Cupids X Factors

X Factor: “Sex”

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 16:31:00 +0000

This factor for most people is very crucial. Sex is a very intimate subject, so it is one that we have dealt with very delicately. The final factor number for sex is based on personal experience, preference, and open-mindedness. It is important in the beginning of any relationship to be very open and honest about sex. If there is anything that you don't feel comfortable with or have any religious beliefs regarding sex it is crucial that you tell your partner. Sex is one of the more crucial areas that if not talked about openly and honestly can severely damage a relationship.
Sex has become a very casual topic in today's culture, and as such, has lost its depth and significance. It is important that sex is handled with extreme reverence and care, as it is the most intimate gift that two people can experience together.

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Ice-Breaker Events Pictures

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Tue, 20 May 2008 15:00:00 +0000

Come and check out our events pictures, more pictures will be uploaded by next week in to our new Ice-Breaker Events section of our pre-registration site.

IX Factor: “Goals and Plans”

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 01:17:00 +0000

A solid plan will lead to the attainment of any goal, as long as you’re self-driven. In a relationship every goal and plan, both yours and your partner’s, will be fulfilled as you work together as a team towards reaching that goal. These achievements will benefit in both of your lives and further mature your relationship.

You can have your own personal goals and plans and at the same time set mutual goals and plans. In the end you will want and need the other’s support for your goals to be reached. This partnership is called a "real" relationship. This is when both partners are working as a team towards one common goal. This is the stem of any successful relationship because it involves the adoption of your partner’s needs and making them your own. This altruistic act is the basis of true love and compassion.

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A quick update:

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 15:15:00 +0000

This is a courtesy email being sent in order to keep you up to date with all the exciting things that have taken place with Cupids X Factors in the past few weeks.

Firstly, we have pushed back the BETA launch for the site until June 1st, 2008. This was primarily to comply with the new law (Internet Dating Safety Act) that has passed in the state of New Jersey and is to be passed in the state of Florida. Already, Cupids X Factors has been highlighted in Online Dating Insider, Great Dating Service, Smart Money, Small Biz and the Wall Street Journal for our industry changing innovations.

Our pre-registration campaign began on March 1st, 2008. Events for the pre-registration are being scheduled in Florida, California and New York. These events will create awareness for our site leading up to the BETA launch (June 2008.) In order to expand the growth of our community more rapidly, we have established an incentive program that works in conjunction with a special referral system where members will be able to win prizes as incentive for additional referrals and early registration.

In addition, we have expanded our intellectual properties by applying for two more patents! This now brings us to a total of three patents pending allowing us to further increase our company’s value and we have begun writing a self titled book based on our X (10) Factors that will provide scientific proof to the importance each factor has within a long term relationship. Most recently, we have been syndicated with an investment group based out of Miami, FL.

There are many big things in progress right now for Cupids X Factors. However, bigger things are yet to come... we’ll keep you posted as things occur!

Cupidsxfactors.com launches its Pre-Registration.

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 14:30:00 +0000

Cupids X Factors is a premier online matchmaking service based out of Miami, Florida. The pre-registration has begun and the special events and promotions are in full swing. Cupidsxfactors.com plans to revolutionize the online dating industry with its unique (patent pending) matchmaking process, which matches potentials based on 10 key factors in a person’s life. The site will contain many unique features, which includes personal journals, emails, chat rooms, video chat, a potentials garden and, a never before seen, stackable search engine.

Cupids X Factors has been spotlighted on Smart Money, Small Biz, and The Wall Street Journal for their groundbreaking approach to matchmaking. The Cupids X Factors team is working its hardest to bring this cutting edge formula to the market. Founder and C.E.O. Ralph Castillo has smashed through the barriers by breaking out of the uniformity commonly found on bigger sites, which based there matches solely on personality and/or personal preferences.

All new members will be receiving a Free 30 Day Trial upon registration to ensure that everyone is given a chance to fully explore this innovative website. Also, after the beta launch date of June 1, 2008, all pre-registered members will have the opportunity to win prizes, the first place price being a Sony® Vaio® laptop computer.

