DATING TIPS FOR LOVERS

Dating Tips-Do You Have a Broken Heart?

2011-03-16T10:12:00.000-07:00

"Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit."
-Napolean Hill

If you are struggling with the pain and heartache that goes along with ending a relationship you are not alone. Although you may feel very alone with this broken heart of yours there are many people who have walked down this path and who have not only survived but they have gone on to have a great life.

The first thing you must do is accept the fact that this part of your life is over. And remember, "Just because you relationship is over, doesn't mean your life is over!" Acceptance will be the beginning of letting go and healing your broken heart. If you hold onto the hope that things will work out all you are doing is prolonging your pain and avoiding the inevitable.

Now is the time to make healthy decisions that will help you move forward rather than staying stuck living in the past. Here is a list of the top 5 things you can do that will help to make this transition bearable. If you choose not to do these things be prepared to suffer longer than need be.

1. Surround yourself with family and friends. This is the time to call in the troops. Lean on them, talk with them, vent your feelings and get it out so you can put it behind you. Spend quality time with them as well, just don't use them as a sounding board. Go to dinner, to the movies, on a vacation, for a walk, to the gym etc. Just make sure you are spending time with people who love you.

2. Exercise! This is the number one thing that will make you feel better not to mention look better. Exercise releases chemicals called endorphins that will make you feel better and is incredible for releasing stress. It will elevate your mood, improve your self esteem and it will help you sleep. There is no down side to exercise, it's all good, so make it a part of your daily routine.

3. Change your thoughts! If you learn how to tune into your inner dialogue and change your thoughts to those that will help lift you up instead of squashing you further into the ground, you will heal your broken heart sooner rather than later. Your words create how you feel. So learn how to flip the script when you're walking down Woe-Is-Me Lane.
4. Be thankful. When we are so consumed with our pain we forget how much we have in our lives to be grateful for. Make sure you wake up each day and before you start to think about how bad you feel and why and if only and why me, begin each day and count your blessings. Not only will it start your day off on a happier note, it will hopefully begin to put things into perspective for you.

5. Believe in your future. Believe in yourself and believe you will get over this pain. Whether you choose to believe will never get over this or you choose to believe you will, you're right. Whatever you believe you will make come true. So cry, get it out, and then let it go and move on. There is a whole big world waiting for you!

There isn't a person on this planet that leaves it without some type of heartache or adversity that shows up on their doorstep. But, depending on how you choose to deal with what happens to you; how you choose to view it will make all the difference in how quickly or slowly you heal your broken heart.

Dating Tips-The Highest Love Is Real Love

2011-03-16T10:02:00.000-07:00

I have been taught that love is not an emotion, it is a decision.
This shift in my perspective allows me to renew my commitment to my husband and our relationship in a very empowered and intentional way. Gratefully, I can decide on a day to day basis whether or not I want to love all those who cross my path, or not.

The practice of loving in the face of crabbiness, indifference, and even anger takes strength and vulnerability. It is not easy. It takes patience and persistence. Once snubbed, it is easy to get on the defensive or withdraw.
The decision to stay the course rather than be thrown off by outside circumstances is a way to peace. It can be a hard fought path, but it is well worth it.

Just today I was talking to someone who thought that all would be well, if only people would act right! I know that urge. It is give a very convincing argument! Here's the rub; if other people are the problem, I'm sunk!
What do we do then when our mate is in his/her own world, especially if it is exactly the most inconvenient TIME! How can we release expectation and allow them the space to be themselves?
One way is breath. Another is seeking a bigger picture. We don't know what our mate's lesson is. If we go in an fix things, we could be robbing them from a very valuable lesson.

The more that we can see that "The Other Person is YOU" the more free we are to be compassionate and know that we are capable of great harm and great good.
I used to get so annoyed when I would get cut of by drivers until I really got to see that I can sometimes drive like a lunatic, too! I can expand that awareness to my husband and others that are close to me and give them a wide but loving berth.

I can also expand this compassion to people who have harmed me. I can relax knowing that they were doing the best they could with the tools that they had, just like me on any given day. Sometimes we act ungracefully, unskillfully, and harmfully. If I emit compassion towards the one that harmed me especially if it is in the PAST, they lose the power to unnerve me in the present and future. Consequently, I forgive myself as an added benefit!

Your Assignment
Next time someone is crabby with you, give them a shot of that highest love. This is the love that asks for nothing in return. When you have succeeded with a stranger or acquaintance, celebrate your success and then try it on you mate! Do it over and over and over again until it works. When it works, celebrate! Then ask your mate how it was for them.
Remember, this kind of love is quiet and wants nothing in return. It is not badgering or explaining your love.

Dating Tips-Love Heals - But You Have to Know How?

2011-03-16T09:48:00.000-07:00

Have you ever heard it said that love heals anything and time heals all wounds? Have you actually been healed through love you received or have you actually helped someone else heal through love you have given?
Love does heal but first you have to really know what love is. One way to discover what love IS is to learn about what love IS NOT. WE have often heard that love is blind. A research study at the University College in London found that when one is in the throes of "feeling in love" the areas of the brain that control critical thought, e.g., the prefrontal cortex, may be suppressed. But are they really talking about "Love" or are they merely studying infatuation, limerance, lust or those early high hormonal days of desire for the object of one's fascination?
After a quick scan of what has been said about what love is and what love is not, I have compiled the following two lists. As you read these, reflect upon your own life and your own relationships. Think first about your most intimate relationships, past and current. Then think about your family, friendship and work relationships. Finally, think about your overall attitude and personal beliefs about love.
When you are in a relationship, any relationship, there is a certain way you are thinking, feeling, believing and behaving. The other person is both responding to you and also providing their own ways of thinking, feeling, believing and behaving. This often leads to miscommunication, unexpressed upsets, subliminal attitudes and demands, and outright manipulation, control, disagreements and fighting.
The following lists offer a simplified understanding about what love, unconditional and healing love, really involves. To remain in a state of love, regardless of outward circumstances or the attitudes and behaviors of others, requires a very strong inner constitution. Love necessitates powerful self-respect and a higher understanding of the way the world works.
LOVE IS NOT

blind, insecure or desperate
self-centered, self-absorbed, or self-promoting
struggling, fighting, forceful or resisting
arrogant, selfish, jealous, or demanding
mistreatment, misunderstanding or mistrust
submission or dominance
emotional coercion, manipulation or control
critical, judgmental, or even expecting
intermittent or dependent on circumstances
weak, fragile or easily destroyed

LOVE IS

patient, kind, gentle and caring
accepting, allowing and forgiving
yielding, giving in and being vulnerable
steady, dependable and unwavering
an inner state of mind and a vision
respect, validation and high regard
communication, collaboration and sharing
focused beyond what the eye can see
action, behavior and manifestation
love for oneself first and then for others

Love heals. Do you know how to love? Take each of the words above, study their different meanings, and then evaluate your own way of loving. How close do you come to being able to love freely, openly and unconditionally?

Datip Tips-Missing Someone You Love - How to Miss Her in Silence

2011-03-16T08:01:00.000-07:00

Does your heart long for someone who couldn't have? Has your mind played tricks on you telling you that you should grab your phone and drunk dial her? Do you want to tell her you want her back despite her telling you that you should move on?
Missing someone you love who no longer feels the same way as you do can be very disheartening and heart wrenching on your part. Missing someone you love could give you sleepless nights and yes missing someone you love could leave you feeling hopeless and miserable to the very core.
After a break up there is nothing more challenging than to stand on your own and showing the world that you are not a loser. But then again, you could only do so much because at the end of the day, it's still your loneliness that gets the best of you. So how can you miss someone you love without having to give them a feeling that you are stalking? Let alone, give them an idea that you desperately want them back? How can you miss someone in silence?

