• Offer lots of face to face time
• Should occupy you both so that you’re not just staring at each other the entire time
• Should offer lots of time to communicate

First, let’s look at a popular date idea: Dinner and a movie. This is a horrible date idea. Dinner is ok, but a movie puts you two in the dark where you can’t talk at all except for a little whispering. This doesn’t allow the two of you to get to know each other and that right there makes it a bad date. Instead, choose dates that are fun and that allow you to talk so that you can get to know each other better, which is the entire purpose of a date.

How About a Picnic?

Earlier we mentioned that dinner is a good idea for a date. But going out to a restaurant is something the two of you have probably done a thousand times. Instead of going out to dinner, why not take her to the grocery store to pick up items for a picnic. Then, head over to the beach, lay out a blanket and drink wine as the sun goes down. That’s a very different and unforgettable date and, if you play your cards right, she’ll have the time of her life.

Pool or Bowling

Pool or bowling can be a great date idea also. Not only is there competition because you’ll be playing against each other, which can be a lot of fun, it will allow the two of you to get to know each other because there will be plenty of time for talking. This will be unforgettable to her, especially if she’s not used to doing these activities regularly. If she is used to one of the activities, have the date center around the activity she’s least used to. That will make it extra unforgettable and, in fact, she’ll probably think of you the next time she participates in whatever activity you settle on.

The idea is to do something different while also doing something that’s a lot of fun. As long as those criteria are met, and there’s plenty of time for talking so that you two can get to know each other, you’ll find it a very unforgettable date idea. However, you must do your part to make sure it’s extra unforgettable.

Doing Your Part

While on the date, you’ll want to make sure she has as much fun as possible. You can do this by being funny and by creating sexual tension. Flirt with her and show her attention and then tease her while keeping a straight face. These techniques work like a charm, and if you can combine it with a date that’s fun and different, she’ll never forget you and she’ll more than likely have such a good time that she’ll want to keep you around so that she can experience more dates just like the one you just had.

Profile Mistakes

Most men have no idea how to create a winning profile. They simply put a picture up, or a series of pictures without thinking much about what messages those pictures convey, and they create profiles that boast about their achievements and make them sound as great as possible. This is wrong.
First, your photo sends a message whether you realize it or not. If you include a photo that depicts you standing next to your car with a fish in your hand and a beer in the other, you may end up turning a woman off who is looking for a more professional man. Even if you are an attorney by day, that photo is enough to make her move onto something else. Therefore, pay close attention to your photographs and make sure they’re sending the right messages. You may have to play around with various photos to see which ones get the best responses, but soon you’ll find one that attracts the women you want to attract.

Too Long and Too Much About You

Another profile mistake is making your profile way too long and making it sound like a resume. Men always feel like they need to boast to women to make themselves look better. Instead of making a profile that’s too long winded and too boastful, make it short and sweet and make her laugh in the process. Don’t go on and on about your accomplishments, and instead tell her about your ambitions and goals, your dreams and what you’re looking for. If you can do this, and make her laugh at the same time, you’ll get many more responses from women instead of being passed over because you sound like a braggart.

Messaging Women

Finally, and this is the most important part, you must read the profiles of the women you message. Too many guys look at a woman’s photo, decide whether or not she’s attractive, and then message her blindly. Women’s profiles usually include information she wants you to know and it will also include the type of men she’s after. If you can include in the message you send a part of her profile that you read, this will go over better than just a blind message asking how she’s doing.

Finally, when you’re messaging women on online dating sites, make sure you sound intriguing, make her laugh and always end with a question. If you can intrigue her, make her laugh and get her to answer your questions, you’ll be able to get a back and forth communication started.

That’s what you’re after with online dating. You want that back and forth communication so that you can build up a trust, and eventually so that you can meet her offline. If you use these tips correctly, and you don’t make the mistakes most men make online, you’ll meet more women using online dating sites than you ever have before.

Understand that treating her differently doesn’t mean be mean to her. Quite the opposite, actually. You’re instead going to tease her. You’re going to challenge her. And you’re going to have a straight face when you do it. Pretend she’s your friend’s little sister. Nag her and ride her. If you do this, it will drive her absolutely crazy with desire.

You must find a healthy balance between flirting with her and teasing her. She should never really know what your true intentions are. If you keep this up, she will be yours for the taking.