Cupids X Factors is setting it's sights on serious minded singles seeking long-term relationships. The company’s site appeals to a broad range of men and women who are searching for an affordable, romantic, and effective method of Internet matchmaking that provides quality results. Although the site will be launched nationwide, its target market will be in Florida, California, and New York. Special networking events are being planned in these three areas and time and dates for the events will be announced in the near future at www.cupidsxfactors.com.

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VIII Factor: “Finance”

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Wed, 20 Feb 2008 04:56:00 +0000

In this factor we have taken into consideration every possible range of income. The finance factor is part of 4 factors that brings us financial stability in our lives and relationships. Each of these factors: education, employment, finance, goals and plans, has a direct influence on the next. Improving in one area can lead to improvement in all (or most) of these factors.

The finance factor is the direct result and correlation of your Employment factor. Often times this is directly influenced by your Education factor (as a higher education will usually grant greater job opportunities.) This provides the opportunity for a higher income, which in turn will likely increase your Goals and Plans factor.

Finance is important in a relationship because it can create a solid foundation in which to build your new relationship. It is important to remember that money can never buy love; it merely lends a hand in creating a secure environment for your relationship to thrive.

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Cupids X Factors latest articles.

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Fri, 15 Feb 2008 03:11:00 +0000

RUNNING A BUSINESS

Starting Up: The Business of Love

By DIANA RANSOM

From smSmallBiz.com

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To get people interested in your product or service, says Hanssens from UCLA, "you have to get creative." For example, Ralph Castillo, the founder of Cupids X Factors, a dating site based in Miami that will operate in both English and Spanish when it officially launches on Valentine's Day, devised his own formula for finding love online. His matching tool, which is patent pending, will link users based on 10 factors ranging from age and health to personality and finances, rather than personal preferences, as is a common matching platform used by some bigger sites. "Just because I like spaghetti [and another person] doesn't, doesn't mean we don't match," he says.

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Starting Up: The Business of Love

By DIANA RANSOM

From smSmallBiz.com

Innovate

Starting Up: The Business of Love

By DIANA RANSOM

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Online Dating Insider

Online Dating Industry News & Commentary

iDate Conference Review

By David Evans.
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Items of Interest:

Good to see Patrick and Dora at Personality Pro. Ralph Castillo of Cupids X Factors was all over the place as well, he created a personality assessment tool which sounds pretty slick. Tai Lopez at Elite Introductions was around. Tai is doing great work taking the concept of the online introduction to the next level.

Upcoming articles:

Hispanic Business magazine.
Level Magazine. (Miami)

VII Factor: “Employment”

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 02:25:00 +0000

This factor is not based upon how much money you make or your employment status. It focuses on how much time you have available within your career to spend with your partner, family or yourself.

Having the extra time to spend with your partner is considered one of the most important factors necessary to build and maintain a successful long-term relationship. Spending quality time with your partner or your new family (if any children are involved) is a key element for any new relationship to become successful. Time spent with your partner will grant you improved communication, compatibility, friendship and many other factors that will create a bigger and stronger foundation in your relationship.

While a great career is important if not balanced properly it can hinder your relationship's success. It is important to remember that a career can be rewarding but if your relationship is neglected as a result you may need to re-evaluate how important your relationship is to you. Success in business comes with great rewards, but time spent with your mate can be equally rewarding. Your achievements will become magnified when they are shared with the one you love.

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VI Factor: “Education”

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 23:25:00 +0000

Education is a very important factor as it is the framework for factors such as employment, finance, goals and plans. A higher education helps our chances in obtaining better employment and higher economic status Education makes many of our goals and plans more attainable. In this factor it is never too late to improve. There is no greater accomplishment than one that provides a better and more secure future.

There are many ways to obtain a degree in higher education. It is not necessary that both partners have the exact same credentials when it comes to education. Only that their goals and plans to succeed, both in life, and in their relationship are shared.

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V Factor: “Status”

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Mon, 04 Feb 2008 23:11:00 +0000

The status factor includes major life issues such as marital status, children, and other major lifetime accomplishments. Some people look for a partner that has children who live with them on a regular basis. For others, the thought of dealing with someone else's children is a huge detriment. It doesn't matter where you stand on this issue. Everyone deserves a second chance. Often times a person can grow and mature through negative events that happen in their lives.

