Creating by choice

Taking baby steps towards your vision

2013-04-03T20:11:00.002+05:30

Life is interesting and exciting when you keep moving towards a vision that challenges you and inspires you to realize your potential.

If you settle for a routine and regular life it may feel comfortable but you may be left with a feeling of wanting more in terms of your being, doing, and achieving.

So if you have had this feeling and you have more inside of you that wants expression, then you are at the right place at the right time.

It may sometimes feel scary to put yourself to doing something that you have never done before but we either get started towards living from our true potential or leave the pursuit completely. Also, if we have to do it some day then that day can be today.

So this is your life and you can choose to start by taking baby steps. No need to rush as sometimes even thinking of moving in the desired direction can have a very calming effect.

So what you can do as a first step is to take the pen and paper, or, your laptop, or anything to write on and gently allow yourself to drift into your vision that inspires you and makes you feel good even as you only think of the possibility of it becoming a reality.

You will notice that the mere act of thinking about your vision will begin to shift your energy and when you will write it you will begin to align and vibrate more with it at the level of energy.

You can then keep it at a place where you can look at it daily and the more you will think about it, more you will find yourself getting aligned with it.

The vision when given attention has a tendency to begin to mould you in such a way that it becomes possible for you to achieve it.

Vision has the power to take you on a journey that can be challenging, transforming, and inspiring.

So you may begin now on to this wonderful journey and allow your inner vision to unfold itself.

Happiness through awareness

2013-04-02T16:25:00.000+05:30

Everyone in this world wants to be happy. We try different means to be happy based on our perceptions about what can make us happy. However, even as we progress in the world doing things that we assume should give happiness and achieving things in life we still feel that we are not yet there.

Then disillusionment sets in. Then we either accept things as they are or struggle against them but nothing really helps to get us what we want the most i.e. happiness, joy, and fulfillment. Well friends rather then going here and there in search of happiness we can all do one small thing, sitting at home, without spending a penny.

What is it?

Want to know??

Well all you need to do is become aware. You may ask what is it that you need to become aware of and how one becomes aware at the first place.

Well, let me answer the second question first. In order to become aware all you need to do is “pay attention”.

Then to answer the first question, what is it that you need to become aware of, you need to become aware of and pay attention to all that wants your attention and that is calling for your attention.

There are many things within us that call for our attention, it may be a strained relationship with a near one or someone at work, it may be a speedy weight gain, or it may be a passion that wants expression. It does not matter how big or small a concern is but all it wants from us is that we “pay attention”. When we go on ignoring it, it becomes stress. The more we avoid it the bigger it becomes. Once we completely pay attention and experience whatever is there in it to experience our awareness would certainly shift. When we experience how something is bothering us and at what level it is bothering then as we get in touch with the pain and fully experience it, a shift happens. In that shifted awareness we have access to all the solutions and when we apply the solutions to the situations we create change and feel happy and fulfilled.

A Meeting with Peace

2010-07-02T16:30:00.013+05:30

On a beautiful highway road on the lush green fields I once met peace sitting on a stone looking so peaceful and serene.
A beauty that emanated from her entire being. Stunned and marveled at the sight of her I went to her and asked curiously, “Aren’t you peace?” She nodded with an affectionate smile and said in her peaceful voice, “Yes, I am.”

I went closer and asked, “Please do tell me what makes you so peaceful. Why are you called peace?”

She looked at me with compassion and said, “I am neither right nor I try to be.” Then she fell into her peaceful silence and looked into my eyes and smiled the kindest smile that I had ever witnessed. I could feel the lightness within resonating with her words and the silence filling me. I bowed and left filled with a deep silence, gratitude, and love.

I woke up to a bright day. It was a beautiful dream but the words echoed in my consciousness, "I am neither right nor I try to be." There is peace all around and the whole universe seems to be singing this song vibrating with peace.

Everyone is gifted

2010-03-20T17:14:00.015+05:30

Several times in life when we look around ourselves, we are struck by the dazzling success of people who seem to be exceptionally gifted.

Such people reach dizzying heights in their chosen field, be it in the field of sports, entertainment, science, or business. These people are spread across all the fields and they create new definitions of achievement and success in their fields. They constantly keep reinventing themselves, moving from one success to another.

At such times we wonder if these people are exceptionally gifted, or they have special blessings of God, or they have been created by nature differently from a common or average person. We often believe that everyone is not so gifted and there the matter ends for most of us.

However friends, it is far from true. Nature has gifted everyone with something special. However, only few amongst us seem to recognize this gift and fewer still open these gifts and use them. So why does this happen, and how can we recognize our gifts, and create an exceptional experience of living our lives?

Well friends, the only thing that has ruined our ability to recognize our gift is “comparison.” Why is it so? This is because the moment we start comparing ourselves with others we find that there is someone out there in that field who is better than us and then that stops us from seeing what “we” have. This act in itself makes us put a lock on our potential or our gift forever and we say to ourselves” I don’t have it in me.”

Friends just imagine if a seed would have seen a 100 year old giant tree and thought I am so small in comparison to this tree that I seem to have no potential to grow, then it would have withered and would never have become a tree. In that case it would have escaped the fact that 100 years back what looks like a gigantic tree now was also a small seed just like itself. Thankfully, the seeds don’t think.

So the point here is that the moment we ignore our gift, we leave the pursuit of cultivating it and the fact is that all gifts need to be cultivated, developed, and nurtured like all seeds need to be nurtured if they have to grow into a big gigantic tree, and give fruits, and shadow to all, and be a home to many birds and life forms.

Every one of us is always given a special talent and if you just focus on what you have and keep working, learning, and improving in that direction then one day a small little talent would have become a huge talent, which will attract success, adulation, and wealth as well. Every gigantic talent today was once an aspiring but believing potential that consistently worked towards improving itself. So they are just the individuals who have commenced the journey of becoming a tree from a seed recognizing their potential to grow in their chosen fields and believing in it. The rest of us have simply discarded our gifts and are not nurturing them and our gifts are lying unused, unexplored inside us.

Now the question is why are we comparing ourselves with other grown giants? What is making us do this? The only reason why we are doing this is because we are asking a potentially damaging question regarding our gift and that question is “what is the benefit of my gift to me?” Friends, just imagine if the great Indian cricketing legend Sachin Tendulkar would have asked this question what is the benefit of my playing cricket or Leonardo da Vinci would have thought what is the benefit of my painting? There would be no wonderful innings for the world to enjoy and there would we no “Mona Lisa” either. Fortunately for the rest of the world they did not ask this question. They simply saw that they have a gift, they liked it and they started nurturing it, giving it full expression.

The world always finds out meaning in our gifts as no gift is given by the nature in its infinite wisdom that has no use for someone out there in the world. Seeing someone play brilliant strokes can bring joy to many people or seeing a wonderful painting can enchant some people’s spirits, or someone’s business idea or invention can change the way the world lives like that of Bill Gates’ or Thomas Edison’s. No gift comes without its benefits for you as well as for others.

The important task is to recognize the investment before calculating the profit, as no profit comes without investment. All those who are profiting from their gifts are the ones who have first invested their time and energy in cultivating these gifts. It is only when we fail to recognize the investments that have been made before the profits are generated that we start viewing our small gifts lacking the potential of bringing big profits. This makes us discard our gifts as useless and we never develop them. Also, with this mindset one completely misses the opportunity of experiencing great joy that can be experienced only by nurturing ones talent and gifts, which is absolutely priceless. Also, if your gift is a source of joy for you, it will be a source of joy for others as well and therefore there will always be people needing your gift in this world.

So friends no matter where you live and what you do, you must start cultivating your gift, as one day it will grow into a gigantic talent and you will really enjoy the results. To do this you need to take the following steps:

1. Identify your gift without comparing it with what others have got.

2. Make a plan to nurture it.

3. Start nurturing and enjoy the process.

I wish all my readers deep inner joy and success at every step of finding and nurturing their gifts.

Finding inner freedom

2010-03-02T17:03:00.013+05:30

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Freedom is the desire of every human heart in this world. We all wish to live life freely. However, as life progresses we realize that we are either a slave of our situations or a slave of people’s expectations. We find ourselves buckling under the pressure of situations and pressure of expectations that others have from us. When this is the reality of life how can we possibly enjoy freedom while at the same time maintaining our relationships and handling the situations?

Well friends, there is an easy way to find your inner freedom. However, before we proceed to understand this way to find the inner freedom let us consider the example of a married couple who have a 6-month-old baby. The husband works in the office and wife is a stay-at-home mom. Now let us consider a situation where husband comes back from office after a very challenging day and he is very tired. Now since the wife takes care of the baby single-handedly all day long she too is tired by the time husband returns from work. So both of them are tired and both are resting after having their dinner when the baby suddenly starts crying. Now in this situation, husband who is already exhausted and is willing to sleep expects his wife to attend to the baby. At the same time the wife who is also tired and had been expecting that she will get a break from babysitting after her husband comes back, expects her husband to attend to the baby.

So here is a situation where both have expectations from another. Both of them are waiting for the other one to take the necessary action. Now let us assume that finally understanding that the husband is not going to move the wife gets up and attends to the baby. Though she loves the baby very much as a mother but as a wife she also expects her husband to care for her. So though on the one hand she attends to the baby but she also starts “feeling bad” and develops a grudge with her husband that is reflected in her behavior. Now the husband too loves the baby as a father but as a husband expects his wife to understand the stressors that he has in his work life because of which he is tired and unable to attend to the baby. So when he observes that his wife is annoyed with him he too starts “feeling bad”.

