DATING ADVICE

Warning Signs: Your Guy May be a Mr. Wrong instead of Mr. Right

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Sat, 11 Oct 2008 21:50:00 +0000

Warning Signs: Your Guy May be a Mr. Wrong instead of Mr. Right
by: Cathi Adams

1. He always make plans at the last minute.He may have several rods on the fire. You might not be his favorite rod. If nothing else comes along then you pop into his head. Some men just like to keep their options open. They have several choices available and don't want to make the wrong decision or commit to a date too soon in the event that something better might come along. You have to decide if this is something you can tolerate. If you are not that into him either, it may work out perfectly for you (a girls gotta eat), but if you are waiting by the phone this may be sign to move on. I personally would not feel I was being treated respectfully in this situation.I would feel I deserved to be treated better.

2. He's not taking an active role in becoming part of your world.If a man is serious about you, he will usually make the effort to get to know the people who are important to you. Whether it's your friends or family, he will want it to be known that he is your man and he will usually try hard to make a good impression. This is how some men mark their territory. Hey, it doesn't hurt if everyone loves him and sings his praises to you. If he doesn't care about that, he simply might not care about you. If he does care about you, but doesn't want to be involved in your world... well, that's a whole other story. You come to your own conclusion, but if it were me... I'd rethink the relationship.

3. He doesn't go to events that are important to you.Once in awhile if he has a good excuse or is ill or something...that's ok. If you see a pattern, it may be time to trade up. Something that is important to you should be equally important to him. If it is not, then it might be a sign that either he is not that into you, he prefers his friends to you, or he is simply too self-centered to stop for a minute and please someone other then himself. If you've really hit the jackpot, he may be a combination of all three. Either way, pay attention to the signs and decide if you feel you are worthy of more.

4. He stays in close contact with his single friends.If a guy does not part with his single friends, you can be fairly certain he is not going to give up the single life either. Some guys are just players: they have to keep their options open and have a certain amount of emotional distance. Having single friends when you are dating is the best of both worlds. He may continue to get close to you, but his friends are never far behind. They attend events with you and have permission to just drop by at their whim. You don't want your guy to give up his friends, but it may be a sign of trouble if he insists that you spend most of your time together hanging out with his buddies. If he is not a player, but just very social, make sure your needs are met as well. Hanging out with the buds can be fun, but sometimes alone time is also needed in a relationship. If the situation meets your needs, then great. If not, then decide if this is something you can get used to.

5. Night time is the right time... all the time.If he loves the nightlife and the nightlife loves him even after you have been dating for a while, this might just be his way of life. If this is your way of life, then you have just met your soulmate. I wish you well. However, historically when couples first start dating they tend to go out a lot, stay out late, and dance the night away. Once you settle in, though, and get closer in the relationship, the pendulum swings to quite nights at home and romantic dinners. If this is where you are hoping the pendulum would swing, then it may be a good time to express your needs and see if he can meet them. Don't ask or expect him to change if that is who he is and what makes him happy. Accept the fact that you want different things. It may be time to send this one back and explore the other "fishies in the sea".

6. You never see him more then once a week (ok... sometimes twice), even after you have been dating several monthsIs he super busy or are you play toy number 7? He might have one for every day of the week, and you only can see him twice if numbers 1 through 6 are busy. Hey, it happens ... mostly because he has been allowed to get away with it. Just don't be naive and think he is sitting home 6 nights alone. If this is acceptable to you, then by all means enjoy your time together when it happens. I guess you will certainly never get sick of each other. If you need more see if he can (or more importantly will) meet your needs. If not...get those shoes on and start walking.

7. You only have his cell number after you have been dating each other for a more then a month.If it's been months and you haven't asked him about that...allow me...he's either living with someone else or he doesn't want you calling his house in case he has another woman over. The cell phone he can turn off or set to vibrate... How perfect is that? When you are into someone (and not dating other women too) you want her to feel free totally comfortable calling you anytime. It shows commitment and openness. If he is not showing these signs outwardly, it might be an indication that you are dating a very busy man. If it feels like a duck and quacks like a duck... yup, it's a duck. This little trick was used on me, and I must say I didn't catch on for quite a while. I was too naive...I'm all grown up now.

About the author:Cathi Adams is the author of "Divorce Secrets: What Every Women Should Know." This invaluable resource provides steps to ensure financial security to woman faced with the possibility of divorce. Visit her web site for a FREE report -What You Absolutely Must Know Before You Even THINK About Getting A Divorce:

7 Ways to Make Yourself Irresistable

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 11:25:00 +0000

7 Ways to Make Yourself Irresistable
by: Caterina Christakos

The key to being irresistable to men is more about you and lessabout them.It is about accentuating every one of your strengths bothinternally and externally and reveling in them.So before we show you how to flirt, tease and seduce, we are going to teach you how to pamper, indulge and revel in the delicious power of being a woman.1) Before going out to socialize or even see the one that you are currently dating, take a few minutes to visualize what you want to happen. Picture in detail exactly who you want and what you want to happen between you. What qualities will your perfect lover have?How will he look at you? How will he touch you? Add in as muchdetail as possible. Knowing what you want is the first step tohaving it.2) Before seeing the man you are dating or stepping foot outside the door, take care with your appearance. Look in the mirror and identify all the things that you like about yourself. If you focus on the qualities that you like about yourself, you will have far more confidence in yourself than most women out there. That will show and give you an edge.3) Accentuate those positive qualities. For example: If you have full shiny hair make the most of it. Letit flow down your shoulders. Play with it in front of the one youdesire. Men have a fascination with hair. If you have full pouty lips, apply liner around the edges then fillin with a deep gloss that accentuates your skin tone, then apply a lighter coat just in the center of your lips. This will give themeven more sex appeal.4) Play up your eyes. A lot of flirting is done with eye play. Lookat him then look away. Use your eyes to tell him everything thatyou are feeling, everything that you would like to do to him.5)Wear clothes that accentuate your assets. Hint at your curveswithout exposing them. Remember less is more. Incite his curiosity. Make him want to see more.6) Wear a delicate scent. Apply your perfume twenty minutes before you go out the door. A woman's scent is enticing. Overpowering perfume, on the other hand, is a major turn off. 7) Take care of your whole body, not just your face. Most women wash their face daily and moisturize but what about the rest of you? Take care of your skin. Use a good sugar scrub on your body and follow with a rich moisturizer. If your body feels silky smooth, you will feel and act sexier. Plus the man of your dreams won't be able to resist caressing your smooth, silky soft skin.

About the author:Caterina Christakos is a published author and dating coach. Learn even more about how to seduce a man . Sign up for your free seduction tips newsletter at

