Unfortunately, Soul Contracts can also act as painful blocks that stop people from being able to achieve their dreams, have a wonderful marriage, find a best friend, or even become successful in business. When a Soul Contract is blocking the way, it is disheartening – and always confusing. I’ve met many a person who has tried every “thing” they could think of to find their “true love” or to make their business a great success – and yet, nothing worked. In situations like this, it’s often a Soul Contract that is standing in the way.

Below, I’ve listed five common Soul Contracts that people often don’t realize they have. Perhaps you recognize some of these within yourself? Perhaps it’s time to take some action (I’ll show you how to do that as well!).

5. Soul Contract of Martyrdom
Do you find that it’s a lot easier to say “yes” than it is to say “no”? Do you put your own needs or desires aside to help other people (or animals!) – even when it is really inconvenient to you? Do you feel like you’re a good person or a better person if you sacrifice your own needs in some way to make someone else happy? If you answered yes to any of these, you are probably a) feeling pretty frustrated with your life b) feeling that other people don’t appreciate you c) feeling tired and drained.

You probably also feel that being called “selfish” is the worst type of insult, and you most likely make decisions constructed to ensure that no one can ever apply that label to you. This is how the Martyrdom Soul Contract often manifests… and it’s not pretty. Once you’ve broken this soul-level agreement, it won’t mean you’ll never help another person. Rather, it will allow you to make better decisions about who to help and when – and also about how to continue to take care of yourself while giving to others. A much more balanced way to live for sure!

4. Soul Contract of Loyalty
Do you stand by your friend, lover, parent, boss etc. no matter what they do or how they treat you? Have you ever heard yourself saying “yes, she’s pretty mean but family is family” or “I have no choice, he’s my boss”? The Loyalty Soul Contract will often help a person create a situation in which they are walked all over by those they love and where a person feels helpless or trapped when considering changing or leaving the relationship because they don’t want to abandon the other person.

When a Soul Contract of this nature is finally released, you’ll be able to make changes in your relationships (personal or professional) even if those changes are something you’ve struggled with for years, such as leaving your husband or quitting your job. The “hold” that those people have over you will be gone!

3. Soul Contract of Loneliness
Have you been looking for your Soul-Mate throughout your life only to have one relationship after another result in failure, dis-ease, sadness and heartbreak? Have you tried blind dates, online dating, or settling for someone who isn’t “it”? While there are many different contracts that could be standing in the way of finding love, the Soul Contract of Loneliness can be one of the most difficult to handle. When your soul is adhering to this type of agreement, even when you’ve found someone wonderful – you still feel alone, separate and unsupported. Release this contract and you’re finally able to “feel” the support and love that is out there – whereas WITH this contract, it’s like it doesn’t exist (even though it often already does).

2. Soul Contract of Anxiety
If you are someone who always feels anxious, nervous or worried – your soul might be holding you to this type of contract. Do you wait for the other shoe to drop? When money is coming in – do you count the days until “you know” it will go out again? When one of your worries alleviates, do you quickly replace it with another thing to worry about? You may be thinking this is normal human nature, but it isn’t! In many cases, it’s a contract that you took out some time in a past life that your soul still believes is valid.

Why would you ever make such a commitment? Perhaps you felt that if you wrapped yourself in a blanket of anxiety – it would heighten your awareness so that nothing could ever get by you and surprise or hurt you again? (I’ve found with my clients that this is a common reason!)  Filtering life through a blanket of anxiety is not fun for you (obviously) or for the people around you. When you release this commitment, you’ll find that you are more able to be in touch with your

intuition (anxiety blocks us from our intuition) so you are more easily and naturally kept up to date by your own gut on what is coming down the pike for you. A much more enjoyable way to stay aware for sure!

1. Soul Contract: Rocking the Boat
Are you someone who is afraid to be seen as marching to your own drummer? Someone who doesn’t break rules or rock the boat? Who doesn’t even want others to know you’re reading this website? This is a very common agreement that we humans tend to commit ourselves to as a way of protection. By standing in the background and blending in, you run less risk of being ostracized, penalized or pointed out. While this might have seemed like a good idea during some lifetime when you were still reeling from being made fun of for something that you did – the current reality means that it will become difficult to build a business, become an expert, write a book, and more because you must stand out in order to do these things!

When you release this Soul Contract from your life, things really begin to open up. So much of what each person has come here to do is dependent on being able to blaze your own path. When you finally let go of this soul-level agreement, it’s like “ta-da!”, the lights turn on, your work is highlighted and things move forward.

How to Get Started Releasing & Clearing These Contracts
So, what do you do if you realize (through your own self-examination or through a session with me) that perhaps you’ve been unknowingly running up against a Soul Contract that you no longer want? How can you break it?

First, you have to realize that you can’t just break ANY Soul Contract that you want. It doesn’t work that way. You first must do the work to understand how this agreement has both served and hindered you. It’s like… your understanding is loosening the tooth so that it can be pulled.

