So you’ve found someone online who you think might be a match, and you want to send over an e-mail, but you are completely stuck and don’t know what to say.

Thousands of online daters can relate.

I’ve given you tips in online dating icebreakers and other email writing tips, but you’ve asked for examples, so I’m delivering with a two-part blog post containing sample online dating emails.

Let’s start with Caroline, she’s 26 and loves yoga. You can read her full profile here -> Caroline’s Sample Online Dating Profile Example, or you can just read this short little excerpt:

I manage to stay pretty busy. Between my job, friends, and hobbies, I’m rarely even home. But when I am home, I love to curl up with a good girlie book and the softest cat in the world: Loafers. Loafers has been with me since high school—she even made it through college at UCLA with me too. She and I are great buddies. We both love tuna fish and we both purr:)

Now that you know a little bit about Caroline, it’s time to write that show-stopping e-mail that is sure to get you a date, or at least a return e-mail. Below is a sample of what you could write.

There are a few great things about this e-mail, which are in red above, but there are also a couple of things that could be improved on. For instance, in the first paragraph he should say what it is they have in common. Be specific in emails.

In the third paragraph, the idea for a game is excellent, but it’s not articulated very well. Always proofread e-mails and even read them aloud to make sure everything makes sense.

Check back on Thursday when I’ll give you more online dating email samples and divulge a few more secrets to writing good email.

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You’ve been online for a bit, not as long as some but not quite that long either. You’ve gone on a date or two, but nothing fantastic transpired. You’re not that thrilled about updating your profile or responding to your emails, yet you really don’t want to be single either.

I know the drill. I’ve been there and heard all about it from people just like you. But I’m here to say that it’s too soon to give up. Here’s five reasons why you shouldn’t give up on Internet dating:

1. You can’t afford the calories. Sure, it’s easier to meet someone when you’re out at the bar and half in the bag, but it goes against your diet and your budget!

2. There are ways to get better results. If you have your online profile professionally written, you just might get better results. You’ll never know if you don’t try. Sign up for the Dating Tales online dating profile writing service and find out.

3. It’s the summer and you shouldn’t waste that tan. You look great. Summer time is the best time to enjoy a little online dating. You look great, the sun shines longer, there is so much to do outside, and people are feeling frisky. If you are really thinking about quitting, at least wait until the fall.

4. Another dating site might be better. If all you’ve tried is Match, then you might be missing out. There are dozens of single sites where you can meet someone. Give Yahoo! Personals a try. They even have a free trial that you can sign up for by clicking this link - Yahoo! Personals 7-Day Free Trial.

5. What’s the alternative? I’m not saying you have to date to be happy, but if you want to be in a relationship and you aren’t meeting people, then online dating is the perfect (yeah, I said it, PERFECT) way to get out there into the dating scene.

Online dating puts you in control of your love life, at least to a certain degree. You might not like it, but I really don’t see a better way to focus on your target market:)

Happy Dating!

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Call them what you will, but a compliment can sometimes double as a pick-up line, right? After visiting PickUpLineGen.com, I found my new favorite pick-up line:

“I’m not telling you this because I want to impress you…but I am Batman.”

Find me one person that this wouldn’t impress and I’ll knock it off. Come on, that’s funny! This site has a long list of of pick-up lines to browse. You can vote on them or add your own. Definitely a dating resource worth checking out.

Don’t Date a Vampire

I thought this went without saying, until I read 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Date a Vampire on the ThisBlogRules.com. Turns out there is more than one reason to avoid the blood-sucking kind.

Teach Your Pet To Do Something Cool

You can’t lose if you impress the passersby with your amazing pet’s tricks. Great conversation starter.

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Zack wants you to know him and all about his new “girl parts.” He has a blog that discusses it, and he’s on Twitter and YouTube too.

The story goes that Zack, who is 16, woke up one morning to find he had a vagina instead of a penis (and I’m assuming no more testicles either). Zack chronicles his concerns and the obvious complications that go along with a sudden, uninvited gender change when in high school.

Here’s the video on YouTube that details the event. It’s a little long, but seriously the writing is good. Spoken like a true 16-year-old and an interesting one at that.

My favorite line is at the end when he says: “50% of the population has one [vagina] and they seem to be doing pretty well.”

True dat Zack. We are doing pretty well–vagina and all.

So anyway, you are probably wondering what this is all about.  As reported on the popular site Advertising Age, Tampax invented Zack as a way to promote their product–you know, the tampon–by trying to go viral.

“It was inexpensive for us to do this one little effort and kind of get a feel for how much pickup it gets, if it goes viral or if it doesn’t,” the P&G spokesman said

But is it really one little effort?

Character creation, a blog, a Twitter stream, YouTube videos, and all the other wonderful things that go along with online marketing. Spreading this message  is not for the faint at heart–I mean, the video is 12 minutes long.

Regardless of the campaign’s “viralness” (no, I’m not talking about VD, I’m talking about whether or not it becomes an Internet hit), I’m curious to see how others respond to it.

I think the campaign has some merit. I like it because it allows all of us to think about periods in a different way. How would a guy react if they had to deal with this crap? Should women really be so critical of men for not understanding what we go through?

Let’s be honest: Can a man really sympathize with a vagina and menstruation? They have no idea, and it’s not their fault.

