Most of all, I hope that more data about the joys, hopes, struggles, strife and triumphs of those in the transgender community will provide impetus for political change.

Transgender Survey

So now that I’ve convinced you to spend a few minutes of your time for a good cause Please take this transgender mental health survey. It won’t take much time, but will provide valuable data for those who seek to understand us better.

I hope you had a fabulous 4th July, and if you were lucky enough to have a long weekend, I hope it was a luxurious blessing!

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P.S. If you are a researcher who would like to publicize a research survey within the transgender community, please contact me at vanessalaw@crossdresserheaven.com – I am more than happy to share your survey with readers of Crossdresser Heaven.

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Transgender success stories have been rarer on Crossdresser Heaven. I think part of the reason is that many more people identify as crossdressers than as transgendered. If you are transgendered or transsexual I would welcome your success story. I think it’s inspirational for our readers to hear from those who have found success in more complete transformations into the feminine.

Send a quick email to me at vanessalaw@crossdresserheaven.com and include a brief introduction, your femme name, a short story (500-750 words) and a picture (optional). I hope to hear from you.

Joanna’s Transgender Success Story

Thank you for the invitation to share some of my story, I do so in the hopes that it may help some of the other women with issues they maybe having and to let them know that what they are feeling is alright. Not all of us find out the need to dress early, for some it comes later in life. In my case it was last year when I was 50, I had always known there was something different about me but didn’t know what or even where to look to find out. If I could have pinpointed it back in the ’70s there would have been no way I could have done anything about it since my father was out of the Edwardian mold and there is no way he would have allowed his first born son to have dressed and acted like a woman, not only that cross dressing and transgender were heavily stigmatized in those days and he did not want his social, or professional standing jeopardized by his son doing that.

The result of all of this is that I was never able to explore what it was that made me different, nor was I able to do anything about it until quite recently. I went through life doing what was expected of a male, working hard, having kids, and the rest of the lie, I always wondered why (since I was doing what was expected) was I so miserable, why I couldn’t hold a job or hold on to a relationship or much of anything else that seemed important at the time.  I am on my third marriage and this one, too, is going to end in the near future; there have been many issues in the relationship many of which may be directly or indirectly caused by my internal conflicts.

Some time ago I had an odd dream, it was one of me happy and content but in women’s clothing; I had no idea at the time that there was anything more to this than just one of those weird dreams that I’ve had on occasion.  I told my current partner about it, we both had a good laugh and I denied that there was anything to it; however it did open the door to me thinking about what was ‘wrong’ with me again. I mentioned to my partner some things that I would like to try she thought them odd but did oblige me. The more I think about this the more it was the watershed moment, she and I went and purchases some women’s clothes. Sounds good, partner is on board what could be better, well sad to say she wasn’t fully onboard with the idea. She would help me shop but then didn’t want to see me in the clothes we had purchased. I am wondering if her thought was, if I oblige him a little but keep the lid on him wearing them he will give up.

Well having the clothing and occasionally being able to wear it only opened the flood gate to the underlying issue. I had been seeing a psychiatrist and counselor for other matters and discussed this issue with them as well. Before I talked to them about my cross dressing and other feelings I had done plenty of research on the internet about cross dressing and any other related scenarios. It was during this research that I ran into several sites with information on Gender Identity Disorder (GID) and trans-sexuality. The more I read up on the condition the more I could identify with a lot of what was being presented in the line of depression, failures and stress caused by the persons brain map not being in alignment with what they were dealt by nature.

Here in begins the next big problem in my life, I told my partner but only after much cajoling, frustration and anger on her part. My reason for not opening up immediately was that although I wanted to be open I also didn’t want to start another fight since there had been lots of those already. Well needless to say when I did tell her, all hell broke loose, the accusations, things like I’m no Lesbo (her words not mine), what about me, how can you be so selfish and the ever popular I want a divorce. Let me tell you there is nothing quite so painful as sitting at one computer when your partner is on her laptop and watching as she prints out all the pages of a do-it-yourself divorce kit. We still share the same house but not as man and wife, the relationship has moved from that to housemates and sometime girlfriends. How do you handle your partner’s anger and confusion? As one sister told me, in your partner’s eyes you are the ultimate other woman who has stolen her man and he isn’t coming back. She still goes into fight mode to try and re-win what was hers but somewhere along the way realizes it is futile because he is finally becoming what he was supposed to be all along.