So no matter whether one fulfills the other person’s expectation or his own whichever choice one makes i.e. in this example whether to attend to the baby or ignore and expect another to do it, there is a sense of pressure on both due to the situation and also due to the expectation of the other person. So in such cases if we act according to our own preference, we feel displeasure of others that makes us feel bad and if we act as per the demand of the situation going against our own preferences then also we are not happy. So how can we feel free in such situations? Free of all conflict, guilt, or pressure. How is that possible?

We can feel free only if we go beyond our ‘bad feelings” after we have made the choice, no matter what choices we make. If we feel bad in both the choices then what needs to be considered is the feeling behind each one of these choices. So how this “bad feeling” can be changed?

Well, in order to move past these “bad feelings” we need to move past the identities that cause these feelings.

What are these identities? There are several identities in each one of us. However, in most of such cases we mainly live from the identity of being a victim. Also, if one lives from an identity of being a victim he will certainly act like a tyrant at another point. So being a victim and a tyrant are the two sides of the same identity.

However, all this happens at the subconscious level and we are not even conscious of this process. So how can we get liberated from these identities that are not letting us feel good with whatever choices we are making and make us feel like a slave to people and circumstances?

Well, in order to answer this question we first need to ask another question and the question is what will happen if both do not feel like a victim.

If the wife does not feel like a victim she will take care of the baby without feeling bad. This will shift her focus from herself to her husband and she will automatically be able to sense his exhaustion. In which case she would not be able to view her husband’s inaction as his insensitivity towards the baby and herself. At the same time if the husband does not feel like a victim he too will be able to sense his wife’s exhaustion as a cause of her reaction and not her insensitivity towards him.

The important point is that when we feel like a victim we feel this kind of a strain in relationships and end up either losing relationships or our freedom to make decisions based on personal preferences.

So if we get liberated from this identity of being a victim, we can really be free and give others their freedom as well.

In order to be liberated from these identities, the first step is to become “aware” of this kind of an identity in you. If you become aware of this identity then you will also be able to see that how bad and low the identity of being a victim feels. When you realize that this is a bad feeling to be in, you would certainly like to move past this feeling. If you are able to move past this feeling of being a victim, you will automatically be able to move past the guilt of being a tyrant. This would also release you from clutches of people who might be acting like a victim all the time and holding you responsible for their suffering. This would enable you to make free and fair choice based on your preferences. In other words you will discover your inner freedom.

So in order to liberate you from the bad feelings or the “victim” identity let us do the following awareness exercise:

1. Identify if you sometimes really feel like a victim in certain situations.
2. Focus at how bad it feels. Write the name of the emotions that you feel when you feel like a victim.
3. Read the list of emotions 3 times to feel it all over again and let it sink in your awareness that how bad is it.
4. After reading the list burn the paper and just let it all go.

Friends, this is just one of the exercises and there are various ways of releasing these emotions (Like EFT, regression, counseling etc. to name a few). However, the most important thing is to become aware of your emotions and accept the responsibility of releasing the ones that are not letting you experience the inner freedom and joy that comes with it. I wish all my readers increasing freedom and joy with each passing day.

Power of prayer

2009-11-12T18:39:00.018+05:30

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In the course of life we often come across moments when we have done our best and still things don’t seem to go in the desired direction. At such times we wish we had some power to change situations in our life. A power that could change the experience of our lives.

Well friends, we do have a power in our hands and that is the power of prayer. So how prayer can bring about the desired change, how it can influence the environment around us, and how it works?

We can get the answer to these questions by examining the reasons as to why most of us don’t view prayer as a means to get what we want. This is due to the following reasons:

1. We are not sure about the existence of God or a superior power outside of us:

Most of us do not believe in the presence of a God or any supreme force or power outside of us due to the fact that there is no such person or power visible to us through our eyes. However friends, the presence of someone can be experienced not just by seeing them but also by seeing what they do for us.

Consider this example for a moment, you may have experienced in your childhood if you had a working mother that she used to cook food for you and keep it for you. So when you came back from school even though you could not see her there, you knew that she is there for you. You could feel her presence in your life and the impact that her presence had in your life and on your sense of well being.

All of us have experienced something like this where our mother, father, spouse, or friend have done something for us and even though they did this behind our backs, yet we could feel their presence in our lives by their actions.

Similarly, there is God who thought about us even before we arrived in the world. The world already existed with all its beauty, luxuries, and everything essential for our survival. The world was already in its place for us before we came. Also, we know that we are not the ones who created this world. So if it is not us then certainly there is someone more powerful than us who has done this for us? So there is no reason in spite of seeing this physical proof in form of this creation not to believe in the presence of a creator.

However, there is another reason why we don’t pray and that is mentioned below.

2. We do not see anyone responding in front of us when we pray:

No one likes one way communications. We don’t like it when we cannot see the one we are talking to. At the same time we also like to receive confirmed response to what we are praying for. In case of prayers we are often not sure if someone who is out there is listening to our prayers and if there is someone listening then what is his/her response to our prayer?

Well friends, if we believe that there is a power behind the creation of this universe, then that power can as well use this universe to help us who are also a part of the universe. For example, if our finger gets cut and starts bleeding then rest of the body mechanism rushes to help heal the wound. Since the finger sends a message to the entire system through the sensory nerves and since this finger is also very much the part of the body, so the entire system goes in the direction of providing everything necessary to heal it.

Similarly, when you need something in life and pray for it, you being a part of the universe, the whole universe moves to fulfill it. Like when the finger gets healed the whole body feels better, similarly when your desire gets fulfilled the whole universe feels fulfilled. Therefore, many times after praying you find that either what you want gets done, or you meet someone who can help you, you learn something new and this learning helps you, or you get an insight, or come across a new book so on and so forth. All this is God reaching out in the answer to your prayer to help you. God moves universe that is a manifested form of Him to help you. Be sure that universe is moving in the answer to your prayers.

Still, there is yet another reason that many people do not pray and that is as follows.

3. We feel that since God knows everything he will help us on his own:

Most of us feel that if God is as powerful as he is and as loving then he should help us on his own. He already knows what we want since he can see us all the time then why he waits for us to pray. There is no need for us to pray and if God would want to help us he would do so on his own. Also, if he does not help us then it means he does not want to help us and therefore, there is no need for us to pray to him.

Well, let us for a moment consider this example, when we were kids aged 7-12 years and were learning new things everyday did we not want to try things ourselves first on our own? It was only if we felt stuck somewhere that we called for help from our parents and they too left us to do our own thing unless we called them. Most of us as adults also come across children of this age group who are learning new things and they want to be left alone. Be it is solving a puzzle or something as small as putting battery in a torch, children want to do everything on their own. It is only after they give up on something that they would accept help, not before that. At such times we as adults too leave them and let them have the adventure of trying new things. We do not interfere unless we are asked to.

Similarly, God too gives you your share of adventure of learning through new situations and realizing your own potential of handling things, but if you ask for help he helps you. However, he too does not help unless you decide that you need help else it would be interference on his part.

4. We fear that God will do things in his own way and in his own time, whereas we want it now and without any conditions attached:

We often do not like to take God’s help because we feel that God will help us on his terms and conditions, whereas we want everything on our terms and conditions. We feel that God might put a difficult condition in front of us, before he answers our prayer or he may take very long in answering the prayer so why to take his help that is actually nonexistent. If I need to do something to get something I can do it without even praying to him and still I will get results according to my efforts.

Dear friends let us once again consider an example of a small child aged between 2-4 years. Children at this age often want things that adults use, it may be a book, your sunglasses, or any other such thing that you know is of no use to the child and he might as well damage it. So what we as adults do in such situations? We try to distract the child and hide our things. We do not let them have these things until they are grown enough to use them in a proper way.

Similarly, with God you are never given things that you cannot handle or cannot value. However, praying to God to give you those things enables forces in the universe that move to help you learn and grow at the fastest speed so that you become the person who can handle what you are asking for. So if there is a condition attached, it is only to help you “have” it and not to “deny” you anything. Also, the time taken in giving something to you by God would be the fastest speed if it is done at the God's speed. This is because God knows the shortest route to reach there much in the same way as you in your adulthood know shortcuts to many things that small children do not know.

5. Why we must pray when we can do it on our own:

Well, you have a freedom in that. You can choose not to take help and you certainly must put in your own efforts in the best possible way that you can. However, in situations where you are stuck or where things are not really in your hands, you must pray and use the power and help that is available to you.

So if you have anything where you would like God to help you to move in a faster way and use this power, then let us do the following exercise:

First of all write down all the areas of your life where you feel that you are unable to help yourself. It can be a limitation in any dimension i.e. personal, professional, physical, or spiritual.

Second, clearly write the exact outcome as you want it.

Third, experience the presence of God in the form of nature or you may take any picture or idol to connect with the presence of God.

Four, connecting with this presence just pray for the help in your desired area.

Five, get busy with your life and all your prayers will be answered in the best way and at the right time but continue to pray for different things every day. It will certainly increase your speed of achieving things in your life.

Accessing love

2009-10-16T18:17:00.017+05:30

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For every human being love is a prerequisite for life. Life cannot be imagined without love. A life devoid of love cannot qualify to be really called as life because love is the highest experience of life, be it the love of our parents, spouse, friends, children, or the society. The reality however is that this experience often eludes us. Therefore, it is the yearning of every human heart to have constant presence of love in our lives.

So how can we have constant presence of love in our lives and why we are unable to experience it on a constant basis?

