Dating Resemblance

How to Know if He's the Marrying Type

2011-03-20T17:46:00.001-07:00

Two different people stay together because of the love and affection they have for each other. It's such a nice thing that two people stay together because they can't help to live each day without the other. You and your better half may have spent a lot of dinner together, do weird and adventurous together, things that you love together, but have you asked yourself if he's thinking the way you do? Have you ever think of settling down with your partner, or perhaps you are not sure enough if he is the marrying type. Below are the ways on how you can tell if your partner is the marrying type:

Someone who thinks of his future feels that he should be with his family often. It is the time when he appreciates the real definition of being a Dad. Experts say that this is because in a way he knows that one day, he will soon end up with that role and that there is no other perfect time for him that to appreciate his parents but now.

He falls deeply in love. It is only true love that will make a man decide that he's willing to take the risk of settling down and leaving the beautiful bachelor life he had before. It is still love that fuels your mind to open the next chapter of your life, a life you chose with your love.

He talks from his heart. A guy who talks from his heart and not from his head is a guy who will surely want to marry. At times, he will not pay attention to what you are saying, but you see that when it is time for him to speak he speaks to you as if he is giving you the whole part of him, and that is his heart.

Securing financial needs. A guy who would like to settle down will surely show enthusiasm in working hard and join some investments because he knew that he will be providing everything with his family in the future. It is very essential thing for a man to provide the needs of his family.

He’d like to be the Chef in the house. When a guy feels that it is time for him to settle down, he will surely try what he can do in the kitchen. Romantic guys would love to cook for their wives even if it means that they have to stay in the kitchen for two hours just to finish the job.

Reading List:

Marrying Mom: A Novel

The Marrying Kind

Marrying a Doctor

Marrying the Boss!

So You Want to Marry My Daughter? The top 10 questions every dad should ask and every young man should be prepared to answer before engagement (way before!)

Avoiding Mr. Wrong (and What To Do If You Didn't) Ten Men Who Will Ruin Your Life

How to Make a Memorable Love Letter

2011-03-06T16:57:00.000-08:00

With the countless technologies offered today, who still knows how to write a romantic love letter? For sure some would prefer to buy an instant love letter card at the bookstore because of their hectic schedule. But no matter how busy you may be, there are still ways on how you can easily and instantly write a romantic love letter for your love to maintain the connection alive.

Write like a child. Children are honest and pure, they speak straight from their hearts which melts our hearts whenever we received a letter from them. You don’t have to use a dictionary in doing so, purely organize your thoughts, and easily write down what is at the bottom of your heart. Nothing will beat the power of honesty and sincerity; it is still the best way to win someone's heart.

Be Unique. Though there are millions of love letters that you can find online, don’t copy it. Your words and thoughts are still the most romantic and most beautiful your love would want to hear. Be unique in your own way, bear in mind that once you make a love letter, you let your heart speak, you let a part of your romantic side revealed.

Grocer's List. You do not have to worry if you are not into writing, in writing love letters you do not have to be that formal and strict. Your writing must be free and romantic, if you do not know how to start your letter, begin it with a list of the qualities you appreciate so much. Just like when the grocer's list, a checklist of all the good qualities even the not so good can be counted as long as you will justify and still reason out why you love him for that.

Work on the Letter itself. Make sure to make it look special for your loved one. Use materials that worth using for, a letter with a beautiful cover and package in all will surely be memorable so grab it on. Also, check your wordings, make sure that the whole package will please one's eye and melt one's heart.

Love poems and songs. You can begin your love letter with a poem from one of your favorites or a part of a song the two of you would like to hear often. Choose a romantic line and dedicate it to her, choose proper words that would rhyme in the end, these are the lines that make the poem beautiful so work on it.

Reading List:
Love Letters In The Sand
Literary Love-Letters and Other Stories
66 Love Letters: A Conversation with God That Invites You into His Story
98 Love Letters That Will Bring You to Your Knees: Poems and Love Letters of Great Men and Women
The World's Most Romantic Love Letters

How to be Confident on Your First Date

2011-03-06T16:44:00.001-08:00

As saying goes, first impression last, and so what are you going to do with your first date? How are you going to impress that guy you want to be with? Clueless for sure. What I have below are the ways on how you can simply be confident enough to make your first date an impression that will surely last.

Take your time with yourself; ask yourself whether you are really ready for it. Nothings beats the confidence within, so if you think that you are good enough and ready for everything, then you can now proceed with your first date.

Be comfortable enough. Be comfortable just the way you are. Check yourself in the mirror, if you feel like you have to do some changes then do it, just make sure not to forget your identity, the real you is still the most attractive and most lovable person in this world.

Prepare Ahead. If you are attending yoga class or any fitness class, be patient with it. Winners don’t just sleep and win, they work hard and persevere. So get your tights on and burns all those excess calories and be ready for the new you.

Be with the people who love you. Be with people who loves you dearly, stay away from those who often criticize you, remember the golden rule for confidence, "People see you the way you see yourself" . Never let other people bring you down, instead work on yourself so you can be simply happy with all the qualities that you have and for sure you will always be and forever beautiful.

