DD's Dating Techniques

The Quickest Way To The Bedroom With Her

2010-10-18T23:40:00.000-07:00

***DATING QUESTION FROM READER***

Dave,

WOW!!!! Thats all I can say. I've been getting
your emails for several months and have since
downloaded your book. I've committed myself to
improving my "skills" with women and the results
have been amazing. The "Crash and Burn" that most
guys are sooo fearful of NEVER happens and very
rarely does a girl give you anything but a smile
even if she isn't interested. My latest success
was so easy it was almost scary. I met a woman
(an 8.5 at least) in a local bar and used the c/f
to get her number and set up a date. Went out on
the date and it was almost like it was scripted.
Pushed the c/f to the extreme all night, teased
her, drove her completely crazy and left her house
at 5:00 am the next morning. Here's the thing,
using this material you will very often hear,
"Oh... I can't believe I'm doing this..I never do
this kind of thing." Usually I laugh hysterically
inside, and respond with the heart felt, "Oh I
know, don't worry about it." The problem is with
this girl it was different. First, even using
your vast knowledge, I didn't expect to be able to
get this far with this girl on the first date. She
had that intangible "it" that really attracted me
to her and I actually don't think that under
normal circumstances she would have taken a guy
home but.... most guys don't have the benefit of
the "David DeAngelo Jedi Mind Tricks" either
(lol). Anyway this was Saturday and I called her
Monday just to say hi. She was soooo nervous and
uncomfortable she could barely complete a
sentence. Obviously with everything that happened
I think she was a bit embarrassed and, that's to
be expected, but now I'm not sure how to handle
this situation. I'm afraid now that if I'm not
REALLY careful that I'll screw up a chance with a
great woman. I get the feeling that she needs a
little reassurance that this wasn't just a one
night stand, but I'm not sure if that's the right
thing to do or if it is, how to do it without
coming off like a WUSS BAG! I think this girl
could be worth some effort.........PLEASE HELP!!!
Thanks for everything, JH Monroe LA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a great story, and your story
illustrates all kinds of interesting things. I'd like to
comment on a few of them before I actually answer
your question.

The first thing I'd like to comment on is this
illogical progression of how you went from meeting
this girl to being intimate so fast.

To begin with, you acted Cocky & Funny, and
teased her... "to the extreme", which somehow resulted in
her spending the night with you.

Now, at first glance, this makes absolutely no
sense at all... I mean, why would a woman who is
obviously very attractive and "in demand" want to
get physical with a guy that isn't buying her
things, giving her compliments, and generally
kissing her ass all night long?

The answer, of course, is that ATTRACTIVE WOMEN
DON'T ACTUALLY WANT A GUY TO DO THESE WUSSY THINGS
IN THE FIRST PLACE!

Unfortunately for most guys, our cultures,
religions, and mothers have programmed us to be
"nice guys" when we're around women we feel
attracted to.

This does two things:

1. Hands all of your power over to the woman.

2. DESTROYS any ATTRACTION that might be present.

Again, I know it's illogical, but attractive
women have AMAZING gut level emotional ATTRACTION
responses to men who CHALLENGE them and who act
UNPREDICTABLE in a particular way.

Part of creating this illogical and desirable
response is knowing how to use arrogance and humor
together in a formula I call "Cocky & Funny"
(which you obviously get).

Of course, there's a lot more to it, but the
key is that you have to STOP DOING WHAT ISN'T
WORKING... namely, being a NICE WUSSY BOY.

If you're reading this right now, and you're
one of those guys who thinks that women are attracted
to "nice guys", then think again, and read THIS:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

The second thing I'd like to comment on is when
she said:

"Oh...I can't believe I'm doing this...I never
do this kind of thing."

I've talked to a lot of guys who are VERY
successful with women about this particular
phenomenon, and they all say similar things.

It seems that whenever a woman is going to get
"physical" quickly, they have to rationalize it
"out loud" first.

Sometimes a woman will say "I'm not like this"
or something similar to slow things down and try
to explain away what's happening.

Don't let it bother you.

Of course, if a woman says, "stop" or she
actually tries to stop you from kissing her (or
anything else), then you need to STOP immediately.
I'm not suggesting at all that you don't respect a
woman's wishes.

But, you also need to understand that just
because a woman is SAYING that "she doesn't
usually do things like this", that it doesn't mean
she doesn't WANT to.

The final point I'd like to comment on before
answering your question, is this response that she
had when you called her back. You mentioned that
she was so nervous and uncomfortable that she
couldn't complete a sentence.

I have seen this exact same thing, and I have
several friends who have told me stories just like
this.

It seems to me that when an attractive woman
who is used to being the one in control meets a
guy who is super confident, Cocky & Funny,
unpredictable, and NOT EASILY CONTROLLED, it
freaks her out.

Sometimes she literally doesn't know what to
do, and she doesn't know how to act. Often, she
will be self-conscious about the fact that she
"got physical" so soon, or about some other
thing... but it really comes down to the fact that
she just doesn't know how to deal with you.

This is a great place to be, and don't let it
bother you when it happens.

And now, to answer your question... of how to
handle this situation.

First of all, don't start acting TOO
DIFFERENTLY.

If you start acting all nice and lovey, you'll
come across in a way that will be confusing... and
it will probably make her run.

If you want this to turn into something more,
then you need to be cool and calm about EVERYTHING
that happens.

If she seems nervous, just relax and make a
joke about it.

With attractive women, it's always a good idea
to "lean back" and give her space.

As a rule of thumb, call her half as much as
you would normally call a woman, and see her half
as much... at least for the first few weeks.

GIVE HER THE GIFT OF MISSING YOU.

And if you're going to be "nice", then BE VERY
CAREFUL AND DON'T DO TOO MUCH TOO SOON!

When the average guy meets a really attractive
woman that is "different" from the others... one
that he wants to have a relationship with... he
usually starts doing too much. He buys gifts,
calls all the time, and gives lots of compliments.

As you know, this is SUPER SIZE WUSS BOY
behavior, and it usually results in the woman
running away.

In other words, you must not let her nervous
state affect YOUR state or YOUR behavior.

KEEP DOING WHAT WORKS.

...and if you're reading this right now and
thinking to yourself "You know, I need to learn
this stuff about how to meet and attract women...
and how to take things to a physical level fast",
then YOU'RE RIGHT!

I think that every man should invest in
himself, and learn this skill.

Unfortunately, most guys never take the time
and invest in themselves... and they wind up going
their whole lives WISHING that they could attract
the kinds of women that they want.

Well, I used to be one of the guys who didn't
know what he was doing with women. Now I'm one of
the guys who can go out anytime, in any situation
and attract women.

What's the difference?

I TOOK THE TIME TO LEARN.

And if you'd like to learn, then I recommend
you learn the things that I learned FIRST.

It's taken me a long time to figure all this
stuff out, and it's also taken a lot of time,
effort, and energy on my part to put it all down
on paper and on audio and video... so that any guy
can learn from the things I've discovered.

I'd like to personally invite you to check out
my materials. In a matter of hours you can learn
things that it took me YEARS to figure out... all
from the comfort and privacy of your own home.

If you'd like to learn more about sex and
sexuality, then you MUST get your hands on a copy
of my "Power Sexuality" DVD/CD program.

Inside this program you will learn how to build
an incredible SEXUAL CONFIDENCE that will not only
make women feel more ATTRACTION for you... but it
will also help you take things to a "physical
level" much more smoothly and easily.

Go check out some free video preview clips, and
get all the details here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/PowerSexuality

If you're having challenges building up your
"Inner Game", and overcoming fears... then you
should also check out my Deep Inner Game DVD
program.

This is the ultimate "tool box" for fixing
those challenging Inner Game issues... and you can
only get it here:

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And if you're reading this right now, and you
haven't downloaded your copy of my eBook Double
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I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

How To "Impress" Her On A Date

2010-10-18T23:39:00.002-07:00

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

I am a good looking guy but never really got the
chicks i wanted, only got ones that wanted me.
That is history now thanks to your material..

In the lecture hall a chick asks me pointing "is
that free?" (meaning the seat next to me coz the
hall was full)... i made it out she was pointing
at my lap and i said.. "No you can't sit on my
lap, how about this seat?!". she cracks up
laughing and sits down.

I tease her hard at the interval, and after
lecture she asks me if i am single. To which i
reply "Yeah, i suppose i have space for one
more!!"- she giggles and calls me naughty.

She texts me all the time now and we plan to do a
proper hook up next week....life is great!

I noticed you can use C&F in doses, just 5 good
hits and you're in. Rest of the time just sit back
and enjoy having a "normal" conversation.

Anybody else noticed this?

J.D. London, England.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You've made a great point here...

If you start off the interaction with a woman
in the right way, you'll form a "first impression"
that will cause her to see ANYTHING you do from
then on in the context of the "Cocky & Funny"
attitude that you've demonstrated.

I personally think it's a good idea if you keep
up the Cocky & Funny, easing off as you start
having more and more conversation. But, don't stop
entirely, because at some point you'll begin to
lose the magnetic challenge that worked for you in
the first place.

This is another reminder that once a woman
thinks of you in a particular way, she's likely to
think of you in that way for a LONG time.

And if you start out by acting like a WUSSY,
then she's going to assume that you will ALWAYS
act like one, and run.

***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Hey Dave,

A casual "playmate" of mine just turned me on to
you and your sage advice and I must admit that
it's terribly accurate. Nothing is sexier than
confidence and if a man can tie it all up with a
funny bow, all the better!!!

Speaking of being tied up, I'm a very submissive
woman behind closed doors but outside of the
bedroom I tend to employ the c&f approach myself
(it's reflex - I come by it naturally). My
question is how do I put these two aspects of my
personality together to achieve optimum success
out there in the dating world?

L. from Vancouver

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Um, well the first thing you do is SEND ME
PICTURES AND GIVE ME YOUR PHONE NUMBER.

I recommend PERSONAL COACHING from me...
nothing else will do. It really is a must.

Your challenge is going to be finding a man who
is a match to you. It's not going to be easy...

(I love my job, by the way.)

***QUESTION***

Dave,

Alright, just bought your book a few weeks ago and
have devoured it twice over! Great stuff in there!
The ladies LOVE this stuff! Now, like they say,
WHEN IT RAINS IT POURS!

I have more ladies than I can handle, being a very
busy college student. Needless to say, I find
time!

Now, my question here is on jealousy:

If Girl A sees me out with Girl B, given Girl A
likes me enough, will this jealousy INCREASE Girl
A's attraction to me? Or, for that matter, Girl A
knowing anything about me being involved with any
other girl? I ask this b/c I'm a little more
attracted to Girl A than the others but still want
to "get to know" the others!! What do you say,
Dave?

Thanks, dk

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Jealousy is an interesting emotion.

Some believe that it's the most POWERFUL
emotion.

Generally speaking, if a woman knows that
you're seeing other women, it will make you more
attractive.

But you must be careful.

Jealousy can make people crazy... and it can
lead otherwise normal people to do all kinds of
insane things. If you make the wrong person
jealous, they can turn into a stalker...

That said, my perspective is that you need to
live your life and not worry about what others
think of you.

This trait will lead to women finding you more
attractive in and of itself.

If you're always worrying about whether a woman
will be upset because she sees you out with
another woman, then you'll be acting like a wussy
all night because you're scared.

On the other hand, if you could care less what
others think of you, then it will project into all
other areas of your behavior, and will lead to
other good things.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Hey big D-

I've been getting your newsletter for a while now,
and man has it helped- you're a genius! Every
Friday night I go out to parties, but there's
usually the same people there, so they'd notice if
I drastically changed how I act, so I've been
working in your techniques bit by bit, and most
everyone just thinks I'm finally coming out of my
shell.

Last Friday night I was there and there was this
new girl from another school- she'd never seen me
before, so I figured I had nothing to lose. I
went over to her and went all out. She was
wearing one of those shirts that's just a strap in
the back- basically a half-shirt. I walked right
up to her and said, "Ya know, when someone wears
that kind of thing, it can only mean one thing."
She pulled one of those half-smile "I'm hot and I
know it- just give me your stupid line and go
away" looks. So I said, "It means you can't
afford an entire shirt, and you were just hoping
no one would notice since it's dark in here."
Needless to say, she was caught off guard. She
started to get a mad look on her face, so I gave
her crap about not being able to take a joke, and
mentioned that it's a good thing she could at
least afford an entire pair of pants. Finally she
laughed, and said, "What, you don't like my
shirt?" and kind of pouted. So I said, "It's not
bad, but it'd look even better on the floor of my
bedroom." Ya know, those really cheezy pick up
lines can actually work if you deliver them
sarcastically so the girl knows you're making fun
of people that use them for real. Another kind of
backward logic that works, so ya just use it, I
guess. Anyway, about a minute later I got her to
give me her e-mail address and number, and I
walked away. A couple days later I sent her an e-
mail saying it was nice to meet her and if she
wanted to see me I'd be there the next week. She
replied the same day saying she'd be there - and
that's tonight. I'm off to go there now, so I'll
be sure to fill you in on how things go on our
"second time."

Thanks again, David! T in CO

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Love it! Great work, and good job sticking it
out through those first couple of minutes of
conversation.

***COMMENT***

Hey whats going on Dave?

I don't have a question, cause i have the C/F down
patt. So the other night i decided to take it a
little further. I was with this girl and then
after a while, i knew that she wanted to start to
get busy, so I TEASED HER!!!! I don't wanna get
into much boring detail, but I made her want it
more, it was like i owned her. It was great. And
the best part here, I've only received now 2 e-
mails from you. The 2nd one was the one with
questions and stories... and i got it the day
after. What can i say, I'm a natural. Thanks
Dave, keep the e-mails coming... soon to get the
book.

A Saskatoon, SK

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ah, a man who gets it.

It's hard for most guys to lean back and not
give a woman what she wants in the moment.

But, if you can just hold back, tease, and let
the anticipation build up... and learn how to
amplify a woman's feelings by doing this, you'll
get so much further, so much faster.

On the other hand, if you try to keep pushing
forward always, you'll run into resistance at
every turn... and wind up frustrated because she's
telling you to stop.

Nice moves.

***QUESTION***

Hows it goin, Dave? Just wanted to start off by
saying I've read your book and the c&f techniques
have worked wonders. But, lately I've been having
a bit of a problem. See I've had this one girl
who has been my good friend for a few years now,
and shes always set me up with her friends etc.
ppl always joke about how we should get married
and everything and we just laugh... but lately im
realizing that i really do like her. I'm at a
total loss on how i should confront her (the 3-5
minute c&f routine doesn't really apply here!),
and need some tips/ideas from turning a 'just
friend' into a girlfriend.

Thanks in advance,

--CJ from Austin

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, you're an interesting guy.

Most guys who have a golden goose (her) that is
laying (no pun intended) golden eggs (her friends)
wouldn't be so quick to try to hook up.

Think about what you're risking here...

If things don't work out with her, you're going
to most likely be out of luck as far as the
getting hooked up with the girlfriends... and
you'll probably lose her as a friend as well.
These things aren't certainties, but they're a
pretty good bet.

If you want to see if she's interested in you,
try using the Kiss Test on her (it's on the second
page of my main web site, and in my book). It
works wonders.

***QUESTION***

Hello Dave,

I totally agree that success with women only comes
when you actually grab your balls, go out and do
something about it - you actually need to IMPROVE
in all of the ways possible. Just recently i've
been concentrating on training my voice.

What advice would you give on how to best train
your voice so it is "attractive" to women - and
generally conveys self-confidence and control? By
the way you sound great on your seminar CDs.

B London

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, let's summarize what you've said here:

1) You grab your balls when you go out to meet
women.

2) You like the way my voice sounds.

I'm not sure about you, dude.

lol... the best things you can do to train your
voice are:

1) Speak slowly and clearly.

2) Put more bass in your voice... talk in a lower
register.

3) Use pauses for effect.

Just as important as the VOICE is your "Body
Language" and gestures. In fact your voice tone
and your Body Language make up almost ALL of the
stuff that makes a woman feel ATTRACTION for you.
More great tips on this stuff are here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/BodyLanguage

***QUESTION***

You are the man. i think people should put a
monument for u. the C&F routine had worked wonders
for me. im actually now getting digits and e-mail.
But this C&F routine got me thinkin. your great
methods are now probably in the hands of a million
guys or even more, so if two guys playing the C&F
on the same girl, who will she choose? like i
mean, do we have then add another part to our
character? And another question, wont these babes
get tired of us guys of approaching them with the
same C&F routine??? i think they will need
something different in their lives so wont they go
for the jerks or some other people???? u gotta
answer these questions for the sake of
humanity!!!!

U.W Israel

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, for the sake of humanity, here's the
deal:

Most guys just want to meet a nice girl and
settle down into a relationship. My materials help
guys do that FASTER than they would have before,
and date more women in the process, so they
eventually meet a BETTER girl in which to have a
relationship than they would have before.

And you don't have to worry... there are plenty
of women out there.

***QUESTION***

Dear Dave,

I want to thank you for all of the help. I admit,
I used to be a Wussy. I know this now. But I
recently started working at a store and found a
lady there to be very attractive. I had never
asked a lady out before, because of my shyness,
and being use to them just confronting me or
having their friends do it. I was ready for a
change in this and decided to use your techniques.
I used your techniques and simply asked the lady
out with a C&F approach. Needless to say, after
work tonight we were eating out and SHE actually
requested we go to a more 'Private' location
nearby. I kept the C&F routine rolling all night.
Having to be at work the next morning we decided
to head for home. Keeping up the C&F routine I
ended up with her number and she suggested that we
go out the next night (tomorrow night). I learned
a lot about her and these bring me to some
questions.

She wanted to talk about our lives the whole
night. I kept up the 'Is this a job interview?'
stance and kept off of the normal subjects. But
she kept coming back to these subjects. How do
you get off of these subjects/questions if they
keep insisting? Also, she and I are religious
people, and I am not after the normal 'one thing.'
I'm after a relationship. Keeping in mind that we
are both religious, but sex is not out of the
question completely, how do I still make her feel
attracted to me? I also want to say thank you for
bringing light to the subject of women and God
Bless you for all of the help. You are simply THE
MAN!

Many thanks, Grateful Virginia

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I think you're on the right track.

If you're looking for a relationship with this
woman, and you're not going to have sex with her
before that point or before marriage, then you're
OK talking about "normal" topics.

The Cocky & Funny material will only make you
more attractive to her, so make sure you ask HER
the kinds of questions you want the answers to,
and make sure that SHE is the right girl for you.

Thanks for the email.

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave.

I've read your book and i totally agree with your
C&F attitude (it has worked for me). Anyway, here
are some facts about me:I'm 21 yo, live in Greece,
really handsome,never done a PICK UP(get her
number). Although i look older and...experienced,
I'm quite inexperienced with women. I'd appreciate
if you answered a specific question. Here is the
situation i have been maaany times:I'm sitting
with a friend of mine in a cafeteria. 3 or 4
meters away there is a table with 2-3 girls
chatting or playing a board game.I "catch" one of
them staring at me with that silly expression that
says"I LIKE YOU".What should i do?I should
immediately stand up and approach their table with
confidence. Then what?I'd like you to tell me the
EXACT words i should use.

I look forward to hear from you.

Aris P.

P.S. Please forget about the email. The target
here is clear: Her mobile phone number

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, this is going to sound simple... and it
is.

The first thing you need to understand is that
if a woman likes you, then she's VERY likely to
give you her phone number, email address, or
whatever. I even know a guy who gets women's
addresses and a map to their house when he first
meets them. Really.

You need to just start talking to women.

Walk over to the table, say, "Hi" to one of the
girls, and then ask her a few questions about
herself. Finally, say "It was nice talking to
you... I'm going to get back to my friends." As
you turn to walk away, turn back and say, "Hey! Do
you have a mobile phone?" If she says "yes", then
give her a pen, and say "Write down your number,
I'd like to talk to you again."

It really is that simple.

You need to do that about 100 times in the next
month.

You'll learn so much that you won't believe it.
Do it!

***QUESTION***

Dave,

I bought your book about a month ago and I have
used some of your techniques to success. There is
this girl I like at my bank and who I thought
liked me. The problem is I let the beauty get the
best of me. I bought your book after I met her in
hopes to getting her. Well I used some charm by
dropping a card through the drive through and
writing if she wanted to go out Sunday night. Let
me tell ya she melted and told me that no one has
ever did that for her before. She told me to give
her my number and that she would call me for
Sunday night. Well Sunday rolled around and she
didn't call but the next time I saw her she turned
red and greeted me with a smile and the apologetic
excuse that I was away this weekend and I feel so
bad I didn't call you and then she bowed her head
and said she was sorry but didn't say she would
call. I asked two of my friends one c+f guy who
has great success with girls and he said you
should have told her "playing hard to get" and
laugh at her excuse to get her thinking. While my
other friend who seems like a wuss at times but
also gets laid quite often said to be up front and
say what happened and lets try again. What do you
think I should do? Should I say anything? Its been
a month but I see her about 3X a week at the bank.
Plus she is always telling the other tellers I
look hot by the way I dress--Armani guy and that I
am well off because I drive a real nice SUV. My
gut feeling is to move on. Thanks.

J in Ct.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, at this stage in the game, I'd recommend
that you ALWAYS get her number and email.

You be the one to email and call her first.

This way you can follow up, and she knows that
you know how to get a hold of her.

The card and the asking her out on a "date" was
probably a little too much, in my opinion.

When you do things like this, you come across
as overly interested.

Better to say "Hey, give me your email", then
to email and suggest a cup of tea. Then, if tea
goes well, suggest something else... and so on.

Let things progress naturally, and don't come
on so strong in the beginning.

Here's what I'd do if I were you:

Next time you see her, say "OK, you're playing
hard to get, but it's not working on me (in a
funny way). Give me your email and number, and
I'll call you in a few days."

Then get her info, and wait a few days to call
her.

When you do reach her, tell her that she owes
you a cup of tea for being flaky. And make her pay
for it.

And make sure you don't act like a needy Wuss,
OK?

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

Your material rocks, after Henry Ford, you are the
man who has changed America. I have one huge
question. As you often say, women test a lot and
do it by many different ways. I recently have come
to a certain girl who we call, a woman player. At
some point, were everything I was doing was going
well, she just said "I love you". I know that
saying this on the first date for a guy is a no-
no, but what if she says it. I know that this time
it was a test, but what if this happens and the
girl is serious?

thank-you s-d

Quebec

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, if you are interesting enough, you're
going to have women saying things like "I love
you" all the time.

And, just like Hans Solo said to Princess Leia,
you need to say...

"I know."

Don't turn into Wussy Boy and say something
dumb like... "really?".

And by the way, if a woman is SERIOUS when she
says "I love you" on the first date, then you need
to be really, really careful... lol.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Hi Dave

Bought the book a couple of days ago, printed it
off yesterday (guess that defeats the point of e-
books, but it makes it easier to read sitting on
the toilet!) and read it. Went out on a date
yesterday evening, and suddenly I'm like a mind
reader...

Had a date Friday, before reading the book. She
said she doesn't even want to talk to me again.
Date last night (Sunday), was a bit cold and
wasn't opening up. Had a few beers, then told her
I could tell her things about herself that no-
one's ever told her before. Did a few minutes of
that, she melted and asked me was reading a
woman's mind my party trick! Bear in mind I only
picked this up from reading the book, and threw in
a bit of common sense and guess work into it to
make it sound good :-)

She went home to hers, I went back to mine. Asked
her to text me on my mobile when she got back
home. She done that. She's already emailed me this
morning too. Suddenly after all these years it's
starting to make sense...

Enough of my rambling, thank you for a damn fine
book. It's very early days, but already things are
changing.

Thanks again, keep up the good work!

A.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

It's funny, because I get a lot of emails from
guys who say things like "I downloaded your book
today, and I sat and read it all the way
through... then I went out and got a girl's
number", etc.

Of course, the best is when I get the success
stories like yours from guys who are taking the
materials, and using them to get responses from
women that they've never gotten before.

Great job...

Now, if you're ready to take your success with
women up about ten more notches, it's time for you
to get yourself a copy of my Advanced Dating
Techniques CD/DVD program.

This program is jam-packed with literally
hundreds and hundreds of fantastic concepts and
step-by-step techniques that will dramatically
increase your successes... far beyond where it is
right now.

You can watch some great sample video clips and
get all the details here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

And if you're reading this right now, and you
haven't downloaded my online eBook, you need to go
and do that RIGHT NOW. You can download it and
literally be reading it in a few minutes. Go
download it here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

And I'll talk to you soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

The Key To Making Her Laugh "With You" Not AT You

2010-10-18T23:39:00.001-07:00

Have you ever noticed that "funny guys" tend to
fall into two categories:

1) Dorky Funny - The type of guy that a woman
laughs AT (not WITH)

2) Confident Funny - The type of guy that not only
makes women laugh, but makes women laugh in a way
that ATTRACTS them

...?

So what's the DIFFERENCE between these two
types of guys?

Why is it that women find some guys "dorky"
even though they're LAUGHING?

What causes that "key difference"... where a
woman is laughing WITH you and not AT you?

More importantly, how can you actually USE
humor to create ATTRACTION?

As you already know from reading these
newsletters, I've developed a technique that I
call "Cocky & Funny"... and it is like MAGIC when
it comes to creating a powerful attraction with
women.

I have gotten so many questions about how to
use this technique, that I actually took the time
to create an entire AUDIO/VIDEO program on the
topic.

I call the program "Cocky Comedy" - and it's
the most powerful education available on how to
use humor to create attraction.

Did you know that MOST laughter is NOT in
response to something that's funny?

It's true.

Think about most of the things that people
laugh at... things like the weather... or like a
common experience... or a million other things...
NONE of which are FUNNY.

Laughter is not about humor. Not USUALLY, at
least.

Laughter is about TENSION and RELEASING
tension.

And I'd like to teach you how to create and
release tension... in a way that is both CHARMING
and FUNNY to women... and how to do this in a way
that makes conversations easy and natural... and
that ultimately creates a POWERFUL attraction.

Inside this program, I'll also teach you
different Cocky & Funny "lines" for every type of
situation with women - so you'll be prepared for
ANYTHING.

Take a minute and read this letter, learn a few
techniques, and watch the video clips of the
program:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/CockyComedy

I really believe that this program can help you
create powerful attraction with women.

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

Is "Confidence" Attractive To Women?

2010-10-13T09:17:00.001-07:00

***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER***

A success story with a question and lessons
learned the hard way.

Question: perhaps you have addressed this before,
but why do women choose unstable "losers" over
stable, "good guys" like me? One may noticed this
and labeled it the "SPCA" syndrome: "Society for
Prevention of Cruelty to Animals." In other words,
the woman goes for the "stray," not the "well-
bread."

I think it goes to the issue of challenge, which
has two aspects. One is "benign": the man has to
be a challenge in the sense that he is not too
available. Another, which is negative, is the man
is so "damaged" that he presents a challenge in
another, less benign way: the woman wants to "fix"
him. I heard Dr. Laura the other day, although I
usually cannot stand her. Some dimwit woman
called in and said she had been dating guy A, who
was nice, and was now dating A's friend, B, and
she did not know what to do. A was a good guy and
stable, B was a lowlife but was "exciting." Dr.
"Queen of Life" jumped all over her, asking this
genius how she would answer the same question if
her own daughter asked her that question. It was
clear by the idiot's "OK" after being given this
advice that she did not get the answer she wanted
and will probably stick with B.

Success story: Confidence.

1. Parents and religion. About 10 years ago, I
was dating a surgeon who was Jewish. I am not
Jewish, so that made a big difference and was
ultimately one of two factors leading to our
demise (the other was that I could not trust her).
She told me her parents did not approve of me
since I was non-Jewish. I just told her to her
face, "I don't care what your parents think. I'm
not here to please them." I think this took her
by surprise and increased her respect for me.

You my want to do columns on these if you have not
done so already: dealing with parents; dealing
with different religions.

2. Signs that you are confident. Every dating
advisor stresses male confidence. Watch the
woman's actions and listen to her words to detect
if your confidence is "showing" or "hitting." The
surgeon gave me two of the greatest compliments I
ever received, which confirmed that I was "doing
things right." Both were out of the blue. One:
"I can't figure you out." Two: "I never know
what you are going to do next."

Suggestions:

1. Criteria. Before arranging a blind date, be
sure to the extent possible that you ensure the
woman meets your "criteria." DO NOT BE SHY ABOUT
THIS. For example, a friend of mine (I will call
her "A"), working through a friend of hers ("B"),
set me up with a blind date I will call "Carol". I
drove about 30 minutes to meet the woman. When I
saw her, I immediately knew I did not like her
looks. The "clincher" occurred as we approached
the hostess, who asked us where we wanted to sit.
"Carol" immediately said something like, "I have
to sit somewhere I can smoke." At that point, the
date was effectively over because I am vehemently
nonsmoking. It is simply not negotiable with me.
So, we sat at a table to the side of the
restaurant instead of a waterfront table.

LESSON: neither my friend nor I remembered to
check for smoking. And, while I went ahead and had
the dinner, I lost about an hour's driving time
and the time and money for the meal with nothing
in return. The experience was a complete waste
except to re- learn the lesson: ensure the woman
is a nonsmoker.

Another interesting tactic would, after she said
something about smoking, be to say, "I'm sorry. I
did not realize you were a smoker. You know,
really, since I do not smoke the evening will be a
waste of your time and mine, so let's call it
quits." And then I should have then simply left.
The problem is that this action would have gotten
me in trouble with my good friend "A."

2. Eject after her infidelity. After you have
been dating a woman and the two of you have been
exclusive, at the first sign of her infidelity,
PUSH EJECT AND DUMP HERE. Infidelity is an
irreparable breach of trust and cannot be
repaired. I tried to fix a relationship after such
an incident, and she continued to remain in touch
with her "secondary lover." Despite advice to
dump her and her continuing affection toward me, I
held on for a few more months, which were
miserable, before finally pushing EJECT and
unilaterally dumping her with no warning or
discussion. The lesson is: pay attention to what
women DO, not to what they SAY.

C. J.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

First of all, thank you for taking the time to
think this through and for clearly communicating
the points you've made. You've brought up some
important ideas, and I'd like to comment on them.

ON THE DR. LAURA STORY AND YOUR QUESTION...

One of the things that Dr. Laura doesn't get in
this particular situation goes a little something
like this:

THE WOMAN IN THE STORY WASN'T USING LOGIC TO
DECIDE WHICH MAN TO FEEL ATTRACTED TO, SO TRYING
TO CONVINCE HER WITH LOGIC IS A WASTE OF TIME.

Now, you made some valid points about the woman
enjoying the "challenge" of the "stray" and/or of
the "unavailable" guy.

This is good stuff, and it's accurate.

But, the REAL key to this situation is that
ATTRACTION ISN'T A CHOICE. Attraction is a
POWERFUL EMOTIONAL and PHYSICAL response.

And, as you might know, when you're feeling a
powerful emotion, it's difficult, or in many
cases, almost impossible to override that emotion
with LOGIC.

The woman is clearly ATTRACTED to the
"lowlife", but she also knows in her MIND that she
"should" stay with the "stable nice guy".

EMOTION beats LOGIC any day of the week when it
comes to attraction and female behavior.

Being a challenge and being unavailable are
things that TRIGGER the emotion, but once it's
triggered then there's not much that a woman can
do about it.