Well, this is because we are looking for it in a direction where it is not present. We are looking for love outside of us whereas it is present inside us. Now the question is why we are looking for love outside of us and not inside. This is because we think that it exists outside.

Let us understand this with the help of an example: Suppose you lose your car keys in your house then where will you search for it? Of course, you will look for it in your house. Now suppose you lose it in your office, then you will search for it in the office and you will not search for it in the marketplace when you “know” that you have lost it in the office. Now suppose you don’t know where exactly have you lost it, whether it is in your office, marketplace where you stopped on the way, at the parking, or in your home? Well, then your search will expand all the way from the office to your home since you don’t exactly know where you have lost it. Similarly, we are looking for love all over the place around us as we don’t exactly know where we have lost it. Like any other objects that we are habitual of searching outside, we are confining our search for love also to our outside context, i.e. to the people we live with, our relationships, and so on and so forth.

However, friends the fact is that this love has been lost somewhere inside us, it is lying there and it has to be “found” inside us.

Now it is important to note that in order for us to “search” for something we need to first “lose” it. In order to “lose” something or to feel a sense of not having it, we must first “have” it. We cannot know the “absence” of something unless we have experienced its “presence” at the first place. In order to experience the presence we must know how it feels like. We cannot know how love feels like unless we have felt it inside us. To know the presence of love “out there” we must have a feeling “in here”. Therefore, the feeling of love exists inside our own being, as we feel it inside us and not outside of us. It is an inner reality and not an outside event. So if we want to experience love on a constant basis in our lives then we need to access this feeling of love that is present inside us. It is only if we live from this feeling of love that we will create the experience of love in our outside reality. However, if we feel that it is absent inside us and look for it outside we will not be able to find it there as well.

So how this living from love can really happen? This can happen if we live from a sense of “having” and we can live from there only if we become aware of “having” love in life. Therefore, in order to live from love we must move to the next level of awareness about “having” love in our life. The more our sense of having deepens in life, the more we will experience it in our outside reality. So what needs to be done to increase our awareness about having love in life?

Well friends, it is important to note that love is already present in our lives we just need to become more aware of its presence. To do this please take pen and paper and answer the following questions:

1.) Can you speak? If your answer is “yes” then it means you came across someone in life who taught you how to speak. It may be your father, mother, brother, sister, grandparents or anyone else, but whosoever did it had the patience to sit next to you and repeat every word over and over till you learnt how to twist your tongue and learnt to make the right sound. Why did they do it? Feel the answer in your heart.

However, if your answer is “no” move to the next question.

2.) What is your age? No matter what the answer if you are grown enough to read this article that means you have survived through your infancy. A period of your life when you could not earn, prepare food, and eat on your own and it was then that someone helped you survive by giving you food. Again it may be your family, relatives, or someone else who cared enough for your life. Why did that person do it? What is the feeling that lets someone do it?

However, if your still do not recognize the presence of love in your life, move to the next question.

3.) Do you breathe? Of course your answer is yes or you may not be alive and reading this. So who has put oxygen in the atmosphere for you to breathe? Let me answer this. It is someone who cares enough for your life; you may call it nature, God, or universe. If you cannot find even a single person who loves you then also you cannot ignore the love of nature for your life and your survival. Nature has not only given oxygen, water, and food for your survival but it has also given you a body which has brain, a great gift to think, a heart, a great gift to feel all the wonderful feelings, and it has also gifted you with all your sensory organs to experience this world. . If it is not for love then why you have been gifted with so many things?

Friends, look around yourselves and you will find yourself completely surrounded by love and still we have not covered all the people who have helped us at different times during various stages of life without expecting anything in return and those whose lives have no meaning if they don’t have us in their lives as their love for us is unconditional and they are our “parents.”

Last but not the least whenever you feel unloved; just look down at our mother earth that is silently bearing our weight and you will be able to feel its love.

So if you keep asking these three basic questions everyday then you will live with complete awareness about the presence of love in your life and it will create this reality in every waking moment of your life.

Moving to the next level of reality

2009-10-03T18:26:00.019+05:30

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It is a natural human desire to experience a higher reality of life than where we presently are. Who would not like to be wealthier, healthier, happier, more beautiful, more intelligent, more powerful, or more fulfilled in life? It is indeed possible to shift your reality to the next level of experience which would be a higher experience in all dimensions. So how can we take the experience of our life to the next level? How this shift in our reality can be achieved?

Well, this can be achieved by changing the focus of our unconscious mind.

All of us think in our mind that we want to achieve higher things in life and are even working towards it, but the unconscious is not always aligned with our conscious thought patterns and this prevents us from really achieving what we want to achieve as our unconscious is much more powerful than our conscious mind. Why is it so? Why is unconscious mind more powerful than the conscious mind?

This is because once anything goes into unconscious it becomes an automatic program. Anything which has to run on its own has to be powerful. For example, Your body has the power to digest food and since it happens automatically, it is the power and ability of your system to be able to do so. Similarly, our unconscious mind is what automatically guides us towards opportunities and experiences that we desire. However, if we are stuck at one particular experience of reality it is because our unconscious is guiding us towards that particular experience. The reason why unconscious is guiding us there is because it has been programmed to focus there.

So now the question is how the focus of unconscious impacts or creates the experience of our reality?

Our unconscious is made up of our emotions and beliefs, which determine our actions and hence the reality that we get to experience.

Consider this example for a moment. Let us assume that you go to the market to buy a shirt. Now while making a choice, you automatically reject certain types and select some others. This is done based on a feeling as some of them feel good and others just don’t. The fact of the matter is that what is rejected by you is always selected by someone else at some or the other time, so it may not be considered as a bad shirt after all. So what is the truth? Well, the decision here about which shirt to buy is being governed by your unconscious preferences. This is based upon what you are unconsciously focusing upon. You may be unconsciously focusing upon price of the shirt; it may be too low or too high for you. You may be focusing on the brand, it may not be a popular brand according to you and it may be an important matter for you. You may be making your choice based upon the designer label, or the store from where you are buying, or marketplace from where you are buying, or simply the color of the shirt. You may be inclined to buy only specific type of colors no matter what the brand or price. You may simply go by the design of the shirt. You may be getting influenced by the advertisement that you saw or the last compliment that you got and decided to wear only that type of shirt. You may also get influenced by the salesperson if there is one selling that shirt. These are just a few examples of how everyone’s focus is different and they are making choices in life according to their unconscious focus. So wherever you are focusing, would determine which shirt you end up wearing and wearing that shirt would be a part of your reality, your personal experience. It is also important to note that your focus at an unconscious level blocks you from focusing on other things completely. In this example if you are focused only on price and feel that expensive items are always good then you may not really be able to focus on the quality and end up buying a low quality expensive shirt or if you are unconsciously focusing on brand then you may buy something that may not be a suitable cloth type for the climate you live in.

So it is important to recognize the fact that we get attracted towards a reality that our unconscious is programmed to focus at and if we want to change the reality that we are experiencing we need to change the focus of our unconscious mind. If we do this we will bring into our life higher experiences and will get to live higher reality.

So how this unconscious can be reprogrammed and how can we know which way our unconscious mind is programmed? Well friends, this is the most empowering fact of life that you a being of consciousness are above everything else in this creation. You are the creator of your reality. You have the power to create and you can reprogram your unconscious mind to bring these experiences that you want to create in your reality. So how this can be done? You need to follow the following steps for this:

First step:

Well, the first step is to know where you are as every change begins from present. It is only when we look at our present reality that we can identify what is missing or what would be the next higher level of experience from here. For example, look at the present state of your wealth and determine where you want to take it in the next 1 year. Extend this to your status of relationships, health, professional life, happiness, spiritual and personal growth etc. Determine where you stand and where would you like to move. What is the next higher level for you in each of these dimensions?

Second step:

Identify the present focus of your unconscious mind. It is important to note that you ought to look at your present emotion regarding a particular aspect of your life to identify the focus of your unconscious. This is so because emotions are very powerful and your focus tends to go in the direction of your emotions. Like if you lost a dear one as a child your unconscious will always remain focused at that loss as there is a painful emotion of loss there. Since the emotion will be there it would be difficult to not pay attention to it. As a result you will always be unconsciously focusing upon the loss of relationships in life and bring that experience in your reality. So emotions do have the power to attract the attention of the mind. So in order to change the focus you ought to change the emotions. Therefore, you need to start from identifying the emotions. For example, you need to see emotion that comes when you think of your wealth status. If the emotion is dissatisfaction it will bring that into your reality. Your emotion may be that it is just okay or neither too good nor to bad, or good, best, outstanding etc. Do these exercises with all the other dimensions of your relationships, health, work life, happiness, and spiritual and personal growth etc.

Third step:

After identifying your emotion you must release it. You can release the emotion either by experiencing it fully or using EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique. You can find more information regarding the EFT on YouTube. Once the emotion is released the focus of your unconscious will shift automatically. This new focus will now bring you that reality, a higher reality that you wish to experience. So do it and move to the next level of your reality.

Succeeding during change

2009-09-22T18:27:00.016+05:30

World is a dynamic place, always happening and ever changing. Change is happening whether one is moving from one place to another, one profession to another, one age group to another, or one position to another, so on and so forth.

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On the one hand, though the change is always exciting and brings freshness into the experience of our lives, yet on the other hand there are certain changes that are less desirable. Still one has to deal with the reality of change in life and learn to tide over it and become successful. So how can we successfully deal with change?

Well, there is one strategy that can always ensure success during change and that is “to change with the change”.