Arrive in time. Never be late on your first date, make sure to attend just in time. This will make a good impression on your date and for sure your first date will be followed by another second date.

Think of Interesting topics. The date is new and fresh and for sure there are lot of questions in your mind already, filter on your mind the questions which you would like to ask to your date, by doing this, you are eliminating dull moments with your date.

Be beautiful inside and out. We can never tell, maybe this date is what you are waiting for, perhaps your date might be the one destined for you. Let your inner beauty reign and let your first date a memorable one.

Books to Read:
50 First Dates
51 Amazing Date Ideas: A Collection of Unique, Inexpensive, and Creative Date Ideas for First Dates and Beyond
The Automatic 2nd Date: Everything to Say and Do on the 1st Date to Guarantee...
Never Bite a Boy on the First Date

How to Deal on Your New Relationship

2011-02-24T23:49:00.000-08:00

Communicate. It is the communication that bridges two people, community, nation and the world together. So just like how people in the world communicate, make a way on how you can constantly communicate with your better half. By doing this, you are creating an unseen path between the two of you, a path that cannot be easily broken. When communicating, make sure that you are sincere with every word that will come out from your mouth. Be sincere enough by looking in your partner's eye whether you are listening or the one talking. With constant communication, you are gaining the relationship back to how it looks like before, fresh and always inviting.

Enjoy your time together. Time is a valuable thing a couple could have, so make the most out of it. Never waste time whenever you’re together, make use of every single minute in the clock by making your better half happy. Make laughter one of the active ingredients of your relationships. A humorous talk everyday while doing things together will ignite that magnet with your better half to stick with you forever.

You are in it. Yes, and it is called "relationship". The Relationship involves two people who are madly in love with each other, people who want to share the same thoughts and lives together. You are not alone; you and your better half are teammates, love mates who will face all the struggles and happiness ahead. Together holding each other hand tight, make an unbreakable connection with your partner. Never work alone, instead work together.

Respect differences. Different people have different attitude, hobbies, likes and perception towards things. Give yourselves a time to enrich yourself as an individual and let your partner enjoy whatever he wants to do as long as it is not affecting your relationship or hurting you. By giving yourself some time, you can give a lot more to your partner.

Make fun of your little argue; don’t take it seriously because this somehow stimulates the relationship to be healthy. Little argues serves as your outlet to let negative things flush out in the relationship. Some frustrations and discontentment bring the two of you to the closer core because you are able to understand more. Just make sure to make up right away and not to let the day pass by over little argues.

Stay the same. The time you fell in love with each other was the most beautiful day so keep it going. Continue your night dates, dinner together, notes, gifts and how you spent time together. Things like these revive and enlighten the life of the relationship making it very fresh and young. Be yourself as always and never change the way you are to yourself, to your partner and to the rest of the world.

Books to Read:

The Four Factors: Should You Stay, Go or Improve Your Relationship?

Meeting Your Match: Cracking the code to successful relationships

The Top 10 Hidden Beliefs About Relationships And How To Stop Them From Poisoning Your Marriage

Relationship Advice Facing A Fear Of Commitment (The "Whys" And How To Deal With Them)

Healthy Dating & Relationship Tips: Learn The Basics Of "Love" & Relationships Between People, In Laymen's Terms; How To Read Body Language; How To ... Of Unhealthy, Sad Relationships! Mission-Surf

How to Say Sorry in Unique Ways

2011-02-24T23:39:00.000-08:00

Just like in any story, your love story will surely get to the point where the two of you will have some misunderstanding and awkward moment together. First we must learn to accept relationships will always get to its low points and that is when you can no longer fix things with your significant other. The question is how do you get back on track?

Below are the ways on how you can apologize dearly and sincerely:

Let your heart speak. Let her know how sincere you are with your apology. Show that you understand what is happening and you have accepted everything that happened will pave the way for the two of you to go well together. Saying the words that will comfort how she feels is the best thing a man can do for her woman.

Write it down. If you cannot say sorry personally, then you can simply write it down to express what you feel. Through this, you can also share some insights that you cannot say personally. Write it all down and let the power of your handwritten change the mood of your loved one.

If you know how to bake, then do it. Bake a small cake for your significant other and decorate it with "I’m sorry" and "I love you". This will surely melt his heart and surely he will forget the reasons why you are asking for an apology.

Take her to your place. Treat her or take her to your favorite place together. With this, she can easily forget what happened and just remembered all your sweet times together.

Get purple hyacinths. This is the best flower if you would like to say sorry to your significant other. You can give it to her personally while waiting for her in the office or you can simply put it in her bed while she's sleeping. A study shows that purple color emblems the message "let us forget the sadness and move on to happiness".

Sing her a song. If you have to sing just to get her full acceptance on your apology, then do it. There's nothing wrong hitting all those notes, just make sure that you have at least rehearse so you may sound good. You don’t have to sing like Barry Manilow to win her heart; you just have to sing what's in your heart.

No matter what caused the mess between the two of you, the solution is for the two of you to always think that... “It is not how you mess up with each other, it is how you fix things and decide to be together again, forever.”

