Dating, Relationships and Fun

Dating

2011-10-30T17:11:00.001-05:00

Dating Tips

Look Fabulous, Feel Fabulous

We all know that when you look good, you feel even better. Obviously, don’t go into debt buying fancy outfits and new shoes. Instead, get a manicure, fix your hair, put on some dangly ear rings. Make yourself feel beautiful, it will boost your confidence.

You Call the Shots

Instead of meeting with him on Friday, tell him you’re booked and Saturday works better for you. Don’t always be available; men want what they can’t have. Your schedule is packed, besides it will give you time to get that manicure you wanted.

Be Mysterious

Don’t spill the beans all at once. Make him curious, keep him guessing about you. You don’t want to reveal all of your dark secrets on the first date. If you did that there would be nothing for him to look forward to. It keeps things exciting and fresh.

Don't be Clingy

You’re set for a disaster if you appear needy; trust me, NO man likes an overly dependent female. Most men avoid clingy women, because they feel it hinders their ability to have a life outside of the relationship.

He Makes the First Move

If he's attracted to you, he will most likely will get in touch with you. Give it some time, and if he doesn’t contact you, give him a shout. Some men are shy or afraid of rejection.

Never Bring Up Your Ex

It’s very crucial that you do not bring up past relationships. Your ex shouldn’t consume your thoughts or be the topic of conversation. It infers that you still have feelings for him. It may upset your date.

Plan Something You're Familiar With

Stay in your environment. As the first date isn’t challenging enough, stay in your comfort zone. The first date should be casual and relaxed.

Building a Healthy Relationship

2011-10-30T17:09:00.000-05:00

A few dating and relationship tips.

          "Live your life not his"
Guys are attracted to self dependent ladies; guys admire a woman with intelligence and integrity. Living your life dedicated to his schedule and working around his clock is a big no-no.
Never let him feel comfortable with you accommodating to all of his needs, this will give him control, and may be a tough cycle to break. Maintain your power, you call the shots.
          "Show your Brilliance"
Who said it’s not okay to brag once in a while? Share your accomplishments with your date. Impress him with your intelligence, your goals and desires. Express yourself in a polite way, without coming across self-absorbed or full of yourself.
          "Confidence is the Key"
Confidence is your best friend, and I say this with all my heart. Confidence equals attractive, attractive equals confidence; hold your head high and show your inner beauty.
Confidence is quiet, your actions will speak for you. It’s all about the way you carry yourself, show your cheerfulness, smile, make eye contact.
A self confident person is aware of their imperfections, but doesn’t let them get in their way or hold them back. In confident people often rely on other people for reassurance. This goes back to being independent; dependent, in confident people need their partner to feel whole, rather than complimenting each other. Confidence is the foundation to building a stable relationship.
Signals of an in confident person-
* Talking about in securities
* Looking for reassurance and compliments
* In need of approval
"Never reward bad behavior"
Is he putting less effort into the relationship, does he seem unconcerned? Treat him the same as he treats you; give him a taste of his own medicine. Don’t dish out compliments if you’re getting nothing in return, it’s not fair. Make him work for your attention. Females have a tendency to be overly nice which can lead to being taken advantage of.
"Deal with insecurities"
Everyone has their own insecurities, and that’s okay, it’s normal. But, before a person can love anyone else, they have to love their self. Low self esteem can destroy your heart and make you unhappy, and you’re likely to drag your partner down with you. Accept yourself and love who you are; admire yourself.
"Be a Challenge"
It’s human nature to want what you can’t have. Guys often find a chase more challenging, rather than if you appear dedicated to him, desperate or needy. The key is to be patient and you shall receive. If a guy feels doubtful or incapable of having you, he is more likely to work harder to get his prize. Letting him know you’re falling for him right away will most likely cause him to lose interest.

Ten Ways To Get Hit On All The Time

2011-10-27T21:41:00.000-05:00

More than half of communication is done by body language. Guys decide almost immediately after they glance at you whether they want to talk to you or not. It’s simple to get a guys attention. Feel like you've "lost it"... try a few of these man magnet tips, see what happens.

1 Wear heels, men love heels, get a pair of sexy stilettos and prance around, you’ll have guys hitting on you left and right.

2 Lick your lips, makes men think about sex.

3 Show some skin, wear a low cut top, or a loose top that hangs over one shoulder, it creates an illusion in their mind.

4 Ask for help, if you can’t reach something, ask him to get it for you. Even if you can reach it, ask anyways (he’ll never know).

5 Be the center of attention, while out with friends or at a party stand in the middle, it draws more attention to YOU.

6 Wear red lipstick, it's sexy.

7 Let a little bit of your bra show and act like you don’t know, the only thing he'll be thinking about are your BOOBs!

8 Smile and giggle, be flirtatious and fun. If you stand there frowning you've already narrowed down his chances, guys are scared of being rejected.

9 Lip gloss, keep lip gloss with you and put it on slowly, it makes their imagination go wild.

10 Show your curves, wear a tight fitting top that snugs your waist, or tight fitting jeans.

Warning: Don’t overdo it, you don’t want to appear slutty or desperate. Remember, these are tips to draw attention.

