Conscious Relationships Podcast

Relationship Essentials for Men

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 15:39:23 GMT

Historically, women have been thought of as the primary gatekeepers of intimate relationships. Unfortunately, there are several potential downsides to this paradigm: - Women often come to feel controlling, criticizing, and over-worked - Men often come to feel controlled, criticized, and unappreciated - Men tend to become defensive and avoidant and see their partner as a problem to be solved - Women tend to feel dismissed and lonely and have to guess what their partner is feeling and thinking - Both partners often end up feeling frustrated, resentful, powerless, and misunderstood (but doing more of the same thing, hoping for different results) No wonder over 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce and countless others wither in silent desperation. In this program Dr. Glover proposes a new paradigm of relationship interaction in which men become more fully present and take a more active leadership role in their relationship. Dr. Glover is not proposing that men become dominant or controlling, but that they become more conscious, honest, and transparent. In doing so, they can act with love and integrity in setting a tone that promotes open communication, problem resolution, reciprocity, trust, and sexual passion. In this program, men will learn: - How to become conscious and present in their intimate relationship - How to become a good 'ascertainer' - How to become honest and transparent with their partner - How to set the tone and take the lead with love and integrity In this program, women will learn: - What it looks like when their partner becomes present in their relationship - How to trust and let go of control - How to more fully participate in a more reciprocal relationship - How to welcome increased sexual passion

Passionate Marriage

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 19:14:07 GMT

In this presentation by renowned sex and marital therapist, Dr. David Schnarch, you will learn: - Why NORMAL couples have sexual problems, and how best to handle them - The four most important things to do to have the relationship you want - Two ways to immediately increase intimacy and enhance sex in your relationship After 13 years helping couples around the world have happier, healthier, and more erotic relationships, Dr. Schnarchs international bestselling book, Passionate Marriage, will be re-released in the United States on August 27, 2009, with a new forward and a key concepts guide based on readers comments. Passionate Marriage has become the most popular sex and relationship self-help book because it offers universal and timeless tools that apply to every aspect of your life. In this workshop, youll learn how to apply them to you.

Conscious Loving- Updated

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 17:04:57 GMT

Authors of the ground-breaking book Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment,and more recently, the outstanding Lasting Love: The 5 Secrets of Growing a Vital, Conscious Relationship Gay and Kathlyn (Katie) Hendricks wrote the ground-breaking book Conscious Loving in the early 90's and are delighted that people continue to find this book useful. Conscious Loving is used in graduate school programs and in wedding ceremonies internationally. In this program Drs. Hendricks will present their latest perspectives on key elements of Conscious Loving, including- - The importance of telling your microscopic truth - The role of making and keeping commitments in a successful relationship - How the invisible, insidious upper limits problem can sabotage your life and relationship Gay and Katie will share the ways they've updated and integrated Conscious Loving in their own relationship of 29 years as well as their work. The focus of this program will be how to make the key shifts that will allow you to create and sustain loving relationships.

Breakthrough to Success with Jack Canfield

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 18:46:40 GMT

Jack Canfield is the founder and co-creator of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul. Jack has spent the last 30 years showing millions of people how to up-level everything they do, and is one of the world's leading success experts. In fact, his latest book, The Success Principles, is already a best-seller and is quickly becoming the NEW self-improvement standard. In this program Jack will teach you clear and understandable ways to create more success in every area of your life! You'll learn: - The magic of E-R-O...and how merely understanding this one little idea will have an instant (and profound) effect on your life - How to deal with negative outside forces in a way that causes you to prosper (emotionally and financially) while others flounder - How to eliminate fear and worry from your life, forever - The 3 things in life you can really control...and how, by simply managing them, you can create any life you want And many more powerful and effective secrets and strategies used by the most successful people on earth--secrets you, too, can use to create everything you want in life, no matter what your past or current situation If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, listen to this program!

