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Thought for the day

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 13:45:00 +0000

It takes only a split second to have your heart broken but yet the hurt and pain are always unforgettable...why is that?

How can someone speak words that they want you to hear--but completely act the opposite of what they say? Do they not have a conscience? It may make them feel more at ease about themselves but yet it hurts the victim of this lie even worse.

How can someone who 'claims' they are being genuinely well intentioned move on with their lives and pursue an even happier or non monogamous once when they had it all right in front of them?

Is there no guilt as to breaking anothers heart that you CLAIM you loved...and had a huge part in molding the past 3 years?

Why do ex wives have such a hold on their ex husbands? Is it because they have only been seperated 5 years? Why does she get to decide who he should be with or how his future relationships will go? Why is it that I am the one who gets hurt each and every time?

Believing that there is a GOD that will always keep you safe seems very bullshit to me right now because if I am meant to be single for the rest of my life than why does he keep allowing me to fall in love time and time again getting my heart broken. Why must I pay for a past life that I don't even remember? Why does he continue to use me as a court jester?

If I wasn't meant to be with anyone then why doesn't he give me the strength to move on and not cry and think about this heartache I'm going through. Why does it have to be this way EACH and everytime?

Why can't I be shown what my fate is so that when trials and tribulations come my way I can remember what my final fate is and snuff off all of this bull shit?

This fucking sucks!!! And all these people say that I am a good, well intentioned person...so why do I always get screwed!...and why is it that all these men who have broken my heart continue to be able to live a happy and wonderful life when they have made me feel so shit about mine?? How is that fair?!?!

Public invited to UFC 140 Press Conference in Toronto

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Tue, 11 Oct 2011 11:12:00 +0000

UFC® RETURNS TO TORONTO FOLLOWING HISTORIC APRIL EVENT
UFC® 140: JONES vs. MACHIDA

Saturday, Dec. 10, 2011 from Air Canada Centre in Toronto
PRESS CONFERENCE AND AUTOGRAPH SESSION TO BE HELD ON WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 12

UFC® LIGHTWEIGHT CHAMPION JON JONES AND FORMER CHAMPION LYOTO MACHIDA ARE
JOINED BY UFC® PRESIDENT DANA WHITE AND TOM WRIGHT AT AIR CANADA CENTRE
TORONTO – Following its historic inaugural April event, the Ultimate Fighting Championship® returns to Toronto to host a press conference on Wednesday, Oct. 12 at 1 p.m. ET as tickets for UFC® 140: JONES VS. MACHIDA go on sale to the general public on Saturday, Oct. 15. UFC® light heavyweight champion Jon Jones and former champion Lyoto Machida will be joined by UFC® President Dana White and Canadian Director of Operations Tom Wright at Air Canada Centre.

The 1 p.m. press conference will be open to the public while the UFC® will also hold a special fan autograph session for Jones and Machida at Real Sports Apparel from 5 to 6 p.m., located within Maple Leaf Square at 15 York Street. (Please note – this event is on a first-come, first-serve basis – one autograph per fighter per person.)

Tickets for UFC® 140: JONES VS. MACHIDA go on sale to the public on Saturday, Oct. 15 at 10 a.m. ET. Members of UFC® Fight Club™ will have the first chance to buy tickets on Thursday, Oct. 13 at 10 a.m. ET, followed by UFC newsletter subscribers on Friday, Oct. 14 at 10 a.m. ET. Fans can sign up for the UFC® Fight Club™ at www.ufcfightclub.com. Ticket prices will be announced early next week.