The Final Solution for Dating

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 23:04:00 +0000

The Final Solution for Dating

by: Steve Sokolowski

I run a blog where I discuss the topic of the many games people play in the dating arena. I've posted hundreds of articles, many of which point out many of these troubles. Even if you haven't read the blog, you probably are aware of some of these schemes. While I wish it were easy to sum everything up into one neat, overlying problem, it's not that simple. Let me point out just a few of the issues.For one, there's a definite lack of respect in dating nowadays. People don't even care about their partners enough to treat them as they deserve to be treated. Gossip, ridiculously high expectations, and rejections by ignorance are only some of the examples in this area. Grandparents are always carrying on about how today's generation has such a lack of respect. They talk about how, in their day, people cared about others and banded together through difficult problems. Why do they talk about these things? Because they're right! Through every activity in which I've been involved, I've encountered this problem. I'm tired of working for a hundred hours on a video project when the president of the organization receives but doesn't bother to even reply to your E-Mails asking him to review it. I'm sick of being ostracized from groups because I don't care to participate in their petty disagreements. And I'm exhausted after people expect me to work to death in volunteer organizations!There are always exceptions to this rule, and I'm sure that there are many people who do have a great deal of respect for both their peers and their elders. Unfortunately, the majority, or at least the majority with the most influence, simply don't care.Second, nobody is honest with themselves, let alone anyone else. Dating has turned into a torrent of backstabbing of which even Mark Burnett would be proud. Asking someone out is nearly impossible, because the gossip about it has already spread to a thousand people before you make the move. Then, when a rejection occurs (even if it's not rude), the rejector spreads rumors around to all his/her friends that cause them to completely ignore you, refusing to invite you to parties or even to initiate conversations with you. The biggest insult is that even if you asked point-blank, you'd still never get a truthful answer as to why such harm was directed towards you.As if what occurs after a rejection isn't enough, people attempt to steal others' girl/boyfriends. One day, things are going well, and the next you find yourself wondering what happened to the relationship that was forming - that is, until you notice that person spending a lot of time with who you thought was your best friend. No explanation is offered, not even a "good-bye."Third, people are not looking for someone who spends his or her time working to get ahead instead of getting flat-out drunk, who doesn't curse at or ignore his or her mate, and who actually makes time for whatever is occurring between them (whether it be a full-fledged relationship or just plain sex). They say they're looking for these things, but in reality, they're attracted to people with the attributes described above. "Confidence" is not the answer to the equation. Assuming they both possess the same level of "confidence," the above-described person would win every time over the "warm, caring, and intelligent" (wo)man that people claim is the ideal mate.The list of problems goes on. You might be intrigued to hear that while the problems seem innumerable, I propose they can all be rectified with the simplest of solutions. There's no danger involved, nobody has to lead radical changes, and it doesn't involve an "impossible" fight against biology.I simply propose for men to stop asking women out.Not for the rest of your life, but for just a short time, say, a month. It's not impossible, and you won't have to do it as much after the month passes. While there are a few (rare) exceptions, the vast majority of women don't ask out men 50% of the time. Women do have the advantage in dating, and it's time to level the playing field. Sure, talk with women as friends, and if someone initiates a conversation with you, then definitely reciprocate. However, let the woman ask you out if she's interested, no matter how attractive she is to you.Some women have never asked anyone out in their lives. It's no wonder why these women continually treat men like they're lower beings. If they had to put up with the rejections that most men do all the time, I guarantee that they would have more respect for men. Women would no longer put up with moving from guy to guy based on who was interested in her at the moment. And spreading gossip about potential romantic interests certainly isn't going to help one's prospects.People need to realize that humans, for all their ancestry, are not monkeys or horses or rabbits. They're humans, who can think and act for themselves.Men have so much more capacity in the dating arena than constantly looking for sex at all costs, if they would only exercise it. It's time to stop being prisoners to so-called "biology." Women have the same urges men do, and they should do half the work, not 10% or 20%. There are a lot of "seduction communities" on the Internet that teach men how to "seduce" women. I don't know of any similar organization that teaches women how to impress men with the same fervor.There's my proposal. I don't think it's hard to implement. Imagine if all the men even at one corporation or university decided to ban together. Laziness won't be a problem, becausenobody even has to do anything. It's time to change our distorted culture. All I'm suggesting is to promote equality. Is that such a bad thing?

TenTips On How To Get That Guy

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 02:48:00 +0000

TenTips On How To Get That Guy
by: Roy Barker

1. Show the Guy That You Are VulnerableMen need to feel needed, yes it may be from the dinosaurs but it does still apply. I do not mean that you have to be weak, give in to whatever he wants, and put up with any way he treats you I am not suggesting that. Many men like strong women, but strong women who put out that they do not need a guy often end up alone. It is fine to be strong but try and temper it with "ok here is a situation where I can be vulnerable". Men have a strong protective instinct, though they may rarely show it.

2. Let The Guy Think That He Is Doing The HuntingMen love the thrill of the chase, it is in their genetic makeup, it is definately a male thing. Play a little secretive and hard to get, and men will flock like bees to honey. That means having a sense of your own worth, men hate women who are clingy. They are not props, they hate boosting a womens ego all the time. In fact men want a real balanced person. Make him feel he wants to make the first move and do the chasing. Women learn to manipulate men at a very early age. By the age of five most girls have learnt how to wrap their father around there little finger.

3. "Let The Guy Think That He Is Mr Right Rather Than Mr Right Now!"Stroke their egos, they are not a ticket to go out and pay all the time, let them know that you really value them as a person.

4. Laugh At His JokesThis is imperative that a man feels he is funny and witty and is an extension of three, they are valued for their sense of humour. Where would we be in life without laughter.

5. Never Call Him After The First During The Next Week If a guy is interested in seeing you again, trust me he will call you in the first week. He will do this even if he says he has to go out of town. If you call him, you come across as over-anxious. You appear desperate, and are more likely to scare the guy off. It is OK to ask him out the first time but not the second.

6. If You Are Dating Online Get A Professional Photo Taken At A Studio When dating online you have to market yourself to be successful. A professional photographer will know how to get the best shots out of you and make you look your very best.

7.Don't Go Out With Your Girlfriends In Large GroupsSome men feel that approaching a women in a large group is intimidating. Go out in smaller groups, and make it easier for an interested guy to approach you.

8. Approach HimBe confidant enough to approach him and ask him if he wants to go for a coffee. If you're not sure whether he is gay or not, then approach him anyway.If he gives you the brush-over then you have lost nothing, but you can pat yourself on the back for taking the initiative, most men will be flattered by this.

9. You Like Him But He Is Ignoring You Guys are insecure, and they want to feel liked, and popular. Start ignoring him for a while, not rudely, you don't have to make an issue out of it. Just look right through him, and he will start to be piqued. There is no guarantee here he may not take it any further, it may just boost his confidance, but you have not lost anything

10. Don't Appear To Be DesperateDesperation is a real turn off for men. It is an indicator that a woman is going to start to get clingy, and that is not good. Appear yourself and show a friendly interest.

10 Keys to Getting Along With Single Women For Successful Dating, Seduction

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Sat, 05 Jan 2008 04:06:00 +0000

10 Keys to Getting Along With Single Women For Successful Dating, Seduction

by Don Diebel

1. When with a woman on a date, under no circumstances whatsoever, look at and flirt with other women. This is just plain rude and disrespectful. It's very degrading to a woman and makes her feel very unimportant. It really hurts their feelings, especially if she is attracted to you.
2. Don't play head games - Don't just use single women for sex and string them along with no intentions for emotional commitment. The worse thing you can do is to tell them that you love them and not even mean it. And, even worse is to tell them that you love them just to get them in bed for sex. Don't get involved with a woman you have no interest in or desire to have a relationship with and suddenly tell her after several dates and sexual relations, "I don't want a girlfriend right now" or "I'm not interested in having a relationship." They will feel used, hurt and abused. If all you want from a woman is just sex, just be honest and up front with her and tell her, "I'm not interested in being tied down in a relationship with you and I would prefer to have a sexual relationship only with no strings attached."
3. Don't make women feel self-concious by making comments on things that she is self-concious about such as her weight, her big ass, large nose, small eyes, hairy arms, pale skin, bony legs, big thighs, her protruding stomach, birthmark, stretch marks, acne, blemishes, etc.
4. Listen to women when they talk. Focus all your attention on every word she says. Don't talk to her while on the telephone and try to watch television at the same time. Pay attention to her and make her feel important and special. Women do not like to be ignored.
5. Be considerate of a woman's family and friends. In this imperfect world, we are not exactly crazy about everyone we meet, but at least make your best effort possible to get along with and form a bond with her family and friends. Here's why: If you get along fine with them, they won't be so inclined to pressure her to dump you. You would be surprised what an influence her friends and family have on her relationships with men. Also, keep in close touch with your own friends and relatives. They will resent her for you forgetting about them and spending all your time with your girlfriend.
6. Remember that single women are unique individuals - They are not a combination of all the women that you have dated and had relationships with. Maybe you had women cheat on you or act crabby and bitchy all the time. You think all single women are like this. Get rid of this attitude immediately! You just can't judge all single women by your experiences of the past. All women are different and don't judge all women as being mean because of a few bad experiences. There's lots of sweet and lovely single women out there that will treat you right. You just have to find them.
7. Treat single women like ladies - Literally, treat them like a queen. Open doors for them, light their cigarettes, pour their champagne, tell them how pretty and sexy they look, compliment them on their clothes, offer them your arm. Just make them feel special and desirable. And giving her, flowers, gifts, cards, and poetry is a good idea too. Treat a woman like a lady and you will melt her heart and make her want to become intimate with you.
8. Act like a human being when around a single woman - Do your belching and farting in private. And don't make sick comments about your desire for killing cats, kicking dogs, shooting animals, and any other off the wall comments.
9. Here's a real no-no: If a woman is acting crabby and bitchy, you say, "You must be getting your period." Women are very sensitive to a remark like this and make her resent you. There are other factors that contribute to a woman feeling a little cranky. It can be stress from work, family, friends, and maybe even you getting on her nerves.
10. Always apply the Golden Rule around women - Treat her like you want to be treated.
Follow these ten important keys to getting along with women and I guarantee you that you will have more success in getting women more interested in you. Even to the point that she may fall for you and want to share her warm and writing body with you for some hot passionate sex. I'm sure this is one reward you won't mind receiving for your efforts.

About the Author
P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website at: http://www.getgirls.com/ This article is copyright (c) 2008 by Don Diebel and may be reprinted in it's entirety as long as his website, byline, and copyright statement is included.