Men and Mind Games

2011-10-23T23:52:00.000-05:00

The Causes of Mind Games Men Play on Women

Men themselves are masters at playing games in relationships. Mind games are an act or an activity to manipulate or confuse someone for entertainment or for other reasons. Some men play mind games with women they love because they feel emotionally insecure. I have narrowed it down into five different types of mind games and the cause and effect of these games; the “string you along”, the “break up to make up”, the “side dish”, the “ignoring”, and the “reel you in and throw you out” game. The effects of these games can be very crucial and harmful to a person, but rewarding for the person who is running or in control the game. Now ladies, if you spot your man playing any of these mind games you better watch out because you are in for a rollercoaster ride! I recommend you run, and run as fast as you can if not you may be the next victim for the “string you along” game.

The “string you along” game is almost self explanatory, in which men string you along to make you believe that you are in a serious relationship. When the whole time they are looking for someone else, someone who in their mind is better. Men who play mind games are often immature. These men don’t know what or who they really want, so they are using their vulnerable victim as a cushion to lean on mostly for emotional support. While I might add that in the mean time these men don’t mind you cooking them home cooked meals and cleaning up their dirty laundry, how dare them! Why do they do this? Why do they string you along? They do it because they are scared to lose you and they feel secure when you are around. These “string you along” relationships often lead to a long break up.

Two can certain Italy play the “break up to make up” game, this game can be quit the thrill for both parties. Although, women have the most to lose at this game. I am telling you right now this game is not one to mess with for the lady who wants a family, wedding ring or children anytime in her future. When the on and off routine starts to hit years that means you have been playing the game way too long. I know it is hard, a month after he leaves you right when he sees you slipping away he calls and says “I miss you and I want you back in my life”. Ladies, you must resist the urge, because usually when he breaks it off the first time it is broken forever. This man just cannot live with or without you. If this game is played long enough you could be stuck as a fifty year old female, no wedding ring, no children, and a man who just isn’t or wasn’t ever ready to settle down. Usually this game is played with fear of being alone. If you do not get out now you could turn into a “side dish”!

The “side dish” game is a game played by men who simply can not stand being with just one girl. These men are true players, they want multiple women, they are bored with just one same old girl, they like variety. These guys are frustrating, mystifying and dishonest, when things start to get nice and close and you feel you have finally won them over they disappear. They run off and put you on the back burner, right next to the green beans. Their phone is their best friend and they hate to make set plans with one girl because, who knows green beans may have better, more exciting plans for the evening. They avoid answering any questions that could close them in in any way; they take your time for granted and often call last minute, right before they want to see you. At the same time luring you in with their intoxicating conversation, exciting dates and much more. Now you are asking yourself why do men play this hurtful “side dish” game? I have found that they do it because they are scared to commit to one girl and they fear long term relationships. They are happy with multiple girls. Come one ladies, don’t be fooled, If you feel you are being put aside, I recommend you step back, take an overall look and proceed with caution. You could even give him a taste of his own bitter medicine and hit the “ignore” button on that next late night incoming call/text.

Yes, a man can turn something as simple as “ignoring” into a fun, little mind game. When a man ignores you it keeps you wanting them even more, you cannot bare the fact that he is ignoring you! The reason for this is the beautiful times in the past when he has showered you with love, attention, and affection. You cling onto those memories tightly and his “ignoring” you makes you feel like those moments are slipping away from your hands. You feel hurt, angry, lost and low. As the days or even months go by and you are almost over this heartache, he feels like he is losing you, because after all, he does care about you. Most of the time he will send you a text or give you a quick call and from there the game goes on and on. I know you care about him dearly, but if you care about yourself you can put a stop to this vicious game he is playing. Guys do this for the challenge and sometimes even to tease their partner! If he starts ignoring and it has gotten to the point where it is bothering you or your lifestyle, I would throw him out!

The last, but certainly not least mind game would be called the “reel you in and throw you out” game. This is where a man pretends to care more about you in the beginning than he actually does. He starts off smothering you with super sweet compliments, showing you more love and affection than you have ever had. As a female, I know this can be hard to resist, affection is what females often crave from their partner. With him using these skills, it creates an illusion of trust and you believe that you two have a true connection. The “reel you in and throw you out” game can be a blast for both male and female, until one day you find yourself searching and wondering why your once picture perfect man who used to be crazy about you has vanished into thin air like a ghost in the night. Men do this to get whatever it is they want/wanted out of the relationship, this could be dates, money, or even sexual favors. This game might be the worst mind game.

I know, I thought ladies were supposed to be the mysterious ones. Truth is, men are just as hard to figure out as women. Their behavior can be quite confusing, but now you know, they always play mind games for a reason. They could be “ignoring” you for the challenge or simply “stringing you along”. These games play in a variety of ways and understanding them can only cause you less heart ache. I hope I have made a better understanding of the cause/effect of these games.