Yes, when the reality is changing around you, you too need to change to cope with it and to succeed. Changing yourself means changing your response to the situation. If the situation is changing then it will not be possible to succeed if our responses remain the same. So the question is how our responses can change and what needs to change to change our responses.

Well, in order to understand how to change our responses it is important to know that why we fail to change the response. We fail to change our response because we always respond from one particular set of values and that becomes a track that we follow all the time.

Friends, though values are good but it may not do us good in every type of situation. The world is a dynamic place and we ought to use different values for different situations while still knowing what we value at a personal level. The reason why we fail to change our response is that if we need to change the track and act from a different plane of value we feel as if we are not being loyal to our present value system. This leads to guilt and this guilt thus stops us from leaving our value and responding from a different plane of value. We do it even at the cost of our own success.

So how can we come out of this guilt trap and respond from the values that can make us successful in dealing with new situations while keeping our own values intact without changing them.

Well, it can be as easy as eating a cake if we only know what our values represent. Friends, our values only represent what we appreciate in life. Like, we may appreciate being physically active and exercising but it can be hazardous if we have a fractured leg. In this situation, certainly if we want a fast recovery it would be best for us to rest, however we may still continue to appreciate exercising, though we may not be living that value.

So it is one thing to have a value and quite another to live it and whether we live it or not depends upon the situation.

However, most of the time we are not aware about this dichotomy between appreciating and living a value. Also, we often have a belief that appreciating must equal to living. This belief keeps us a hostage to guilt. So if you want to succeed in every situation while keeping your values intact you must do the following exercise:

1. Identify what are your values (actions that you would appreciate if you take them) in your work life?

2. Identify if you can really live from these values given your work life situation? What would be the cost to you if you live from these values?

3. Check if you live from your values would the result contradict some of your other values? (You may not like the outcome if you live from your value, as there can be a situation where though you like to act from a value but know for sure that the result would not be good and would in fact be against what you value.) Since the overall effect is not what you would like, you need to leave the option of living from this value. However, you can still continue to appreciate it as an ideal case scenario. This means if everything else would have been ideal then you would have acted from this value.

Extend this exercise to your personal relationships, financial decisions, and personal health.

Doing this exercise will bring you out of the conflict and help you come out of your guilt trap while keeping your values intact.

It is important to note that if we are not flexible in terms of how we treat our values then while our values may survive, we may become extinct soon.

Values are set of norms adopted by us, the conscious beings, for our life and we are not the ones adopted by our values. If living from a particular value brings unhappiness and misery it is not a value that is worth living.

You as a creator of your reality

2009-09-11T09:03:00.006+05:30

All of us live a life created by ourselves. Be it good or bad,our life is being shaped by the choices that we are making and decisions that we are taking. However, most of us do not believe so. We feel that life is given to us and we have no role to play in what happens to us.

Some even go to the extent of rejecting this “creating your reality” stuff as an egoistic pursuit of people who commit the sin of considering themselves to be God.

However friends, the truth is that it is far from being an egoistic pursuit.

It requires lot of humility to really create something. This is because in order to create one needs to grow. “Growth” is a necessary element in creation. For example, if a seed has to become a tree it has to grow. If a small enterprise has to become a conglomerate it has to grow and growth requires one to learn. In order to learn one must discard what is useless and take from others what is valuable.

For example, a seed has to discard the seed coat and take nutrition from soil in order to grow into a plant and later into a tree.

It requires humility to be able to see what is useless inside us and be able to appreciate what is good in others. This has to happen on a constant basis in order for one to grow and to become what one decides to become or to make what one decides to make of one’s life. So if you are constantly creating your reality by choice you are a very humble person who is also at the same time very integral.

It takes integrity besides humility to be able to see what needs to change in us in order for us to achieve higher things in life. This type of a person is one who can even leave one’s own identity behind if it comes in the way of achieving the reality that he or she desires to achieve. So the one who can change and evolve has to be the one who has humility and integrity.

An egoist cannot really change his reality. This is because an egoist is a person who resists change as he considers himself to be perfect and does not accept the need to change even if he may not be experiencing the reality that he wishes to experience. Such a person would blame others for his own reality rather than taking the responsibility of his life’s experiences upon himself.

If we want our reality to change, it is us who must change. It may be our thoughts, our beliefs, our values, our lifestyle, or our habits that may be required to be changed and in order for us to be able to identify what exactly needs to be changed we must be integral enough to see it and accept it with humility. It is only then that we can move ahead to create the reality of our choice.

For example, if you want to change the reality about your health, you need to bring about a change in your lifestyle, eating habits etc. For this you must be able to admit the wrong patterns that you are following and have the humility to accept it and change it. If you are going through a rough relationship and want peace then you ought to see what changes you need to bring in your own attitude, perceptions, values etc. to make it happen. Change only begins from within. It is an inside out journey and not the other way round and a creator can only create with humility and not with a self deceiving ego.

Transcend time to move into timelessness

2009-08-28T18:22:00.013+05:30

For most human beings as life unfolds most of the things in life go on increasing like the wealth, success, social status, recognition, intelligence, wisdom etc. However, as life passes, where on one hand we gain so many things, what we go on losing on the other is time.

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It feels as if time is slipping away from our hands. Whatever time is gone we lose it never to gain it back. One can regain wealth, success, health, lost relationships but time slips by forever, once it is gone it is lost. Sometimes, especially when we are living through the best moments of our life a fear of losing this time crops up from nowhere. So what can be done? Is it possible to hold time still and live without fear of ever losing it?

Well friends, we all know that time exists, it is a reality and its nature is movement. It is not possible to stop time or hold it still. However, there is one more reality that very few amongst us are aware of and that is; as there is time, there is also timelessness. It is like the two sides of the same coin.

For example, if there is a river flowing and if you step into the river, it is not possible to not get wet or stop yourself from moving with the flow but….and this “but” is very important….but you can step out of the river any time you wish and come to the riverside. There you can be out of the movement of the river and dry yourself up.

In the same way time is like a river, you cannot stop its flow and you will get impacted by the changes that it brings and this flow is also a great experience. It has got its own excitement. However, you have the freedom to sometimes step out of this flow and come to the riverside i.e. a space of timelessness.

If you do this you will be rejuvenated, come clean of all the scars that time has given you, and will again be ready to join the flow of time. You need to keep slipping into timelessness and keep coming out into time.

So how can you do it?

Well, you can do it by connecting with the timelessness inside you. This timelessness inside you is your consciousness. All your thoughts and your memories are bonded to time. However, your consciousness is into eternity. When you live from your consciousness rather than the mind, you experience timelessness. This living from consciousness can be for a few seconds to few hours and it can be cultivated with practice. Some people live from this level only and experience timelessness all the time without losing their objectivity about time and using it for their daily tasks.

In order to live from your consciousness you need to pick an experience that you find most beautiful to experience. As you slip into that experience your senses will be absorbed in experiencing the beauty of that experience. The thoughts will fade into the background and so will other memories and worries, you will be present only in that moment. You will forget all about the targets, goals, appointments, meetings etc. This experience for you can be seeing a sunrise, seeing a child playing, looking at the stars studded sky, looking down a valley, or just lying down in the grass listening to the sounds of nature. You need to know that there are certain experiences in this world that have the power to transport us to our own timeless reality. Nature is a great transporter to timelessness. It is like a mirror in which you can see essence of your own existence, your timelessness. You need to be into this experience as long as you can. If thoughts come back and you wake up with a sense of time, then you need to go back to that experience again. As you practice it often you will feel a sense of calm enveloping you and you will find your fear of losing time gradually disappearing.

Remember, you are a timeless being who has chosen to be born into time. You are the very eternal. So if you have to go into the timelessness, you just need to retreat into the quiet timelessness of your own consciousness.

How to be fulfilled in life?

2009-08-21T13:05:00.025+05:30

Many of us in life are happy, successful, and have excellent relationships, yet we do not feel fulfilled. We feel as if something is missing in life and we are even unable to figure out what it is.

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There is an unknown seeking, a quest within us that we cannot truly define, but it feels like a longing for something. It is almost like a pain and yet we do not know the basis of this pain. A great many people live through this experience of life and think that may be it is a quest to know oneself or to find a meaning or purpose of life.

So the question is what is fulfillment and how to find it?

In order to understand what fulfillment is we need to understand why we feel unfulfilled.

Whenever, we reach a point in life where we think that we have everything that we need to have to live a secure life, i.e. wealth, relationships, position, recognition etc. then we become mentally satisfied. When our mind is satisfied with what we have, it stops driving us like crazy. The mental stress reduces and the mind relaxes. It is then that our focus moves towards our heart, the heart that had been ignored for a long time. Suddenly, it makes its presence felt. At such times all the feelings that had been suppressed previously come to the surface. When this happens we feel the pain of our own heart that we did not have the time to feel earlier.

Most of us at such times become disillusioned and feel that our success and achievement is futile as it could not give us fulfillment. However, friends this is not the case. Your success and achievements are really valuable and are a testimony to the fact that you are an individual with great potential and it is really important to be successful in life.

So what needs to be done to fulfill you?

Well friends, since you have long been living your life focusing on your own needs, living a life of mind (which is important) now it is time to move forward and start living for your soul as well that dwells in your heart. Know this for a fact that your soul is always magnanimous and magnificent and its agenda is to make a difference to other lives. Your heart always desires to reach to its highest potential and it can be fulfilled only if you make a difference to others and start contributing in their lives. It can be just one person or many, but when you start giving something out of your life everyday you feel fulfilled.