And as you noticed, not even advice from the
"first lady" of relationship logic can change it.

So to answer your question, the reason why
women "choose" unstable losers over stable guys
like you is...

THEY DON'T CHOOSE AT ALL.

There is no logical "decision" being made. When
it comes to ATTRACTION, "choosing" doesn't even
come into play.

If you want women to feel that powerful emotion
called ATTRACTION for you, then you need to learn
how to communicate and behave in the way that
TRIGGERS ATTRACTION.

Are you with me on this? You can get a lot more
of an "in-depth" understanding of how and why
women become ATTRACTED to men here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/SexualCommunication

ON YOUR SUCCESS STORY AND CONFIDENCE...

I think that you're on the right track here.

When she came to you to tell you that her
parents didn't approve of you, and you responded
by saying, "I don't care what your parents think,
I'm not here to please them", you effectively made
yourself MORE powerful in her heart AND mind than
even her parents.

I'm taking a wild guess here, but I'll bet that
when she came to you to tell you this, she was
telling you because she was thinking of breaking
off the relationship and this was her way of
"introducing" the idea.

When you responded by saying, "I don't care
what they think", you probably scrambled her
signal a little. She was probably confused, but
MORE IMPORTANTLY, she was probably EMOTIONALLY
ATTRACTED to you at the same time.

This combination of confusion, emotional
attraction, and you asserting yourself as more
powerful than her parents because you didn't care,
is almost unstoppable.

As you say - "Every dating advisor stresses
male confidence". The more I've thought about
this, the more I realize that the FOUNDATION for
confidence is LACK OF INSECURITY.

In other words, if you want to be confident,
you have to START by getting over the things that
you're insecure about. Once you do this, you'll
realize that "confidence" isn't really that
important at all.

Women are generally attracted to men who don't
need APPROVAL from anyone. Call it confidence if
you want. But, I think it comes down to becoming
secure in the world and comfortable in your own
skin.

ON YOUR SUGGESTIONS OF CRITERIA AND EJECTING A
WOMAN AFTER INFIDELITY...

It's a GREAT idea to be VERY selective and to
let women know about it, EVEN IF SHE'S YOUR
"TYPE". Women are generally more attracted to men
who are more selective.

Of course, it is important to keep high
standards in life, because they usually lead to
better results in general.

And in response to your recommendation to dump
a woman at the first sign of infidelity...

This is probably a good policy.

But, there's something else that you should
probably take away from this as well.

If a woman isn't loyal, there's a good chance
that either:

1) You did a poor job selecting the type of woman
to have a relationship with in the first place...

...and/or...

2) You stopped doing the things that created the
ATTRACTION in the relationship, and turned into a
WUSSY.

In either case, there's something to learn and
improve in the future inside of YOURSELF.

YOU must learn how to KEEP HER INTEREST over
the long-haul if you want to "cheat-proof" your
relationship.

...and on another note... I really believe that
there's more than meets the eye when it comes to
success with women and dating.

The process that creates the magic emotion of
ATTRACTION is mysterious, seemingly illogical, and
"counter intuitive". If you don't understand it,
then it just won't make sense.

It's taken me literally YEARS to be able to
both attract women AND be able to explain how to
do it.

AN IMPORTANT QUESTION FOR YOU...

It's time for a new start right now.

Can you feel that "new" energy?

The beginning of a new start is an opportunity
to look back on the past year or so and think
about what went right, what didn't go so right...
and what you'd like to do DIFFERENT this time
around.

This might be YOUR time for success with women.

If it is, then you're going to need to make a
commitment to yourself, and then FOLLOW THROUGH on
that commitment.

This part of your life isn't going to "get
itself handled". YOU are going to have to do it.

If you'd like to take advantage of the time,
effort, energy, and money that I've invested
learning how to be successful with women and
dating, then I recommend that you check out my
Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD Program.

Instead of going through years of trial and
error, you can have the secrets handed to you on a
silver platter.

It's packed with hundreds of incredible
techniques and concepts for making women feel
ATTRACTION, and it contains over 12 full hours of
digitally recorded material, plus a 100 page
workbook.

You can check it out here... make sure to watch
and listen to the free samples:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

And if you haven't downloaded my online eBook
"Double Your Dating" yet, then you need to do that
right now. You can download it now and be reading
it in just a few minutes... It's here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

Go check them out.

And make this year about getting this part of
your life handled. It's worth it.

And I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

The Secret To Making A Woman WANT You

2010-10-13T09:16:00.001-07:00

Before I ever learned how to attract women, I
used to watch how those guys we call "Players"...
would walk into a room, leave with the woman of
their choice... and make it look so damn EASY.

I used to think to myself that it would be SO
fantastic if I could do that.

I figured that these guys must be "good
looking" or charming... or have SOMETHING...

...something I didn't have.

Later, after I learned the SKILL of meeting
women, I realized that the most important thing I
had been missing was knowing HOW to ATTRACT women.

Here's the BOTTOM LINE:

ANYONE can learn to meet women.

But if you don't UNDERSTAND how to create
ATTRACTION, then you will beat your head against
the wall YOUR ENTIRE LIFE and still not have any
success.

The BEST way for YOU to learn how to create
MASSIVE attraction is to read my downloadable
eBook called "Attraction Isn't A Choice".

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AttractionBook

I believe that YOU can learn how to create
powerful ATTRACTION in women... and I believe you
can learn it FAST.

If you want to learn the psychology and
techniques to creating attraction with women, then
go download and read my eBook here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AttractionBook

Download it now.

Talk soon,

David D.

How To Start A Conversation With ANY Woman

2010-10-13T09:15:00.002-07:00

In a minute, I'm going to share with you
several word-for-word "lines" you can use to meet
a woman anytime, anywhere.

But first, a question:

Have you ever seen a woman you wanted to meet,
but you didn't know what to say?

So you froze...

... and you missed your chance to meet her?

Every guy has been through this - myself
included.

The mistake most guys make is thinking they
have to make up something to say on the spot -
something spontaneous.

This couldn't be FURTHER from the truth.

If you prepare ahead of time, you will ALWAYS
have something to say - and you'll never miss
another chance to meet a great girl.

In fact, a new friend of mine has taken this
idea to a WHOLE NEW LEVEL.

He shared with me what he calls "Back Pocket
Openers."

These are easy ways to start a conversation
with a woman that you can use ANYWHERE.

They're casual, fun, and flirtatious.

You don't HAVE to use them - if you want to
make up something on the fly, go for it - but
anytime you don't know how to start a conversation
with a cute girl, they can make ALL THE
DIFFERENCE.

You'll never again have the excuse "Well, I
would have approached her, but I didn't know what
to say..."

One of the Back Pocket Openers he shared is
where you use your LOCATION as a point of
conversation.

Let's say you're at a grocery store and you see
a woman you want to meet...

You say something like:

"Ok, excuse me, you're way too cute for the
grocery store... you can't go out looking like
this... it's too distracting... it's just wrong,
I'm sorry..."

(Of course, you deliver this in the Cocky &
Funny way that I talk about here in my newsletter
and in my eBooks and other products.)

You can use this same opener WHERVER you are...

"... you're just too cute for the bookstore..."

"... you're just too cute for this airport..."

"... you're just too cute for the sidewalk..."

When you use this approach, you communicate
that you notice her looks - but in a way that is
charming, playful, and classy.

You can also tweak this approach and say
something like:

"You know, I hate to be guy that hits on you at
the grocery store... but, yeah... I'm that guy..."

The fact is, my friend shared a lot MORE than
just this one approach.

In fact, he shared tips on how to touch women,
where to go on dates, how to use your body
language to attract women, and a whole lot more.

He's one of the senior instructors for PickUp
101, a company that takes guys out in the field
and literally TRAINS them to be pick-up machines.

He's been featured on USA Today, CNBC, and has
taught guys all over the world how to be more
successful with women.

(He's taught quite a few celebrities as well,
but I can't reveal exactly WHO...)

His name is Daniel Johnson... and if you want
specific techniques you can use to connect with a
woman wherever you find her, and give her those
feelings that make her ATTRACTED to you from the
very start... then you don't want to miss this
killer one-on-one interview I just recorded with
him.

Here are just a few of the secrets he shared:

- How to use "role playing" to amp up the
attraction FAST - even with a woman you just met

- How to use body language to flirt and interact
with a woman in just the right way... so she wants
to get to know you better

- Exactly what to say... word-for-word... if you
hit an "awkward pause" with a woman and you don't
know the next thing you should say (once you learn
this simple technique, you'll never have to worry
about what you're going to say again)

- How to make fun of yourself in a way that makes
a woman more attracted to you - not LESS

- How to use physical touch so that no matter
what other guy comes up and flirts with the woman
you're with, she'll go home with YOU

- The 3 E's of touching a woman you just met
(learn these and you'll take things to a physical
level without rejection)

- How to use eye contact to make a woman
interested in you - without saying a single word

- A simple exercise you can do in the mirror at
home, anytime, to train yourself to give a woman
the feeling of "connection" with you

- How to use your nervousness to build your
energy when you approach a woman - and why it's a
mistake to try to hide your fear

- How to respond when a woman asks you a boring
question - like what you do for work - in a way
that takes the conversation in an interesting
direction (even if you DONT have an interesting
job... or a job you even like)

- A special technique to use when you're
approaching a particularly special and attractive
woman (hint: it's called "The Movie Moment"... and
she'll feel like you came straight out of a movie
into her life... this one is PURE GOLD)

- and much more

I'm going to release this interview as this
month's edition of my "Interviews With Dating
Gurus" Monthly CD Audio Program.

If you're already subscribed, sit tight. You'll
have it in your hands soon.

If you're not?

Well then... I can't think of a better time to
sign up than RIGHT NOW.

The secrets you will learn in this interview
are PRICELESS.

The tactics my friend shared are easy to use,
and get results nearly EVERY TIME.

If you follow his steps, you will not only
learn how to approach women better - but you will
improve EVERY aspect of your interactions with
women.

You'd be crazy not to see for yourself how easy
his tips are to use.

Here's the thing:

This interview is going to press this Friday
morning, so I need you to be on board by THIS
SUNDAY March 15th at Midnight (PST) to make sure
you get your hands on it.

You can sign up here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/InterviewSeries

Oh... and when you do, I'm also going to send
you a free "bonus" interview CD to say thanks for
signing up.

This bonus interview is one of the best I've
ever done... and I can't wait for you to hear it.

The best part?

I'm so confident that you are going to LOVE the
bonus interview and the interview with Daniel...
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guarantee.

Get them. Listen to them. If the information
you learn doesn't improve your ability to approach
women and have more success with women
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Not only will I refund every cent of your
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interviews... just to say thanks for giving my
program a fair try.

Am I crazy to make this kind of offer to you?

I don't think so. When you see just how good
these interviews are, you'll instantly realize why
I have NO PROBLEM putting my money where my mouth
is.

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soon see.

Go ahead and sign up right now while it's fresh
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And if you're not getting the benefits of hearing
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the women you want to bring into your life.

Go here now if you'd like to get your hands on
the audio CD of this interview:

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Have you ever wondered why some guys can walk
right up to attractive women and start
conversations... but most guys can't?

I KNOW that you know what I'm talking about.

We all know guys who have the "talent" of
striking up conversations with women...
conversations that women actually ENJOY.

And even though they were just AVERAGE-looking
guys, women always found them SEXY... and wanted
to get to know them better.

Well, I honestly believe that I've unlocked the
SECRET KEYS that these guys use, and I share them
in my program "Approaching Women."

They will give you the confidence to walk right
up to a woman and start talking... and walk away
with her number and a "date" lined up... even if
you've NEVER done it before.

Here are just a few of the specifics you'll
learn in the program:

- The one word to say at the very beginning of
your approach that DOUBLES your chances of being
successful

- How to INSTANTLY stand out from every other man
that has ever approached her - so a woman knows you
are an opportunity she shouldn't DARE pass up

- The 10 things that PREVENT you from approaching
women - broken down and explained (I had to deal
with each one of these 10 things personally - if
you're having problems starting conversations with
women I GUARANTEE one of them is on this list -
AND that I can show you a quick and easy way to
ELIMINATE IT.)

- A surefire way to completely eliminate that
sinking feeling you get when you see a woman you
want to approach (Use this one "in the field" to
get yourself back on track FAST.)

- A lesson from early humanity that will help you
completely destroy your fears of approaching women
FOR GOOD

- The real "genetic" reasons we are afraid of
approaching women (When you know what they are, it
is almost too easy to dispel these fears FOR
GOOD.)

- How to completely reprogram your subconscious
and turn yourself into a "machine" that approaches
any woman - anytime- in ANY situation - without
even thinking about it

- and much more...

I suggest you try my Approaching Women program
along with your copy of my interview with Daniel,
because you'll not only learn how to instantly
improve your ability to meet and talk with women,
but with Daniel's advice you'll get tips to take
both your skills and confidence to a whole new
LEVEL.

If you go to the link below and "opt in" to my
monthly interview series, I'll send you:

-- A copy of my Approaching Women program on
either CD or DVD for you to try for a month
before you need to decide to keep it, or return
it for a refund, no hassles

-- A copy of my interview with Daniel on audio CD
and the special bonus CD

-- A new interview mailed to you once a month each
month, unless you decide you want to stop
receiving them. You can cancel ANYTIME. There's no
obligation whatsoever.

But if you want to have my interview with
Daniel, you have to place your order by midnight
this Sunday, March 15th.

Here's where to learn more about my
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Don't waste another day missing chances to
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Try my Approaching Women program for free for
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And if you're not interested in my interview
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of the Approaching Women program sent to you
(although I recommend you get BOTH):

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And if you JUST want the interview with
Daniel, go here:

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I'll talk to you soon.

David D.

5 Secrets To Increasing Her Interest In You

2010-10-13T09:15:00.001-07:00

***Dating QUESTION From A Reader***

{NOTE: This is a short question, and it refers
to another newsletter I sent out in the past. If
you don't immediately get it, just read my answer
and all will become clear.}

"The Guy in the bar Story...

Why should he have left the bar as soon as he got
the waitress' phone number?

This is "Ultra Extra Important" you said. I think
I know why he should have left, he was probably
staring at her all night and she was turned off by
it, but give me your complete insight on why he
should have left immediately after getting her
e-mail.

Thanks, R."

>>>MY COMMENTS:

As I said in the newsletter you quoted above,
this concept is VERY important.

Understanding why you need to leave at this
point is part of understanding the dynamic called
ATTRACTION.

So before I get into the specifics, let's talk
about the underlying process that creates
ATTRACTION...

1) ATTRACTION isn't a choice. It's an emotional
reaction.

ATTRACTION is nature's way of taking over our
minds and bodies long enough to make sure that we
mate with someone with the best possible genes.

I realize that this sounds pretty "clinical"
and lame, but it's the damn truth.

Attraction isn't concerned with you, her, or
love. It's evolved over a loooong period of time,
and it has a purpose that is very important.

2) ATTRACTION isn't logical, in the sense that it
isn't created by things that "should" create it.

Buying women dinner and gifts, giving lots of
compliments when you first meet a woman, and
kissing up to women to get their approval are
examples of "logical" things that SHOULD create
attraction... but don't.

When you understand how attraction works, you
begin to see that it has a "logic" all its own.

Attraction is one of my favorite subjects...
and I think you should understand it if you want
to be successful with women. My second book is
called "Attraction Isn't A Choice", and you can
go and download the online version of it right
now... which I highly recommend... right here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AttractionBook

3) Women aren't attracted to guys who act like
needy Wuss-Bags. When guys give lots of
compliments, seek approval, act clingy, or try to
go out of their way to be overly "nice", it
usually backfires.

Women run from Wussy men (either that or they
go shoe shopping with them... and the guy usually
pays).

4) Unfortunately, many guys are mentally
programmed to a sort of "Default Wussy" mode of
behavior when they encounter a woman who they're
attracted to.

When you combine this Default Wuss mode with
nervous body language, you create an almost-
impossible barrier between you and ever creating
ATTRACTION.

5) Just like a painting or a song, too much can
ruin an interaction with a woman.

You must know when to leave, hang up, or end
the interaction.

Leaving at the right moment creates tension,
anticipation and mystery.

YOU EITHER INCREASE OR DECREASE ATTRACTION -
IT'S ALWAYS EITHER GOING UP OR DOWN...

Of course, there are more ingredients to
ATTRACTION, but these will set the stage for where
I'm going with this...

In every situation, you can do something to
INCREASE the ATTRACTION... and you can do
something to DECREASE it. In other words, there's
always a way to dial up this magical emotion.

And yes, you can increase the ATTRACTION even
when you've just met. In fact, this is often the
best time to do it.

Let me ask you a question...

What would most guys do in the situation with
the waitress (or maybe a bartender)?

Imagine it.

You're in a bar, you're chatting with the cute
gal serving drinks or behind the bar. You're being
Cocky and Funny, busting on her, etc. and she's
enjoying your company. You say "Hey, do you have
email?" and she writes it down for you...

WHAT DO YOU DO?

You could...

a) Sit there and keep talking.

b) Stay and talk to her a few more times.

c) Wait around hoping that you can go home
with her.

d) Leave.

So let's do a little critical thinking about
this situation before I comment (or maybe this
will be the comment, we'll see).

If you:

(a) sit there and keep talking, what's likely to
happen?

In my experience, unless you're the ultimate
Mac Daddy of all time, the only place to go is
DOWN.

Think about it... you got her info. You did it.
She's working. She's only going to get busy, which
will probably make the conversation more
difficult.

And then there's the risk of saying or doing
something stupid, getting too drunk to make sense,
or just having the interaction go cold.

All in all, you have very little chance of
anything good happening, and a great chance of
having something not-so-good happening.

Doesn't sound like a very good idea to me.

If you:

(b) stay there in the bar (maybe join friends who
show up), and talk to her a few more times while
ordering drinks, etc. what is likely to happen?

Again, we're dealing with a situation that
almost can't get any BETTER. Remember, she already
gave you the info. Now she might start thinking
"Oh, this is just another loser who hangs out all
night and gets drunk with his buddies... like the
other 47 guys who hit on me."

Or you might say something dumb... or you might
tip her too much or too little and make a strange
impression... or any of a lot of things.

All downside risk, no upside rewards.

If you:

(c) wait around hoping that you can go home with
her, I think you're REALLY taking your chances in
the situation.

Again, unless you're the ultimate pick-up
artist of all time, you're not likely to be taking
home the bartender by sitting in front of her and
drinking all night... for the same reasons listed
above.

But what if:

(d) YOU LEFT IMMEDIATELY after getting her info?

What effect does DISAPPEARING have on an
interaction like this one?

Well, let me ask you: What effect does
disappearing have IN GENERAL on people?

It creates curiosity, mystery, etc. It makes
the other person think "I wonder where he/she had
to go so fast?"

You can also combine this with having something
very INTERESTING to do. For instance, you might
say:

"Nice talking to you... I'm going to go meet up
with some friends to have some SERIOUS fun."

This technique of leaving the moment I've
gotten a woman's information has worked WONDERS
for me... and for many guys I know.

The long and the short of it is that if you
stick around after you get the info, you create no
tension, no mystery, and no curiosity.

On the other hand, if you LEAVE IMMEDIATELY,
and have something interesting (even if you don't
say what it is) to go do, then you're seen as
busy... the kind of guy who has a life... someone
who is in demand.

Leaving turns up the ATTRACTION. It creates
curiosity.

Women are used to guys hanging on, clinging,
and generally NOT having other things to do.

It's something that will INSTANTLY separate you
from other guys, and something that will
demonstrate all the right qualities with a single
move.

Remember, you can do things to INCREASE or
DECREASE the ATTRACTION in any given situation. I
recommend that you start thinking of how to
increase it as much as you possibly can, because
if a woman feels ATTRACTION, then almost nothing
else matters.

Let's shift gears.

When it comes to CREATING ATTRACTION, you can
take it to the next level... and the next... all
the way to the point of "getting physical" with a
woman...

...I've gone from not being able to even TALK
to a woman I don't know... to being able to
approach any woman in any situation and have a
VERY HIGH chance of getting a date with her... and
of course more, if I want.

If you're reading this right now, and saying to
yourself "I would really like to know how he does
that", then I'd like to share the secrets with
you.

And I'd like to do it at absolutely ZERO RISK
to you.

I want you to get a copy of my Advanced Dating
Techniques CD/DVD Program... and I'll send it to
you without charging you up front.

Really.

Go through the WHOLE PROGRAM.

TRY some of the things you learn.

I absolutely guarantee that you will start to
see IMMEDIATE results. Women will respond to you
differently, because you will see things from a
new perspective.

If you don't get immediate results, just send
it back and you won't be charged.

Go check out some great video samples here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

...and if you would like to learn the basics of
how to be successful with women and dating, you
need to go download a copy of my online eBook
"Double Your Dating." It and the three bonus
booklets that come along with it are a killer
introduction to my concepts and techniques. You
can download it and be reading it within a few
minutes. It's here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

A "Trick" For Getting A Woman's Number

2010-10-10T19:59:00.001-07:00

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

Your material is awesome. I have met more women in
4 weeks with your material than in the previous 4
years of dating! I have, however, come across a
problem which requires your expertise. I can
easily obtain a woman's email and during the
follow up email get their number. However, I get
their voice mail often when I call them up. What
is your feeling about leaving a message with them?
I mean if you call several times (and they have
caller I.D.) and don't leave a message they will
think you are some kind of weirdo. For example I
got this hot woman's email but whenever I call her
(3 times in the past week) I get her answering
machine. Should I leave a cocky/funny message on
the third attempt or should I email her back or
just keep calling until I get in touch with her?
Thanks for your help,

D. in Alabama

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I'm going to answer your question in two
different ways... one is the direct answer, and
one is the "bigger picture" answer...

First, the bigger picture answer:

Most problems, like this one, boil down to a
rather simple formula:

NOT ENOUGH PROSPECTS = TOO MUCH CONCERN FOR ONE

TOO MUCH CONCERN FOR ONE = MIS-FOCUSING ENERGY

MIS-FOCUSING ENERGY = MISSING OTHER OPPORTUNITIES

Are you with me here?

If you were out getting more emails and numbers
every day instead of worrying about this one, you
would have called her the first time and said,
"Hey, it's me. Call me, here's my number..."

A few days later you would have probably
emailed and said, "Hey, you'd better call me,
because my week is filling up fast..."

Finally, you would have forgotten about her
because you got too busy seeing other women.

When you become too concerned with one woman,
you do things like CALLING HER THREE TIMES IN A
WEEK... without her calling you back.

What's the message you're sending to her?

Of course... "I tolerate and even pursue women
who don't call me back."

That's not what you want to communicate, man.

By not leaving messages, you also add the
charming TWIST to the overall message of "I might
be a stalker, because I don't leave messages."

So, get out there and meet more women! That's
the bottom line.

And now, the direct answer...

Call the first time and if you get voicemail
say, "Hey, it's {your name here}, call me. My
number is..."

If she doesn't call you, then send her an email
that says: "What, trying to play hard to get
already? Call me."

If she doesn't call you, then YOU have to
decide what to do.

WHATEVER you do, don't call or email her again
for awhile. Give it a week or two if she isn't
responding to you.

Then, when you do contact her again, make sure
she gets the hint that you're busy, that you're
dating other women, and that you're not impressed
with the fact that she's a flake.

***QUESTION***

Dear Dave,

Love your material. I have gone ten years looking
for material on dating and your knowledge is
second to none. I have learned tremendously from
your ebook and emails. I do have a question
though. I had met a hottie the other night and
using C & F she was all over me, making out with
me in a bar. However when i got her back to my
place and we continued "making out" she kept
saying "I usually don't do this" and "what are you
thinking (about us hooking up so quickly)?"
Needless to say I continued forward with my manly
duties, but I was wondering 1) why was she asking
these questions and 2) what is a good way to
respond to such questions in the future.

Your new follower,

A in Vermont

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Here, let me ask YOU something...

What would YOU do if you were a woman who:

1) Had a self-image that didn't include "hooking
up" with a guy the first night you meet him.

2) A STRONG sexual attraction to a guy that you
just met, and you want to hook up with him the
night you met him?

Of course...

You'd say things like, "I'm not this kind of
girl" and "I don't usually do this" and "What do
you think about this?" etc. etc. etc....

You've asked me what I think of this, and how
to respond to it when it happens.

First, I think it's normal and natural for a
woman to behave this way. Get used to it.

Secondly, as far as responding to this kind of
thing... I have a couple of thoughts for you.

1) Don't Expect Anything

I think that guys get their hopes up when a
woman "comes home" with them... and they get more
and more excited about the possibility of "hooking
up"... to the point where they're UPSET if it
DOESN'T happen.

When you put this much importance on something,
you set yourself up for failure... and often do
things to CAUSE failure. When you WANT something,
it costs more. Right?

So don't EXPECT anything. Be OK with whatever
happens. Lean back. Chill. Be cool.

2) Make Sure She Knows

The next step is to let the woman you're with
KNOW that whatever happens is cool.

Don't PUSH.

When you start using all the different concepts
and techniques that you've learned together... and
you start to smoothly transition from one step to
the next... you will start to see women responding
VERY powerfully.

But, part of this powerful response will
USUALLY be some sort of "resistance."

WHY?

Because women aren't used to meeting men who
KNOW all this stuff!

They're not used to being swept away by the
powerful sexual emotions that you're triggering
with your communication, body language, and touch.

I'm not kidding here.

Don't be surprised when some women get so
freaked out that they literally run out the door
or start shaking with nervousness.

Women just aren't used to men who know how to
make them feel things this powerfully!

Now, if a woman says "I don't know if this is a
good idea, I don't usually do things like this
with a guy I've just met"... you basically have a
couple of choices.

You can PUSH, in which case you'll usually meet
with resistance... or you can PULL BACK, then let
things start again slowly... which will make it
far more likely that things will continue to the
next level.

The real key here is walking into every
situation with a woman NOT EXPECTING anything...
or being overly concerned with the outcome.

Don't worry about it. And expect this kind of
thing from women... it's normal and natural.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave, I got your e-book a few months ago thinking
it would be a big joke. But I have spent $40 on a
bad date so figured I would take the gamble and I
am so glad!

Before I read your material I was the total wuss
boy, I was just way too nice and got no respect.
Now I have confidence! It didn't take long to use
C&F, posture, etc, but what I noticed is that when
I SLOWED DOWN, women started looking. Walk slow
across the room, using deliberate movements,
shoulders back, head high, and you will just FEEL
more confident, and women pick up on that. Easy
to get emails and numbers when they feel your
confidence!

Thanks for the tips. I want to say that your "kiss
test" has worked 100% with my last 5 dates!
Playing with her hair and looking her in the eyes
while relaxing on the couch has gotten me lots of
kisses, then I BACK OFF for a few minutes and it
drives them crazy! I just keep thinking GO SLOW! I
am a good looking guy, but the problem I have had
with women is the "friend" category.

Now after 4 months I have a girlfriend that can't
get enough, and I can't thank you enough. I am
never going to be the wuss again! BTW- I did get
her flowers, I told her I made the arrangement
myself and the flowers were exotics as I made up
names and places they were each from, she just
laughed so hard it broke all Valentine tension and
I didn't need a barf bag. CA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Sweeeeeeet!

A quick thought...

It is AMAZING how powerful the idea of "backing
off" is after you've kissed a woman, etc.

Moving two steps forward, one step back is one
of the easiest and strongest way to amplify
attraction.

Good job.

***QUESTION***

Mr. DeAngleo,

I have your e-book Double Your Dating and it's
just plain excellent. You have a keen insight into
the communication necessary to gain the respect
and admiration of da ladies. And you`re a quick
study of the human condition called "a
relationship". I look forward to studying your
audio program.

Even though your stuff is great, it seems to skew
towards younger, never married girls. Am I right
that an older women who have been around the block
with kids, would be more worldly and have more of
a personal agenda? Or that these women are the
"new and improved gold diggers"? I'm in my late
forties and am realistic to the age bracket I'm
going to encounter and date. Sure I look great and
athletic, but the funny and cocky attitude would
seem to only work with young girls rather than
pre-married model.

Are guys my age stuck with working just the
personals and local church festivals? I mean no
matter how suave, cool, cocky, and funny I am,
aren't I always fighting the age different thing?
That a man in his forties, has to use the power,
fame and money, rather than personality? Is the
cocky, funny personality going to work with older
women? We're not all James Bond's you know.

I look forward to your answers because you really
are the expert on this topic. And whether you'd
like to admit or not, you'll be my age sometime
soon, and then what will you do? Man, that's
something to think about!

Keep up the great work,

LP Wisconsin

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I'd like to give you some long, detailed,
profound answer to this question, but I just have
to say:

WOMEN OF ALL AGES LOVE THIS STUFF.

My stuff doesn't skew towards ANY types of
women.

I flirt with every woman I meet... of every
age. They all love it.

And I get emails from guys of all ages who use
this stuff to meet women of all ages.

Try it... you'll like it.

***QUESTION***

Dave,

All I can say is wow! Thanks a lot, the Dating
Tip; What To Do When She LIKES You, couldn't have
came at a better time! It's the first message I
read over, hell I even read it 3 times! And now
canceling something tonight so I can read over
your book and past letters, the information is
truly amazing, I was shocked at how well this book
was written. And you really helped me with
remembering how great the gift of missing you
works, would have f***ed that up 2nite!

Last night I went out with 3 beautiful women and
because my Escalade is at a friends (he is
installing a few screens for me, can't wait!) I
invited a male friend to come along that the girls
have meet before to drive, When they entered the
car they said how much they missed me, the gift of
missing you is SO powerful I can't explain it
enough. Then at the end they all said "thanks for
spending time with us", I was thinking, aww I feel
so special! Said a c/f comment and got a few
hugs/kisses goodnight. And my friend didn't even
get a "thank you". He drove around and spent over
$100 paying for us to do stuff(total wuss, husband
material, he's 18 so that's not good)! I paid
nothing and received great benefits because of
you, where do I send the cash donations!?

I suggest you all look over the materials you
have, or purchase the e-book now if you have not
already. Look, your wasting lots of time, money,
and lots of great opportunity's to get to know
wonderful women by not listening to this stuff. I
can't even put together words on how well this
stuff works, Dave does a GREAT job teaching!

Question: This one girl with a 9.5-10 personality
and great looks has this sparkle in her eyes that
I really LOVE. How can I mention it in a non-
pussy way? Bust on her about it (making fun of
it)? But I like it! hmm

-JB, Chicago IL, where sheep are only in zoo's! ;)

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Sheep in zoos? Dude, what are you doing talking
about where the sheep in YOUR town are? It makes
me nervous when men know exactly where the local
sheep hangout is.

Now, to answer your question...

Why is it that men feel such STRONG urges to
compliment women early on? I don't know what's
with us.

I have to say, I know EXACTLY how you're
feeling, because I have to watch this myself...
it's like we come pre-wired with a "nice guy
compliment" mechanism.

Well, TURN IT OFF for the first 10 dates or so,
OK?

Look at those beautiful eyes, and when she
says, "What? What are you looking at?" say, "Oh,
just my reflection in your eyes...".

***QUESTION***

Hey David:

I have a question that I'm not sure you've
addressed in your book. Have you ever come across
a situation where you're working on a girl and her
construction worker boyfriend shows up ready to
pound you one? Any idea on how to handle that
situation?

