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For My Friend, Bernie

2011-11-24T08:23:00.000Z

For my friend, Bernie, who, even from the inside of a prison cell, continues to teach me all the valuable lessons in life. BB, you are my most respected mentor and my most precious friend. Thank you for touching my life.

Thank you for sharing your goodness with me, ironically, at this most challenging time of your life. I wrote this for us and share with others hoping they will benefit from our lessons learned. -daraxo

Life Lessons from the Outside, In: Our lesson in Empathy

I thought when he was sent to prison, he’d be the one with all the life lessons to learn. After all, he was the one sent to prison. However, out of the tragedy often come the gifts but only if our hearts are open to accepting them.

Here are my lessons learned during his incarceration on how to cope while he’s inside. I offer them to all others who are awaiting the liberty of their precious friends and loved ones.

1. Embracing in a different way. You will feel no greater frustration than knowing he is ill or having a challenge in any way suffering spiritually, emotionally or physically. There is no way to reach out to comfort him at that moment.

2. There are only prayers. There is little as painful as the inaction and silence with which you are left after the phone call has disconnected or the email/letter has been read. This is the new normal. Keep in touch as best you can. Let him know you are thinking of him.

3. Think of coffee when visiting: Sweet and Light. It’s not the time to lay all your burdens down. Maybe one or two burdens to keep it real, at the most, is necessary. No crying. It’s one of his only times of joy and social interaction. Don’t waste a minute on your own emotions. This time is for him and both of you to share.

4. Craving Normal: Don’t walk on eggshells and don’t sugar coat. The medium setting is just to be as normal as possible. He misses normal. Give it to him. He is still the man he was when he left. Let him be that man to you, still, always.

5. Doing the time with him in a Bittersweet Life: There is nothing positive you will ever experience 100% while he is incarcerated. There is always a small part of you that is cognizant of his absence. There are good times for sure but they are never as sweet so long as he is inside. Accept that without guilt but with compassion.

6. Let him lead on the stuff he is able. He has no liberty inside. He has no choices on most things. If your needs are not his choice for now, accept it.

7. “Denial is not a river in Egypt”. His rigid, monotonous routine is one we will never know or understand no matter how hard we try. Trust his decisions on what little he can control. It’s his only independence he can experience now.

8. Don’t hold a grudge. No game-playing. No whining. There is no time for that. A minute of pain feels like a day when your communication is cut off. Let it go. Learn to compromise.

9. Open your heart as wide as it can go even if it hurts a little. Deal with the emotion not with him. Time is short except on the inside. You have time to parse your stuff off his clock.

10. Communication and assets are limited. Ten minutes a day for phone call. Try to imagine talking to those you love for a limited 10 minutes a day. It’s difficult to decide who to call and how long. Share your time. Offer it up if he knows he needs the time for something else. It’s a true act of love and trust. He’ll remember it and remember you for it.

11. Keep your perspective. Don’t speculate. Occupy your time. Giving back helps. Write a letter. Research his case. Nourish your mind. Idle time in negative space is the enemy now.

12. It’s impossible to fit one month of thoughts into a three hour visit. Let him guide the conversation. He will speak of what is most important to him. The two of you will work it out from there. Remember, normal.

13. Remember, your worst day outside is still better than his best day inside.

14. Speak your love. He doesn’t get any love in there so he needs some at appropriate times in appropriate ways.

15. Being remembered is all of us ever really need. Remember him. Let him know you care and are thinking of him in as many ways that are allowed.

16. Learn and Respect his prison rules. The easier road for him will be better in the long run. Respect the guards. They are doing their jobs. They are in control. Accept it. It’s their house.

17. Accept his moods. Don’t take it personally. Communication is a snapshot of his emotional day.

18. Always give him the benefit of the doubt. Trust him. He’s in there. He’ll let you know what he needs. There isn’t much choice so he’ll seek out what he needs.

19. Quality not Quantity: Cherish every moment with him, whether it’s a letter, an email, a phone call, a hug or a kiss. There isn’t much of that good stuff to go around.