Emotional Mastery: The Secret to Incredible Relating

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Fri, 09 Nov 2007 04:26:20 GMT

Anyone who has made New Year's resolutions only to lose resolve within two or three weeks, has an idea of how powerful human emotions can be in everyday life. In fact, emotions are more important than you can ever imagine. They underlie everything we do and create (and fail at). Most people, including psychotherapists, have little understanding of the true role emotions in our life. Learn this cutting-edge information on the role of emotions in your life and relationships and become the master of your emotions that you are intended to be. In this program, you will learn: - The true role emotions are designed to fill. - How to find and use your "Human User's Manual." - What animals show us about emotional mastery that we can use. - Anger, jealousy and loneliness: their signals, and how to use them. - How to improve your emotional mastery by eliminating the two saddest words in any language. - How emotional mastery enhances relationships

Secrets to Getting Love Right This Time

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Sat, 13 Oct 2007 02:24:51 GMT

Have you loved and lost love?-- Have you decided to give dating another try to find The Right One?-- Are you afraid that you may get hurt again?-- Wouldn't you like to Get It Right This Time in the love department?-- Amy Schoen, MBA, CPCC - Certified Professional Life Coach and National Dating and Relationship Expert will give you the road map to finding and keeping your Ideal Romantic Partner. In this program you learn: - How to prepare yourself for Get It Right This Time? dating - What's getting in your way for meeting The Right One - What helpful tips you need to know to Get It Right This Time and what will make you more attractive to prospects - Where to go to meet The Right One and how to successfully connect with people - The six signs that tell you if your partner is The Right One - The telltale signs for if you should stay or leave a relationship Whether you are single or in a relationship, this program will give you the confidence and the know-how to move forward with the right romantic relationship!

Addressing Relationship Energy Drainers

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 01:36:46 GMT

Do you know that "the way a relationship starts off, it tends to continue"? Too often we spend weeks or months in a relationship, only to find it is not working for us because we feel drained, guilty, very angry, or “used” in the relationship. You can save yourself time, energy, and pain by learning to recognize immediately when your energy is being drained and what you can do about it. Whether you have a penchant for attracting energy draining individuals or you experience energy draining only occasionally, you'll appreciate having readily-available tools for dealing with this all-too-common relationship challenge. In this program you will learn: - How and why energy draining occurs - 6 ways to immediately recognize when your energy is being drained. - Two prominent patterns of energy draining. - Three actions you can take to neutralize energy draining from others. - How to utilize the 72-Hour Rule to strengthen yourself in relationships. - The D.E.S.C. Plus-A-Step method for communicating powerfully.

Conscious Mating: Deciding "Is This The One?"

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Sat, 01 Sep 2007 00:28:45 GMT

When singles become pre-committed couples they ask themselves "Is this the right relationship for me? Is this 'The One' for a lifetime commitment?" Fearing relationship failure, many avoid making this decision, and as a result the marriage rate is declining. Most of us want a fulfilling committed relationship. Our goal in Conscious Mating is to provide you the information and strategies for answering the question "Is this the right relationship for me?" In this program you will learn: - How to identify relationship red flags and danger signs - How to know if you're talking yourself into (or out of) a relationship because of fear - Our #1 Strategy for determining "Is this 'The One?'" - Three powerful questions you need to ask yourself before considering commitment - Nine areas of a relationship to evaluate for decision-making - How to get off the fence, "Be the Chooser" and live happily ever after with your soul mate - And more!

No More Mr. Nice Guy! Getting What You Want in Love and Life

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Fri, 10 Aug 2007 18:18:15 GMT

- Too concerned about what other people think of you? - Spend too much time taking care of other people? - Having a hard time making your intimate relationships work? - Frustrated with your sex life? In No More Mr. Nice Guy!, Dr. Robert Glover presents a proven plan to get what you want in love, sex and life. Whether you're single and looking for love or in a relationship that you want to become all it can be, Dr. Glover will help you identify your own self-defeating behaviors and find what you're looking for. - In this program you will learn- - How to stop seeking approval and make your needs a priority - How to build healthy, vibrant relationships - How to tell the truth with love - How to set the tone and take the lead without being controlling - Three rules for great sex

Conscious Mating: Sharing Our Vision

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 00:23:47 GMT

John Gottman's research reveals that 69% of conflict in relationships is due to unrealized expectations that come out in the relationship. In Conscious Mating we refer to what you want for your life and relationship as your "Vision." In this program you learn: - What is "Vision" and why is it important to relationship success? - How to gain clarity about your individual vision - How to develop a shared vision for your life together - The role of vision in determining long-term compatibility in dating and pre-committed relationships - How to use a "Conscious Mating Plan" to make your dreams come true in your life and relationship together - And more!