I am luckier than some since in the smallish city I live in there is a psychiatrist and counselor, and my family doctor feels comfortable in dispensing the hormones which will begin my eventual complete transition. I identify as Joanna and live that way as much as possible however I have several hurdles to overcome before I can live the way I should full time. For those reading this who think they might have a Gender Identity problem I would recommend that you find a gender knowledgeable counselor and start exploring the issue with them. The acceptance of your gender status and the official diagnosis are not the end of the road, they are the beginning; there is no one to tell you just how far you must walk down the transition trail except yourself. I think in the back of the mind of every new transman or transwoman is the idea of SRS/GRS (sex reassignment surgery/ genial reassignment surgery). The procedure is expensive and IS NOT covered by most private or employer medical insurances. Ok so you now have your official diagnosis and all is going to be rosey right, slow down sister all is not as it seems now you have to make several big and life changing decisions things like:

• How do I come out to my partner (if I’m in a relationship)
• How about my blood family, how many of them can I trust well enough to tell
• Same for my friends
• How do I tell my employer that this man who has been working for them is actually a woman and what will their reaction be. I suggest you get to know your state’s/province’s labor laws so you can at least tell them that if they decide to fire you because of this there will be a human rights and labor relations board challenge.
• Once you change your name you need to deal with things like utilities, landlords, drivers licenses, car titles, land titles, banks and a seemingly endless list of things which need to have names changed on.
• not to mention planning things like electrolysis to remove unwanted hair (if you are transitioning to female)
• this list is actually quite long and some would say endless, but I included these to give you an idea what lays ahead.

Since being diagnosed and beginning to live part time (in the house only for now) as a woman I am not only calmer but see things more clearly. For once in my life I know what lies ahead and know the trail I must walk to attain my goals. So what’s ahead on this road for Joanna, my roadmap looks something like this:

• April 2009 official diagnosis
• May 2009 baseline blood work (free testosterone, lipids, CBC[red cells], General Chem., and prolactin)
• June 2009
  • counseling, appointment with family doc (should get my hormone prescription at this time)
• July 2009 psychiatrist appointment (get carry letter at this time)
• that’s as far out as I want to look right now

Remember you may try to hide this condition, and for decades may have some what succeeded; however it is all bout to become very public very fast.

To be continued…
Love
Joanna

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“That’s Great,” you might be thinking, “but I have no idea what reverse read means, and why you would be talking about it on Crossdresser Heaven.” Many crossdressers spend time practicing their feminine persona. Whether it’s makeup, hair style or the clothes they wear, most (but not all) crossdressers I’ve met have a desire to appear as a woman to others. To pass as a woman.

For a few of us it can be a fearful moment when someone sees through our veil of femininity – when we’re read as a man in a dress. (If you have this happen often, perhaps read through some tips for passing as a woman).

You guessed it – being reverse read is just the opposite. It’s being mistaken for a woman when you’re presenting as a man. This happened to me just recently when a nurse at the hospital mistook my wife and I for sisters. For a brief moment I almost answered her question as to our familial relationship with an affirmative, “Yes, we are sisters”. Then reality came crashing through my mind and I tentatively admitted our relationship was of a different nature.

I’ve been pondering what could cause one to be reverse read, and I think it’s primarily a combination of feminine movement and posture. Naturally, a crossdresser with a beard won’t have much luck passing or being reverse read, neither will a crossdresser with a military buzz cut. My hair isn’t much past my ears, and at 6’1” I’m quite tall for a woman, yet I’ve been reverse read on a few occasions. My favorite so far was in Palm Springs, where my wife and I were sun tanning in a spa and were addressed as ‘ladies’ by the waiter.

Have you ever been reverse read? I’d love to hear your story about being reverse read, take a moment to comment.

Hugs,
Vanessa
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A quick note before we meet Janice. I’ve had a few ladies offer to write fictional stories. While there are many sites that are eager for crossdressing fiction, I’d like to keep the stories on Crossdresser Heaven about real crossdressing triumphs. I feel that the authentic victory in our transgendered nature, however small, is worth celebrating and inspires others on their path.

If you have a real life crossdressing success story to share I’d love to share it with others on Crossdresser Heaven! Send me a quick email to my address at vanessalaw@crossdresserheaven.com and include a brief introduction, your femme name, a short story (500-750 words) and a picture (optional). I hope to hear from you. Now it’s time to meet Janice…

Meet Janice

My fem name is Janice Kay Davis. I am a 62 year “young” life-long cd in Dallas with a beautiful and supportive wife who accepts both sides of me and helps me be feminine when I go out with the “girls.”