SCHEDULE OF EVENTS:
UFC® 140 PRESS CONFERENCE
WHEN: Wednesday, Oct. 12, 2011 – 1:00 p.m. ET (media check in at 11:30 a.m., doors to public at noon)
WHERE: Air Canada Centre, Toronto – Gate 5 entrance off Bremner Blvd.
WHO: JON JONES, UFC® LIGHT HEAVYWEIGHT CHAMPION
LYOTO MACHIDA, FORMER UFC® LIGHT HEAVYWEIGHT CHAMPION
UFC® PRESIDENT DANA WHITE
UFC® DIRECTOR OF CANADIAN OPERATIONS TOM WRIGHT

AUTOGRAPH SIGNING
WHEN: Wednesday, Oct. 12, 2011 – 5-6 p.m. ET
WHERE: Real Sports Apparel, Maple Leaf Square, 15 York Street, Toronto
WHO: JONE JONES AND LYOTO MACHIDA

Getting a bang for your buck!! Coupons Extravaganza!!

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Thu, 21 Jul 2011 13:58:00 +0000

Wanna save a buck or two? Tempted to recreate your own episode of EXTREME COUPONING???
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The Crazy Coupon Lady
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Canadian Daily Deals
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US & Canada Sites
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Red Flag Deals
Printable Coupon Code
Dealcetera
Coupon Cabin
Free Stuff Page
Coupon Time
Free Samples

2 New Reasons Mama's Boys Make The Best Boyfriends (according to Cosmo)

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Thu, 07 Apr 2011 23:47:00 +0000

They've gotten a bad rap for years, but recent research shows that guys who are close to their moms are super boyfriend and husband material. Here's why.

By Korin Miller
Between raving about her unparalleled cooking ability and rushing to her place whenever she needs something repaired, a man who is close with his mother tends to freak us out a little. But we're definitely gonna start giving these dudes another look thanks to a study from Arizona State University, which found that mama's boys have better communication skills and higher levels of empathy than guys who have cut the apron strings.

As a result, men who are close to their moms are much more likely to be in healthy, monogamous relationships than men who lack that connection, says New York City-based couples therapist Rachel Sussman.

So what exactly gives mama's boys such stellar LTR skills? These sweeties have been taking cues from their mothers for years. By observing how she relates to people and getting feedback from her while he was growing up, mama's boys are more likely to resist masculine stereotypes such as being aggressive and detached in relationships, explains study author Carlos Santos, PhD.

Mama's boys express their feelings more, are more tuned into our needs, and are closer listeners when women talk, says marital therapist Scott Haltzman, PhD, author of Secrets of Happily Married Women, all qualities that we crave in a partner. Even better, that openness and willingness to listen translate into awesome bedroom skills too.

Of course, mama's boys don't have a sucky reputation for no reason. Knowing there's another woman he's so connected to can grate on any girlfriend or wife's nerves. But you can deal with it by not viewing that bond as a threat or thinking that your guy has a limited amount of attention and love, and he's giving too much of it to her. Says Haltzman: "Thinking this way will only cause problems in your relationship."

Still, you have to set boundaries. If he chats her up on the phone while you're intimate or drops plans with you to see her, you've gotta step up and say something. Sussman recommends telling your guy how much you love that he's so attached to his mom, but that the two of you need to be a team and put your relationship first. Then, follow it up with a suggestion, like that he call his mom during his lunch break at work or telling her she can't come over when you're spending alone time together.

And while most of us are thrilled by a guy who will talk about his emotions, it can be a little too much if the mama's boy in him is always on display. When it gets too much, Sussman recommends encouraging his more masculine behavior, like telling him how hot it is when he changes the oil in his car. This sends the message that, while you love his sensitivity, you're equally turned on by his manly side.

Oh, and whatever you do, avoid the term "mama's boy." "No matter how in touch they are with their feelings, men still want to be men," says Sussman. "A lot of guys know that they're a mama's boy...and it's already embarrassing enough for them."

The Power of Words!--Count your Blessings!!

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Tue, 08 Mar 2011 01:09:00 +0000

I am so touched and inspired by this video. Let me know what you think!

Boy Shorts that vibrate

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Tue, 08 Feb 2011 00:15:00 +0000

Feel sexy and saucy in these cute black boy shorts with a vibrating surprise.