I've been there and lets just say that I'm damn
lucky my front teeth don't look like some of the
hidden back ones! In fact, it's instilled an added
fear into me that has made it really hard to
approach women for the last 13 years. Some guys
are crazy and if they see another guy making his
girlfriend all excited, it could be bad news.

M

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, I have a great response for this...

Walk away.

What did you expect me to say? Beat him up?

I know that secretly a lot of guys have a fear
of the husband or boyfriend showing up and
becoming violent.

Does it happen?

Sure.

How often?

I don't know... but, I can tell you that I've
never heard of it happening to a guy for just
talking to a girl... and I know a LOT of guys who
meet a LOT of women.

Just walk away.

Risk is a part of life, and you have to accept
it if you want to enjoy unusual levels of success.

***SUCCESS STORY***

David,

Many guys write in and tell you about their
success with this specific girl, or that specific
girl etc. Those are great stories and encouraging
to the rest of us. My success story is a little
different.

Today I was browsing my emails and something
happened that struck me. I have been
corresponding with this really attractive girl who
I met through the personals. In her first email
to me (a response to my initial contact) she asked
when/where we could meet. In her third, which I
read this morning, she gave me her phone number
and asked me to call her 'really soon'. I will
call this evening.

I thought about this in context of my current
situation: last night I had a 3rd date with a
really cute Japanese girl who hardly speaks
english and who I met at a bar some time ago, the
night before I had a first date (tea @ Starbucks)
with an attractive tall blonde (who asked me,
before I brought it up, when we can meet again),
and the night before that I was at a girls place
making dinner for her, almost having a food-fight,
laughing and joking and poking fun of her family
pictures in her apartment (on our 3rd date). I
could go on but won't.

The point I'm trying to make is that my success
story isn't about any of the above successes. You
see, when I read the email this morning which had
a phone number and a request to call 'really
soon', my reaction was pretty casual. And it
struck me that my reaction would have been totally
different 1 year ago. I would have been so
surprised and happy and excited. And I would have
told myself 'wow, this girl actually wants to
meet, ok now, don't screw this up...blah blah etc
etc'

The success story I'm talking about is ME. My
reaction to the email sums it up; I'm not even
surprised when I get that kind of email any more.
Pleased, but not surprised.

I'm starting to REALLY understand the difference
between the INNER and OUTER game. It's not
dissimilar to the difference between success with
a single woman, and my own success in ME and my
situation. Plug for Dave: I got the ebook about 1
year ago and I've been following the newsletters.
I've been slowly shedding the inner wussy and it's
thanks to your teachings. I can only imagine what
kind of success I might have if I actually ponied
up for the CD series.

Question

I mentioned above that I am dating a really cute
Japanese girl. She speaks English, but not much
(certainly more than I speak Japanese!). I got
her email at a bar and we've been out 3 times. I
can sense that she likes me, and I think things
are proceeding well. In fact, she's coming to my
appartment tomorrow to cook Japanese dinner for
me. My question is this: how can I tease her when
she doesn't understand anything but the simplest
of English. I actually told her what 'tease' means
and then tried some examples to demonstrate. This
worked to some degree, but I'm feeling a little
held back.

Thanks for any insight you can offer.

S. in Vancouver

>>>MY COMMENTS:

About your "inner" success...

I can remember a moment a couple of years ago
when I realized that the inner insecurity that I
used to carry around with me was GONE.

It's hard to explain an emotional feeling, but
it was as if there had previously been a certain
insecurity that was always with me... that
affected every part of my life...and then, without
me realizing it was going... it was gone.

It's a great feeling, isn't it?

As far as your situation with your Japanese
girl goes...

I have a friend who is great with women and who
likes to date Japanese women, and he tells me that
they are different because of their culture... and
that they are often more reserved.

I've never thought of TEACHING a woman what
teasing means, but it's a great idea!

I personally think that it's difficult to
communicate in a subtle way when there is a
language barrier... but that's just my take. If
you can figure this one out, write in and share
the wisdom!

***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***

Dave, - I ended up on your newsletter mailing list
just the same way I always ended up in boys P.E.,
I have one of those names that gets confused as
being male. At first, I found your letters just
funny and a bit odd... until I started seeing that
you are absolutely right. The qualities you
explore and recommend in your stuff is exactly
what I am attracted to. Wow, what an eye opener.
Wussies are a waste of time. Give me a C & F real
man anytime.

By the way, I find it very attractive in you too!
Kisses!

TM, Dallas,TX

>>>MY COMMENTS:

NOTE TO WOMEN FANS...

SEND PICTURES!

If you want to pucker, so I can get an idea of
what the "kisses" look like, feel free. Love it.

***COMMENT***

Hi Dave,

I've been enjoying your emails in the last few
months. You've offered some valuable advice on how
to deal with people. But, I am sorry to say I'm
finding your advice less valuable.

You are focusing on being cocky and funny with
people. But you are forgettign one thing. You have
to make sure you make people feel good. Otherwise,
they will be like - fu** you, I don't to talk to
you - you are a piece of sh**. I'm just trying to
help you get on the right track, man. Nothing
personal.

Just read your last email. You are encouraging
someone's comment who tells a complete stranger
that their dress is made of a shower curtain. Did
you ever stop to think that it does not make
someone feel good? I mean if someone directed a
rude comment like that to me - I'd be like fu**
you - you are a piece of sh** - I don't want to
talk to you. Or, I would imagine a girl would
think something like - Why are you talking to me?
Go eat sh**. I don't want to talk to you.

I would say something like - 'Wow! That's nice
shoes!' (or Wow! That's a nice hat!) Make a
compliment when you meet a stranger - that helps.
Instead of making them feel like a piece of sh**.
Take your fu**ing 'cockiness' in the whole new
direction MON! You are going in the wrong
direction. I want you to stop before you lose
everybody on your mail list MON!!!

You've gone a little overboard on that, mon. Come
on, admit it. I think you will probably make some
cocky and funny comment about that. But even then,
please do not go overboard with cocky because
there is a border line between cocky and rude. And
I take it, you who study human personality, should
know where that border line lies.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, MON...

Do me a quick favor. Go learn how to attract
women, then write me an email.

You sound like a "Couch-Based Expert." In other
words, I'll bet you couldn't get a woman's phone
number if you were giving away CASH PRIZES... OK?

Now, to be fair, from time to time I do get an
email from someone who says "It sounds to me like
you're suggesting to men that they act like
jerks", etc.

What does this tell me?

The most IMPORTANT thing it tells me is that
you haven't read my book or listened to my
Advanced Series... and you just don't get it.

This isn't about making women feel BAD, it's
about making them feel GOOD.

You might not have noticed, but half of the
Cocky & Funny equation is FUNNY. If you're funny,
then you don't have to worry about what you say,
because it's HUMOR.

I'm not sure that "Wow! That's nice shoes!" is
the answer.

OK, MON, get up off your couch and go learn how
to meet some women. And stop being a whiner.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

You may not consider this a true success story
since it's not about scoring with every good-
looking girl I meet. Rather it's about the change
in my feeling about myself. In the past few months
I've gone from feeling absolutely crushed by
"rejection" or seizing up to recognizing that
there are so many attractive women out there, IT
DOESN'T MATTER if one of them shoots you down.
I've also reached the point where I can approach a
cute girl and get her e-mail/number. I admit
sometimes it's not her real info, but this is a
work in progress. I'm on several online
dating/chatting sites, working my stuff. I'm even
using the arrogant humour routines on two of my
former love interests and am starting to see some
smoke rising as a result. I'm working the material
on the servers at the restaurants I frequent. And
on and on...

At first, I didn't think it could take three years
to "get it down," but last night I had my first
cup-of-tea-at- Starbucks date and now I understand
even more what you talk about on the CDs. It does
take time to become "totally congruent" with this.
But it's going to be so much fun getting there!

So, in conclusion, I already consider myself to be
a success simply because I feel so much more
empowered as a man. Thank you.

CPAG Tucson, Arizona

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Actually, this is to me, the BEST kind of
Success Story there is. Getting a hot woman's
number isn't a big deal once you know how.

But, changing how you FEEL inside and how you
feel about YOURSELF is huge.

Great job.

If you want to learn more about how develop
yourself into that MAN that naturally attracts
women, then you should check this out:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/OnBeingAMan

It's the GOODS.

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

I got your book and subscribed to the emails about
a year ago. It's great stuff. A lot of it is new
to me - but so much is obvious (with hindsight!!).
I am seeing my inner game change slowly but
surely, so that I feel less and less that I need a
woman and more and more that they are lucky to
have me. Looking back (I am 40) I reckon I have
been most successful with girls when I was most
relaxed and confident - they say success breeds
success!

Here are a couple of interesting experiences I
have had that confirm your approach -

I had a 19 yr old foreign student as a girlfriend
a while back. The first night back at my place I
offered to call a taxi for, her put her in the
spare bedroom or she could sleep with me.
Obviously she chose to sleep with me! I was just
trying to be a gentleman - but my theory now is
that by `pulling back' I challenged her
expectations (that most guys would be desperate
for her to stay) and I forced her to take
responsibility for choosing what SHE wanted
(whereas most girls spend their time rejecting
what GUYS want).

My latest girlfriend is 29 and a total babe. But
she is a bit spoilt. She often gets sulky if she
feels she isn't getting enough attention from me.
In the past I would have done whatever she asked.
Now I realise that is a game you can never win.
Instead I ask her if she treats her friends like
this - no - so why does she think it is ok with
me? She has actually said that she really respects
me for not letting her be a spoilt brat. Also
sometimes she threatens to find another boyfriend.
I always tell her that I can't stop her if that's
what she wants. Then she always says she doesn't
want anyone else. It seems so obvious now - why
should a woman respect a man she can control??

I read your latest email about getting numbers.
The point about not hiding your intentions is so
true! Of course a woman knows what you want. If
you pretend otherwise you just seem weak (& also
you have made it really hard to bridge to getting
the number Doh!).

BUT - why do you say turn away & then turn back as
if it is an afterthought?? Isn't this exactly the
pretence you said not to do? Why not just say
`I've got to go now, but I'd like to talk to you
again. Have you got email?' Isn't that less
wussy? Or am I missing some subtlety here. (I
have tried the turning away thing, but without
success. I think maybe I am not a very good actor)

Thanks for the fantastic information, Dave,

N.

England.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

It's fine to NOT turn away and just ask a woman
for her email address directly.

You're making me reflect on how I developed my
"3 Minute Email And Number" technique...

In the beginning, I imagined that it was
basically impossible to walk up to a woman who was
a complete stranger and have her just give her
number to me.

So, I started learning different kinds of
tricks and techniques, from palmistry to
handwriting analysis... and all kinds of other
freaky and almost embarrassing ideas.

I basically figured that I would have to
somehow "distract" a woman from the fact that I
was "interested" and get her number without her
really understanding that I WAS interested.

The turning away, then turning back is
something that is kind of "left over" from those
days of being clever.

Turning away, then turning back basically
demonstrates to a woman that you're OK with
walking away without getting her number... which
is a good exercise if you're at the stage where
you get nervous asking for a woman's number/email.

Feel free to just say, "Do you have email?" and
then, "Great, write it down... I want to talk to
you again" etc.

As long as you are cool and calm with all of
your other communication, you'll be fine.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Saint Dave- I'll skip all the 'you're so great'
stuff and get to the point. I've been learning and
practicing you're techniques. And, as you know,
they've been working. But I'm not writing to tell
you about my successes- rather I've got a story I
find humorous.

Currently I'm going to college in California, but
I'm moving to NYC in May. Somehow my EX-girlfriend
(who lives in NYC) heard through the grapevine
that I was moving there. Out of the blue she calls
me- after 3 THREE YEARS and a very unpleasant
break-up. At first the conversation is strained
and awkward, but I'm using the all C&F stuff
unconsciously. As I do I feel her start to loosen
up to me, and she offers me a place to stay 'for
one night' when I get to New York. I hit her back
with 'Well, I'm pretty busy. But if you wear a
sexy dress, cook me dinner and give me a massage,
maybe I could find time in my schedule.' We go
back and forth like this for a minute or two and
then I end the whole conversation abruptly. Since
then she's been calling and sending emails all the
time, virtually begging me to come and stay with
her 'for as long as I like'. Now the point of this
story was that I was not even TRYING. I had no
intention of re-kindling the old flame, or even
hooking up for a one-nighter. But the C&F stuff
was so ingrained to my behavior, that even my ex-
girlfriend who hated my guts was falling for it.
Thanks man- you're helping humanity.

PF

San Fran, CA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, well, surprise surprise.

Here's something that I'm hearing more and more
from guys who REALLY understand how to make women
feel ATTRACTION... and who have more dates then
they can handle:

"You know, it's funny... the more I ignore and
don't pursue women, the more they call me and
won't leave me alone."

Why is this?

Think about it.

Because when you don't care, you DO all the
right things, and you SAY all the right things.

Be careful, it sounds like you might turn your
ex into your new stalker!

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

Your stuff helped me to consciously identify for
the first time what I had done right all these
years (approximately 18 years, counting
"courtship") to get and keep an incredibly
beautiful wife (she's in her low 40's but gets
carded every time she orders a drink). But, more
importantly, you've shone a light on those few
bleak and sadly deficient skills that I'd let
slip, "'cause we're married". Let me tell you,
"My wife is much happier, now!" (I couldn't
understand why she got so irritated when I didn't
care where we ate. I really don't care, but
she'll never hear it from me again.) In fact, we
spent a Saturday afternoon and evening this
weekend that could make a lot of your single
guy/player types jealous!

One final thought that I suppose you could count
as another success: I'm ashamed to say, (from the
context of a married guy) a friend of my wife
appeared to have gotten a little too attracted
from her time hanging out with us. So, I turned it
ALL on ... in REVERSE! You know, "I don't want to
hurt my wife, but I love you. I know we shouldn't
do anything, but I NEED you..." (You know, once
you stop, it's kind of weird to act like a wussy
on purpose!) Anyway, it worked like a charm, you
could almost see the little cartoon cloud where
she had been standing! Well, that was more than I
intended, I just wanted to be counted if you start
tallying up the married guys that respond to your
Q&A. E. Fla.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You know, I love it when married guys like
yourself write in (which happens more and more
often) and tell me how this stuff is making their
relationships better.

Women never stop wanting a man to do the right
things... if only more men knew this.

And your thought about how to act like a Wuss
on PURPOSE to make a woman run away is great.

Isn't THAT interesting?

***QUESTION***

dear Dave,

I have used both your email book and the cd
seminar with tremendous benefit. I have more than
doubled my dating! I always chuckle at the guys
out there who say you "make up these emails",. I
have at least 10 friends who subscribe to the
newsletter and have written you, and you have
reproduced their emails verbatim. Now for my
question. I have, on several occasions, met women
and , as a segue to cocky and funny, told them I
am chippendale dancer when I responding to the
question of "what do you do for a living". Now I
don't look like a chippendale dancer, (actually
I'm a businessman) but these woman start believing
my story and I run with it all night and I am
cocky/funny to the max (for example, I'll state
that I hate women coming onto me since I'm a
dancer, and that women only use me because I'm a
dancer). Now the question I have is how should I
respond when these women find out I am not a
dancer? I know in your cd seminar one of the
people you interviewed stated he would state
outrageous occupations such as a slave trader. How
far is too far? I can go the whole night with a
make-believe occupation and play along with a
woman. When do you break them the news that you
are not who you state you are, ie dancer?
Eventually you have to to be honest, right? Is
there a point that you have to be honest because
if you are not the woman may think you are a total
liar and not trustworthy. I mean I have played
this role of dancer so convincingly that they
actually believe my story and the attraction level
increases with C & F and they start attacking me,
but I am afraid of the ramifications of what will
happen when they find out that I am not a dancer.
Need some advice from the Mack Master,

Al in D.C.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

LOL... Dude, this is funny stuff.

So, let me get this straight... you tell women
that you're a male stripper, and then they fall
for you... and you don't know how to "let them
down easy"?

If a woman actually BELIEVES crazy things like
this, I like to turn it up a notch and say, "Well,
actually I used to be a male stripper, but now I'm
a porn star... are you OK with that?"

I don't like it if a woman believes something
that isn't true for too long... remember, you're
just kidding.

And if a woman DOES believe something for too
long, and then gets a little upset, just say,
"What?! You weren't actually dumb enough to
BELIEVE that I was a male STRIPPER, are you? I
don't think this relationship is going to work. I
would NEVER be with a woman who would date a
STRIPPER..."

And by the way, thanks for mentioning that I
faithfully print the emails that I use in my
newsletters, because I do... they're all real.

Thanks for your email.

***QUESTION***

David,

First off, i realize you hear this a lot but your
ebook istotally the mack- i've seen a big
difference in my interaction with women which i'll
contribute much of my success to your book.

I've recently been giving some serious thought to
ordering your advanced materials. Here's my
question: With the other 1 billion "buy our stuff
and your success with women will boom for three
easy payments of $19.99" sites, how would you
compare your $195 advanced audio tape series to
{other dating products} which tout basically the
same types of things for about half the price?
Don't get me wrong, i'm not saying your stuff
isn't brilliant, and i realize that i've easily
spent $195 in dates/on women, i just wondered what
your take is.

Thanks a ton and keep up the great work!

-M.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Well, here's the deal...

I'm about to say some things that are going to
make me sound a little too confident, so get
ready...

I spent YEARS trying to figure out how to be
successful with women and dating.

YEARS.

I read books, listened to tapes, went to
seminars... and tried all KINDS of things. I mean,
if you knew half of the stuff that I tried, you'd
laugh your ass off at me.

Most of it didn't work... and the stuff that
did work actually worked IN SPITE of the fact that
it was lame.

I mean, if you do ANYTHING it will work SOME of
the time.

I'm going to tell you something that is both
simple and profound at the same time.

The thing that makes my Advanced Program
different from all the other stuff out there is
that it's BASED on watching and learning from guys
who are "naturally" good with women.

The experience that REALLY took my success to a
high level was watching, learning from, imitating,
testing, and refining what I learned from these
guys.

In fact, I invited several of my friends who
were the MOST influential on me to participate in
the live seminar that was edited into the Advanced
Dating Techniques program, and when you listen to
it, you'll watch and/or hear me interviewing five
of them LIVE.

I've worked hard to create a great set of tools
and techniques, and a logical way to learn them,
understand them, and start using them.

I will bet you that if you listen to or watch
the entire 12+ hours of this program at LEAST 5
times... there are so many killer ideas inside,
you will be thrilled.

You can watch some samples of the program and
get all the details here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

And if you haven't downloaded my online eBook
yet, then go do that NOW. You can download it in a
few minutes and be learning some of my best
techniques right from the comfort of your
computer. It's here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

How To Get Past A Woman's "Defenses"

2010-10-10T19:58:00.001-07:00

Here's an interesting story...

A few hours ago I was standing in a "posh" bar
in San Francisco.

I was standing near to the bar, looking around
at the people, when the guy next to me starts
talking to a girl he doesn't know.

She turned and looked at him with a look that
said "I don't know you, I don't want to talk to
you, and you have no chance with me."

The look on her face couldn't have been more
clear. As soon as he started talking to her, she
put up her defenses.

The more he tried to talk to her, the more
annoyed she got.

It was painful to watch.

Then things got REALLY interesting.

The guy turned to me and started making
conversation with me.

He asked me how I was "doing" with the ladies
at the bar.

I told him that I had just arrived, and I
wasn't particularly in the mood to talk to women
at the moment... I was just enjoying my drink and
relaxing.

He then started to talk about how "meeting
women was a numbers game" and how he had been
"laying rap" on women all night... but he didn't
have any "luck" so far.

We started discussing our different approaches
to meeting women.

I told him that when I decide to talk to a
woman that I really find attractive, I am
confident that I'll be successful with her.

He kind of laughed and told me that meeting
women was a game of luck, and if you wanted to
win, you had to just keep playing the numbers...
and hope you find one who likes you.

Right at that moment, two cute women walked up
to the bar. One of them was very hot. He
looked at the hotter girl, pointed to her, and
said "I like that."

I said "Well, then go talk to her."

He decided to go "order a drink" (in other
words, he was going to go up to the bar and FAKE
like he was there to order a drink, and then
"accidentally" start a conversation with her).

Of course, he already HAD a drink, so he
fumbled around trying to find a place to put it
down so he could walk up to the bar with no drink
and not look like he was "on the make."

It was pretty damn funny.

Anyway, he squeezes in next to this girl, and
tries to act like he's just there to get a drink.
He then turns to her, and tries to start a
conversation.

What happened? Of course...

Her defenses went up INSTANTLY.

She said a few words to him, but then turned
away from him, took her drink and her friend, and
walked away from the bar.

He came back over to me and made no comment
about the interaction with her...

I watched him try to talk to more women after
that... all with the same result.

Their defenses went up AS SOON as he started
talking to them.

This guy's theory of "talking to a lot of women
until you get lucky and find one who likes you"
was working pretty well...

Except for the fact that he WASN'T getting
"lucky" at all, and NO women liked him....

One of the problems he had was not
understanding this thing that I call "Sexual
Communication." If you'd like to learn more about
this particular topic, then take a minute and
look at THIS:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/SexualCommunication

HITTING THE WALL

Have you ever been in a situation talking to a
girl, and you could just FEEL that she had her
"defenses up"?

Or have you ever been out on a date with a
woman, and had a bad feeling in your GUT about the
situation... and no matter what you did, the
situation only got worse, and she seemed to get
further away from you?

If you're like me, then you've been in a LOT of
these situations.

In fact, I think it's happened to me so many
times that I have "female defense radar." It's
like I can tell INSTANTLY if a woman has her
defenses up... and it doesn't feel GOOD.

You've been there... one minute everything is
OK, and the next minute she has flipped on some
kind of force-field that is PERMANENT.

You know what I'm talking about...

And once the defenses are up, it's as if she
has become a DIFFERENT person. And trying to make
it better, only makes it worse.

Always.

That's called HITTING THE WALL.

And once you hit it, there's no bouncing back.

A WOMAN'S DEFENSES, AND HOW THEY WORK

So what's up with that?

Why do women have this "defense mechanism"?

What triggers it?

And how can we, as guys, get past it?

Well, the reality is that a woman's defense
mechanism is something that PROTECTS her. It saves
her time. And it saves her headaches and hassles.

You've heard me say that attractive women are
approached ALL THE TIME by men. In one way or
another, an attractive woman is CONSTANTLY
approached and pursued by men.

Women can't afford to spend even a FRACTION of
their time with every guy who shows interest, so
they use "time management" techniques.

How 21st-century of them.

One of these "time management techniques" is
their defense mechanism.

If a girl decides that she isn't interested in
being with a particular guy... and it doesn't
matter if it's within the first five seconds or
the first five months... the mechanism kicks in.

It creates an invisible wall that protects her.
You can feel it. She can feel it. And even though
neither of you can see it, you both know that it's
more powerful than a real wall... because most men
don't know how to get PAST it.

I know that you've thought about this issue at
some point. If you're like me, you've thought
about it a LOT. Maybe even obsessively. Maybe you
have even schemed and tortured yourself trying to
figure out the magic way to get past a woman's
defenses...

Are you with me here?

A NEW WAY OF LOOKING AT THINGS...

What if I were to tell you that YOU are the one
who actually controls her defense mechanism?

And what if I were to tell you that all this
time, YOU'RE THE ONE who's been causing women to
put up their defenses, and shut you out?

And what if I told you that looking for the
magic way to "get past her defenses" was really a
waste of time?

What if I told you instead that the ULTIMATE
way to "get past" her defenses was to NEVER CAUSE
HER TO PUT THEM UP in the first place.

See, the reality is that her defenses are a
RESPONSE or a REACTION to something YOU are doing.
YOU are the one who's doing things that kick off
the sequence of events.

In fact, if you think of it from this
particular perspective, you'll realize that you
REALLY ARE controlling her defense mechanisms.

BACK TO MY STORY...

Shortly after his "bad luck" episodes, the guy
I was talking to in the bar walked away from me.

I stood at the bar thinking of what he had just
said and done... and how so many guys I've met
think the same way.

Right then, a woman asked me if I'd move over a
little bit so she could order a drink.

I said "sure", and turned sideways so she could
squeeze in next to me.

At first, I turned my back to her.

After a minute or two, I turned back around,
and started talking to her and her friends.

I was teasing them and making fun, and
generally being a pain in the ass.

There were a total of four girls there
together, and I was talking to three of them.

I turned my attention to the quietest of the
three, and started teasing her.

I asked her why she was so quiet, teasing her
about it, etc.

Every time I asked her a question or said
something, she either shook her head "no" or
nodded her head "yes."

No words.

Finally, she held up her left hand and proudly
displayed her wedding ring.

She said "I'm married."

I laughed at her and said "Wow, good for you. I
guess if I was trying to pick up on you I'd be
pretty upset right now... but I'm not, so you
don't have anything to worry about."

Now, the REALITY of the situation was that I
was NOT trying to "pick up on her."

She was the least attractive woman in the
group, and her personality was about as
interesting as a mule's.

Her friends heard me say this to her, and they
turned and looked at me with wide eyes.

They couldn't believe that I had just said that
to their friend, and they could tell that I was
being VERY serious, and that I could care less
what she thought of me.

I went on talking to these four girls for the
rest of the night... about another hour or so.

I mixed up the conversation.

Sometimes I talked to one of them... sometimes
two... sometimes three... sometimes all four.

I teased them all, busted on them, called them
all kinds of freaky-chick names, and generally
acted like they were my four, bratty little
sisters who annoyed me... but who I still loved (a
little).

By the end of the evening, I was sitting on a
little couch with three of the girls.

At this point, there were almost NO women left
at this bar. I'd say the guy/girl ratio was about
6 or 7 to 1.

I could see about 30 guys standing around me,
and maybe 5 or 6 women. And I had 3 of those 5 or
6 on the couch next to me.

At one point, two of them were on either side
of me MASSAGING me at the same time. It was funny.

Of course RIGHT AT THAT MOMENT the guy from
earlier walked by, stopped, and looked at me. The
look of shock in his eyes was priceless. He didn't
even say hi... he just walked away.

The evening ended with two of the girls kissing
me, and one of them getting my number because she
was going to be in my area in a few weeks and
wanted to see me...

Let's get down to the point...

The reason why I was so successful with these
particular women was because I didn't do what
every other guy that they ran into did...

I didn't trigger their DEFENSE MECHANISMS.

They had time to get to know me... they had
time to get comfortable with me... and I had
time to spark all kinds of sexual tension and
attraction with them.

Now let me tell you how I did it...

WHAT TRIGGERS A WOMAN'S DEFENSE MECHANISM... AND
HOW TO AVOID IT

I'm about to give you a VERY important insight
into how women interact with men.

Pay close attention to this. It's taken me a
LONG time to figure this out...

Women are VERY perceptive.

They know what a guy is thinking by looking at
his body language, and listening to his voice
tone.

Some experts estimate that women are as much as
TEN TIMES better than men at reading body
language.

To most women, men are an OPEN BOOK.

Guys have no idea just how obvious they are...

And there's one particular thing that triggers
a woman's defense mechanism faster than a chubby
kid eats cake...

It's SEEKING APPROVAL.

In every situation with a woman, you can say
WHATEVER you want to say in a way that either:

1) Seeks her approval

2) Doesn't seek her approval

Think about it.

You're either SEEKING APPROVAL... or you're
NOT...

And most guys ARE when they're talking to a
woman that they're interested in.

As I watched the guy in the bar walk up to
women and try to start conversations all night,
the ONE thing that was obvious to all who had the
eyes to see, was that he wanted APPROVAL.

He wanted the women to LIKE him.

I guarantee you that this man was an honest-
to-goodness certifiable WUSSY... and every woman
that he tried to talk to could SMELL it on him.

On the other hand, when I talk to a woman, I
avoid seeking approval.

I make it clear, no matter what I'm saying or
doing, that it doesn't matter whether or not she
likes me... I could care less.

The more I made it clear to the women I was
talking to, that I DIDN'T need their approval, the
more they LIKED ME.

If you want to get past a woman's defenses, the
best plan of action is to NOT TRIGGER them IN THE
FIRST PLACE.

Now, the reality of this situation is that some
women are walking around with their defenses
already up. Maybe they're married, or maybe
they're angry at men... or maybe they're just very
shy.

We live in the real world, and this is part of
it.

But in most situations YOU are the one who
triggers the defenses. It's YOU.

I have several friends who I've watched
interacting with women MANY, MANY times... and
these particular guys RARELY, if EVER get the
"defensive" cold shoulder from women.

Why?

Because they're not seeking approval. They're
just doing what they want, and being themselves.

If you can spend an hour talking to a woman,
and not seek her approval the entire time, you
stand a DRAMATICALLY better chance of taking
things to the next level with her.

That simple demonstration of showing her a full
hour of non-approval-seeking behavior and
communication will separate you from 99% of all
the guys that have approached her in her life.

And the best part about this particular
technique is that it's NOT MANIPULATION. In fact,
seeking approval is far more manipulative than
what I'm saying here.

In fact, one of the reasons why women don't
like a guy who seek approval, is because they
INSTANTLY sense that the guy is using a
MANIPULATIVE tactic.

If you think through the situations that you've
been in with women, you realize that this is the
case.

So stop seeking women's approval when you meet
them.

Stop it!

Learn how to say things in a way that clearly
communicates that you don't need her to like you
or approve of you.

Then learn how to be Cocky & Funny.

When you can make a woman laugh while you're
NOT seeking her approval, you have a powerful
combination that sparks ATTRACTION.

Which leads me to the VERY BEST way of all to
"get past a woman's defenses."

MAKE HER FEEL ATTRACTION FOR YOU.

If a woman feels a powerful ATTRACTION for you,
then the kinds of defenses that we're talking
about here don't even come into play.

Attraction is such a powerful physical and
emotional response that it temporarily disables a
woman's defense mechanisms...

It's the one thing, if you know how to do it,
that women WISH you would trigger inside of them.

Once a woman starts to feel that magical
emotional and physical response called ATTRACTION,
the entire situation changes, and you start having
the kinds of success with women that most men only
dream about.

And most women go through life WISHING, HOPING,
AND DREAMING that they will someday find a man
that can make them feel this amazing feeling...

That man should be you.

And what's the best way for you to learn how to
trigger this magical response that we're talking
about here?

I thought you'd never ask...

The best way to learn is to invest in the
programs that I've created to TEACH you this
stuff.

Start with my book "Double Your Dating". It
will take you through the basics... and teach you
my main concepts, theories, and techniques... very
quickly. You can download it right now and be
reading it within a few minutes. Get it here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

Next, you want to get yourself a copy of my
Advanced Dating Techniques DVD/CD program. This is
a "Boot Camp" style training... and it will teach
you exercises for overcoming your fears and
raising your self-image with women... along with
hundreds of different concepts, theories, and
specific step-by-step techniques for all aspects
of meeting women and getting dates.

You can learn all about it here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

Once you've finished with those programs, and
you'd like to get more in-depth training in
specific areas, check out some of my more
intensive, focused programs...

Check out my Approaching Women program here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/ApproachingWomen

Check out my Body Language program here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/BodyLanguage

And check out my Deep Inner Game program here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/DeepInnerGame

You can watch some great video clips of each
program on these websites...