Your second step is awareness. Spend time witnessing the Soul Contract and understanding how it’s been rearing its ugly head in your life. For example, if martyrdom is the issue, take a few weeks to notice when you’re giving up your own needs for those of another person. You’ll start to see patterns in your behavior, and as they emerge, it will become easier and easier for you recognize those times when you tend to sacrifice for others. This takes some time, so don’t expect to get it perfectly right away.

After you’ve mastered the awareness portion, a new piece will emerge: the awareness of the contract will bring about a moment of clarity. If you normally say, “Yes! I’ll take your Grandma to the grocery store on Sunday so you can stay in and watch football” you’ll now find that there is a small pause just before you give your answer. Within that pause you have created an opportunity: “Do I want to follow the same pattern or do I want to make a different decision this time?” Sometimes you will make the same decision and you will see the same results – but the more aware you are, the more you’ll be able to make a healthier choice.

Once you feel you’ve really got a handle on this contract, you understand where it shows up and how it’s affecting your life. After you’ve been working on making some different decisions, you can speed up and deepen the release by writing about it (automatic writing can be very effective!), addressing it in a therapy session, or doing Soul Contract work with me.

There is no right or wrong decision here – only what works. It’s a process – a process of realizing the Soul Contract is there, becoming aware of the pattern and how it shows up in your life, and then taking action steps to finally release it from your life. It’s one of the most empowering things you can do as a human!

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Not everyone is so naive and not everyone is so honest. And this is what my husband and I experienced this past week. My husband, Kevin is one of those very active Dads. When my son plays a sport, Kevin usually tries to coach the team – and he puts his all into it. When my son wants to learn a new activity, my husband is right there with him showing him how to do it.  For example, Cole (my son) wanted to learn skateboarding, so my husband starting teaching him everything he knew. They now skateboard down the street and at skate parks all the time together. (And yes, Kevin is the old guy skateboarding, but he doesn’t mind). Kevin is one of those “do it all for the kids” kinds of Dads and that’s something I really admire about him. By the way, he’s also an engineer – so he’s very detail oriented and conscientious in anything that he does with Cole (sometimes to a fault as well!)

Cut to the present when Kevin is volunteer coaching my son’s hockey team. He’s been devoting about 15 hours a week into it, on top of his regular job. He loves coaching, he loves watching the kids develop and he has an attachment to every last kid on the team. He knows these boys so well – he can tell you if someone didn’t get enough sleep, is going to have the game of his life or isn’t grounded (my son’s problem) before a game even begins. The problem is that kids are involved. And with kids come parents.

Last week, Kevin and his assistant coach had a meeting with one of the parents of a boy on the team. The coaches wanted to make sure everyone was on the same page. As it turned out, everyone was not on the same page and the parent launched a personal attack against Kevin three inches from his face. This father spit as many personal and coaching insults as he could think of at Kevin, the rest of the coaches and the other boys on the team. With his voice raised, his face red and sweaty this father really lost his cool (although based on this, I’m not sure he ever had the cool). The assistant coach, a great peacemaker, struggled to calm the father down and get him to back away from Kevin who thankfully, did not rise to meet the challenge and remained perfectly calm. Finally, Kevin ended the meeting saying “This isn’t getting us anywhere. Perhaps we should talk again when you’re calmer.” The take away point was that this father wanted his son to play a different position and that was how he chose to express that thought.

Here’s the thing: Kevin and I were both blown away by this father’s behavior and attack. This man’s wife has been very nice to me and to Kevin throughout the season and yet as it turned out, she was completely in line with what her husband had said about Kevin both as a coach and as person. And here’s where my naivety comes in. I had heard through the good ol’ town grapevine that the wife had said these exact same things, but since she was so nice to me during games and when I saw her on the street, I passed it off as town gossip. Which it clearly was not.

For Kevin, this was a difficult lesson to learn. He wants to make all of the kids AND the parents happy while also helping the kids grow their hockey skills and have fun. Over the weeks prior this blow up, Kevin and the other coaches has spent hours and countless emails putting the kids into positions they thought would be best of the team as well as for the individual play. A hard task with 18 kids! Not having this plan valued – and in fact, watching it get attacked was very difficult for Kevin but more importantly, knowing that his plan was the catalyst for someone going into that much anger was worse. In order for Kevin to come through this experience and master it, he’s going to have to become accepting of the idea that he can’t please everyone. Difficult to swallow, but he’s working on even as we speak.

Unlike Kevin, I’m not so concerned with making everyone happy. If you’re not happy with me, you’re not happy with me. We’re not a match. So be it. My lesson in this situation was different because I’m psychic. And I didn’t use my intuitive abilities to even glance at the situation. I heard the horrible things the mother had been saying about the kids on the team, the coaches and the team itself – from several different sources and yet, I chose to ignore it because in person, this mother is nice to me. Instead of ignoring it – a “check-in” would have been a better step. I could have taken just a moment to “feel” out the gossip (Is this true? Did this mother really say these things?) and get prepared if necessary. The problem is that I often tend to separate my time as a hockey mom from my time as an intuitive. On the one hand, it’s never fun to watch a game and know who is going to win before it starts (this was a problem during the Stanley Cup Finals last year-just ask my husband who wanted to shoot me). On the other hand, I have to allow my abilities to part of every aspect of my life (just like I teach all of you!) Including hockey. Including hockey mom. For me, this was a reminder to be me, everywhere.