Strategy #1: Just Miss Her
When you miss your ex, you just miss her - acknowledge the feeling but do not let in control you. It is only natural to long for her presence or her love but then again, you must also learn to let go when necessary. When you miss her, just think of the great times you had together and embrace those memories close to your heart --- and after it has brought a smile to your face, try to focus on some other things after.

Strategy #2: Write to Her - in your Journal
Missing someone you love could give you a sudden burst of impulsiveness - and because you tend to lose logic when you feel this, you tend to lose control as well. And as a result, you end up sabotaging your self-esteem and your pride. When you feel the urge to write to your ex, then by all means...write to her - in your journal. In your diary, you can express all the things you feel about her - your frustrations, your fears and your pain. You can go all the way with your feelings and it can be very good therapy for you as well.

Strategy #3: Listen to your favourite songs
By listening to the songs that you once shared, you can have an outlet of releasing all the feelings you have inside of you. A song is also one good way to reconnect and to remember the good memories you have once shared - this way, you wouldn't have the angst or the bitterness whenever you think of the love that failed you. Also remember that she did once love you too.

Strategy #4: Paint or make a poem
You do not have to be a Michelangelo or a Shakespeare to pull this - all you need is your heart to get the feeling of sadness out of your system. When a person feels pain and longing, he is always has something to share to the world.

Dating Tips-17 Hot and Sexy Love Notes to Send Your Man

2011-03-14T07:46:00.000-07:00

A love note doesn't have to be sweet and romantic, although those are certainly fun to give and get. But a sexy, mouthwatering little secret love note can be just the ticket to inflame and excite your husband or boyfriend on Valentine's Day or any time.

You can let the things that you love about your man be your guide as you write your first sexy secret love notes. For example, write a note that says, "You look incredibly hot in these jeans. How can I possibly resist putting my hands on you when you're wearing them? Or not wearing them..." and leave it tucked into the pocket of his favorite jeans.
You can use one of the ones below or let these inspire you to pen your own delicious declarations and sexy invitations. Be as naughty or as nice as you like!

I might forget the score of the big game, but I'll never forget the hot and sexy action you and I got into after all our guests left. Here's to more... scoring, baby.
I find you to be absolutely mouthwatering.
Thank you for the incredible bath and massage last night. I can't decide whether it's more exciting to get dirty or clean with you!
You make me feel warm and wet in all the right places.
It doesn't seem to matter how many times you and I make love; I still want to do it with you again. Here's to another 10 years of fabulous sex.
Are you ready to feel me wrapped around you again tonight?
I'm a little sore, but I can't seem to wipe the incredibly satisfied smile off my face today.
Let's meet at our favorite restaurant tonight. After that, I can be dessert.
I have several places I would like to have lightly bitten. Know anyone who could handle that for me?
How fast can you get me out of my clothes? I'll help.
I completely forgot to wear any underwear today.
Would you like to see me on my knees, mouth open, ready and waiting? Meet me in the bedroom at 10:30 pm.
My hands are so warm and I wonder if you have something I could... play with?
I've been quite naughty. What are you going to do about it?
I can't stop thinking about the hungry way you were looking at me last night at the office party. Still hungry?
The way you kiss me on the back of my neck makes me want to take all my clothes off.
After the kids are in bed tonight, I have an ache I need you satisfy.

Dating Tips-How to Discover Your Intimacy Boundaries

2011-03-13T09:41:00.000-07:00

I recall a couple who came to see me for marital counseling. The wife appeared more committed to the relationship than the husband. The husband was dissatisfied with the relationship due to his wife's physical appearance and had been pressuring her to have cosmetic surgery, including a face lift and liposuction. He felt the cosmetic changes would enhance the couple's sex life and fill the void of what he was missing.

I was quite perplexed because the wife was exceptionally attractive and pleasant, while her husband was not physically impressive and emotionally cold and detached. I viewed the husband's controlling behavior toward his wife as a desperate attempt at trying to fix the relationship without considering their struggles with intimacy. By his own admission, the husband was devoid of emotionally expressiveness. He had been raised in an environment in which his parent's relationship was sterile, non-affectionate, and lacking in passion. This gentleman's wife lived with frustration due to his lack of emotional availability, and she was resentful and reticent to follow through on his need to have her change her image in order to meet his needs for better sex.
I raised the red flag regarding the husband's sexual needs which by-passed his intimacy issues, but unfortunately it was less painful for him to ignore the obvious signs of his emotional unavailability. He continued to pursue his irrational desire to repair his wife's physical appearance, using that as the litmus test for the quality of their sex life and relationship. His wife was vulnerable to his demands and was afraid of losing the relationship. Sadly, she decided to comply with her husband's wishes, ignoring the various warning signs that I had explored with them.

I did not see either partner until several months later. At that time, the wife called me to set up an emergency appointment. She came to my office sobbing as she explained the resentment and humiliation that she felt for her foolishness in consenting to cosmetic surgery in her feeble attempt to meet her husband's sexual needs. Her face was all bruised and irritated from her face lift and I remember her dejectedly saying, "My husband has not considered one of your recommendations presented during our last session regarding the issue of creating intimacy." I was not surprised.

The impact of intimacy lies at the core of every significant relationship. Cultivating intimacy takes a lot of work. Intimacy is a complex set of feelings and behaviors that develops out of a relationship based upon integrity, commitment, passion and respect. Many people, particularly men, get sexuality confused with intimacy. Sexuality should be viewed as a manifestation of the quality of a couple's relationship, not an end goal.

Sexual expression will not sustain a relationship that is devoid of intimacy. Intimacy, however, will sustain a relationship that may lack a degree of sexual involvement. I have worked with many couples who have had erotic sex whose relationships have dissolved. I have never worked with a couple whose relationship was built on intimate behavior that has faltered. If intimacy is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship, understanding its nature is important:
• A partner must take the risk of disclosing emotions.
• A partner must be willing to be honest and upfront in communicating.
• Couples must listen and be non-judgmental and promote understanding.
• A mate must value and cherish the one he loves.
• The issue of intimacy is at the core of all significant relationships.
• The impact of intimacy is much broader in scope than sexuality.
• It's the little things that count - remembering birthdays, anniversaries, surprising a partner with gifts, and validating your partner.
• Demonstrating non-sexual affection, such as holding hands, hugging, messaging, and kissing are intimate acts.
• Cultivating intimacy is important when couples are having difficulty with their sexual experience.
• Conflict resolution is an important aspect of intimacy.
• Being spiritually and psychologically committed to one's mate constitutes intimacy.
• Trust and respect are the cornerstones of intimacy.
• Accepting one's mate with all of her flaws is a quality of intimacy.
• Managing difficult life events in a relationship is a characteristic of intimacy.
• Establishing a romantic environment and making sexual encounters that are mutually satisfying constitutes intimacy.
We only fully know someone by the nature of their emotional experience. Developing intimacy calls for feeling one's feelings, not talking about them. Many partners experience frustration and resentment when they are unable to accurately assess their mate's feelings and end up making assumptions that may or may not be accurate.
Finding meaning and purpose in life is about feeling connected to those closest to us. Those who demonstrate intimacy are not afraid to be vulnerable when it is in their best interest. I believe that our legacy will be determined on the quality of our relationships. The quality of our connections will be based upon the level of intimacy that we create with our most cherished contacts. Waiting for the right moment takes work, not a pill.