You'll get a ton of great insights just by
watching these clips. Of course, you'll get a
THOUSAND times more by investing in the programs.
So do yourself the favor, and make the investment
in yourself.

Talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

How To "Read" A Woman's Words And Body Language

2010-10-10T19:56:00.000-07:00

WHAT WOMEN "REALLY MEAN"...

I hope you're sitting down... because what I'm
about to share with you will change how you view
women and dating.

I'm about to take you "behind the scenes" in
the female mind.

I'm going to give you a perspective that most
men never see or realize.

Unfortunately for most guys, not seeing things
the way I'm about to share with you, keeps them
trapped in their own little world of failure.

If you pay careful attention to the things I'm
about to reveal to you, you'll definitely have
more success with women.

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WORDS AND THE REAL
WORLD...

Have you ever heard a woman say something like:

"I want a guy who is sensitive."

"I want a guy who's in touch with his feelings."

"I want a guy who's a good communicator."

"I want a guy who is strong."

"I want a guy who is sexy."

...?

Of course you have.

Women say this stuff all the time.

One of my favorites is:

"I want a REAL MAN."

I love that one.

In the past, when I'd hear women say, "I want a
REAL MAN", I had NO IDEA what the hell they were
talking about.

It almost didn't make sense.

But keep in mind, even though these things
don't always make sense to us guys, they make
PERFECT sense to women.

Here's the problem...

When a woman says one of these things, she
actually MEANS something that is different from
what a guy would mean if he said the same words.

Let me explain.

If a guy says "I'm going to stay home and relax
today", he probably means that he's going to stay
home, watch some sports, drink a beer, look at
pictures of women on the internet, and order a
pizza.

If a WOMAN says that she's going to stay home
and relax, she's probably NOT going to watch some
sports, drink a beer, look at pictures of women on
the internet, and order a pizza.

IMPORTANT NOTICE: If you are reading this right
now and you are a woman who watches sports, drinks
beer, looks at pictures of the women on the
internet, and orders pizza to relax, then contact
me immediately at the email address below. And
send pictures.

Back to what I was saying...

Women are DIFFERENT from men. And the words
they use often don't mean what they SOUND like
they mean.

So, the FIRST thing that you have to get
through your head is that just because a woman
SAYS something to you, doesn't mean that it means
what you THINK it means.

Catch my meaning?

THE BIG SECRET SHE ISN'T TELLING YOU

There's a little secret that women never happen
to mention when they're describing what they want
in a man.

Unfortunately, for all of us good guys who are
trying to be what women want... and hoping that if
we try hard enough to please women that they'll
like us... this little secret is causing us a LOT
of trouble.

The SECRET is that women ONLY want the things
that they're asking for from a guy who already has
about 100 other qualities that they never mention.

In other words, if a woman says, "I want a man
who is a good communicator", what she REALLY means
is:

"I want a guy who already has his life together,
is interesting, unpredictable, dominant, funny,
healthy, charismatic, confident, and loyal... who
is ALSO a good communicator."

The REALITY is that when a woman says one of
these "I want a guy who" statements, she actually
has an IDEAL guy in mind, who ALSO happens to be a
good communicator.

She's NOT imagining Homer Simpson sitting on
his couch reading a book on communication.

The reality of this situation is that what
women REALLY want is a man who makes them feel the
emotional and physical response that I like to
call ATTRACTION.

They want a man who makes them FEEL IT.

But, most women either can't describe the
things that actually make her feel ATTRACTION, or
they don't WANT to have to describe them, because
they want a man who already IS those things...
without having to learn them.

Think about it.

If you were hiring a bodyguard, would you want
one that said, "Yeah, I can be a bodyguard. Just
give me some time to learn..." or would you want
one that already KNEW how to kick ass anytime,
anywhere, without having to learn?

Duh.

Well, the same goes with women.

They don't WANT a guy that they have to train.

If you don't already have the UNIVERSAL
FOUNDATION of what appeals to women, then no
amount of changing and improving things, like your
communication and sensitivity, is going to help
you.

WHAT IS A REAL MAN?

Lately I've been thinking a lot about the idea
of a "Real Man."

You hear both women and men using the term.

But what does it actually MEAN?

And is it important?

Well, after thinking about this particular
topic for a long time, I've come to the conclusion
that it is a VERY important topic.

At this point, I believe that a REAL MAN is
this "ideal" that women imagine when they're
saying "I want a guy who is sensitive."

They're thinking of the REAL MAN, and then
they're imagining him ALSO being sensitive.

There are a lot of aspects to this REAL MAN.

Here are a few that are important:

-Status
-Lack of Insecurities
-Standards
-Experience
-Humor
-Unpredictability
-Leadership
-A Challenge

...and the list goes on.

It's actually not easy to describe a REAL MAN
in a few sentences... but I'll tell you what... a
woman can recognize one INSTANTLY.

Before I tell you more... If you don't know
what a "Real Man" is, and you also get the feeling
that you might NOT be one, then you need to do
yourself a BIG favor and go read this right NOW:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/OnBeingAMan

THE MISTAKE MEN MAKE

Now, a common mistake that men make is taking
something that a woman SAYS that she wants, and
doing it TOO MUCH, thinking that if "A little bit
is good, then more must be better."

For instance, a woman SAYS that she likes guys
who are "thoughtful." So you go out and buy her a
bunch of gifts, give her cute cards every time you
see her, and call her all the time to tell her
that you miss her.

What happens?

She leaves you for her jerk ex-boyfriend.

Huh?

This would be kind of like a woman saying, "My
favorite food is chocolate" and then you thinking
it would be good to feed her chocolate for every
meal just because it's her favorite... or adding
chocolate to every single dish you make for her
from now on... and forgetting that 97% of what
she eats still needs to be OTHER FOODS.

Let me land the plane for you.

Women don't MEAN what you THINK they mean when
they talk about what they want in a man.

And if you take the things women say too
literally, you're going to wind up shooting
yourself in the foot.

WHAT WOMEN REALLY MEAN...

So let me "decode" what women "really" mean
when they say common things.

Consider this your own personal "female
language translator". Refer to it often.

WHEN A WOMAN SAYS...

"I want a guy who is sensitive."

WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...

"I want a guy who is busy doing his own thing in
life, who has goals and objectives... who has
passion for things. If we're out together, he
always keeps me on my toes, and I'm always
wondering what's going to happen next. He's
challenging, interesting, and funny. I would
really like it if he was also sensitive enough to
know when I need a hug, or to be held, or when I
want him to make love to me."

Does this make sense?

Again, she's not imagining a picture of a
boring, predictable, Wussy who is sharing his hurt
feelings because he's so "sensitive."

Big difference.

WHEN A WOMAN SAYS...

"I want a guy who is in touch with his
feelings."

WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...

"I want a guy who is strong-willed, and who
doesn't get upset about petty things... a guy who
can deal with the fact that I freak out
emotionally sometimes... and who knows how to be
cool when things are tough. But I also want him
to be in touch with his feelings so that:
1) He doesn't repress his emotions and then
eventually kill 10 people in his workplace, and
2) When he's intimate with me, and he feels a
passionate rush... he'll grab me and make love to
me like a beast!"

What she's NOT doing is making a picture of a
meek, afraid guy who calls all the time to ask "Do
you like me? Because I sure like you".

WHEN A WOMAN SAYS:

"I want a guy who's a good communicator."

WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS...

"I want a guy who doesn't talk all the time,
because he knows how to let me know what's on his
mind without using words. I want the kind of guy
that can touch me in a certain way and I feel
tingles all over my body. And I want the kind of
guy that can say things in a way that I
understand... not crudely and man-like."

WHAT ABOUT "SEXY"?

You'll often hear women saying that they what a
"Sexy Man."

Now, I USED to think that they meant that they
wanted a PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE man when they said
this.

Sometimes this is exactly what they mean when
they use the term "sexy." But I've found that,
most of the time, women mean something TOTALLY
different when they use the term "sexy."

You see, a woman generally bases more of her
life around what she FEELS than a man does.

And the concept of "sexy" is usually used to
describe the way a man makes a woman FEEL than it
is used to describe how HE LOOKS.

Think about women's romance novels for a
moment. Women's romance novels account for about a
fifth of ALL BOOKS SOLD.

What do these books contain?

WORDS.

Words that DESCRIBE things.

Descriptions that make women FEEL things.

My point: If you want to learn how to be a
"sexy man", then the way you LOOK isn't the most
IMPORTANT thing.

I'll tell you something -

Learning the secrets of being a "sexy man" can
be a very rewarding experience.

A lot of guys out there, including me, know
EXACTLY what it's like to be either on a date
with, or in a relationship with a woman who has NO
INTENTION of being with you "physically."

In other words, she's just not feeling that
powerful "sexual" ATTRACTION for you.

And you don't know how to MAKE her feel it.

Well, let me tell you...

Just like all the other things that a woman
"says" that she wants in a man... that most men
don't ever "get", being SEXY is one of the BIG
ONES.

If you understand the secrets of being SEXY,
you will notice that women start to behave VERY
differently around you.

For more specific techniques and step-by-step
systems for becoming all of these things that I've
mentioned above, INCLUDING "sexy", then I
recommend that you check out my online eBook, and
my Advanced Dating Techniques program.

My eBook "Double Your Dating" comes with three
no-cost bonus reports. One of these reports is
called "Sex Secrets", and it teaches you how to
take things from one step to the next when it
comes to "getting physical" with a woman. If you
do these things, you will INSTANTLY make a woman
realize and remember that you are a SEXY man. I
absolutely guarantee it.

You can read some great samples, and download
it here right now:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

If you're ready to take things to the next
level, and you're REALLY SERIOUS about getting
this area of your life handled... and about having
TOTAL POWER AND CONFIDENCE with women in ANY
SITUATION, then you owe it to yourself to check
out my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.
It's over 12 full hours of me teaching LIVE... and
it will teach you exactly how to become the REAL
MAN that I've described above... and how to meet
and date the kinds of women you've always wanted.
Audio and video samples are here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

If you've already gone through my eBook and my
Advanced Dating Techniques program, and you'd like
to get a more intense education on the topic of
using Body Language to create ATTRACTION... then I
highly recommend that you go check out my "Body
Language" DVD program.

This program is 100% dedicated to teaching you
how to use Body Language to attract women... and
keep them attracted.

Go get all the details, plus watch some great
video clips of the program here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/BodyLanguage

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

The Single "Master Technique" For Creating Attraction...

2010-10-09T09:27:00.000-07:00

Hey,

I have been telling you that I'm about
to stop offering my MASTERY program in my
catalog... and in that email I mentioned the
"Master Key" of attracting women.

A lot of guys want to know what that is... of
course.

Let me give you a hint:

When a woman meets you (actually, when she
first SEES you - even before she meets you)... she
has a very powerful, unconscious "radar system"
that she is using to "size you up."

You have to remember: That woman is the latest
in a VERY long line of highly-successful people.

What do I mean by "successful?"

I mean that every single one of that woman's
parents, grandparents, great-grand-parents... all
the way back for millions of years... had TWO
things in common:

1) They lived to adulthood

2) They MATED

NO QUESTION.

She didn't just get here "by accident."

She got here because her mother, grandmother,
great grandmother... all the way back for
thousands of generations...

...CHOSE MEN THAT HAD WHAT IT TOOK.

And this was way before we had things like
language, culture, movies, and "modern standards."

Here's what I'm trying to say:

Women have a very sensitive natural RADAR
SYSTEM for choosing men who are good mating
partners.

They are BORN with it.

And it's more powerful than any "pick up line"
or other trick that you might have up your sleeve.

But this radar system that women have is tuned
to one KEY frequency. It's looking for one KEY
trait. And that trait is something that NO MAN
I'VE EVER MET was able to identify when asked.

It took me YEARS of research, trial and error,
studying psychology and behavior... to finally
figure it out. And I'm the first one to have
identified it - that I know of.

If you know what this trait is, then you can
"signal" it to women automatically. It's pretty
easy.

And the best part is that it makes "canned
lines" and "rehearsed stories" a waste of time.
You can literally say ANYTHING to create
attraction.

You'll also know how to use Body Language and
eye contact with women - when you know this trait.

As I mentioned in my last email, it was a VERY,
VERY hard decision to stop selling MASTERY.

The thing that made it hardest was that I don't
teach this particular trait in-depth in any of my
other programs.

So once I stop selling MASTERY, it will be at
least a year or two (until I create a program with
this "master technique" explained in-depth)...
before it will be available again.

BOTTOM LINE: If you want to learn this secret
trait, then take advantage of my 20% off "Last
Call" offer for MASTERY.

You can order now, learn the "Master Key"
trait... and have access to guest training
sessions that aren't available anywhere else... at
ANY price.

Just use this link if you're ready to take your
success with women to the MASTERY level:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/Mastery

And remember, after June 30th at midnight,
I won't be offering this program for sale in my
catalog anymore. So get it while we've got a few
left.

David D.

How To Control Your EMOTIONS Around Women

2010-10-09T09:25:00.000-07:00

ONE MISTAKE ALMOST ALL MEN MAKE WITH WOMEN... AND
WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT...

There is one critical mistake that almost all
men make with the women that they're REALLY
attracted to.

This particular mistake is at the root of so
many different problems that men run into, that
the topic probably deserves a book to be written
about it alone.

That mistake is allowing yourself to become
OVERLY EMOTIONAL around a woman at the wrong time
and screwing up the great situation that you have
by revealing the fact that you're out of control.

When most of us guys see an attractive woman
that we'd like to meet, we FREAK OUT, become very
nervous, and literally become IMMOBILIZED.

This is a case of not being able to control
your EMOTIONS.

When most of us guys have the phone in hand,
and we're getting ready to call a girl to ask her
out, we FREAK OUT, and again, we become so nervous
that we're IMMOBILIZED.

This is another case of not being able to
control your emotions.

When most of us guys think that it might be
time to KISS a girl, we FREAK OUT.

When a woman won't call back, we get upset.

When a woman tests us by challenging something
we say, we become nervous and unsure.

The point I'm making here is that if you allow
yourself to become TOO emotional in situations
with women, it will screw you up. Guaranteed.

It's happened to all of us many times, and it's
a UNIVERSAL experience.

But wait a minute.

Emotions are GOOD THINGS, aren't they?

Aren't emotions the thing that allow us to
really ENJOY life?

And isn't it wrong to try to "control how you
feel"? Isn't it better to just "be who you are"
and not try to beat yourself up because you feel a
certain way?

Have you ever heard a woman (or a man) say "I
can't help the way I feel..."?

We all have.

We even have TERMS that we use to describe when
we're overly upset and just need to "get it out."
We call it "venting" and such.

The implication here is that in our 21st
century society, it's OK to be upset, to get
emotional, and to show how you feel...

But is this always true?

TWO KINDS OF EMOTIONS

I think that emotions come in "two flavors."

There are those that you could consider
"positive" emotions or those based in "joy", and
there are "negative" emotions or those based in
"fear."

In other words, there are the emotions that
make you "feel good" and emotions that make you
"feel bad."

In addition, we all know that emotions aren't
like on/off switches.

In other words, when you feel an emotion, you
usually feel an AMOUNT of it. Maybe it's just a
little, or maybe it's very strong.

But the reality is that when an emotion starts
to become too strong, it literally TAKES OVER your
mind and body.

In some situations, this can be a very powerful
POSITIVE thing for a person.

Imagine your favorite musician or actor giving
a world-class performance... you can literally
FEEL the emotions they're feeling. It can be an
amazing experience when they allow their emotions
to take over.

But it can also be a very powerful NEGATIVE
thing as well.

Like when you're looking across the room at a
beautiful woman you'd like to talk to and you
become so nervous that you make yourself sick.

Emotions can actually CONTROL you.

And when an emotion becomes so strong that it
actually DOES "take over", you're out of control.

Remember that.

Before I tell you more, I want to mention one
thing: If you have a lot of problems controlling
your emotions, or you find that your emotions
take over and cause you to screw things up with
women, then go and read this right now:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/DeepInnerGame

Strong emotions also create strong MEMORIES.

We tend to remember things better if we were
feeling a strong emotion when they happened.

I can remember so many situations where I was
too nervous to talk to a girl, or too nervous to
ask her out, or whatever.

I can remember situations TWENTY YEARS AGO
vividly... where I was so nervous in the situation
that the emotion burned the image into my mind.

When this kind of thing happens a lot (like it
has with me), it starts to make a "feedback loop."
In other words, most of the strong memories I had
about women were situations where I SCREWED UP...
so I had less and less confidence as the years
went by.

Give me a little silent nod here if you know
what I'm talking about.

CONTROLLING YOUR EMOTIONS

I'm sure you've already figured out that I'm
going to suggest that you learn how to control
your emotions in situations with women.

Let me talk for a moment about the reasons WHY
it's important to do this.

Remember, when it comes to ATTRACTION, all of
the "normal" rules change.

You have to stop thinking about what you've
learned about being a "nice guy" and realize
that a woman's ATTRACTION isn't triggered by you
being "nice."

So I have TWO good reasons why you need to
learn how to control your emotions around women:

1) If your emotions take control early on, you
probably won't even be able to talk to her, call
her, or ask her out. You'll just be too freaked
out to even make your first move.

2) Women aren't ATTRACTED to guys who let their
emotions control them all the time. This is
ESPECIALLY true when the guy acts like a WUSSY.

We talked about the first reason already.

Let's talk about the second one.

Why don't women like guys who are overly-
emotional Wussies?

Because women NEVER feel ATTRACTION for men
that they can CONTROL.

The more control a woman has over you, the less
ATTRACTION she feels for you.

The less of a CHALLENGE you are, and the more
PREDICTABLE you become, the less ATTRACTION she
feels. It's very simple.

To put it another way; if you're the type of
guy who lets his emotions TAKE OVER, then you need
to learn how to control them.

If you don't, you're going to have a VERY hard
time succeeding with women.

THE FIRST STEP...

I think that the first step in learning how to
control your STRONG emotions is to realize how
they're triggered.

Most strong emotions are TRIGGERED.

Something happens that "pushes a button" inside
of you and BAM!... the emotion happens before you
even have a chance to think about it.

But the fact is that these "triggers" have a
structure to them.

There are all kinds of little things that
happen during that "trigger."

One of the biggest insights that I've had about
these "triggers" is that they're usually caused by
making something that happens MEAN something.

In other words, it's not the actual situation
itself that "pulls the trigger" or "pushes the
button"... it's what you think it MEANS.

For instance, let's say that you've met a cute
girl, gotten her number, and called her on the
phone... she wasn't home, so you left a message
for her.

She doesn't call back.

What do we, as guys, usually think?

"Maybe she doesn't like me. Maybe she has a
boyfriend. Maybe she's trying to avoid me. If I
call her again, maybe she'll reject me."

In other words, we make the fact that she
didn't call back MEAN all these different things.

Another HUGE insight I've had in this area is
that us guys allow our imaginations to take over
and imagine the WORST possible outcomes of
situations.

Then we get nervous about that outcome
happening and we FREAK.

For instance... have you ever seen a girl that
you wanted to approach... but all you could
imagine was her REJECTING you?

Or you were with a woman on a date, and you
wanted to kiss her... and all you could imagine
was her getting upset or pushing you away?

Don't worry, we all do it.

The point is that most of us guys use our minds
to imagine the WORST possible outcomes for
situations... and it pushes all the wrong buttons,
and gets us all nervous and upset... which, of
course, makes us screw everything up.

When it comes to women, it's important that you
lose the need to make everything MEAN something...
and STOP imagining the worst.

Think about those situations when a woman
doesn't call you back... or plays hard to get.

As guys, we immediately start to wonder where
she is... what she's doing... and who she's with.

We make up pictures in our minds of her out with
other guys, doing fun things without us, etc. and
we let it upset us.

Bad idea.

This is the kind of thing that makes us do all
KINDS of stupid, Wussy things that scare women
away... like calling 100 times a day, asking where
she was and what she was doing, etc.

Instead, start doing yourself a favor and:

1) Imagining the BEST possible outcome.

2) Making things mean something GOOD.

If she doesn't call you back, imagine that she
probably didn't get the message (maybe her
roommate erased it), and make it mean that when
she finally DOES hear from you, she's going to be
even MORE interested because it took you so long
to call her.

If she plays hard to get, realize that she's
only doing that because she REALLY likes you...
and that it's almost inevitable that you're going
to get together with her.

Does this stuff sound strange?

Well, I'll tell you something...

All of the guys I know who are the BEST with
women think this way. This is how their minds
operate.

I used to be VERY negative. I thought that
every situation was going to go wrong, and that
everything women did meant that they somehow
didn't like me.

It's taken me awhile, but I've changed my own
thinking so it's now more positive and optimistic.

And guess what?

Now women are FAR more attracted to me.

In fact, it's almost like magic. The more I
expect things to go well, the better they go. Try
it, it works.

Also, start noticing those particular things
and situations that trigger your "overpowering"
emotions.

Learn to spot the signs that it's about to
happen, and then learn how to keep yourself cool,
calm, and collected.

If you can learn how to do this, your success
with women will improve DRAMATICALLY.

Now, this is just the tip of the iceberg, so to
speak.

It's also important to learn how to improve
your self-image, overcome FEAR, maintain your
physical composure, and communicate using your
body language... so that you're successful in each
situation with women.

Where can you learn every one of my best
personal techniques for this stuff?

Try my Advanced Dating Techniques program.

In that program I'll teach you all of the
techniques that I use personally to get these
areas under control... and to take each situation
that you find yourself in with women and turn it
into a success.

You'll learn step-by-step techniques and
systems that you won't find ANYWERE else. I
guarantee it.

If you REALLY want to learn some powerful
techniques for controlling your emotions around
women, then this is the way to learn them.

All the details are here, along with some great
free video preview clips:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

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David D.

Using "Personal Ads" To Meet Women

2010-10-09T09:20:00.000-07:00

***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Dear Dave,

I don't know how it happened, but I have been
somehow subscribed to your newsletter! Some women
think your techniques are unethical, but I just
see them as tools. How ethically the student uses
them is up to the student. Personally, I am a
natural at this stuff, and always have guys
chasing me. Yes, it is boring when all the guys
act the same. I have had to tell numerous men to
quit buying me expensive things (one friend wants
to by me a new car at the moment!) because
somehow, they think that's what it takes to get a
woman. Seriously, I appreciate the sweetness of
the thoughts behind the generosity, but
personally, it's a turn-off. I don't want strings
from a guy I am not in a relationship with! Funny
thing, if the super wealthy car buying guy was a
little less generous and a lot more cocky, I
could've seen myself falling for him.

Anyway, I have a new (3 month) boyfriend, who is
an exceptional guy. I am writing because he is a
total wuss, and the only way I can keep him from
being such a suck up is to bust on him constantly.
He has been trying to get me to agree to move in
with him (my family and I would all hate that!)
and is further dangling the carrot of supporting
me through school. If we were married, I could see
a fairness in that, but come on now, we just
barely met! For now, any advice on how I can get
him to stop? He is just giving TOO much!!!! Seems
like he is setting himself up to get hurt or feel
unappreciated.

Any ideas?

SC From CA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, I have a GREAT idea.

Dump this LOSER and call ME.

I live in California, and I promise to NEVER,
EVER buy you expensive things. No cars, no jewels,
nothing.

You know, it's taken me about five YEARS to
figure out how to get guys to stop acting like
Kiss-Ass Wussbags... and at least a couple of
those years were spent getting MYSELF to stop
acting that way!

It's not easy work.

I suggest that you buy him a copy of my
Advanced Dating Techniques CD or DVD program, and
tell him to pay careful attention to the sections
on how to not give away your power to women, not
act like a Wussy, etc.

I'm not kidding.

And by the way, I appreciate the fact that you
gave me some great material to bust on YOU
about...

You just gotta love it when a woman says:

"He has been trying to get me to agree to move
in with him (my family and I would all hate that!)
and is further dangling the carrot of supporting
me through school. If we were married, I could see
a fairness in that, but come on now, we just
barely met!"

Ohhhhh...

So you could "see a fairness" in him paying for
you to go to school if you were MARRIED to him?

Say what?

Whatchoo talkin' 'bout Willis?

Are you saying that giving him your hand in
marriage would be WORTH him paying for your
schooling in exchange?

There's "a fairness" in that?

Methinks that word "fairness" means something
other than what you think it means.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dear David,

Well, here's someone who lives very far and reads
your mails! I'm 29, live in Athens Greece, and
until a few months ago I was a complete WUSS with
women. Did all their favors, tried to keep them
happy and all I got in return was rejection!

Now, here's my story: I've got this female friend,
that I've known for about 10 years, and that I've
always considered an extremely attractive woman
(me and A LOT of other guys I assure you!) I never
made a move on her, cause as I know now from you,
beautiful woman use their beauty as a weapon, and
I always thought that she'd never look at me at
another way than a friend.

Anyway, 2 months ago, I decided to use your
techniques on her, to see how it works. The result
was AMAZING! After using the C&F approach on a few
dates (it wasn't difficult to take her out to
dinner, cause we were friends as I told you) she
started calling me at night, asking me to take her
out, and once she ADMITTED that my attitude made
her feel funny and strange towards me. Of course I
didn't do anything immediately or asked questions,
I just took the things she said as "natural" and
kept playing the "game". The unbelievable part was
that finally SHE made a move on me, and what's
even more unbelievable was that I pushed her away
at first, saying "hey, your crossing the "friends"
line here!". All that lead to an amazing night on
our next date.

What is important here, is that now I KEEP acting
in the exact same manner with her ever since,
cause I KNOW that acting differently will lead to
a disaster! Now it's sooooo easy for me to have
her, and to make it even harder for her, I say NO
a few times! hahahaha

My personal conclusion and advice to everyone:
show women you are not attracted to them by
pointing out their WEAK parts, act like they're
just another woman you meet... anything else leads
to being WUSSY!!! Be the first to hang up the
phone, or say "goodbye now", or show them you have
a lot of OTHER interesting things to do than see
them. At least this worked for me!

Thanks G.S. Athens - Greece

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ya know, if I had medals for guys who "get it",
I would FLY over there and put one around your
neck.

Yeah, you're the man. Nice.

***RETORT***

For the "classy, sophisticated lady" in your last
newsletter:

The woman who's going crazy over me and talking
about how there are no real men left happens to
have a graduate degree, a great job that involves
traveling to South America every month, teaches a
class at community college twice a week, is very
well-traveled, well-read, and extremely classy.
The beauty is that the C&F and Challenge routine
works even better on these types of women than on
average or above-average women.

F.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, take that BIATCH!

LOL...

Look, one of my good friends (who has dated
literally hundreds and hundreds of women) and I
were joking recently about how the MORE ATTRACTIVE
and INTELLIGENT women are the MOST FUN to bust on,
make fun of, and tease...

... yep, when they're REALLY SHARP, it's THE
BEST!

There's nothing like the tension and
anticipation that's created when you're sparring
with an attractive woman.

And they love it when it's done right!

***SUCCESS STORY***

Well Dave,

I have to say I just hate it. I bought your
ebook and in 7 hours I used your ideas and found
myself laughing almost uncontrollable.. I used
the C&F at work and had I woman colleague that I
didn't really care for hitting on me.. It was
great.. I wasn't even interested in her and even
she noticed and responded to my C&F. I so busted
her balls... Well I now have to say so much for
the money back thing.. LOL. and my sure right
ideas...I'm buying your CD right after I send
this email off.. Guy's it's worth it. A real
diamond in the rough.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Diamond in the ROUGH?

I'd say a diamond in a Tiffany setting, my man.

Hey, maybe you were talking about YOU, not
me... lol.

No, really... I appreciate your compliments.

It's usually pretty astounding to guys when
they start treating women in a way that both:

1) Doesn't make sense

2) Works like crazy

... and that they NEVER would have imagined in
a million years would create ATTRACTION.

Great job, and thanks for the letter.

***COMMENT***

David D,

About two years ago I really got myself twisted up
into a relationship and came out of the thing a
real wuss... Anyway, I went on this crusade to
meet, date, and **** as many women as I could. I
didn't know about your materials at the time and
pretty much learned on my own through trial and
error. Over the last two years I have learned a
lot and must say that the information you teach is
DEAD ON. I am currently seeing somebody now
steadily, so am not the player I was, but I think
I could get 75-80% of the women I talk to to give
me their email/phone number, etc....and everything
I do is pretty much what you teach in your book!

I had the following exchange with a woman who
answered my Yahoo personals ad (which I forgot was
even out there)...I wasn't really interested in
talking to her because I'm seeing somebody, but
just for grins I thought I'd check her out.

This is a really good example of busting on a
woman who has a lot of attitude. I think this
only goes to show that the women who present a lot
of attitude are the MOST vulnerable to the C&F
technique. She came at me with a lot of attitude
and I threw it back in her face like a bomb. She
caved big time. Check it out Dave....

We exchanged maybe 2 emails and I asked for her
picture. Here was her response....

HER: "yes, but it's with my friends and i don't
really give it out too easily...so i kinda wanted
to check you out a minute before i sent you a
pic...hey dont worry i am not hard on the
eyes...just protective over my privacy and that of
my friends if you know what I mean.....k?"

ME: "Well, I don't usually get to know somebody
without seeing a picture...so if I don't like what
I see, I'll come up with some story about having
to go out of town to visit a sick uncle."

HER: "oh...it's like that? Well let me give you
some insight.....if you dont like what you
see....oh well! for me...men are like
buses....there is another one coming by every 20
minutes.....the question is whether i choose to
get on it or not."

ME: "Thanks for the "insight", but I am the bus
DRIVER baby, and if you don't have your buss pass
I aint letting your ass ON the buss. And yes there
may be another bus coming along, but if you just
hop on any bus, there's no guarantee it's gonna
take you where you really wanna go. I have my own
car, girl..I ain't waiting for a bus or a woman."

She sent her picture and phone number in the next
email and has been on my jock over since. C&F at
work...

Keep up the good work, Dave. I believe in
everything you preach.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah!

Isn't it the BEST when a woman tries to act
stuck up and bitchy by saying "men are like
buses", and you just casually come back with "I'm
the bus DRIVER baby"... lol!

If you're reading this right now, and you don't
"get" what happened, let me lay it out...

This is some cute, hot, snooty babe who is used
to men kissing up to her. She was TESTING this guy
by trying to act like SHE has all the power.

His response put her in her place, and
communicated in a LOUD, CLEAR way that he was NOT
one of the men that is going to kiss up to her and
FAIL the test.

This kind of "deeper level" of communication is
almost ALWAYS taking place when men and women
interact. If you know what to look for, and how to
deal with it, you'll pass the tests. If you don't,
then you won't last long at all with most women.

***QUESTION***

Hey David,

I've been reading these e-mails for some time and
you have it pretty well figured out. I'm one of
those guys that "got it" early on in life and have
been quite successful with women over the years. I
was a world class athlete and so the confidence
just oozed out and would drive women crazy, so my
success started out as a by-product of that
confidence. Your techniques and letters from
others using them just confirmed my thoughts from
all these years. For example, I once shared a
house with 6 beautiful women during my college
years, other guys were drooling over these girls
and acting like sick puppies trying to get their
attention, yet they were happy just to share me!
(good thing I was a world class athlete huh?). We
had a big old house that was hard to heat in the
winter so we all slept in the same room and put
the beds together on the floor to keep
warm...ahhh.... those were the days! Many of my
friends (male and female both) have always asked
the question "have you ever dated an average
looking woman?" My response, "I'll only date
women with a good personality, because looks are
the result only of good fortune and fade away in
time, so I'd rather date a woman with substance,
that took her some effort to achieve". Let a
beautiful woman hear that and she'll immediately
attempt to prove to you that she has that
substance you're looking for (many don't)! When
they do, just act indifferent and they'll be
trying to figure you out for months to come while
you reap the rewards!