The Want to Please Everyone Soul Contract and the Separate Psychic Times from Real Life Soul Contract are very common among Lightworkers. I’m hoping that through this blog post you can find those places in your life where a Soul Contract has been activated within you and then try to master the lesson from it. Dealing with Soul Contracts and lessons is not always easy (as you can see here), but it does pay off. Both Kevin and I are happier because of what we have gained from this experience (but it took a few days to get the perspective!)

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Your personal Soul Contracts are a little sneaky – it’s not like you can look them up on the web or ask your Mom or read about them in a book. Your personal Soul Contracts are exactly that: personal. So,it takes quite a bit of conscious looking and effort to understand and master them. Luckily, the point of being human is to understand and master these relationships – so it’s not an impossible task, just a task that requires focus and intention.

Soul Contracts are those wonderful agreements that occur between two souls before embodiment. That’s right – before you became Jane Smith or John Cullins your soul got together which a whole bunch of other souls and figured out how you would help one another evolve once you came into your next human lifetimes. Sounds great right? The problem is that most of the time, you (as the human attached to that soul) has no clue how this or that relationship is helping you evolve (your soul knows and it’s up to your human-ness [my own made-up word] to find out). It’s an interesting little system that has been put together for us. The more you work toward “getting” these soul contracts, the closer your human-ness comes to your soul, the better you feel about yourself and the happier you are in your life.

These beautiful Soul Contracts created before embodiment are not to be confused with Negative Soul Contracts which people create during embodiment when they are trying to control their lives rather than have faith that they are safe, guided and protected by Spirit, the Universe, our Angels or Guides – or whomever it is that they normally put their faith into. Like Positive Soul Contracts, Negative Soul Contracts also help you evolve it’s just that the road to that evolution is just a lot bumpier, more confusing and stressful. Feel like you’re a good person because you help others despite yourself? Perhaps, you’re someone who can’t break your word or maybe every time you make a friend you end up resenting them because they demand so much from you. These are all examples of Negative Soul Contracts!

People want to work on their Soul Contracts (positive or negative) because learning why a certain relationship is the way it is or why a certain patterns repeats in your life can be so helpful. You could finally feel safe in your relationship with your husband – or perhaps finally leave him. You could finally feel comfortable living outside the box (perhaps you leave your corporate job and start your own business). You could finally feel happy taking care of yourself (after all, “selfish” is not a four-letter word).  But to do this is takes some personalized and focused self-examination. Yes, through my sessions I help people do this work – but there are other ways as well. Yoga, for one, can be a great way to get to know yourself and your patterns. Writing with your guides – is another wonderful method for gaining insight into your relationships and negative patterns – but you have to trust what you are getting (a little issue for some people!). Therapy, changing your diet, pushing yourself to live slightly outside of your comfort zone in your relationships and out – these are all other methods through which I’ve seen people find success in understanding and mastering their Soul Contracts. In the end it will be a completely personal decision – and what works for you will not necessarily work for someone else. My suggestion? Start trying different methods! You will find the right thing for you to start experiencing that feeling of moving forward at the deepest level!

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So, I want to find those ads that can get the same information across (there are many animals in need of adoption, shelters are looking for donations and volunteers) without creating feelings of guilt, sorrow and pity. I know they exist as I’ve already begun to see a glimpse of this in the media – and I want more. Recently, I watched a TV ad from a rescue organization in which two cartoon cats were at a shelter waiting to be adopted by their new, but as yet unknown, human families.

“Maybe today is the day,” said cat number one.

“Hopefully,” replied cat number two.

“If not, there is always tomorrow” cat number one said cheerfully.

OK, so I may not remember the exact discussion between the two cats word-for-word, but I do remember the feeling I had while watching (not fast-forwarding my DVR for once) these two very sweet and funny cats talk during the commercial. It was a feeling of hope – it was a feeling that adopting an animal into the home feels good – and is something I do want to be a part of helping in some way. The commercial still succeeded in getting the message and information through about the animal adoption issue but it came through humor, Light and feelings of community and excitement. You’ve all heard me say – decisions made through negative emotions are not usually decisions for the greatest and highest good of all – and this one commercial clearly understood that.

I’m not saying that the sad music commercials should be completely abandoned – they work for a contingent of people who are motivated by the triggering of negative emotions. And this is just fine. I’m advocating that there are many people out there who are like me, looking for positive messages to connect to, help with and be part of. As people become more consciously aware of their roles here on Earth I expect that more and more commercials like the cat commercial will be created.

So help me find them. Please post here any links to great, positive, highly-vibrating animal rescue commercials or advertisements – let’s see what’s out there. And don’t forget when you post to tell me how the commercial/ad moved you in a positive way through loving, helpful messages.

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