The Evolution of Darkstar Woman!

Love this

2011-11-17T19:52:00.001-05:00

Jeremy Fields wrote:
I'd like to take a moment to acknowledge and appreciate those women in the world who truly understand their value and worth. Even further, those that understand that value to be a reflection of their knowledge of self in spirit and character. Those who hold their purpose to their core. Those who have risen above a male dominated society, removed excuses and determined themselves beyond superficial... beauty and sex appeal.

Masks, costumes, seduction and drama are the feeble tools of those who lack character. They are temporary, cheap, shallow and only attract similar patrons. Strong character, purpose, and value create irresistible magnetism and attract those of similar kind who would appreciate and further nurture them.

Ladies, your worth is infinitely greater than your superficial beauty and sex appeal. Don't sell yourself short by spending all of your time and energy appealing to those who would never appreciate you beyond them. Invest yourself in perfecting your character, it will never fail you. True beauty is humble and exists beyond what the eyes can see. Be whole and irresistible in the quality of your character, don't just look the part. God is within you and heaven is throughout you. Know this and appreciate yourself beyond the mirror.

will.i.am on OWN

2011-11-06T22:17:00.007-05:00

I just finished watching Visionaries on OWN featuring will.i.am. I felt truly inspired, inspired enough to write this post.

This man, will.i.am is such a passionate and creative man. He's authentic and driven. At times I've wanted to give up on my dreams, especially because I'm not a young woman anymore. I've thought many times that it's never going to happen, but will.i.am never gave up and look what he's done. He travels the world sharing his passion with millions of people.

Never give up on yourself, because you are worth it! You are special and unique. Always remember this, even in your darkest days. Don't forget to shine, the world needs you. : )

Check out will.i.am on OWN.

Have a fabulous day!

Darkstar Woman.

Just One Thing: Developing A Buddha Brain One Simple Practice at a Time

2011-10-26T21:56:00.009-04:00

You never know what your going to find on the web. I was looking through my emails when I came upon a link to this book. One of my family members has another book by this author and she highly recommends it. So I scrolled through the introduction and the first chapter and it looks really good.

I'm always interested in making a happier life for myself, and this book looks like it provides a lot of useful tools to help create a great life. This is where science meets self-help.


Click here to read more.

The book's description:

You’ve heard the expression, “It’s the little things that count.” Research has shown that little daily practices can change the way your brain works, too. This book offers simple brain-training practices you can do every day to protect against stress, lift your mood, and find greater emotional resilience. Just One Thing is a treasure chest of over fifty practices created specifically to deepen your sense of well-being and unconditional happiness.

Just one practice each day can help you:

-Be good to yourself

-Enjoy life as it is

Have a FABULOUS day or evening, wherever you are.

Darkstar Woman.

Who am I without my stuff?!

2011-10-24T22:49:00.008-04:00

I wanted to expand a little on yesterday's blog where I wrote about the need to acquire 'stuff.' Obviously we need to have things so that we can live comfortably, but when does this 'stuff' become a problem??

I've been thinking a lot lately about who I am, and how I would feel about myself without all of these external items. Like my home, car, clothes, furniture, etc. I think, well I actually know, I would be lost! I value having 'stuff', I believe it says something about me. I believe it tells people about my success, my competency, and to some; my worthiness.

But here's the thing, I'm not so sure if I want to buy into this belief system anymore. I think it takes a lot of time and effort to acquire so many material items just so that you can live up to a perceived perception of success.

We all want to feel that we're valued, but at what cost? I'm not saying it's not nice to have material items, but when the external becomes more important than the internal then that's where the problem lies.

Well on to my next project, that of building up my inner strength, so that I know who I am and what I really want out of life. I hope some of you will put down your wallets, and build up your internal self-worth with me. Good-luck!

Here's a few funny cartoons on self-worth....enjoy. ; )

In my search for pictures to add to this post, I came upon this woman's site http://divahh.com/tag/owning-stuff/ this is her ramblings on 'stuff.' Different then mine, yet quite interesting and inspiring.