It's a BreakUp, Not a BreakDown

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Tue, 17 Jul 2007 02:45:04 GMT

Like the song says, breaking up is hard to do, but sometimes it's necessary and in the best interests of all involved. When a relationship ends it's the perfect opportunity for growth and change according to author Lisa Steadman. In her new book It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown Steadman offers tips, techniques, and advice for not only surviving a breakup but thriving as you move on. In this program you learn- - How to know when breaking up is the right thing to do - How to overcome inertia and actually initiate a break up - Alternative strategies for breaking up - How to deal with the pain, loss, and regret that follows a breakup - How to create new boundaries with your ex if you have to remain in contact - How to kickstart positive growth and change following a breakup

Conscious Mating: Are We Compatible?

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Wed, 20 Jun 2007 19:17:45 GMT

Compatibility is a choice, and is not pre-determined. However, we do have a unique combination of personality traits, values, life vision, requirements, wants, and needs that will result in getting along with some people easier than others. In Conscious Mating we advocate being conscious of who you are and choosing a compatible partner. But how? There are so many ways of describing and measuring personality and many models and opinions about compatibility that it's very confusing, unless you're pioneering anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher (who is consulting with us on this topic). In this program you learn: - How your personality impacts your relationships - A simple method of determining your own personality profile - Which dominant personality traits are compatible, and which are not - Dr. Helen Fisher's brand new model of Four Love Types (as seen in this month's issue of Psychology Today and Oprah Magazine) - How to determine your own "Love Type" - What Love Types are compatible with you - And more!

The Chemistry of Love with Dr. Helen Fisher

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Tue, 19 Jun 2007 22:11:13 GMT

Pioneering anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher shares her as-yet-unpublished research (unless you count Oprah Magazine and Psychology Today) proposing Four Psychological Types, the neuro-chemicals that determine each type, and the role of these four types in relationship compatibility. Dr. Fisher proposes that humans have evolved four very broad basic biological personality profiles- - Explorer - Builder - Negotiator - Director Dr. Fisher's research shows that each type corresponds with variations in the neural systems for dopamine, serotonin, estrogen and testosterone. Each biological type is predisposed to think and act in predictable ways. In this program you learn: - Four love types found in all romantic relationships - The role of neuro-chemicals in determining each type - Compatibility strengths and weaknesses of each type in long-term relationships - How to determine your Love Type - Which types you're compatible with and how to spot them

Conscious Mating: Dealing With Our Baggage

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Fri, 01 Jun 2007 20:40:59 GMT

We are a product of our past and can't get away from bringing our past baggage into our present relationships. To practice Conscious Mating we must be aware of our relationship history and patterns and how they impact our relationships. Past experiences shape how we think, feel and act, which becomes habitual unless we can use our consciousness to make different choices. In this program you learn: - How our past is a goldmine for discovering our Vision, Purpose, Requirements, Needs and Wants - "Baggage" as a source of strength as well as weakness - Research-based patterns and habits of successful relationships - The most one most important key to dealing with baggage - Four steps for dealing with baggage - And more!

Connection Parenting: Replacing Fear with Love

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Fri, 01 Jun 2007 19:45:38 GMT

The level of cooperation parents get from their children is usually equal to the level of connection children feel with their parents. Most of us grew up with the authoritarian model of parenting, which is based on the child's fear of losing the parents love. Consider this- - A parent-child relationship based on coercion and fear grows weaker every year. - A parent-child relationship based on connection grows stronger every year. - By the time our children are teenagers we need a relationship based on something stronger than coercion and fear. As parents we either unconsciously parent exactly the way we were parented or we consciously try to parent the opposite of the way we were parented. Either way our parenting is influenced by how we were parented. In this program you will learn: - How to keep the best and changing the rest - How to teach children respect by treating them with respect - Helping children heal their emotional hurts through listening to their feelings - Building healthy self-esteem and self-worth through filling the "love cup" and creating opportunities for success - Communication that leads to connection - Decoding children's "acting out" behavior so we can respond to their needs instead of react to their behavior - Creating a family support circle so that parents needs are met

Conscious Mating: Should We Live Together?