Cute, comfortable boy shorts can be worn under clothing for satisfaction anytime, anywhere

Simple vibrating bullet may be used with or without the shorts

Choose from S/M (comfortably fits up to a size 6) or L/XL sizes (comfortably fits up to a size 12)

Boy shorts can be machine washed

Ideal for romantic getaways

I love the look of these! I am not a big fan of butt-flossing thongs, and these look nice on and the vibe provides for nice foreplay. This is also a nice item matched with the Make Me Blush Strap-On, as I get the clitoral pleasure from the vibe

Kale Chips: Don't knock it til you try it!

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Tue, 01 Feb 2011 03:22:00 +0000

Meghan Telpner is a Toronto-based nutritionist and holistic lifestyle consultant. Her Making Love In The Kitchen video series will bring you tips on how to prepare healthful, nutritious goodness from whole foods. Visit her site for more love.

Kale chips for healthy skin? Hey-ha-ha-hey now? That's right my sista and brotha-friends. It's all fine and nice to bathe in organ cleansing detox herbs, to soak in the goodness of coconut oil through the pours and bounce on a trampoline to shake and shimmy out the toxins. Let me tell you that no amount of bouncing, soaking or moisturizing is going to clean up your complexion if you're still eating crappola.

Now, obviously in the tutorial coming out tomorrow, (Wahoozles once again!) I go into much more deets about the hair and skin feeding nutrients and foods we need but here is a little preview to tantalize your tastebuds and organs of elimination/detox pathways.

Nutrients For Healthy Skin

Fluids: Fluids are essential as they help moisturize the skin as well as flush out toxins and waste.
Essential Fatty Acids: Help with cell repair and regeneration, wound healing

Antioxidants: Antioxidants are a great line of defense against cellular damage caused by free radicals.
Iron: A deficiency in iron brings anemia, and this shows up in our bodies as a pale complexion and dark circles under the eyes.
Vitamin A: It keeps our skin supple and is vital for the health of our eyes and hair.Vitamin C
Vitamin C: Essential for the production of collagen (the elastic tissue in our skin. The decline in collagen is part of what makes us wrinkly as we age).
Vitamin E: Powerful action against the damage of free radicals. Vitamin E helps our skin retain its moisture.
Vitamin B Complex: Help our bodies to metabolize our food and convert it to energy, also important for the metabolism of our skin- to keep it fresh and lively!
Selenium: Helps protect from free radical damage and from dryness.
Zinc: Vital to the immune system and to skin health. Zinc helps us to manufacture collagen and speeds up healing. A deficiency produces stretch marks, a dull complexion, white spots on fingernails, dandruff and icky blemishes.

Wait a second... Are you seeing what I'm seeing? Yep. That is pretty much the full spectrum of nutrients. I'll connect the dots for you. We can drink coffee and alcohol which depletes our body of these nutrients, eat nutrient deficient processed food, lay out in the sun, breathe bad air and use $400 creams laced with gold and the breath of Aneglina Jolie's unborn child (I assume she's pregnant but isn't she always), or eat good whole unprocessed foods. So I could have essentially posted any old whole foods based recipe up here and claimed it good for skin health and it would have been right. But instead I'll share another fave kale chipper.

So you can have nachos and cheese, or cheeseless cheesy kale chips. Or I could ask, how old and beaten do you want your face to look?

Read more: http://network.nationalpost.com/NP/blogs/theappetizer/archive/2010/05/18/making-love-in-the-kitchen-kale-chips-for-healthy-skin.aspx#ixzz1It0x0PXb

Why Guys Dump Girls They Dig

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Sat, 29 Jan 2011 14:42:00 +0000

Why Guys Dump Girls They Dig

John Paul JAMIESON | JAMIESON, John Paul | LifeNews.ca

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Mon, 17 Jan 2011 14:05:00 +0000

John Paul JAMIESON | JAMIESON, John Paul | LifeNews.ca

Sex 101

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Fri, 10 Dec 2010 04:26:00 +0000

Here is an interesting website I stumbled on just for YOU!!