  The first time I remember wearing any sort of female clothing was when I was about 5 years old. I tried on a pair of stockings (my mother’s I suppose) and they felt very exciting and normal to me. From the hose I “graduated” to hose, heels, panties, nighties, etc.

I knew of no one else in the world who did this, so I thought I was “weird” or perverted. I thought this way all through elementary and high schools. In college my junior year, I lived alone in a rooming house and had quite a collection of hose, heels, lingerie and often wore feminine things under my boy clothes as I went to classes. It just felt normal for me to have some article or two of feminine clothing on, even if I was “underdressed.” I almost always wore panties and a nightgown when I went to bed and felt very feminine when I awoke in a nightgown. It made me a little sad that I couldn’t dress as a girl on campus, but I knew that was only a dream.

Through several years (and several wives who could not or would not tolerate my fem side), I learned that there were many more men just like me who had strong feminine sides and liked to explore those sides by crossdressing. My current (and final) wife, as I said, fully accepts Janice Kay as a part of who I am. She helps me be more feminine for my “outings” and is entirely comfortable with it. She, and sites such as Christian Crossdresser has helped immeasurably in me coming to grips with who I am and the fact that God made me this way and, as we know, “He don’t make no junk.”

Thank you Christian Crossdresser and thanks and blessings to all other gurlz out there. Just remember, you were “fearfully and wonderfully weaved in the womb” to be who you are today.

Janice Kay Davis
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P.S. Janice, you look lovely for 62 years young – I can feel the joy in your smile even thousands of miles away.

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Their lack of enthusiasm does not deter me though – and shouldn’t deter you either This weekend I was out shopping in guy mode and had a phenomenal experience at a local Lucy Activewear. This was the second time I’ve shopped at Lucy, and the second time they provided stellar service – so much so that I felt compelled to share this with you.

Now, you may have already skipped to www.lucy.com to check out their selection. This leaves me wondering why you left in the middle of my post <grin>, and may leave you wondering why I pay $60 for a pair of yoga pants (like those in the image above I bought on the weekend) when Fred Meyer sells them for $20.

Two to three times a week I enjoy ninety minutes of hot yoga. It’s not only a great workout, but leaves me feeling cleansed from the inside when I’m done. I’ve found that what you wear in the sweltering heat makes the difference between a mediocre, frustrating practice and a truly uplifting one. Form fitting, moisture wicking, high quality clothes are a must. I’ve found that the clothes I buy from Lucy fit perfectly, look great and are a true joy to wear during hot yoga practice.

Okay, enough gushing about the quality of their clothes…

A Crossdresser Buys Yoga Capri’s

The first time I went into Lucy’s I was a bit nervous. It had been a while since I’d shopped for women’s clothes in person and wasn’t quite sure how it would be received. The lady helping me asked whether I was looking for someone, and I could see a warm friendly smile on her face when I told her that I was shopping for myself. She helped me find a few items, let me try them on, and even gave suggestions on what her male customers typically liked to wear. An A+ move for a crossdresser friendly store. After some small talk I left the store feeling overjoyed.

This weekend the experience was equally as wonderful. Though it was clear the shop assistant was a bit taken aback, she was eager to help me find what I was looking for. As I was checking out I met the lady who helped me on my first trip to Lucy. She recognized me and we chatted for a while. A nice way to end my shopping spree…

Shopping at Lucy is a great experience. If you’re looking for high quality ladies active wear and a friendly environment I highly recommend them.

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Have you had a great experience with a crossdresser friendly store? Comment and let me know. Other ladies will appreciate the tips on where to shop and stores that are accepting deserve the good publicity.

Until next time, Hugs
Vanessa

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As always, if you have a crossdressing success story you want to share please email vanessalaw@crossdresserheaven.com and include a brief introduction, your femme name, a short story (500-750 words) and a picture (optional). I hope to hear from you. Now on to Patrice’s crossdressing success story!

