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2025-03-25T03:32:00.002-04:00

My Reflection last Thursday:

Leadership is never about power—it’s about responsibility. As a leader, it is my role to guide, correct, and uplift, not to tear down. But sometimes, it’s disheartening to see resistance where there should be growth, indifference where there should be openness.

Correction is not criticism. Upskilling is not an insult. When feedback is given, it is not to belittle but to build. True professionalism is not just about doing a job; it’s about having the right attitude towards learning, improving, and growing together.

Respect goes both ways, and the willingness to learn is a mark of true strength. The workplace thrives when we choose to be receptive rather than resistant, collaborative rather than combative. After all, no one succeeds alone.

When we choose to embrace learning instead of resisting it, we don’t just become better employees—we become better individuals.

To those who choose growth over ego, learning over pride—thank you. You make leadership worth it.

2025-02-21T00:38:00.007-05:00

After 7 years, I am back. And my first blog is all about.....

Leadership: A Tough But Fulfilling Road

Being a leader is not for the faint-hearted. 💼💔 It’s a constant balancing act of understanding, managing, and motivating people—all while aligning with organizational goals and keeping the team moving forward.

But let’s be real: it’s not always smooth sailing. There are days when some team members prioritize their own needs over the bigger picture. Cooperation feels distant, and resistance can weigh heavily on your shoulders. It’s in these moments that leadership truly tests your patience, resilience, and determination.

Just this morning, my patience was tested... and I feel like people in my office do not mind what I am needing. As a leader, I need to be reassured and, at the same time, while I know I have to understand them, I need to be understood too. I found myself thinking, aren’t they really that sensitive to my needs as their boss? Feeling drained, I left our group chat, hoping it would make an impact on them. But then, another thought crossed my mind: Was my act becoming of a good leader?

Despite these struggles, I remind myself that leadership is about planting seeds. 🌱 It’s about embodying the values we hope to see in others, offering understanding, and finding creative ways to inspire and motivate. Not everyone will align immediately, but true leadership is staying the course—even when the journey feels uphill.

To my fellow leaders: Take heart. 🤍 Remember why we do what we do. We’re here to build better teams, foster a culture of trust, and shape a workplace where everyone thrives—even if the path isn’t always easy.

Let’s lift each other up. 💪 How do you overcome the challenges of leadership? I’d love to hear your thoughts! ⬇️

#LeadershipStruggles
#PatienceandPurpose

Hey There,World!

2018-03-17T09:24:00.002-04:00

Hey There, World!
It's a hiatus....I guess...
and I must say, I miss blogging.

What's up with me...and you all?
Many things have changed...
So many....
that what I wanted to do now...
is to go back....
where I used to be :)

will try...
to bring back old good days...

good laugh...with family and friends...
a hearty one!

tired feet...5 pairs for sure...
but with happy souls!

good sleep....with arms around me!

I will see you again, World!
and
you will be hearing a lot from me again!

grateful heart here.....∵⋮

two sides of a coin

2016-08-06T10:43:00.001-04:00

Few days back, I was contemplating on how should I feel on some issues I myself is not aware....where all I care is to settle everyone's care....

and this is my random thoughts:

There are always two sides to every story

be a friend or a listening ear

whatever we hear

we must not take sides unless we have all the facts

and YES! I do mean all the FACTS!

and if in case we are already bound by uninformed opinion

be the PEACEMAKER, I pray!

but if we chose not...then never find peace within yourself.

There are two sides to every coin as there are two sides to every story

whichever side we take depends on the VALUES we share.

Peeking in just now....

2016-08-06T10:22:00.001-04:00

Hi there! It's been a long while since I posted something on my site.....

So where should we start? Too many days have passed......

just peeking

2013-06-17T11:17:00.001-04:00

and I miss my site......

HELLO BLOG WORLD...

will be here again :)

about being 40

2012-11-21T09:19:00.002-05:00

I was excited to turn 40, originally, i planned to throw a disco party...but it turns the other way around....I spent this day in it's most humble way,

woke up at 5:45 A.M. to fix the girls' breakfast and let them be ready for school
as early as 7:00 A.M. attended to Raha's need - we played in bed, fed him and let him sleep again
at 8:00 A.M. took a nap that turns to a deep sleep - Raha and I woke up around 10:30
11:00 A.M. prepared lunch
watched Please be Careful with my heart
12:00 noon, started doing the laundry
4:00 P.M. visited my father in-law in the hospital
5:30 P.M. fetched the girls and bought some dinner

In between these times, i utter prayers to Lord....thanking Him for the gift of life.