Enjoy ;)

Click on Sex Tips and Advice to check it out!

The men you should never marry

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Sat, 05 Jun 2010 15:31:00 +0000

An article by Macleans.ca

If he has no friends, or if you can't see in him the qualities you want in your children, run

If love is blind, "marriage is like a trip to the optometrist's office," warns an 81-year-old priest from New Jersey in a new book for women designed to help them evaluate whether the man they're dating is marriage material. Up front, Father Pat Connor addresses those who might question his authority to speak on the topic. "You might be thinking, 'He's a priest. He's never been married,' and in that you would be correct." But, he goes on, "for over 50 years I have had the privilege of speaking with young women on the subject of whom not to marry. These women have opened their hearts and minds while bringing me their questions." Questions such as: "Is money really important in a marriage?" "Yes. Yes. Yes, to that one," he writes in Whom Not to Marry: Time-Tested Advice From a Higher Authority.

Remember, he writes, "You can be deeply in love with someone to whom you cannot be successfully married." If you're thinking love conquers all, "it doesn't," he writes. Top on his list is, "Never marry a man who cannot hold down a job." Then there's "never marry a man who has no friends."

When a portion of Father Pat's list appeared in the New York Times, a twice-married and divorced woman sent him her own version: "Never marry a man who is more affectionate in public than in private. Never marry a man who notices all of your faults but never any of his own. Never marry a man whose first wife had to sue for child support. Never marry a man whom your children don't like."

Father Pat advises women to take a year between the decision to marry and the wedding. "Use the engagement as a time to ask questions," such as, "What would I be glad to know about him that's impossible to know in the first few months of dating?"

He writes about one woman whose fiancé loved to shop for expensive clothes. "Then he wants to go to pricey restaurants to show them off," she told Father Pat. "I prefer eating at home and wearing my comfortable clothes. How can I change him to like the simpler life?" "Change him? Forget it! He's a bad risk for marriage. I'm afraid it's just that simple," Father Pat told her.

One of his must-haves is physical attraction. "There used to be, in one of the formulas used at weddings, a wonderful sentence that was said by each spouse in turn: 'With my body, I thee worship.' If you feel no physical attraction to him, don't marry him!"

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He urges women to ask: "Has your love grown since you became serious about one another?" "Do you see in this person the qualities you want in your children?" "Do you love each other with equal intensity and are you sure your love is not one-sided?"

Beware of the "Green-Eyed Monsters." "Envy and jealousy are as complex as they are puzzling, and they're both destructive." He tells of a young woman who loved to dance but complained, "my boyfriend always declines my offers to dance with me. When I'm dancing with other boys, I can feel him staring at us. How can I help him to like dancing and to stop staring?"

"You'll probably never get your boyfriend to like dancing," Father Pat told her, "and the staring only means that jealousy is in play here. Have a chat with him about that unlovely quality. If he persists in his jealous-laden behaviour, drop him!"

If your boyfriend has cold feet, "Never put yourself in the position of trying to persuade him to marry you. No good can come of that," he writes. "It's important to pay attention to those actions that convey a lack of commitment on his part."

Adhering to dating rules is another mistake, he says. "I'm uncomfortable with this rules approach to dating-rules that take into account anything from who calls whom and when, who pays for dinner, and how many dates to have before either becoming intimate or moving on. Rules can quickly morph into ultimatums, and that's no good for anybody."

Also, think twice about the "fun or quirky proposals," like eloping to Vegas "on a whim." Father Pat urges women to "think about it. The decision to get married will affect your entire life. Do you really want to enter into something so casually?"

One couple's modest engagement rings made him happy. The groom said, "We bought these rings, one for $15, one for $20." The couple hoped to upgrade later on. Father Pat told them, "I hope you forget in future getting more expensive rings. Put the money toward your children's college funds!"