Tips for Successful Online Relationships

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 15:56:00 +0000

Tips for Successful Online Relationships
by Eli Wyre

Finding a person online that intrigues you enough to pursue an online relationship is difficult. Once you have found that person you need to revisit the age old issues of developing that relationship. In many respects, some may say that online relationships are easier then in person relationships. But, in reality it is pretty much the same, just a little bit more removed. Dating tips are essentially the same, but they are a little more subtle then if you are face-to-face.
Safety
Even if the person sounds fantastic online you must be aware that there are some people out there that are being all you want them to be, but with ulterior motives. The very first piece of online dating advise is to not to give the person on the other end any numbers like telephone or PIN numbers regardless of how good they sound.
Be honest with yourself
Relationship advice is always a bit suspect because we are all a bit different. Dating advice from one person to another only reflects that one person giving the dating advice and not necessarily how it applies to you. Always take advice on dating and apply it, with modification, to who you are. Don't fudge about who you truly are, it will only come back to haunt you later on.
Slow and steady
One dating tip for a quality online relationship is to take it slow. Some might more aptly call this dating tip the restriction of to-much-information (TMI.) You do not need to have an online relationship develop 100 percent in one or two weeks. Let the personal information out slowly. A little mystery will go a long way to building the relationship.
Inflection
This particular piece of online dating advice is one item that requires a bit of work. Voice inflection when online is lost. Inflection is one of those things that we really take for granted. Quite a bit of meaning is lost without it. If you are sarcastic (like me) you can quickly lose somebody on the other end if they don't know how the words are intended. This is one of the reasons that the LOL and smile face type notations have come about. The problem is, many people find these notations a bit "cutesy." The online dating advice here is to use words to explain your inflection rather then symbols. So, if sarcastic, simply insert (sarcasm) into the text or use uppercase (OH BOY!!!) for very happy or (OH BOY) for can you believe what he did.
Conversation
Most people say that the art of conversation is dead. In a certain sense this also applies to online dating. Using text abbreviations and assumptions make online relationship building even more impersonal then it already is. This particular piece of online dating advice could be applied to regular relationship building as well. Use simple but descriptive whole worlds to describe what you are discussing. The right word will say quite a bit about who you are. For example: I like kayaking because of the way the paddle slips into the calm water works better then paddling is relaxing. You will come off as a bit more refined rather then just another person online.
Don't impose
This is perhaps the hardest piece of advice for dating online to get used to. It is so easy to use a word that imposes a thought, belief or need onto another person without even knowing that you are doing it. If there is one thing that will stop an online relationship dead in its tracks it is imposing yourself on another. Once your online relationship progresses a bit you may loosen up a bit with this piece of relationship advice but until then always defer to the other person in the way you phrase a sentence. Make sure you make it known how you feel, but be sure that the wording reflects the other person's ability to disagree or agree.
Be positive
Nobody likes a "gloomy Gus" when they get online. They really don't want to be in an ongoing relationship with such a person, unless they happen to be a gloomy Gus. Stay up beat when you are writing with your online friend. Sure, everybody has their down days, and that is fine to share. It shows that you are becoming comfortable with that person. If there starts to be a pattern, however, you may want to assess what is going on with yourself personally or with a friend but there is really no need to share it online. If your assessment leads to a life change for the better...well, that is a great thing to share. Relationship advice or not, good news is a turn on for most.
Be open ended
Just about everybody has heard the phrase "leave them wanting more." This holds true for online dating. You might think about your daily online conversations or your longer term relationships as a multi-course dinner. Always leave the person salivating for the next course. One of the better ways to do this is ask a question or two that requires a little thought or research. This will let them have something to bring to the table for your next conversation. This would also apply to you. Indicate that you will look into something and let them know what you find the next time you write.
Meeting for the first time
The big piece of online dating advice here is to meet in a busy place. All the online chat in the world won't substitute for the first meeting and a true assessment. Try to stay relaxed. Listen, but be able to carry the conversation. Stick to areas where you can find help quickly. Call me a bit of a cynic but safety first.
Most importantly be yourself
How many times have you heard that one? Fortunately or not, the statement does ring particularly true for online relationships. A certain amount of "you" will seep into the online relationship whether you like it or not but try for being true to yourself all the time. Faking who you are will doom the relationship, unless you really didn't want an online relationship in the first place. If you swear quite a bit in life, go for it (just use symbols so as to not offend to much.), if you happen to be one of those folks that dots their "I's" with a heart go for that as well. Be who you are and the need for online relationship advice will go away fairly fast.

About the Author
Eli is the owner of Dating Advice Forums. You can find more information at worthdating.com.

Best Christian Dating Service Tips To Help You Now

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 20:27:00 +0000

Best Christian Dating Service Tips To Help You Now
by Helen Hecker

It's a proven fact today that single Christians have a deep desire to connect with other singles. They're not only looking for their special soul-mate, but also want great friendships with other Christian Singles who are fun-loving and have similar interests. US, UK, and Canadian Christian dating are rapidly flourishing on the Internet dating scene today and more Christians are finding true love or friendship easily and more often than not it's free.
You may want to find the best Christian dating service, but there are many to choose from so how do you choose? If you're considering joining a Christian dating service online or even offline, there are a few things to think about.
You'll find a lot of dating services online. Some are quite huge with highly recognizable names and some have a Christian dating section. Many of the Christian dating services online have a million or more registered members. If you type in the word 'Christian' when you're setting up a profile on a non-Christian dating service it will tell you how many matches or possibilities there are for you should you decide to sign up at the end of your free trial.
Sign-up for free trials on as many websites as you can handle. Most of the dating services will let you see what men, women or teens over 18 are listed that you might be compatible with but won't let you email them until you're a member.
Many local Christian singles groups don't do any marketing or promotion and depend entirely on word of mouth by singles or church members to recruit new members. Call some of the church offices and ask if they have any singles groups. Look in the Yellow Pages under "Dating Services" and "Singles Organizations" for your area. Give them all a call even if they're not listed as Christian and ask if they have a Christian division. And if they don't, they may be very willing to refer you to potential competitors.
Read the matchmaking contract or dating service contract carefully. Make sure you're not signing a contract for a specific period of time that you can't get out of in the event you find someone or want to quit. Make sure to go over your personal profile carefully because this will be the only image your potential dating partners will have to go on, besides your photo, if you've submitted one. You might have someone you trust go over the profile with you and give you some honest feedback. Is it spelled correctly? Can you make it sound appealing? And if a dating service has only a small membership, a large share of them may not be in your age range or could be the wrong gender.
Make sure to check out your local area and the closest large town or city to see if they have any Christian singles groups. Keep in mind that if you're looking for orthodox Christian dating services or specialty agencies like Catholic, Chinese, Hispanic or teen dating services - all of these may be harder to find and you're more likely to find these dating services, agencies or networks in larger cities like New York City, Chicago, Los Angeles and Seattle, for example, or some of the large cities in Europe.
Whether you're looking for a more casual relationship, or something more serious and leading to marriage, now is the time to start. So make sure to check out some of the dating websites today. There are many advantages to free online Christian dating services for committed Christians rather than non-Christian services because these sites simply understand the needs of single Christians. There are some excellent Christian dating advice books by well-established Christian authors too. Most of these books are inexpensive and available through your local or online Christian bookstore.

About the Author
For more information on free Christian dating and finding the best Christian dating service online go to http://www.Christian-Dating-Service.org for Christian dating service tips, help and free resources for Christian dating singles and Christian dating service reviews