So now first of all write down all that your heart desires to accomplish and in what way you want to make a difference to this world. Do not consider whether it is possible or not. The important step is just to acknowledge to yourself that this is what your heart desires. It will be like tending a wound. This in itself will reduce some of the feeling of lack of fulfillment in your heart. Your desire could be to help your parents, siblings, old friend, your community, country, animals, planet, or anything else. See what your heart aches for. If your heart aches for something it means it is your soul exerting pressure from inside to let it live from its full potential.

Then see which ones of these desires are more intense, give them a priority ranking.

Then take the most intense one and see what you can do about it. Your desire may be grand as your soul is always grand and its potential also is great. However, you must understand that realizing the full potential of your soul is a journey of a lifetime and you will have to take the baby steps to begin this journey.

If you take small steps according to your present realized potential you will feel fulfilled today in this present moment.

For example, if you live in a developing country and if your desire is to see your country have excellent infrastructure and your heart aches every time you see the poor infrastructure then you have the potential to do something about it. However, presently you may not be in a position to do anything about it so what can be your baby steps…

Well, you need to ask your heart and it will guide you. However, one idea could be to review the needs of infrastructure improvement in your city and know what initiatives are being taken by the people responsible in the government for developing infrastructure. There will be few people who will be doing the good work silently. You can meet them, make a presentation about what they are doing, spread a good word about them, and bring them some recognition. Honor them in your community gatherings and help them in whatever way they seek to be helped.

So this action though will not change the infrastructure of your country overnight but is sure to give you fulfillment. Your soul wants to express itself. When you curb the expression of your soul you minimize the life force inside you. Therefore, it is really important to let life express itself through you. The more you allow it the expression more you will be fulfilled.

Gradually, as you will give importance to what your soul and your heart desires rather than giving importance to only your mind, you will start feeling more and more fulfilled.

So go ahead and live a fulfilled life everyday of your life. As you will start taking your baby steps you will sleep with a fulfilled feeling every night. Also, as you will take these steps you will be guided and helped by the universe and your steps will grow to become more powerful and effective. Few years down the road you would have made a huge difference to this world.

You can begin this fulfilling journey right now even as you are busy with working for your worldly needs. You do not need to wait for fulfillment after you have achieved other things in life. It can be done simultaneously. In fact if you are more fulfilled at this level you will have more energy to realize your self-centric goals too. So just do this and fulfill your destiny.

How to create the feeling of happiness?

2009-07-30T15:51:00.013+05:30

Everyone wants to be happy in life. However, as life progresses many of us experience that in spite of being successful and achieving everything in life we are not happy.

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All the success and achievements are not creating happiness in our lives. As a result we lose interest in life and it appears as if we are merely existing rather than fully living our lives.

So the question is why does it happen? We seek success in order to be happy then why don’t we actually feel happy after achieving it?

Well, this happens because we operate from a state of lack and absence. Whenever we stay in a feeling that we lack something in life, no matter what we achieve in the outside life our internal feeling does not change. This is because in order to feel happy we need to change the internal feeling of lack and absence. If this happens then we can be happy irrespective of our success and when happiness does not depend on success, there is less stress to succeed and therefore success also comes naturally.

This can be understood with help of an illustration: If you have an infection in your body then even if you wear good clothes and perfume, you will not feel healthy. When the body is not internally healthy even though it is externally clean you cannot feel healthy. In order to feel healthy the body must be healthy and not just appear to be healthy.

Similarly, when you are not feeling good about yourself the problem is with the feeling, the feeling needs to change in order for one to feel happy and not really the outside situation. It is the feeling itself that needs to be addressed.

So how this feeling can be changed?

Most of the feelings in our present have their roots in the past incidents. In these incidents when we go through a painful situation where we are hurt by someone who we consider as our role model (may be our parents, teacher, or any other elderly person) then that painful emotion gets trapped into our consciousness. As long as this emotion lives inside us it is not possible to feel happy. If the incident is one where we have been condemned or criticized then those words of criticism become our own beliefs about ourselves and the painful emotion along with it makes it look real to us.

In order to understand this let us consider this example. It is about a 5 year old girl named Rita. One day her mother who was in hurry to reach her office gave her milk and she spilled it. The mother got impatient and slapped her and scolded her for being so irresponsible. Years later even though Rita grew up to be a nice young lady who did everything with great responsibility, she never truly felt happy or satisfied. This was because as a child when she got slapped the emotion of hurt got trapped inside her and she formed a belief about herself that she was an irresponsible person. So due to this belief she lived with the stress of proving to herself and to others that she is a responsible person. In this case she was operating from a sense of lack. Even though she did everything with responsibility her actual feeling of being irresponsible remained there.

In this example Rita can feel joy and happiness only if her belief and feelings about herself changes and if she operates from the sense of being a responsible person. However, if at an unconscious level she feels irresponsible, then her action of fulfilling responsibilities would always be accompanied with lot of stress to prove to herself and to the world that she is a responsible person.

In trying to become someone that we do not believe that we already are, lies suffering and stress. When actions are aimed at becoming someone then such actions does not bring joy in fact they bring in more dissatisfaction.

At a conscious level you may still think that you are a responsible person and may not be conscious that you are operating from the impression of your past experiences.

So how to become conscious of the beliefs formed in the past and what should be done to change these feelings? In order to change these feelings you need to release the emotion trapped in your consciousness. This can be done by following below mentioned steps:

1. Sit quietly and identify the exact feeling of lack or absence in you. Answer this question: What according to my feeling do I lack in myself? Write whatever comes to you. You may feel that you lack confidence, intelligence, beauty, love, gratitude, kindness, compassion etc.

2. Understand the fact that your sense of lack is not without reason as nothing is without a reason. It is based on you past experience and the most impressionable incidents are the ones that happen in our childhood. So if you are able to remember any such incident that led you to feel a sense of lack then completely recall the incident and experience the pain that you suffered back then. This is important because even though the incident happened so many years ago and everything around your life must have changed now but the pain is sill trapped inside you and it is important to release that pain to change your feeling and belief.

3. If you are unable to recall anything just feel the emotion of lack and see how much pain it is causing you. Completely experience the emotion till it is gone. Once you release your emotions, your feeling will change and your perception about yourself will also change. Also you will get in touch with the wholeness of your being rather than living from the impression created due to a past incident. When you will be able to live from your true state of being, you will feel joy.

So release the impressions of past experiences and get in touch with your inner wholeness and experience the joy and happiness that is already a true state of your being. Know for sure that minus the painful experiences of past and minus our interpretations from these incidences, we are all beings of consciousness and happiness is our true nature. So release all pain from the past and reclaim your true identity.

How to have harmony in relationships?

2009-07-24T17:52:00.010+05:30

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Life can only be enjoyed completely if lived in harmony with people around us, be it family, friends, or coworkers. The moment harmony is disrupted joy is gone from life. However, all of us experience moments in life where harmony in relationships is lost and peace of mind is also lost along with it. It happens even with people we love and in relationships that we value and that are important for us in our life.

So the question is how this can be changed and how can we have harmony in relationships?

Well, in order to have harmony in relationships we must first understand that we human beings are a bundle of energy and we are constantly interacting with the environment around us. So the energy of environment interacts with our energy and impacts us in a positive or negative way depending upon the kind of energy it is and the kind of energy state we are in. So every conscious human being is sensitive to its environment and is constantly getting impacted by the energy of the environment.

For example, if you go to a funeral, the feelings and emotions of the people and whole atmosphere there has a particular impact on you and you become serious, contemplative, introspective, and maybe even sad. You must observe that this happens because the environment there has an impact on your thoughts and feelings and you cannot help but think about the fragility of life and tend to feel differently about life as long as you remain there.

On the other hand if you go to a party where loud music is playing and everyone is dancing it will be difficult to remain in a contemplative mood and your mood will automatically shift according to the cheerful environment around you. So it is important to note that environment has got its own energy and it impacts the energy of people who are in that environment.

Another important fact is that the energy has a vibration. Therefore, just as the energy changes, the vibration also changes along with it.

So if you come in contact with a person who is insecure by nature or fearful by nature that person will have a particular energy and its corresponding vibration. This person’s energy then interacts with your energy and impacts your energy and vibration as well. This happens because the dominating vibration in that person is that of insecurity and fear and it tries to find the same echo in you in order to connect with you. In case you too have some insecurity and fear inside you then you will also experience the same emotions and your state of energy would shift. Now since this person is brining out uncomfortable emotions in you, it would not be a pleasant experience for you to be with that person or relate with him. This would result in your losing harmony with him.

So does it mean that you should run away from people who are negative, fearful, or insecure? Well, you cannot live life like this and it is not possible to live without any relationships in life. Also you may find such people everywhere and you cannot afford to ignore them if they happen to be your family members, friends, or coworkers. You cannot change the emotional states of others, so the best thing is to change yours. This will keep you afloat even when surrounded by such people.

For this you must identify your own emotions when they surface in presence of such persons and get liberated from these emotions. For this you need to identify how the people are impacting you. In order to identify this do the following exercise:

1. Write the names of persons who are in important relationship with you both at work and at home.

2. In front of each name write the instances when you lose harmony with these people. Write the name of the emotion that they normally generate at such times, i.e. do they send fear vibes, or insecure vibes etc. What is their energy vibration at that time?

3. Write how these vibes impact you. What response do they generate in you? Write the name of the response, do you feel fear, anger, or insecurity etc.

4. Once you identify your own emotion, identify the belief behind the emotion. Your belief is the thought that is causing you to experience this emotion.

5. Completely experience the pain that this belief has caused you. When you experience the pain that this belief has caused you, your belief will change and so will the emotion and when you lose your own fear the outside fear cannot impact you.