An inspirational video done by students

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Mon, 31 May 2010 15:50:00 +0000

How wonderful to see the next generation taking a stand on what they want to see out of life.

Enjoy!

The Low-Down on Facebook

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 22:28:00 +0000

6 Career-Killing Facebook Mistakes
by Erin Joyce, Investopedia.com
Monday, April 12, 2010
provided by

With more than 400 million active visitors, Facebook is arguably the most popular social networking site out there. And while the site is known for the casual social aspect, many users also use it as a professional networking tool. With that kind of reach, Facebook can be a valuable tool for connecting to former and current colleagues, clients and potential employers. In fact, surveys suggest that approximately 30% of employers are using Facebook to screen potential employees – even more than those who check LinkedIn, a strictly professional social networking site. Don't make these Facebook faux-pas – they might cost you a great opportunity.

1. Inappropriate Pictures
It may go without saying, but prospective employers or clients don't want to see pictures of you chugging a bottle of wine or dressed up for a night at the bar. Beyond the pictures you wouldn't want your grandparents to see, seemingly innocent pictures of your personal life will likely not help to support the persona you want to present in your professional life.

2. Complaining About Your Current Job
You've no doubt done this at least once. It could be a full note about how much you hate your office, or how incompetent your boss is, or it could be as innocent as a status update about how your coworker always shows up late. While everyone complains about work sometimes, doing so in a public forum where it can be found by others is not the best career move. Though it may seem innocent, it's not the kind of impression that sits well with a potential boss.

3. Posting Conflicting Information to Your Resume
If you say on your resume that your degree is from Harvard, but your Facebook profile says you went to UCLA, you're likely to be immediately cut from the interview list. Even if the conflict doesn't leave you looking better on your resume, disparities will make you look at worst like a liar, and at best careless.

4. Statuses You Wouldn't Want Your Boss to See
Everyone should know to avoid statuses like "Tom plans to call in sick tomorrow so he can get drunk on a Wednesday. Who cares that my big work project isn't done?" But you should also be aware of less flamboyant statuses like "Sarah is watching the gold medal hockey game online at her desk". Statuses that imply you are unreliable, deceitful, and basically anything that doesn't make you look as professional as you'd like, can seriously undermine your chances at landing that new job.

5. Not Understanding Your Security Settings
The security settings on Facebook have come a long way since the site started. It is now possible to customize lists of friends and decide what each list can and cannot see. However, many people do not fully understand these settings, or don't bother to check who has access to what. If you are going to use Facebook professionally, and even if you aren't, make sure you take the time to go through your privacy options. At the very least, your profile should be set so that people who are not your friend cannot see any of your pictures or information.

6. Losing By Association
You can't control what your friends post to your profile (although you can remove it once you see it), nor what they post to their own profiles or to those of mutual friends. If a potential client or employer sees those Friday night pictures your friend has tagged you in where he is falling down drunk, it reflects poorly on you, even if the picture of you is completely innocent. It's unfortunate, but we do judge others by the company they keep, at least to some extent. Take a look at everything connected to your profile, and keep an eye out for anything you wouldn't want to show your mother.

Facebook Can Help You Get Hired - Or Fired
The best advice is to lock down your personal profile so that only friends you approve can see anything on that profile. Then, create a second, public profile on Facebook purely for professional use. This profile functions like an online resume, and should only contain information you'd be comfortable telling your potential employer face to face. Having a social networking profile is a good thing – it presents you as technologically and professionally savvy. Just make sure your profile is helping to present your best side – not the side that got drunk at your buddy's New Year's party.

Rodney Talks Trash...literally!

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 23:56:00 +0000

Rodney gets his 2 minutes of fame and I'm damn proud he did something about it!! WOO HOO!!

Tiger Wood's Public Apology

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 14:39:00 +0000

What are your thoughts?!