Online Dating Revolution

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 19:46:00 +0000

Online Dating Revolution
by Isaiah Henry

Online dating has consistently been on the rise since the internet first began. Many people think about online dating as a chance to meet people and chat with them online from the comfort of their own home. It beats going out on blind dates that your friends have set up, or going to social functions like singles dances, etc. Those options just put single people in the spotlight, which is exactly where they do not want to be. There's more and more single people out there everyday. Whether you are single, divorced/single or widow (er) single.
Dating sites and services allow you to sign up for free. Yet normally to actually speak with a possible prospect, one must pay a monthly fee. Dating sites due allow you to cancel the membership at any moment without penalty. You can create a profile without actually a paying anything. Dating services eagerly encourage online singles to create a free profile, so you can get a feel for the dating site and hopefully become a paying member. In the profile, you describe your interests, goals and exactly what you are looking for in a partner.
After creating the profile, you get to put in more information that can you meet your relationship goals; for example, the type of relationship you are seeking (friends, long term committal, short term committal, simple dating, etc.). Some online dating sites have matchmaking features that require you to take personality and compatibility tests to increase change of you meeting a compatible single. Almost none the dating sites require you to place your photo online, but nearly all of them strongly suggest you put your photo in your online dating profile. For good reason, this enhances your chance meeting people a great deal. Youll also have to put in your email address. This allows the dating sites to send you notification emails whenever a single shows some interest or sends you an email. Through this process your personal email address remains hidden. Most dating websites allow you to search through singles database based on factors such as: religion, race, likes/dislikes, age, and location.
Internet dating carries mutually rewards and obstructions. We have exhausted an excellent quantity of time discussing on the advantages; at the moment lets talk about the difficulties of online dating. Dating online comes with it immense liberty. Free will like conveying your opinions at whatever time and in what manner you desire in online dating chat rooms, message boards, etc. is an interweaving foundation of the Web. Regrettably, as you might have experienced or effortlessly forecasted, people take advantage of this sovereignty like posturing as somebody else or inserting deceptive prints. Singles like these perceive online dating as another system to trick others. Several singles are so unsure of themselves that they temper their profiles to portray a kind of daydream description of themselves as a substitute of the genuine self.
As you are able distinguish, a profile is not at all time a truthful portrayal of an individual. Blameless as it might be, there is a common error in a lot of singles profile. The majority of date seekers do not even obtain the time to actually fill out their profile, so other singles can get a first-rate perception of who a members profile. There are an abundance of fine testimonials that couples state that they found each other on a quality dating site. Online dating has formed plenty of weddings. Getting to know people online can be an enormously exciting journey if you do not take any occurrences personal.
Some of the better websites like eHarmony.com actually give their members a series of short survey like tests that help the website as well as the individual assess what type of person they are looking for. The results of the tests are posted on your profile giving other members the chance to read them to see if they are a potential match for you.

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We are glad to have Isaiah Henry has our online dating sites explorer with us at CupidsOnlineDating.com. He works hard to give users the necessary info like the review on American Singles.

How Can You Find A Date? Using the Emotional Language

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Fri, 19 Oct 2007 16:19:00 +0000

How Can You Find A Date? Using the Emotional Language
by Alan Lim

Do you constantly look at others and wonder what charisma they use to pull people towards themselves? Do you think these people have something very special that you do not possess? Reflect on the following in order to find a date:
Think of the law of first impression
The law of first impression is utmost and paramount if you in actual fact have to find a date. This should be highly connected to the way you open up yourself to the other party. One of the greatest criteria to judge your sincerity is the manner in which you look at the other. Therefore, looking directly into the eyes of your potential date will be very instrumental. People who have a genuine interest to find a date in others often get in touch with the eyes of the other. You should continually do this while discussing with the other. But watch out against fixing your gaze at him or her for too long, because this may be taken to mean gazing or panicking.
Form a good body language
To find a date equally means to show your interest in a particular person. Thus, sit head-on to that person while talking to him or her. This is presumably taken to mean your entire attention has been given to that person.
Watch out your manner of conversation
In order to effectively find a date, you must interrelate with your intention. To develop attraction, there must be fun and fun goes hand in gloves with conversation. Avoid showering your potential date with lots of question. Be conscious of the type of questions to ask. Ask question which relate to his or her age, environment, interest or hobbies. Keep away from asking too many questions especially when a favorable answer has not been given to the previous one. If you ask more than two question when an answer has not been provided to any of the first ones, you may sound boring. Tell your potential date one of two stories that he or she can possibly participate in, and that can equally bring out an answer to any of your questions.
Avoid alcohol if you intend to find a date
Most people find it uneasy to talk face-to-face to others. They have a tendency to always use alcohol as a defensive mechanism to find a date. When you drink, you become nervous and when you are nervous, you talk and act too fast. You even talk at the top of your voice without you getting to know this.
Finally, always have that believe that the worst can happen even to you when you seek to find a date. It is not an obligation that you must find a date at every meeting. So when you are turned down, take it to be a normal occurrence. Keep in mind that credit does not go to the person who points out where a strong man stumbled or where he should have stood up. It goes to the man who always situates himself in the arena, who fails but never stops trying.

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There is a great possibility that you can get a date of your choice if you have the self-belief. Do you instantly want to meet people out there? If yes, log on to Find a Date to discover people who need the love and affection that you have.

Free internet Dating: Meeting Others, Starting Relationships

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Sat, 15 Sep 2007 16:27:00 +0000

Free internet Dating: Meeting Others, Starting Relationships
by Tenzin Williams

Everybody loves a fairytale love story where the pair live happily ever after, but apart from Hollywood, its difficult to find a true to life boy meets girl romance that is free of bumps. Not being pessimistic, but most of us know how difficult it is to meet others without being dubious as to whether it would really last or whether this person is truly the one.
But more difficult than keeping a relationship is actually "finding" a person to start with. For some who have mastered the art of dating, it is a breeze. But for many of us, that is sometimes a chore that would border on hopelessly impossible.
Not all of us are drop dead gorgeous, and fit the perfect person image. Many folks are very shy, have low self esteem, or have other features that may make less confident. Others have many fears, just back on the dating scene, widowed etc, that make plucking up the courage to walk up to someone they find attractive or at the least they are interested in, very difficult to say the least.
Therefore the person that commenced the first internet dating site was definitely a pure genius. They provided a base for individuals who have had a hard time searching for someone to date or share their lives with be able get together and chat with other people that may be a possible partner or friend.
There are those who are skeptics though believing that internet dating sites are just out to grab the membership fees among the loneliness and the need for some people for companionship. While some do pull in membership fees, there are services being offered and so many members have had their success stories to share to show how effective online dating is.
But just to show that there are internet dating sites that don't rely on fees, free internet dating sites have been made to cater those who don't have the money to pay for the membership dues.
If you are new to looking for a partner or romance on online dating sites then you need to learn several things first so that your search will be fun yet a safe one. Although it would be nice to assume that we live in a safe world we need realize that there are people you do prey on the weaknesses of others and on unsuspecting prey.
Identity theft is now a real issue. There are people on the internet searching for bank account details and other personal stuff like street address, email address, phone numbers for their own gain. If in doubt don't divulge these details.
Use a pseudo name when you make your profile. Once you have come to trust the other person then you can reveal your first name.
Make sure other personal details especially your financial status and details, residential address, residential phone numbers remain private and confidential.
Ask questions of the other person don't get too personal or they may doubt you as well. If the other person seems to change their story or becomes evasive it may be a warning to end the contact.
On an arranged meeting try and meet them in a public place and take your own transport.
Never get them to pick you up or be with them alone. Take a cellular phone with you and make sure you have informed someone of where you are going and with whom. Arrange a time that you will ring them and at what time you will be home.
If you listen to the warnings and go on your instincts then you will find internet dating can be a lot of fun. There are millions of people all over the world participating in internet dating which proves it is a lot of fun.
Next time your on the internet give it a try. Free internet dating is a free way to socialize with people all over the globe and you never know your perfect match may just be a suburb a way or half way around the world. Internet dating provides a way for you to stay in contact with the other person without the added expense of phone calls or mailing them.
Internet dating is one of if not the fastest growing area on the internet. Don't miss your chance to be one of the lucky ones who finds they perfect match in cyberspace.

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The Many Benefits of an Online Dating Service

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Fri, 17 Aug 2007 14:13:00 +0000

The Many Benefits of an Online Dating Service
By Jay Moncliff

Using an online dating service to find dates was once frowned upon and even considered scary. However, times have changed and so have the amount of people who not only approve of using an online dating service but the amount of people actually using an online dating service! Amazingly, the invention of the online dating service has gotten people out and about and dating again. If you are looking for a date, but still are a bit skeptical about using an online dating service, consider the following benefits an online dating service can provide.
Online Dating Service Benefit #1 Anonymity
You can upload a picture to your online dating service if you want, but it is not required. You will get more responses from other members of your online dating service, though, if you provide a picture. However, you will never be required to divulge your address, e-mail or phone number to any other user of the online dating service unless you desire to do so. Because of this, you can surf the available singles on the online dating service completely anonymous.
Online Dating Service Benefit #2 Choices
There are an unbelievable amount of singles that use an online dating service. Because of this, you get to review all of the available singles at your leisure and evaluating the information provided. This gives you significant information about a person’s likes and dislikes and whether you might hit it off or definitely not. By reviewing this information you are significantly ahead of the game as compared to simply meeting someone on the street or in a bar. With the online dating service you know what a person is about before you ever contact them.
Online Dating Service Benefit #3 Secure
Your online dating service will never divulge your personal information and you will have the security of blocking any user that is bothering you. If for instance a particular online dating service user sends you threatening e-mails or makes you feel uncomfortable you can simply report them and have their account revoked and at the very least block them from contacting you. This type of security is not available in real life, unfortunately, but it is through your online dating service.
Jay Moncliff is the founder of http://www.godatingonline.info a website specialized on Online Dating, resources and articles. This site provides updated information on Online Dating. For more info on visit his site: Online Dating