Reading List:

How to Maintain the Connection Alive

2011-02-20T16:15:00.000-08:00

Below are the ways on how you can easily boost up the love again in your relationship:

Don’t Forget Your Love Note. Yes, simple notes are quite romantic, especially for girls who love to read love letter notes from their man. These have not to be that long, a simple 3 sentences note will surely make her day.

Keep Walking. Get sometime where the two of you can walk together at night while holding each other's hand. This will surely boost the conversation between the two of you. While walking, try to talk about some things you have been up to lately, talk about anything and enjoy your walk.

Spend quality time with her. Get to know the real deal of vacation by going out with your significant other on weekends. Make sure to focus on your vacation alone. Try not to take your tech gadgets with you, just the two of you alone, with this you will surely enjoy time with each other.

Breakfast in Bed. Make each morning romantics by preparing breakfast in bed meal ahead of your significant other. With a simple rose in bed and a yummy meal, you'll surely have a blast of love in the morning.

File up your Song Pick Together. Make a list and compile your songs together, get to know all her favorites and compile it in a disc player with your all time favorite songs. With this, you can create a real love song deal through your love and yours song pick.

This may be a little too hard especially if you are into writing but this will surely melt her heart, make a poem for her and show her how you deeply love her through rhyming words. Simple things like this may look small but extra large at heart.

Go for a sunset together. Watch the sunset together and make sure to hold each other hand while the sun bids goodbye for the day. This would mean that you will be with her through the days and nights of her life, that the two of you will be together forever.

Make her feel proud and compliment her good deeds. Make her feel that you are very proud of her with the things she did. Remember to be true and sincere in everything you say or do. By doing this, you are showing the importance of appreciation that will surely help her gain more self confidence.

How You Can Simply Make Him Fall

2011-02-20T15:38:00.000-08:00

Learn how to listen. Though women love talking, have time to listen to his stories, his strengths and weaknesses, his dreams and his heart. Listen attentively to win his confidence.

Throw some of your emotional baggage and live life lightly. Men would not want to be with a dramatic woman, they love to be with a real woman.

To win a man's heart is through his stomach, so know how to cook some dishes for him. Your mom will surely love to teach you how you can cook his favorite recipe for the man you love. Know how and watch him fall for you.

Live it Up. Men would love to be with a woman who has a set of interests. It would be interesting if you can come up with things you love because apparently you will end up loving. Always remember that people see you the way you see yourself, so don’t waste your time and live your life happily.

Be intelligent, men would like to be with someone who has a good sense of humor and knows the how to of life. In case you are, then be careful not to be boastful because this makes the off moment, for men do not like boastful women.

Feel the beauty within you. How you see yourself reflected on how other people see you so it is very important to look at your own beauty and let the good chi come out and reign over your whole character. Having a beauty that can never be broken by age or any cosmetics is the most valuable beauty in the world.

Get deeper into conversation with him. This will help the two of you especially if you are still in the "getting to know stage". Knowing the type of person he is, is one of the essentials of getting to this stage. Through this, you could have an inner view of the way he was raised; moreover get to know to the roots of his being.

Art of Communication. Make sure to use every day to express your care and love for him. I'm not saying to make it obvious right away, make him feel that you are always there for him and that there is always someone she can count on. A simple effort on knowing how his day was, is a good move already.Just remember not to ask too much because this is awkward for women, he might think that you are stalking even the two of you are just about getting to know stage.Give honest and sincere compliments.

Men like direct and true compliments, so be true in everything you say and do. Just make sure to say it only and just when you mean it. Know when to throw the punch lines that will turn him on, say something like "I love it when you smile and giggles", this will surely create a magnet between the two of you.

How to Choose the Right Flower for your Girl on Valentines Day

2011-02-12T21:24:00.000-08:00

Woman loves to receive flowers from their man. No matter what occasion it is, a bouquet of flowers will always be a highlight on a girl's heart, it is more essential than any gift one could receive. For us girls, receiving valentines day flowers from our man is like emphasizing our femininity which make us more beautiful and sexy.

Since there are wide choices of flowers in the market today,which do you think is the best flower to give to your girl? In giving her romantic flowers, make sure that you have considered what type of girl she is because this will make the flower more beautiful appear to her.

For your hard working woman. Give her some unique variety of beautiful daffodils mixed with some cute sunflower. She will appreciate it more if you would have it delivered to her office because she will surely be surprised. A flower delivery in the morning will surely brighten up her day.

For your humble woman. Give your country lover girl flowers like daisies and cone flowers. She will easily appreciate it because of its bright colors and simple yet very inviting appearance. Placing it in her kitchen or beside her bed in the morning will add more more beauty and simplicity to it.

For a sweet woman. Give her flowers like orchids and roses for she will surely appreciate it. This will make her feel more sexy and beautiful. Give it to her personally and this will surely melt her heart.

For a loving mom. Moms stayed at home providing us everything we need and giving out the best in us. They too need some comfort on this special day, so what you have to do is to pick up some exotic white tulips which will give them positive energy at home.

For your outgoing woman. Give her a bouquet of wild flowers and watch her enjoy it so much. This will bring nature into her and she will surely fall in love with you more.