Free Online Tarot Reading

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 08:42:00 +0000

I thought I'd share this link---to believers and non-believers...take it for what you'd like it to be.

Cheers!!

Free Tarot Reading

Try Sleeping With A Broken Heart

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 03:11:00 +0000

My favourite song to date!! Something that is so sad and tragic...

9 Signs He's Cheating by Marie Claire

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 14:22:00 +0000

Nine Signs He's Cheating by Rich Santos (From the Magazine Marie Claire)

When you get suspicious that your significant other is cheating, be careful not to appear to be paranoid. You have to walk a fine line — you don't want to make false accusations. So, while I'm sharing this list of cheating red flags, I concede that it's a tricky situation. It's hard to be sure if someone's cheating, but protect yourself: Be vigilant, and pay attention to your mind and spirit within the relationship. But, at the same time, be careful not to let anxiety lead the way because unnecessary paranoia will just drive your lover away.Here are some red flags that may signal that your significant other is cheating:Less SexUnless he's Superman, he can only have so much sex. So, if he's getting it from another source, you might notice. Whether it's another woman or a porn addiction — even if he's not cheating — a decrease in sex signals serious issues in the relationship. Jumpy Cell Phone HabitsIn a perfect world, we'd be open about sharing our correspondence with our significant others. Most of the time, we trust that we don't have to worry about who is texting or calling them. But, if you notice that he is getting protective and/or nervous when he gets calls or texts, it may be cause for alarm. Gushing or Talking About Someone SuddenlyYou know that exhilarating feeling you get when you meet someone new and exciting? You want to tell the world about him. One of my exes began talking about a guy a lot near the end of our relationship — he just always seemed to be at her social gatherings that I didn't happen to attend. Sure enough, after she dumped me, she began dating him.DisconnectEven though relationships ebb and flow naturally, if you're sensing that he's drawing away from you, then there may be someone else. Emotional disconnect should be investigated regardless of whether it's caused by cheating. There's a problem if he's not laughing or seeming as passionate as usual. It's hard to spread love/passion between two people, so the person who used to have it will feel it slipping away if it's being given to someone else.He's Pulling HoudinisIf he's disappearing, traveling, or unavailable to the point where you are starting to wonder, then he could be cheating. Also, these times tend to take on a pattern because it's tough to synch up schedules, especially in secret. Friends Acting StrangeHis friends will certainly remain loyal to him in most cases. They will not let you know what's going on, but they will definitely be racked with guilt, and their behavior may change slightly when they are around you while protecting his secret. Caught in Other Lies About Other ThingsIf you catch him in a lie, your trust will naturally be damaged. Don't hold a grudge — forgiveness is a good thing. You can forgive, but don't forget. If he consistently breaches your trust, it's establishing a pattern of behavior that leads to cheating. Do yourself a favor: If he keeps lying, whether these lies are big or small, get out while you can and don't let him talk his way back in. Been There, Done ThatI always say: "Once a cheater, always a cheater." If he's done it before, he's definitely capable of doing it again. It has nothing to do with you, which is why you can't say that he cheated on his previous lover because she didn't keep him happy. Cheating is a self-serving act in which the cheater doesn't take his significant other into consideration. If someone is upfront with you that he's made mistakes in the past, maybe give them a chance — but make it a long probationary period before you let your guard down.Your Gut Tells You SoDon't ignore your sixth sense. People are gifted at sensing when something doesn't feel right. Whether there are red flags in your relationship that are clueing you in or not, if something feels off, don't ignore this feeling. Usually that feeling is right, and something intangible may have led to you figuring it all out.