Dating Tips-Kissing: An Ancient Practice and Current Marvel

2011-03-13T07:37:00.000-07:00

People like to kiss. Whether it's your grandma, your dog or your significant other that you're kissing, people kiss. It's what we do. But did you know it's a science? According to William Case's book "The Art of Kissing", the scientific study of the kiss is called philematology (2009). In fact, the English word kiss most likely comes from the Old German word "kuss" and is probably an onomatopoeia (a word that sounds like a noise). So that wonderful noise that the smooch makes probably informed the word kiss. Regardless of how much you know about the science of it, it's an undeniably pervasive thing throughout the world. Every culture has a kiss and it's considered an ancient custom in most cultures.

For example, the kiss is used for primarily three different purposes. First, the kiss of passion. This type is often used as foreplay. In fact, it's considered by some to be one of the most common examples of sexual activity in the United States, second only to hand holding (Journal of Adolescent Health, 2007).
Similar to this, is the kiss of affection. Although less erotic than the former one of passion, this one is used by many to communicate love and deep connection with another person. The affectionate smooch is not only reserved for lovers, but for all types of love: between parent and child, friends or even a person and beloved pet.

Another type of kiss commonly used is the ritual kiss. Often we see it in historical movies or literature. The subservient kisses the hand of the master to show respect. The Southern gentleman kissing his beloved's hand, even the kissing of the Blarney Stone in Ireland for good luck. These ritualistic smooches take an act of heightened intimacy and make it accessible for the common person. By kissing someone in ritual, people connect with something higher than themselves.
In western culture the most common use of the kiss is for passion or affection. In fact, it's so important to our conception of intimacy that we name different types of them. For example, we have the nuzzling or "necking" type of kiss. We have the passionate French kiss, even the sweet butterfly and Eskimo kisses. Because of the emphasis placed on smooching, and the ability, forums for the practicing of kissing have surfaced. One of the most common examples is spin the bottle, a game used by many teens to facilitate kissing and thereby, the improvement of kissing technique.

Regardless of the type of kissing one is engaged in, it actually requires a significant amount of muscular control. For something that seems like instinct (in fact, scholars are split on whether it's is a learned or instinctual habit) it certainly uses a large amount of muscles. According to Roger Highfield, the act of kissing involves 34 facial muscles and 112 postural muscles, including the kissing muscle, or orbicularis oris (The Telegraph 2008). The good new is that in this case the old adage that "practice makes perfect" is true. The more you do it the more comfortable with kissing you can become in whatever context seems appropriate.

Dating Tips-What If My Ex Boyfriend Is Already Dating? - Tip To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back!

2011-03-12T07:16:00.000-08:00

When you have picked yourself up from the shock of the break up after the smoke clears, a lot of women ask the same question: How can I get my boyfriend back? This is hindered by other problem in some cases: your ex boyfriend is already dating. As if losing him wasn't enough, at the moment you ought to bear the humiliation and hurt of watching your boyfriend with someone else... or is there something you can do to win back his heart?

Well I am here to let you know things aren't half as bad as you might imagine they are.
Has your boyfriend moved ahead with his life? Yes, in a sense. However in a lot of ways, the heart of your boyfriend as well still lies with you. Chances are your boyfriend is jumping into a rebound relationship if he started dating another girl shortly after your breakup. What he feels at the moment is infatuation - not love - when it comes to winning him back there are ways you can use this to your benefit.
Just because your ex boyfriend is already dating doesn't indicate he is over and done with you. In contrast, the fact that your ex boyfriend has a new girl on his arm shortly after the break up is actually good news when it comes to his emotional state. This is for the reason that those emotions and feelings that he held close to his heart for you are all still there. Your ex boyfriend didn't have the time to process or cope with them, so with the intention of "moving on" he did the next best thing: he buried them.

A guy will try not to think about his ex when he begins dating a new girl - initially, at least. This phase of his new relationship is going to be quite unbreakable, and you are going to need to be cool throughout this time. Picture your future together... when his rebound fling or new girlfriend is going to be nothing but a past memory and you two are going to be building a lasting relationship once more.

As soon as your ex's new girl begins to wear on him (this happens very quickly in most rebound relationships), that is when his feelings are going to return to you. He is going to start remembering the things you did, the places you went, and the little things that made him love you in the first place. He is going to as well want to know what you are doing and where you are. Your ex's interest in you is going to all of a sudden be renewed, and you might even get a friendly text-message, email or phone call from him.
But why sit around waiting? There are some superb methods you can utilize for pulling out the old feelings of your ex toward you. The step-by-step techniques to achieve this are effective, subtle, yet simple: they put you right back into the mind of your ex boyfriend without him actually knowing your intentions. This is very vital, for the reason that if your ex boyfriend thinks you are attempting to threaten his new relationship, he will steer clear of you. Your phone is going to immediately start to ring again by applying just the right reinsertion techniques needed to get his mind back on you.

Dating Tips-Finding Mr Right

2011-03-12T07:04:00.000-08:00

For many women, finding Mr. Right is no easy feat. There is the getting to know stage, the trying to accept each person's attribute stage, and the frequent fights in between. And just when you thought you found the right person, that's when you lose him.

To some, they let fate find them their true love. But others, even if they do everything to find the right person, simply don't seem to find luck in love. Take for instance Susan. She's a successful executive in one of the top companies in the country. She's in her 50s, living in a nice condo and enjoying a busy social life. But at 50, she found herself without a husband and children to fill her personal life. She had lots of boyfriends, but no one really stuck. Although her friends were always there to comfort her, she still aspires for a man who will grow old with her.

As days go by and she got older and older, she finally decided to make a change in her life and gave in to her friends prodding. She finally tried online dating. It was through a certain website that she met Alfred, a man slightly older than him and a widow with two grown children. They are both hesitant at first to let their guards down for fear of getting hurt. After a few dates and some background check here and there, they eventually got to know each other better and have recently gotten engaged.

Susan's story is just one of the many successful meet ups online. You are lucky if you have a love story like Susan. But many stories of online dating end in tragedy for the simple reason that people don't have control of what they say online. People can actually create lots of stories over the web, especially that both of you don't actually see each other. So, if you are a 20 or 40 something single hooked in online dating today, you have to be cautions of the men you meet via the online portal. Don't just jump in to the situation. You must have a plan.
Here are tips for you when considering online dating.
• If you think someone is claiming things that are too good to be true, do not compromise yourself with him. Learn to say no early on.
• If there is someone you think meets your criteria, do a background on him first. You can even conduct an employment background check to verify all his claims.
• Be cautious of the first meeting. Make sure to do it on a public place, so he doesn't have the chance to harm you.
• If you see something undesirable in the man, don't push yourself in him. Stay away from him as soon as possible.

Online dating may be the easiest way to find Mr. Right just like what happened with Susan, but it can also be the most treacherous approach. In any case, just practice caution to keep yourself on the safe side.

Dating Tips-What Do Women Want From A Man?

2011-03-12T06:53:00.000-08:00

his one is for all the guys out there asking themselves what do women want? Well I'm afraid I don't have one answer for this, but I am here to give you some help and point you in the right direction! I'm not promising miracles but if you stick with my advice I'm sure you will put a pleasing smile on your girl's face.Women love lingerie - it's a fact! There is nothing nicer than a brand new set of luxury lingerie. It not only makes us feel sexy but gives off a sense of confidence to know underneath your everyday clothes you are wearing a stunning set of lingerie.

You have got that women love lingerie, what next? Well the most important bit is getting the right type of underwear for your girlfriend's style and body shape. Scared? Well don't be this is where I come in to lend a hand and get you that little bit closer to finding out what your woman wants!
When around your girlfriend try to take notice of what underwear she generally prefers wearing, if not try to get a vibe of what colours she likes. For example does she wear soft, pastel colours and floaty fabrics or does she wear black and dark sultry colours? This should give you a feel of what style your girlfriend has or how daring she can be in the bedroom!
So you've come this far, you understand your girlfriends style so now to get the perfect set of lingerie for her. If she prefers to cover up around conscious areas, why not try a two piece bikini set, a great piece of lingerie still looking sexy and making your girl feel completely comfortable and pleased that you have taken her personality and style into account when giving her the perfect gift.