How You Can Make An Extra Special Valentines Day

2011-02-12T05:19:00.000-08:00

Love is in the air and it is surely in your heart right now. You are surely thinking of something sweet and romantic to do for your significant other, probably thinking of going out for a date, sending emails with endless I love you's or even thinking of just being with him alone.Thinking of how you can make this day special? Well, think again because what I have listed below are not just the ways on how you can make Valentines day special, but how you can make it extra special for your significant other on this very romantic season:

Do something he wouldn't expect that you could do. Even if you are not that sporty, get a ticket for the two of you where you can watch a live live game together. Allow yourself to understand why he's in that game. Never pretend to love it just because he do, a little appreciation and understanding why he likes it would mean so much to him.

Get an empty jar and label it with "100 Reasons Why I Love You". Filled it with small colored rolled papers were reasons where personally written by you. Ask him to read it every day and for sure his heart will melt like chocolates.Aside from rolling papers, make a handwritten love letter on a tissue and carefully extend your thoughts and love for him through this.

Instead of making an appointment with a professional photographer which will surely cost your money, take some time to get a camera with you and photograph the two of you all day long. Candid photos in the park,beach or anywhere you like is surely the best as long as it is natural and true. Once you got it all, print it out and compile it in a simple photo album and give it as a present on Valentines Day.

If you love cooking or baking, cook your loved one's favorite and do it wholeheartedly. Do not pressure yourself by making it beautiful, focus on the taste and aroma because these are the elements that melts one heart. If you know how to bake, make an extra special cake and put something on it. It is something he will get once he tasted it, a rolled letter or a simple thing you would like him to have from you.

Go Extreme. Try a zipping ride or a hot air balloon ride will be a romantic trip for the two of you. Make it even more romantic by watching the sun complete with the arms of your significant other.

Red Dinner.If you are married already, get a copy of your wedding photo, enlarge it and put it in a simple yet elegant frame.Write a note like "I love you more today than yesterday" and sign your name below it. Prepare a romantic home based dinner where food is colored with pink or red color alone, try to make a red mashed potatoes, heart shaped pink jellies etc. Watch a romantic movie together and enjoy the rest of the night.

Enjoy the day with your loved one and make sure to give your best. Just be sincere and true in everything you do.

Top 10 Love Quotes to Ponder

2010-01-23T03:33:00.000-08:00

The following is my collection of Quotes about love or Romance that I feel are the top quoted quotes of all time. I have not placed these quotes in any particular order. Make sure to check them all out, they are great!

1. "A kiss is a lovely trick, designed by nature, to stop words when speech become superfluous."

-Ingrid Bergmen

2. Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are.

Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.

- Captain Corelli's Mandolin

3. "My night has become a sunny dawn because of you."

--Ibn Abbad

4. "In real love you want the other person's good. In romantic love you want the other person."

--Margaret Anderson

5. "In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities."

--Janos Arnay

6. "Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies."

--Aristotle

7. "Each moment of a happy lover's hour is worth an age of dull and common life."

--Aphra Behn

8. "Your words are my food, your breath my wine. You are everything to me."

--Sarah Bernhardt

9. "In my wildest dreams, you always play the hero. In my darkest hour of night, you rescue me, you save my life."

--Bliss and Cerney

10. "The only true gift is a portion of your self."

--Ralph Waldo Emerson

Few Signs maybe he's not the right one for you

2009-08-29T22:20:00.000-07:00

Here are a few signs that maybe, just maybe, he's not the right one for you:

You find yourself thinking about someone else when you're kissing him ( and we're not talking about Viggo- he's allowed ). Instead it's your co-worker with whom, unbeknownst to your boyfriend, you've been exchanging flirty, dirty e-mails for the past two months.

You consistently have more fun with your other friends than with your boyfriend.

Everything he does, from how he eats to the way he breathes, drives you crazy.

You fight constantly.

You read his journal, hoping to discover that he's cheating on you. He isn't. But he thinks you are. This gives you an idea. Bad one.

You've resorted to faking orgasms just so that you can get back to watching the rest of an old Seinfeld episode.

If you had to admit it, you'd have to say you're just not in love anymore.

From the Book: "The Truth Behind The Rock" Everything you never wanted to know about engagements...Until Now. By: Jessica Kaminsky.

Love Compatibility for Scorpio

2009-04-26T21:48:00.000-07:00

Since I am a Scorpio, I want to feature this love horoscope compatibility here: Let's find out. High Lights in purple applies to me. (ahehe).

Scorpio

Perfect Partners:

Cancer, Pisces

Nearly Perfect Partners:

Virgo, Capricorn

Not Your Destiny:

Leo, Aquarius

If you've ever met someone that you found irresistible from the moment you met, it was probably a person born with the Scorpio horoscope. They are fascinating and have an air of mystery about them. Although, what you see on the surface is only what they want you to see. They may appear direct and just a bit forceful, but underneath they are vulnerable and sensitive. Scorpios take love very seriously and are searching for admiration from a partner.