Happy Birthday Raha Lam-Ang Gabriel

2012-11-17T11:47:00.002-05:00

Dearest Raha,

It's been a year....and time is really flying so fast...I really do not know what to say...coz until now, I do not know how to thank God for the "blessing" He have given us. It was after 9 years that I have felt the same feeling when I first got hold of your Ate Tala and Ate Mayumi...

.feeling you inside me (and you made it sure that I felt you though you were such so tiny then)

was just magical!

hearing your cry was just so fantastic (as if it was a sweet melody)...

......feeling you wanting my breast was so lovely.....

and it was that feeling that I was longing for 9 years!

Your Tatay, Ate Tala, Ate Mayumi and I didn't ask the Lord for someone......we prayed, I prayed.....thanking Him for another opportunity of bringing into this world a blessing from Him....whether you are a he or she, doesn't matter, I told Him.

When my doctor told me that you're a boy...I cried...because I knew then, that you are really a special gift from above!

You made me a mother again....you made me dream for more....you made your Tatay to be the best he can be...you made your Ate Tala and Ate Mayumi more better girls.....You complete me! You complete us!

MALIGAYANG KAARAWAN SA IYO ANAK,
RAHA LAM-ANG GABRIEL LAZARTE-BARCENA.

I love you, Nanay

Happy Raha

2012-11-15T02:19:00.004-05:00

3 more days and my Raha will be surely so happy!

I want this Extra special

2012-10-17T11:41:00.002-04:00

.....November has always been my merriest month....and it doubled my excitement because of my little boy's upcominig 1st Birthday...I have been planning this since the day he got out of my womb.....and I really really wanted this birthday so extra special.....Problem is --- I am so occupied with work.....looking at my calendar, I only have a month to prepare for this event....

So, sanity, please come unto me.

midnight thoughts

2012-09-06T12:26:00.003-04:00

....been a while since I post from this page...there are thoughts running on my mind right now...I guess this is the best time to blog it out.

first thought - BER is here....ohh yesss! i can feel the pressure but I have managed to take control of it...

second thought - my baby boy is turning into a little man so fast....ohhh, how time flies....I wish to spend more time with him...I am in the midst of wanting to be a stay at home mom....but....yes...there is a big BUT...will it be practical? oh come on, we all know that life nowadays are not easy...having 2 pre-teens and a baby is something I should be thinking over and over and over ----- missing my being a hands on mom :(

third thought - November is just a few months away --- and it is our big day! the happiest month for the family, why? it is our birthday month! Tala will be turning 11, Mayumi will be 10, Raha will be 1 and me, 40? and that is why thoughts are running on my mind....

40, here I come!

Random Thoughts

2011-12-11T10:13:00.000-05:00

...are playing on my mind now:

a. i wanna blog about my birthing story

b. do photo blog for my son, Raha

c. blog about Tala's First Holy Communion

d. bazaars -- i so so want to go to one.......but i dunno if breastfeeding will allow me

e. Christmas ---- yes, no plans yet for this holiday.....

f. and lots lots more.....

Hello

2011-12-11T08:50:00.000-05:00

Kinda lost this site.....well, hopefully, i am back to blogging....Hello!

Father's Day

2011-06-18T09:46:00.000-04:00

DeAr DaDdY, hApPy FaThEr’S dAy

usually, we only remember how to thank
our mothers for suffering during labors
just to bring us to life, we tend to
forget that our fathers played a part
in bringing us to this world,too.

Fathers should always be in strong
figures. They cannot show their
feelings freely, unlike our mother who
can hug and kiss us even when we are
grown ups now.

But the truth is, a father is willing
to sacrifice anything just to be sure
his children are happy, well-provided
and safe wherever they are.
My father died in a way he did not like
but he must do it for the sake of his
family.
Daddy, i know you are with HIM and at
peace……..
Daddy, thank you for giving us the
strength to live our life.
You are a father forever.

I love you. Happy father’s day.

What's up with me?

2011-04-19T09:55:00.000-04:00

.....if you would ask me this....my simple answer...