If your girl is of the more daring nature then first of all lucky you! Why not surprise her with a sexy peek-a-boo teddy set, a great choice of lingerie and will make your special someone feel sexy and ready for action!
Why not try a one piece sexy dress, this is a great garment for night time or for those special moments between you and your girlfriend, look for a range of sexy dresses in different styles and colours. So why not try a sexy dress and choose the fit and colour to your girlfriend's style and we are sure she will thank you for it.

So guys I hope you have learnt a thing or two and are little bit closer to finding what your woman wants. I know how important it is to find the perfect set of lingerie so I'm always on hand to keep you updated with the latest fashion advice and handy tips.

Dating Tips-Decoding Male Psychology - How to Win at Love and Romance

2011-02-26T05:12:00.000-08:00

Do you know how to go about decoding male psychology? Do men puzzle you? Do you wonder what it is all about and what men look for in a woman? Are you looking for more than dinner and a movie? There are just a few secrets to it that you need to be aware of. We can help you. This is some great dating advice in decoding male psychology.

What can you do to attract men? What attraction will work when you are looking for romance and commitment? Will sex or money make a guy fall in love with you? If not sex or money, then what is it that will make him commit? What does male psychology say?

The fact is that if he is looking for a hook up for sex that has nothing to do with romance or marriage. If you have sex with that man, in fact, no doubt he will lose his respect for you. He will think less of you as a woman and when he is ready to settle down, he will look for someone better. Having sex with him will not make him fall in love with you. Quite the opposite is true.

So, decoding male psychology, we want to realize that if you want to win at love and romance, the thing to do is to show him that he can not live without you, or at least, he will not be as happy without you. So do the following things:

Have a winning smile.
Actually, just about any smile is a winner. The point is to be a happy, smiling person. When you smile at him, you are letting him know that you think that he is special. He will, in return, think that you are special. Having an easy smile goes a long way in the dating game. It will win the heart of Mr. Right, your soul mate. Learn how to tell jokes and make sure that you tell one often. If you can make this guy laugh, you will bond with him and his heart will warm toward you.

Have a winning conversation.
When you are with him, make it a point to talk about the things he likes to talk about. Compliment him. Ask his opinions and advice. Thank him when he does things for you. This show of warm personal attention will be much appreciated. Do not engage in long, boring stories. Keep the conversations short and sweet; leave him wanting more.

Pay attention to your appearance.
It is true that you can not judge a book by its cover, but the sad truth is that people do it anyway. You do not have to be a beauty queen, but really, you do have to make sure that you look your best. Take a careful look at your clothing, hair and makeup. Are they all flattering to you? If you are not sure, ask a friend and then take her advice. You will be judged by your cover, so to speak. Make sure it is an attractive one.

Do not give up your own identity.
Do not chase him. Do not throw yourself at him. Some women think that this is the way to win his heart; but in real life things are different. Throwing yourself at him; always calling him; always agreeing with him will tell him that you do not have a life of your own. This is not attractive.
You are ready to do it. You are ready to make Mr. Right your own. You are ready to win at love and romance. You are now very capable at decoding male psychology.

Dating Tips-What Is True Love - A Choice or a Feeling?

2011-02-26T05:03:00.000-08:00

What is true love? Can one really define or say that what he feels for somebody is true love? Is it automatic that if we always want to be with one person, talk to him everyday, spend our lifetime with him that is already true love?
If we look into a dictionary, love is defined as an emotion ranging from generic to strong intense personal affection. In the Bible, it is written under 1 Corinthians 13:1-13 that love is patient and kind. It protects, trusts, hopes and perseveres.

So, is it just right to say that true love is a strong feeling for someone or something without conditions and pretentions?

I have been in many relationships and I can't even determine when love was true. I have asked the question "What is true love?" countless of times before. Sometimes we get confused from the idea of true love and plain admiration. We tend to be giving everything for the person without really knowing what the feeling is all about. In some instances after being so heartbroken then someone comes along and showed you the best things in life, we tend to look at it as the true love we have been wanting for.
Sometimes, we just like the person. Then we get used to being with that person that we conclude it is already true love. It may be because of how he looks, his ways towards you and all.

Yes, everything starts from physical attraction. Then as time passes, you get to know his inner self. Whether he is someone you dreamt of or not, in a way or two you will see goodness in that person that will eventually develop stronger emotions and justify what you feel.
But what if we then realize that we were just infatuated? We wasted so much time on one person believing that what we have is true love. We were so blinded by the magic and the intimacy.

Asking "What is true love?" I think we can never really give a definite meaning to what true love is nor someone can formulate an equation or scientific basis on what it really is. But based on experience and advices from people who have been in and out of relationships, you will know it is true when there is so much intimacy, passion and of course, commitment.
These three elements may not be the best words to describe true love but these are very important ingredients to say we truly love a person. We share so much confidence and personal details of our lives to the person we love. We are physically and sexually attracted to the person that we care so much about them. We consider ourselves a part of his wholeness and vice versa. We greatly value and deeply give ourselves to the person - our time, our happiness and life.
In the end, true love is all about choices - making the right choices. It wouldn't matter whether you are with the perfect one or the person matched made in heaven for you. All that matters is that when you are in a relationship you try to make everything at least right and be true to yourself and your partner. Contentment, honesty and making the right choices will make you experience true love.

Dating Tips-Love Relationships Advice - Three Big Mistakes People Make in the Beginning of a Relationship

2011-02-26T04:53:00.000-08:00

In working with hundreds of men and women over the years and in analyzing my own love life, I've learned that so much of the hurt, heartache, and disappointment we experience in love could be avoided if we just paid more attention at the beginning of the relationship.

1. We Don't Ask Enough Questions: Many of us ask less questions before we start a relationship than we do before we buy a pair of shoes. Falling in love is romantic. Interviewing someone is not. So we allow ourselves to be seduced by going out to dinner, flirting and all the behaviors that usually manifest themselves when we first meet a potential partner and get swept away. Asking your partner questions to find out more about them may not seem romantic, but it's the only intelligent way to really get to know someone. The more information you have about someone, the better you'll be able to judge whether or not this person will make a good mate. The less information you have about someone, the more likely you will end up disappointed or heartbroken.

2. We Make Premature Compromises: Changing or editing your own values, behaviors, and habits in hopes that you and your new partner will appear to get along more harmoniously. I'm not saying that you are walking into a relationship saying, I will do anything to get him to like me, even if it means compromising my own values. The process is a lot more subtle than this. It's an adjustment you make in what is important to you as you get to know someone. When you discover that beliefs you've had, or interests that were important to you, or friends you care for are not acceptable to your partner, you may tend to make these less important in order to create the illusion that the two of you are much more compatible than you actually are. The danger in premature compromise is that you lose your sense of self early in the relationship and create a false sense of harmony between you and your mate.

3. We Put Commitment Before Compatibility: Most men and women become seriously involved in a relationship before giving much thought to whether this person was really right for them or not. Some warning signs of this are: within the first month you begin fantasizing, or even planning, the rest of your life and how you will spend it with your new partner. You feel sure that this person is the one for you a few weeks into the relationship. Within the first month, you find yourself saying and doing things you have done before in relationships you thought would last forever. Most people yearn for a commitment that they make an emotional commitment with their partner before they know him or her very well and they need to slow down and take their time to get to know this person.