Patrice’s Crossdressing Success Story

It was Tuesday night and I already started to get butterflies in my stomach.  I was so excited, but a little afraid.  Here it is me, a 50 year plus crossdresser (a mature girl I like to be thought of), getting invited to a “girls pajama party.”  (BTW, you’re only as old as you think). The party was going to be Friday through Sunday at Melissa’s house.  She lived about 3 miles away from me.  I first met Melissa about 3 years ago when we were both buying some lingerie at a Macys sale.  I was dressed as “Patrice” (passable).  She complimented me on my choice of bras that I was purchasing, plus the rainbow assortment of lycra panties.  As we walked away, she said to me that I was pretty as a woman (she knew as did the cashiers and other customers, obviously) that I was a crossdresser.  No one bothered me.

Melissa and I both headed now to the Ladies Room.  (Shopping for a few hours – I also bought other items in store – can do this to any girl).  We both went into our stalls and did what we came to do do,  I was finished first and was washing and adjusting my makeup when Melissa came out of her stall and admired me freshening up my makeup.  She told me that I looked like a “pro.”  I thanked her and told her that I’ve been “dressing” for many years.  She said that she thought that more men should express “her” feminine side.  By choice, we exchanged numbers, including cells, and e-mail addresses.  We hit it off instantly.  She was like the miracle I always wanted to experience.

I couldn’t believe it, but later that night Melissa called me and asked how my new bras fit….I said they were perfect (38C)…..she said hers (36C) felt heavenly on her…..we chatted a few more minutes and decided from that moment to be friends.  Someday, if my readers would like, I’d write more about Melissa and me and my being “Patrice” with her (But, that’s another story).

Back to the PJ Party, Sharon and Mary Beth, both gg’s, were also coming to the party.  I had been introduced to them through Melissa over the years.  Of course, we all knew a lot about each other.  Sharon, a tall brunette was divorced from an abusive husband – thank goodness, there were no children.  Mary Beth was happily married and had two children.  She was about 5′6″ and had the most gorgeous blonde shoulder length hair.  (as an aside, one time Mary Beth told me about her pregnancies – I was so jealous.)  Melissa, well, I can tell you more as time goes by.

I packed for the party on Thursday afternoon and kept a list of all the things this girl needed to bring (shampoo, conditioner, medications, makeup, nighties, lingerie, several sets of clothes, shoes, slippers, etc.)  When I arrived, the other three girls were there…..we all gave each other hugs and kisses.  It seems everyone complimented the other one about something she was wearing.  I remember Melissa complimented me on the Spring flowery dress I was wearing.

I was wearing matching pale blue panties and bra…..no stockings.  (Of course, they all wanted to know what color lingerie I was wearing). I twirled around for my friends and we all giggled, just like teenagers.  Mary Beth said that her husband and children were away for the weekend on a camping trip and that she was really looking forward to her “girls” weekend.  I should point out that I have no body hair and have taken hormones for a few years.  I have small natural breasts (they feel so great when I just walk around braless), but always feel more comfortable when I wear my breasts pads.  My equipment down below is miniature because of the hormones.  Tucked in properly, it would be hard (oops, I didn’t mean literally) to notice any difference.  If you did look straight there, it looked like I was wearing a pad…….my panties were always tight and hugged me perfectly.

As we chatted and it seemed we all chatted at the same time, I knew I was a “woman” and I was so happy to be accepted by Melissa, Sharon and Mary Beth.  I typed enough for now, I think, but if you’d like, I’ll continue the rest of the story in Part 2….okay…..you can contact me at rjb7839@aol.com .  I’d love to hear your comments.  Thank you, Vanessa, for allowing me to write this short story.  Hopefully. it will be continued !!!!
Hugs, Patrice

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Skincare should not be an expensive, complicated regimen. The objective of department store sales associates is to sale you as much stuff as possible. So that clutter of products on the counter can seem overwhelming.

You already get up every morning to wash your face and brush your teeth. What if a good skincare routine involved just two more steps, would you do it?

Step 1: Use a facial cleanser made for your skin type. Oily-skinned individuals prefer gel and foam cleansers for that squeaky clean feel, but they don’t dry out the skin like bar soap can. Dry-skinned individuals prefer creamy-type cleansers, which leave a just moisturized feel to the skin.

For those who aren’t sure where you fall, here’s a clue. Oily people know they’re oily. Dry people know they’re dry. If you’re not sure-a little dry on the cheeks, a little oily on the forehead and nose-you have combination skin. Most people do. I have yet to find that elusive “normal skin-type” person. For those with combination skin, the type of cleanser you choose is a matter of personal preference. Try different types until you find one you like. And don’t spend tons of money. Grocery store brands are fine. The only no-no is bar soap. It is too waxy and contains deodorants and other chemicals not made for the face.