12 Things Women May Not Want to Know About What Men Think...

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 15:50:00 +0000

12 Things Women May Not Want to Know About What Men Think...
by EvanMarc Katz

This concept was liberally borrowed from Esquire's 10 Things You Don't Know About Women. It's not relationship advice. It's light comedy, built heavily on cliche and stereotypes. The readers at Yahoo! nearly crashed their comments section with their thoughts on either how amusing or how offensive this is. If you're in the second category, you should probably not be reading this blog. Really. I won't take it personally.
Anyway, here are 12 Things Women May Not Want to Know About What Men Think...
1. Getting angry at us for not reading your mind is like getting angry at yourself for not being able to fly. It's not just futile, it's physically impossible.
2. Yes, we do think Jessica Alba is hot. Sometimes we're even dumb enough to admit it.
3. Don't ask us to understand your shoe fetish. Asking us to respect it is even sort of pushing it.
4. You do look good without makeup, just not as good as you look with it.
5. Ever notice how we don't fight with our male friends? That's why we get so frustrated when we fight with you.
6. You care what you're wearing infinitely more than we do. In fact, if you're naked when you open the front door, you won't hear an argument from us.
7. You don't like to get hit on in public, you don't want to date online and you don't want to be set up on blind dates. Tell us if sending messenger pigeons is an appropriate way of courting. Because if it is, we're all over it.
8. There should a statute of limitations on stupid things that we said that can come back to haunt us. I propose 24 hours.
9. Cooking dinner for a man is like buying flowers for a woman, except it takes a lot more time, effort and thought for you to do it. Thanks. We appreciate it.
10. We actually like your girly pet-names for us, but please, not in front of the guys!
11. Just because we like looking at the women in Maxim doesn't mean we want to actually converse with the women in Maxim. Not for long, anyway.
12. Your nice guy friends are the most reliable source for telling you if your new boyfriend's a jerk. And he probably is. (By the way, you might want to consider marrying that nice guy who's giving you advice about the jerk.)
To read this live on Yahoo!, please click here: 11 Things Women Don't Know About Men

About the Author
Founder of online dating consulting service http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com and author of "Why You're Still Single: Things Your Friends Would Tell You If You Promised Not To Get Mad" and "I Can't Believe I'm Buying this Book: A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating," Evan Marc Katz has established himself as America's leading dating expert.

Tips For Christian Online Dating

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Mon, 16 Jul 2007 23:07:00 +0000

Tips For Christian Online Dating
by Jon Arnold

The thought of using an online dating service might be scary for many people. Putting information online for people to peruse and view as if they were examining the qualities of hamburger at the grocery store is not a pleasant thought. For those singles who have a strong Christian faith and are looking for a partner with the same values, this can become even more scary if you don't know the facts.
But the facts are that you do not need to be overly concerned about it. The best online dating sites out there today allow you to be anonymous if you want to be. Of course, you should be honest with your responses when filling out your profile at the dating service site, but that is to provide a fair chance that someone who is reviewing your likes and dislikes will see things that spark their interest in you, and perhaps initiate a conversation with you or contact you.
Oops, now you just got scared again, thinking you will be getting phone call at all hours of the day from somebody who MIGHT have a Christian faith, but who also might be just the opposite. Again, not to worry, because this is simply a matter of understanding how the online dating service works. With most of them, someone can contact you or you can contact them through the email system of the dating service. That's right, the initial contact is done through email, and done through the dating service, so that the person you are contacting or who is contacting you does not even know your real email address. The only things they know about you or that you know about them is what they have elected to include in their profile.
You are looking for a person who has a strong Christian faith. That is an important part of your life and will be an important part of anyone's life that you may decide to form a long lasting relationship with. So how do you find such a person? You can visit every church in your area and see who is attending. But what if the church has multiple services? What if they just decided not to attend on that Sunday? It really is hit and miss taking the old fashioned way, and the ideal person might be right around the corner, also single and also looking for someone who puts a priority on their Christian faith, but you would never know it.
This makes a Christian online dating service the ideal place to find that special someone who also puts a priority on their Christian faith as you do. Single Christians are very restricted in how they can meet new people, because they really only want to date other people who take their Christian faith as seriously as they do. You can eliminate a huge number of potential candidates by reviewing the information in their profiles, and if Christianity is not listed, then it is either not important to them or they are not Christian, and in either of those cases, you need to keep looking.
Rest assured that there are plenty of single Christians who are in the same boat as you are, and with the technology available at the online dating sites, the chances of finding a Christian as a potential match just went through the roof! If you are serious about finding a Christian-oriented possible match, it does not get any easier than with the search tools available at today's best online dating sites.

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For more insights and additional information about Christian Online Dating please visit our web site at http://www.onlinedatingtips4all.com/christian_online_dating.php

4 Rules To Transform A Long Distance Love On The Internet Into A Normal Relationship

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Wed, 04 Jul 2007 17:01:00 +0000

4 Rules To Transform A Long Distance Love On The Internet Into A Normal Relationship
by Ovi Dogar

Let's suppose that you are meeting someone online and that person seem to be the match of your life, but is living far away from you. Does it worth to spend your time in a long distance relationship with this person?
What if this person is really your soul mate?
You may be surprised how much a relationship can grow if you work at it. If you know and apply some simple rules, your relationship can turn out to be one of the most successful and happy relationships that ever existed.
Distance, combined with phone calls and writing, electronically or through regular mail, can foster an enviable intimacy which results from learning about another's qualities, values and ways of thinking, sensitivities, dreams, and aspirations. This type of intimacy can make your coming together much more special.
And, as if relationships weren't complicated enough, having them across a long distance is extremely challenging. Just read the following rules and try to keep them in mind and apply them:
1. The quality of a relationship is more likely to increase if both people develop the ability to share feelings openly with each other. Do not be afraid to tell your partner what you really need and want from him or her, he or she deserves to know the truth and judge whether they can give it to you.
2. Make the relationship a high priority. Avoid canceling reunions or putting off a phone call.
3. Keep in touch daily. If large phone bills are a concern, send e-mail, letters, cards and even faxes. And when you do make contact, don't just stick to love talk, but keep each other informed on the day-to-day aspects of your lives. This way each of you is aware of how the other is thinking, feeling and developing. Late-night talks and thoughtful letters can convey a lot of what is most important in the long-term: your goals, values and dreams.
4. Be prepared to be flexible. Tell your partner of how much you think about and love him or her and you will score some important points. Making them miss you more and you'll fill them with the constant urge to see you. But don't be possessive. Being paranoid and accusing will only grow doubts, insecurity and tension between you and none of those will help the relationship develop successfully.
If your partner truly wants to be with you, then they would not want to wait forever to have you next to her or him. As long as you both trust each other, inform one another of your personal lives, keep in touch, your relationship can turn out into a happy normal relationship.
Ultimately, a fabulous relationship is your goal - right?
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Online Dating for Dummies

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Fri, 22 Jun 2007 17:30:00 +0000

Online Dating for Dummies
by: H M Hovis

Whether you have been dating for years, getting back in the game, or just starting out, you could always use a bit of dating advice. Not the kind you get from your mother, but rather the kind that actually might get you past the first date, on to the 2nd and perhaps on to a happily ever after. So you have decided to date and you are thinking about the "online dating" thing? Well, why not. To be cliche' everyone is doing it! In today's action packed, hustle, bustle world, who had time or energy to meet the traditional ways. Online meeting has become a norm, and is gaining in acceptability. Writing Your Profile Many online dating services offer assistance in writing your profile, if you are not a good writer then this may be something you should consider. Before you sit down to write your profile, find out how others see you, so that you can more adequately describe yourself as you are seen. (You don't see yourself as others do - probably) The best way to do this is ask around. You don't have to tell anyone why - just ask for one word that describes your looks, work habits, home environment etc get a list and go from there. Chances are you will come closer to a good description of yourself that way than any other way.To Post a Picture or Not To Post - That is the question Well are you photogenic? You know even if you aren't there has to be a picture somewhere of you that looks good. Find it! Whoever said a picture is worth a thousand words knew what the were talking about. And let's face it - this is a shallow society - we are attracted by looks in addition to pleny of other things - but looks are definetly high on the list. Not putting up a picture leads to suspicion of whether you are attractive or not - what's wrong with you! Put it up there.Free Online Dating Services, Trials, and Charges You get what you pay for - most of the time. Most of the online dating services charge. It's a huge market - just doesn't seem like it when you are actually trying to find a date does it? The best thing to do is find a trial service, or a service that allows you to wink or send eye contact or a smile to another party to let them know you are interested. So if you both just send that and then it goes nowhere you have to decide - are they worth the fee to join the site to find out more. If you do decide to join, keep in mind that most of these sites won't let the other person respond without also having a membership. That does not mean however that you can't send them an alternate method of contacting you. There is nothing more frustrating than being contacted by someone you would like to write back to, but no way to do that unless you also join. Is it worth the fees? Some site editors are not too bright either and you can sneak little ways into your profile that allow future interested parties a way to find you. Such as saying something like - "I have the same name where the little yellow man is" would tell someone that your username at AOL would be the same as your username on the profile and they might then contact you without you either one buying a membership.If you choose to post on more than one site, try to spice each profile up a bit differently. No one wants to read the same thing twice, and what you might have missed out on saying in one profile may be the thing that catches someone's attention on another profile. Use different pictures too. What to be Cautious of Online meeting has allowed us to move a bit faster than traditional dating. Your inhibitions all fall down when you are sitting behind a computer screen and you can do or say or flirt however you want and it's not as difficult as it is face to face. What that usually leads to is assuming you know someone better than you normally would before you've ever had that first date - but beware - their inhibitions were down too and they may have come across a lot greater than they really are. Do You Take Down Your Profile When You Meet Someone? Well - did they take down their profile? If they did, and you are serious about being exclusive, then you should take down your profile. (on all the sites you have it up on) But if they haven't and you aren't then leave it up. Think how many fish swimming around in the sea might nibble on your bait while you have it out there! Perhaps getting online and flirting and maybe even meeting up with someone is the push you need to get out more and enjoy life. Maybe it leads to happily ever after. Whatever it leads to enjoy it and yourself!You can site specific advice and more information as well as recommended sites by visiting my website at www.themarketradar.com