Getting a date with a Scorpio is easier than forming a long term relationship with them. You will probably have no trouble seducing them, however if you're looking for an extended relationship, that's a little harder. Although Scorpios can appear, at times, to be a loner, it's a deception that guards them against being hurt as they tend to wound easily. Once they commit to a long term relationship, a Scorpio will be a faithful mate providing both financial security and dependability.

Plan a day at the beach, a social affair, or do something recreational as they enjoy places where they can associate with other people. Scorpios appreciate being listened to and want to know that they have your complete undivided attention. Although it's hard to get into an argument with someone born under this sign, if you become insistent and disrespectful toward them, it will happen. Scorpios also hate to be dominated along with being taken for granted.

Keep in mind that a Scorpio can be extremely jealous and protective of the person they choose to spend their life with. They seek someone generous, loving and affectionate that will provide them with the feeling of security. In turn they will provide plenty of passion, affection, and complete devotion in the relationship. People under the Scorpio horoscope will always take your feelings into consideration and have a great deal of energy when it comes to passion.

Purple Wedding Dress

2009-03-31T17:24:00.000-07:00

Vera Wang Purple Wedding Dress... by *Anči* featuring Avon earrings

Top 10 Most Romantic Flowers

2008-11-03T08:39:00.000-08:00

Need to send a bouquet of love? Make sure you're sending what they want and it's saying what you intend it to! Below is the top 10 romantic flower choices.
10. Iris
Meaning: Faith & Hope

9. Sunflower
Meaning: Adoration

8. Wild Flowers
Meaning: Whimsical

7. Lilac
Meaning: Do you still love me? (Mauve lilacs)

6. Carnation
Meaning: Fascination

5. Orchid
Meaning: Love, Beauty, Seduction & Refinement

4. Lily
Meaning: Beauty

3. Tulip
Perfect Love

2. Daisy
Meaning: Innocence, Loyal Love, Purity

1. Rose
Meaning: I love you.

How Sex Changes a Relationship

2008-05-15T08:04:00.001-07:00

What Men Won't Tell You
The implications, from a man's point of view, of adding sex to a relationship.

Wishes for your Love ones!

2008-05-11T02:45:00.000-07:00

Don't you wish the best for your love ones?

I often heard this question many times and my answer would be YES! We always want to do the best for our love ones. The question is, do we tell the words and express it to them? The thing is, we didn't tell each other what we feel maybe because we are not used to and it feels awkward for us. It might be that others may regard us too sentimental but dude saying the words is a tough thing to do.

Saying I love you to your mother,father,siblings,friends and even to your love. And sharing some words of appreciation and wishes to make them feel better and let them know that you care.

During birthdays, weddings and any celebration is your opportunity to tell what you want for their life. Saying "Happy Birthday" , "Best Wishes" etc.; is not just enough. Why not tell them, I wish you so and so....utter the words to say.

I read this book on " One Hundred wishes" by Rohan Candappa. I find this awesome and it helps me to encourage myself to say the best thing for my love ones. I just want to share to you some of my top picks.

I wish you a shaft of sunlight on the gloomiest days.

I wish you a kiss in the moonlight from the one you love.

I wish you compassion.

I wish you the sound of your children's laughter.

I wish you the strength to see the opportunities in your adversities.

I wish you the mountain to climb and the will to do it.

I wish you a big squashy sofa with a cat on its arm.

I wish that you meet someone who makes your heart race.

I wish you the shade of big tree on a sunny day.

I wish you the love of learning.

I wish you the temperament to teach.

I wish you a home as welcoming as a mother's embrace.

I wish you courage.

I wish you the sense to laugh at the world and all its absurdities and the wisdom to laugh at yourself before others do.

I wish you mistakes so that you can learn.

I wish you patience, because sometimes the world will insist on walking when you want to run.

I wish you the strength to face your fears, to recognize them as part of yourself, and still move on.

I wish you wisdom to listen to the inarticulate.

I wish you a garden on a summer's day where two squirrels play.

I wish you the warmth of the beds that you slept in as a child.

My wishes for my love ones:

I wish for financial breakthrough so you could help more to those who are in need.

I wish for good health in the coming days.

I wish you more promotion in your job.

I wish you will be my wedding singer.

I wish you can land a good job, with the right company and good compensation.

I wish you prosperity and overflowing blessings from God.

I wish you empowerment.

I wish you love me until the end of time.

More wishes....and sealed it with prayers.

Wish you all the best!

Buy the Book here:

The Five Biggest Lies Men Tell And Why

2008-02-01T18:34:00.000-08:00

Source: California Psychics

One of the biggest complaints women have about men is that they lie. As women, we tend to let men get away with dishonesty because we so desperately want to believe in them. But you can have a happier, healthier love life by paying attention to the lies your man may be telling you and holding him accountable. Here are the top five biggest lies men tell - and why they tell them.

She's just a friend

Is there a strange woman answering his phone? Sleeping on his couch? Spending late nights with him? She probably is a "friend"…but one who he also occasionally sleeps with. Men tell this lie because they want to get the most they possibly can out of all the women in their lives. The "friend" is not good enough to be a girlfriend…but he doesn't want to end things with her completely in case things don't work out with you.