Darkstar Woman

John's Journal

2011-10-22T23:37:00.003-04:00

I was just browsing through some of the other blogs here on blogger.com and I ran across a blog called, John's Journal. John is an American who spent just over a year living in Europe.While I was looking through his blog I came upon a posting called, 'Reverse Culture Shock' this post is about his return to the States and his observations about the differences between the U.S and Europe.

He made a list of points about the differences and the last point is what made me want to write this post. He talked about how he was overwhelmed with all the stuff in his closet after arriving home. This made me think about my lifestyle as a North American.

I do think I tend to buy things I don't need or overspend instead of save. I find at times I end up going to the store because I'm bored and it can add some interest to my day.

I'm definitely not a big spender at all, but just the little things can make me feel better. In the past I've asked myself why I buy so much? And a lot of times I think, 'what else is there to do?' What I mean by this is that I think society and of course myself is geared to shopping or spending money or some sort.

Maybe this is just a lame excuse of mine, but I find that there's not a lot of exciting or interesting things to do out in the wild, wild world that doesn't cost money. It actually makes me sad to see rural spaces turn into urban ones. My challenge, and I'm going to send this challenge out to all of you who tend to "have too much stuff in their closets", is to put forth a concerted effort to find fun and fascinating things to do that doesn't include spending money.

Maybe it will be a new adventure we're on together, maybe we'll all end up with a little (hopefully a lot) of money in our pockets.

Thanks John from the U.S for writing this post, I believe you definitely have a point.

John's blog can be found here . And here's a link to an article about overspending.

Cheers, have a great day!

Darkstar Woman

EGG ON MY FACE!

2011-10-20T20:41:00.009-04:00

So I signed up for AdSense a few days ago; they display ads on your blog and you get a small fee. I thought why not, I'm a entrepreneurial woman?! But now I see that the ad they've put on my blog about learning to accept the aging process, is for a product by Suzanne Somers that tightens and tones your skin!!

I guess they take the key words from your blog and put an ad up that seems the most relevant. But now I look like an ASS! So I apologize for the ad, and HOPEFULLY I can get them to replace it with an appropriate one. Maybe they'll figure out that they should read the blog before they put their adds up on a bloggers site.

But again, I guess this proves my point. Another example of a product that promotes youth. Where are the products that celebrates aging?! Now I'd buy that!

From a very embarrassed and slightly miffed Darkstar Woman.

Oh yes I forgot, one other thing to explain. A little while back I blogged about how the average person sees approximately 5000 ads a day, give or take a thousand. I complained about the fact that ads are being pushed on us and how they're getting into our psyches if we like it or not. So AGAIN I must apologize for now promoting ads. Ahhhh, I'm such a bad person! Anyway I'm sorry, divert your eyes if you must from the Ads and just look at my bad ass blogging. : ) I thought I would try to earn a little extra cash and AdSense was an option. Phew! I'm now done apologizing, now I can relax! Have a great day/night where ever you dwell.

Yikes I'm Aging!!

2011-10-11T22:17:00.004-04:00

So I was washing my face this evening and was thinking about the creams and moisturizers that I use to help keep my skin clean and healthy. And I was also thinking about the products that I use on occasion that claim to help me keep my skin looking younger.

Then I thought, 'What's wrong with aging?!' Yes, I am aging! I'm not young anymore, although I'm not really, really old yet either. But why do I really care to look younger when I'm not?! So here's my answer, I want to look young because I'm told that I SHOULD want to look young, but the reality is that I'm not.

And somehow I've learned somewhere that it's not really okay to grow older then the age of 29. Why is it not really that okay to age? Does aging, growing old, and wrinkling mean that I'm getting less attractive? Apparently it does to me. Here I am, an aging woman, believing that younger is better and older is to be covered up with creams.

Poor me, things can only go downhill from here! : ( I'm only going to get older. All those products that claim that they'll make me look younger, are just going to keep adding up because I'll need more and more of them to hold back the years!

Here I am with this problem. I'm stuck aging, but I don't want to feel bad about it. I guess I'll have to think differently about my own aging process. So here's my solution to my problem; with aging comes wrinkles, greying, etc. but so too does WISDOM! From now on I'm going to say to myself as many times as it takes, 'Aging is beautiful!!!'

Now that I'm wise...tee hee....I've realized it's better to be happy than being younger, slimmer, or richer. Happiness is the key to living a fulfilled life.