Opening Doors

Most men will open the car door for a woman and then the restaurant door, and then they’ll pull out the chair for the woman. This is all sweet and good but it’s not what she wants. She may say that and that kind of behaviour is often the subject of very popular chick flicks, but it has no basis in reality. If it did, people like former Motley Crue drummer Tommy Lee wouldn’t get some of the hottest chicks on the planet. Instead, turn things around on her in a playful way.

For instance, if you’re off to a restaurant, wait for her to sit down but remain standing. Then say something to the effect of, “Aren’t you going to pull out my chair?” She’ll likely laugh at this and it will get it out of the way that you don’t act like that. Once the relationship has started, you can be as nice as you want. But if you’re trying to build attraction, you must tease and challenge her if you want her to be attracted to you.

Always Be Advancing

Once you’re flirting with a woman, you should be trying for either a phone number or actual contact. Contact is touching of your skin to hers. Touch her hand when you’re talking to her, or her arm. Let it be natural, as if you’re talking to a dear friend. When you touch her arm, move to her back. Always be advancing. If you get her phone number, call her and ask to meet her in person. If the two of you are out to dinner, suggest you can go dancing so you can get closer to her. You get the idea.

By advancing the relationship, you’ll be able to get to her to do whatever you want her to. This will work even on the hottest women. For it to work, however, you must have complete confidence in yourself. That’s the only way to attract a woman, is to have confidence, and the only way to have confidence is to start thinking that you do. Once you start thinking like you’re confident, you will slowly begin to believe it.

If you can remember all those things when dating girls, you will have a much higher success rate, no matter how hot the woman you pursue may be.

When trying to meet a woman, many people today will suggest online dating. It’s convenient, it’s fairly inexpensive and it can be a great way to search through women without taking a chance and taking each one of them out individually. Not only does online dating save time, but it also saves money. However, when it comes to online dating, there are good aspects and there are bad. By understanding the pros and cons of online dating, you’ll know more of what to expect and you’ll be able to make a better decision on whether or not online dating is for you.

Meeting a Woman Online

When you use an online dating site, you are expecting to meet a woman over the internet. This doesn’t have the same stigma it had a few years ago. These days it’s common for people to meet online. What’s great about meeting women over the internet is that you can search though large pools of women and only talk to the ones you want to talk to. If you don’t like what a woman says, or something else turns you off, you can stop talking to her and move onto someone else in a few seconds.

However, one of the cons to meeting a woman online is that you never know what you’re going to get. That means you could meet a woman who is a hundred pounds more than she told you online. Or, worse, you could arrange to meet a hot woman in person only to find out she’s not hot at all, or a woman. That’s a scary thought and there’s always a chance of that whenever you’re dealing with online dating.

Restricted to Certain Women

When you deal with online dating, you are able to search through women’s profiles and you can view their pictures. This lets you decide on the women based solely on looks if you want to, or you can choose one by her sense of humor. Instead of walking up to a woman in a bar when you have no idea what she’s about, or how she looks in a bikini, you can view her online and know all of that information in just a few moments.

There are cons to this aspect, as well, however. One of those cons is the fact that you’re restricted to the women who use whatever dating site you’ve chosen. So if you’re searched through all the women on that site that meet your criteria, you’ll have to wait until another woman signs up in order to find a match. And what if that certain woman never signs up? You’ll have to choose another site or just wait for more members to register.

Money

Using internet dating to meet women. That’s because you typically have to take many women out in order to find one you like. That can be very expensive for a man because traditionally we’re the ones who pay for the dates as well as gas and any other expenses that may be incurred. With online dating, you can feel her out before you actually take her out, and thus you won’t spend your money needlessly.

However, online dating typically costs money each month to use. So not only will you have to pay for the site, but you’ll also have to pay for the dates you meet on that site. To make matters worse, you could potentially pay for a few months without meeting anyone. Then you’d be out money, and you still wouldn’t have met any women you were interested in.

So you see that there are pros and cons to online dating, just as there are with most things. As long as you can live with the fact that the woman may be lying about certain parts of her, and as long as you are ok with the fact that you only have a certain number of women to choose from, online dating can be a great way to meet women.

The reason most men don’t know how to attract women is because it doesn’t take much to attract us men. As men, we are typically attracted to the physical first. With women, it’s the opposite. Women want to know that a man has a job and that he’s mentally and physically secure and she wants to know that he’s going to bring something different and exciting to her life. If you can provide that for her, she’ll instantly develop an attraction to you.

To start, you’re going to have to introduce yourself to the woman as if you’re the most interesting person in the room. To do this, you must have confidence. If you don’t have confidence, you turn her off almost immediately. That’s because someone who is insecure isn’t very exciting to be around.