Dating Tips-I Love You u- Say It in 100+ Different Ways

2011-02-26T04:49:00.000-08:00

Valentine's Day has come and gone but message of love still remained the same every where and for sure everyone is thinking of ways on how to show your loved one how much you love them. Most popular are chocolates and roses; dining out or cooking for them; teddy bears or any stuffed animal which you know the love of your life wants; and of course greeting cards - whether it's the "regular" card sealed lovingly in an envelope or the more "modern" e-card, for sure you'll jot down what your heart wants to say - how much you love him/her. I LOVE YOU definitely is something that anybody would want to hear from you, but why not make it extra special by saying or writing it in another language?
To make your life easier, I have compiled several different ways of saying I LOVE YOU to your true love. Have a wonderful Valentine's Day because I'm certain that I'll have one with my one and only love whom I fondly call "MINE"... I LOVE YOU DEX
Most Popular:

Filipino - Mahal kita
Chinese(Mandarin) - Wo ai ni
English - I love you
French - Je t'aime
German - Ich liebe dich
Italian - Ti amo
Japanese - Daisuki / Ai shiteiru
Korean - Sarang-hae / Sarang-hamnida
Portuguese -Eu te amo
Spanish - Te quiero / Te amo
Other Languages:
AFRIKAANS -ek het jou lief / ek is lief vir jou
ALBANIAN - të dua
ALSATIAN - ich hab die lieb
Dialectal ARABIC (North African) - n'bghick
Dialectal ARABIC (Eastern) - bahebbak (to a man) / bahebbik (to a woman)
Literary ARABIC - ouhibbouka (to a man) / ouhibbouki (to a woman)
ARMENIAN - yes kez siroumem
ASTURIAN - quiérote
ATTIÉ - min bou la yé
AZERI - men seni sevirem
BAMBARA - né bi fè
BASQUE - maite zaitut
BAOULE - mi klôa
BELARUSIAN - Ya tabe kahayu
BENGALI -aami tomakey bhalo basi
BERBER - righ kem
BOBO - ma kia bé nà
BOSNIAN - volim te
BRETON - karout a ran ac'hanout / da garout a ran / me az kar
BULGARIAN - Obicham te
BURMESE - nga nin ko chit te
CATALAN - t'estimo
CHEYENNE - ne'mehotatse
CHINESE - wo ai ni
CORSICAN - amu tè / ti tengu caru
CROATIAN - volim te
CZECH - Miluju TÄ› (or Miluji TÄ›)
DANISH - jeg elsker dig
DIOULA - mi fê
DUTCH - ik hou van jou
ESPERANTO - mi amas vin
ESTONIAN - ma armastan sind
FAROESE - eg elski teg
FINNISH - minä rakastan sinua
FILIPINO - mahal kita
FLEMISH (WESTERN) - 'k zien je geeren
FRENCH - je t'aime
FRISIAN - ik hâld fan dy
FRIULAN - o ti vuei ben
GALICIAN - amo-te / ámote / quero-te / quérote
GEORGIAN - me shen mikvarkhar
GERMAN - ich liebe Dich
GREEK - s'agapo
GUARANÍ - rojhayhû
GUJARATI - hun tane prem karun chhun
HAITIAN CREOLE - mwen renmen'w / mouin rinmin'w
HAWAIAN - Aloha Au Ia`oe
HEBREW - ani ohev otakh (man to a woman)/ ani ohevet otkha (woman to man)
HINDI - main tumse pyar karta hoo
HMONG - kuv hlub koj
HUNGARIAN - szeretlek
ICELANDIC - ég elska þig
INDONESIAN - saya cinta padamu / saya cinta kamu
IRISH GAELIC - tá grá agam duit
ITALIAN - ti amo
JAPANESE - aishitemasu / aishiteru (barely used) / anata ga daisuki desu("cute")
KABYLIAN - hamlagh-kem (man to woman) / hamlaghk (woman to man)
KANNADA - naanu ninnanna pritisutteney
KHMER - bang srolaïgn ôn (man to woman) / ôn srolaïgn bang (woman to man)
KINYARWANDA - ndagukunda
KOREAN - saranghe
KURDISH - ez te hez dikim
LAO - khoi hak tchao lai
LATIN - te amo
LATVIAN - es tevi mÄ«lu
LEBANESE - b'hibik (man to woman) / b'hibak (woman to man)
LIGURIAN - mi te amu
LINGALA - na lingi yo
LITHUANIAN - aš tave myliu
LOW SAXON - ik hou van ju
LUXEMBOURGEOIS - ech hun dech gäer
MACEDONIAN - te sakam
MALAGASY - tiako ianao / tia anao aho (stronger)
MALAY - aku cinta padamu
MALAYALAM - enikku ninné ishtamaanu
MALTESE - inhobbok
MANX - ta graih aym ort
MAORI - kei te aroha au i a koe
MARQUESAN - hinenao au ia oe
MONGOLIAN - Bi chamd khairtai
MORÉ - mam nong-a fo
NAPOLETANO - t'ammo
NDEBELE - niya ku tanda
NEPALI - ma timilai prem garchhu
NORWEGIAN - jeg elsker deg
OCCITAN - t'aimi
PAPIAMENTU - mi ta stima bo
PERSIAN - dustat dâram (formal) / duset dâram (informal)
POLISH -Kocham Ciebie
PORTUGUESE - amo-te / eu te amo (Brazilian Portuguese)
PUNJABI - mein tenu pyar karda han (male speaker) / mein tenu pyar kardi han(female speaker)
QUECHUA de CUZCO - munakuyki
RAPA NUI - hanga rahi au kia koe
ROMANI - kamaù tut
ROMANIAN - te iubesc
RUSSIAN - Ya tebya liubliu
SAMOAN - ou te alofa ia te oe
SANGO - mbi yé mô
SARDINIAN - deo t'amo (logudorese) / deu t'amu (campidanese)
SCOTTISH GAELIC - tha gaol agam ort / tha gaol agam oirbh
SERBIAN - volim te
SESOTHO - ke ya ho rata
SHIMAORE - ni su hu vendza
SHONA - ndinokuda
SINDHI - moon khay tu saan piyar aahay
SINHALA - mama oyata aadareyi (spoken) / mama obata aadareyi (formal)
SIOUX - wastewalake
SLOVAK - Lu`bim ta
SLOVENIAN - ljubim te / rad te imam (male speaker) / rada te imam (femalespeaker)
SOBOTA - volim te / se te volime (lit.)
SOMALI - waan ku jecelahay
SONINKÉ - na moula
SPANISH - te amo / te quiero
SUSU - ira fan ma
SWAHILI - nakupenda
SWEDISH - jag älskar dig
TAGALOG - mahal kita
TAHITIAN - ua here vau ia oe
TAJIKI - jigarata bihrum duhtari hola (man to woman) / tra lav dorum (woman toman)
TAMIL - naan unnai kaadhalikkarn
TATAR - min sine yaratam
TELUGU - nenu ninnu premisthunnanu
TETUN - hau hadomi o
TIBETAN - na kirinla gaguidou
TURKISH - seni seviyorum
TURKMEN - seni söýärin
UKRAINIAN - Ya tebe kahayu
URDU - mein tumse mohabbat karta hoon (man to woman)/ main tumse mohabbat kartihoon (woman to man) / mujhe tum se pyar heh
UZBEK - men seni sevaman / men seni yahshi ko'raman (less formal)
VENETIAN - t'amo
VIETNAMESE - anh yêu em (man to woman)/ em yêu anh (woman to man)
WALOON - (orthographe à betchfessîs) dji vs voe voltî
WELSH - rydw i'n dy garu di
WEST INDIAN CREOLE - mwen enmen
WOLOF - nob nala
XHOSA - ndiyakuthanda
YIDDISH - ich hob dir lib
YORUBA - moni ife e
ZULU - ngiyakuthanda

Dating Tips-Love Advice For Men - How to Turn a Friend Into a Lover

2011-02-26T04:44:00.000-08:00

One of the more common situations that ends up being very frustrating for a guy is when he really likes a woman as more than a friend, and all she thinks of him is being a friend or even like a brother. What can you do when that beautiful woman, the one you want to be with more than anyone else just sees you as being a friend and nothing more? Do you have to just accept this as the way it has to be or is there something that you can do to make her feel like she loves You as well?