I'm going to start taking my power back baby!

Darkstar Woman

Mermaids do not exist

2011-10-05T12:55:00.005-04:00

I got this from a friend....too funny!

A while back, at the entrance of a gym, there was a picture of a very thin and beautiful woman. The caption was "This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?"

The story goes, a woman (of clothing size unknown) answered the following way:

"Dear people, whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, seals, curious humans), they are sexually active and raise their children with great tenderness.
They entertain like crazy with dolphins and eat lots of prawns. They swim all day and travel to fantastic places like Patagonia, the Barents Sea or the coral reefs of Polynesia.
They sing incredibly well and sometimes even are on cds. They are impressive and dearly loved animals, which everyone defend and admires.

Mermaids do not exist.

But if they existed, they would line up to see a psychologist because of a problem of split personality: woman or fish?
They would have no sex life and could not bear children.
Yes, they would be lovely, but lonely and sad.
And, who wants a girl that smells like fish by his side?

Without a doubt, I'd rather be a whale.

At a time when the media tells us that only thin is beautiful, I prefer to eat ice cream with my kids, to have dinner with my husband, to eat and drink and have fun with my friends.

We women, we gain weight because we accumulate so much wisdom and knowledge that there isn't enough space in our heads, and it spreads all over our bodies.
We are not fat, we are greatly cultivated.
Every time I see my curves in the mirror, I tell myself: "How amazing am I ?! "

Click here to find out more about this model.

Ciao, Darkstar Woman ; )

Staying on Track

2011-10-01T18:00:00.006-04:00

There are so many ways that life, if you let it can throw you off track. The trick is to try to stay on track as often as you can while dealing with life and it's whims. Not to say that failing off track isn't okay and sometimes even necessary.

Sometimes falling off track can help us re-evaluate the direction we're heading in. I feel I've fallen off track enough times to know exactly what direction I need to be heading in. lol I think I'm in a place where I just have to keep reminding myself that I have chosen the path that I'm on, and that I just need to have the confidence to keep going.

I was thinking about perception last night, well actually my perception. My perception of the world; and I was wondering if in a certain way it has limited me? Now that I'm getting older, I feel my perception of the world has to a point solidified. I feel I know myself and my beliefs pretty well, but I'm now wondering if even though I feel pretty good about how I see the world, maybe I should open up more and challenge myself to see the world with a different perspective.

Who knows what will happen, maybe I'll learn something new. Maybe I'll become more tolerant and yes less judgmental. Maybe I'll take more risks, and have new adventures. Maybe I'll be able to push myself out of my comfort zone.

After all that being said, I don't think that I'll stray off my path that much, I still believe I truly know what I want. I feel it in my core. But after I open myself up and after I challenge myself, my path might just be slightly more colorful and hopeful much more adventurous. Well I'll try to get back to you on my new adventures. But as for now all I can say is, have a great day!

Darkstar Woman ; )

Here's a link to "Quotes to Live by". We all need a little inspiration sometimes!

This is so true, I love this

2011-09-29T23:02:00.002-04:00

A friend of mine posted this image on facebook, and I totally have to agree with Malcolm X on this one.

The newspapers and the media in general aren't always so blatant about oppressing people, but it's how they say things. They can twist words or put a negative slant on a certain type of people. They can subtly change peoples points of view about a certain section(s) of our population. These media types aren't always swaying our views intentionally but many times they are. Control and money, that's what I believe a lot of this is about. Because if you have the control, then you have the money.

The messages being pushed on us are that we must be a certain type of person, you must look a certain way, you must live a certain way and you must buy certain products or you are just not as good as the guy or girl that does buy into the messages. I believe in one way or another we have all been given this message. And I believe many of us have bought into it. I know I have, I know I have let the media sway my thinking and alter my perspective of the world.

Reading and taking in new information through these sources is obviously going to happen. But when do you know when your opinion has been tainted by outside sources? I think the images and messages in the media are sometimes so strong and are spewed out on such a massive scale, that we really aren't aware that we're being so heavily influenced by these people.

I believe that hatred keeps people in check. So many of us conform, some of us in subtle ways and others more obvious, but no one wants to be put down, or judged or even hated. So in the end, many of us bow down to the oppressors.