So change your own vibration to live harmoniously with all types of people, and in every environment, and enjoy harmony in relationships all through your life.

How to live an extraordinary life?

2009-07-04T13:40:00.015+05:30

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Life is an extraordinary gift and all of us would like to have an extraordinary experience of living it. However, most of us find ourselves stuck in a monotonous, ordinary, and routine existence. We try to bring some extra joy by going to a restaurant, party, or for a movie, but after a while this too becomes a routine affair and stops exciting us.

We often wonder if it is possible to break out of this routine and enjoy an extraordinary life.

Well, it is possible to live this kind of life provided you understand how you have managed to create this present reality using your mind.

For this you must first understand how the mind works.

Understand the functioning of your mind:

Mind is like a computer and it just executes your commands. You may argue that you always command your mind to give you the best things in the world then why it does not execute these commands. Well, you must understand that your commands are not your conscious thoughts and desires. Your command is the continuous inner dialogue going on inside you. Whatever you say to yourself within the mind is interpreted by the mind as your command. Then based on this inner dialogue your mind creates a picture. Once the picture is formed, the mind supplies you with ideas about bringing this picture into your reality. It is important to note that mind generates ideas on the basis of the picture. Mind works like an architect; it keeps this picture as the blueprint and continuously looks at it and supplies you with ideas to create this picture in your reality. It creates an exact replica of this picture in your physical reality.

So if your inner dialogue about life is this that life is boring, tiring, and monotonous, your mind creates a picture depicting this dialogue. After this it supplies you with ideas that are based on this picture. Since the actions are always based upon ideas, so when you act in accordance with these ideas, these actions bring this experience into your reality.

So now that you know how your present ordinary experience of life is being created by your inner dialogue, you can very well change this experience by changing your inner dialogue. Once the inner dialogue is changed mind will create a different picture and based on that it will supply you with different ideas. So it is very important to change your inner dialogue. For this let us do the following exercise:

1. Become aware of your current inner dialogue about your life, finance, relationships, career, health, self image etc. Then pick any one area and start writing whatever comes to your mind regarding it without pause. Repeat this process with all the areas one by one. This exercise will reveal to you your inner dialogue about each area of your life and you will also be able to look at the picture that your mind has created based on this dialogue.

2. Once you have identified your dialogue and picture that you want to change, then completely experience the emotions associated with it. Release all emotions of pain and fear by completely experiencing them. It is important to experience the fear and pain associated with the picture because it is the tendency of the mind to give attention to these emotions. Fear holds the attention of mind and it is the nature of mind to supply ideas in form of thoughts regarding the object of its focus. For example, if you suddenly spot a lizard on the ceiling right above your head and if you are fearful of lizards you will not be able to take your attention away from it. Same is the case with a picture that is painful and makes you feel sad. Since the mind does not allow you to move past a picture of fear or pain, therefore if you want to make mind move past this picture you need to release these emotions by experiencing them.

Once you will experience your emotions, your inner dialogue will change and so will the picture in your mind. When the picture will be changed into a positive one, your mind will automatically start supplying you with ideas that will bring this picture into your reality.

So my dear friends create beautiful pictures of joy, love, adventure, and abundance and live an extraordinary life.

Recognize the power of aligned present action to create desired future

2009-07-01T16:44:00.006+05:30

It is a natural human tendency to dream of a beautiful future. However, we all know that mere imagination cannot take us there. We need to take action.

In spite of this knowledge most of us often postpone taking action into a distant future. Due to this we become uncertain about realizing our desired future, and life loses its charm for us.

So now the question is how this can be changed?

Well, this can be changed by recognizing the fact that it is the present action, which when aligned with future action brings the desired result without fail.

This can be understood with help of an illustration:

Suppose you want to build a two-storied house. Now in order to build this house you will have to first build the foundation. After this you will build the wall brick by brick, and then build the roof. It is only after this that you can proceed to build the second story. You simply cannot build the second story without first building the foundation. So in this example laying the foundation stone and building the foundation would be the present action on the basis of which the future action, i.e. roofing and building the second story will be taken.

Unless this present action is taken, future action is not possible.

Similarly, in case of your life, if you have some goals and you want to achieve them, you need to identify the present actions that are the necessary steps for your future actions.

Power of aligned present actions:

An action that is completely aligned with your future action is the most powerful action and is sure to bring into experience the reality that you want to create.

Why is it so?

This is because an aligned present action eliminates the possibility of failure of future actions.

You can align the present actions with future actions by taking such actions in the present that are critical to the success of the future actions.

However, the most important thing is to understand what an aligned action is, as most of the time the aligned actions do not appear to be the aligned actions.

In order to understand this let us consider the above example once again. While building your two-storied house, you may come to know that your land is infected with termite, which may be a threat to the foundation and the structure above it. In this case you may take the action of treating your land with anti termite chemicals.

If you look at it, the activity of treating your land with anti termite is not a house building activity; however, it is in alignment with your future action and goal of building the house.

Similarly, in your life also you may come across such situations where you may need to take actions which may not directly bring the results but may be critical actions for realizing your goal. For example, you may have a dream of growing higher in ranks in your organization, but you may have a challenging relationship at home that may be draining your energy. This may be resulting in your inability to focus at work and you may be losing opportunities of growth. In this case the action of healing that relationship would be an aligned and important present action that would enable you to take necessary future action in the direction of achieving your goal.

Let us now look at the reason why spending time on healing this relationship is an important aligned action for achieving your goal:

1. When the relationship will be healed, it will allow you to focus at your work. As a result you will get better ideas and would be able to perform better.

2. Since you will take the responsibility of healing your relationship at home, you will reflect that nature at work as well. This would help establish your credibility as a responsible person and you will be able to win trust of people in your organization.

3. When you win people’s trust and are effective at your work you are given more responsibility, i.e. a promotion at work.

So even though the action of healing the relationship will not directly bring about the result in future but it has the power to influence the success of your future actions.

Now in order to recognize the aligned present actions that you need to take to achieve your goals, do the following exercise:

1. Identify the actions that you want to take in your future to achieve your goals.

2. Identify the issues that you need to address in your present and that are necessary prerequisite for your future actions.

3. Identify how these issues impact the success of your future actions.

4. Identify the actions you need to take in your present to address these issues.

Now, take the action and move enthusiastically towards your cherished future.

How to access wisdom of heart?

2009-06-20T18:03:00.005+05:30

Each one of us would like to act wisely in order to become successful in life. We would like to have more insight into life. However, most of us are unaware of the way in which wisdom can be accessed. This is because we are habitual of using our mind and have never used our heart.

Besides, in many cases the heart itself has become incapable of providing any guidance at all. Why is it so? What can be done to change this?

This is so because over a period of time we have suppressed many emotions in our heart. As a result, the heart has become heavy with stored pain and has become incapable of giving any guidance.

So how can we bring it back to life?

This can be done by releasing the pain stored in the heart as the stored pain blocks all the experience of reality.

Why it does so?

In order to understand this we must first understand that both pain and pleasure are part of experience of life. Therefore, experiencing only pleasure and denying the pain is like living only half and therefore incomplete life.

So if we are not experiencing pain that we have encountered in life we are denying a reality. When we ignore the reality of our heart by choosing not to experience the pain, we act as if there is no pain. This act creates a departure from reality. When this happens, we live in an illusory world and gradually lose all touch with reality.

Once we step into this illusory world, we create more illusions to support our existing illusion. It becomes a never ending cycle of creating illusion after illusion and living from there.

Friends, these illusions are nothing but the arguments created by our mind to sustain our denial of reality that is painful. Once we reach this point, we try to prove our arguments right and fight to protect them. This is termed as having ego. Therefore, all egoists are those who have suppressed lot of pain inside their hearts.

In such a situation, one is unable to act wisely because once he blinds himself to one reality; it blinds him from all reality. Wisdom is nothing else but an authentic response based on reality. When a person moves away from reality his responses also are no longer authentic and therefore he fails to succeed in life.

Therefore, it is important to acknowledge that pain is as real as pleasure and it is equally important to experience the pain as it is to experience pleasure.

So now that you are clear about the importance of experiencing pain, I will tell you how to experience pain?
1. First of all find a solitary place, where nobody can see you or hear you (a closed room will do).

2. Play some soft soul soothing music (Chants, mantras, or instrumental sounds are fine). However, it is not necessary if it distracts you.

3. Now focus your awareness on your heart and recall your most recent hurt, experience the pain completely. If you feel like crying, cry. If it only feels like heaviness in the heart just completely feel it till it is gone.

In order to release all pain from your heart you need to repeat this process from time to time.

Initially, it will be an upsetting process depending upon how much pain you have stored. Therefore, it is recommended that you keep some symbol of faith near you that gives you strength. It may be a picture of the deity you worship, or a holy text, or even a picture of your parents.

When you will experience the pain it will, of course, be an unpleasant experience. Lot of emotions will come out and you will feel disturbed, however if you maintain faith and take a resolve to release all stored pain, then at one point the pain will suddenly disappear, and you will be left with a happy feeling in the heart.

After this process you will feel lighter and start seeing many things in a different light. The more frequently you will do this, more you will establish your connection with reality and act in a more insightful way.

Activate wisdom of heart

2009-06-20T17:58:00.001+05:30

Wisdom is a higher intelligence, which is a function of heart.

All of us normally use the intelligence of mind, which includes understanding, reasoning, logic, and analysis. Therefore, in order to move towards using higher intelligence, we must first understand how the intelligence of mind is limited and why we should use wisdom of heart more often than we usually do.