My question....I've been dating a woman for a few
months and she's quite taken by me (and I am with
her) She's got it all, looks (9+), personality,
she's fantastic in bed and interested in a serious
committed relationship. However out of habit I
often still behave with that confidence and
aloofness/indifference that has worked so well in
the past. She says she hates it and I'd get
farther if I wouldn't do it so much. Do you think
it's a test? I'm headed for a two week ski
holiday to Switzerland in a couple of weeks and
she's joining me. Should I give her more of what
she wants on the trip and see how she responds,
and then maybe tone it down just a little when we
return if it seems to work well? (I'll never give
it up completely, don't worry!)

HP

Michigan

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Look, you suck.

All men hate you, and you are a bastard.

But you already knew that.

Now, to answer your question...

I don't like to answer "relationship"
questions, but since this one is borderline, and
your email contained a story about you having 6
girlfriends all at once that all slept IN THE SAME
BED EVERY NIGHT with you... I'll allow it.

Hell, I just read the story over again to let
the fantasy sink in deeper before I finish with my
answer here...

You're obviously a pretty sharp guy.

Let me ask you something:

When a man gets together with a woman in a
long-term relationship, and one day she wakes up
and realizes that the guy has turned into a
WUSSBAG... what happens?

She begins to LOSE her ATTRACTION for him.

She can't explain it.

But she doesn't WANT to lose it.

In most cases, she still LOVES the guy.

But none of that matters...

All that matters is that she has to go, because
she just doesn't FEEL IT for him anymore.

Look, it doesn't sound to me AT ALL like you're
being mean, abusive, or manipulative with her.

If you CHANGE for her, what does THAT
communicate?

I think you should KEEP DOING WHAT'S WORKING...
which, as it turns out, is being yourself.

I'll bet you a dollar that if you stop being
yourself and start trying to be "nice" that she'll
be gone within 90 days.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Hey Dave, gotta tell you, your advice absolutely
rocks!!! Here I was for 23 years of my life
wondering what on Earth it takes for a man to be
SEXY in a woman's eyes... And here all it took was
for me to read your e-book and newsletters!!!
Anyways, I've been reading and re-reading your
book, booklets and newsletters for the past two
weeks now, without acting on them... I did all the
exercises though, including the mental preparation
of course... So anyways, today was the day I
decided to put your theories to the test. I woke
up this morning and said to myself, "Today is the
day that women everywhere will realize that I am
their 'Prince in shining armour. '" C&F, a touch
of style, a little mixed signal sending and that
brings me to where I am now... 21H03, the night
is still but a fetus, but I am sitting at home
wondering how I am going to deal with the three
dates I have made for this weekend! A waitress
(sexy as hell... a solid 9.9 on my scale), a
college girl (about an 8, but very sweet) and a
girl of who I only know her name and contact
details (a solid 10)... Damn!!! How long I've
waited to have problems like these!!! If these are
problems, can you imagine what the GOOD times will
be like?! J.S. from South Africa

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeahhhhh Babyyyyyyy!

Ya know, it's really crazy that we guys live in
a MENTAL PRISON of our own making.

A guy that attended one of my seminars shared a
story with us.

He had a MAJOR breakthrough one evening when he
was trying out my ideas.

He said (I'll paraphrase), "I can't believe how
easy it is to start conversations with women. I
just walked up to women all night and said 'Hi,
I'm just walking around meeting people... what's
your name?' and it worked!"

And yes, it is AMAZING when you start having
women find you SEXY because of the way you
COMMUNICATE with them.

Love it!

If you're reading this right now and you'd like
to be saying "It's easy to approach women!" then
read THIS:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/ApproachingWomen

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

I just ordered your ebook a few days ago, so I'm
still relatively new at gathering all of the
information so I can incorporate it in my game.

However, I have taken what you have called the
cocky and arrogant approach on a beautiful female
a couple of days ago, just to see how it would
work out. Because, in the past, when I have seen a
woman so attractive as to make men stop in their
tracks, I would try to engage her in pleasant
conversation, maybe give a compliment and ask for
her number. 98% of the time, this approach wasn't
successful. But the other night, I whispered in
her ear, "I bet that outfit looked good, when it
was in style". She just sort of smirked, but I
didn't follow up. She looked like she may have
been a dancer, but I was really interested in only
seeing her reaction at this time.

Anyway, here's my question:

When you use this approach with very attractive
women, giving them a hard time, how do you make
the transition later when you want to get her
number or email, WITHOUT making it seem as if
you're pursuing her just like every other guy
she's come across?

L.T. Philadelphia, PA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

LOL... be careful. You know just enough to be
dangerous to YOURSELF, dude.

You don't want to be "Cocky and Arrogant." You
want to be Cocky & Funny!

Saying "I bet that outfit looked good, when it
was in style" doesn't sound so funny to me.

She probably smirked because she was thinking
"This guy is a jackass"... lol.

I'm having too much fun tonight. Someone call
the Fun Police before I have to do it.

You need to add HUMOR, man.

Humor!

And don't concern yourself with trying to hide
your intentions from women.

This is Wuss talk.

When I ask a woman for her number, I'm not
trying to get her approval, and I'm not trying to
communicate to her that she has all the power.

When I ask her for her number, I'm asking it in
a way that says "I am interested in getting to
know you better... but not right now. Give me your
number, and I'll do that at some point in the
future".

Trying to hide your motivation only makes you
come across like a weak, manipulative person.

***QUESTION***

David,

If I had not discovered your techniques a year
ago, my life would be miserable. You have
effectively changed my entire personality, and I
have never had more fun interacting with women and
people in general. Your theories and concepts
have proven, in my experience, to be incredibly
accurate. What fascinates me the most is how your
ideas are basically universal to every single
woman. About 5 months ago, I found a women who I
quickly realized was a keeper (beautiful,
intelligent, & most importantly emotionally
stable). I know that I am doing well with her
because every once in awhile she says something
along the lines of "I can never tell if you're
really into me". Earlier in the relationship if
she said something like this, I would use evasive
action to avoid replying to the question. A
couple days ago, however, she brought it up again
and I said "Of course I like you, if I didn't like
you would have been out of the picture a long
time ago". She said that she needs that
reassurance from me and doesn't know why she is
insecure about the relationship. What would be a
response to this that would intensify her
attraction for me? How can I make her feel more
secure in the relationship and have a higher self-
esteem in general( these qualities would make ME
more attracted to her) without saying things that
make me look like a wussbag?

A second question: You said that while men
will cheat for physical reasons, women will cheat
for emotional reasons. What would some of these
emotional reasons be, and what can a guy do to
ensure that this is never an issue? I do not feel
that this applies to my situation, but I am very
interested in your opinion on the issue and I know
that many other guys are as well. -T, Minnesota

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, the cheating issue is too big of a
question... but let's just say that you
DRAMATICALLY reduce your chances of being cheated
on when you use the materials you're learning from
me....

And as for your girl here who wants
validation...

You can say ANYTHING and have it mean ANYTHING.

When she said, "I can never tell if you're
really into me" and you answered, "Of course I
like you, if I didn't like you, would have been
out of the picture a long time ago"... you were
being direct.

Try being more Cocky & Funny in these
situations.

"No, I hate you" is a good comeback.

"So you're trying to tell me that you're really
into me?" is another good one.

You can follow these up with a "Sly Smile", so
she knows that you're giving her a hard time.

Just remember to NEVER be predictable. Don't do
that!

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave,

I subscribed to the list a couple weeks ago and
have learned much in that time. I developed c&f
into my personality at a very early age to keep
from being beaten up on the playground in grade
school. Even with this essential skill, I have
been unsuccessful with women. The problem is in
not being able to maintain an indifferent attitude
when faced with a beautiful woman. This was best
illustrated last weekend. I ran into a girl I
have not seen in over a year. At our last
meeting, I was overwhelmed by her beauty and
charm. I don't have to tell you how that went.
Last weekend I ran into her at another party. Due
to the pitiful failure of a year ago, I paid her
little mind, enjoying myself with the other people
there and throwing out a lot of undirected
cocky/funny attitude. After a few minutes she was
my biggest fan. Surprised as I was, I didn't
realize what had just happened and the evening
ended unremarkably. The very next morning I
downloaded your book. I now know what happened,
what I did correctly that night, what I have been
doing incorrectly for years, and what to do about
it. Luckily, I didn't "wuss out" that night and
may get another chance with this one. Even if I
don't, there are plenty of others around. And for
all of you guys "seriously considering buying" the
book - BUY IT! I wasted two weeks debating and
missed an excellent opportunity with a beautiful
woman.

Thanks for the missing pieces,

DS in AZ

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, you've got a great point here...

There are a LOT of different pieces to this
puzzle.

I talk a lot about being Cocky & Funny... and
about not being a Wuss, etc.

But these are just a few of the basics.

I love it when guys come to my live seminars or
listen to my Advanced Dating Techniques program
(which was taped at a special 3-day live program
that I did).

I always hear things like "Wow, I thought this
was just going to be three days of the same
stuff..." or "I figured that this was just going
to be a repeat of your eBook, Double Your Dating."

They're always surprised when they find out
that there is so much to learn... and that there
are so many great concepts and techniques to use
with women.

Maintaining composure is a key.

Beliefs are a key.

Body language is a key.

...and there are many, many more.

Thanks for the email reminder of this fact.

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

How's it going? I've had some pretty good success
using that online personals response you gave a
while ago (modified a bit to suit my own situation
of course). I almost always get a response, with a
beautiful woman actually thanking me for sending
her a message. There is a problem when I go to
reply back to them though. In my reply, I usually
bust on them and then say something to the effect
of

"so tell me about yourself, what you like to do
for fun, fave music/movies, etc... And if you're
good, and interesting enough, I might let you ask
about me"

When I do this I never get a reply, and this has
happened half a dozen times! I'm totally lost
here... They really seemed to be into me the first
time, and then I reply, and nothing. So I know
where the problem is (me), I just don't know what
it is. Help me macking guru, tell me where I have
gone off the path.

Your humble disciple,

J.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, that personal ad response newsletter was
a big hit.

I still get letters about it and requests for
it these days...

Good stuff.

I'd say that your problem is that you're trying
to be Cocky & Funny a little too soon, and in a
way that doesn't go with the "personality" of your
initial response...

Let me explain.

Cocky & Funny is a great technique. No doubt
about it.

But when you first meet or start chatting with
a woman online, your MAIN objective is to MEET
HER.

It's not to make her laugh, or anything else.

So if you're getting good responses, move
DIRECTLY to saying "Great, let's get together this
week for a cup of tea and some stimulating
conversation...."

Don't ask her to tell you about herself (she
already did that in her personal, dork), and don't
tell her that you might let her ask about you. She
doesn't CARE about you. She only cares about how
you make her FEEL.

You got her attention with an interesting reply
to her ad, now KEEP it by moving to a MEETING.

Once you're alone with her in person, THEN bust
out your (still amateurish) Cocky & Funny moves.

And this concept goes for when you're meeting
women in public face-to-face as well. Just get the
number/email and set up a meeting later. Don't
worry about making a great impression, or charming
her.

Once you become a master of communicating with
women, then try more advanced moves....

***QUESTION***

Firstly, I love your stuff! Every guy should
definitely buy this book lest you like to keep
losing manliness points with the ladies every time
you're out. Anyways, the C&F is really getting to
me now, I actually understand the psychology of
women now! Praise GOD!! Anyways, to my story. I
had met this chick, like an 8 or a 9 I'd say and
started talking to her at a book store. Somewhere
in the conversation we start to talking about
morphine and other hospitalization type drugs. So,
in a serious face I say, "Whoa, I didn't know I
was talking to a drug addict, I might just have to
leave you now, our relationship is over." She
didn't say a word, she just sat there with a
stunned look on her face. I leave and go find some
goofy drug self help book, and return 5 minutes
later, and give her the book, saying something to
the melody of, "Seeing as how I didn't want you to
turn to such harsh drugs as elephant
tranquilizers, I got you this book for your
problems. I know you love me already, but drugs
are not the answer! The last thing I need is a
woman who is all over me that can actually smell
colors. I'm just saying don't become a pharmacist
or anything, the white powder on your nose all the
time might amount to some suspicion. Course you
could always be a police officer, the other people
might just think you're really into powdered
doughnuts." After this, I must say I sealed the
deal, and she burst out laughing, ran her hand up
my face and through my hair, and it seemed that
she had that "I want you now!" kinda look in her
eyes. So I say, "Easy now killer, let's just be
friends." and then I just said goodbye, and did
the turn back and got her info. Anyways, I'm
getting better at it anyways. I have a question as
well. I know in learning C&F you have people write
down their stuff, which is what I've been doing,
but for topics which I haven't really touched on,
I'm just not really quick on the draw, and I often
mess up. Should I just keep on writing my stuff
down and I'll eventually start thinking of funny
things all the time? Also, I've noticed that a lot
of times I can't quite get the info for one reason
or another. It's like I forget a lot of times, and
then I slap my head in stupidity. Anyway to help
that?

Thanks, R from Michigan

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yes, SLAP HARDER.

And read the advice I just gave to the guy
above.

Don't worry too much about being Cocky & Funny
at first.

You'll find that much of the time you'll do
fine by just taking things one step at a time, and
incorporating little bits of the concepts and
techniques as you go along.

Most guys JUST DON'T GET IT, and most women
will respond to you MUCH more strongly if you just
keep things SLIGHTLY more interesting than the
average, predictable, dumbass guys who usually
approach them.

You're doing great.

Keep writing things down, keeping notes, and
improving.

***QUESTION***

I have just started reading your newsletter for a
few weeks now. It sounds like you mention a lot
of good stuff. I am thinking of ordering your
advanced dating package, but I have a few
questions first. When you send the CD's does the
package say anything about Double your Dating, or
is it discrete? I also want to know if it
addresses my two problems. They are that I don't
seem to have a "closer", and I sometimes worry
about running out of things to say until I really
get to know a person. Any feedback that you can
give me would be appreciated.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

First of all, YES... this material will give
you plenty of ideas to keep the conversation and
"physical activities" progressing nicely.

Oh, and I have BAD news...

When you order my Advanced Dating Techniques
program, I send it out in a BIG, BRIGHT ORANGE
package that glows in the dark and says:

"ATTENTION: The person who is getting this
package has a very small penis, and wants the
world to know about it!"

What, are you crazy?

It comes in a PLAIN BOX, with no "Double Your
Dating" identification of any kind on it. I
promise.

The best part?

It's the best investment you can make in your
dating life, period... end of story.

It has all of my best stuff, presented by me
personally, and explained in detail.

Go here for all the details:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

And make sure you download your copy of my
eBook "Double Your Dating". You can download it
now, and be reading it within a few minutes. It's
here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

Again, about David deAngelo

2010-10-07T21:05:00.000-07:00

Hi, it's David D. here.

I wanted to take a minute and tell you my
story, explain how I learned what works to attract
women... and to give you some pointers on how you
can get the most out of my different techniques,
concepts, and programs.

First, let me answer the question:

"Who Is David DeAngelo... And How Can He Help Me
Become More Successful With Women And Dating?"

I'm actually a pretty normal guy, who went
through a point where I decided that I needed to
get this part of my life called "meeting women"
handled.

I won't bore you with the details, but I was
going through a time where I had just moved to a
new city... I was single... and I had NO IDEA how
to meet women or get dates. One night I was
talking to one of my best friends and I said, "I
am going to figure this out for myself, no matter
what it takes".

Well, it wasn't exactly easy to "figure it
out". I spent the next few years reading a lot of
books, listening to "motivational tapes", going to
seminars, and generally trying out a lot of whacky
ideas that I was learning.

The real "break" came when I started meeting
and hanging out with guys that were NATURALLY good
with women.

I'm talking about guys who had figured out how
to attract women on their own.

As I learned from these guys, I noticed that
they did certain things and communicated with
women in certain ways that REALLY didn't "add up".

Maybe they would make fun of an attractive
woman... but the woman would respond by laughing
and playfully hitting them on the arm.

Or they'd tell a woman that they didn't like
being treated like a sex object, and that she'd
better not try the "buy me a drink trick" just to
get a date... and they'd wind up having the woman
begging for their number.

The more I saw things that "didn't make sense"
actually WORKING with women, the more I began
thinking that I might be on the verge of
discovering something big.

To make a long story short, I made rapid
progress by learning from these "naturals", and I
took the things I learned from them... tested and
refined the ideas into a system... and put it all
together for myself.

Guys often ask me to tell them stories or give
them "field reports" about women I've dated. They
want to know if I've dated anyone famous... or
they want the exact word-for-word transcript of
every time I've approached a woman.

It's not my style to brag a lot or tell
stories, but the fact is that I have dated some
pretty amazing women over the last several years.
Yes, I've dated famous women. Yes, I've dated
models. And yes, I've dated women that would be
PERFECT in a starring role in a future "Fatal
Attraction" movie.

Be careful what you wish for!

One of the things I've realized is that dating
a supermodel isn't going to automatically change
your life and make you "happy" on the inside. In
fact, if you believe that attracting a woman will
be the answer to all of life's problems, I've got
bad news for you...

But I can also tell you that learning how to
successfully meet women anytime, day or night, in
any situation will bring you HUGE benefits.

I have now come to believe something that I
think is very important...

If you don't know how to successfully meet
women, then you're probably going to walk through
life feeling like "less than a man". It's not an
easy thing to explain to someone who doesn't "get
it", but I'll bet that you know EXACTLY what I'm
talking about.

On the other hand, if you DO know how to meet
and attract women, you're going to have an inner
confidence and "cool" that other people can sense
INSTANTLY.

Why Should You Believe That I Can Help You?

As you already know quite well, there are a lot
of people running around trying to convince you
that they have all the answers.

Well, unfortunately for you, I don't have ALL
the answers.

But I do believe that I have SOME of the
answers (and I think the answers I have are pretty
important).

The question you're probably asking is "Why
should I believe what David D. says?".

And my answer to you is that you SHOULDN'T just
blindly believe me.

In fact, I would recommend that you approach my
materials with a healthy skepticism, and a
"scientific" perspective.

I want you to TRY what you learn from me.

I think you'll find that I'm not interested in
things that don't work. I like stuff that gets
results. And BIG results, at that.

Only after you've seen that this stuff is
REAL... do I want you to "believe" me.

By the way, my materials aren't "perfect".

I've spent a lot of time trying to explain and
describe what I've learned over the years... and
to do it in a way that allows you to get results
as fast as possible.

The fact is that I'm learning and growing all
the time... and I've updated some of my programs
recently to reflect new things I've learned, new
understandings I have, and new techniques I've
developed.

I'm a person, and as a person I have my flaws.
But I also think my programs are the best in the
world, and I stand behind them. I honestly hope
you get a TON of value from them.

"Try Before You Buy"

I honestly believe that you should only have to
pay for my stuff IF IT HELPS YOU MEET WOMEN.

If it doesn't help you, then you shouldn't have
to pay... makes sense, right?

Before I tell you about my different programs,
I want to FIRST tell you that every program I sell
comes with a "Try Before You Buy" guarantee.

I will let you go through any program or book
you want, learn everything inside, and actually
TRY IT OUT in the real world BEFORE you pay me for
it.

If you don't get results IMMEDIATELY, then just
send it back to me... and I won't charge you. I'm
serious.

If you get to the point where you'd like to
invest in one of my programs, and you want to get
all the details, just go to any of the websites
where you can order the program, and it will all
be there.

I am 100% serious about this offer... it's
real. I only want you to pay me if you meet more
women.

Where Should You Start?

Once you start seeing improvement in your
success with women and dating, you're going to
naturally want to get into some of my more
"advanced" ideas.

The best place to start is with my first ebook:
"Double Your Dating". I've updated it, added some
great new material, and even added condensed
chapter summaries for you to reference anytime.
This book contains my very best thinking, and I
believe it's the best place to start... for ANY
guy who wants to learn how to attract and meet
women.

Before I tell you about my other programs, I
want to say something that might not be the best
thing for my wallet...

My best ideas are in this book. I'm serious.
You don't need to invest in my more advanced DVD
programs, or come to one of my live seminars to
get my "good stuff".

In fact, many of my best ideas are actually in
my FREE newsletters. Really.

My DVD programs and other materials are
designed to help guys who are interested in
getting a more "in-depth" education.

Think of it like fishing...

If you want to learn how to fish, just go
fishing with a buddy. You'll learn what you need
to know.

But if you want to learn how to fish like a
PRO, it's going to require some more education,
research, and practice.

My free newsletters and Double Your Dating
ebook will teach you everything you need to know
to meet women. If you want to become a MASTER,
then consider investing in my other programs...

You can download the ebook and be reading it in
literally minutes. Just go here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

"Attraction Isn't A Choice"

My second ebook is called "Attraction Isn't A
Choice: How To Use Secret Communication And Sexual
Body Language To Attract Women".

This book is heavy on the "psychology" of
attraction... but it also includes a few specific
techniques. I think of it as a deeper journey into
the mind of a man and the mind of a woman... and
the complex underlying mechanisms that are at play
during the human "mating process".

If you're fascinated by psychology and behavior
(like I am), then you'll not only enjoy learning
what's in this book... but you'll also learn how
to see every aspect of meeting women differently.

All the details are here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AttractionBook

What's The Next Step?

If you've decided to take this part of your
life "seriously", and you'd like to get a more in-
depth education, then here's how to do it...

"Interviews With Dating Gurus"

As I mentioned before, my real success with
women came after learning from guys who were
"naturals" with women.

I recommend that YOU make friends with guys who
are good with women, and spend time learning from
them.

If you don't have a lot of extra time, and
you'd like to learn from some of the guys that I
have learned from and met over the years, then you
might want to invest in my monthly "Interviews
With Dating Gurus" program.

Every month, I interview a different "Dating
Guru"... and then I edit the recording down to a
tight, focused CD that I'll send out to you.

This is the next best thing to learning from
these people in real life (it might actually be
better, because you get my experience and
connections as part of the deal).

After listening to ten or twelve of these
interviews... a few times each... it will begin to
"reprogram" your mind. It will change how you see
the world. It will install a new way of thinking
about meeting and attracting women.

Getting several different perspectives will
open your mind to the possibilities that are out
there for YOU... and you'll also learn TONS of
practical, real-world, step-by-step techniques for
every aspect of meeting women.

If you'd like to learn more about my monthly
Interviews With Dating Gurus program, just go
here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/InterviewSeries

"Advanced Dating Techniques"

I think of my Advanced Dating Techniques DVD/CD
program like "Boot Camp".

It's probably the Advanced Program I'm most
proud of, as it will really give you a DEEP
education on all aspects of meeting women.

I can remember when I first created this
program, and guys who were at the live filming of
the program said things like: "I thought you were
just going to teach the same stuff you teach in
your book... this was almost all new stuff!".

I originally created this program for guys who
were interested in more of the "inner psychology"
of dating success... in other words, guys who
wanted to learn: how and why women were attracted
to guys (and how to trigger that attraction)...
how to fix "self image" problems and how to
overcome the fear of approaching women... and how
to "undo" bad programming from earlier in life.

Of course, the program also contains literally
HUNDREDS of great tips and techniques... and even
"pick up lines" for approaching women in different
situations.

It also features me interviewing some of my
good friends who have taught ME how to meet women.
Priceless.

In short, if you're going to get started with
one of my more advanced programs, START WITH THIS
ONE. You can watch some video clips of the program
here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

"The Inner Game And The Outer Game"

As you might already know, I put a lot of
emphasis on what you might call the "Inner Game"
of success with women and dating.

The Inner Game is all about what's going on
INSIDE your mind, body and emotions.

I honestly believe that if you don't have your
Inner Game together, then almost NOTHING you do or
say is going to get you success with women.

If you don't have your inner game together,
then fancy techniques and cute pick-up lines will
only waste your time... because the woman you're
talking to will QUICKLY see that you're not the
smooth guy you're pretending to be.

On the other hand, if you DO have your Inner
Game together, then you can use almost ANY
technique or "opening line"... because the woman
you're approaching will be able to FEEL that
you're the kind of man that she's been looking
for...

Now, don't get me wrong...

Techniques, lines, and strategies DO work with
women. No question.

In fact, I've found that women APPRECIATE it
that you've taken the time to polish up your
presentation (so to speak), and learn how to
communicate in a smooth, interesting way.

But it's only part of the puzzle.

With this in mind, I like to think of my
programs as being "Inner Game" programs, "Outer
Game" (or "technique") programs... and "combined"
programs.

By the way, my ebook "Double Your Dating", and
my "Advanced Dating Techniques" program are a
balance between Inner Game and Techniques...

The reality is that I always sneak some of each
into EVERY program... but I'm going to talk about
them in terms of these two categories, so you get
an idea of how they work together...

"The Inner Game"

A solid "Inner Game" is the foundation for all
success with women (and with life in general, I
believe).

I've created several programs that are aimed at
helping you build a POWERFUL Inner Game... and I'd
like to tell you about a few of them...

"The 77 Laws Of Success With Women And Dating"

To that end, I've created a simple DVD program
called "The 77 Laws Of Success With Women And
Dating".

A quick confession: These aren't really "laws"
at all.

These are guidelines. They're concepts. They're
shortcuts.

I think of this program as me sharing my 77
best ideas... rapid fire... in a quick
"affirmation-style" program.

Most of the ideas are either Inner Game
concepts... or they're techniques or strategies
that help you BUILD a solid Inner Game.

This program is relatively short, very
condensed, and INTENSE. If you want to watch some
preview clips, go read about the program and check
them out here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/77_LAWS

"Sexual Communication"

After spending years trying to learn how to
attract women, I began to notice that the guys who
were the MOST successful were actually
communicating with women on a "different level".

As I mentioned a little while ago, I took some
big personal steps forward when I went out and
actually WATCHED guys who were "naturals" as they
interacted with women.

I also mentioned that they often did things
that didn't make "logical sense". Sometimes they'd
tease a beautiful woman about her looks... or
accuse her of trying to use tricks to "get
laid"... or turn the tables in some other way.

At first, it didn't make any sense at all to
me.

In fact, it took quite awhile before I would
even ACCEPT that this stuff could POSSIBLY work to
attract women.

I mean, why would an attractive woman... who
has her choice of guys... put up with being
teased, busted on, and made fun of?

Well, the more I watched, the more I learned...
and the more it made "sense" to me.

What I discovered was that there was a level of
communication that was happening... right in front
of me all along... that I just hadn't "seen"
before.

One of the things that was MOST exciting was
that once I started to "get" what was going on, I
started to practice the "language" myself and made
pretty dramatic progress.

Later, I named this level of communication...
and I called it "Sexual Communication".

It's a language... just like the English
language... and once you learn it, you'll totally
"get" how to spark ATTRACTION with women.

You'll also "get" why it is that women never
responded to you BEFORE on this level.

This type of communication is the KEY to
flirting with women effectively, building
attraction without risk... and taking things from
one "step" to the next... smoothly, and without
any rejection.

Toward the end of this program, I'll teach you
how to bridge over into PHYSICAL Sexual
Communication as well... and easily take things to
a "physical" level whenever you'd like.

I think of this program mostly as an "Inner
Game" program, even though it contains some
fantastic step-by-step techniques and
progressions. I HIGHLY recommend it if you'd like
to learn how to connect the Inner and Outer game
together.

Details and video preview clips are here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/SexualCommunication

"On Being A Man... Who Naturally Attracts Women"

After putting a lot of time and energy into
learning what it takes to attract and meet women,
I finally realized that women aren't attracted to
BOYS. They're attracted to MEN.

And the single best thing you can do to
increase your success with women and dating is to
learn what's holding you back from maturing into a
MAN... and then fix those things so you become the
kind of man that women are NATURALLY attracted to.

Now, I have to warn you... this program
probably has fewer "techniques" you can use to
attract women than ANY of my programs.

But it's probably also the most PROFOUND of all
my programs.

This program will explain to you why most men
walk around like Wussbags, begging for attention
from women... and why this turns women off faster
than you can flip a light switch.

And it also explains what to do if YOU need to
get rid of your "Inner Wussy"... and it explains
how to become a MAN... even if you didn't have a
strong masculine male figure as a role-model
growing up.

In this program, you're going to face
everything from your fears... to your fear of
DEATH. It's heavy, no question.

I guarantee that one review of this program
will deeply affect your view of life, women, and
yourself. It's like taking a sip of water from a
fire hydrant... refreshing, but scary.

I also guarantee that this program will create
a change in you that other people will notice...
no question.

If it sounds like something you need, then go
read the details and watch some video clips here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/OnBeingAMan

"Deep Inner Game"

The program I just told you about (On Being A
Man) is directed at your CORE. It's about
affecting your IDENTITY.

If you already "get" what it means to be a
mature, masculine, confident man who knows what
he's doing in life... and you have more specific
PSYCHOLOGICAL Inner Game challenges, then you
might want to consider investing in my Deep Inner
Game program.

This program came about after several
conversations that a friend (who goes by the name
of "Dr. Paul") and I had about the challenges that
men face with their Inner Game.

I met Dr. Paul at one of my live seminars, and
we became fast friends.

I think of myself as a "regular guy who likes
to read a lot about psychology", and I think of
Dr. Paul as a "psychologist who likes to help a
lot of regular guys".

As I got to know him, he explained that he had
spent the last several years developing a "unified
theory" of psychology. The more he explained it to
me, the more I realized that his system was the
simplest, easiest-to-understand, most applicable,
and FASTEST system for getting RESULTS... that I'd
ever seen.

Well, after talking about it for quite awhile,
and after doing one of my monthly "Interviews With
Dating Gurus" (and getting great feedback from
guys on it), we decided to do a program together.

This program is called "Deep Inner Game". It's
all about the psychology of overcoming your inner
limitations, fixing "believe-level" problems, and
developing a rock-solid self image... and high
self-esteem... so you can confidently meet and
attract women.

It's the only program of it's type... because
it takes the scientific advancements from the
field of psychology, and applies them to this
SPECIFIC challenge of becoming more successful
with women and dating.

If you need to work on your DEEP Inner Game,
then go read the details and watch some video
preview clips here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/DeepInnerGame

"Mastery With Women And Dating"

This is my longest, most intense program.

It's the program that is also the most
CHALLENGING.

This program contains some of the most profound
material I've ever learned... and it also probably
includes the most TECHNIQUES of any program I've
released.

It's around 20 hours long and it's
approximately half "Inner Game" and half
technique.

What makes this program very SPECIAL is that I
address some very "big picture" aspects of life...
and of creating a life that makes you
AUTOMATICALLY attractive to women... and a life
that AUTOMATICALLY brings you dating opportunities
(after all, wouldn't it be great if you didn't
have to spend time "chasing" women? Well, you
don't....)

This program requires a LOT of hard work on
your part. It requires that you think through just
about every important aspect of your life... many
of which might not "seem" like they're important
to meeting women (but they are).