About the author:H M Hovis holds a degree in Mass Communication with an emphasis in Public Relations, and currently works in the casino industry.

Instant Dating Strategies Anyone Can Use

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Fri, 15 Jun 2007 13:07:00 +0000

Instant Dating Strategies Anyone Can Use
by: Caterina Christakos

Most of us walk around caught up in our own thoughts. We don't look at people as we walk down the street and we have the radio blasting in the car so we don't even notice those single, sexy individuals in the cars next to us.Tip #1 Get out of your head and into your environment. Instead of saying that there aren't any available guys out there, why not take your head out of your book at Barnes and Noble and notice if anyone is noticing you?There are probably plenty of attractive men out there dying to ask you out. Your body language may be part of the reason why they don't.Tip #2 Have open body language. This means no crossed arms. No hiding behind books. No hunching your shoulders. Tip #3 Make eye contact. Instead of looking down when a cute guy looks at you, meet his gaze. The right eye contact can be sexier than the hottest verbal conversations.Tip #4 Smile more. Studies have proven that a smiling face is thought to be friendlier and more attractive than someone who goes around with a tight jaw. Relax your jaw and allow your lips to be at least partly parted at all times. Notice the difference in how many more people smile, look your way and approach you. About the author:Caterina Christakos is a dating coach and published author. For even more in depth dating tips go to:

e-Matchmaking: Can a Computer Program Find Love For You?

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Sat, 09 Jun 2007 17:31:00 +0000

e-Matchmaking: Can a Computer Program Find Love For You?
by: Devlyn Steele

by Devlyn SteeleI logged on to a dating site the other day and was greeted by a large, flashing message. It promised that if I took the time to answer a series of questions that they would find a "perfect match" for me. Imagine that? All the work and worry of being single - gone! We truly have evolved! Not only can computer programs manage the entire traffic system of a city and make chess grandmasters cry, but now they can lead my perfect match right to my doorstep. I always wanted a Stepford wife, I hope it comes assembled.The recent trend in Internet Dating has been the use of a "computer personality test" of some sort. Websites claim that these tests, usually developed by a "top psychologist", have the ability to understand you and your needs through a series of questions. Confused? Lost in love? Problems communicating? Don't worry, the Online Dating Hal 5000 can figure you out! In fact, when you're done, this computer program will know your needs and desires better than you do.Remember the Broadway play “Fiddler on The Roof”? You might not, it was the first Broadway play I went to when I was seven. A song that always stuck in my head for some reason was “matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a match…” The song starts as a plea to the matchmaker to bring true love straight to the altar; someone beautiful, rich, intelligent, and perfect.But by the end of the song, the singer realizes that the Matchmaker might not be up to the task. She decides that “playing with matches, a girl can get burned”.So, do these tests really work?Personality tests have a long history. Really, really smart guys with names like Freud, Maslov, Fromm, and Jung developed respected psychological theories, and these theories are used as the basis for all types of tests. “The Big Five” theory suggests that there are five dimensions of personality: openness to experience, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. Some popular personality tests use this as a foundation. Others go the “Big Three” route, which does away with the “openness” and “agreeableness” dimensions - mostly because it’s easier to remember.I joke a little about these theories, but the truth is that they’ve survived the test of time and there is a ton of scientific research behind them. The real question is if these tests can be effective in applying a theory to the complexity of a human being. Add to this the additional layer of meshing your answers with another, equally complex person. That’s a tall order. People have impulsive behavior that simply can’t be measured when they’re sitting, relaxed and introspective, taking one of these tests. Often our answers reflect our perfect (or hopeful) idea of ourselves. Even if we are trying our best to be honest, our impulsive behavior in real-life situations can be far different than we’d expect.Another wildcard is attraction. We can meet someone who’s empirically good-looking, has a similar background, is kind and successful – and yet we’re not attracted. Often we can’t explain why we like another person. It may be how they make us laugh, a crooked smile – even how they smell! Sometimes little things that are immeasurable on their own can collectively make us attracted.Human beings and our emotions and desires are far too complex, and a computer program can’t solve the riddles of our romantic lives. As Jung put it, “the meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances; if there is a reaction both are transformed”. It sounds good, but even Jung was hedging his bet when it comes to love. What will cause two individuals to react to each other? Even the developers of the study of personality would not presume that a series of questions could predict romance.If you rely solely on matchmaking services, you are missing the entire beauty of online dating. The beauty is opportunity. Online dating offers you an almost limitless opportunity to meet and date new people. It gives you the time and space to find what best suits you. Going to a quality dating site that isn’t trying to sell you fantasy of finding your match for you will mean you will have a pool of millions of singles to meet.Treat matchmaking options as just another fun way to explore. It can serve as an ice breaker to start a conversation, but don’t expect them to be the answer to finding your perfect match. Keep all options open and explore possibilities. As a unique individual, only can you know what works for you. You need to develop skills to communicate and meet people. Developing both online and offline dating skills is the best way to find the right relationship. Next time you’re brushing your teeth, take a look in the mirror. See that amazing person? That’s your matchmaker with a mouthful of toothpaste. Take charge of your life and get into action! Enjoy dating and enjoy the process of discovery. Your experiences, both good and not-so-good, are essential to finding the right person for you.

About the author:Devlyn Steele ("America's Leading Life-Coach") is a Relationship Coach, Life-Coach, radio host, columnist, and the developer of ToolsToLife.com . His new program OnlineDatingKit.com teaches Internet daters the skills they need to find their perfect matches on their own.

Online Dating Tips

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Sun, 03 Jun 2007 08:37:00 +0000

Online Dating Tips
by: Frank Duru

Finding your soul mate online is a wondrous thing; however, there is the potential for danger. While you have access to a wide variety of people, you also have the impending complication of meeting those who are not what they seem to be--there are some tips of the trade, though, to help you become more discerning with your choices. These tips can help you stay safe and stay away from men and women who are not what you’re looking for.Tip One: Start Slowly. There are all kinds of people on the Love Empire; not all of these people, however, will be right for you. Take your time--if you meet someone and start up a conversation, proceed with discretion. The person at the other end may not be who they claim to be; take your time and watch for inconsistencies or odd behavior. If something bothers you, simply walk away. Do not rush into any relationship without thinking first.Tip Two: Protect Your Identity. One of the benefits of dating online is that you can get to know someone based solely upon their personality and not deal with the more social conscious real world. It is up to you to decide when and how you reveal who you really are--be careful, however. If someone receives your personal information, they could use it against you. If a member tries to pressure you into giving out your last name, email address, home address, phone number, place of work or any other identifying information, then walk away.Tip Three: Use Common Sense. When speaking to someone through the Love Empire, do not throw good judgment away simply because this is an online service. What may sound wonderful on the screen can be masking something not so wonderful in reality. Use caution and do not fall in love with the first profile you read. Take your time and go through all of your potential choices. Then, after you’ve researched enough, go from there. It is a common occurrence for people to “fall in love” after only one conversation. Do not do this! Retain your common sense and view online dating as you view real-world dating. You do not have to love every profile you read.Tip Four: Request A Photo. If you meet someone, chat with them, and see the beginning of a relationship forming, then you might want to request a photo. Often, this can tell you more about the person than any email or instant message. First of all, it can keep them from lying about their looks; secondly, you will know if you’re attracted to them in the physical sense; finally, if they continually refuse to send a photo, there might be a reason other than embarrassment. Proceed carefully.Tip Five: Pay Attention. This is, possibly, the most important tip you could follow. In an email, any one can sound wonderful--in real life, it’s much more difficult. When you are becoming involved with someone on the Love Empire, watch for ‘red flags’, or odd behavior. For example, if during an online session, your date suddenly becomes angry or aggressive toward you and then, won’t explain why, you should take this into consideration. If one sentence could upset him/her in such a way, it might be cause to worry. Also, pay attention to any attempts to pressure or control you. For instance, if your date is constantly making demeaning comments about you, there is a strong chance that he/she is trying to manipulate you into feeling inferior; therefore, you become an easier target to control. Finally, watch out for inconsistencies with information that your date provides you or evasive answers to questions. If your date displays any of the following problems, it would be well-advised to reconsider your relationship:1. He/she provides inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, etc.2. He/she refuses to speak to you on the phone after you have established an3. online relationship; or, he/she will only speak on a strangely specific4. timeframe.5. He/she will not answer any direct questions about themselves. They will6. either give you a vague answer or will simply turn the question back to you.7. He/she will only provide photos of large groups of people, making it8. impossible for you to find them.Online dating can be an exciting and fulfilling part of your life; just rememberto follow these tips and act accordingly.