Again with the Timothy Leary quote "Think for yourself, and question authority."

Have a fantastic day ; )

Darkstar Woman

I like this

2011-09-13T21:28:00.000-04:00

You don't need to destroy yourself anymore, we all know you were good at that,
now retire from all that hard work you do
of bringing pain to those sweet eyes and heart

I totally need to work on this one.

2011-09-11T21:40:00.000-04:00

Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed. Wayne Dyer

How Many Ads Do You See a Day?

2011-09-01T02:20:00.004-04:00

So I was taking to this woman yesterday about self-image and society. She said, 'Did you know, that the average person sees approximately 5000 advertisements a day?' I was shocked and in disbelief. I thought how is that possible, 5000 ads?! That didn't seem right, I knew I had to find out the answer so I did a little research and believe it or not she was right.

This woman went on to explain that a great percentage of those ads are directed towards women and their appearance, and that even if we are not intentionally absorbing these ads like reading magazines, or watching t.v, these ads are everywhere you turn and our minds are unintentionally absorbing them. Ads are everywhere, on bus stops, benches, billboards, on our phones, on the internet, on BLOGGER, and so on and so on! It's definitely overwhelming.

It seems like it's almost a little bit like brainwashing, okay a lot like brainwashing! Scary!! Anyone would have a hard time turning their backs on that amount of messages sent their way.

We are being targeted to buy, buy, buy! We are shown that we should have the newest gadgets, the best clothes, the best homes, the best diets, etc. But do all of these material items really make us happier? The ads will just keep on coming, and we will never have enough.

There is this guy named Timothy Leary, he was activist in the 1960's I believe. He told people to think for themselves and question authority. I never really bought into the questioning authority part. Although that may make me sound naive, what I mean is I thought obeying laws and following rules was important. But as I grow older and now that I have a family of my own, I'm starting to see things differently.

As children we are for the majority of our growing up, told what to do and what to think. But as adults I think it's so important to question everything we are taught as children. It's important to know if what you're parents told you about life makes sense in your adult life. Also what you were told by your teachers, religious figures, the media, your peers, and society, does it work for you now? As for myself I feel like I'm waking up, and now I'm asking myself that important question, does this fit for me?? Does seeing 5000 ads a day work for me?? I think not.

Here's a link to an article about the same issue:

So, THINK FOR YOURSELF AND QUESTION AUTHORITY. AND...Have a great day : )

Darkstar Woman

To my evolution....cheers!

2011-08-30T00:17:00.002-04:00

It's hard not too be affected by people, hey we live amongst 6 billion or so of them. Obviously it's quite hard not to be. So staying on my path, the right path is sometimes hard. I try to speak my truth, but at times, when in difficult situations my truth can be confusing.

The other day I got into an emotional conversation with someone. It had been a LONG time coming and I didn't say everything that I really wanted to, but I said enough and some of what I had to say was with a lot of anger. It was an intense conversation, and it was hard not to get angry. But I wonder now, did I say too much?

Because I'm EVOLVING, I'm starting to do things differently. It's almost like I'm having to relearn who I am and how to do things all over again. And having healthy, productive relationships; which includes communicating in healthy ways is one of them. Part of me questions what I said to this person, these issues with this person had been eating me up for years, but on the other hand, did I have to say all that I said??

I don't know. I do feel better, because I was honest with the person. But I have this other part of me that's saying, 'was it really necessary, did it really change anything?' That person is who they are, and just because at times they drive me crazy with their egotist ways, is it my right to tell them what I think of them??

I don't know, and I guess that's life. Sometimes we say or do things that we're not too sure about, and sometimes we'll never know if it was the right or wrong thing to do. But all I have to say is, that after I said what I had to say, I felt RELIEF!!

So I believe I have to suck it up, and deal with what's coming, and stand in my own truth. LIFE!!! It can be hard, but I feel there's always something to be learned.

Peace out! And keep evolving. ; )

Hi

2011-08-28T01:05:00.000-04:00

Feeling thankful, living life, one day at a time, and it's getting better and better. And remembering.....to get out of my own way. Cheers!