I'm ready to settle down

There are two reasons men who are actually not ready to settle down say they are. One is that they think you want to hear it. They assume women are only interested in men looking for a wife and babies, so they say whatever they think will help get them laid. The other reason men say they want to settle down is because they genuinely believe they want to settle down… until they are in the position to actually make the commitment. Then they may suddenly decide it's not what they wanted after all.

It's not you, it's me

Sometimes it really is you. Men aren't as accomplished as women at the fine art of polite conflict resolution. Where a woman might feel comfortable telling a man she's not interested, men are much more afraid of direct communication. When he says, "It's not you, it's me," he's really saying "I'm just not that into you." Take it for what it is and move on.

It was a one-time thing

When men are exposed as cheaters, the first excuse they offer is that is was a "one-time thing." In reality, cheating is usually a pattern of behavior that is rooted in much more than a one-time lapse of judgment. If your man cheats and swears it will never happen again, don't just take him at his word. You just can't trust that he'll be honest about something he's already lied to you about.

I'd never lie to you

Even the "good" guys (and "good" girls), stretch the truth sometimes. Whether it's his answer to "Do these jeans make my butt look big?" or his praise for your mother's meatloaf, chances are, he's told you more than a few white lies. Most of these fudges of truth are meant to protect your feelings and don't necessarily reflect his commitment to an honest, open relationship.

There may be a problem, though, if your man continually asserts how honest he is. If he frequently makes a big deal of assuring you that he'd never lie to you, it may be a sign that he's overcompensating for dishonesty.

Other lies to watch out for:

I'll call you

When a man says "I'll call you," we tend to think he means he'll call within the next few days. But for a man, "I'll call you," just means that he'll talk to you again sometime before he dies.

I just got tested

"Trust me" isn't good enough for your body. If sexual health is important enough for him to "get tested," it's also important enough for him to use a condom anyway.

It's complicated

It's not complicated: he has a girlfriend but wants to sleep with you, too.

I'm not really into porn / strippers / bachelor parties / Paris Hilton

Most women think their man is not that into this kind of thing. Yet the sex industry makes millions every day. You do the math.

Let's talk about it later

He's really saying, "Let's end this conversation and never talk about it again."

Now before you go getting up at arms, there are always exceptions to these guidelines, and we women are far from perfect ourselves. But if your guy is uttering any of these common fibs (or fables, since some little white lies can turn very, very dark), it's a call to attention. And that's what you've got to do when you suspect something: consider yourself warned.

10 tips to keep respect in your relationship

2007-11-09T09:48:00.000-08:00

1. Texting instead of sending a birthday card is not a goer. It generally tells your partner that you actually forgot their big day, and are sending a text to pretend that you haven't. Is your life really that busy?

2.Not only failing to hold a door open but actually letting it slam behind you in your partner's face is never on, no matter how much of a rush you are in. Even worse, is not saying thank you when someone holds the door open for you.

3.Email greetings cards are fine to friends if you put a bit of effort into them (ie: not the freebies you get on a Google search) but unless your significant other is miles from home with only an internet connection for company, it really does show a shocking lack of thoughtfulness.

4.Eating the last chocolate in the box without consulting your partner is unwise - if it also happens to be their favorite, it's unforgivable.

5.Rushing ahead to bag the window seat on a train, 'plane or bus before offering it to your partner could lead to an abrupt end to your relationship.

6.When it's raining, hogging the umbrella to the extent that your partner is left uncovered and soaked is not very considerate. Cuddle up, or you might find it's not just the umbrella that is left surplus to requirements.

7.Drivers who repeatedly park the car so they have loads of room to exit the vehicle, whilst their partner must squeeze like a contortionist to get out, deserve have not just their car keys confiscated, but their relationship too.

8.Taping over or deleting your partner's favorite programmes from your Sky+ planner in order to make room for your own, is not just lacking in chivalry, it's just plain mean!

9.The definition of a swine is a one who hogs the remote control 24/7, especially if they go to the extent of actually taking it off their partner when they enter the room.

10.Insisting your partner always goes to the bar to get the drinks in, especially when you're out in a big group with most of your mates, is not just tight, it's rude!

Awake, awake, oh sleeper!

2007-10-27T09:09:00.000-07:00

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It was a beautiful Monday at 6:30 in the morning; I could feel the wind blowing on me. The sun begins to peep over the hills shine forth towards the entire panoramic view of the place. I could hear the singing of birds. There's something unusual this day, the thought keep linger in my mind. My heart started to pound and beat faster. Why I am feeling this way? I am alone in this room unknowingly terrified. I started to find answers to my questions.

Then I remembered last night of the argument we had with my mother. She forbids me not to go to the party but I insisted, I did not pay attention to her word. So I walked away and enjoy the night dancing, drinking and doing some profane things. I got home late and yet so drunk, I went immediately to my room and shut the door closed. I could hear my mother sobbing in her room. I covered my ears with the pillow. Beyond that night, I didn't know what had happened and woke up with a strange feeling of unbelief.

I woke up feeling groggy and go to the kitchen to see my mother who used to cook our breakfast but I only saw her Bible lay on the table. I was wondering what had happened that day, I go back immediately upstairs hoping to see my three younger sisters but there was no one in the room. My heart keeps beating like a drum, my nerves begin to weaken and I cried aloud but I cannot utter even a simple word of anguish. So I go down outside only to see many people yelling and shouting for their missing loved ones.