It’s very important to have an open-minded policy when entering into a new relationship, as it will provide you with the opportunity to see things from a different perspective. Take the time get to know a person before writing the relationship off as a failure. It may only take one or two more conversations for you to realize this!

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IV Factor: “Personality”

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Tue, 29 Jan 2008 18:51:00 +0000

Our personalities are our “life index”; we can trace most of our traits by the way in which we were raised. People can usually determine how our values and principles were formed and what experiences in our lives lead us to where we are now. Personality is the one factor that defines a person best.

Within a relationship it is important to understand that we all have different personalities. Having a partner with a similar personality to yours doesn’t guarantee that your relationship will be successful. When different people come together and blend their individual personalities they create a new personality or “couple personality”. Ideally both partners contribute something unique to the relationship creating a dynamic that only those two individuals have.

Most of us enter a new relationship with an attitude of "not wanting to change or modify our way of being for another person," however, we expect the other person to do just that for us. This is when compromise should take center stage and play a big role in maintaining a healthy relationship. It is the fertilizer for the tree of love. If we use compromise as a tool of equality for each side it won’t take long before we start seeing great results. Great communication and excellent understanding are key elements to use this tool effectively.

Partners must be willing to see various situations and differences from an objective point of view. Overall "personality" is a factor of opposites. Everyone has both positive and negative qualities the trick is to create a balance together where there’s never too much good or too much bad but always just the right combination like in any good recipe.

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III Factor: “Appearance”

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 14:33:00 +0000

Personal appearance is a factor that plays a big role in our lives, not only socially but also in any relationship as well; since our appearance is our personal billboard it provides others with the first (and sometimes only) impression about who we are. This reaction usually takes less within 10 seconds of meeting someone.

Personal appearance can be easily translated to “looking good.” Our perception of beauty is influenced directly by our own cultures and values. As such, it becomes nearly impossible to “gauge” beauty because every person has a different opinion of what beauty is. We rate appearance only through attributes that can be adequately measured such as: personal hygiene and grooming, wardrobe, youthfulness and self-image.

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II Factor: “Health”

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 18:25:00 +0000

Health is a key factor in any long lasting relationship. Our health deteriorates as we age, that’s why it is important to maintain good healthy habits throughout our lives. However, it is important to note that there are many conditions that can develop regardless of maintaining a healthy lifestyle. All of these health attributes will contribute to the overall health factor number.

The physical health part of the health factor affects us in only a few other factors but it has the potential of affecting our mental health, creating a chain linking one with the other. Having good physical health gives you more time and energy to invest in a new relationship and depending on how much time and energy you invest in a new relationship determines whether it will be successful or not.

Mental health has the capacity to severely damage your relationship. It can especially affect the beginning of a new relationship. There are many mental conditions that can range from genetics inherited by parents, or circumstances that result in a change in the chemistry of the brain at a young age.

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I Factor: “Age”

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 19:06:00 +0000

Age is a factor that is often overlooked during the beginning stages of a relationship. However, age is a major factor within any relationship. As we mature our interests, perceptions and views evolve. Our tastes in life change as a result of experience or physical inability. This is a fact of life; we all get there sooner or later.

In long-term relationships the most successful age difference is when the gap is between 1 to 5 years. The closer the couple is in age the more things they have in common. Conversely when the gap is larger, between 5 - 10 years the success depends on how well the couple is able to communicate with one another. The maturity level of the mates also plays a significant role.

The situation becomes complicated when the difference exceeds 10 years. Some people neglect to take into consideration the basic natural and gradual deterioration that comes with age. Health risks increase as one gets older, priorities change, and activity levels decrease. These elements inevitably contribute to the widening of the age gap.

Life has a way of changing our perspectives as we mature both physically and mentally. World events alone make us revaluate our decisions and lifestyles. When a couple is closer in age and the gap is smaller it is more likely for those two individuals to have similar views. Our opinions change as we progress through life and we must keep that in mind when choosing a mate to share our lives with.

