Dating Tips and Dating Advice by David Wygant

Are You Tired Of Living In “The Friend Zone”?

2012-02-24T20:06:29Z

Are You Tired Of Living In The “Friend Zone”?

Ask David Wygant EVERYTHING! (Video)

2012-02-24T19:51:17Z

How I Got Rid of My Approach Problem Once and For All

2012-02-24T02:28:40Z

Do you ever sit down and write down goals?

I know a lot of you right now are working on your basics: overcoming the fear of approaching, actually approaching, and getting a date. Mastering these would be an accomplishment right now for some of you.

Some of you are a little more seasoned. You’ve been in relationships, have an idea of who you are, what you want, but you still want to be able to date any woman. And you know what I mean by any woman. You can’t just walk up to any single woman and think that you’re going to connect with them, because it is all about chemistry and you’ve got to understand that right from the get-go.

Here is the deal: successful people in life, no matter what they do, set goals and they work hard every single day. Do you put in enough time every day to become the best version of you?

When I first started going out there and meeting women, I was in my 20s. Now in college I was okay. I was the guy who had been rumored to have slept with a ton of girls because I was always seen with them. I would leave the club with them, I would leave the bar with them, but I have got to tell you something: my closing skills were horrific.

They were awful. I couldn’t close worth a damn. I was so afraid to go in for the kiss; I was so afraid to touch; I would just walk them back to their dorm room. I would not even invite myself in, not even try, I would just walk away and I would be thrown right into the friend zone.

But what is funny is, is that I was always seen with all these girls so I had the reputation of having slept with almost every single girl on campus, and that helped get me more dates. That helped me getting me more hook ups when I was able to hook up with them.

Later on in my 20s though I decided I really wanted to be different because I was no longer living in school and I realized that I had to work on all this stuff. I was living in New York City. I became a bartender in New York City, and when you’re a bartender—man—you should have no problem getting laid.

I didn’t have a problem getting laid. I had a problem connecting with the women I really wanted. You see I played it safe for so long. I always played it safe. And it drove me crazy. I would go for the easy one, and one day I decided that I was going to change that. I wanted to become really great at meeting women, picking them up, whatever terminology you want to use.

So I went out every single day and I picked up women. I forced myself to talk to women. I forced myself to open up and I forced myself to do everything. I got so far out of my comfort zone every single day that I thought I was going to lose my mind. I felt out of control, but I knew that in order to be successful I had to do that. I had to push myself.

Now, the big question for all of you right now is: how far do you push yourselves? Are you looking for the easy way out? Do you still believe there is a magic pill? Do you just read articles online or do you actually invest in programs that could help move you towards your goals faster?

Get clear with your goals and bring urgency to your life. The women are out there. And they’re waiting for you.

Brand New Website: Grand Opening!

2012-02-22T23:00:34Z

Hey there!

It’s 2012! Brand new everything. (Okay, I promise that once March hits, I’m going to stop talking about 2012. Maybe.)

If you’re reading this on DavidWygant.com, then you’ve probably recognized our brand new design. I personally love it. It’s easier to navigate, and it puts emphasis on our Women’s site in the header. (We have a lot of awesome stuff in store for the women in our audience this year.)

Feel free to click around and browse the new site.

And please, let me know what you think in the comments section below! Your feedback is always considered.

Have an awesome…day.

How To Make Your Conversations More Fun and Exciting (VIDEO)

2012-02-22T21:43:33Z

Happy Mardi Gras from Shogo!!

We’ve got a new format on the blog that I’m really excited about–every Tuesday we’ll be sharing a video of my latest piece of advice and inspiration to carry you through your week.

Hope you enjoy this week’s clip and I’m looking forward to reading your comments!

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The Biggest Mistake Wimpy Men Make

2012-02-20T18:17:50Z

You’re the man. You need to set in stone the plans that you make with women. For instance, if you talk to a woman on Tuesday and make plans for Thursday, and you don’t set a time for the date, don’t expect her to call you about it on Thursday and ask, “What time?”