Here's some love advice for men on how to turn a friend into a lover:

1. She's never going to want to be more than friends as long as you continue to do friend like things with her.
Are you the guy she calls on when she needs a favor or has problems with another guy? If you are doing any of the kinds of things that a really good friend would do, then it's going to be almost impossible to change the way that she feels about you. You have to make a point of trying not to be a friend to her, and coming across as more of a guy who has real interest in her.

2. You are going to have to make some changes to your appearance and your attitude around her.
Changing the way that someone sees you is not always the easiest thing to do, but you can start by making a change in the attitude that you have around her AND your appearance. Surprise her and change your look a little and you just might be able to change the way that she sees you. The problem with being in the friend zone is that her mind already links you to friendship. You need to break that link and create a new one, and changing your appearance a little and your attitude can be a good start.

3. You are going to have to finally face the risk that she will reject you.
This is the reason why most guys stay in the friend zone. They don't want to get rejected by her. They would rather live in quiet desperation, always hoping that she will one day just see that they are in love with her, and it never happens. At some point, you are really going to have to deal with the possibility that she may end up rejecting you.

Dating tips-Practical Valentine's Day Gifts for Him

2011-02-15T05:45:00.001-08:00

We all know that women go mushy over chocolates, hearts and roses on Valentine's Day - but how about men? Men are amazingly practical; they would want a gift they can use instead of a romantic gift they can just stare at every day. Gifting your man something functional will make you more memorable for him.

Minding the little things
Money shouldn't be an issue in choosing a Valentine's gift. Notice the little things your man uses everyday - does he prefer a particular brand of underwear or razors? Do you think he needs sun block or maybe some facial product he can actually use? Putting together a nice gift basket with all his essentials can definitely score you some big points! Place your gifts inside a basket and wrap it with clear plastic with a bow to make it presentable.

Non-tangible gifts
Valentines gifts don't just come in tangible form. If your loved one mentions that he needs a refresher course in driving or that he wants to build his career expertise, tell him that you'll cover the expenses for that new course or for an important workshop he has mentioned. If he can't wash his car or can't clean up house because he's too busy for work, get gift certificates from businesses that provide these services like housekeeping, car wash and home repair. These will mean a lot to the practical-minded man.

Thoughtful and Functional

Women appreciate thoughtful gifts and men do too. If he's a techie, you can buy him a new GPS guidance system for his car, a new external drive or useful productivity applications for his iPhone - you can even throw in customized iPhone Valentine eCards with that! Pay attention to what he really needs. What does he intend to buy in the next few months or on his birthday? Listening might just help you in buying the perfect gift!

Love-Able And Lovable

2011-02-15T05:30:00.000-08:00

We spend a lot of time looking for the notoriously, elusive, all encompassing euphoria also known as LOVE.

Would we know if we've had the love we're looking for.. what if we've already discounted it because we're so unwilling to allow it?

We search for love, even when it's raining down on us - all the while wondering why we can't feel it or have it.
We can't feel love when we're actually the one holding the umbrella of doubt that repels it's nourishing sweetness.

Whether it comes to us in words or actions, a steady rain or a light shower.. if we cannot identify it as love, absorb it and allow it to soak in, we will always feel that love is eluding us. Receiving love depends greatly on whether or not you BELIEVE you are LOVABLE. If you don't believe you are lovable, you will never be able to receive LOVE because you won't feel worthy of having it. It's ironic.. we seek others to give us the love that we are so unwilling to give ourselves. We look for a partner to love us in a way that we have yet to learn, believing they are responsible to fill in what we lack.
If we can lower our defenses and allow ourselves to see that the love showered on us is truly a reflection of what we already are - we will feel that we are not only lovable but LOVE-ABLE and deserving of giving and receiving a love beyond our expectations.

Dating Tips-Does He Love Me?

2011-02-15T05:14:00.000-08:00

Does he love me? When you ask yourself this question, it only means one thing. You've gotten to a point in your relationship that you're certain the guy you like likes you back. But you're not sure if his feelings for you have deepened into love. Hopefully, the tips below can help you find out the real state of your relationship.

Does he love me if he wants us to live together?
Not always, but it's a good start. Commitment is a big thing for guys and they don't give up their privacy so easily. If your partner has asked you to live with him, then that's a very strong sign his feelings has gone beyond mere liking. It may not be at the same level as your feelings right now but be patient and it could get there.

Does he love me if he chooses to be with me over his friends?
Most likely! Never underestimate the bond between male friends. It goes very deep even if they don't seem terribly affectionate with each other. While it's common for a female to drop a girl's night out for a chance to be with her guy, it's not the same with boys. A guy's only going to do that when he really cares about a girl, and in this case that's you.

Does he love me if he remembers important dates?
Most likely! Guys are notorious for being forgetful about a girlfriend's birthday or their anniversary. But in many cases, it's really more of a subconscious desire not to think about those dates because it makes everything about the relationship more serious. And sometimes they're not just ready for that yet.
When a guy does go out of his way to commemorate the event - such as preparing a surprise candlelit dinner to celebrate your first year together - then that means he sees your relationship in a more serious and permanent level. It may not be what you've hoped for, but at least you're getting there. What matters is that your relationship is progressing.

Does he love me if he talks about the future with you in it?
Most likely! Why else would he involve you in his plans for the future if he can't envision himself spending the rest of his life with you? Listen closely to what he talks about the future. You'll be able to glean more clues about his feelings with the way he speaks of your future together. Has he mentioned anything about kids?

A Warning
In the end, of course, there's no better way to know the truth than by asking yourself. Instead of asking does he love me, go to your partner and ask him, 'do you love me?' Sometimes, it's the risk that you have to take. Just remember, however, that asking is different from nagging or forcing your partner to commit when he's not ready yet. It doesn't mean he won't ever be able to return your feelings. It only means he's not there yet and if you force his hand too early, this could backfire on you.

Top 10 Most Romantic Movies of All Time

2011-02-15T05:07:00.000-08:00

With Valentine's Day just around the corner, the thoughts of all couples, young and old turn to romance. With hearts and love floating through the air, people begin to plan that perfect gift or just what to do with the one they love, even if its just a quiet evening at home watching a romantic movie. To help with the decision, here's a top 10 list of some of the most romantic movies ever made.

1. Gone With The Wind
Starring Vivien Leigh and Clark Gable, this 10 time Academy award winner continues to be hailed as one of the world's greatest love stories as 70 years later, viewers are still swept up into the tumultuous and tempestuous passion between Southern belle, Scarlet O'Hara, and the dashing rogue, Rhett Butler against the background of the American Civil War.

2. An Officer and a Gentleman
Starring Debra Winger and Richard Gere, this is a phenomenal love story due to its realism and its exploration of the less romantic sides of life like deception, dissolution, inner strength, grief and determination. It is a story about a man determined to change his life. He enters office candidate training and discovers in himself an inner strength he never knew he had. He falls in love with a young factory worker, but like many others, tries to deny it. Realising his love for her, he returns and sweeps her off her feet and into the sunset.

3. Romeo And Juliet
The well known, and much loved Franco Zeffirelli version of the Bard's most famous play. A story of forbidden love, and of great tragedy. A town and two lovers divided by a feud between two families. Shakespeare's star-crossed lovers remains one of the most beautiful and well known love stories in the world as it has been for 400 years.