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Cupids X Factors "Main Concept"

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 15:43:00 +0000

A relationship is defined as a deep connection or intimate involvement between two people. There are many important facets that must be embraced in order to achieve an overall successful and long-lasting relationship. These areas or "factors" are absolutely crucial to any successful relationship. The key is creating balance between two people. This will in turn create a solid environment for the relationship to grow and mature.

The inevitable goal for most of us is to find a partner, someone who we can trust and cherish forever. When we find that special someone many of us become overwhelmed by our emotions. We instantly envision the outcome of our lives together and for many this fantasy is enough to "tie-the-knot." All to often, people get married for the wrong reasons, and the outcome is usually never what they hoped for. Love is something that grows and that people must build upon. Just as a tree or a flower must be fed and watered so must the love in a relationship. It too must be nurtured and cared for. If we don’t maintain it with the right ingredients it can start to wither at any moment.

Is there any validity to the phrase “Love at first sight?”

What we see and feel the first time we see “that special someone” is really just a feeling of intense desire, an unexplainable immediate attraction and interest toward that person. The only way to find out if it is truly love, is to get to know one another, and slowly build up the relationship one step at a time. There are many pieces that need to be in place in order for a long-term relationship to progress successfully. Some areas are less crucial than others but there are a few areas that are paramount in improving the chances of “forever.”

I created the X (10) Factors because I want people to become successful in the realm of love and relationships. There is no "formula" for getting two people to fall in love with each other. The people in the relationship create this formula together. If a couple uses the X Factors they will have all the tools needed to grow and nurture their relationship. No one is perfect, no matter how high your self-esteem is there is always room for improvement in any given area. The point is to be the best partner you can be. In the end it’s what every day life is all about, improving your self for a better way of life.

I have applied the concept of the X (10) Factors to my own relationship; I have also recommended the program to friends and family members. After seeing the positive results and receiving feedback from those that have taken my advice I decided to create this website. My goal is to help others find themselves, improve themselves and to find a special person that’s right for them. I created this theory to help prevent people from going through relationships with only hopes and dreams and instead give them tools to begin a relationship with a solid foundation.

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Marriage, when is the right time?

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Wed, 26 Sep 2007 04:20:00 +0000

Many people take that leap into marriage too soon. They jump in unprepared on faith with a dream either not knowing much about that special someone or they do not give enough importance to many of the crucial factors that are key in creating solid long term relationships.

They marry too young, thinking only in the moment not looking towards the future. Age can be a big factor, not only in regards to age differences between the couple but on the amount of education, respective financial outlook and status, employment, individual goals and plans.
Some marry for the wrong reasons; they try to obtain something that they don’t have at the moment such as economic stability, or marry out of loneliness because they don’t want to be alone anymore, and for a multitude of other reasons. Unfortunately, usually it doesn’t include being truly in love with the other person.

No matter what the reasons are that lead people to take that leap of faith and get married all enter into it with the hope that this person will be the one that will be there until the end of their days on earth, as we don’t get married with the idea or the intention of getting divorced.
However, as people fall short sighted of those common factors there are still many other factors that should be considered in being more realistic about the process of courtship and relationships before taking that important step into marriage to what we hope will be our Fairy Tale ending.

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Matrimonio ¿Cuándo es el momento oportuno?

Muchas personas dan ese salto al matrimonio demasiado pronto. Ellos saltan sin estar preparados y con fe en un sueño donde no conocen lo suficiente acerca de ese alguien especial y no dan gran importancia a los factores cruciales que son los que generan relaciones duraderas y sólidas.
Ellos se casan demasiado jóvenes, pensado sólo en el momento y no mirando hacia el futuro. La edad puede ser un factor grande, no sólo con respecto a diferencia de edad entre la pareja pero si en la educación, perspectivas, respectivo estado financiero, empleo, y los planes y metas individuales.
Algunos se casan por razones equivocadas; ellos tratan de obtener algo que ellos no tienen en el momento tal como la estabilidad económica, porque no quieren seguir solos, y muchas otras razones. Desafortunadamente, y por lo general no sinceramente enamorados de la otra persona.