To exhibit confidence, you must not only feel the part but you must also look the part. That means standing, walking, talking, and doing everything else as if you were brimming with confidence. This means standing up straight, walking with your shoulders back and your chin up, speaking to her while using eye contact and even cracking jokes at her expense (in a playful way). Women can determine confidence levels just by looking at you and that means you must look and act like a confident person.

The good news is that you can develop confidence as long as you work at it. You simply must think back to a time when you were extremely confident. Whenever you feel yourself feeling unconfident, bring that image back to the forefront of your mind. That will restore your confidence and you’ll have a higher chance of picking up any hot women you talk to.

Now, back to introducing yourself. To attract a woman, you must be able to talk to her without having her guard go up. Women have a guard they put up to protect her from getting taken advantage of. So instead of giving her a pickup line, which will instantly have her guard up, talk to her about something you have a reason to talk to her about. She’ll instantly see you as a nice person to talk to instead of some creep trying to get in her pants, or whatever women think in those types of situations.

Try to make her laugh within the first few minutes of talking to her so that you can break the ice. Then, ask her about herself. Women will take any excuse to talk about themselves and so this gives you the opportunity to get a good conversation going.

Just ask plenty of questions, use eye contact, and touch her as often as you can. Then, once you’ve got her, challenge her a little bit.

This is the biggest aspect to building attraction with women. You must challenge her. Don’t give her her way. Tease her a little bit and keep a straight face. This will put her a little off balance and she won’t know if you’re kidding or not. If she gets mad, she’s not worth it. If she laughs, however, then you’ve successfully hooked her and she will build instant attraction to you. After that, picking her up will be very easy.

Standing

Women judge you by how you stand. First of all, the way you stand tells her how confident you are. If you stand with your spine straight and your shoulders back, she will think you are confident. Women like confident men. If, however, you are standing with your back and your shoulders slumped, she’ll think you’re not so confident and this can affect how she feels about you. Women like confident men and so you always want to be conscious of your stance to make sure you’re sending the right signals.

The position you stand in also tells a woman a lot about you. If, when talking to her, you stand with your body facing to the side instead of facing her, she’ll think you’re not focused on her. That’s why you always want to make sure you face her when standing, as well as when sitting.

Your Eyes

The eyes can tell a woman so much about a man. She can usually tell, just by looking in the eyes, whether or not a man is honest, if he’s into her, and if he’s thinking about something or someone else. That’s why you always want to make sure your eyes convey what you want them to convey. You can do this by looking into her eyes when you talk. If looking into her eyes makes you too nervous, use an old sales method and look her right between the eyes. She won’t notice you’re not looking into her eyes and it will send a message that you’re completely focused on her.

Eye contact is very important and should never spread to the rest of her body. A quick glance up and down can be permitted in the right circumstances but for the most part women want to know that you are listening to them and concentrating on what they’re saying.

The Way You Move

If aren’t confident, it will show in your walk, in the way you hold your drink, in the way you shuffle your fingers, and in every other thing you do. That’s why, if you hope to show a woman that you are both confident and into her, you must make everything about you exude confidence. Practice your walk so that you can make sure it’s a confident one. If you need to, watch movies where the leading man is a ladies’ man. Practice walking like that actor until you get it down.

Then, practice holding your hands as if you were talking to a beautiful woman. You wouldn’t want to shove them into your pocket because that, just like the crossing of the arms, can be a closed off position. Instead, find something to do with your hands that looks laid back and comfortable. The trick is to have her focus on you, not your hands that are constantly fidgeting because you’re nervous as hell.

Follow these tips and you’re sure to send all the right messages. These can also be used to pick women up as you’ll appear confident and you’ll be making all the right moves that will make her want you.

It’s not difficult to meet women online once you know what they are looking for. No matter what dating site you choose, you must be able to set your profile up so that it attracts as many women as possible. Now, if you don’t consider yourself exceptionally good looking or interesting, you probably can’t imagine attracting as many women as possible.

But you can and you will as long as you create your profile using the following guidelines:

• Choose a photo that puts you in the best light. That means choosing a photo that not only makes you look your best, but also shows you doing things that you think the woman you’re looking for would enjoy or approve of. For instance, if you’re trying to get a professional woman and you take a photo with your shirt off holding a fish next to your sports car, you probably won’t have many professional type woman respond to that.

• Now, it’s important to note that some professional women may respond to that, but you are hurting your chances by using a photo that may alienate any woman you’re interested in. If you’re looking for a professional woman, a photo of you in a suit at some function would be a great idea to use.