In this program, I describe and explain what I
consider to be the "Master Key" to success with
women. It's the one single element that stands
above ALL OTHERS... and it's the one thing, that
once you "get" it, allows you to know how to
handle virtually EVERY situation that comes up...
in a way that builds more attraction.

As you've probably noticed, there are things
that women do that tend to knock you "off
balance"... or things that "test" you. Well, after
you understand this "Master Key", you'll know how
to handle ANYTHING.

This program also contains so many guest
speakers... and so many different perspectives...
that it will challenge you to develop your OWN
style of meeting women.

See, I don't think that there's "only one way"
to meet women. I think that there are a lot of
ways. The BEST way is the way that works BEST for
YOU.

Inside this program, you're going to meet a lot
of different guys... who will give you a lot of
different approaches and techniques to try.

WARNING: Do not order this program unless
you're willing to take a serious look at yourself,
and unless you're willing to do the tough work
required to make lasting changes in your life.
It's not "light" material. It's heavy material.

But if you're ready, go check it out and watch
some video clips here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/Mastery

"Power Sexuality"

It's tough to call this program an "Inner Game"
program without explaining what I'm talking
about... so here goes.

This is one of the latest programs I've
developed, and I waited to do this program until
after I had created most of my others... for a
very specific reason.

The more I learned about different aspects of
meeting women, and the more I put my ideas "on
paper"... and taught them in live seminars... the
more I saw that almost EVERYTHING connected in one
way or another to SEXUALITY.

When I finally DID a program on sex, I found
that most of the materials that I was including
really weren't about "sex technique" or the ACT of
sex... they were more about the CONCEPT of sex.

Over the years, as I've worked with not only my
own challenges... but also helping many other guys
overcome their challenges... I've found that many
of our challenges with things like approaching
women... starting conversations... kissing a woman
for the first time... and even sex itself... come
down to how we THINK about sex.

I now believe that if you don't have your
"issues" worked out around sex... and if you don't
BELIEVE that you will give a woman a MIND-BLOWING
sexual experience... then you're going to screw-up
just about everything ELSE that happens BEFORE you
have the chance to have sex.

In other words, if you don't have sex
"handled", then it will literally sabotage the
rest of your success with women.

And to fix this, I've created a program that I
call "Power Sexuality: How To Increase Your
Sexual Confidence By Mastering Advanced Mental,
Emotional, And Sexual Techniques".

You'll notice that the second part of the title
above starts with the words "How To Increase Your
Sexual Confidence...".

Now, why did I choose THESE specific words?

What is "Sexual Confidence"?

And why do we need it?

Well, I've had a lot of guys say things to me
like "I don't have any sexual confidence" and "I
wish I had more sexual confidence". These are the
words that REAL GUYS use to describe their
problems.

At first, I didn't really notice that these
specific words were being used so often.

But after I started paying closer attention, I
realized that men have a common challenge... and
they often use the same words to describe it.

I've now come to realize that if you don't have
CONFIDENCE when it comes to sex, then you're not
going to have CONFIDENCE when it comes to just
about anything else with women...

You're not going to have confidence when it
comes to approaching a woman. You're not going to
have confidence when it comes to asking for her
number... or asking her out on a date... or
kissing her... or anything else.

This program is ALL about BUILDING that Sexual
Confidence. It's all about overcoming guilt,
shame, fear, self-consciousness and anxiety that
are connected to your SEXUAL DESIRE and sex drive.

And it's also all about teaching you some
secret tricks and techniques for giving any woman
a MIND- BLOWING sexual experience with you.

You can read all about this program, and watch
some great video clips of it here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/PowerSexuality

The Technique-Based Programs

Once you've gotten your "Inner Game" together,
it's time to really start working on your "moves".

And if you'd like to learn the most effective
techniques for meeting women and getting dates,
then this is the place to learn them...

"Approaching Women And Starting Conversations"

For most guys, the scariest, most intense part
of meeting women is APPROACHING women in order to
start conversations.

How many times have you seen a girl that you'd
like to meet, and maybe even made eye contact with
her... but you just couldn't get up the nerve to
talk to her?

Well, it's happened to me about a MILLION
times.

And before I knew HOW to approach women and
start conversations, I was STUCK.

Of course, the worst part was that I'd think
about it for hours or even DAYS afterward... and
I'd mentally beat myself up about it.

The good news is that approaching women is a
SKILL that can be LEARNED.

It's not magic, and anyone can do it.

The good news is that once you learn this
skill, you'll see that it's actually easy and fun.

First, you must learn to overcome your
irrational inner fears, and then you must learn
what to do and say.

Once you put these two pieces together, you can
approach virtually any woman in virtually any
situation, and easily start a conversation.

Once you learn how to start conversations
naturally, it will be EASY for you to get phone
numbers and email addresses... and DATES.

In this program, I'm going to help you work
through your fears of approaching women... and I'm
going to teach you exactly how to start
conversations without rejection.

Oh, I've also brought in a group of guest
speakers that are MASTERS at approaching women.
When you add them up, the guys in this program
have approached literally THOUSANDS of women.

You're also going to meet a pair of WOMEN who
take men out and teach them how to approach women
LIVE "in the field".

It's going to blow your mind, really.

If you'd like to learn the skill of approaching
women and starting conversations, go read about
the program and watch some preview video clips
here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/ApproachingWomen

"Cocky Comedy & Other Conversation Skills"

Have you ever heard that women are attracted to
humor?

Have you ever had the feeling that if you could
just make a woman LAUGH... the rest would be easy?

Have you ever wondered why some guys were so
NATURAL at making conversation with women... while
it always seemed like a challenge to you?

I can relate. In fact, I can more than
relate... I can IDENTIFY.

One of the most obvious "common denominators"
that I found when I was meeting guys who were
"naturals" with women... was their ability to make
women LAUGH and SMILE.

The more I saw this, the more I thought that
these guys must understand how to be "funny".

This turned out to be only PART of the
equation.

The REST of the equation was the HOW.

After observing many interactions between men
and women, I started to notice a pattern...

Many of the things that the "successful" guys
were saying to women weren't what you might call
"nice". They weren't sweet, affectionate "please
like me" words. And they weren't a bunch of
"jokes" that you might hear from a stand-up
comedian.

No, this was something different.

One of my friends tried to describe it to me
using the words "cocky" and "funny".

And I noticed that he would often make
arrogant, condescending, sarcastic remarks to
women... that were somehow "OK"... because they
weren't entirely SERIOUS.

I eventually came to understand this technique,
why it works, and how to use it. And I have to
tell you, it's one of the most EFFECTIVE
techniques you will ever learn for creating
ATTRACTION.

In my program "Cocky Comedy", I'm going to
teach you the "roots" of humor. I'm also going to
teach you all about why humans laugh (it's not why
you think). As a matter of fact, think about it
for a minute...

Why do most people laugh?

Is it because they heard something funny?

No, it's not.

The next ten times you hear someone laugh, ask
yourself "Did they just hear something funny?".
The answer will almost ALWAYS be "no".

People only laugh in response to humor on RARE
occasion.

Most of the time, we're laughing in response to
something that contains no humor at all... like
another person talking about the weather... or
about a work situation.

Laugher serves an important purpose that is WAY
beyond humor. And it is a way that women
communicate INTEREST in men, as well.

If you'd like to learn how to use humor and
other conversation skills to create ATTRACTION,
then I highly recommend that you go check out the
details of this program... and watch some of the
video clips here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/CockyComedy

"Using Body Language To Attract Women"

When guys first start learning about how to
meet women, the first thing they want is almost
always "pick up lines"...

They want to know the WORDS to use to meet
women.

They're often surprised when I tell them that
their BODY LANGUAGE is at least as important as
the words they're using (actually, it's MORE
important).

Posture, gestures, eye contact... all of these
are signals that women can read VERY well. I've
heard that women can read body language ten TIMES
better than men.

If you ask women, they'll often tell you that
they can know what another person is feeling and
thinking just by looking at how they're sitting or
standing... how they're moving... and what their
expression is.

For some reason, most men do NOT have this
"natural talent".

For us guys, we have to LEARN how to
communicate with our body language.

I've created a program dedicated to exactly
that... how to use Body Language to create
ATTRACTION with women.

In this program, I'll teach you about the
different messages you're sending with your body
language, gestures, and eye contact... and I'll
teach you how to INSTANTLY make yourself more
attractive by understanding the mistakes you're
currently making (and how to fix them fast).

Women are making dozens of decisions about you
in the first few seconds... and you might as well
take CONTROL of those decisions by taking CONTROL
of the messages you're sending with your body.
This program will help you do exactly that.

You can read about the details, and watch video
clips here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/BodyLanguage

"Meeting Women Online"

When I first started learning how to meet women
"seriously", the Internet was a HUGE help to me.

Why?

Because it allowed me to "test out" my ideas...
and it allowed me to "practice" with women in a
"slow motion" environment.

Talking to a woman on an instant messenger
program is different from talking to a woman in
person.

You get to communicate, and you get to do
things that build attraction... but you get to do
it at about a TENTH the speed of normal
conversation... and you get to do it without all
the distractions that come from being right in
front of someone.

It allows you to focus on the art of
communicating your ideas with words... and it
allows you time to THINK about what you're going
to say between comments.

Communicating by email "slows down" the dialog
even MORE.

When I first started, I would spend time almost
every day chatting and emailing with women... and
it was a PRICELESS experience.

Even MORE incredible is the power of placing
online personal ads...

This allows you to really put your "best foot
forward", and learn what makes women respond to
YOU.

It also allows you to test different ideas,
approaches, and styles of communicating... so you
can see EXACTLY what works and what doesn't. As
you can probably imagine, this is very valuable
information. It teaches you not only what works
ONLINE, but also what works in GENERAL.

Practicing your Cocky & Funny conversation
skills online "drills" them into your mind... so
you have them ready when you meet women in PERSON.

And finally, there's nothing more convenient
than being able to sit down at your computer
anytime, day or night, and chat with single women
who are looking for dates.

I've put an entire program together that will
teach you about all of the important aspects of
meeting women online... and how to use different
types of technology to start conversations, build
attraction, and get dates.

I've brought in several of my friends to teach
you their step-by-step methods for meeting women
online... and I even do some "make-overs"... where
we take a guy and his profile, and fix it LIVE.

If you're interested in learning how to use the
incredible power of the Internet to meet women,
then you MUST check this program out. Go here to
read about it and watch some video clips:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/MeetingWomenOnline

"Meeting Women In Bars & Clubs"

Wouldn't it be great if attractive single women
would all go out and gather together... so you
could find them all in one place?

Wouldn't it also be cool if they put on their
best clothes, made themselves up and did their
hair, then put on some great music in the
background?

I know, I'm making bars and clubs sound like
paradise... huh?

Well, the truth is that bars and clubs are
AMAZING places to meet women.

If you've ever been out to a popular place on a
Saturday night, then you know that beautiful
single women show up in GROUPS...

But there's more to the story...

Anywhere that attracts a lot of hot women also
attracts a lot of COMPETITION.

Most guys find that trying to meet women in
bars and clubs is CHALLENGING.

I mean, we are talking about an environment
that's loud and distracting... and full of other
guys who are working hard to meet the same women.

What you may NOT realize is that most of the
guys who go out to bars do NOT meet many women.

And what you may also not realize is that if
you KNOW how to meet women in this environment,
it's actually EASY.

When I first started learning how to meet women
myself, I would go out to bars and clubs, and use
them as "practice" environments.

It's truly amazing to be able to go somewhere
and try something ten times in a row... just to
see how it works.

It's also great to be able to approach women,
one after the other, knowing that it really
doesn't matter what happens... because if the
first one isn't interesting, there are fifty more
behind her.

But like anything else, the key to success in
these environments is KNOWING WHAT YOU'RE DOING.

I've created a special program dedicated to
helping you meet women in bars and clubs, and if
you're interested in learning how to take
advantage of this amazing opportunity to meet
attractive women where they gather in groups...
then this program will help you DRAMATICALLY.

You can get all the details and watch some
great video clips here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/BarsAndClubs

So Now What Should I Do?

I'd like to wrap this up by pointing out a
couple of things to you, and making a couple of
recommendations.

First of all, let's talk about your future.

There's an old saying that goes like this: "If
you keep doing what you've done, you'll keep
getting what you've got".

In other words, if you want different RESULTS
in your life, then you're going to have to DO
something different.

Success with women isn't an "accident". You're
not going to wake up tomorrow and know how to
attract women. Sorry to be the one to tell you the
bad news.

But the GOOD news is that you can LEARN how to
meet women.

I know, because I used to have no idea what I
was doing with women... and I LEARNED how to
overcome my fears, approach women, and get dates.

The difference between you and me is that I had
to learn the HARD way. I spent YEARS of my life...
and a lot of money learning stuff that just didn't
work.

You have the chance to take advantage of all
the hard work and time I put into figuring this
stuff out... and you have the chance to learn
stuff that took me YEARS... in just a few HOURS.

If you're just getting started, and you're on a
budget, make sure you read all of my email
newsletters, and get your hands on a copy of my
ebook "Double Your Dating".

Next, subscribe to my monthly "Interviews With
Dating Gurus" CD program. Listen to each of them a
few times. Let the ideas and the THINKING settle
into your mind.

Then, if you're ready for a deeper education,
get a copy of my Advanced Dating Techniques DVD/CD
program. This program will open your mind, and
take you "behind the scenes" in the world of
dating and mating.

After you go through that program, you need to
decide if you're more interested in working on
your "Inner Game" (meaning your beliefs, fears,
and self image stuff), or you're more interested
in "Techniques" (meaning learning how to approach
women, meet women online, etc.).

If you'd like to work on your Inner Game, then
invest in my "On Being A Man" program and my "Deep
Inner Game" program first. These programs are
PROFOUND. They will help you overcome your inner
limitations... and build a powerful, confident
self image.

If you like to work on TECHNIQUES, then
consider my "Approaching Women" program, my "Cocky
Comedy" program, or my "Meeting Women Online"
program next.

If you're ready for some serious "mind-
bending", then you should also check out my "Power
Sexuality" program and my "Mastery" program. Both
contain Inner Game and techniques, and both will
have a very intense impact on your success with
women and dating.

Every one of my programs addresses slightly
different aspects of dating success.

There are common themes and theories in all of
them... but each one takes an idea (or many
ideas), and goes "deep" with them.

And remember my "Try Before You Buy"
guarantee... I'll send you any of my programs to
try out BEFORE you pay for it. I want you to be
absolutely sure that the program is for you before
you make the investment.

If you have any questions about any of my
programs, do me a favor and send an email to
questions@doubleyourdating.com, and I'll make sure
you get an answer back fast.

Thanks for your time, and I'll talk to you
soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

How To "Stop" A Woman On The Street

2010-10-07T21:03:00.000-07:00

SUCCESS STORY:

Hello, I just bought your book today and I have
to admit it was the best choice ever. Before I
bought your book I was the shy "nice" guy who
would always try to cling on girls and hardly ever
talk to any and was always wondering why I
couldn't get any phone #'s or dates. I have been
dateless for 19 years and I just finished reading
your book tonight.

Well I went out and tried some of the techniques
and I have to admit it worked like a charm. I saw
this girl (looked like a model) I went up to her
and said hi, (never done before) and she was like
hi and kept walking. Then I threw in this remark
"what did my good looks really scare you that
badly? (I am an average looking guy and I knew
this)" This stopped her in her tracks and she
actually came back and was like "What did you say
"I was like "Did my good looks really scare you
away" and she said "I guess that was it, do you
want to grab a table and talk a bit?"

Then we talked for around 20 minutes then I
looked at my watch and said look at the time I
have to get going. She said "already but we just
started". Then I said well how about you give me
your e-mail address and I can contact you when I
have some time. She told me she didn't have an e-
mail address so I asked for her phone number and
told her I would only call her about 3 times every
day. She laughed and gave it to me and I said will
I be able to get a hold of you on this number? She
said yes and even showed me her cell phone number.
It matched so I was like I will call you sometime
towards the end of the week and maybe we can meet
up and develop our "Friendship" a little more. I
walked away leaving her speechless.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, first of all, you get a GOLD STAR for being
a MAN OF ACTION.

With this little story, you've shown me that
you UNDERSTAND what you're learning... and you
possess an important quality: willingness to TRY
THINGS.

I thought that it would be interesting to talk
about the psychology of approaching and meeting
women.

Your email was a great introduction to this
topic, as it includes several subtle twists and
turns that make for interesting observation and
analysis.

Listen to me talking about "observation and
analysis"... I sound like some kind of freakin'
smart guy.

Whatever.

OBSERVATION AND ANALYSIS #1:

First you walked over and just said,
"Hi"...then, when she kept walking, you said
something that was both Cocky & Funny, and
PRICELESS.

You said, "What, did my good looks really scare
you that badly?"

Now, the fact that you're an average-looking
guy REALLY makes something like this work.

With one comment you actually communicated more
than most guys communicate in HOURS.

You effectively said, "I'm not intimidated by
you, and, in fact, I'm so comfortable around
beautiful women, that I can make funny comments
like this one...".

Beautiful women walk around in the world
surrounded by BORING, needy, approval-seeking
guys. These guys are NOT appealing to women.

When someone shows up and actually demonstrates
some HUMOR and some PERSONALITY and some STRENGTH,
it really stands out.

Quick note: If you want to improve your "Cocky
and Funny skills, then you need to go and look
at THIS right now. Make sure you watch all of
the video clips, by the way...

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/CockyComedy

OBSERVATION AND ANALYSIS #2:

After chatting with her for a little while, you
said, "I have to get going."

What would most guys do in a situation like
this one?

Of course... they'd cling to this girl like
peanut butter sticks to the roof of a dog's mouth.

And what would she do?

Right... she'd RUN.

By breaking off the interaction yourself when
it was on an UP NOTE, you made yourself FAR more
attractive to her.

OBSERVATION AND ANALYSIS #3:

After you got her number, you said, "I'll call
you at the end of the week and maybe we can meet
up to develop our friendship a little more."

Beautiful.

What would most guys have done?

Right... they would have said, "Hey, maybe I
can take you out on a date this week... how does
that sound?"

In other words, they would have basically
communicated that they were needy Wussbags instead
of communicating that they understood the
situation and what they were dealing with.

And, of course, they probably wouldn't have had
a chance of seeing that woman ever again (except
in their one-handed fantasies).

I LOVE IT WHEN GUYS TAKE ACTION!

Love it!

I'm proud of you, man.

Someone come over here and give me a hug before
I start crying.

Again, you get a gold star.

One more thought...

I think that most guys would read a story like
this one and say "That sounds like B.S... that
would never work."

Well, I'll tell you something... I've seen
things like this happen so many times that I can't
even COUNT them anymore.

It's hard for most guys to believe that it's
possible to literally approach women, start
conversations, and get phone numbers and emails
within minutes... and to do it one after another,
after another...

But it IS possible.

And if you want to learn HOW to do this... then
I've got something important to tell you.

You need to check out my "Approaching Women"
DVD/CD program.

There has never been anything like this
before...

Now you can watch me and several of my special
guests teaching you EXACTLY how to approach women
in EVERY possible situation.

If you'd like to learn how to approach women,
then I want you to go and watch the video clips on
my website RIGHT NOW:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/ApproachingWomen

Here's an interesting story for you:

I have one friend who I personally saw get the
phone numbers of 25 different women over the
course of one weekend.

The amazing part is that he and I were in an
educational seminar the entire weekend...

In other words, we were busy MOST of the
time... and he got those 25 phone numbers during
breaks and evenings.

And I'd say that it took him an AVERAGE of
about 5 or 7 minutes to get each one.

It blew my mind.

Is this guy rich? Does he look like Brad Pitt?

Nope.

You wouldn't even notice him if he walked in
front of you.

Would you like to hear him talk about how he
stops women on the street and gets their phone
numbers?

Good, because there's an easy way for you to do
it...

It JUST SO HAPPENS that this particular guy is
one of SEVERAL guests that are featured on my
Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.

He actually shares and DEMONSTRATES how he
stops women, starts conversations, and gets
numbers... all in step-by-step detail.

Of course, this is one small part of the
overall program.

And he's only one of several different amazing
"specialists" who are featured on it (this
program focuses on a lot of DIFFERENT areas of
dating success... and has a great introduction to
approaching women).

You'll literally learn everything from how to
overcome your fear and shyness to how to give a
woman a "million dollar" date experience for under
TEN BUCKS... and HUNDREDS of other strategies and
techniques.

I can't say enough good stuff about it... and
if you read some of the feedback that I've gotten
on my website, you'll see that others agree.

Go check it out, listen and watch some great
free video samples, and read the feedback here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

And you may have also noticed that the guy who
wrote the letter featured in this newsletter,
started off with "I just bought your book
today...".

That's a hint.

If you haven't downloaded your copy, then you
need to do that IMMEDIATELY.

You can download it right now, and be reading
it within a few minutes. It's here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

How To Communicate Sexually With A Woman...

2010-10-07T21:02:00.000-07:00

I want to talk for a moment about a unique
theory of mine... I call it "Sexual
Communication"...

In a nutshell, I believe there is a deeper
level of communication that's happening all around
us, and few us guys even know it's there.

I believe that if you learn how to use this
"other level" of communication, you can connect
with women on a more direct, sexual level...and
trigger attraction directly in them without going
through all the motions that most men go through.

This new "language" is something that I had to
go out in the real world... and go through YEARS
of personal trial and error... to finally
discover.

I want to give you a few examples of just how
powerful this level of communication can be...

WHAT'S POSSIBLE FOR YOU

I believe you can use just your words, voice
tone, and body language to trigger attraction in
women.

In other words, I don't think you have to take
women out on dates, buy them gifts, etc., to get
them attracted to you.

In fact, I think most of that stuff is counter-
productive. It actually works AGAINST you, most of
the time.

I also don't think you have to be tall, rich,
handsome, a certain age, drive a certain car,
etc., to make women feel attraction.

What you DO need is to learn how to communicate
on a different level with women.

You need to learn a new "language."

When you do, you can trigger the attraction
mechanism inside of ANY woman.

TRY THIS...

Here's a low-risk way you can start to get a
feel for what I'm talking about:

Next time you're at a restaurant and you ask
for something and the waitress says they don't
have it, just say, "OK", this relationship isn't
working out - I'm going to have to break up with
you."

In fact, you can say this in just about ANY
situation where a woman tells you something
"disappointing." and it instantly takes the
conversation to a different level.

It subtly communicates that you "get it" when
it comes to male/female dynamics, relationships...
even sexuality.

When you communicate like this, you're using a
different kind of communication than most men will
ever use in their lifetimes.

Women feel literally compelled to "engage" with
men who connect with them in this way.

Once they do, it's "game on."

SOME MEN ALREADY KNOW THIS "INSIDER" LANGUAGE...

As you probably already know, some men are
AMAZINGLY successful with women.

You may know one or two guys who fall in this
category.

I have SEVERAL friends like this...

One of my friends likes super hot, LA-blonde
women. The kind that when most guys see a woman
like this walking down the street, they think,
"There's no way she'd ever go for ME...."

Well, my friend not only dates these women...
he dates them one after another after another...

And he has this particular habit.

If he's at a bar, and he's talking to one of
these women, he holds his drink in a particular
way, cupping it... he starts holding his body very
straight... drinking very slowly... he may not
even look at the woman.

And women feel INSTANTLY drawn to him.

I have another friend who can walk up to any
woman, say "Hey..." with just the right voice
tone... and that's all he has to say for her to
start feel attracted to him.

Another friend literally hooks up with a woman
whenever he wants to, every time he goes out.

He has a series of steps he goes through every
time.

He'll go to an upscale bar, meet a woman, start
a simple conversation... then lead her by the hand
across to the other side of the bar.

Later he'll lead her to another location
altogether.

And later, it's not surprising if he leads her
right back to his place.

There's something about his behavior - leading
her from one place to another - that triggers the
attraction mechanism in these women, consistently.

Another friend of mine has a drop dead gorgeous
girlfriend.

I was out with him and his girl the other
night. We were sitting at a table talking, and
she'd walk over and try to get his attention and
grab him.

I noticed that he did something peculiar -
something most guys DON'T do...

Instead of turning to face her, he kept facing
me.

In other words, he didn't re-orient his body
language to her. Instead, he let HER hang on to
HIM.

He'd give her a kiss every once in a while...
but it was very clear that he was leading with his
body language... and that SHE was trying to get
HIS attention.

Something in that dynamic was creating
attraction and DIALING it up even more...

LEARNING SEXUAL COMMUNICATION IS THE ANSWER...

If you look at guys like this, scratch your
head, and wonder how in the world these average-
looking guys get to enjoy the kind of women most
men only dream about...

... then you're in deep trouble.

Say what?

Here's why...

Unless you're a "natural" and you were born
knowing how to communicate like this to women, you
will need to invest literally YEARS of your life -
just like I did - to learn this new "language."

It's well worth it - but let me tell you - I
took my fair share of rejection and blown
opportunities before I "unlocked the code" and
started enjoying massive success.

But the good news is... there's a much FASTER,
EASIER, and LESS PAINFUL way to "install" this new
language in your brain... and make it a part of
who you naturally are.

My "Sexual Communication" program.

You'll learn why most men wind up receiving
"affection" from women instead of making women
feel ATTRACTION (and how to avoid this deadly
mistake).

You'll learn how to get in touch with the
"masculine" side of your own personality, and
amplify it so you MAGNETICALLY attract women

You'll get a detailed explanation of what
"Sexual Tension" is, how to create it, and how to
actually CREATE "Chemistry" between you and the
women you want to attract

And much more...

But here's something else:

Since I first released this program, I
discovered several brand new breakthrough
strategies and ideas that are even more powerful
than those I shared in the original program... and
after seeing so many men get such great results
with the "old stuff", I decided that I wanted to
re-do this program and make it EVEN BETTER...

I decided to re-do everything from the ground
up... shoot the program in front of a live
audience... and bring in some of the world's best
at attracting women to share their own unique
insights into this fascinating world... a world
that most men never even know exists.

If you want to learn how to sexually
communicate with any woman you meet - and to spark
attraction in a matter of minutes, no expensive
dates required - you'll learn EXACTLY how to do it
in this program.

As with all my products, I take ALL THE RISK.

Order it, watch the DVD's over a full 30 days,
and if you're not completely convinced this is the
best investment ever for improving your success
with women and communicating with women on a
sexual level, just let me know and I'll refund
your money... no problem.

I want you to learn how to connect with women
on a deep level quickly - so for the rest of your
life you'll have the confidence to go into ANY
situation with a woman and know the "right" thing
to say.

Go here now to learn the secret "language" that
women respond to INSTANTLY:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/SexualCommunication

You'll be glad you did!

Talk soon,

David D.

How "Average" Guys Can Attract Hot Women

2010-10-06T20:29:00.000-07:00

I have a question for you...

What do you REALLY WANT when it comes to the
area of your life called "Women and Dating"?

Could you explain it to me if I called you up
on the phone in 5 minutes and asked you?

In other words, do you REALLY, REALLY know just
what it is that you're looking for?

If you're like most guys that I talk to, you
probably couldn't tell me.

Or if you did tell me, it would be clear that
you hadn't taken any real time to think about it
before I asked you.

Now, before I tell you why this is a problem, I
have to confess something to you...

It wasn't very long ago that I used to be in
exactly the same boat.

I had NO IDEA what I was looking for.

It was only after a LOT of trial and error,
dating crazy women who made my life impossible,
and chasing my tail that I finally figured out
what it was that I REALLY wanted.

And once I figured it out, I realized that I
wasn't alone.

As it turns out, I think that MOST guys want
what I want when it comes to "women and dating",
but they just haven't thought about it long enough
to be able to say it.

I think that what 90% of men are looking for is
a GREAT long-term relationship with a GREAT woman.

What do I mean when I use the term "Great
Woman"?

I mean a woman who is naturally beautiful, who
takes care of herself physically, who is
emotionally and financially stable... who doesn't
"need" you, but "wants" you, who can take care of
herself in every way...

...you know what I'm saying here.

But guess what?

Women like this are VERY rare.

I mean like one in a thousand or so.

And they are NEVER at a loss for a date.

I digress... but I'll come back to this later.

Earlier I mentioned that it is a problem that
men don't KNOW what they want.

Now I want to talk about WHY it's such a big
problem.

There are two main reasons:

1) Not knowing what you want LOWERS the chances of
GETTING what you want.

2) In this particular situation, when it comes to
this type of woman, not understanding what you
want makes your chances of getting her almost
ZERO.

Let's talk about these two issues.

NOT KNOWING WHAT YOU WANT LOWERS YOUR CHANCES OF
GETTING IT...

If you've read any "self-help" books at all,
then you know that it's important to set goals in
your life.

Why?

Because setting goals makes your mind work on
getting them.

When you think through your goals, and take the
time to figure them out, write them down, and make
plans to get them, you put a set of processes in
motion that dramatically increase your chances of
getting what you want.

If you don't know what I'm talking about, go
read "Think And Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill.

Just do it.

NOT UNDERSTANDING THIS PARTICULAR TYPE OF WOMAN
MAKES YOUR CHANCES OF GETTING HER ALMOST ZERO

This is the big issue here.

This is the one that most guys just don't
get...and the one that, by itself, really leads to
failure.

The fact is that most guys would really like to
meet a great girl.

The times in my life when I've had an amazing
woman as my girlfriend have been FANTASTIC.

There is nothing quite like having a stunning,
intelligent, well-dressed, interesting woman in
your life. Nothing.

Now, I get a lot of guys who write to me and
say things like:

"David, I don't want to have to learn any of the
things you teach. I want a woman to like me for
who I am..."

...and...

"The kind of woman that I want to find would not
respond to the things you teach... she would see
me for the person that I am..."

...and a million other things.

I can identify with this stuff.

I spent many years of my life thinking this
way.

In fact, I spent so much time thinking this way
and getting horrible results, that I am probably
the world's leading expert on it.

I just wanted a woman to "see me for who I was"
and who saw past all of my flaws and wanted to be
with me for me.

I hated the idea of trying to change myself.

But here's the deal:

An exceptional woman has OPTIONS.

The kind of woman that I described is
approached by men ALL THE TIME.

My estimate is that a beautiful, successful,
intelligent woman is approached by men an average
of 5 or 10 times A DAY.

To put it another way, if you meet a really
interesting, exceptional woman, you can bet that
she has been approached between 150 and 300 times
in the past month ALONE.

Think about that.

Imagine what it must be like to be a woman who
is approached so often.

As a side note, if you want to learn how to
APPROACH these types of women and actually have
consistent SUCCESS, then you need to look at THIS:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/ApproachingWomen

Back to what I was saying...

Even if she WANTED to spend time with many of
the men who approach her, there would be no way to
do it.

It's just not practical.

So what's a girl to do?

The only thing that an exceptional girl CAN do
is use TIME MANAGEMENT principals.

She has to decide almost INSTANTLY if a guy is
"worth" spending more time with.

And she has to make her decision based on very
little information.

AND she can't make the mistake of being "too
friendly" and giving a guy the "wrong idea"...
because if she does, he'll probably call her 100
times over the next month.

Unusually attractive, exceptional women become
very good at ELIMINATING men based on very little
information.

