Couple Support

Your Opportunity to Help Other Couples—and Yourself

David Sanford — 2008-01-14T12:55:40-05:00

Imagine a highly challenging trek, like a trek through the mountains, that remains largely unfamiliar to most people who undertake it, despite the fact that millions of others have made and are making the same journey.

Tip for Couples: A Better Use of Your Feelings

David Sanford — 2007-12-15T14:20:38-05:00

When I am upset with you, I either hide my emotions or assault you with them. What I don’t do is share what I am feeling. You are the same way. Unfortunately, when we are upset with each other sharing our feelings is exactly what we should be doing, if we are to resolve our differences.

Every Good Marriage Is a Threesome

David Sanford — 2007-12-04T13:43:26-05:00

Most unhappy marriages are two-somes; there’s me, there’s you, and that’s it. We probably argue a lot, because there’s my wants and needs and your wants and needs and nothing else—nothing to keep us from competing all the time. I need to make sure that I get what I need, and you don’t take it all.

Advice for Couples: Don’t Tolerate “Whatever”

David Sanford — 2007-11-24T21:19:30-05:00

There has been a near-epidemic of “whatever” going around. If “whatever” should reach your relationship, stop it at all cost. Don’t let “whatever” take root. In case you have no idea what I am talking about, “whatever” is what some people have gotten in the habit of saying to end discussion. Example: One partner says, “I can’t stand those sarcastic, cutting remarks you make toward me all the time. The other partner responds, “Whatever.”

Marriage Question: Could I Get Along with Me?

David Sanford — 2007-11-13T14:40:38-05:00

Imagine how useful it would be if you could experience yourself as your partner experiences you. You would then know what it was like to be on the receiving end of your own behavior, both the positive and the definitely not positive.