Darkstar Woman : )

love lures life on

2011-08-13T13:09:00.000-04:00

love lures life on

Managing

2011-08-12T22:17:00.001-04:00

So I've been trying to manage my life. What works, what doesn't, which direction should I go in, etc? Am I a good manager, am I providing a supervisory role, giving direction and encouragement wisely?? Hmmmm....well, I think I've been doing about average, and I think I could improve upon my role greatly.

I've started to make a list of things I need/want to accomplish in my life. I've been thinking about making this list for a long time, but of course I procrastinated. But I put the procrastination finally behind me and done it. I have accomplished to put three goals on it so far. 1. Finish my schooling 2. Learn more about photography 3. CLEAN MY HOUSE!! Number three doesn't seem so exciting, but it's been a long time coming and I know once it looks better, I'll feel so much better! I truly am a home body. I've denied it for years, I didn't want to seem boring and lame, but it's true, 'I love my home!' It's the one place where I pretty much feel safe, it's my cave and I don't have to let anyone in!! : )

So, I've given myself some direction, now I just need to give myself some encouragement. So....GET OFF YOUR ASS DARKSTAR AND DO SOMETHING!!! There now I feel encouraged. lol
Although I was feeling like giving up a little on my new goals, things didn't seem to be going the way I wanted, but doing things like writing a blog seems to organize my thoughts a bit and puts things in perspective.

I really want to achieve my goals, and I'm not getting any younger. Giving up gets me nowhere, and at least if I don't succeed, well at least I tried. I tried, and then if it doesn't work out, especially with the cleaning, then I can move on. : ) Well, I must keep my employee (me!) on the straight and narrow, and not let her get off track. I better be cracking the whip!

Peace Out! Darkstar Woman.

The Evolution of Darkstar Woman

2011-08-08T15:13:00.003-04:00

What I'm working on now in my life, among so many other thing is trying to erase negative thinking. My negative thinking has held me back so much in my life. I've limited my potential and stopped myself from taking on new opportunities.

A lot of this negative thinking comes from my childhood. I was an impressionable child as many kids are, and I tended to believe what others told me. I no longer want to believe what those people had said. Some of them no longer exist, but I have been letting them exist in my mind, I actually have let them run (ruin) my life.

It's amazing how much I've trusted other people's opinions over my own. What was wrong with me?? I know I'm not the only one out there that has done this. Silly isn't it? We are the ones who truly know ourselves and what's best for ourselves. And what is best for me is to believe in myself. To have confidence in myself when no one else does and when people are mean, I know I need to remind myself that their meanness and their rejection has nothing to do with me, but everything to do with them!

I now know I am better then what those people from my past said I was. I know that I'm STILL a work in progress. But I also know that I'm the only one who is truly going to take care of myself, so I better treat myself well.

Darkstar Woman.

ps- I was watching 'The View' this morning. Whoopi Goldberg, one of the hosts, was saying that she had visited with the Dalai Lama and that he had told her that to create more peace in the world we should work on building self-confidence within ourselves. If we are self-confident then we are happier people who are more willing to help others, thus creating peace.

I really liked what he had said because I believe that in our society we are really not taught to be self-confident. We are taught to be critical of ourselves and others. And I notice when people receive compliments that they tend to downgrade the compliment or not to except it all. Just to clear things up, I think that there are people out there who have great self-confidence and who are perfectly okay with accepting compliments, but I believe the majority of us struggle with self-confidence and really it is in a way sort of an epidemic in our culture.

Getting Off Track

2011-08-06T11:50:00.001-04:00

So I was feeling rejected, hurt and angry yesterday, but of course after a good nights sleep I have a new perspective on things.

I know now that I need to keep focusing on myself. Things that happened like yesterday are only hiccups in the road. Over the length of my life it's just a little blip. I don't want to feel bad about myself, I can't say why I was rejected, but at this point I know it's none of my business. Because my business is me, and that includes taking care of myself, and doing the right thing for me.

Today I will be put into a situation, that I don't fully want to be in. But I know that I have to focus on myself and not get involved in other peoples 'stuff'. Wish me luck!!!

