planned, all of the sessions I attended at the conference had a recurring theme – question with boldness. And this theme did not end with my trip back to Boston because as I flip to the Editor’s Note in the December issue of Discover Magazine, the topic bubbling once more to the top is about the art of questioning as Galileo once questioned the Catholic Church. It just so happens that Amber Naslund discussed Galileo in her BWELA keynote. Coincidence? I think not.

“Galileo didn’t discredit prior astronomical observations; he added to them.” – Corey S. Powell, Editor-In-Chief, Discover Magazine

Remember the kid in the front of the classroom who would raise her hand (this was me) to ask the professor a question five minutes before class was dismissed? Everyone groaned. Yet how many people were thinking of the same question and were secretly happy this person was brave enough to defy peer pressure and ask the burning questions?

What are your burning questions? Are you asking these questions or waiting for someone else to do so for you?

You will be waiting a long time.

Another piece of sound advice from Tom Webster given at BWELA – Don’t stop with the first question/answer. Keep plugging away until you discover the right questions. Life is a series of unanswered questions and actions. Asking questions is a learning process  and when action is taken to further this process it is not about cutting someone off at the knees in the name of discovery.

“What my questions are intended to be are thoughtful inquiries to ensure we’re thinking the topics through well enough to discern information and put it to good use. My hope is that I’m criticizing ideas, not people, though the inability for most people to interpret tone in the written word prevents some from seeing that.” – Jason Falls

I am still that girl at the front of the classroom. I won’t hesitate to raise my hand if I don’t know something. Life, all of you, and time are my teachers. I will keep keep questioning and getting my hands dirty designing, building and flying the plane at the same time until my last breath.

Welcome to today’s Friday Hi-5 Features! Each week we will explore the best picks in the following categories: technology/tool; fiction book; non-fiction book; post of the week; and offline inspiration.

This week, Let’s mix it up and chat about a “digital housekeeping” theme. We have recently entered a beautiful new season, so why not start out on the right foot?

Inventory of Social Assets

With networks and new tools popping into existence faster than one can count, take inventory of where you currently have a profile and make note of what networks or areas you actually engage. What profiles need to be deleted and updated? Also, take time to install updates as needed.

Change Passwords

A week does not pass that I don’t see someone’s account being hacked! Be vigilant about resetting your passwords on a consistent basis. Schedule tasks in your calendar over the next 6-9 months to make sure you don’t forget!

Review Privacy Settings

Not all profiles or content I create or share is for all eyes. Familiarize yourself with the privacy settings of all your networks. Be smart about what you are posting. Take some time this weekend and read the newest book from Jeff Jarvis, Public Parts. The way you perceive privacy is not the same as the person sitting next to you.

Curate Contacts

Sort through and update or build new  lists and circles so you share the right content with the right people at the right time. Add fresh voices into the mix and filter and prioritize your content so more of the great and actionable information rises to the top.

Curate Content

Go from being an aggregator to a curator of content. Time to update those stacks and tags so you can find the right blend of information and resources in a timely manner.

What have I missed? Add your steps below. Have tips, tricks or tools to help with this digital housekeeping endeavor? Please share on the Google+ thread.

***I am really excited to be speaking at BlogWorld & New Media Expo in LA in a couple of weeks. Here is a preview of my talk, Taking the Pulse of Your Community. Will you be joining me in LA? If so, please use this discount code to get 20% off registration: BWEVIP20

A couple of weeks ago, I purchased an iPad. My first iPad. I love gadgets and have more than my fair share. Perhaps that is why my husband was always asking me why I needed an iPad so desperately. Was it just because of the coolness factor? How could I justify the expense? Just how could I rationalize the investment?

And he did not just ask me once. He asked for five separate reasons.

Did I want it? Or need it? What was the root cause of my desire?

Why?

Such a simple word requires critical thinking.  Sifting through the layers of junk assumptions and symptoms requires more than answering a single why question. This exercise is not a magic button solution and should not be the only problem solving method employed, but it should lead you down the road of thinking through a process at a deeper level. Ask more questions until you find the right answers. You are cheating yourself if you settle on the first answer.

Take a moment and watch this TED talk by psychologist Alison Gopnik. Her research explores the decision-making process of children at play. Babies are always asking why? In fact, they are asking why about everything! Gopnik describes this as lantern consciousness. Rather than getting kids to think more like mature adults, how can we start thinking and exploring like children? How can we get back to the why?

Sound issues this morning with the accompanying video, but I did not want to wait any longer to publish this post. Last week, I sounded like a foghorn and unable to record video, but I did scrape together some features to highlight. So, here we go…we will start with fresh slate and sound next week! Keep reading for a chance to win a Blogworld Expo LA pass…

Welcome to today’s Friday Hi-5 Features! Each week we will explore the best picks in the following categories: technology/tool; fiction book; non-fiction book; post of the week; and offline inspiration.

This week, a “superhero” theme was evident in all of the selections.

Technology/Tool

Heroclix Online – Gamification may be hot now, but I have always found games to be a source of fascination and learning. As an adjunct professor, I assigned students create-your-own Monopoly and Life projects to be scored and played as a final instead of a standard exam. And as an adult, I was introduced to Heroclix by a former supervisor as a game to improve my strategic process. My love for comics and motivation to win made Heroclix a favorite and now it is available online. Get ready to assemble your power team of superheroes/villains and prepare to go to battle in this digital arena. See you there!

Non-Fiction Book

A Sense of Urgency by John P. Kotter – In Kotter’s earlier book, Leading Change, he outlines the eight steps of successful change management. The very first step is increasing a sense of urgency. Kotter explores this first principle in depth and how superheroes in the organization can begin to establish a true sense of urgency and actionable next steps instead of a flurry of activity. There is a lot of buzz about culture shift…start living it.

Fiction Book

Vampire Academy: A Graphic Novel adapted by Leigh Dragoon and based on bestselling series by Richelle Mead – Many of us are time-starved and do not have the luxury to read a fiction book, much less, a mind-numbing quick read palate cleanser. Enter the graphic novel. Many traditional books are now being adapted into this visual format and I have to admit, I am enjoying these fun reads. Give it a try.

Post of the Week

Last week, I participated in two chats focusing on embracing community heroes. At the start of the week, I had the privilege of hosting the #sm129 chat where we discussed how to take the pulse of the community and find superstar folks and trends. Great insights from folks like Tom Webster and Meg Fowler, so please read the transcript. Later in the week, the #BWEChat guest, Liz Strauss, discussed the value of supporting and amplifying community members. This chat gave me several items to digest, so please read this transcript too!

And on that note…speaking of embracing the community hero, I am extremely excited to announce that I will be speaking at the upcoming BlogWorld Expo in LA about how to take the pulse of your community! And the wonderful folks on the BlogWorld Expo team have given me a pass for the conference to give away to one of you lucky folks. For a chance to win, please post a comment below about your best tip on how to embrace the heroes in your community.

Offline Inspiration

Before the #sm129 and #bwechat discussions last week, I was inspired to use the theme of “superheroes” after the hilarious 26 September episode of Castle about the Sword of Lone Vengeance graphic novel. You can check out the panels from the comic or the full episode. I am not a murder mystery fan, but the witty dialog and cast chemistry of this show is always fun.

Where in the world will you find Lauren?

• Brookline Parent Education Network (B-Pen) Cyber Safety panel to sophomore students, 11 October