I am totally indispose...Yes!

this pregnancy is getting into me...really!

I feel like a first timer.

but anything for the baby...

I welcome this feeling....

and can't wait to meet you again my dear blueberry.

My Blueberry

2011-04-19T08:18:00.000-04:00

Meet my blueberry.....he/she is on 7 weeks when this was taken.

Baby #3

2011-04-06T14:03:00.000-04:00

Woke up at midnight with an upset stomach....good thing hubby was able to bring ice cream and granny goose....my way of combatting this feeling....

Now, i can't go back to sleep...still need to go to work at 8.......

Baby #3,please be good to me.....

All day sickness

2011-04-03T08:39:00.000-04:00

I am not feeling better. I have not experienced this with my 2 pregnancies. No morning sickness...it's an all day sickness...Maybe because after 8 years, here I am again......anticipating another human inside me.

Tomorrow will be another day...I have to wake up early coz of work....I don't know how I am going to feel at work....I am just crossing my fingers.....

But above all, thank you Lord for giving us another joy.

ahhhhhhh.....

2011-04-03T00:39:00.000-04:00

As what I have posted in my Facebook page.....Life is tough enough without having someone kick you from the inside. ~Rita Rudner ......and if i am going to rely on the 2 kits I used.....yes! I am......I am pregnant.

That's all for now....changes are really coming on my way....

This is my 3rd......and my last.....and I am overly Happy.

A good news....

2011-04-01T09:46:00.002-04:00

I have yet to confirm.......

another journey.....

another blessing....

Recognition Day

2011-03-27T05:55:00.000-04:00

Last Friday (March 25) was the HEDCEN's Recognition Day. Students were asked to wear their best elegant ethnic costume, an ordinary feature of a HEDCEN student...they wear this every Wednesday.

This year, we are doubly happy because my 2 girls are both recognized.

Tala marching with her ethnic costume....

Mayumi's first time to march down with her ethnic attire

Mayumi, Recipient of Academic Excellence,

Special Academic Excellence and Holistic Award

It was indeed a very challenging year for this girl but the warrior spirit in her prevails....I am so happy

seeing TALA sparkling and smiling as she walks her way to receive her Holistic Award.

It is Hubby's first to don a medal for Tala. (He was not around last year)

My dearest Tala, a 2nd time Holistic Awardee

Proud Lola, Mayumi receiving her Holistic Award

It was indeed a precious moment for us......It was indeed a good feeling that we would want to happily share with everyone....but more than that this is more of a wish and prayer that these moments may continue and our kids will be a blessing to others...

To our dearest Tala and Mayumi, may you have a discerning spirit and that may you recognize not only what is special but what is ordinary --- be thoughtful, helpful, honest and respectful.

Tatay and Nanay

My Rakistas

2011-02-24T08:59:00.000-05:00

tala and hubby

I can see so much happiness in this picture....happiness that are not only seen through the faces of those who are in this picture

but also happiness that radiates from within ---

- from the heart of the father -

- from the heart of the daughter-

- and from the two hearts behind -

the one taking the pic and the little sister shouting out, "rock and roll, ate and tatay!

Priceless moments indeed!

Exhausted

2011-02-21T09:07:00.000-05:00

yeah...that's what I am feeling.....I hope this weekend will give a little light of this tiredness I am feeling.....Hubby and I will have a quick trip to Laoag to attend a special occasion....

Love Month

2011-02-01T11:10:00.000-05:00

My love month is full packed......
   for the 1st week, kids will be having their school sports fest - and i can imagine how tired they will be
   weekends of it's 1st week - we will be going to Ilocos Sur to visit my hubby's GrandMa
   2nd week - kids will be busy for their school upcoming Science Expo and Academic Week
   ohhhhhhh.......never ending stress...that's what i feel
   and of course, i made sure that we have a stress reliever, our family's Valentine date at
   Hot Air Balloon Festival at clark, just can't wait for it - Feb 12, is the date!
   3rd week - This is it! Science Expo and Academic Week - Good luck girls!
   4th week - we'll be conducting 2 batches of Clerical and Staff Development Training

Love Month, Busy Month!

Off.....

2011-01-26T04:24:00.000-05:00

from work, Yes, I am. Kids are still sick....what a way to have our bonding moments!

I couldn't buy the idea to go to work while kids are sick.....I want to be with them!