Darkstar Woman

Still waiting....but still the pain

2011-08-06T01:27:00.003-04:00

So tonight I put myself out there, and I was squashed. Harsh, so harsh. I guess I'm still searching for approval, from people, but in this situation it was complete strangers.

It would be so easy if there were no other people in the world. I would probably dance naked and eat whatever I wanted. But of course I wouldn't/couldn't do those things because I would be JUDGED!! I'm totally trying to build up my self-confidence and not let rejection pull me down so far, but people can be so mean and it's just not fair. Yes I'm whining, but more so I'm mad. Apparently I have a long, long way to go until I get passed this issue. : ( Although I have a sinking feeling that I'll probably never totally get over it!

Too bad though, it would be so nice. Maybe just maybe then, I would dance naked. : )

Darkstar

A fruit salad to end the day. How perfect!

2011-08-05T21:49:00.000-04:00

I really enjoy these sunny days. Fill me up on vitamin D please! I feel renewed, even though I am exhausted. The sun, it does so many wonderful things and especially for me. Tonight I decided a fruit salad was in order for desert, a perfect desert for a perfectly sunny day. I'm very lucky to have access to a wonderful park full of gardens, streams and forests. Taking time for the small things in life always seem to payoff tenfold.

Speaking uncomfortable truths

2011-06-18T22:18:00.006-04:00

Sometimes I say things to people that I feel I need to, but by doing so I end up stirring up a hornets nest. I think they may call that diarrhea of the mouth. But I feel I need to save these people, I need them to see my point of view and see that my way is the right way! : )

I do take risks and say uncomfortable things, but now that I'm thinking about it more, maybe I don't always really need to say everything that I'm feeling and thinking. Obviously, my truth is not the only truth, it's just one perception. Although, it's a pretty insightful and intelligent perception. : )

Maybe I should just look inward and focus on myself?? Hmmmm....sounds like a good idea. ; o I think for now, I will work on a balance of doing both things. Speaking up for myself when I need to. Speaking the truth; my truth. But for the rest of the time. Which is about 99% of the time, I will focus so much on myself, that I will get so sick of myself that I won't know what to do. I guess I'll have to learn a new hobby or something. Maybe I'll become a counselor or a nun; they sound like good hobbies.

So here I go.....out into the world. So watch out! Because I might just trip over you while I'm thinking about my awesome self. Peace Out! Darkstar Woman.

Allo!

2011-06-18T00:45:00.001-04:00

I am okay. The answer was okay (refer to the post 'Literally) and that's all that counts. I am renewed and feeling hesitantly optimistic. All is well this evening : ) I hope you are well too ; )

I am starting to see the world in a new and bright way. It's not that anything has changed really. Although I have added two new birdie friends to my fold, but it's me, I'm changing. I am slowly liking myself more and more. Finally....relief. I'm letting go of 'STUFF' and I've let go of 'Stuff' before, but this is big. I think it's all coming together for me because I am willing to go through some of the 'tough shit' and I'm not running away. I'm not running from my feelings. 'Feelings', you may say, 'not running away from feelings?....that's not so hard!.' But when the feelings come from a buried place so deep down inside and they come at you with such intensity, it's hard not to run away. But when I don't run, relief and happiness are my rewards.

Thanks for visiting : ) Till next time.

Thank-you

2011-06-16T02:15:00.002-04:00

I had a really good heart to heart with someone today. They just listened and then talked a little and then just listened again. Ever have an unexpected cry? It almost comes out of nowhere, but when it's over you feel like a thousand pounds has been lifted off your shoulders? Well that's how good this conversation was...it was just that good. : )

I still have no answer to my question (see posts below). They have no answer for me yet. I'm still scared, but I thank-you my friend for listening to me today, you are a marvelous person. I see you like an amazing flower, your blooming before my eyes. Your approach or should I say your soul is soft, it's softening, and thoughtful and you're becoming the authentic version of yourself. And I was lucky enough to be witness to that today. I was lucky enough to get a part of that.

Until next time my friend.

Just to update my 'Literally'

2011-06-13T19:40:00.001-04:00

No news yet! I guess no news is good news....I hope. But just to shake things up a bit today. I thought I would post this.

Just say'in. Andy Samberg from SNL.

Have a GRRREEEEAAAAAT day/evening!