• Only use as many photos as you have good ones. That means if you have three good photos, then only use three. You don’t want to include photos that aren’t so great just to have more photos. Even if you only have two good ones, having fewer photos is better than risking a photo that may cause her to click off your profile quicker than you can say ‘not my type’.

• Use shadow and angles to create better pictures. Probably the best advice to give a man looking to pick women up online is to use camera tricks to make your pictures better. You’re just trying to get her to get into a conversation with her. Once she starts that conversation, as long as you carry it on correctly, you’ll be able to pick her up easily. But if she doesn’t like your profile, then she’s not going to message you. And she also won’t respond to you if you message her.

The reason the photograph is so important is because women want to know that you are who you say you are. They don’t want you to say you’re six foot with blonde hair only to find you’re five four with black hair, for instance. They want to know that you fit within their type. That’s why doctoring the photo if you don’t think you’re exceptionally good looking is a great way to go.

While women don’t consider looks to be very important, they still want to know that they find you good looking. Even if you’re not, if you can wow her with your words, you’ll have her. You just have to get that communication started.

• Make your profile vague and funny. When creating your profile, you want it to be like a movie theater preview. It should have her hanging on the edge of her seat and should leave her wanting more.

• Give her just enough attention that she becomes interested and try to make her laugh in the process. This will break the ice and will also let her know you’re different than all the guys that ask her how she’s doing. You’ll be the funny and interesting one and she’s sure to send you a message.

• Finally, when talking to her, get that conversation going. If everything goes right, the two of you will be engaged in conversation with back and forth emails. Make them vague and funny, just like your profile, and always end with a question so that she feels entitled to respond. Once the conversation is going well, get her phone number and call her.

Then, after a little while of talking on the phone, plan a date in a public place so that you can take things to the next level.

That’s how you pick up a woman online and it works every time if you do everything correctly.

Most men think that all they have to do is log onto an online dating site, tell the woman how beautiful she is, or how you really liked her profile, and that will soon lead to meeting her in person. Unfortunately, however, online dating seduction doesn’t work like that. It doesn’t work that way at all. In order to seduce a woman over the internet, you must create mystery. You must intrigue her. Then, you must make her laugh. She has to see you as fun, exciting and worth having. If you can accomplish that, she’ll be very attracted to you and then she will definitely want to get to know you better.

First, before you can even hope to seduce any woman online, you must create a profile. This part is very important as your profile is going to be the first thing a woman notices about you. It’s just like her seeing you across the room. She will judge you by the way you stand, and by the way you talk, and by the way you move. That’s your body language and that’s how she gauges how you are in person. Online, she can’t judge you by your body language so she does so by your profile.

Your Profile

When you sign on with an online dating site, you will be asked to make your profile. This will include a photo, a little bit about yourself, your likes, your dislikes and anything else you want a potential date to know about you. Now, don’t be like most men and go on and on about yourself.
For some reason, men are inclined to make their profile sound like a resume. They have this need to build themselves up that all they end up doing is turning a woman off. If you tell her about how great you are, and about how much stuff you have, she’ll think you’re self centered and will quickly look for someone she’s attracted to. Your job is to be that man she’s attracted to.

Vague and Funny

When you create your profile, you’re going to include who you are, what you’re about, who you’re looking for and then you’re going to ask a question. The only thing is that you are only going to do it in a few sentences and you’re going to make it funny. This isn’t as easy as it sounds, but if you can pull that off, your inbox will be full of messages. You might say something like, “I’m trying this online dating thing, but I’m already sick of my inbox being filled up by hot women. Will a less attractive woman please email me for once?” or something to that effect. You must project confidence and you must make her laugh. You can tell a funny story about work, or entertain her in some way that makes her want just a little bit more. That’s the name of the game.

You just want her to communicate with you. Either you want her to send a message, or you want your profile to make her smile enough to answer the message you send her. Once you open that communication, just keep her laughing and keep asking her about herself. Women love to talk about themselves and this will give you enough information to keep the back and forth communication going.

Your Photo

Now, a word on your photo. If you take a bad photo, it will have a drastic effect on your results. Therefore, you will want to pay special attention to which photo you choose. You should choose a head shot and a body shot and you should limit your pictures to three or four. If you’re not exceptionally good looking, you can increase your chances for success by using shadow and angles to make yourself look better on film. Once you get her started in a back and forth communication, it won’t matter what you look like. If you can charm her, you can get her number and then you’ll be able to meet her in person. After all, meeting her in person is what online dating seduction is all about.