I walked down the pavement to the store and read the newspaper: “

MILLIONS AND MILLIONS OF PEOPLE MISSING WORLDWIDE

”. I did not finish reading and run back to our house screaming with the notion, “Is the days of the Lord have come already? Am I the one was left? Oh! NO! No! I cried so loud with a repentant heart full of regrets but it was too late.

I went back hurriedly, beyond my abeyance, I slipped on the stairway and my head was hit on the floor. I felt the ache in my back and legs…..only to find out….I was awakened by a great nightmare, A BAD DREAM! I was feeling calm with a relief in my heart. It was only a dream but it may come to reality. Are you prepared for His coming? The answer is in your hand.

THE LORD IS COMING!

For You To Ponder!

2006-12-09T04:56:00.000-08:00

Do you know the saddest quote said by the funniest man ever born on this planet?

" I always like walking in the rain so no one can see me crying" ~~~~ Charlie Chaplin~~~~

MAD ABOUT MAN?

2006-12-09T04:27:00.001-08:00

The spirit of Yuletide season is in the air! People are giving gifts to their lover, friends, and family.Haven’t you wondered about man about giving presents that someone could think about.

If your man gives you a sucky gift, it doesn’t mean he’s not in love with you. He may just be a man.

He rings the doorbell with a Christmas present in hand. Too big to be a diamond ring, to small to be a mickey pillow. You tear at the paper to uncover…..a stuffed monkey that dances the Christmas carol in a bikini. You smile and wonder, what would baby Jesus do if I slap him with his dancing monkey?

Before you do, consider this: Based upon my research…< char! >

• Experts claim that some men just don’t “get” giving. According to Eileen Fisher, Ph. D., associate professor of marketing at York University in Toronto, that’s a personality trait called “other orientation” which people with this trait devote time and effort in buying gifts to show they care, “she says. The dilemma is men are less likely than women to possess this “ other orientation”

• Chances are Mom done him wrong, she probably dragged his sisters out to choose gifts for their friends, says Dr. Fisher, but in his case did the choosing for him – leaving his free to dig up worms in the backyard. Worst case scenario- you get worms for Christmas.

• Men spend big, if badly. Guys shop at the last minute and spend less time doing it, Dr. Fisher says, on the bright side, they dole out more dough per gift than women do, which is useful during post holiday sales.”

This dancing monkey has mysteriously lost all of its stuffing. You kept the receipt, right? “

The Craziest things I’ve done

2006-12-09T04:24:00.000-08:00

Well hello everyone! I'm a little free so I guess I'll share my thoughts of the things I have done quite sometime now or just in the past. Things are going pretty much stark crazy and yet worth remembering cause it made me smile and ease boredom. So, here I go…

1. Climbed a guava tree and fall on the ground.

2.. Said “I love you’ and meant it - of course, I have never said it and not meant it, I sometimes think it would be easier if I wasn't so damned determined to be honest

3. Hugged a tree - I might have leant against one and just happened to have my arms stretched out.

4. Stayed up all night long and saw the sun rise.

5. Walked the stairway of Mt. Hibok hibok in Camiguin and get fainted at the top.

6. Ride on the bus without knowing where I was going.

7. Watched a meteor shower but it was not meteor but rain.

8. Got drunk on red wine.

9. Looked up at the night sky through a telescope.

10. Had a food fight - sounds like hideous rugby boy behavior.

11. Screamed as loudly because of cockroach.

12. Seen a lunar eclipse.

13. Ride a horror train and screamed all night.

14. Actually felt happy about my life, even for just a moment.

15. Taken care of someone who was drunk.

16. Watched dolphins at sea, many of them.

17. Midnight walks on the beach.

18. Ride a horse, someone was with me.

19. Sung karaoke – my secret vice.

20. Got flowers for no reason – well, I guess they just thought I was worth it.

21. Performed on stage – not for a long time.

22. Pretended to be "sick”.

23. Saved someone's life and turn out I was the one being rescued.

24. Fainted in public due to stomachache.

25. Broken someone’s heart - oh yes, a few times but they all got over it

Finding your soulmate: Is it a mission impossible?

2006-11-03T06:59:00.000-08:00

Will I ever find my soul mate? Is there a perfect soul mate somewhere for me? I often heard these questions which surpasses from every generation in finding someone to whom we feel constantly connected and personal relationship with. Being in a relationship is a challenging yet dramatic one. Just as what we see in the movie, read in novels, it is just a series of ups and down situation, a climax and an end. Many relationships end up nothing, why? Were we mistaken? Was that person not our soul mate Or we just can't able to make things work out?

I had been in a relationship that for me, perhaps the man to share my whole life with but eventually as the relationship goes on I found it not productive and somewhat possessive. I was just dreaming of a perfect relationship just like some fairy tales do. “And they live happily ever after,” but in reality, it is not like that.

Most relationship do not work out because we are finding for something best, an ideal partner and ideal relationship.