If you're a man who hasn't made it a goal to
attract one of these women, who doesn't understand
this particular fact, and who doesn't understand
how to get past this initial "test", then your
chances of attracting one of these women is as
close to zero as anything is in the world.

The REALITY of this situation is that you are
not the only guy in the world who wants a woman
like this.

EVERY guy would like to meet her.

There are a lot of guys out there who are
willing to call her more, spend more money on her,
do more things for her, and pay her more attention
than you...

You can't get a girl like this one by doing the
"normal" things.

And here's the KICKER...

The next girl you date probably isn't going to
be this girl.

In fact, you're probably going to need to go
out with MANY women before you're going to run
into one of these rare women.

But as they say, "Every cloud has a silver
lining."

And this cloud does, too.

The fact is that spending time dating other
women is EXACTLY what will TEACH you how to
attract one of these exceptional women.

You HAVE to do it.

So let's wrap this up.

First, take some time and figure out what it is
that you want.

Write it down, and make a list.

What are the physical, intellectual, and
emotional qualities that you're looking for?

Be specific, and get a clear picture in your
mind.

Next, become the guy that she'll feel
ATTRACTION for when you meet her.

There are two parts to this one.

The first part is preparing yourself to date
many women to find her... and then getting out
there and doing it.

The second and most important part, is to
LEARN what you need to do in order to be the guy
that she'll be attracted to.

It's not luck.

What's the best way to learn?

I'm so glad you asked...

As it turns out, I've spent the last five years
of my life on this.

And I've taken what I've learned and created
the best products available to teach you all the
things you need to learn in order to be successful
with women and dating.

My eBook "Double Your Dating" covers dozens of
great techniques on overcoming fear, approaching
women, getting dates, and taking things to a
"physical level."

You can download it here right now:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

If you're ready for a world-class education,
and complete reprogramming, then I recommend my
Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.

It includes over 12 full hours of digitally
recorded audio or video of me personally teaching
you all of my personal secrets and techniques.

This program is only for guys who REALLY want
to invest in themselves, and who want to do what
it takes to become GREAT with women.

All the details, plus some great free audio and
video samples are here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

A "Secret" Body Language Women Find Irresistible

2010-10-06T20:27:00.000-07:00

***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER***

Hello Dave,

I want to say thank you for the Advanced CD
Series. The more I listen to it, the more I get
out of it. Its like when you watch a movie about
53 times, you'll always find something new that
you didn't notice the previous times you watched
it. When I first invested on your book, I thought
that it was fantastic chic bible, now that I've
invested in the CD Series, I understand more of
what you talk about in the book. The DVD Series
is next...as soon as I get the ins...lol.

Anyway, to my question. You talk about how
body language will affect the moment, if you will,
while conversing with a woman. Perhaps I still do
not understand how the process works, or maybe its
just one of those things that men aren't supposed
to understand, but if you're talking with a woman,
oh lets say at a baseball game, somewhere where
friends may spot you, and you wonder off to your
friends without her as if "you don't care," you
say it is creating tension between the two of you,
because she's wondering "where the hell did he
go?" but is that not creating some sort of
negative body language in a way at the same time?

A little help understanding this will greatly
be appreciated, Dave. I'm sure I'm not the only
one who doesn't capture this concept. Thanks
again. D. Yuma, Arizona

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Thanks for your email, this is a great
question.

I think that the reason you don't "get" this
particular concept is because you're trying to fit
what I'm teaching you into your way of seeing the
world, instead of the other way around.

You're looking for how I'm WRONG instead of how
I'm RIGHT.

And I'll bet you dimes to dollars that you have
not spent much time TESTING what you've learned in
the real world.

I can sit here all day long and explain to you
what it's like to drive a car. I can tell you how
it's different steering a car when you're driving
5 miles per hour than it is when you're driving 55
miles per hour... and how it's different to back
up because you have to think in reverse...

...and you could ask me questions like "Well,
how do you mean it's "backwards" when you back up?
Wouldn't it just feel the same?" and "Wouldn't it
be distracting to turn your windshield wipers on
while it's raining and you're trying to drive?"...

...and I could answer all of your questions...

...OR...

...you could just get in a damn car and go see
what it's like to drive!

If you want to "capture this concept" you need
to get out in the real world and DO IT.

In your example above, you asked if you're also
creating "some sort of negative body language" at
the same time by walking away from a woman.

What do you mean by "negative"?

And if it WORKS, WHO CARES?

Do you mean that if you walk away from a girl
that you're talking to, are you going to make her
think you don't like her?

GOOD, if she thinks that. Who cares?

If you walk away from a woman because you want
to go talk to your friends, it's HER DEAL if she
doesn't like it. Not yours.

If, on the other hand, you see your friends,
but DON'T go talk to them because you don't want
to offend the girl you're talking to, you're going
to probably also give her several clues that
you're a WUSSBAG, and that you don't have any
spine or life of your own... and that you like to
live in a way that pleases other people.

And guess what?

That is NOT an attractive quality.

Look...

Everything is a trade-off in one way or
another.

Everything involves risk.

Everything you do can backfire.

Most guys are painfully aware of these issues.

But, the problem is that most guys take this
knowledge and use it the WRONG WAY.

Instead of doing what WORKS, and not caring if
it "backfires" or "fails" in that particular
situation, they do the "safe" thing.

Of course, anytime you "play it safe" around an
attractive woman by being a "nice guy" and trying
to "follow her lead" you are almost ABSOLUTELY
going to do something that's going to backfire on
you MOST of the time.

In other words, by playing it safe and being a
"nice" guy, you won't get any "negative" responses
or "rejection" in the moment.

But, she's NEVER going to feel ATTRACTION for
you, either (unless you look like Brad Pitt, or
you're in ColdPlay).

The answer?

Before I tell you, I want to suggest that you
don't understand one other KEY element of creating
ATTRACTION with a woman. And you can learn about
that key element by going HERE:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/OnBeingAMan

Stop worrying about "failing" or doing
something that doesn't work.

It doesn't MATTER if you "fail" in a particular
situation.

You didn't have anything ANYWAY.

If you want to succeed with attractive women,
you're going to have to realize that things don't
work the way they SHOULD work.

Attraction doesn't happen when you're a "nice,
appropriate boy."

Here's an example of "being nice" vs. being a
guy who lives in his own reality and does what he
wants to do:

You're talking to a girl, and you decide that
you like her.

You want to get her phone number and call her
sometime.

Nice guy says, "Um, maybe you could give me
your number, and I could call you sometime and
take you out".

Guy who lives in his own reality says, "Give me
your number" with a tone of voice and body
language that is EXPECTING her to comply.

But, you might say, "Hey, wait a minute here...
if you just try and tell her what to do and ASSUME
that she's going to go along and give you her
number, she might be offended."

Guess what?

You're right.

But, if she's offended, then she wasn't going
to go out with you anyway.

On the other hand, if she WAS going to go out
with you, the direct "Give me your number" will
make her FAR MORE attracted to you.

Make sense?

In other words, the things that work BEST will
get you MUCH BETTER and MUCH WORSE reactions from
women.

Women who have boyfriends, are married, are
lesbians, or whatever will RUN away... (that is,
if they can overcome their emotional attraction to
your communication style).

And women who are available and interested will
only feel MORE attracted to you because you are
just naturally assuming that you're going to get
what you want.

If you really take the time to think about it,
and think through the different scenarios, you'll
realize that being direct and assumptive will work
better in the long run.

Now, let's talk a bit about the specifics of
what it "says" to a woman when you "walk away"
from her in a situation like the one you've
described...

You're talking to her for five minutes. She's
laughing and you're being Cocky & Funny... you're
teasing her, she's responding by hitting you and
opening her mouth with the "Oh-no-you-didn't-just-
say-that" look.

You see your friends.

You say, "Hey, good talking to you... I'm going
to go talk to my friends" and you walk away.

What happens?

Does she think, "That jackass! I'm so offended
that he didn't ask for my number!"?

Does she say to her friend, "That guy is stupid
because he could have gotten my number and he
didn't even ask for it"?

Does she immediately walk away and leave?

No, probably not.

In fact, what she will MOST LIKELY do, if you
were being interesting and attractive, is think to
herself "What just happened? Why did he leave?
Should I go with him and keep talking to him?
Should I just leave because he probably doesn't
like me? Did I say something wrong?"

In other words, she's going to stand there
thinking about YOU and what she can do to start
the conversation again.

Really.

Is this creating some kind of "negative
tension"?

Yes, it is.

But, it's not the kind of negative tension that
makes situations with women go BAD.

It's the OTHER KIND. It's the kind that leads
to SEXUAL TENSION and CHEMISTRY.

Now, the BEST thing you can do in a situation
like this one is to say "Hey, I'm going to get
back to my friends over there... good talking to
you..." and then turn to walk away.

Right after you've "broken the connection" and
she's starting to go into the "what just happened
and why is he leaving" mode, you turn BACK around
and say "Hey, do you have email?"... then go into
the 3 minute email/number technique that I talk
about in my ebook and Advanced Series.

Get it?

Another important thought...

When you have to "say" something about who you
are as a man, how interesting you are, or how much
she should feel attracted to you with WORDS, it
automatically creates doubt... because if it was
true, then you wouldn't need to SAY it.

It would be OBVIOUS.

In other words, the best way to communicate all
of the most IMPORTANT things is through your BODY
LANGUAGE.

What most guys try to do is CONVINCE a woman to
feel ATTRACTION by telling her all kinds of things
about themselves and trying to subtly drop little
hints about making money, driving a cool car, etc.

BORING.

And worse, it usually BACKFIRES.

Women can smell the "I'm actually insecure, so
I am trying to cover up for it by bragging" rap a
mile away.

It makes them RUN (unless they're out to use
you for free food and entertainment).

If you want to say all the right things in the
shortest possible time, then you need to learn how
to communicate with body language and voice tone
ALONE.

WHAT you say isn't very important at all.

It really isn't.

HOW you say it is EVERYTHING.

Go back through your copy of my Advanced Series
and notice all of the subtle body language points
that I make, and think about what you've just
read... it will pull everything together for you.

As you probably know, I also have a complete
program that's dedicated to teaching you how to
use Body Language to create ATTRACTION.

I highly recommend that you go and get yourself
a copy of that program. It will help you out
TREMENDOUSLY. You can check out some
video clips of it here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/BodyLanguage

Oh, and if you're reading this right now and
you would like to learn how to make women feel
ATTRACTION for you, then you need to check out my
Advanced Dating Techniques DVD/CD program.

I spend a lot of time going over the specifics
of how to communicate beliefs, status, and self-
image in a way that really triggers the
"attraction mechanism" inside of women. I'll give
you a great introduction on how to use Body
Language as well.

This material isn't available anywhere else, in
any program, at any price...

This is part of what makes my program unique...
and when you see the body language of some of my
special guests, you'll immediately "get it", and
begin to understand how you need to modify your
own body language to trigger ATTRACTION with
women... rather than triggering FRIENDSHIP.

All the details, plus some great audio and
video samples are here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

...and if you haven't downloaded your copy of
my online eBook "Double Your Dating" yet, then you
need to do that immediately. You can download it
right now and be reading it within just a few
minutes. It's here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

3 Secrets Of Meeting Women Online

2010-10-06T20:24:00.000-07:00

***SUCCESS STORY***

Well I have to say I was a little skeptical
about your book at first. I've never been very
successful with women. I've always been the shy,
quiet type that treat women like a prize and act
like a wussy. Well after a few newsletters I
decided to give it a shot. Well it all made sense
to me so I got your CD series and it's even better
then the book. So I decided to try the C&F method.
I've been on some dating sites for a few years and
occasionally I would get a response. A little over
a week ago I changed my profile so I wasn't such a
wussy and pleading with women with how good of a
catch I'd be (as most women say they want a nice
guy) In less then a week, I've gotten 5 responses.
It's amazing. I'm only about half way through with
the CD's too can't wait to see what else they
hold.

JN from NY

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, Ye of little faith...

Remember something.

Women are always INTERPRETING everything you
say.

In other words, they want to know what things
MEAN.

When you say, "I'm a great guy" in your
profile, a woman reading it says to herself,
"yeah, right... If you were a great guy, then you
wouldn't need to SAY it. You're probably a loser
who WISHES that he were a great guy."

On the other hand, if you write a Cocky & Funny
profile that talks about how picky you are and
that you're trying this online dating thing as a
last resort because all the attractive women you
meet bore you... then a woman will think to
herself, "Ah ha! A challenge! I'll bet you that I
can get his attention...".

Great job, and keep me posted on your future
success stories.

***QUESTION***

Double D Dog!

First let's get the formalities out of the
way... you are the Boddhisatva of Bootay! To your
newsletter subscribers...you know you wait for
each new mail from this guy...thinking you'll "get
it" sooner or later without checking out the e-
book...GET IT DONE! You'll thank yourself. I
took you up on your 7-day offer and read DYD the
day I downloaded it. My situation is a little
different. After literally years of being single
and settling for 2:30 am random drunk hookups, I
finally triggered ATTRACTION in a great woman
about four months ago. I don't know how I got it
right, because it's in my nature to be a Wuss, but
put 100 monkeys in a room with typewriters and
eventually you'll get the complete works of
Shakespeare, right? Anyway, we hit it off
really well. In the beginning she was a little
too instantly infatuated, and I had to say NO to
many of her requests for my time...not because I
was working your program yet, but it was just too
much for a brand new thing and I actually have a
life. Of course this drove her nuts for me.
About 3 months into this thing, she starts turning
the tables with the testing, and it goes like this
"I'm really falling for you, and this is new for
me. I usually have a really hard time with
commitment because I like variety in my life."

The sex is very good...multiple O's for both of
us regularly. I think she's just got an amazon
appetite! A few weeks later she says to me that
she wants to meet this guy she's been chatting
with on the Internet since before I met her...you
know, see what might happen and back to the
variety thing. This triggered the Wuss in me and
I spent a good hour being jealous and needy before
coming to my senses and telling her to go check it
out with my blessing. She says she changed her
mind, but ever since then I found myself groveling
to make her happy and keep her with me. I became
jealous at the stupidest things. I was full of
FEAR and freaking out. Somewhere along the way I
started getting your mail (cue the angelic
music)...then 3 days ago I got the ebook, read it
and it all clicked. So, realizing I was already
dangerously deep down Wussy Way, I arranged a
unique date with her. I told her where I was
going to be hanging out that night, told her to
put on the sexiest thing she could find and meet
me there at whatever time she wanted to and we
would pretend we were meeting randomly for the
first time. I applied the C/F approach, body
language and other tips from your book and she
definitely noticed consciously that I was up to
something, but nevertheless, VIOLA! I triggered
her attraction again. Not only that, but I
learned new things about her and how she works
that I had tuned-out based on established
expectations and self-centered wussiness. We
communicated better, laughed more, had WAY OVER
THE TOP sex and a great conversation early into
the morning afterwards.

I'm converted Dude, and the best part is that
these tools have taken away my fear of losing her.
I love this woman, but if her Attraction or need
for variety cause her to stray, I KNOW WHAT TIME
IT IS! A million thanks! m

ps - if you haven't already, check out a book
called The MultiOrgasmic Man...dynamite for when
the rubber hits the road...so to speak.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

I'll check that book out.

I'm kind of afraid, man. I might not ever leave
my house again.

OK, back to your email...

I really enjoyed your story.

I particularly like the fact that you're using
the things you're learning to KEEP a great woman
that you enjoy...

I think that too many guys make the mistake of
assuming that it's all about GETTING the girl...
and they put far too little emphasis on keeping a
great girl once they find one.

And the fact is, that until you're in a
situation where you've found a great woman who
you'd like to keep in your life, you won't realize
just how important it is to KNOW HOW to keep her.

You did exactly the right thing when she
started to talk about possibly seeing another guy.

I know that tests like this one can be a pain
in the ass, but this is reality... and we have to
deal with it when it shows up.

I've been in many situations with women where
I've felt like a jealous, insecure Wussbag
myself... I get it.

I'm proud of you for coming to your senses and
telling her to go check it out if she wanted to.

And then you did a GREAT thing by figuring out
how to "restart" your relationship with her and
put some FIRE back into the situation.

I honestly believe that most guys want to find
a great woman they can click with, have fun
with, and enjoy a relationship with.

The problem is that most guys have no idea how
to GET and then KEEP an attractive woman's
attention.

They're two very different challenges, and I'm
glad to hear that you're working on the "keep"
challenge in your own life.

***SUCCESS STORY***

David,

I bet you get this all the time: My life has
changed, thanks to your books and the advanced
series. I get it! But I'm having so much fun
relating to people in general, that I'm in no rush
to get an email or go out on a date. Just being
able to talk to anyone about anything, and being
comfortable with it, is an incredible gift. In a
way, I'm on a date with a girl just by having a
conversation, in my mind. And who the hell cares
what she thinks... Hehehe...

I was so amazed at what I learned in the books,
that I wrote you a spontaneous email. Then another
when I started to "feel" results. You should
know that I'm not the type of guy to do that, and
here I am doing it again after listening to the
advanced series. I walked into work yesterday,
and the most gorgeous (no sh*t!) chick on staff is
staring at me from across the room, interrupting
her own conversation. I just cockily smiled and
winked, then watched her until she turned away.
That momentary connection was one of the most
intense feelings I've ever had. That's just the
extreme example. I have these connections with
just about everyone, including the "cool guys",
who now treat me in a more respectful manner (or
maybe it's just my perception, but who cares).

I've been a slob all of my life, and now I'm
committed to keeping my house, car and myself
clean and organized.

I'm listening to the CDs over and over in my
car, and I keep picking up something that I
missed. Turning a negative thought to a "how do
I..." thought is my latest favorite. THAT was a
bombshell for me.

Please accept my deepest gratitude. I wish you
the best in life. Those of us who've benefited
from your teachings need to find a way to get you
sainted... Hehehe...

Thanks David!! You're the best!!

JH Burbank, CA

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You know, it's interesting, and you're right
on... When you start behaving differently, it has
an amazing effect on all kinds of different
things, and on many different types of
relationships.

I regularly get "special" treatment in bars,
clubs, restaurants, coffee shops, etc., because I
"get it" myself.

One of the benefits of being interesting,
funny, challenging, and unpredictable, that I
don't really mention, comes up in situations where
you're seeing the same person (especially the same
woman) over and over.

Examples are: Favorite coffee shops, favorite
restaurants, grocery stores you visit often, etc.

When you tease and bust on a woman who you're
NOT interested in, and continue to keep the sexual
tension up, you'll find that all kinds of magical
things will happen.

The list of things I've gotten for free at
restaurants, bars, and coffee shops is pretty
extensive... all courtesy of some cute girl I
was flirting with.

And good job getting other aspects of your life
together. It will lead to good things for you.

Nice!

***QUESTION***

i met a girl i liked, we were hanging out and
she started talking about how i had good chances
with her. and a couple days later i asked her if
she wanted to go out to dinner she said yes and i
let her pick the place, we went to dinner, and the
whole dinner she talked about her ex and i paid
like 40 bucks for dinner. when we got back to her
house i got the cold shoulder when i tried talking
to her and got told she was tired and i should
probably go, can u tell me what it was i did wrong
there?

thanx m

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oohhhhhh, bad news.

These types of situations SUCK. Really.

First of all, if a woman ever says something
like, "You have good chances with me", either:

1) Run

...or...

2) Look at her, shake your head with a
"disappointed parent" look on your face and say,
"Yeah, well you don't have such hot chances with
me... so watch yourself."

Secondly, don't offer to take this type of
woman TO DINNER.

Thirdly, if you DO offer, NEVER let HER choose
the place.

Fourthly, if a woman ever starts talking about
her EX at dinner, stop her and say, "Heyyyyyy,
wait a minute here. If you want therapy, that will
be $200 per hour, and I have a two hour minimum.
And it will have to be later, because I'm enjoying
my dinner right now".

Fifthly, you need to learn how to take things
from one step to the next with a woman, because
going back to her place and "trying to talk to
her" isn't the answer, my man.

What did you do wrong?

Basically everything, right from the beginning.

Stop that!

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dave, I am in my forties, successful in
business, live in a nice condo, drive a great
auto, in great physical shape and am considered
handsome. The moral to this story is that none of
these matter! "Getting it" is the key that
unlocked the door to my success with women. I have
your e-book, cd series and of course the
collection of weekly newsletters. I have become a
student of "getting it" and creating attraction in
women. I am currently dating a 9.5 on a scale
where 10 is drop dead gorgeous, extremely
intelligent, witty, sexually creative, etc. I
constantly tease her, push her away, insist on her
treating me on dates, give her the gift of missing
me thus driving her crazy to the point she can't
help but call me! I have kicked her out of my
condo for acting bratty on two occasions, pick on
her for minor flaws (that she pointed out
initially) ...example: she asked "Do you think my
ass needs some more toning, I need to focus on
those exercises in the gym" , well, I have taken
full advantage of this to bust her balls! HERE'S
THE KICKER...she will look me in the eyes with a
sultry look and say to l me "no man has ever
treated me so good and made me feel so complete as
a woman like you do".

Now, let me qualify this for the "getting it"
challenged! I am never cruel and I never ridicule
her, nor do I openly embarrass her in public, I am
always a gentleman, treat her as the princess that
she is....but I am the new me...extremely
confident, cocky & funny, romantic, and
powerful...I assume I am in control in every
situation... Do I have times of doubt and areas I
screw up? Sure, but it just doesn't matter,
remember I am a student and students must make
mistakes to learn.

Dave, thanks for the hard work and diligent
research required on your part, hope this can be
an encouragement to others!

rh atlanta, ga

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, this is one of the most IRONIC and
interesting things about learning how to be
successful with women.

NEVER in my life have I had so many women give
me so many compliments as when I TEASE AND BUST ON
THEM LIKE THERE'S NO TOMORROW.

Why is this?

Because when you're doing these things, the
woman gets the DEEPER message...

That you're the kind of man she's been looking
for all her life.

The kinds of things you're doing are triggering
and satisfying drives and urges that have been
wired into her mental, physical, and emotional
systems for millions of years.

You're activating powerful sexual drives and
female emotions that most men will NEVER trigger
inside of her... and she's grateful to you for it.

Even though an outsider might look at an
evening that you spend with her and say "He didn't
treat her very well... he was difficult, very
challenging, and not complimentary at all. I don't
think he's going to get very far with her"...

...while at the end of the evening the woman
you're with will go home with a deep, profound
feeling of inner satisfaction that she won't be
able to describe.

Yes, you do "get it." Congratulations.

If you just read that story, and then you read
my comments, and you said to yourself: "I'd like
to learn how to do that kind of thing, and create
massive attraction with my words and body
language," then you need to go and check this out:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/SexualCommunication

***SUCCESS STORY***

David,

I'd like to leave my email to you at "Thank you",
but I am overwhelmed at what has happened since I
read your online book just once. Not only have I
given up the nice guy approach, but it is fun to
see women squirm in their seats when you start
busting their balls. Brilliant!

I prefer online dating so I took your advice and
starting being more forward in emails, cracking
jokes and making fun of more stuff. Sounds
unorthodox right? Hell NO. I use a dating site
that won't let you give an email address through
their system, but phone numbers are ok. The women
know this already, so they are expecting to get a
number from you if you get their attention. More
on your book, I work in radio and when you said
the voice was one of your best tools to use, it
hit me like a ton of bricks. Your right and phone
calls are perfect place to practice your sound.
Definitely slow down in your speech and a better
sound will come from within. So my point is this:
I meet this chick on line, give her my number, she
doesn't call for two days. So I send her the "what
are you playing hard to get email" (thanks again
Dave), the next morning my phone is ringing at
8:30 am. It's her, she feels bad about waking me
up, which I bust her balls for and use the fact
that I just woke up to bring out the best in my
voice. We only have a 4 or 5 minute conversation
before I tell her I need to get some more sleep,
so I give her MY email address and leave it at
that. I get to work later that morning, and here
is her email.

D.,

I only have a minute before I need to leave for a
meeting, but I just wanted to say . . . GREAT
voice!

I hope you have a great day you Bum!

Take care!

J.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

As one of my friends says:

"YOU OWN HER."

By the way, great insight to MAKE FUN of women
who have online personals.

Think of it this way...

A cute woman posts an online personal.

She gets 50 emails a day saying, "Oh, you're so
beautiful..." and "You sound very interesting, we
have a lot in common..." and "I have the same
values as you, and I'm seeking a relationship as
well..."

...and then she sees one that says:

"Hey, I don't think that this picture is really
you. What, did you go to the mall and get one of
those Glamour Shots done or something? Do you have
a real picture? Like you at home on your
stairmaster or something? Or do you even work out?
OK, stop trying to fool all of us guys, and let's
see what you REALLY look like..."

What's she going to do?

Of course, she's going to say to herself, "I'll
show him", and she's going to send you a bunch of
pictures of herself and say, "No, really, this is
me!"

NICE IS BORING. And it's never more boring then
when it's ONLINE... in a place where there are a
million other "nice" guys who have zero
personality chasing after her.

And great job telling the woman who called you
when you were sleeping that you wanted to go back
to sleep... and to email you sometime.

You're doing well. Keep it up!

***COMMENTS FROM A WOMAN***

Hey, David I am a woman who reads your
newsletter. I have to admit, you've got us
figured out! I never could figure out why all the
guys I dated before were pathetic losers until I
realized what they were doing wrong. That helps
me weed out the dorks and get on to the good
stuff.

Thanks a bunch for your program!

S. in Kansas

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Uh oh.

I never really thought of it that way...

I guess that the women who are reading my
newsletters are learning some of the ways to spot
Wussbags from even FURTHER away... and getting new
ammo to use with the pathetically weak.

You go, girl.

Weed out the dorks.

Avoid the Wussy guys who chase after you and
try to get your approval... and annoy the hell out
of you in the process.

Oh, and don't forget to tell them to visit
DoubleYourDating.com for great free tips!

***QUESTION***

Sup Dave.

dude your stuff rocks! I already started
changing my whole attitude towards chicks.

I was at a party and this girl kept looking at
me, I would look back at her but keep my distance
talking and having fun with other girls. later she
asked my friend to introduce me. we sat down and
talked. I was being funny not too cocky...i know
bad bad. I didn't ask for her number...I was
testing if she would ask for mine. She didn't ask
for it, is that a rule? do guys always get the
number?

thanks bro, keep up the good work! KP

>>>MY COMMENTS:

LOL... OK, you already "changed your attitude
towards chicks", but you can't hook up with a girl
who ASKS to be introduced to you?

I think maybe you should reconsider your
approach, my man.

Regardless of the situation, a woman wants you
to LEAD the way. You're going to have to TAKE THE
NEXT STEP in some way.

Even if you say, "So aren't you going to ask
for my number? What's taking you so long?" you
need to do it.

If you're one of those guys who's fortunate
enough to have the looks and game that result in
woman WANTING to meet you before you've met them,
then this is DOUBLY important.

Lead.

Don't wait around and hope something happens.

There's always a smooth, interesting way to
take the ball and move forward with it.

If you don't, you're going to be taking your
own ball and moving forward with it later in the
evening...

***SUCCESS STORY***

Dear Dave,

Since listening to your C.D.'s I
have transformed from a guy who occasionally has
"luck" with women into a demon. I always thought
before that when a woman was busting my balls that
she was rejecting me when in reality she is
sparing with me. I use to be afraid I was over
stepping my boundaries when I got that "Aah" (what
an a**hole look). Now instead of backing down I
turn it up because I know I got her right where I
want her.

Most guys will never understand what you have
taught the privileged nation of men. I don't want
them to because most of them are not ready for it.
When they are then I turn them on to you. Some of
my friends think to impress a girl you need to
spend money on her. Ha! Since I realized
attraction is not a choice I've spent a total of
$1.75 on a drink for a friend. A girl I even had
to turn down because she is my buddies ex and they
just broke up. It's amazing that now I have to
turn down dates and/ or decide which girl to go
out with on any given night. Thank you for your
wisdom.

You rock, C.P.-L.A

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Great insight!

And you're right... most guys miss the point
ENTIRELY when a woman starts challenging them.

Instead of turning up the volume and hitting
the ball right back over the net twice as fast,
most guys just crumble... and lose all the energy,
sexual tension, and chemistry that was in the
situation.

When a woman throws down the challenge, or
starts to test you, it's time to realize that this
is the VERY BEGINNING... and instead of responding
by saying, "OK, whatever you want", you need to
create even MORE tension... and turn it up... and
understand how to AMPLIFY the sexual tension and
attraction in the situation.

Chemistry is an AMAZING thing if you understand
it (the way you describe not being afraid to "step
over the boundaries" when you get that, "Ahhh,
you're an a**hole" look... and instead, seeing it
as sparring).

But, it's a curse if you don't... because
you'll just misinterpret everything that happens
and miss all of your opportunities.

Great email.

***SUCCESS STORY***

David,

I have been through the CD series twice now and
am now on a third pass hitting some of my favorite
sections. For months I have been hanging with some
really talented guys and getting frustrated
because they get girls left and right and I
couldn't remember the last time I kissed a girl. I
have been meeting women and getting numbers but
always blowing it and not closing any deals. I
just turned 40 and have been getting frustrated
and feeling like I was washed up with women. The
Advanced Series has put a new spin on things for
me. I feel like there are many things I can do to
turn my romantic life around. I got it.

I have been putting this stuff into practice for
the past couple of weeks. I am working on being
confident, cocky and funny. I have determined that
I am living in my reality, that is all that
matters. I am thinking about the importance of the
skill over the importance of the girl. So, on the
first weekend I hooked up with a hot little 23
year in a pub. I was practicing and it was
working... she spent the night at my place. This
past weekend I was with another attractive woman
and again it worked. I actually had some idea of
things that I could do to create attraction. This
girl has a hot little body and I have a little
extra padding so I was talking to her about how
she could tighten up her stomach through dieting
and exercise. Oh my God that was fun! I love it,
so did she. I was just playing and having fun. You
have a great training program that goes way beyond
success with chicks. Thanks.

LSM -- Seattle

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeahhhh, baby!

And by the way, you're CRACKING ME UP over
here...

Your comment:

"This past weekend I was with another attractive
woman and again it worked. I actually had some
idea of things that I could do to create
attraction."

...is cracking me up.

So, you actually have "some idea" now, huh?

This is great stuff. I'm excited for you.

And yes, my training program DOES go WAY beyond
"success with chicks." I'm glad you're getting
that "way beyond" kind of success from it.

...and if you're reading this right now and
thinking to yourself, "Hey, I'm 40 and have a
gut... and would like to learn how to use it to
meet women", then have I got a sweet offer for
you!

No, seriously...

The reality is, the thing that stands between
most guys and success with women is NOT what they
think it is.

I've found that most men have what I call their
"Secret Reason" for failure with women.

This guy was 40 and had a gut... and felt like
he was "washed-up" with women.

Some guys are bald. Some are short. Some don't
make much money... and some are just afraid.

But, these are NEVER the REAL reason why these
guys aren't successful with women.

The REAL reason they aren't successful is
because they just don't understand the dynamic
that I call ATTRACTION.

They don't even know what "chemistry" and
"sexual tension" and "ATTRACTION" are in the first
place.

Hey, I used to be one of those guys.

I used to stand in bars and look at women that
I wanted to meet for HOURS... and have NO IDEA
what to do or say to even START a conversation,
never mind get a number or a date.

And I had my own "Secret Reason" for failure.
Mine was FEAR.