Whenever you set a date, you need to tell her plain and simple when you’re one the phone with her, “Hey Thursday, let’s hang out at 8:00 at Joe’s Bar and Grill…” You set that date when you’re talking because otherwise, if you don’t do that, you’re creating more steps and you’re creating stress.

As a man, you need to lead. Always need to lead to get her excited about the date.

At the end of the date, capitalize. When is the time that she is emotionally connected to you to the most? At the end of the date. What do most guys do wrong at the end of the date? They look at her and they think to themselves, “I don’t want to be over-anxious right now.” And they walk away.

Maybe they give her a little kiss and they allow her to go back to her friends and recap the entire date. That’s when all hell seems to break loose because the second she recaps the date is the second she gets into her head and starts thinking that maybe you’re not right for her.

So here’s the deal: if you like her and you want to see her again, always close her at the end of the first date with a second date. Look at her, give her a kiss on the lips and pull back and then just go, “Hey, you know that jazz party you were talking about, let’s go Thursday.”

Make it fun, make it simple and close the deal because then she’ll tell her friends this story. God, I had such a great time and he asked me out for Thursday instead of, had a good time but I don’t know — he just didn’t ask me out. Just didn’t seem like he was interested. Don’t let her get into her head.

And don’t worry about when you’re going to sleep with her because you’re just going to put too much pressure on it. When you date, if you go out, and you do exactly what I said above, close her for the next date. Set up a great date that’s fun. Kiss her. Touch her a little bit. Guess what happens? You’re not going to think about when to sleep with her. It’s just going to happen naturally.

You need to get the idea out of your head that you need to sleep with her by the end of the third date. It doesn’t mean a thing. Sometimes you’ll sleep with her at the end of a first date; sometimes you’ll sleep with her by the end of third; and sometimes, at the end of a fifth date. It’s all about creating momentum.

Dating is all about momentum. Women look forward to it. It’s creating a story for them in their heads. They want it flow. We met at a Whole Foods. We exchanged numbers. He called me the next day, asked me if I liked the food. We talked. We met. He turned me on…

It’s all about momentum. You want to create a story because she wants a story; she wants to see the pieces of that story to come together.

Every relationship you’ve ever had, when it comes down to dating, has something called momentum to it. Learn the art of momentum. Go for it, and stop thinking about what people say and what women say.

But momentum begins with you. Conquer that woman. Take her on that journey, and she’s going to be turned on to you. That’s how you make dates work.

How Important Is Your Car When Dating?

2012-02-18T16:41:59Z

How important is your car when it comes down to meeting women?

It’s a question that I get all the time, and it’s something that I don’t think anybody really talks that much about. Here’s the deal: you must have a car—it’s very important. Unless you live in one of the big cities where you can take public transportation, the rest of the world really is all about having a car. But what type of car you have isn’t as important.

For some of you that can afford it, I’m sure you have better cars. For some of you that have unlimited money, your car basically states who you are as a man—a lot about your identity.

But, most of us in the world don’t have the money to get the car that we want, so we’re forced to buying a used car. We’re forced to driving something that we may or may not be that enthused about. Maybe that 2004 Camry is not exactly what you always wanted. So how do you pick up a woman in that car and not apologize that you’re driving a white Camry when you’d rather be driving a silver Corvette?

Here’s the deal about cars: it’s not about the car you drive, it’s what that car represents.

I know you are thinking right now, a white Camry usually represents a conservative, nerdy guy. Maybe to you it resembles your grandmother’s vehicle.

That’s not the way she’s thinking about it.

When she gets into your car for the very first time, she’s evaluating not the car you drive, but the way you take care of that car. Is your backseat piled with tons of stuff; garbage, and papers? Does it look like a homeless person is sleeping back there? She’s going to see all that.

Is the outside of your car one of those cars where people write “wash me” because it’s always so dirty? Is there a distinct odor in your car, and nobody really knows what it is? (Is it sweat? Is it B.O?)

Guys, just make sure your car is clean, inside and out. Make sure it’s detailed, waxed, looking good. Because, when you first drive up in a shiny car—no matter what model, no matter what make—it’s is going to give her an impression of who you are. It’s going to show her that you’re actually a guy that takes care of things.