First, let us understand what mind is.

Our mind is a collection of our thoughts. These thoughts can be categorized into our beliefs, opinions, ideas, values, and principles. Therefore, when we look at reality and try to understand with our mind, we see it through our own thoughts. This becomes our own interpretation of reality rather than a true account of reality.

This happens because mind only sees what it is conditioned to see and ignores the rest. Therefore, it becomes impossible to experience reality as it is, using only our mind.

As a result our actions remain flawed and we fail to get the desired results.

This can be more clearly understood with help of an example:
Suppose your wallet is lost somewhere in the house. As you start searching for it, you keep looking at same place over and over again because you always keep it there. So your mind is expecting to find it only there. The expectation limits your search only to a specific area and you become oblivious to other possibilities where it can be found. This results in you not being able to find it. It is only after you suspend your expectation and think of other possibilities from your heart that you are able to find it.

Though it is too simple an example to understand how the mind limits our actions in more complex and challenging situations of life, yet it gives you an idea about how mind actually sometimes acts as a blinder.

This also explains acts of terror where the terrorists are blinded by the perceptions of mind and there is total absence of wisdom of heart. They are unable to think even in their own interest and give up their lives for some ideas of mind.

So it is in our interest that we start using wisdom of heart. Now the question is how do we activate this wisdom? For this, we need to activate the heart first. In order to do this, we need to bring back to life the heart that has been numbed by the pain of past hurts. This can only be done by releasing the pain and the pain is released only by completely experiencing it.

We may ask how experiencing pain can activate our heart’s intelligence. This is a question that often comes to our mind when we are asked to experience pain. We doubt completely the rationale behind the process. We feel that it is useless to remember old hurts and cry over them. It makes us feel weak and smells of a defeatist attitude in life.

Well, it is natural to avoid any experience of pain.

However, there is something that we need to recognize there.

Consider this for a moment, if there is excess salt in your soup and you try to balance the taste by adding more sugar and pepper, still the saltiness remains and spoils the taste of the soup. Why is it so? It is because even though sugar has been added, the excess salt has not gone anywhere, it is there.

Similarly, when the pain from old hurts remains, no matter how much we try to enjoy life through other activities, yet joy of good experiences also is spoiled.

Like if we want to enjoy a good soup we will have to throw this and prepare a new one, in the same way if we want to enjoy life, we will have to throw the old stored pain from our heart.

Pain is thrown out only by experiencing it. There is no other way. Also, the moment we experience pain, we become stronger as an individual.

Once the heart is free of pain, it starts guiding you in life. It can guide you in form of a feeling, or an inner voice, or just a sense of knowing, but it certainly gives you far more accurate account of reality than your limited mind.

So my dear friends go ahead and conquer the pain, allow the wisdom of your heart to guide you, and reclaim the life of joy that you so much deserve.

Believe in the possibility to manifest dreams

2009-06-20T17:42:00.001+05:30

Each one of us wants to live a dream life. A life where all our wishes are fulfilled and we achieve everything that we want to achieve.

However, very few amongst us really believe in the possibility of realizing their dreams and living a dream life. This is because the dreams appear bigger than our present reality and our present capability of achieving them.

Well, friends a dream would not be a dream if it is not a higher reality. It would not inspire you if it is not something more magnificent than your present reality and if it does not require you to become much more than what you presently are.

Therefore, by no means you should leave the pursuit of your dreams as there can be no life more painful than the one where you leave the pursuit of your dreams. A life not lived in pursuit of your dreams is an average life, devoid of any excitement. It is not really lived but just passed by doing activities that help you survive but not truly enjoy your life. Think for a moment, we just have this life and not going after your dream would mean always living a lesser life than your dream life.

Therefore, start pursuing your dreams. Take them out of the closet and show them the light of the day. You will soon begin to feel a shift in your heart. Even if you do not change a thing in your present schedule, yet by just entertaining the possibility of realizing your dream you would bring back the sunshine in your life. Life will appear more beautiful and you will go about your day with a lot more enthusiasm and joy. As you will then be driven by your dream, your purpose.

As you will do it, you will notice that lot many things will shift around you to create room for your dedicated effort towards your dream. The universe would shift itself to give way to you. This will happen because your dreams are the best possibilities of occurrences for the creation to perfect itself. When you move ahead in the direction of your dreams it is the creation that moves ahead as you are an integral part of the creation. Therefore, at any cost entertain the possibility that you can realize all your dreams.

Your dreams are far and you need to cover the distance by growing into that person who can achieve his dreams. This is the journey of life, a movement towards your dreams, propelled by learning and personal growth.

This would not only make you happy but also give a meaning to your life.

Now consider that how you will achieve your dreams if you entertain the possibility of realizing them. Well, when you will entertain the possibility, your thoughts will go in that direction. When you give a deep thought to something, you become clear about what you ought to do. You already know it but you are not conscious of it because you have not yet decided to pursue your dreams. It is the decision that brings out the action. The results follow only after you take the action.

Therefore, the first step towards realizing your dream is to believe in the possibility of its realization. From the womb of possibility, the reality emerges.

What needs to change to change situations?

2009-06-19T17:55:00.004+05:30

Sometimes we come across such situations in life that are unpleasant and disturbing and no matter how hard we try, they do not change.

What needs to be done in such circumstances? What kind of action would bring about a change?

Well, every situation is designed specifically according to our learning needs. Therefore, if we are able to understand the design of a situation, we will be able to learn whatever we need to learn from it. Our learning is nothing but an evolution in thought leading to a change in our perception.

When a new perception emerges, it enables us to take a higher action that is more effective in dealing with the situation. Such an action has the power to bring us out of the difficult situation.

So now the question is how to understand the design of the situation and how to reach to the point of learning from it?

Well, you must have felt that whenever you go through a difficult situation it makes you feel trapped in a specific way. If you identify your trap, you will be able to identify what you need to learn.

So what is a trap?

A trap is a fear, limitation, or set of limitations in you that surface in a particular situation. In fact that situation is appearing in your life because you have that particular limitation in you. Your limitation itself is creating the situation in your life. So if you keep focusing on the way to come out of the situation, it will not do much to change the situation. However, if you identify your own limitation because of which the situation is arising, and if you overcome that limitation, the problem itself would not look like a problem anymore.

This can be more clearly understood with help of an example. Suppose you are stuck with a boss who is piling you with lot of work that is far in excess of being within reasonable limits. Such a situation would be unpleasant and disturbing for you and you will feel trapped. Also, you will feel that since he is your boss you will have to obey him. You might feel that it is your boss who is causing you the problem by being unreasonable. However, if you just slightly modify your way of looking at the situation, you will grow higher in life.

Instead of blaming the boss, if you ask yourself this question, “Why am I allowing my boss to do this to me?” then you will be able to identify your own limitation.

In this particular example, you may see that the reason your boss is able to do this to you is because you are unable to say “No” to him. Now if you ask another question to yourself, “what is the reason that I am unable to say “No” to him”, then you will be able to see your fears and beliefs that are not allowing you to assert yourself.

Once you identify your fears and beliefs, you need to overcome them. How do you do that?

For this you need to sit silently at a quiet place and do the following exercise:

1. Focus upon the pain that this fear or belief is causing you. Completely experience the pain. Once the pain is gone your fear will go and belief will also change.

2. Recognize the amount of suffering this fear and belief has caused in your life. Again experience the pain completely.

With this exercise your fear will go completely and this situation would no longer appear to be a problem to you. This would enable you to take the right action. This action will bring about the desired change in your situation. So go ahead, break the trap, and change your situation.

Understand failure to understand success

2009-06-18T16:57:00.002+05:30

All of us always want to succeed in life; it is quite a natural desire. When the desire is natural the fulfillment should also be natural. Yet we observe failures happening in our life and in lives of others. Why is it so?

In order to understand this we must understand that nature is always perfect. The sun never fails to rise, earth never fails to rotate, and birds never fail to fly. Then why human beings do not always succeed in their endeavors?

What exactly causes human failure and what needs to be done to correct this?

Well, the cause of human failure is our expectation to fail. It is only human beings who entertain the possibility of failure, and therefore succeed in failing.

Let us now see how the expectation to fail leads to failure.

For this we must look at how the expectation works. Whenever we expect to fail we see a picture in our mind where we are failing, then a thought comes to our mind, “what if I fail?”, and then we feel fear. When mental picture, thought, and feeling becomes negative, we start losing confidence. This reduces our energy, and once the energy goes down we are unable to focus. Hereafter it becomes a struggle to succeed and we fail. This whole experience leaves a bad feeling and memory that serves as an emotional reference whenever we attempt to do something again. Now we combine expectation along with a previous experience and again repeat our failure. Therefore, it becomes a loop. This explains why those who fail keep failing most of the time because they are drawing references from their past failures.

So here is a great catch, if we turn around our expectations, we can turn around our results. This is something really empowering. All you need to do is change your expectation and change your results forever. You will always be successful no matter what you do. Now the question is how to change your expectations?

In order to come out of our negative expectations, we need to go to the root i.e. we must find out when we learned to expect a negative outcome. Well friends, all such learning happens in our childhood and most of such things we learn from our parents or elders and they learn it from theirs. When the parents fear that we may fail to do something, we too lose trust in ourselves and this is when we begin to form negative expectations. Our parent’s expectation about us becomes our own expectation from ourselves.

Therefore if you have such a challenge in life, do the following exercise right now and liberate yourself from the clutches of negative expectation:
1. Write down your current failures and see what your expectation at that point from yourself was.