For those still battling acne, find a cleanser with an anti-bacterial ingredient, like triclosan or salicylic acid. My favorite is Bath and Body Works Antibacterial Hand Soap. It’s sometimes on sale 4 for $10.00. Buy the gel. The creamy cleanser burns the eyes.

Step 2: Most people have no idea why they should use a toner, so they don’t. Toners wipe away any residue from your makeup and cleanser. They can soothe irritated skin. But most importantly, they help your skin absorb moisture. Skin is like a sponge. When a sponge is damp it absorbs spills easier. If your face is damp, it absorbs the moisturizer better.

It is best to stay away from astringents, even with oily skin. They have too much alcohol and are drying. People with oily or acne-prone skin do everything to dry it out. Problem with that is skin needs moisture. By drying it out, the oil glands work harder to compensate; thereby, causing the skin to become oilier.

My favorite toner is good, old fashioned Witch Hazel. It’s a natural astringent that won’t dry out your skin. Look for it in the first aid section of your neighborhood pharmacy, next to alcohol and hydrogen peroxide. And it’s cheap.

Step 3: Daytime and nighttime moisturizers do two different things, so yes, you need both. Daytime moisturizers act like a protective shield over the skin, keeping out debris, while locking in moisture. Daytime moisturizers absolutely, positively, without exception should have an SPF 15. If your moisturizer has less than 15 or none at all, apply the moisturizer then a sunscreen.

SPF 15 is a total block. Higher than that is just marketing. The difference in protection between SPF 15 and SPF 50 is only about 1-2%, but the additional chemicals can be double.

When you are at rest, the body repairs itself. Nighttime moisturizers increase the process by penetrating the skin to firm and smooth fine lines. In the past, moisturizers could only help stop further damage from happening. New technologies help active ingredients penetrate deeper into the skin, actually repairing damaged skin. (If you are a sun goddess or smoker, no amount of moisturizer will repair the damage.)

You don’t have to spend lots of money. Oil of Olay and L’Oreal are just as good as anything you might spend $80-100 for in department stores. The key is consistency. Cleanse, tone, and moisturize, every morning and every night. Three basic steps to better skin.

So what is all that other stuff for: eye creams, exfoliants, masks, makeup removers, and more? I’ll touch on that next time. So stay tuned.

Christina Evans
Makeup101byevans@yahoo.com
http://www.linkedin.com/in/makeup101byevans

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Vanessa here – Christina, thank you for your first article on a skin care routine. I concur completely, skin care is one of the most important aspect of looking good. Dermalogica is a mid-range skin care line that I enjoy using. I use Dermalogica Special Cleansing Gel to cleanse and Dermalogica Multi-Active Toner for my toner. I normally don’t wear sunscreen, but rely on the sunscreen in my mineral makeup instead.

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On Crossdresser Heaven I’ve tried to provide good advice to crossdressers that is based on what I’ve learnt from beauty experts, and my own experience with products. See articles such as How to Look Like a Woman – A Cross Dresser Skin Care Routine, and Crossdressing Makeup – The Basics.

However I don’t have quite the qualifications or experience of the lady you’re about to meet. I was delighted when Christina left a comment on Crossdresser Heaven. Christina is a makeup artist who works with men, and has kindly offered to share makeup tips and advice on Crossdresser Heaven.

Every few weeks you can find expert advice from a professional makeup artist on Crossdresser Heaven. Please welcome Christina Evans, and email her your burning questions about makeup!

Meet Your Makeup Artist – Christina Evans

As the first girl in my sixth grade class to wear eye shadow, I should have known I was destined to be a makeup artist. It took a BS in Criminal Justice and four grueling years as a parole office to realize I wanted to make people look pretty, not throw them in jail. My training began with BeautiControl Cosmetics, a direct sales line out of Dallas, Texas. I also did promotional modeling for fragrance companies and when my agent found out I was a makeup artist, she sent me into the stores for various cosmetic lines. I made my own connections and started free-lancing for Elizabeth Arden, Hard Candy, Borghese, Francis Denny, Revlon, and many more. I traveled all over Houston and surrounding cities making women look beautiful. What I enjoyed most was teaching them why to use certain products and how.