We are creating our soul mate relationship in the future today. In a loving relationship, both persons have a positive reception for individual differences and needs. If troubles occur, nurture the relationship, correspond always, and be patience. If mutual efforts and counseling are done to make the relationship harmonious but still does not work out? Then, don’t stick with it! It’s not anymore healthy to pursue a relationship like that. It will not improve you as a person. A major key to a healthy relationship is to see the holiness in each other.

A relationship which is based on physical attraction, need and money issues will sooner or later break- ups will occur. Every relationship serves a purpose and must be treasured for it will give us spiritual growth. We should be thankful for the experiences we had in a relationship which able we learn from it.

I believe with this phrase in a poem by William Earnest Henley, “I am the captain of my fate; I am the master of my soul”. The circumstances we are in correspond to every action we do in life. Life is what we make it.

We are the author of our destiny to create a relationship we want in every new possibilities we imagine. To make it more romantic and with intense intimacy not just what we see in movies but a relationship which is bonded spiritually with love. For me, finding your soul mate has been just like finding your special someone. This soul mate experience offers us a chance to start with romantic love and nourish in our hearts and spirits towards something higher. It is not impossible but rather thinks of some possibilities to meet some people to share your life with, be it for friendship or marriage.

We can create a soul mate experience today and obtain the positive benefits of this connection forever more. For those who want to love genuinely and passionately, start finding your soul mate now!

A love story

2006-11-03T05:04:00.001-08:00

There’s only one good thing about breaking up and that’s making up, especially during the holidays. Why do people fall in love and the end up crying? Breaking up is something like untying a rope to a tree; breaking a glass or tearing a piece of paper. Being meant to be in a relationship in spite of the obstacle the couple encounter is not possible so long if any of them will do the first move to initiate the make up. If love is still prevailing, why not cope up the lost time? I will share to you the love story of my friend. I had known this relationship because I was the “sumbungan” of their happy and sad memories of their relationship.

THE BREAK-UP:
“Looking back, I know that I freaked out; I became a commitment-phobe,’ says 25-year-old Samantha. After she graduated from college in 2002, Samantha returned home to- leaving behind Dave, her boyfriend of two years. ” Dave still had another year of school left,’ says Samantha. “We were totally in love, and I tried very hard to do the long- distance- relationship thing- we would see each other almost every weekend. But eventually we got so caught up in our own lives that we practically stopped talking.”
After a series of strained phone conversations, Samantha and Dave ended their relationship. Determined to make the most of her new freedom, Samantha began to date “a lot”, but she couldn’t stop thinking about Dave. No matter how many dinner dates she laughed through, he was on her mind: “I kept asking myself, how I could have let him go?’
The breakup wasn’t easy for Dave either. “When we ended, I was so upset, “remembers Dave, 24. “I missed Samantha terribly, but there was nothing I could do. She was in Cagayan; I was in Manila. I just had to get on with my life.”

THE MAKE-UP:

When Dave graduated a year later, he moved to Cebu City. Unknown to him, Samantha had also moved to the city to pursue her medical course. Then at 7:00 on New Year’s morning, Samantha received a call that made her heart sink. Her best friend was phoning to say that she had been to a bar the night before and had bumped into Dave- with his new girlfriend, a beautiful blond. “When my friend told me she saw Dave with another girl, I cried my eyes out and called him immediately, “Samantha recounts. “ It was vey weird. I cried even more on the phone. I just missed him so much.”
Understandably, Dave had his reservations. “I didn’t want to get hurt,” he says, “but I couldn’t not see her.” He agreed to meet Samantha for a holiday drink.
Samantha recalls her feelings when she met Dave again: “I felt like someone had kicked me in the stomach. My hands were shaking. The conversation was very awkward. We were both trying to pretend that life over the past year had been great, when in truth we were both hiding a lot of sadness.” But says Samantha with a big grin, “A couple of drinks were just like old times again.”
The evening ended with a good-night kiss, and they quickly picked up their relationship where they’d left off. “We fell in love all over again,” Dave says. “That was two years ago. Now. I can’t imagine life without her.” And that other blond? Promptly banished to Christmas past.

I just cross the bridge when I get there

2006-11-03T05:02:00.000-08:00

“I just cross the bridge when I get there”…this is the most likely quote I always remember when facing with a lot of issues in my life: boredom, battle of the heart, financial crisis, self enlightenment and a lot more.

When a problem arises, I used to situate it like crossing a bridge, I don’t know what lies ahead of me there but for sure I want to cross it to reach my destination. I know there’s been an obstacle along the way: fear, discouragement, oppression, battles etc. but in spite of that I am willing to pursue my goal.

Sometimes, when a problem arises along the way, I think of the other way….not to pass through, I tried to swim down the river but It was nearer to my grave and besides I don’t know how to swim…. hehe hehe. So I went back and follow the trail.

Beyond the distance, I could see some of my friends waving at me, some are yelling, shouting with envy. In spite of that…I kept on walking until I reach nearly to my sanctuary but it never ends there….I should have to run with perseverance because there’s a lot of bridge that I will pass through…. Ha-hay!!!That’s life it would be…crossing a bridge I’m on my way!!!