4. Casablanca
Starring movie legends Humphrey Bogart and Ingrid Bergman, Casablanca weaves together the story of love amongst war, intrigue and heroism. Featuring marital infidelity, Casablanca reminds us of the choices to be made when morality and love collide. In the movie, Bogart is forced to make the decision to let his love go, for the sake of his marriage, giving us one of the most famous farewell scenes ever recorded.

5. The Notebook
One of the more recent movies on our list, The Notebook, starring Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams, has all the elements of the best love stories. The angst, young love, love lost and then found again, and true, happy ever after love in old age. This film carries the belief that love truly is worth living for, as well as dying for. And what love is really meant to be.

6. Love Story
This film showcases the sacrifices that two people who love each other are willing to make, no matter the cost and despite all the odds. Starring Ali McGraw and Ryan O'Neal, this film is a real tear jerker.

7. My Fair Lady
When Professor Higgins (Rex Harrison) takes on the job of teaching guttersnipe Eliza Doolittle (Audrey Hepburn) how to be a lady by refining her manners and speech, neither guessed that love and romance would follow.... Even though it takes them a while to figure it out.

8. When Harry Met Sally
Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan play out the love/hate relationship so common in reality in this movie. Rich in humor, this movie also explored the long term friendship between a man and a woman.

9. Ever After
Ever After takes the traditional romance and love story of Cinderella and puts a more modern twist to it. Drew Barrymore makes a beautiful Cinderella, and Anjelica Houston was made for the role of the evil stepmother.

10. Titanic
Kate Winslet and Leonardo DiCaprio recreate a sweet, but doomed romance aboard the decks of this tragic ship in this reenactment of the the happenings of that grief-laden day in April 1912

Getting Your Ex Boyfriend's Attention Again By Anthony Malibu Platinum Quality Author

2011-01-30T10:43:00.000-08:00

An unwanted break up can be hard on you: physically, emotionally, and mentally too. The most common reaction to your boyfriend dumping you is the same everywhere around the world: hopelessness, despair, feeling depressed and completely miserable. You're certainly not alone, and entitled to feel this way. However, wallowing in post-breakup misery isn't going to help you get your boyfriend back.
Too many women immerse themselves in a hopelessly depressed role. They're not seeking pity, but they often find it... and pity can sometimes feel good. But while being comforted by this pity, either through friends or family, what you're really doing is pushing yourself further and further away from your exboyfriend. Because as much as the crying works in making those who love you feel badly for your situation, it doesn't help in making your ex want to date you again. And in fact, it has an opposite effect.

Negativity is unattractive, all-around. By submerging yourself in the hopelessness of your current situation, you're giving off bad vibes. In short, no guy wants to take back a miserable crying wreck of an exgirlfriend. Instead of embracing the negative aspects of your break up, you should be pushing past it and into a more positive frame of mind. Grab a piece of paper and write out all the good things being single will bring to your life. For example, you'll have more time to yourself, you can take up new (and old) hobbies, you can spend lots more time with friends and family. You can go new places and meet new people, and you can do things that might not have been possible with a boyfriend at your side.

They say living well is the best revenge... and it's also one of the best ways of getting your ex boyfriend's attention again. Imagine his reaction: instead of sitting home upset and crushed as he expects you to be, you're out laughing it up and having a great time - as if the end of your relationship hasn't affected you at all. Try to think back to the beginning of your relationship and remember what made you attractive to your boyfriend in the first place. You were probably fun, funny, and irresistible. These are traits that guys go after... so what makes you think your ex will take you back if all you're doing is hanging back in desperation and misery? The answer is he won't.

Creating sparks is what made your boyfriend date you in the first place, so concentrate on making those sparks fly once again. Maybe not between you and him - you'll need to give him some space first - but between you and anyone you interact with. This doesn't mean you should date or flirt with other guys specifically to make your ex jealous, but it does mean you shouldn't hinder or limit yourself simply because you want your ex back. Remember that he broke up with you, so you're under no obligation to follow any rules or regulations that might be lingering in your mind after your break up. The best rule to follow is that you should be having fun, moving forward, and trying not to think about your ex boyfriend. Do this right, and he's going to immediately notice it... and start thinking about you again.

Over time, the fact that you jumped right back into the saddle will be attractive to your ex. He'll realize that maybe you didn't rely on him as much as he figured. You've got your own life, friends, and independent spirit. This might've been something he didn't see in you during the final weeks of your relationship, and maybe he missed it. Chances are you missed it too. By looking your best and letting him know you're enjoying life, you're also giving him a good view of what he's missing out on if he continues the break up.

This will cause your ex to make a choice: go back out with you again, or risk losing you completely. If he's got any love left in his heart from you (and odds are good that he does), your ex will begin taking steps back in your direction. Allowing him to think getting back together is his idea is crucial to making your new relationship last when the two of you do build a future together again.

He Doesn't Feel a Spark Anymore - How to Recapture Your Man's Attention

2011-01-30T10:40:00.000-08:00

You're crazy about your guy but there's one major problem in your relationship. He doesn't feel a spark anymore. That's not to say he doesn't love you but something has certainly changed for him. The days when he couldn't get enough of you are gone and have been replaced by a quiet and almost boring sense of comfort. He's a man after all and we all know that most men thrive on excitement and the unexpected. If your guy has told you that the spark isn't there anymore, you can change it. You have the ability to transform your relationship so he feels the same way about you now that he did when he first met you.
When he tells you that he doesn't feel a spark anymore the last thing you should do is try and convince him otherwise. If you start pleading your case and trying to explain to him why he should be as wild about you now as he was when you two first got together, he's going to see that as pathetic and desperate. You'll appear to have absolutely no self esteem and men aren't drawn to women like that. You have to handle this as the mature and emotionally strong woman that you are. That means you're going to show the man just watch an amazing catch you really are.

You have to do something that he doesn't expect you to do if you want him to feel captivated by you again. That means you're going to muster up all the self confidence you have and you're going to pull back a bit from him. You have to do this without all the fanfare of making a big announcement about how things are going to change now that you now he's not as into you as he once was. All you're going to do is pull back and let his mind start to wonder what's going on with you. You'll still be as sweet and kind as you always were but you won't be as available or accessible anymore.

Once a woman shows a man that she's not always going to be right there for him, he'll sit up and take more notice of her. He'll learn to appreciate her and everything she brings to his life. Suddenly she's incredibly interesting again because she's just out of his reach. Keeping him on his toes is the way to make him feel a spark again so do that by creating a little distance in a very subtle way. The man won't be able to contain himself as he starts chasing after you again.

Cute Ways of Asking a Guy to Dance - Follow These Tips to Always Get a Positive Response

2011-01-29T10:36:00.000-08:00

Guys are expected to make the first move each time. This is because they're known to love the game of pursuit. But then, if you're in a dance and you're already aching to dance with this cute guy that you saw there, would you just let the opportunity pass?

Your confidence will score high.
You must have a high level of confidence so that you'll have sufficient guts to do this task. You can never ask him to dance with you if you don't even believe that he'll agree to step with you to the dance floor.

Let go of any insecurities.
Showing signs of anxiousness would make him think that you're highly insecure. This is a glaring red flag for any man, because more often than not, those who show signs of insecurity are those who would nag and cling in the future.
The most obvious way.
Just like a man asking a girl out to a dance, there's really nothing to it if you treat it like it's another ordinary task. Just go up to him and ask - it's that simple. Use a guy's common line - "I was wondering if you would like to go to the dance with me." So was that difficult?