About the author:Frank Duru is the author of many different articles. His works concentrate much on dating related information, such as "African Dating - Pride and Ambition", “Religious Dating - Traditions and Values” The list goes on! Click here to visit his site loveempire.net. Find more interracial and Dating related articles there.

Mike's Dating Story

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Sun, 27 May 2007 22:57:00 +0000

Mike's Dating Story
by: devlyn steel(Black Couch Tales)

Mike was completely stressed when he walked into my office last week. Taking a long drink of water, he slumped onto my black leather couch and sighed. “Coach,” he said. “I need to get out of my relationship.”Mike is 38 years old and a successful screenwriter. Mike was also perpetually single with a long history of failed relationships. His situation is typical: he wasn’t necessary afraid of something long-term, he just could never find “the One”. Mike could never stay in a romantic situation for long before moving to something new.Today’s session was no different. Once again he found himself feeling stuck with someone he didn’t want to be with. He told me his story.“I met Lexy about a year ago. I was at a bar and there she was. She looked awesome and had a great smile. I was attracted and I just had to get to know her.” For Mike it always started with physical attraction. He continued, “We really hit it off. The next thing you know, we are heavily involved. Things were great at least…the first six months were a blast…really fun. I think I gained ten pounds though. My buddy calls it the Love Diet. You stop going to the gym, order in, and stay in bed day and night.” Mike’s enthusiasm began to fade as he said, “After the first six months things slowly started to change. We started to get to know each other outside of the bedroom. The more we talked, the more I realized that I had nothing in common with her. And to be honest…this is sort of rough to admit…I wasn’t interested in a thing she had to say.” “Our relationship became tense at worst and polite at best. Little things started to bug me. The way she chewed her food drove me insane. The way she laughed…it was this high-pitched squeal that I think only dogs could hear…it made me nuts.” He sighed. “I’m getting on her nerves too. Last week Lexy nearly shoved me out of bed because she said I was snoring too loud.”Mike straightened up and locked eyes with me. “We need to break up and it’s been a long time coming anyhow. I’m okay with that. But what I really need to figure out is: what the heck is going on in my relationships? It’s always the same. Is it me? Am I meeting the right women? I’m 38 and I still haven’t figured it out.”Dating often starts as a chance meeting where physical attraction leads us to relationships we “end up in” rather than a choice we stop and think about. We get caught up in the excitement of meeting someone new. We give in to the rush! But eventually the “chemical reaction” of attraction begins to sputter. The excitement fades and we often find ourselves with a person we don’t know that well. In Mike’s case, he realized he was with someone he couldn’t stand to be around.This leads us to online dating. There are aspects of character and personality that will create a bond beyond the initial stage of attraction, and online dating allows us to go beyond the chance meeting, beyond the physical attraction. We can search out potential matches that we might never meet in our everyday lives. With the click of a mouse we have access to a wealth of information: interests, hobbies, passions, lifestyle, beliefs, and more. Online dating allows us to approach dating from an entirely different angle. Instead of getting to know someone from the outside-in, we can establish a relationship from the inside-out.Does this “more informed” method your romantic life lead to a more compatible and satisfying relationship? Unfortunately the answer is “No!”Just like physical attraction alone isn’t enough to carry a long-term relationship, having things in common alone won’t satisfy you. You still need physical attraction. You may find tons of people online who will seem perfect. Then you meet face-to-face and you know in a split-second that this person is not for you. You never really know what will happen until you meet.But imagine if you are attracted! The reason you decided to meet in the first place was because you have things in common and your personalities meshed. You’ve already laid the foundation to take your dating beyond the physical..What online dating really offers is opportunity to find and communicate with lots of people with whom we share common interests and qualities. It’s not the holy grail of dating, but it’s an excellent way to increase your chances of finding something long-term. You may still have to go on many dates to find your match, but that is why the Internet is so exciting! There are always new people to find, and always the opportunity for that next date. Mike is currently online dating and loving it! I encourage you to give it a try for yourself.

About the author:About the Author... Devlyn Steele ("America's Leading Life-Coach") is a Relationship Coach, Life Coach. A Columnist as well as radio host. Devlyn has also developed ToolsToLife.com As a Relationship-Coach Devlyn has created the OnlineDatingKit.com which teaches Internet daters the skills they need to find their perfect matches on their own and offers a complementary e-book at no cost on “How To Choose The Right Dating Site For You.”

A guide to dating

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Tue, 22 May 2007 05:20:00 +0000

A guide to dating
by: Jeff Lakie

People in long-term relationships, whether they are married or dating, often complain about getting into a rut. Your relationship may have started off with the great burst of passion and excitement but perhaps it began to wane because life is busy and work can where you out by the end of the day.If you're in a dating relationship that seems to be in a rut, or wonder why you can't keep a long term relationship exciting anymore, perhaps you need to go back to the beginning. That doesn't mean you need to break up with your current partner and find someone new, it means you need to refresh the relationship with exciting and spontaneous activities.When you look back on a period of your life, what is it that you remember? Is it the average day-in, day-out activities? Not likely. It is more likely those fun and spur-of-the-moment times when you did things that were hilarious or scary or new. That's what it means to go back to the beginning of a relationship, when everything you do is spontaneous and new.Next time you and your girlfriend or boyfriend are deciding to do something on Friday, don't settle for dinner-and-a-movie. Do something different! Here are some ideas:Play paintballRent a classic carGo skydivingHave a picnicOr surprise your date with something spontaneous:Start a water fightGo for a romantic boat ride and tip the boatBlindfold your date and take them somewhere they never beenSurprise your date at work just as they're finishing up for the dayRelationships fail for many reasons. One of the saddest reasons is that people simply drift apart because the other person doesn't excite them anymore. It doesn't have to be that you're your relationship, whether dating or married, can thrive when it is filled with adventures that the two of you share as you build memories together.You'll look back on your time together with fondness as you consider the many fun and spontaneous things you did together. But doing those things is a choice. Choose to return to the beginning of your relationship and have fun again! About the author:Jeff Lakie is the founder of Dating Resources a website providing information on Dating

Latin Dating - Beauty and Romance

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Thu, 17 May 2007 10:43:00 +0000

Latin Dating - Beauty and Romance
by: Frank Duru

Like any other society, Latin culture is one that is embedded with traditions, values and celebrations. Of all the different attributes that are associated with Latino's, there is no question that passion and romance are considered to be two of the most intriguing. If you are of Latin descent and are interested in seeking a relationship with another Latin man or woman, there are many ways you can go about creating the perfect romantic dating experience, that both you and your date should be able to enjoy with no strings attached. The following are a few ideas of how you can create romance on your dates:Dinner - Dinner is always a perfect dating choice, because you can make it as casual or romantic as you would like it to be. It all depends on where you go, and the way you act during the meal. If you are interested in being romantic at dinner, listen intently to what your date has to say, take his or her hand from across the table, look them in the eyes and be honest when you express yourself. However, you should keep in mind that romance can be interpreted as an invitation to sex, or even make the other person feel uncomfortable if they are interested in taking it slow. Therefore, be a tasteful romantic and know when to draw the line. For although you want to capture your date's interest, you don't want to make them feel uncomfortable in the process.Dancing - Dancing is a great way for you to have fun, while still getting to know and remaining close to your date. Going to a club, or attending Latin dancing is how you can keep the romance freely escalating without having any further expectations hanging in the air.Walking - You would be surprised to discover the power behind a nice leisurely walk. There is something truly magical about making nature apart of your date. Although not everyone is fortunate enough to have a beach close to them, there is sure to be parks, waterfronts and old fashioned neighbourhoods awaiting your footsteps. Holding hands and talking on an evening stroll, watching the sunset in silence, and gazing up at the stars, are just some of the ways you can use simple beauty to add to the romantic atmosphere of your date.Due to the fact that traditions are an important part of Latin culture, dating someone of your same ethnic background is usually a plus when it comes to family relations, especially if you are interested in perusing a serious relationship with your dating partner.Nevertheless, despite your dating intentions, there are many ways you can make your dating experience a beautiful time that you can truly enjoy who knows where a little romance can take you.About the author:Frank Duru is the author of many different articles. His works concentrate much on dating related information, such as "African Dating - Pride and Ambition", “Religious Dating - Traditions and Values” The list goes on! Click here to visit his site loveempire.net. Find more interracial and Dating related articles there.

online dating. Is it taken to seriously?