Most sales associates know only what cosmetic companies tell them. That was not good enough for me. I graduated from the Institute of Cosmetology and received my state license as an esthetician. I then took a stage makeup class at the University of Houston and worked as the makeup artist on several community theatre productions. In 1999, I relocated to Los Angeles, where I received my California esthetician’s license, and received a 100 hour certificate from the International Dermal Institute.

Relocating to Phoenix in 2005, I decided to get away from product sales and focus on offering makeup lessons. Fate determined that all the responses I received would be from men. Several times I heard how other makeup artists never returned their calls, or weren’t comfortable working on crossdressers. Not one to let an opportunity pass, I decided to specialize in makeup lessons for men. It has been the best decision ever. To have clients who truly appreciate what I do, and are eager to learn, is the greatest gift. I can’t imagine going back to department stores, pedaling product to half interested customers.

I’d love to hear your stories or answer your makeup and skincare questions.

Christina Evans
Makeup101byevans@yahoo.com
http://Linkedin.com/in/makeup101byevans

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P.S. Vanessa here – I’m looking to sell a pair of unused Gold Seal Breastforms (size 7) I bought from thebreastformstore. They’re a bit big for me – they have never been used, and come with a set of adhesive pads. They sell for $169+shipping from the store. I’d sell them for $125 (or the best offer) + shipping. Email me at vanessalaw@crossdresserheaven.com if you’re interested.

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I always saw that "Share your success story" thing in the emails and thought "I wish I had a success story."

I do that myself sometimes. I look at the other successful, beautiful, confident transgender woman and sometimes think to myself, “I wish I was like them. I wish I had a taste of such success.”

Michelle, thank you for sharing your success story, and for showing us that each of us can achieve our own success without needing to compare it to others.

If you’re like Michelle, and have been wondering whether you have a crossdresser success story to share – take a moment to think of any positive experience you’ve had crossdressing, and share your crossdresser story.

Meet Michelle

I have been going by Michelle online, but have also recently adopted the name Rachel, as it is more similar to my own name (Richard).  I started wearing panties in high school, but since I didn’t have sisters, they were what I bought for myself.  I gradually added bras and slips to my collection (which actually got purged on a regular basis), and started trying on skirts after I got married (over ten years ago).  I bought my first new dress for me five years ago (actually tried it on in the shop and had the lady make a few alterations for me) and currently own a few skirts and other ladies clothes, including some heels.  I rarely get a chance to dress, and even that is almost all at home in the privacy of my own bedroom (I can’t even walk around my own house because we have kids).  (Wow, I can really ramble sometimes — anyway, on with the story.)

Michelle’s Crossdresser Success Story

I recently started seeing a therapist to help me deal with my inappropriate reactions to stress (yelling at the kids, and inappropriate online activities).  We discussed my crossdressing and I ended up going to the mall to visit a lady I had met in a bridal shop before buying something for my wife, and had also developed a business relationship with.  I asked her if she knew that I was actually sort of shopping for myself as well, and she said she suspected but wasn’t certain.  It felt really good to have a real live person know about me and not just a random sales girl at a mall that I would likely never see again.  I have had several shopping trips that were somewhat successful in terms of me being honest about the intent of my purchase.

Yesterday’s story starts somewhat a few weeks ago.  I was getting ready to change the oil and for some reason ended up wearing a skirt under my coveralls instead of pants.  Then I realized I could probably get away with that with some of my looser fitting casual slacks as well.  So yesterday I wore a skirt under my pants as I went to the dentist.  Then after the dentist, I slipped my pants off in the car and went shopping at a bridal store in a skirt.  I didn’t have the awkward moment of, "It’s not for my wife, it’s for me."  It was great.  I had a really good time shopping and the lady was very nice.

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So I thought I’d share with you the most comprehensive list of transgender movies known to woman! I’ve only seen a few of them (so time to fill up my Netflix queue!). Some of the ones I enjoyed the most:

Vanessa’s Transgender Movie List

Mrs. Doubtfire. In no way a serious transgender movie, but Robin Williams does a great job portraying the elderly Mrs Doubtfire. A good family movie.

Ma Vie En Rose is of the more serious sort. It explores the story of an innocent young boy who tries to fulfill his dream of becoming a girl, and the social consequences his gender confusion has on the rest of the town.

Well, I could share a few more here, like Priscilla, Queen of the dessert, but you already have the most comprehensive list ever made . What are some of your favorite movies that feature a transgender character or have a transgender theme?

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