No importa cuales son las razones que conducen a la gente a tomar esa decisión de fe, todo lo hacen con la esperanza que esa persona será el que estará allí hasta que el final de sus días en la tierra, pues nosotros no nos casamos con la idea ni la intención de divorciarnos luego.
Aunque, la gente tome en consideración esos factores comunes, hay todavía muchos otros factores que se deben considerar como ser mas realistas durante el proceso de conquista y relación antes de tomar el paso importante del matrimonio que es los que esperamos será nuestro final del Cuento de Hadas.

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Hopes of a Happy ending.

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Wed, 26 Sep 2007 04:08:00 +0000

When we find that special someone many of us think of the moment first hoping that it will turn into a long-term relationship. We picture ourselves in an old rocking chair when we’ve reached old age, observing our kids all grown up, with children of their own. We tell that special someone sitting next to us, “we did it” as we watch all the grandkids running around the house at a family party or other special occasion and, it’s a dream come true. This is what most who want a long-term relationship envision…the happy ending. This is what we all look for when we go into a serious relationship. We choose that special someone to take the first and what we hope is the final step in a relationship -marriage.

Cuando encontramos a alguien especial, muchos de nosotros pensamos desde un primer momento con la esperanza de que será una relación Duradera. Nosotros nos retratamos “Viejitos en una mecedora, observando nuestros hijos todos adultos, con sus propios niños”. Diciéndole a esa persona especial que esta sentada al lado nuestro "lo hicimos" como miramos todos nuestros nietos correr alrededor de la casa en una fiesta de la familia u otra ocasión especial y, ese sueño se hizo realidad. Esto es lo que nosotros imaginamos cuando estamos dentro de una seria relación de pareja…El Final Feliz. Esto es lo que todos buscamos cuando entramos una relación seria. Nosotros primero escogemos tomar a ese alguien especial y lo que esperamos es el paso final en la relación – El Matrimonio.

Match-Making a real formula?

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Sat, 22 Sep 2007 19:02:00 +0000

There is no such thing as a real formula for getting two people to fall in love with each other only the people in the relationship can do that. No one, no matter what titles or credentials they possess can say they know a formula on how to determine who the right or wrong person for us is, that is not real life; we have to give ourselves opportunities for that to happen. If we know how to be careful with our options by taking every single step forward carefully, being aware of the fact that we have to start by knowing, evaluating, and loving ourselves first then, we can make the best decisions and enter into a solid, healthy, long lasting relationship.

I don’t have the perfect formula as I said before, it doesn’t exist but, I do have a way to get to know yourself better, learn steps to take to improve upon those factors which are very important within a successful relationship. No one is perfect, no matter how high your self-esteem is there is always room for improvement in any of the areas. The point is to be the best partner you can be. In the end it’s what every day life is all about, improving us for a better way of life.

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Compatibilidad de parejas, una fórmula verdadera?

No hay cosa tal como una fórmula verdadera para lograr que dos personas se enamoren, solamente las personas involucradas en una relación de pareja lo podrían lograr. No existe ninguna persona, no importa los títulos o credenciales que ellos posean que pueda determinar quién es la persona ideal o no para nosotros, eso no es la vida real; tenemos que darnos las oportunidades para que suceda. Si nosotros sabemos cómo tener cuidado con nuestras opciones tomando cada decisión cuidadosamente, estando consiente del hecho que tenemos que comenzar por conocernos, evaluarnos y amarnos a nosotros mismos primero, para luego nosotros poder tomar mejor las decisiones y entrar en una sólida, saludable y duradera relación

Yo no tengo la fórmula perfecta, como dije antes no existe, pero tengo la manera que lo hará conocerse mejor y aprendiendo los pasos a tomar para mejorar en esos factores que son muy importantes dentro de una relación exitosa. Nadie es perfecto, y no es cuestión de cuán alto sea su autoestima, siempre hay espacio para mejorar en cualquiera de las áreas. El punto será que usted pueda ser mejor pareja. A la final es de lo que trata el cada día de nuestras vidas, mejorando nosotros mismos para una mejor manera de vida y una mejor oportunidad para una relación exitosa.

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Mutual LOVE.....