Relationship Don'ts

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 14:19:00 +0000

1. BODY INSECURITIES- You know you have this problem if...You cringe and cover up when your partner sees you naked. Compliments make you nervous and defensive. Thinking about his positive attributes makes you wonder what he's doing with you. Why is it a problem?When we are ashamed of our bodies, we "withdraw sexually" and have trouble "being playful and free," says relationship expert Dr. Alice Pisciotto. Many people resort to substances to deal with their insecurities (for example, drinking in order to have sex), which can ruin a sense of closeness. How to fix it: The first step is awareness: realizing, for example, that when he says, "you look beautiful in that dress" and you hear, "go to the gym," it's not because he's being sarcastic, but because you feel ashamed of your body. The second step is to learn to talk about it in an open, honest way. Explain your insecurities to him, why you think you have them, and how they make you feel. Then, pledge to yourself to throw the symptoms of insecurity out the window. Once you stop calling yourself fat, for example, you may stop feeling so fat.

2. BAD TIMING- You know you have this problem if... You bring up sore points — issues you argue about often or recently — at romantic dinners, family functions, or company events. Or, worse yet, you bombard him with accusations the second you're alone. Why is it a problem?"This really drives guys crazy," says Pisciotto. Everyone knows that communication is important to a good relationship, but knowing when and where to communicate can be just as important. Bringing up a problem at an inappropriate time or place will almost never solve it, and will become a problem in its own right. And he'll be reluctant to bring you along to his cousin's wedding if he's worried you'll be shooting him dirty looks all night. How to fix it: If you want to talk about a problem, give some forewarning, says Pisciotto. "X is really bothering me. Can we talk about it tonight?" Have a safe, private place where you can talk without feeling uncomfortable. And if you really want to resolve the issues, make sure you are talking in person and never by text message or e-mail.

3. SNAPPING-You know you have this problem if...Your partner complains you're always blowing up at him — whether he forgot to pick up the dry-cleaning or threw out the manuscript for the novel you've secretly been working on. Why is it a problem?You may be using these explosions as a substitute for intimacy, says Pisciotto. "If you say, 'I love you,' who knows how he's going to react?" You may get a grunt, you may get a kiss, you may get some bad news. "But if you scream at him, you know he's going to scream back." Excessive anger may be a sign that you're insecure about his feelings for you. Snapping at him allows you to control his behavior because his response — anger — is predictable. But if he feels like he's always about to step on a land mine, you may be doing the very opposite: driving him away. How to fix it: "This is really an issue of self-awareness," says Pisciotto. The next time you feel mad at him, ask yourself if your anger is proportionate to the offense. If not, think about why you feel so furious: Are you mad about something else that you haven't talked about sufficiently? Does his anger reassure you of his feelings (i.e., "if he's screaming at the top of his lungs, he must be passionate about me")? Are you insecure about his feelings because of something he has done, or because of something unrelated that happened to you in the past? Instead of blowing up at him, try to calmly and insightfully tell him why you are feeling so enraged. Use "I" sentences instead of "you" sentences: "I felt angry when you didn't call, because it made me feel like you don't care about me," rather than, "You didn't call me! You don't care about me!"

4. KEEPING SCORE-You know you have this problem if...You're keeping a tally of the gives and the takes. You say things like, "Yes, we hung out with my friends tonight but I hung out with his friends for the last five days." Why is it a problem?"Keeping score is usually a sign you don't feel understood, that you don't feel heard," explains Pisciotto. You feel that your partner doesn't realize or appreciate the contributions and sacrifices you make for the relationship. "This becomes the 'yes, but' of the relationship," says Dr. Pisciotto. "Yes, you took me out to dinner tonight, but I paid the last six nights. Yes, you initiated sex tonight, but I always initiate. Yes, you care about me, but I care about you more." How to fix it: When you catch yourself thinking or saying, "Yes, but..." step back and ask yourself why. Is this an isolated incident: Are you really the one who always does the dishes, and you just want him to help out more with household chores? Or is it part of a bigger problem: Do you feel like you always make more sacrifices for the relationship, and the dishes are just one example of many? Keeping score provides you with ammo to win the argument "Who's the better partner." It's childish behavior that you should do your best to minimize. Be hypervigilant when your thoughts slip into the "Yes, but..." pattern. Remind yourself that although you may give more in this particular area — you always pay for dinner out — he may give more in another, like always buying the groceries.