So, Zack Johnson. You haven’t convinced me to use Tampax necessarily, but you did get me thinking about my period and why I should be kinder to men when they say ignorant things like: “50% of the population has one and they seem to be doing just fine.”

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Hungry for a new guy or gal in your life? Try a chef. They’re delicious.

Pros of dating a chef:

• He smells like pie
• Impresses your friends and family with his cooking
• You don’t pay for any of your meals AND he brings you leftovers
• Makes you the world’s best soups when you are sick
• He always matches your meals with the best wines

Cons of dating a chef:

• He never cooks at home
• Women are always complimenting his cooking when you are not there
• Bad hours
• You can’t go to the happening new restaurants in town because he’s too competitive
• He’s critical of your casserole creations

If you want to date a chef (or anyone), sign up for the Yahoo! Personals 7-Day Free Trial. Online dating really can be free.

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Why He Didn’t Call You Back: 1,000 Guys Reveal What They Really Thought About You After Your Date

Greenwald took a business approach to researching for this book. According to the publisher, Greenwald, with her Harvard MBA business savvy, conducted “Exit Interviews” with 1,000 men, asking them why they hadn’t called back after a date or online flirtation.

Here are a three parts from the book that really hit home for me:

• Chapter 3 really gets into the crux of the interviews and lists the top reasons why men don’t go for that second date. The third reason the author refers to as the “Bait and Switch.” Basically this means that men perceived the woman to be one way, but then after they met for that date he realized she was something else. This is more than just having a picture on your dating profile that doesn’t look like you. It’s about unrealistic expectations. Greenwald writes: “Sell, but don’t oversell yourself up front. Regardless of your looks or personality, you’ll have a greater chance for a second date if you are a little better, rather than a little worse, than what he expected.”

• I guess my dad was right: you are the company you keep. Reason #13 he didn’t call you back: “The comments, behavior, and beliefs of your friends and family become synonymous with yours before he really knows you.”

• In Chapter 5 Greenwald lists a few of the outtakes from her interviews. She didn’t consider these snippets scientific data by any means, but she did think the reasons some men did not call for that second date were hilarious and so she kept them in the book. I’m so glad she did because this really was the best part for me. Here is my favorite: “I heard her pee while she was talking to me on the phone.”

Hopefully this gives you a taste for the book, Why He Didn’t Call You Back. I recommend the read for those dating and even for those that aren’t. I think it offers nice insights into the minds of men and women in general.

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No pressure!

If you are struggling for creative things to say in your profile, here are a few ideas to get those creative juices flowing:

• Instead of saying you’re tall, dark, and handsome, give other unique details about yourself. For example, you could tell the world about your shoe size, the color that looks best on you, your eye glass prescription, or your obsession for perfectly manicured fingernails.
• Make a joke! But keep in clean.
• Write captions for the three or four photos you posted on your profile. Mention when the picture was taken, where you were, why that was a good day, etc.
• It’s okay to say things like: “That’s a long story so you’ll have to ask me about that later” or “Want to know more? Just ask.” So many of us are afraid to write emails because we don’t know what to say. Make it easy on the other guy or gal and beg a few questions in your profile.
  

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1 - Don’t ask anyone out on a date or cancel a date over text. Use your manners! Pick up the phone and explain yourself properly.

2 - Avoid texting back and forth dozens of times over several weeks before actually seeing each other. Just like in online dating, you don’t want to message for too long because the longer you go without seeing each other the more skewed your expectations may become.

3 - Keep your jokes simple. Humor can sometimes be misunderstood over text and email. Avoid offending someone by keeping the jokes to a minimum.

4 - If you are willing to send a text, be willing to pick up the phone. It’s just rude when someone will answer a text, but not a call. You’ll make her or him feel like you’re hiding something!

5 - Just like with joking around, your flirtations shouldn’t get too intense on text. You don’t want to give someone the wrong impression. Or … do you?

To me, perpetual texters seem flaky. Why can’t we just get together already? At least that’s what I say. What do you say about texting and dating?

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You might remember my post from a few weeks ago titled “How to Stay Broken Up.” In the post I talk about how it’s important to make the final cut when it comes to those awful relationships, and I list seven ways to make sure you ex stays out of your life for good. Turns out I missed one thing: When you break up with that loser be sure to get rid of all those gifts he gave you too. This includes CDs, clothes, and most importantly jewelry.

OutOfYourLife.com makes selling jewelry easy. With the Internet, eBay, and similar sites we are blessed to never have to step into a pawn shop again.

Pawn shop = more depressing than the actual breakup

All you have to do is mail in your unwanted jewelry and then wait to receive payment for the jewelry. Not only does getting rid of the jewelry help you find closure, but it also will help you finance your new online dating profile. How’s that for economical?

If you try Yahoo! Personals, the first week is free and only$15.99 each month for the six months after that. Imagine if you get a $100 for those earrings? That’s enough for you to find a new man in just six months!

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It’s all so complicated and quite frankly, I’m not sure I’m a fan. I went took a trip online to the Urban Dictionary for a definition. Here are the two definitions offered (by the way, you can go there and vote for which one you like better)

1 - One person’s romantic pursuit of another, oftentimes not fueled by actual desire for a relationship. i.e., He is very romantic at first, but he is only interested in the chase.

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