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Sat, 22 Sep 2007 18:40:00 +0000

Mutual love is something that grows and that people build upon; it’s an every day non-stop job. If you do not work at it, it will eventually die or become damaged. Sometimes we can re-construct it, other times we can’t because it is simply too late or way too much damage has been done to the relationship to fix. Just as a tree or a flower must be fed and watered so must the love in a relationship, it too must be nurtured and cared for, if we don’t maintain it with the right ingredients it can die at any moment, no matter how long it has been it must be maintained every day so it will be alive and healthy in order for it to continue to thrive for years to come.

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El Amor Mutuo.

Amor es algo que crece y que la gente construye; es un trabajo diario que no se detiene. Si usted no trabaja en el, morirá eventualmente o llegará a ser dañado. A veces nosotros lo podemos reconstruir, pero en otro momento no podemos porque simplemente es demasiado tarde o también porque mucho daño se le hizo a la relación y no se puede arreglar.

Así como un árbol o una flor se deben alimentar y deben ser regados también debe hacerse con el amor en una relación, se debe nutrir y ser cuidado, si nosotros no lo mantenemos con los ingredientes necesarios puede morir en cualquier momento, no importa que tan larga haya sido la relación se debe mantener a diario y así vivirá saludable para continuar prosperando en los años venideros.

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Meeting the children of your new partner and your new partner meeting yours.

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Thu, 20 Sep 2007 16:55:00 +0000

In all new relationships that involve children, a good bond is essential for the new union to be successful and long term. We all know how important a single parent’s children are.

If you don’t have children and your new partner does, ask your self a couple of questions before getting involved… How important are you to your parents? How important will your children be to you if you have any in the future? The answer to those questions will give you a greater understanding of the significance your partner’s children has for them.

It is very important to know that when involving a child in a new relationship the parent should be careful in deciding when the appropriate moment arises. Getting to know the child or children is usually a sign or a step into a more serious and committed relationship.
After the single parent or parents have gotten to know each other first very well and they consider all aspects of what forming a lasting union with children entails then they begin to slowly move towards forming a union or bond with the child or each other’s children. This is not a step that should be rushed into or taken lightly.
The children should develop a relationship with their mom/dad’s partner first, building their own connection with that person and then if the other has children of their own, then slowly introduce the kids to the kids. All parties involved should take all the right and careful steps when forming a new blended family. It is also imperative that the children know that their opinions are respected and valued and that the bond they share with their parents will not change.

You can start by telling your children about all the positive qualities that you see in your new partner and why you think he/she is the right person for you. With just that alone they will begin to learn about and get to know your new partner through your eyes and will therefore be prepared to meet them when the big introduction day arrives.

It is very important to take the same steps with your new partner, letting them know how important your children are to you, sharing with them all the good and also the not so good qualities your children have, to ensure that there will be no surprises later on.

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Conociendo a los niños de su nuevo compañero y su Nuevo compañero conocer los suyos.

En toda nueva relación de pareja donde se impliquen niños, es esencial un buen enlace para que la nueva unión tenga éxito y sea duradera. Todos sabemos cuán importantes son los niños para los padres solteros.

Si usted no tiene niños y su compañero si los tiene, Hágase un par de preguntas a usted mismo antes de verse involucrado… cuán importante es usted para sus padres? ¿Cuan importantes serán sus niños para usted si llegara a tener alguno en el futuro? La respuesta a esas preguntas le dará una comprensión más grande del significado que tienen los niños de su compañero para el o ella.

Es muy importante saber que cuándo se involucra a un niño en una relación nueva el padre debe tener cuidado en decidir cuando surgira' el momento apropiado. Conocer al niño o a los niños es generalmente un signo o un paso en una relación más seria y comprometida.

Después que los padres solteros o los padres se han conocido primero muy bien el uno al otro y ellos consideran todos los aspectos que trae consigo formar una unión duradera con niños es entonces que ellos comienzan a moverse poco a poco para unirse o enlazarse con el niño o con los niños. Esto es un paso que no se debe apresurar o ser tomado a la ligera.

Los niños deben desarrollar una relación con el compañero de mama/papa primero, construyendo ellos su propia conexión con esa persona y luego si el otro tiene niños propios, entonces introducir lentamente los niños a los niños.