5. LETTING THE PAST DICTATE THE PRESENT-You know you have this problem if...You blame your current boyfriend for problems you had in your last relationship: Your ex had an affair with his personal trainer, so you tell your new boyfriend you like the "chubby look" to keep him out of the gym. Why is it a problem?It's a basic truth of psychology that "we often repeat problems in order to solve them," says Pisciotto. For example, when you're suspicious that your new boyfriend is going to cheat on you, like your ex did, your subconscious is trying to come to terms with the old problem. The effect will hardly be productive: You're likely to create some new issues with your current boyfriend without solving the issues from your past. How to fix it: Take a moment to ask yourself: Are there any issues or arguments you had with a former boyfriend that still bother you? If so, write them down and be on the lookout. The next time you're angry with your current boyfriend for something similar, ask yourself whether or not he deserves it. If not, Pisciotto recommends telling him about your ex and asking him about his. But be clear that you're talking about your old flame solely for the purpose of improving your current relationship. Your new guy doesn't want to hear about how your ex just got a promotion, what a great cook he was, or how amazing he was in bed.

Tips on Flirting at a party where you don't know anywhere by Marie Claire

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 14:17:00 +0000

1. Talk to strange girls! One of the best things that has come out of this year of living more flirtatiously has been all the new lady friends I've made--in particular, my talking head buddy Mona , and, more recently, the woman described here . (Plus, sometimes they have cute male friends.)

2. Talk to the gay boys! Because maybe you'll get lucky and meet an invaluable comrade. (Plus, sometimes they have cute straight friends.)

3. Talk to people youbarelyknow. If you have any excuse at all to introduce yourself or say hello to someone--maybe because you recognize them from the local news show, or you've seen them around town--make the most of it.

4. Be upfront about it! Tell people you are on a flirtation mission and ask if they will help you achieve your goal of meeting someone new.

5. Be persistent. Sometimes it takes a while for a party to warm up -- and for you to warm up to a party. Give it a little time. Stick around. Eat some pretzels and drink some free beverages. Switch from one room to the other, and back again.

6. Remember that you'll probably never see any of these people again. So ... I will repeat what seems to be my mantra: What do you have to lose? Put yourself out there! Make the most of it! You may very well discover some wonderful people!

Make Life A Living Masterpiece

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 03:04:00 +0000

For those who simply want to feel and be inspired. This one is DEFINITELY for you.
Cheers,

Masterpiece

Stephen Anthony MySpace Video

Thank-you to Stephen for posting this.

Don't forget to visit Mom Blogs at MomDot for other wonderful blogs!

I got a feeling...

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 00:42:00 +0000

So this past weekend I got a phone call from the colleague whom I have been working part time hours with. We share the same teaching position but only until Christmas. (She plans to return full time by then). Anyway after deciding 50 percent of the workload was too hard on her she cut back hours and the school offered me a 70 percent workload. I glad accepted it officially this past Sunday. Knowing that the job started this past Monday I wanted to make a new start...to capture the interest of my students and with this in mind I shared this particular 'FEEL GOOD' video with them that I also wanted to share with you.

Cheers,

I won a blog award!!

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 01:15:00 +0000

Check this out...I won a blog award!! WOO HOO!!!

http://exotic-lingerie.org/blog_awards/index.php?tag=all

75 Crazy-Hot Sex Moves

noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 04:08:00 +0000

75 Crazy-Hot Sex Moves

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noreply@blogger.com (D Lo) — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 14:42:00 +0000

Feel subtle sensations as you squeeze.These glass Ben Wa balls have a silicone strap making them easy to insert and remove whilst staying hypo-allergenic.Pop them inside your vagina and squeeze to strengthen your pelvic floor and to experience gentle stimulation as the knock together.

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