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Mon, 14 May 2007 11:06:00 +0000

online dating. Is it taken to seriously?
by: Tyler Casselman

When I look at allot of the online dating services I notice one common trend. People take it very seriously into finding there true love. I find it absolutely amazing the amount of people who are looking for there absolute perfect match.There seems to be so many profiles out there who tell people exactly what it is they want from a partner. Its as if there an owner of a company and there trying to fill a certain job position. They then take and list there requirements and what they expect from a person. If they don't meet those requirements then they think there unsuitable. I think that's crazy.Dating is about getting to know people and then seeing if you enjoy spending time with them. You will often meet people who you thought you would never date and end up having a strong relationship with them. I'm not saying that it isn't good to have certain expectations. It is good to have an idea of what you want in a partner. I'm just saying you need to have an open mind.So what should you put in your profile?Intsead of a whole big list of stuff like this is what I want and this is what I expect, you should have a touch of personality. Sure you will have certain expectations. You need to personalize them, so they just don't sound like your looking for a perfect person. If you like to joke around then add some little funnies throughout your profile. You need to show off your personality. Show people how you see the world and that you don't take everything so seriously.When you go to a nightclub you don't just go to meet someone, you go to have some fun too. You need to look at online dating in the same way. Have some fun with it and don't take it to seriously. You will make things much easier on yourself. About the author:Tyler Casselman is an online dating expert. He owns the popular site Online Dating Home. In order to use this article on your site you must provide an active link back to Online Dating Home.

Homosexual Dating - Truth and Connection

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Thu, 10 May 2007 21:14:00 +0000

Homosexual Dating - Truth and Connection
by: Frank Duru

Homosexual dating has become much more widespread and accepted in Western culture, allowing both gays and lesbians the chance to reach out to one another beyond that of closed doors. Now there are many ways you can have a rewarding homosexual dating experience, so don’t be afraid to get out there and explore all of the potential relationships you can create at a wonderful same-sex communities.Homosexuality is a form of love that needs not to be judged or explained, because it is just another example of how when you love someone it doesn’t matter what colour their skin is, how old they are, or even what sex they are. True love knows no boundaries, has no discriminations and only wishes to be shared with another who returns the same emotions. Unfortunately, not everyone agrees with this idea of love, and due to this fact, many homosexuals, regardless if they are male or female, are made to feel alienated, which can often lead to feelings of depression or loneliness. There is no reason why you should let these feelings overcome you, or let other opinions of those you care about, such as family members or friends, negatively influence your life when it comes to finding love, relationships, and homosexual dating. Homosexual dating is about finding someone who feels the same way you do, enjoys spending time with you, treats you with respect and makes you feel like an equal. It is about being apart of a relationship with mutual understanding, which has the potential to forge a strong connection between both you and your partner.Like any dating experience, there will be certain setbacks and struggles that you may face during homosexual dating. This is only natural, simply because in order for you to connect with someone, it is important that you feel comfortable with them. As a gay or lesbian, you should not feel that you need to grab any opportunity that comes your way. There is no harm in starting as friends and working slowly into the relationship to discover how much you have in common. As long as you are honest with your feelings, you should have no problem finding a partner. Homosexual dating is how you can establish an amazing connection with someone who understands you, and loves you for who you are with no questions asked. Even though you will meet some people who are destined to give you a hard time with your sexual preference, all you can do is trust your own judgments, be true to yourself, and give your love and time to those who deserve it.About the author:Frank Duru is the author of many different articles. His works concentrate much on dating related information, such as "African Dating - Pride and Ambition", “Asian Dating - Respect and Honour” The list goes on! Click here to visit his site loveempire.net. Find more interracial and Dating related articles there.

Online Dating Made Easy and Safe

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Sun, 06 May 2007 23:08:00 +0000

Online Dating Made Easy and Safe
by: Jeff Lakie

As technology becomes more ingrained in our everyday lives, more people are turning to the Internet for social purposes. And over the past few years, this has become a more accepted form of communication. Friendships are formed and relationships made online.But just how much trouble is it to join the online dating sites? And is it safe? A few years ago, there was significant attention placed on those who turned to online dating. Consumers were warned that the sites were unsafe, used by predators who were looking for victims. But increased attention to security and awareness on the part of those using the services has made an incredible difference. Many of the dating sites are now offering members ways to talk anonymously at first, then allowed to meet via web cam in private chat rooms. With the web cam options, it's more difficult to hide things like age. Some sites also screen members personally. While the sites make no claims that they've gone so far as to perform background checks, they do often verify addresses and other information. Again, this isn't a full-fledged safety net, just one more precaution toward making online dating safer.As more people are becoming completely comfortable with online communication and more people have access to Internet at home and at work, online dating sites have flourished. There are many sites that have very short sign-up processes and others that require you to answer lots of questions. You'll typically be allowed to register for free, though you have to pay dues in order to gain access to other members' contact information. This is how the sites are able to boast that they have thousands of profiles available. Since it's free to sign up and post your information and photo, many people take that step with no intentions of going further. If you're considering joining an online dating service, check out the membership requirements first. If security is important, take time to read what steps the dating service has taken to ensure the safety of its members. Above all, take time to protect yourself. Remember that not everyone is honest. Just as you could meet a person on a park bench that offers lies about his or her life, you'll meet some people at online dating sites that are also untruthful. But you may also meet the love you've been looking for.About the author:Jeff Lakie is the founder of Dating Resources a website providing information on Dating

Does Online Dating Work?

noreply@blogger.com (tutorial) — Thu, 03 May 2007 00:00:00 +0000

Does Online Dating Work?
by: adrian knight

Dating Online is currently the Internets biggest craze, and its here to stay! But does it actually work?I mean, there are tons of Dating websites, but their success with matchmaking is kept rather low key, and I found out why.When I was searching for Online dating websites, I felt that I couldn’t trust many of the companies and that they were just trying to get money out of me. After many hours of research I was exhausted by the idea of Online Dating, it just seemed more hassle than what it was worth, but I was determined to see it through.A lot of websites that I researched were either free or had rock bottom membership fees, and I found that these were the worst to go to, bar a few exceptions. Eventually I found a handful of websites that I could trust and were worth the money that they were charging, but it just took so long to find these trust-worthy sites.So I signed up and begrudgingly paid the membership fee. One of the most important aspects I learnt early on is that your personal profile that you place on the dating website should be immaculate! By this I mean spend time modifying and perfecting your profile, as this is what counts the most! The last thing you want is to be receiving messages from other adults who are just not right for you, its better to make contact with another adult who is very similar to yourself, than to make contact with 10 adults who only share a few similarities.Eventually I started meeting other people who were very compatible to myself, and as a result have made 2 great friends who are now a major part in my life and have been going out with my long-term girlfriend for over a year (I’m planning a trip to New York at Christmas, so that I can propose to her!)Online Dating has worked wonders for me, even though it’s taken time to get their, and I Strongly believe that if you spent time looking for the right Dating website, that’s suits you and your needs then you will also have similar success. This thought gave me a brainwave.I thought how great it would be if their was a website that had a list of all the best Dating websites, that listed these trustworthy companies, so that the biggest hassle is taken away and you can start meeting and communicating with other adults, without having to waste time looking for the best companies. So that’s what I did. I designed a website that was split into sections for American Singles, Gay personals, Jewish Singles and Christian Dating, with the best dating websites for each category.It is full of information about Online Dating, with reviews of every Dating website and loads of interesting, related articles. There is also help on the best way of writing your personal profile.Best of luck!! About the author:Adrian Knight is author of many articles related to Online Dating. He writes truthfully from his own experience of dating Online and has built his website to help others avoid the same sticky situations he got himself in.