Humor is probably the best ice breaker there is. Talking to a woman who has a straight face is terrifying as you have no idea what she’s thinking. But when a woman laughs, it’s almost as if she just opened up to you. If she had a guard up, when she laughs it’s definitely down. When she’s in that state, that’s your opening to open up more communication.

That’s why you always want to start with humor. Drop the canned pick up lines and instead find something to say about the situation. Just pick something obscure about her to comment on and put a funny twist on it. Or pick something about the situation the two of you are in.

For example, if you’re on a plane and the woman next to you can’t open her sandwich bag, you could say, “You know I would open that for you but I’d have to charge you.” Say it with a straight face and wait until she laughs first. When she laughs, open her sandwich and ask her about where she’s going and what she’s going to do once she gets there. She’ll love talking about herself and that means you just opened an entire dialogue of conversation. That’s exactly what you want.

Once the conversation is started, look her in the eyes and smile. Don’t have serial killer smile, or a clown smile, but have more a confident grin to you. Tease her and say it with a straight face and get her to laugh while you confidently look her in the eyes. That will build instant attraction with any woman and she’ll be dying to know more about you.

Then, while you’re talking to her, say her name. Just weave it into the conversation. Women also love to hear their own name and she’ll love hear it come out of your mouth. Don’t be too weird about it. About every few sentences or so, or every few minutes. Just keep it natural and remember to look her in the eye when you say her name.

Finally, you’ll want to touch her skin when you talk to her. If possible, try to touch the skin on her back. Her arm, wrist or even her hand will do as well. Just a gentle touch when you’re talking can have an amazing effect. If she starts touching you back, that’s a very good sign and it basically means you’ve picked her up.

Now, there are going to be occasions when your flirting doesn’t get the positive reaction you’d hoped for. She may not respond to your humor, or she may jerk away when you go to touch her. If that happens, don’t waste your flirting on her as she’s not in the mood for it anyway. However, if you’re in to challenge your flirting skills, you may want to try again to practice and also to see if you can change her mind. It has happened before and if you’re good enough you may just be able to pull it off.

That’s all there is to flirting. Keep it up, practice as often as you can and soon it will become a natural instinct that you use whenever you deal with attractive women.

It’s not hard to develop confidence. But it is required if you ever hope to be good at meeting good looking girls. Bottom line. There is no getting around it. You must fix this part of yourself first before you move onto what to say to a woman. Because the fact is, if you aren’t sure of yourself you’re going to fail with every woman you walk up to.

Woman can detect whether or not you’re confident just by the way you carry yourself. She can tell the moment she sees you. Even if you just walked into that bar, she’s already gauged your confidence and whether or not she’s interested.

The good news is that even if she’s not interested, being confident can turn her around. You can actually convince her to be interested in you, but you must first be confident. So let’s work on that.
Confidence is all in how you stand and how you walk. You must straighten your spine. Not so much that she think you’re in the military, but just enough so that you’re not slumped over. Your shoulders should be back but lax, and your face should be self assured.

To get your face self assured look in the mirror and find out what it feels like to look confident. Once you get used to that feeling, try to replicate that in public. You’ll soon see that doing that can have immense changes in how others perceive you. Just be careful that you don’t make funny faces in public while you’re trying to pull this off. That’s why you should practice a lot before you actually try it on the women you’re interested in.

When you stand, keep your hands out of your pockets. When you put your hands in your pockets, your body language is telling her that you are hiding something. Instead, have your hands out and hold them to your sides. If you want, find something to hold, like your keys or a drink bottle. You’ll also want to ensure that you remain still. Don’t fidget or shuffle your feet, as those are signs of being insecure with your surroundings. Instead, stand firm like you’re ready for anything.

When you walk, you need to make sure you have long strides and don’t walk too fast. Keep it slow and gaited. Your arms should swing as widely as is natural. The more you swing your arms, the more confident you’ll appear, but you don’t want to swing them too wide or else you’ll look funny.
Now your face, your stance and walk are solid and you’re ready to walk over to her. Once you’re there, what are you going to do? Well, if you have confidence you can lead in with something that makes her laugh. Anything will do as long as the ice is broken. From there, you only need to ask her what her name is and then ask her about herself. Women love to talk about themselves and the longer she gets to talking, the higher your chances are of picking her up. And that’s the name of the game.

As long as you have confidence in everything you do and you get her laughing and talking about herself, you’ll be able to get her number or, if you play your cards right, even take her home.