When she gets into that car, make sure it’s clean. The seats should be clean. Make sure she’s not sitting on any old potato chips. Make sure there’s not a bottle of water at her feet. Make sure the backseat is clean. Make sure there are no crumbs in the cup holders. No old bottles of soda in the cup holders. Make that car neat in the inside.

And the next thing you want to do is make sure you’ve got the right music on, so when she gets in the car she’s sitting in an environment that’s friendly. I would play a little bit of Coldplay, maybe some David Gray, maybe some Ray LaMontagne, maybe some Death Cab for Cutie—just basically good, mellow music at a volume that’s not too high and not too low, just enough for background.

It’s all about setting the mood and giving her a great feeling. If the car is clean, smells good, and sounds good—you’re in business, even if it’s an old white Toyota Camry.

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So ladies, help us out a but and give us your opinion on this: is it important that your date have a car? Yes or no, and why? Leave your answers in the comments below.

Ask David Wygant ANYTHING.

2012-02-21T21:31:43Z

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And how did you all do with last week’s Friday Challenge? Who amongst you is still Master of Your Domain?

The Best Ways to Be a Fashion Victim

2012-02-16T23:09:59Z

We hear the phrase over and over again: “The clothes make the man.”

Yet so many guys go out wearing the free t-shirt they got at the Microsoft Convention. They wear the sweatshirt that they got at the barbecue. They wear jeans that don’t fit them correctly, meaning they’re too big, too baggy, too over-dyed, what it might be. A lot of men wear clothes that they bought 15 years ago or 10 years ago so that they get the most amount money out of them.

But here’s the deal: the clothes do make the man and that’s what it’s all about.

When you first meet a woman for the very first time, I don’t care if it’s a date or if you’re going to approach her in the super market: what you’re wearing tells her how you take care of yourself. It shows her that you’re a well-made man, meaning you care about your appearance, you care about who you are, and you’re up on the latest trends and fashions.

Women in the olden days were all about fixing a man. It didn’t matter what the guy wore because she knew once they got into a relationship she’d be able to go through his closet and basically eliminate all the bad clothes and get the man to dress exactly the way that she wants.

Those days have come and gone with the Internet and all the great online clothing stores. You can go get nice clothes at a discount without having to leave your home. Women expect a guy to own his look and to have the right look for him. It’s really important and it’s a detail that a lot of men forget about.

If you’re confused about what to wear, this is what I strongly suggest: go to your local department store, maybe a Nordstrom’s, a Bloomingdale’s or a Macy’s. Find the cutest sales girl there is and walk directly over to her. Say, “Excuse me, I’m in dire need of a fashion make over. I’ve got the worst taste in clothes and I’m tired of it, and I’d like to get your opinion on things. Take me around and show me exactly what I should be wearing.”

And then just go around and try stuff on! When you come out of the dressing room, ask her what she thinks. You can ask the other sales girls what they think too. Ask some of the customers what they think. It’s a great way to meet women, too.

You don’t buy much of anything at the first store because these women might be on commission, so they might not be telling you the truth. But go to another men’s clothing store and find another cute sales girl and ask her the same exact thing. Do this all day long until you find the clothes that are in your budget that you like.

Make a list. Take pictures of what you like, so that way you know when to go back and what store to go back to and where to buy it. Not only is it a great way to come up with a new look—which is going to be great for meeting women—but you’ll actually meet women while you shop.

Women love when you do this. I do this all the time in my boot camps with the guys. I always take them out and always get them to become the fashion victim. Women love doing make overs. You can flirt and talk to them and hang out with them. It’s a great way to practice your flirting skills. It’s a great way to practice to approach skills, and it’s a great way to find a new wardrobe, so you’re killing two birds with one stone.

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So, in essence, the man makes the man; but, the clothes make the woman notice the man.

Wednesday PODCAST: The Battle Between Men & Women

2012-02-15T20:21:37Z

Welcome to this post-Valentine’s Day edition of Podcast Wednesday with David Wygant!

Today Obi and I discuss the major difference between the sexes, especially when it comes to arguments or differences of opinion.

Click play, listen, and let us know your thoughts in the comments below.