Dateologytag:typepad.com,2003:weblog-1839882008-12-02T11:00:00-08:00TypePadDo women really hate their friends' dates?tag:typepad.com,2003:post-592836982008-12-02T11:00:00-08:002008-12-02T11:00:00-08:00I was talking with my friend John about our mutual friend Leila and her boyfriend. Leila started to date Chris a couple of months back. They've been seeing one another quite a bit. He lives in New York so she's been flying there and he's been flying back here. They talk on the phone every day and I get the sense he is truly into her. But when I meet Chris for the first time this weekend, I am not too impressed. "What is it," I ask John. "Is it me or is he really just not all that great?"...datingirlhttp://dateology.typepad.com/home/2008/12/do-women-really-hate-their-friends-dates.htmlThanksgiving--I'm recoveringtag:typepad.com,2003:post-592832142008-12-01T00:38:59-08:002008-12-01T00:38:59-08:00Hello Dear Dateologers. How was your Thanksgiving? Did you have lots of turkey? Did you shop till you dropped on Black Friday? Mine was splendid: spent it with an international group of friends--each cooked a traditional dish. Have been stuffed for days. And still finding myself wiping baby-puke off my boots. Do these things ever come off? It's like pure acid, I swear. Won't be surprised if there are holes in the leather by now. Have a fantastic start to the week! Yours truly, DGdatingirlhttp://dateology.typepad.com/home/2008/12/thanksgivingim-recovering.htmlDates who look at someone else...while they're with you.tag:typepad.com,2003:post-590113502008-11-25T01:08:17-08:002008-11-25T01:08:17-08:00I find it funny that only Eugene commented on my big announcement--emotional abuse no more. I must be the only one who lets these kind of guys into her life. How sad. Or good for everyone else. At any rate--I was at an ice cream shop today. I know--it was cold and all, but I had just had Chinese with Katy and Chinese makes me crave ice cream. Or diet coke. Whichever comes first. Since there was no diet coke on the table, I walked over to the ice cream shop (alone--Katy had to go home and sleep off a...datingirlhttp://dateology.typepad.com/home/2008/11/dates-who-look-at-someone-elsewhile-theyre-with-you.htmlNewsflash: Datingirl announces--emotional abuse no more.tag:typepad.com,2003:post-589268042008-11-22T23:09:45-08:002008-11-22T23:09:45-08:00I don't quite know how this happened: I'm a pretty strong woman, I'm self-aware, I've had my share of therapy hours, I'm a professional--not a loser by any measure. And yet, looking back at my past relationships, I seem have collected my fair share of guys who applied one form or another of emotional abuse. There was the guy who dumped me over the phone, the one who told me a year into our relationship he didn't think he was ever truly in love with me, the one who would give me the silence treatment every time we disagreed, the...datingirlhttp://dateology.typepad.com/home/2008/11/newsflash-emotional-abuse-no-more.htmlWhy meeting guys at Whole Foods sucks (is there a doctor in the house?)tag:typepad.com,2003:post-586335022008-11-17T13:52:15-08:002008-11-17T13:52:15-08:00You guys know what I'm talking about, right? Today I was at Whole Foods, pushing a cart with one hand, holding Peet's Mocha with the other when a guy made me stop. As he was passing by me toward the prepared food, I found my gaze following him. First, I noticed his wide back in a heather gray short-sleeve shirt. Then that he was tall. And then, his hands--which were long and sort of in a naturally cupped position at his side. Oh- and he was wearing hospital scrubs. Thump! I kept going shaking my head at myself. But when...datingirlhttp://dateology.typepad.com/home/2008/11/why-meeting-guys-at-whole-foods-sucks-is-there-a-doctor-in-the-house.htmlAbout dating and performingtag:typepad.com,2003:post-585638282008-11-16T01:34:16-08:002008-11-16T01:34:16-08:00I haven't been posting much lately because I have two jobs right now. The details aren't all that interesting. Suffice it to say it's taking a lot of time. This weekend, I am in Vegas for an industry conference. Earlier today I stopped at the ladies' room where I was approached by a tall blond woman who has been wearing a strange hat and leopard-skin coat all day long (mind you, the rest of us are wearing suits or business casual attire). "Hi" she says and offers a long arm and even longer hands. "Hi" I say back and put...datingirlhttp://dateology.typepad.com/home/2008/11/about-dating-and-performing.htmlRollcalltag:typepad.com,2003:post-578114592008-11-16T01:17:03-08:002008-11-16T01:17:03-08:00Last night I did the once a quarter search for Dateology. Just to see where we are. Here's where I found us...fun and--somewhat interesting. Thank you to my dear dateologers and to the blogsphere. If I get a better blog design to we get more plugins? eHarmony blog Apparently my eHarmony dating advice made it all the way there. Rachel D's weblog Not sure what this is (Paris Hilton is there and so are words like media and sex) Well- might be just an SEO plot--but, we're there nonetheless. I'll take Paris Hilton's press any day. Well- maybe not. Match.com...datingirlhttp://dateology.typepad.com/home/2008/11/rollcall.htmlWhat do guys really mean when they say they don't want family and kids?tag:typepad.com,2003:post-575325472008-10-27T12:54:00-07:002008-10-27T12:54:00-07:00Kerry from San Diego sent me an email with an important question. With her permission, I'm posting it here. Dear DG, I really enjoy reading your blog. I'm sure you get a lot of questions and but was hoping you'll answer mine. I'm 31 years old--for the past 5 months I've been dating a guy who is just turning 30. He's successful, professional, and just a nice guy. Everything feels perfect between us: we have amazing chemistry, we talk about everything, he is a total gentleman, and already is making plans for us for the new year. There's just one...datingirlhttp://dateology.typepad.com/home/2008/10/what-do-guys-really-mean.htmlDan- Take 2tag:typepad.com,2003:post-574233032008-10-22T16:34:58-07:002008-10-22T16:34:58-07:00So Dan and I met for lunch today. It's a beautiful Indian summer day in the city and there's no better spot than the Ferry building for some good conversation and fresh food. We sit down and catch up. Words flow, stories from the war zone which is work make us laugh--it's all very, well--nice. I keep the energy up by making fun of things--the melting chocolate, the birds hovering near by. Mostly I make fun of myself and my little idiosyncrasies. Dan is charmed by my not-so-charming side. The problem is, that even I get tired of entertaining myself...datingirlhttp://dateology.typepad.com/home/2008/10/dan--take-2.htmlThe written off are writing awaytag:typepad.com,2003:post-569042772008-10-12T23:29:00-07:002008-10-12T23:29:00-07:00On Saturday I got a letter from a guy I dated briefly some 18 months ago. Of the people I dated in the past two years--this, was the last guy I thought I'd hear from again. The letter came in a simple white letter-size envelope. My address and his neatly printed on it. The stamp affixed carefully exactly at the corner--two millimeters from the edge. I tear the side of the envelope and fish for the letter. It's a one pager. Printed and then signed by hand. He wants me to know he was thinking of me. He saw on...datingirlhttp://dateology.typepad.com/home/2008/10/when-ex-boyfriends-have-something-to-say.html