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 23:40:50 GMT

When singles become couples the most common next step is moving in together. It is a common misconception that living together is a good way to test compatibility for marriage and minimize risk of divorce. However- Fact #1: The cohabitation rate has skyrocketed over 1200% since 1960 Fact #2: 80% of these relationships are doomed to failure Fact #3: The divorce rate is higher for couples who cohabitate prior to marriage While we don't judge cohabitation to be good or bad, it's a personal choice and people will do it anyway, our goal in this program is to provide you the information and strategies needed to make effective choices about when, and if, to enter a living together arrangement. In this program you learn: - The role of inertia and momentum in living together - Top 6 myths of living together - Top 6 reasons for living together - Three types of cohabitators - Guidelines for conscious cohabitation

Creating Love Beyond Words: Straight Talk fr Women About Men

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Fri, 13 Apr 2007 22:39:55 GMT

You’ll never get a closer marriage by talking to a man like you talk to your girlfriends. It’s not about “communication,” it’s about connection. Men want closer marriages just as much as women – The stereotype of the aloof or domineering male covers up the fact that he wants to be closer too, but not if he has to feel like a woman. In this seminar Dr. Pat Love talks to women about how to get the love you want from the man in your life . In this program you will learn- - 10 Ways Women Drive Men Away - About the emotional vocabulary gap -- why it sounds phony when he says it - How to handle male emotions: hint- you can't be too direct too quickly - The truth motivating the shut-down and controlling men, and what to do about it - Four nonverbal ways to connect with your man - New information about what brings men and women together, and what tears relationships apart - "Malespeak"- what he's saying that you don't hear - What a man would tell you if he could

Conscious Mating: Finding Lasting Love by Experiencing Your

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Thu, 29 Mar 2007 21:26:56 GMT

When singles become couples, each partner has different hopes and dreams, wants and needs, attitudes and experiences. These differences too often result in relationship failure and disappointment when one or both partners attempt to mold the relationship and their partner to fit what they want, rather than accepting and embracing 'what is.' While we must have a vision and requirements and choose a partner and relationship aligned with what we want, we can't be so rigid we reject reality. How do we let go of needing perfection without settling for less than what we really want? In this program you learn: => How to let your 'experience' guide your heart and head in a pre-committed relationship => Top ten attitudes necessary for lasting love => What Greek mythology can teach us about pre-commitment => Top three dating traps that interfere with experiencing what's real for you => Three stages of pre-committed relationships => A simple, yet powerful triad for creating conscious relationships

Good Husband, Great Marriage

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Tue, 13 Mar 2007 23:45:07 GMT

After thirty-seven years of marriage and almost that many as therapists and marriage counselors, Robert and Jane Alter have concluded that in many cases men and women are not equally responsible for the problems in marriages. Their experience suggests that mostly it’s the men who cause the disconnection. The wives always have some work to do on themselves, and sometimes a lot of work, but when it comes to knowing how to really be in relationship, how to have true connection and true intimacy in a marriage, the men are a piece of work. Jane and Robert have also seen that there are many great men in this world who deep in their hearts want to be great husbands to their wives, and some have gotten off to a great start, but others have no idea, or a bunch of wrong ideas, about how to do that, and need some serious help. Robert’s book, Good Husband, Great Marriage: Finding the Good Husband…in the Man You Married, and the Alters’ work, which they call the "good husband work," is the help they provide. In this program you learn: • The definition of a good husband • The five big lies men tell themselves to keep from changing • The one-way street of change a man has to walk down in his marriage before it becomes a two-way street • What women have to teach men about connection, relationship, and great marriage • The wife’s role in helping her husband become a good husband • How to get a guy to do the good husband work

Conscious Mating: Am I Ready to Be a Couple?