20. Be grateful. He’s alive, he’s surviving, he’s learning lessons and you both are learning them together. That’s a good start.

21. Patience, Stamina, Compromise, Unselfishness and all the love you can harness is required. Bring It!

In Dignity, Courage, Strength, Faith and Love,

(Bio: I reside in the Northeast United States and writes as hobby. Her most precious friend has been incarcerated in a federal institution since Mid-2010. Obviously, over sentenced, those who love and support him are waiting for JUSTICE to catch up to him. Please read and support his blog http://bernardkerik.blogspot.com or follow him on Facebook www.facebook.com/BernardKerik My greatest prayer is you will find some words of comfort in this guest blog submission. – Dara Noyb)

Welcome To Corrlinks Email

2010-06-19T17:52:00.000+01:00

Welcome To the Corrlinks email website. Here you will find everything you need to know about Corrlinks and how to get started.

One of the first things you need to do if you have a FACEBOOK account is to join/like our Facebook fan page here.

It is very important for you to join because there you will get some great support if you need help with the Corr links system.

We also have many users that not only talk about Corrlinks but they also talk about major prison topics. So if you have other non Corrlinks

question you can also ask them on our Facebook page and they will be answered very quickly.

Please note that sometimes the Corr links emailing system can go down, so if you need some up to date information the fan page is the best please to go. For example if Corrlinks is down in your area or if you are experiencing problems, it may not be anything to do with the Corrlinks service it could be that the prison that you are trying to send a email to could be in LOCK DOWN.

Basically joking the fan page has so many other benefits.

I hope you link the site and if you have any questions please leave a message in the comment box below.

How To Cope With Your New Situation

You experience so many different types of emotions when someone dear to you has been incarcerated. One of the most difficult things is finding someone to talk to or finding someone who can relate to your situation. If you are responsible for children then this can make your situation even harder.

This tough time can be lessened if you have a plan on how to cope with fear and worry, implementing a plan will all so help you to adjust. With a plan you will be able to make correct decisions and also be able to structure your life around the loved one that in prison. You will have to take steps and get well informed

about prison life and how it will affect you in the months or years to come.

When a loved one has been incarcerated one of the most important thing you need to have is good support. The good news is that there are many prison support groups that have been set up to help friends and family to cope

when a member has been jailed.

It is very easy to find support groups in your city or town, you could look online but for the most part this information will be given to you by officials that work in the prison that your loved one is in.

As a side note there have been hundreds of these support groups springing up on social networks like Facebook.

The Corrlinks System

The Corrlinks service has been setup to help friends and family to keep in contact with their loved ones in prison by opening up an extra line of communication. With Corrlinks you will be able to send heartfelt messages via e-mail to a friend or family member in prison. With Corrlinks inmates can also send email to the outside world with just a push of a button.

Corr Links is the best method designed for friends and family to speak with a special loved one that is in prison. Established via a partnership involving a corrections company and ATG, this program enables friends and family to register with the Corrlinks expert services as well as send funds or emails to the organization.

Once the corrections agency subscribes to Corrlinks' 2-way mail program, the offender gets the message on a pc inside the jail. They're able to print, read as well as answer mail messages in electronic format. All communications are fed to the sending family or friends by means of Online e-mail. The prison inmates don't get use of the web.

Should the corrections agency subscribes to Corrlinks' 1-way mail program, the organization prints as well as presents the mail messages through interior mail services. The transmitting loved one doesn't have to write, print or even mail the information and await USPS delivery.

Particular companies additionally permit inmates to get funds in electronic format. Corrlinks achieves this simply by supplying relatives and buddies with access to Western Union's huge network of agents and web site, allowing them to send out funds easily and quickly to the institution. Generally, cash is transferred from Corrlinks to the institution inside twenty four hours.

If you need prison related information please go to http://www.ibop.gov

Corrlinks

2010-03-12T11:47:00.000Z

What exactly is CorrLinks, you might ask? Great question. It's, basically, personal contained e-mail. You sign up, and then you register the particular id number associated with the individual you want to speak with, and you'll be able to send messages

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