Be in the same sporting event.
Let this guy see that you're also a baseball enthusiast. Be there during the most important game of the season. Cheer with the rest of the crowd, shout, chant! Once he sees that you're also a big fan of the team that he supports, then he's more likely to agree to go to the dance with you!
Bake a special Will-you-go-to-the-dance-with-me cake for him.
You may also want to impress him with your baking skills. Bake your yummiest chocolate cake and place your invitation on top. It would be foolish for any man to say no to such an invitation.

Corner him.
With much confidence bottled in you, just go ahead and approach him. Just wait for that moment when all his guy friends are no longer surrounding him. Be composed as you go to him and ask him. So as not to feel nervous, you may want to plan on what your opening line would be and what other things you're going to discuss with him.

Ask when he's having a lot of fun.
Just when everyone is having fun and frolicking, and he's laughing his heart out, just casually blurt out your intent. He may choke on his glass of orange juice but it will be a welcome surprise that he's gonna embrace. He might even find your approach cute and he definitely won't say no.

How Do You Know If You Should Give a Guy Space? Here's How to Accurately Tell When You Should

2011-01-29T10:33:00.000-08:00

All relationships go through a phase when both partners realize that they're stuck. When you come to this point, you may think that giving a man his space is the best solution, but is it? How do you know that this is now the perfect moment to give him space? So when, exactly, should you let him take a little sabbatical?

When you feel that you're living with a stranger in the house.
When he starts acting weird and his sweetness has begun to wane, then it could only mean that his mind is drifting someplace else. He's placid because he's preoccupied with something - hopefully not someone else!

When he has a blank expression on his handsome face.
If you're used to seeing his face so full of life and happiness and now all you're seeing is Mister Doom and Gloom, then it's high time that you let him off the hook...for now. If he won't talk about it then that could only mean that he doesn't want you to get involved because he wants to solve this on his own.

When his friends know but you don't.
There's obviously something wrong but he won't talk about it. Yet you've heard from his friends how he has opened up to them. This is really hurtful so you've got to show him that you're not - at all - pleased. Tell him to have his time off and to come back when he's finally ready to talk!
When he starts keeping secrets from you.
A guy who isn't normally secretive but who is now starting to do hush-hush things is obviously trying to conceal something. Whatever it is, whether he's just trying to come up with a surprise for you or if he's having personal issues, it really doesn't matter. Just let him off the hook so that he can concentrate on solving whatever's bothering him.

When he seems to snap at the least amount of annoyance.
Yet another odd behavior is when he starts to get annoyed at you for the minutest matters. Ask him if he's having overtime later and he'd readily snap at you. He'll suddenly tell you that you're already controlling him!

When he can't explain what's bothering him.
Be thankful if you still have a guy who respects you enough to gently tell you that he can't talk about his dilemma. If he tells you that this is something that he has to do or solve on his own, then let him. Don't get in the way. Let him have his space so that he can finally get over it.

When he prefers to lock himself up.
Be seriously bothered if your man starts to distance himself from you more often now. Locking himself up means that something serious is going on but he really can't talk about it. You may be able to coax him to come out of the room but he'll never be as talkative as he usually is.

That's a question you never thought you'd be searching for an answer to, is it? You thought that your relationship was unlike any other and was on a completely different level. You imagined that few people would get to experience a love as intense and fulfilling as the one you share with your guy. But now, something has changed. He's not as invested in the relationship as he used to be. You call him and he doesn't pick up or you make arrangements to see him and he cancels out at the last minute. You're beginning to feel neglected and forgotten. You need to address this now before your guy pulls so far away that he decides that he wants to break up with you. The most common reason why a man starts to pull away from his girlfriend may surprise you. It has little to do with him finding an interest in someone else. In actuality men become bored quite easily with most things in life including relationships. If you two have settled into a routine and the excitement and passion are long gone, that can be enough for him to start to emotionally detach from you. As shallow as that sounds, it's unfortunately sometimes how relationships unravel. If you've noticed your boyfriend making comments about how bored he is or how you two never go out and have fun anymore, that's the likely reason behind his desire to pull back. As difficult as it is to face the fact that your relationship has changed, it's actually easy to shift things back to a better place. All you have to do is spice things up and make him feel a bit off balance. You can do that by becoming a wee bit mysterious and unpredictable. Start planning dates for you and your guy. Think outside the traditional box with this and pick things that you know he would never expect. It's also a great idea to change your schedule a bit so he can't always predict when he'll see you. Stop sharing every small detail about what's going on in your life with him. Let him guess a little and that alone will keep him captivated. You're going to soon discover that when a man doesn't feel he has a complete and utter hold on you, that's when he can't get enough of you again. Mix things up a bit and watch his interest in you explode.

2011-01-28T10:30:00.000-08:00

Pick up lines for girls and guys are a set of words, usually used to begin a conversation, with an unknown and unfamiliar person, with the intent to create humor, love or romantic approach. Nowadays pick up lines are most commonly used for romantic purposes. These lines are a used to express feelings and emotions to the each other. The speaker has to be really smart and witty, in using the lines, otherwise he or she may lose the opportunity to capture the listener. Guys should always remember that by flirtatious pickup lines, you cannot impress girls. Be honest and truthful when approach any women.

There are thousands of men and women tying to find their perfect match, through online dating, match making services etc. Yet they fail, because of lack of effective conversation ability. These lines will develop a self-confidence in you which will let you face your partner. There are different types of pick up lines for girls and guys. Most of them are humorous and romantic, few cheesy.
Romantic pick up lines:

1. It's not my fault I fell in love. You are the one that tripped me.
2. There's just one thing that you eyes haven't told me yet....your name.
3. You can fall off a building, you can fall off a tree, but baby, the best way to fall is in love with me.

Funny pick up lines:
1. Do you have raisins? No. How about a date?
2. I hope there's a fireman around, cause you're smokin'!
3. You must be Jamaican, cause Jamaican make me crazy

Cheesy pick up lines:
1. When God made you, he was showing off!
2. I must be a snowflake cause I have fallen for you.
3. What time do you have to be back in heaven?
Whether or not these lines for girls and guys works, is up to the speaker who delivers it in a promising manner to the listener. Otherwise these lines would simply mock yourself. So guys and girls, have fun with these pick up lines.

Why Is My Boyfriend Pulling Away From Me? Understand What He's Thinking

2011-01-28T10:15:00.000-08:00

That's a question you never thought you'd be searching for an answer to, is it? You thought that your relationship was unlike any other and was on a completely different level. You imagined that few people would get to experience a love as intense and fulfilling as the one you share with your guy. But now, something has changed. He's not as invested in the relationship as he used to be. You call him and he doesn't pick up or you make arrangements to see him and he cancels out at the last minute. You're beginning to feel neglected and forgotten. You need to address this now before your guy pulls so far away that he decides that he wants to break up with you.

The most common reason why a man starts to pull away from his girlfriend may surprise you. It has little to do with him finding an interest in someone else. In actuality men become bored quite easily with most things in life including relationships. If you two have settled into a routine and the excitement and passion are long gone, that can be enough for him to start to emotionally detach from you. As shallow as that sounds, it's unfortunately sometimes how relationships unravel.

If you've noticed your boyfriend making comments about how bored he is or how you two never go out and have fun anymore, that's the likely reason behind his desire to pull back. As difficult as it is to face the fact that your relationship has changed, it's actually easy to shift things back to a better place. All you have to do is spice things up and make him feel a bit off balance. You can do that by becoming a wee bit mysterious and unpredictable.

Start planning dates for you and your guy. Think outside the traditional box with this and pick things that you know he would never expect. It's also a great idea to change your schedule a bit so he can't always predict when he'll see you. Stop sharing every small detail about what's going on in your life with him. Let him guess a little and that alone will keep him captivated. You're going to soon discover that when a man doesn't feel he has a complete and utter hold on you, that's when he can't get enough of you again. Mix things up a bit and watch his interest in you explode.