Todas las partes involucradas deben tomarse todo el derecho y pasos cuidadosamente cuando van a formar una familia nueva mezclada. Es también imprescindible que los niños sepan que sus opiniones se respetan y son evaluadas y que el enlace que ellos comparten con sus padres no cambiará.

Usted puede comenzar diciendo a sus niños acerca de todas las cualidades positivas que usted ve en su nuevo compañero, y en por qué usted piensa que él/ella es la persona correcta para usted. Con solo eso ellos comenzarán a aprender acerca de ellos y obtener conocimiento de su nuevo compañero por sus ojos y por lo tanto seran preparados para reunirles cuando el gran dia de introducción llegue.

Es muy importante tomar los mismos pasos con su nuevo compañero, permitirles saber cuán importantes sus niños son para usted, compartir con ellos todo lo bueno y también las cualidades no tan buenas que sus niños tienen, para asegurar que no habrá sorpresas más tarde.

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LOVE at first site, fact or illusion?

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Tue, 18 Sep 2007 18:36:00 +0000

Many of us use the saying it was “love at first sight” very liberally when in fact what we see and feel the first time we see the one who at that particular moment we believe to be “the special someone” is really just a feeling of intense desire, an unexplainable immediate attraction and personal interest toward that person.
However, the only way to find out if it is truly love, and we are lucky that the other person feels the same way and decides to give us a chance is to get to know one another, consider all factors and build on it daily.

Love can be built from that moment on but I don’t think we should call that first moment of attraction “love at first sight”. In reality the only real “love at first sight” is when a mother gives birth and the doctor places the baby in her arms and she and the father see their baby for the very first time. Even that moment was a process that developed over 9 months, where the parents built up expectations and dreams of what this child would look like and would grow to be and to be able to finally see that real special someone one feels “love at first sight”.

I understand that many people won’t agree with this concept and still many others will say it’s a different kind of “love at first sight” but to me there is no such kind of love because love is a feeling that we create, that grows and that we build and maintain over time, not in a second or a moment.

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"AMOR a primera vista", ¿Hecho o ilusión?

Muchos de nosotros usamos el dicho "amor a primera vista" muy a la ligera, cuando de hecho lo que vemos y sentimos en el primer momento que vemos a alguien, (que en ese momento creemos es ese alguien especial) es realmente apenas un sentir del deseo intenso, una inexplicable atracción inmediata y un interés personal hacia esa persona. Sin embargo, la única manera de averiguar si es sinceramente amor, es teniendo la suerte que la otra persona se sienta de la misma manera y decidan darse la oportunidad de conocerse mutuamente, considerar todos factores y construir el día a día.

El amor se puede comenzar a construir desde ese momento pero yo no creo que debamos llamarlo desde el primer momento de la atracción "amor a primera vista". En realidad el único y verdadero "amor a primera vista" se da cuando una madre da a luz y el doctor coloca al bebé en sus brazos y ella y el padre ven a su bebé por primera vez. Incluso en ese momento el amor ha sido construido a través del proceso de los 9 meses de gestación, donde los padres se crearon expectativa y sueños de cómo luciría y lo que al crecer será, para estar listos y ver finalmente a ese alguien especial real por el que uno siente "el amor a primera vista".

Entiendo que muchas personas no estarán de acuerdo con este concepto y todavía muchos otros dirán que es una diferente manera de "amor a primera vista" pero para mí no hay tal clase de amor porque “el amor es un sentimiento que creamos, crece, construimos y mantenemos con el tiempo”, no en un segundo ni en un momento.

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About cupids X factors

noreply@blogger.com (Cupids X Factors) — Mon, 17 Sep 2007 17:46:00 +0000

X (10) Factors creation.

I have been very observant from an early age and through my observations I have noticed that within relationships there are many different things involved in order to achieve an overall successful and everlasting relationship. I have seen throughout my own romantic experiences as well as those of family members and friends that there are a series of factors crucial to all relationships. These factors help to generate a balance between two people, which helps create a solid base for the types of relationships we would like to attain.

I believe there are many things that need to be in place in order for a long term relationship to be successful, some less crucial than others but there are things that are paramount furthermore improving the chances of “forever” which is what we all want when we get married or get together with someone special.