2. Then write down all the times in the past when similar incidents have happened, note what your expectation each time was. Completely experience the pain of failure and let it go.

3. Then see what your parent’s expectations were from you. This gets little tricky here. Often parents motivate and praise their children and at a conscious level you may feel that they always inspired you, and that they always wanted you to succeed. Well, this is where the difference lies. They always WANTED you to succeed and they did not KNOW that you will succeed. They did not BELIEVE that you will succeed.

Consider this for a moment, do the birds ever entertain a doubt in the ability of their offspring to fly. No, they simply teach them to fly, and they fly.

Similarly, there are things that even your parents believed without doubt about you. For example, they never doubted in your ability to speak, walk, or run and you are doing these things without failing. Therefore, whatever, they believed without a doubt about you, you could do that, however whatever they doubted became your doubt in your own capacity.

4. Once you are able to see your parent’s doubt in your success see that as a child this led you to believe that there is something wrong with you as you attributed their doubt to your individual lack of capability. As you will see this you will feel pain inside your heart. Completely feel this pain, if you feel like crying, cry it out. Feel the pain till it is completely gone.

5. After, you release your pain, you will be able to see that it was just a parental fear and there is nothing wrong with your capabilities. When your perception about yourself will change, you will start expecting different results in your life

You are now on your success track, so enjoy each moment of your journey towards your success.

Profit by managing inner energy

2009-06-12T12:00:00.003+05:30

Life depends upon choices. At every instant life is giving us options from which we have to choose.

So it becomes very important to learn what kind of choices would result in gain and which ones would result in loss.

Well, it all depends on energy.

While making a choice all you have to do is to look at your energy. If one choice reduces your energy then there is no need to make that choice in spite of all the reasons in its favor.

On the other hand, if a choice increases your energy then that is a right choice, even though there are sufficient reasons against it.

Why so?

This is because when a choice is made that reduces our energy it will not help us sustain the gains made by logic. There will be gains due to logic but since the energy is not there they will not last long. We need energy to sustain profits in life.

I will explain this with an illustration, at one point my younger brother was looking for a rented accommodation as the house where my brother was living, had been sold by its owner and the new owners had to move in. My brother saw several places and he froze on two options. One, was a newly built house in an average locality with a rent that was five thousand rupees less than the other one, which also was a decent house but not as spacious as the first one, though in a better locality. So the second option was costlier for him.

It made more sense for my brother to go for the first house as it was saving him money and was a beautiful and newly built house. The other house was smaller, old, and costlier, though in a good location.

However, as he decided about moving into the first location, he felt his energy dipping. He started feeling sad about moving from his present accommodation. Still, as he had to take a rational decision he talked to the owner of this first house and as it turned out the owner reduced the rent even further by two thousand rupees. In spite of all this my brother felt a constant drop in his energy at the very thought of moving into that house.

Finally, he realized that he will not be able to sustain the gains from saving even seven thousand rupees if his energy continues to drop. He visualized that if he would return to a house from work that would not be sufficiently inviting it would not rejuvenate him for the next day’s work. He realized that if he would lose his energy, his performance at work would also suffer. This would result in his losing chances of growth and cost him much more in the long run than these seven thousand rupees.

Well, he was bang on point. He changed his choice and decided to move into the other house at a higher rent but the moment he shifted his choice, his energy soared. He moved into this house and in no time he got a hike of ten thousand rupees that too in this time of recession…phew... and very soon after that he bought a new car bigger than his previous one, and that too is not the end of the story, there is more…he got recognized as one of the top performers in his organization and was made a part of “high potential performer’s group” who were to be given exposure at more challenging projects. All this happened in less than one year of his moving into this new house.

So friends, the learning now, the profits earned from the logical choices if made at the cost of energy cannot be sustained and result in higher losses. It is the energy gained that brings in riches than the mere logic.

How to become clear about your choice?

2009-06-11T09:41:00.003+05:30

Most of us are often confused about our choices in life. We wonder why we do not know what we want. If the choice is ours why we should not know it? If we would not know our choices then who would? Moreover, if someone else decides what our choice should be, then it cannot be considered as our choice, it would be that person’s choice about us.

However, our problem is not that others have other choices about us, but our problem is that we are not convinced about our own choices. Therefore, we are creating room for other people to interfere with our choices. It is our own confusion that is the problem.

Well friends, if you want to live a life of clarity do the following exercise:

Sit comfortably at a quiet place, where you will not be disturbed.
Now feel in your heart what your choice is regarding any one area of your life where you have to make a choice. Notice that your choice actually is the desire of your heart and it will make you happy if you make this choice.
Now look at the doubts that arise in your mind against the choice and allow your mind to question it.
Now, again shift your focus to your heart and see what it has to say about the doubt that the mind is raising by feeling its response in your heart.
Picture this process as a dialogue between the mind and the heart where you are simply a witness and after listening to the dialogue you have to give your decision, i.e. make your choice. You are the choice maker.

Continue to repeat this process until there is no more doubt left in your mind and your heart is filled with peace.

Remember, you will know that your are clear about your choice if your mind is silent and there are no more questions left in your mind about the choice.

After this process you will feel calm inside and clear about yourself. Also, you will begin to feel happy about your choice. When there is clarity in mind and peace in heart, you go ahead in life with lot more conviction.

So do this and enjoy the bounce in your sure footsteps. You are now clear, confident, and ready to take actions. So good luck and have fun.

Recognize internal value to create external wealth

2009-06-10T18:23:00.004+05:30

Having financial security and abundance is something that each one of us desires. Everyone dreams of a life where there is permanent financial security and abundance.

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How can we reach that stage in life where we can be sure that we will always have abundance and will be totally secure from the financial standpoint?

If you really want to reach such a stage in life, then it is important to look within and assess your internal value because it is your internal value that determines your extrinsic wealth and security.

So now the question is how to assess the internal value? In order to know your internal value, you need to answer the following question in your heart.

Whenever you receive a financial setback i.e. lose a job or lose big money in business how do you feel towards yourself?

If you feel that though it is a setback but you still have potential in you, then you do not lose your internal value. This is because it is your potential that is valuable. When you realize that you are valuable, you are inspired to take new actions and hence you keep repeating your success. When you look at your potential, you also realize that it is only due to this potential that you got your previous job or your previous success in business. Therefore, having that potential makes you into a valuable individual. A temporary loss does not take your core competence away from you; it only takes away the profit that you earned by using your potential. When the core potential that generated that profit is still there within you, there is no reason to feel valueless as you can do it all over again.

The legendry Indian actor Amitabh Bachchan when suffered such huge losses in his company that he was on verge of filing for bankruptcy, he asked himself the same question, “What is it that I can still do?” and the reply that he got from within was “acting.” He recognized his potential and thus his value as an actor, which had created his past success. This inspired him to approach his old friend who was a director and producer. He went to him and asked for work. He could muster the courage to ask for work because he believed in his value as an actor. He totally believed in his core competence. He got the work, and never looked back, and created the greatest comeback history. Not only did he recover from his financial losses but he could also build a brand for himself that is still going strong.

However, friends on receiving a financial setback if you start feeling worthless, stop believing in your potential, then you lose your internal value. In reality, it is not the incidence of loss but you who is devaluing yourself. If you do not believe in your potential, how can others, who do not even know you, believe in you? It is only after you are convinced about your potential and its value that you can convince others.

So if you are feeling worthless right now, go ahead and take a paper and pen and write down what your core competence has been and what have you achieved with it? How many challenges have you overcome and how have you come out as a winner? You must include not just your professional achievements but your personal achievements as well.

When you have a big list ready, take a deep breath and let the feeling of your achievements sink in.

Also write down how valuable you have been in your personal and professional life and what value you have added in lives of those you have touched? Let your inner value completely shine from within. Now move ahead with confidence and take action. You are all set to create the abundance in your life that is going to last forever.

Change aspirations to increase potential and riches

2009-06-10T17:57:00.003+05:30

It is a natural human desire to have wealth in life and feel wealthy. We don’t just want to have more wealth but we also want to feel like we have more and relax in realization that we have a lot.

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So the basic desire is to feel that we have more and also to have it simultaneously.

Now the question is that if that is the desire why we do not feel like we have more and why it always feels like we don’t have enough even though we may be seeing that we have much more than many.

There is only one simple reason for it and the reason is that we constantly work from the same level of potential and also stay at the same level of potential. This happens because we do not create new aspirations that would require us to access our higher potential and at the same time build our potential as well.

Friends, consider this for a moment, we keep changing many things in life, like our jobs, our, locations, and sometimes even our plans, however, what we do not change is our aspiration.

We are stuck with the same old aspirations that do not mobilize us sufficiently.

If we are working at the same level of potential then it is because we are not choosing to live by higher aspirations that would invite us to grow, cajole us to learn new things thus giving us more skills and insights, or motivate us sufficiently to move and completely put us on a path of constant growth.

When we change aspirations, we change the amount of potential that we access and also build new potential on the way.

The more we access our potential and more we go on building our potential, more we get paid in life. Also, when we feel like we have so much in terms of potential that is translating into wealth, we feel relaxed and both having more wealth and feeling wealthy becomes our reality.

So my dear friends check your aspirations, work out the financial dimension of your aspirations. Ask yourselves following questions:

What is my aspiration?
Where will it take me financially?
How much of my potential will I be accessing to realize my aspirations?
How much potential I will build on my way to realize my aspirations?

If it feels like it will give you a sense of having lot of wealth, stay there but if it feels less, change your aspiration. Go ahead, take a leap, and soar high.