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Fri, 02 Mar 2007 19:07:37 GMT

When you're dating, the transition from single to couple can go by so quickly it'll make your head spin. In Conscious Mating we believe this important step is best made with your eyes wide open and with a conscious choice to transition from being single to an exclusive relationship. How do you know when you're ready to move from “ME” to “WE”? What are the signs that you are ready for an exclusive relationship? How can you tell if your love interest is ready for the next step? How can you transition successfully from being single to being a couple? In our culture, we tend to skip an important step in our transition from “ME” to “WE”. We jump into commitment pre-maturely and set ourselves up for disappointment and pain down the road. In this program you learn: - The difference between being ready to find a life partner and being ready to be a couple - The signs that indicate readiness to become an exclusive couple - What it takes to prepare yourself for lasting love.

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 22:18:03 GMT

Men are right. The “relationship talk” does not help. In this program Dr. Steven Stosny reveals the stunning truth about marital happiness: - Love is not about better communication. It's about connection. - You'll never get a closer relationship with your man by talking to him like you talk to one of your girlfriends. - Male emotions are like women's sexuality: you can't be too direct too quickly. There are four ways to connect with a man: - Touch - Activity - Sex - Routines Men want closer marriages just as much as women do, but not if they have to act like a woman. Talking makes women move closer; it makes men move away. The secret of the silent male is this: his wife supplies the meaning in his life. In this program you learn: - The same vulnerabilities that bring us together tear us apart - Why we fight - The worst thing a woman does to a man - The worst thing a man does to a woman - The Power Love Formula: 4 3/4 minutes a day to a powerful relationship

The New Rules of Marriage: How to Make Lov

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Sat, 13 Jan 2007 01:11:28 GMT

Historically in the Western world, one model for long-term relationships has been the companionable marriage. Passion and deep emotional connection were for lovers, not spouses. In the latter part of the 20th century, we woke up and began wanting more from relationships. The new paradigm is a truly intimate marriage – intellectually, physically and emotionally. These new demands fly in the face of our historical experiences and expectations, often creating conflict. Traditional therapy does not always resolve that conflict. This program presents a new skill set for couples who want fulfilling relationships. In this program you learn: - Why so many current relationships are not ‘truly intimate’ relationships - How partners can use a "Relationship Grid" to visualize and implement positive feedback to one another - How you can get what you want, give what your partner needs, and have the great relationship you deserve

Overcoming the Core Beliefs That Cause Relationship Failure

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Tue, 19 Dec 2006 05:03:48 GMT

If you have even one of these beliefs your relationships don't stand more than a 5% chance of success. It's not what you consciously think that determines the quality of your relationships, but what you subconsciously believe. Until you are able to observe the hidden thoughts, beliefs and feelings that occupy your subconscious mind, and learn to change them, you are doomed to continue repeating the same old patterns in your relationships. Paul and Layne share intimately about how they transformed their own unhappy relationships into a lasting, loving, mutually empowering personal and professional partnership that has lasted thirty years. If you ever wonder why your relationships don't last or seem to work out, you will want to hear what Layne and Paul have to say. In this program you learn: => How to access your subconscious mind to root out self-sabotage => How to avoid getting sucked into the abyss of endless "processing" => Why you need direct access to your Superconscious mind and how to get it => The truth about affirmations and why they often don't work for people => and much more . . .

Reptiles in Love

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Thu, 16 Nov 2006 01:13:58 GMT

How to recognize and prevent fights that escalate to mutually self-destructive behavior and achieve physical and emotional safety in conflict, sort out real from unreal issues, and identify and overcome the more primitive aspects of our nature. In this program you learn: - How the brain affects couples abilities to talk and really hear each other when they are fearful, angry or hurt - How to lower the emotions and intensity before trying to "fix things" or trying to get closer - How most repetitive battles are about "the wrong subject" ] - "Mechanical approaches" to lowering anxiety and calming each other

The Journey from 'I' to 'We'

david@relationshipcoachinginstitute.com (David Steele) — Sat, 14 Oct 2006 00:37:27 GMT

Five Steps to a Successful Relationship This program covers: - How your relationship starts with "I" and the importance of a "Peaceful Soul" - The "Seven/Seven: guidelines for effective communication for senders and receivers - How the past controls the "cycle of conflict" and what to do about it - How to reach a compromise on the toughest issue in seven steps - How to discover and solve each other's "Passion Equation" for lasting fulfillment