X (10) Factors inspiration.

My inspiration in creating these 10 factors came from me being tired of seeing so many men being used by women mostly because of their financial status, because they needed some thing that person had then, after they got it, it was over, all the while they were under the impression that throughout the time they were together there was love when in reality there was none.

I have also seen the reverse; many women have been used in the same way over and over again by men, especially when they are single mothers. The women think that these men are full of love for them and after they have gotten what they want from her time and time again it ends without warning. The end is usually prompted by the magical question asked by most women “My love, when are we getting to the next step?” or “When are we getting more serious?” the question is asked and then suddenly when the woman least expects it, he disappears. This is why I believe that what we all need is to have a balance. We have to be realistic with ourselves first and not just look for someone that matches our needs or our expectations at the time.

Our Goal.

Our goal is to find and show you, all the members that are as close to your Final Factor # as possible making yourself not only compatible with them in every aspect but creating a balance with each factor that plays a major role in successful relationships.

By helping you find yourself in each of the factors we are creating a map of you, for you, in every aspect, where you can comeback at any moment that you wish to do so and improve yourself in those factors that may need tweaking, taking the first step towards building a successful relationship “know yourself first”, second “there is always room for improvement” and third “ get to know the other person as well as you know yourself” without holding back.

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La creación de los X (10) Factores

He sido muy atento desde muy joven y por mis observaciones yo me he dado cuenta que dentro de las relaciones de pareja hay muchas cosas diferentes implicadas para lograr una relación totalmente exitosa y duradera. He visto a través de mis propias experiencias románticas así como también, de familiares y amigos que hay una serie de factores cruciales en todas las relaciones. Estos factores ayudan a generar un equilibrio entre dos personas, cuál ayuda a crear una base sólida para el tipo de relacion que queremos alcanzar.

Creo que hay muchas cosas que necesitan estar en orden para que una relación sea duradera y para tener éxito, unas menos cruciales que otras pero esas cosas son esenciales y además mejoran las oportunidades de que sea "para siempre" que es lo que todos nosotros queremos tener cuando nos casamos o nos relacionamos con alguien especial.

La inspiración de los X (10) Factores

Mi inspiración para crear estos 10 factores vienen de estar cansado de ver ha muchos hombres siendo usados por mujeres en su mayor parte a causa de su posición financiera, o porque necesitan alguna cosa que esa persona le proveia, para luego despues de obtenerlo terminar la relacion, mientras que ellos estaban bajo la impresión que a través del tiempo ellos estaban juntos porque había amor cuando en realidad no lo había.

He visto también al revés; muchas mujeres han sido usadas en la misma manera repetidamente por hombres, especialmente cuando ellas son madres solteras. Las mujeres piensan que estos hombres están repletos del amor para ellas y después que ellos han obtenido lo que ellos quieren de ellas, una y otra vez, finaliza sin advertencia. El final generalmente es ocasionado por la pregunta mágica preguntada por la mayoría de las mujeres "Mi amor, cuándo nosotros daremos el próximo paso?" o "Cuando nosotros vamos a formalizar la relación? la pregunta se hace y entonces repentinamente cuando la mujer menos lo espera, él desaparece. Por esto es qué yo creo que lo que todos nosotros necesitamos es tener un balance. Tenemos que ser realistas con nosotros mismos primero y no buscar alguien que le convine a nuestras necesidades o a nuestras expectativas del momento.

Nuestra Meta.

Nuestra meta es encontrar y mostrarles a ustedes, los miembros que mas se asemejen a su Factor Final, haciéndolos a ustedes no sólo comparable con ellos en cada aspecto pero creando un equilibrio con cada factor que juega un gran papel en cada relación exitosa

Nosotros creamos un mapa de su persona en cada aspecto, que le ayudara a encontrarse a si mismo en cada uno de los factores donde usted puede retornar y mejorar en esos factores en cualquier momento que usted desea para hacerlo, Conocerse usted primero es el primer paso en a una relación exitosa, el segundo "Siempre hay algo que mejorar" y el tercero "conocer sin restrinciones a la otra persona tanto como te conoces a ti mismo" no dejando para ultimo momento ningún detalle en forma de sorpresa.

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