I was just plain afraid of women.

Well, the good news is that I've figured out
how to get past these "Secret Reasons", and even
better, I've figured out how to make women feel
ATTRACTION by using body language and other
communication. It's really not that hard.

But, like any other skill that's valuable, it's
not something that you can learn in 2 minutes.

It takes a little practice.

The GREAT news is that instead of taking
several YEARS of research, reading, and trying
crazy stuff that doesn't work like I did, you can
get the benefits of my "banging my head against
the wall" research... and go straight to the good
stuff.

My Advanced Dating Techniques program is the
ULTIMATE training program for this stuff. Not only
did it take me YEARS to learn all of this stuff in
the first place, and figure it all out, but it
also took me literally HUNDREDS of hours of my
time to put this particular program together.

I really designed this thing from the beginning
to be the absolute best training available in the
history of the world on how to meet and date
women.

If you read some of the feedback in these
newsletters and on the web site, I think you'll
find that quite a few guys agree that it's pretty
damn good.

But I want YOU to be the judge.

My offer is still available: Go to my web site
and order the trial. If you don't like it, just
send it back to me, and don't pay. I'm convinced
that after you get your hands on it and start
learning from it, you'll send me an email with a
success story instead of the program back.

The details are here, along with some good
samples:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

And of course, if you haven't downloaded your
copy of my online eBook, you need to get that
immediately. It's the place to start, and you can
be reading it in literally a few minutes from
right now. It's here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

How Guys "Screw Up" First Dates...

2010-05-19T19:31:00.000-07:00

I get a lot of guys who write in to ask me how
to behave around women. Many of those questions
focus on the first meeting or the first date.

I thought I'd devote one entire newsletter to a
concept that I feel is VITAL to understand if
you're wondering how to behave around a woman
you've just met.

A MISTAKE ALMOST EVERY GUY MAKES...

I've noticed a KEY difference between the way
men and women act when they meet a "potential
mate".

Women usually act in a way that can be
characterized like this:

"You're interesting to me. I'd like to get to know
you better, and we can see where this goes."

Men usually act in a way that can be
characterized like this:

"I am so interested in you that I'm nervous. In
fact, I'm already thinking of you as a potential
girlfriend or wife... or at least a one-night
stand."

In other words, women are usually casual and
laid-back when they're first meeting a guy...

But GUYS tend to act like every girl is a
POTENTIAL WIFE.

As you can imagine, this creates a lot of
tension and pressure.

And I'm not talking about the GOOD kind,
either.

I'm talking about the kind that makes men
shiver and shake with nervousness, and women feel
uncomfortable because the MAN is acting
uncomfortable.

I KNOW that you can relate to this in some way.

THE ANSWER...

The simple solution to this is...

DON'T DO IT.

If you start acting all freakish and nervous
when you're talking to a woman, you're probably
going to screw things up before they've even had a
chance to get started.

Treating a woman that you've just met as if she
very well could be the love of your life is
something you should NEVER do.

Instead, take a very different approach.

My favorite is to ASSUME that every woman has
SOMETHING that's going to annoy me, bother me, or
SCREW UP HER CHANCES with me.

The MAIN reason that I do this...

SURPRISE...

IS THAT IT'S TRUE!

Duh.

The fact is that MOST women are NOT compatible
"long term" with most men. In other words, if you
do get into a long-term relationship with a
particular woman, the chances are that she's going
to have things about her that you don't like.

One of my favorite Cocky & Funny themes to
follow is, "You're screwing up your chances with
me".

Let's say I'm walking down the street with a
girl to have a cup of tea. Let's assume that she
and I just met the night before, I got her number,
and now we're walking from my place to tea.

On the way in the door to the coffee shop, she
trips over the doorway.

I might look at her, shake my head in an
"overly dramatic fake annoyed" way, and say, "This
relationship just isn't going to work".

Then, let's say fifteen minutes later, she
spills her tea on the table and herself.

I'll shake my head again and say, "What did I
tell you about this kind of behavior?".

In other words, I'm communicating the very
OPPOSITE of "You're a potential wife". I'm saying,
"I'm so comfortable around you that I can even
make fun of you without caring what you think of
me".

Does this sound a little crazy?

Good. It should.

But trust me.

If you spend a couple of hours having regular,
normal conversation... being Cocky & Funny,
enjoying yourself, NOT trying to impress her, and
generally demonstrating that you could care less
how things turn out, you'll be FAR more likely to
take things further than if you act as if she
might be the love of your life and you wind up
acting so nervous, stilted, and DUMB that she runs
away.

By the way, if you'd like to "fine tune" your
Cocky & Funny skills, then you should take a
minute and check this out right now:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/CockyComedy

So here it is again... one thing that most guys
who are unsuccessful with women do that screws
things up... one thing to AVOID:

DON'T TREAT A WOMAN YOU'VE JUST MET AS IF SHE'S A
POTENTIAL FUTURE WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND.

Instead, lean back. Be cool. Make jokes about
her screwing up her chances with you. Tell her
that she's a nice friend. Assume that she has
qualities that are going to annoy you, then point
them out (in a Cocky & Funny way, of course).

Don't lose your composure. It can be fatal if
you do.

Another note:

Most guys don't "get" women.

And, unfortunately, most guys look for tricks
and "pick up lines" when it comes time to LEARN
how to meet women.

They don't realize that all the tricks in the
world aren't going to help them if they don't
UNDERSTAND what's "going on".

That's where my Advanced Dating Techniques
Program comes in...

The first segment of the program is entirely
focused on your "Inner Game". In other words, it's
focused on helping you "get" what's going on.

This program goes into DEPTH about all aspects
of psychology and behavior of men and women... and
teaches you from the ground up. You must get rid
of some of your bad programming before you can get
GOOD programming.

In other words, I KNOW that you need to learn
how to NOT do things like treating a woman as if
she might be your future wife... and I teach you
how to avoid these big mistakes... and there are
many.

Of course, I also teach a TON of specific
techniques. Hundreds, in fact.

You will get over 12 solid hours of digital
video and/or audio of me teaching everything from
the ground up on how to take things all the way
from beginning, to end... from the first meeting,
through the first date... all the way to the
bedroom, and beyond.

You'll learn how to overcome your limiting
beliefs about women... how to eliminate your fears
of talking to women... how to make women feel
ATTRACTION for you, even if you don't have money
or looks, etc.

In other words, it's a complete system.

You'll learn everything you need to know in
order to start meeting and dating more women
IMMEDIATELY.

All the details, and some educational preview
video clips of the program are here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

...and if you STILL haven't downloaded your
copy of my original eBook "Double Your Dating",
then you need to do that now. It's jam packed with
dozens and dozens of my personal techniques for
meeting and dating women, and it comes with THREE
great bonus booklets that aren't available
anywhere else. And right now you can download it
FREE, and try it out before you buy. Go download
it here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David D.

How To Date Women "Out Of Your League"

2010-05-19T19:29:00.000-07:00

Men tend to base attraction on LOOKS, and women
tend to base attraction on "chemistry" and
"sexual tension"... and other things that
involve your PERSONALITY. If you'd like to learn
the secret to creating attraction with women who
are "out of your league", then go and read THIS:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/SexualCommunication

***DATING QUESTION FROM A READER***

Dear Dave,

I was very skeptical of your approach, but I have
been trying C & F routine recently and it has been
working like a charm. Your CD is incredible with
information that builds on your book. An example
of C & F happened recently. Women always make
comments of my age and how I appear much younger
than my age (i'm in my mid-thirties but appear to
be 24-25). Before reading your book and listening
to your CD, I would simply laugh or say thank you
if a woman said I looked a lot younger than my
age. Recently I was out with my friends and this
good-looking woman said the same comment. My
response was "come on, I'm not going to fall for a
line that. You women just want me for my youthful
looks". Then I continued busting on her and left
with her e-mail. My friends were all shocked by my
exchange with her and my success.

I have a question though Dave. What if a woman, in
the conversation with you, states she does not
like a certain type of guy; for example she says
she likes tall guys but one happens to be short.
Can you give be a couple of examples of turning a
perceived deficit (height, lack of hair, etc) into
Cocky and funny responses?

Thanks a million,

Disciple in Training in D.C.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

First of all, I really enjoy the way you've
turned the issue of looking younger around and
framed it as a woman's pathetic attempt to pick
you up and use you.

This is CLASSIC Cocky & Funny, and it does all
the right things... it creates sexual tension,
humor and a challenge all at the same time.

Very nice.

But the part of your email that I really like
is the QUESTION you've asked.

You've asked:

"What if a woman, in the conversation with you,
states she does not like a certain type of guy;
for example she says she likes tall guys but one
happens to be short. Can you give be a couple of
examples of turning a perceived deficit (height,
lack of hair, etc) into Cocky and Funny
responses?"

Here's something that you must remember:

IF YOU BEHAVE AS IF WHAT A WOMAN THINKS OF YOU IS
IMPORTANT, THEN YOU'LL BE VERY LIKELY TO DO
SOMETHING TO MAKE HER NOT FEEL ATTRACTION TOWARDS
YOU.

Remember, ATTRACTION isn't a "logical" process.
It really doesn't make very much sense (until you
understand how it works, that is).

Just because a woman SAYS that she doesn't
"like" a certain "type" of guy doesn't mean that
she can't feel a POWERFUL ATTRACTION for a guy of
this "type."

Are you with me here?

ATTRACTION is an emotional and physical
RESPONSE.

A "type" is a PREFERENCE.

They are TWO TOTALLY DIFFERENT THINGS.

Here's a good example: Women are universally
more interested in taller men. If you ask a woman
what "type" of "height" ISN'T her type, she'll say
something like "short guys" or "guys who are
shorter than me" etc.

I have NEVER met a woman in my entire life who
said "I like shorter guys." Never.

But guess what?

I have at least 4 or 5 friends who are in the
5'2" to 5'6" range who are UNBELIEVABLE with
women. They ALL date beautiful women who are
taller than them.

So what's going on here?

ATTRACTION is what's going on.

So, when you ask me how to use a Cocky & Funny
line to turn a "perceived deficit" around, the
FIRST thing I have to say is, "Stop thinking of it
as a deficit."

First, you need to stop caring what a woman
thinks of you ALTOGETHER.

Completely.

Totally.

100%.

If you care what she thinks of you, then you're
probably going to start acting like a total WUSS,
and you're going to screw things up INSTANTLY.

Women don't feel ATTRACTION for men who look to
them for approval.

Women feel ATTRACTION for men who are strong,
independent, and not affected by the opinions of
others.

As a note, you can learn an entire SYSTEM
for overcoming these "mental limitations"... and
you can also learn how to build a rock-solid
self-image that will be INCREDIBLY attractive
to women. If this is something you need to get
handled, then go and read this:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/DeepInnerGame

So, based on this new perspective, here are a
few ways that you could handle a situation like
this one...

1) NOT CARE AT ALL

One of the things you could do is to not
address the comment at all... as if it didn't even
exist.

A mistake many people make is thinking that
they MUST take every communication that another
person takes seriously and then RESPOND to it.

Not so.

You don't have to do ANYTHING if you don't want
to.

So, if a woman says, "I like tall guys", you
can just act as if it had never been said and
continue with your conversation, getting her
email/number, or whatever.

By the way, this concept can be EXTREMELY
useful in other situations as well. For instance,
if a woman starts getting upset about something
and being overly dramatic, one great thing to do
is NOTHING AT ALL. Just sit there and don't
respond at all. Then, when it settles down a
little, just continue your conversation as if
nothing had happened (Oh, and stop hanging out
with dramatic, overly-emotional women too, you
dork!).

2) BRING IT UP BEFORE HER

In this case, you're talking about height. One
way to deal with this is to bring it up before she
does.

As soon as you start talking say, "Well, you're
taller than me... I'm over it, are you yet?"

This says a few things. It says that you know
what's going on... it says you're confident... and
it shows that you're not afraid to deal with it.

It also addresses the issue in such a way that
you'll know where she stands on it.

If she just CAN'T get past it, she'll tell you.

3) MAKE IT HER PROBLEM

Here's a place to use Cocky & Funny - You
might say, "Wow, you're kind of a freak. I think
something like 1% of women are as tall as you. It
must suck trying to find nice pants, huh? You have
to wear all those weird pants made for freaks and
stuff."

Or, if she's talking about a trait that she's
attracted to, point out the negative sides of that
trait in a Cocky & Funny way.

Maybe she says, "I like men who know how to
treat a lady special, take her nice places, and
who pay for everything to show that they're a
gentleman."

You might say, "Oh, so what you're telling me
is that you like men who basically pay for your
attention with money and gifts... how romantic."

...The one thing that you'll find at the bottom
of all the ideas that I've just presented is FIRST
OF ALL, NOT CARING WHAT SHE THINKS OF YOU.

I know that it's a paradox... you obviously
want her to like you, but you have to not care
what she thinks of you.

Well, get over it.

Women aren't attracted to men who are APPROVAL-
SEEKERS.

And if a woman throws out a comment like, "I
like tall guys", you must first learn to NOT CARE,
and not let it impact you emotionally.

Then you'll be free to redirect the
conversation and decide if she's the kind of woman
that YOU would like to go out with.

By the way, when you are interacting with a
woman, one of the MOST IMPORTANT FACTORS that will
determine whether or not she will feel ATTRACTION
for you is YOUR BELIEFS AND HOW YOU COMMUNICATE
THEM.

And you are constantly communicating your
beliefs with your body language, voice tone,
words, topics, questions, and everything else you
do.

In my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD Program
I spend literally HOURS going into some of the
things you need to understand and do to
communicate your inner beliefs in such a way that
they lead to a woman feeling that magical emotion
called ATTRACTION for you.

This material will truly blow your mind. It
took me over 5 YEARS to really figure it all out
and then put it together and explain it... and I
absolutely guarantee that this material will make
you feel powerful and excited about meeting
women... and of course it will also give you all
the tools, techniques and specifics that you'll
need to do it as well. Go to:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

...for some great free samples and all the
details.

And if you haven't downloaded my online eBook
"Double Your Dating" yet, then you need to go and
do that RIGHT NOW. It's the base and the
foundation of everything I teach, and you can
download it RIGHT NOW and be reading it within a
few minutes. Go download it here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

And I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David D.

How To Approach A Woman & Take Her Home

2010-05-17T18:42:00.000-07:00

***QUESTION***

David,

Got your book a few weeks ago. It's brilliant.
It's magic. It's a religion. I am impressed. At
30, I've doing better now than in college since I
LET myself get wussified over the past few years.
I can now, cold-turkey, walk up to just about any
woman I want to, and bust her friggin' balls with
a straight face and a slight smirk. Their defense
shields melt before my eyes. But, alas, I have a
question. It seems when I'm meeting women, within
an hour or so, I usually end up making out with
them or touching them all over ...while they kiss
and touch me back of course. Getting numbers isn't
enough. I want to advance the meeting from the bar
or the party straight to the bed-room without all
the email and phone call. What is the best way of
doing that? Also....after making out with this one
lady I met, after meeting her in a parking lot at
a liquor store (go figure), she emails me back a
week later saying she wants to pursue friendship
first and get to know me. It seems I am perhaps
being too agressive. How can I be agressive yet
sly about it? Any help would be great. I love
this stuff!

RC

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, my book is magic? A RELIGION?

I accept the "brilliant" compliment, and I can
even allow the "magic" concept... but let's stay
away from the religion comments... lol.

To answer your first question, about how to
skip all the emails, calling, and "dating" and go
straight to the bedroom...

Do two things:

1) Don't focus on "the bedroom." Focus on taking
things to the next step... and the next... and the
next.

2) As soon as you meet a woman, treat it like
you're going on a date together.

Let me explain.

If you meet a girl you really like, spark some
major chemistry, start kissing her, etc., you're
probably going to get some resistance if you look
at her and say "OK, let's leave your friends here
and go back to my place so I can SHAG you."

That's just a hunch.

But, if you meet her, spark the attraction,
start kissing, and then say... "Hey, come with
me", and then take her hand and lead her to
another part of the club or bar... or take her to
the dance floor... or some combination... and then
start kissing again... and then stop (two forward,
one back)... and then say, "Hey, I'm going to this
other bar, come along with me"... and then once
you're there you continue, all the way until
closing, when you say, "Hey, let's keep talking...
this is fun. Give me a ride home..." etc., etc.,
etc....

I think you can see where I'm going with this.

A woman wants to feel that things are
developing naturally, not that you are just trying
to get her into bed as fast as you can.

If the evening unfolds in a normal, natural
way, and you can progress from one level to the
next, you'll do very well and go very far.

Why do you lead her to another part of the
club, and then take her somewhere else?

Physically leading a woman is VERY powerful,
and leaving together/showing up somewhere else
together changes things. When you arrive at the
new place, even though you're the same two people
who just met, you're now TOGETHER at the new
place.

And when you suggest continuing to talk, and
her giving you a ride home (or some variation),
it's not like saying "Come shag me." You're making
it clear that you want to spend time with her, and
it leaves the possibility of ANYTHING happening
open.

And as for the girl you met in the parking lot
who emailed you a week later saying "Let's pursue
a friendship first", what she was probably REALLY
saying is:

"I can't believe that I made out with you after
meeting you in a parking lot of a liquor store.
I'm not like that. So let's get together sometime
on a more casual basis, and if you DO EXACTLY WHAT
YOU DID WHEN WE FIRST MET I'LL PROBABLY WIND UP
MAKING OUT WITH YOU AGAIN."

Think about it.

***QUESTION***

Dave, I just recently read your e-book so I am
still working on techniques but I can say I am a
30 something, short, spare tire, receding hair
line guy (I think girls would say I'm cute though)
who, until a few weeks ago (when I read your
book), was still falling into the `just friends'
category way too many times. Since then, I've cut
off 3 `friends' and started working on myself,
i.e. joined a gym, cleaned up my apartment, and am
working on my wardrobe. 2 weekends ago, I was
making out with a cute 22 yr. old, with a catwalk
model body in my apartment using the 2 step
forward, 1 back technique (my roommate came in or
it may have gone further). It was actually pretty
easy because I didn't really care one way or the
other if it happened. My problem is I have
another girl that I don't think I've crossed into
the `friend' realm just yet, but I can't seem to
advance to the next level. We run with the same
set of friends and I took her out for her birthday
once so we're somewhere between bridge #2 and #5.
We email and talk on the phone quite a bit and I
can keep the conversations short and reasonably
C&F (our friends tell me she thinks I'm
mysterious), but I can't get it to go anywhere
physically. I hinted at going out on a date one
time last week in an email and she responded to
everything in the email but that. My response has
been to stop answering her emails and calls, she
sent an email today that just said `where are
you?'. (she is actually calling my cell phone now
as I write this).

My question is this, do I run like hell (in which
case I hope I could get some suggestions on making
an easy break since we have the same friends), or
work on my seduction techniques with her. If the
latter, I would greatly appreciate some tips on
crossing the next bridge. M

P.S. I've read some of the other stuff out there
and yours is one of the few that shows guys how to
get the upper hand in a respectful manner. Thanks.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Try this...

Don't talk to her for a few days.

Then, call her up and say "What are you doing
RIGHT NOW?... I think you should come over and
hang out with me."

Call on a Saturday or Sunday around noon.

If she comes over, immediately LEAVE after she
arrives.

Go have a cup of tea, do some window shopping,
and DON'T cling to her, look at her too much, or
act like you are feeling attracted to her. Lean
back. Tease her a lot. Tell her how she's screwing
up her chances with you, etc.

Finally, once you get back to your place,
proceed with The Kiss Test... and you'll be fine
from there.

You need to relax. Don't run like hell, and
don't get so hung up on this one girl.

We guys always want the one we can't have...
and it's a problem. Stay on track improving
yourself, meeting other women, etc. That's the
way.

***QUESTION***

One question, how would you change your self-
image?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

and then

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/DeepInnerGame

...a short question deserves a short, direct
answer.

***QUESTION***

Hey Dave,

You are the man!! I'll try to make this short and
sweet. I work at club/bar here in FL so i meet
plenty of beautiful women. I have to tell you that
the cocky and funny routine works wonders for me.
I have been doing it for years but never knew
exactly what i was doing right until i read your
newsletter. My situation goes like this: after
work the bartenders and a couple managers always
stay after for drinks. We usually just share
stories about drunk customers or talk about how
the night was. Since i work the front door at this
club, i always have a story or two about girls
willing do just about anything to get in there or
girls wanting to take me home after. Now there is
this bartender that i work with that i like and
been pouring extra c&f her way, and she eats it
up. We went out to breakfast after work this past
saturday, and one thing that bothered me was that
when we were talking over breakfast, she said
"before this, i thought you were a player and a
little bit of a whore." I was in a bit of shock
but reacted nicely by saying "of course YOU would
think that, and that is exactly why i dont date
bartenders, you guys are too judgmental" she hit
me in the arm, but had the biggest smile on her
face. When i took her back to her car, we ended up
kissing for a bit. This is all great and
everything, but my question to you is, am I being
too cocky and funny here or was she just testing
me with that comment she made??? G, in sunny
Florida

>>>MY COMMENTS:

AHHHH!

You're doing EXACTLY the right thing.

Don't doubt yourself.

The fact that she hit you, and had the big
smile tells the whole story.

You (and many other guys) must get over the
idea that just because a woman knows you date a
lot of other women doesn't mean that she won't
like you.

This doesn't make a lot of sense, but women are
often MOST attracted to PLAYERS.

It makes you MORE attractive when you have a
lot of women that want you... not less.

You're fine. Keep it up!

***QUESTION***

I thought these letters of success were
promotional B.S. But.....

A few months ago I was introduced to this really
hot lady and I said all the "nice to meet you"
stuff to and she seemed to be annoyed at my
existence. Well I crawled away in disgrace and was
told she had no interest in me. Read some of your
stuff and ran into her a few weeks later and
started talking your language to her. I mentioned
to her that I might have taken an interest if she
exercised once and a while and picked up some
fashion tips. Well, that worked especially well
because she is a health and beauty pro to boot. I
kept it up and no kidding, SHE asked me out!

And by the way, I kept it up on our date and she
couldn't leave me alone, Amazing.

R.D. in CA.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, ye of little faith.

You thought these newsletters full of success
stories were just "promotional B.S."?

Well, they're promotional, that's the damn
truth.

But they're not B.S.

Every letter I print in these newsletters is
real... every single one of them... from day one.

And probably 99% of them are unedited as well
(sometimes a letter is just too long, or unclear,
or the writer doesn't speak English well, so I'll
edit for clarity, but this is very rare).

By the way, I realize that the things I teach
sound a little bit bizarre. Believe me, it took me
a couple of years of hard work just to figure this
stuff out... and a lot of it doesn't exactly make
"logical" sense.

But, all you have to do is start using it to
see that it works. Good job... you're doing the
right thing!

***SUCCESS STORY***

Just a quick story. Once again you were right on
with advice!! I changed my online profile with a
popular dating service and have gotten four emails
after the new profile was up only 1 hour!! What
did I change? I made it short and funny. Here is
the typical response I got: "Your profile really
made me laugh. You have a great sense of humor.
That's refreshing. I have a hard time finding
guys who are truly funny. There's not shortage of
guys who THINK they're funny, but it's nice to see
some of you are still out there. I'm attaching my
profile. I'm 37, never married (yeah I know..
means there must be something wrong) and like to
laugh and have a good time. If you don't respond,
I'll just have to go back to collecting cats and
being the neighborhood spinster. ha ha. I hope to
hear from you." As you would say Dave, "Love it"!
You are the man!!! E. Chicago

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Nice!

Yes, this stuff works online just as well as in
person... sometimes even better.

You might remember the one newsletter several
months ago where the guy took some of the stuff
from my Advanced Series and copied it word-for-
word to create an online personal ad, and then
wound up getting all kinds of emails from women
saying "Come over to my house and have sex with
me... you're turning me on." LOL...

When you're Cocky & Funny online, it really
triggers a FUN, witty, sassy part of women... and
they love it.

By the way, if you're reading this right now
and you want results like this online, go and
read THIS right now:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/MeetingWomenOnline

***QUESTION***

David,

Even though you claim not to be an
expert when it comes to relationships, I'd
appreciate if you would give me some input on my
little situation. I've been seeing this girl for
for about a month now but I don't seem to be able
to get to the next level. There is no question
that she likes me since she keeps calling and
suggesting to do things together. However, she
insists on bringing up that she's gotten hurt in
the past which apparently makes it hard for her to
trust guys. According to me that is pretty damn
dumb; we've all been hurt, haven't we. GET OVER
IT! Anyway, my question to you is, how do I earn
her trust? Are there any shortcuts? Help me out
here palsky... J, PA,

>>>MY COMMENTS:

My guess: You're probably acting like a WUSSY
with her, and she doesn't feel any ATTRACTION for
you.

She's probably hanging in there, hoping that
SOME kind of feelings will develop for you... but
it's not working.

Look, when a woman says:

"I only like you as a friend"

...or...

"I've been hurt, so I want to take this slow"

...or...

"I like you so much, I don't want to lose you
as a friend"

...or any of the million variations of these
things, it USUALLY means that you're not doing the
things it takes to create ATTRACTION.

She doesn't FEEL IT for you.

And if she doesn't FEEL IT, then there ARE NO
shortcuts, my man.

Stop being such a "nice" guy, and start doing
the things you're learning from me to spark some
CHEMISTRY!

Oh, and don't call me "palsky."

And no, "palmeister" isn't any better.

***SUCCESS STORY***

Hey Dave,

Just wanted you to know how your DVD program
changed my life. I'm 45, 5'8" and weigh 179 lbs.
I met this beautiful 29 yr. old 6'2" 9.5 model.
It's amazing how just using your "let's be
friends, if nothing else" technique worked like a
charm on this very beautiful girl. After I invited
her to see me at a local Starbucks Cafe I
immediately started busting on her over her
height. We were sitting down drinking some coffee
when I grabbed her had gently and told her to
kneel down on the floor so I could have eye
contact and tell her something important. She
went along my C&F attitude. Then I told her "who
know, you might make a good friend but please get
off up the floor and stop proposing to me". "Your
making me feel really uncomfortable in front of
all these people and besides that I'm not an easy
catch". That did it from there, it just blew her
mind out. She just started laughing and couldn't
stop. We been dating ever since. I left a lot of
details out because this story would be too long.
Your cost for your DVD program is like a dime in a
bucket, when you realize that you get so much more
in return.

Thanks Dave, J.C.
Puerto Rico

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, well, if you've now attracted a 6'2"
model, then maybe you should send me more money.
I'm open to the idea.

Seriously, great job. You really get it.

It's so amazing when you take something like a
woman's natural height (which she usually gets
compliments on) and turn it around on her... and
use it to tease her.

If you're talking to a supermodel and you say
"You know, just because you're beautiful and are
used to being treated like a sex object doesn't
mean that you can treat ME like one"... it's
magic. (Not quite a religion, but it is magic.)

It's great to hear that the material is working
in Puerto Rico. You have some major hot babes
there (and if J Lo is any indication, they've got
some serious BACK down there as well).

Nice!

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave,

I would not like to sound like the other 1 million
(+,- 100,000) of your followers but your stuff
really is excellent. I got your eBook few months
ago and keep reading newsletters. What I have
realized, for me the problem is not that I don't
know what to do, but I rather can't do it. Some
serious self-esteem issues which don't let me to
get the maximum out of c&f. I know exactly what I
need to do - practise!!!! but I just can't get my
nerv up. I do keep improving but slowly. Can't
just walk to any girl I like and ask for the info.
Not right now. It's simple only when I'm drunk and
clubbing. Then I really don't care what happens,
just have fun and surprisingly the girls are very
friendly. Of course only when I haven't got too
drunk:)

Anyway I've got a question. Sometimes I set up a
date online with a girl I just started to talk and
propose to meet in 2 hours. Well, this has
happened and turned out pretty well. Then we get
to some pub. And what I really don't like is to
buy her a drink. Its ok to buy tea her but I
wouldn't like to have tea lets say friday or
saturday night at 9. I can afford buying her tea
but not drinks. I mean I'm a poor-ass student.
It's kind of wierd to order drinks and take care
of the bill and then tell her e.g. "everybody pays
for his/hers drink", "you owe me 3.75." I do this
all the time with my friends. But feel wierd to do
it with a girl. Afterall it was me who invited
her, I ordered the booz. Any c&f solutions to
solve the situation?

A, from Estonia where women are gorgeous, there
are lots of them and the only sheep is the
president

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, no comments on the political humor... but I
like the way you think.

After I'm finished checking out the 6'2" models
in Puerto Rico, I'll have to stop by your neck of
the woods...

I have a few brainstorms for you... to help you
avoid buying drinks at the pub:

1) Keep your Friday and Saturday nights free. Go
out with your friends on those nights, and just
avoid dates. I have many friends that follow this
rule, and it works very well for them.

2) Make a lot of friends at the pubs, bars, etc.
that are in your area. Invite the bar tenders,
doormen, etc. to parties that you hear about...
bring them gifts... and just generally figure out
how to get in their good graces. In other words,
become the guy that NEVER pays for drinks in the
first place, because they're GIVEN to you.

3) Lead. Don't do things you don't want to do.
Only go to places YOU want to go to. Women will
respect you and what you want if you just lead.

***QUESTION***

Hi David!

It's incredible, your stuff works universally,
worldwide. Yes, it does. I stumbled across your
website when I was searching the internet some
months ago. First off, there is nothing like this
available in German. I thought it would be a good
idea to deal with your material since I study
American English among other subjects. Learning
two things at the same time ;-). Hell, I was such
a shy, desperate, depressed 'wussy' (didn't find
that word in 3 dictionaries). I really needed to
get this thing handled... Last night I went to a
dance club with one of my best friends who is very
good with women. I was having a great time and all
of a sudden, there was a girl who asked me if I
would go frequently to this club. She said she
would have noticed me if I had been there before.
That's when the game started. I was saying and
doing things I NEVER would have said or done
before. I was making fun of her and teasing all
night. I made up a story that I was a Swiss guy
who evaluates the girls and the premises for a
snobbish swiss scene-magazine. It was obvious that
I was making fun but later she said she almost
believed me. We had a lot of fun when we were
describing how our dreamgirl/dreamboy would be
like. I teased her about her 'exorbitant
expectations' and guessed her age about 38 (she's
22). After some close dancing, she said she needed
to sit down for a while because her feet were
aching. I said I don't massage sweaty feet and she
would need to find somebody else for that job. She
called me a jerk and pinched me more than once ;).
Then she kissed me. The kissing and touching
became hotter and hotter during the night. She
seemed to know everybody in the club. All the time
there were people coming giving comments and
grinning. She made me acquaint with a VERY
beautiful waitress at the bar who is her best
friend. I asked her to write down her email-
address and she said I was the first guy ever who
asked her about her email and not her phone-number
;-). She gave me her two numbers and her email of
course. More than that, she was actually BEGGING
ME to call her!! At 5 they began to shut the club,
she pulled me in a corner and I heard people
saying 'they bite each other'. Then, she invited
me to her apartment, added that the waitress from
the bar would sleep there as well and asked me if
I would mind. And she said she was so tired she
could only play the passive part... It was CRYSTAL
CLEAR what she wanted from me. I said I would call
her and after ten more minutes she eventually let
me go.

And here comes my big problem. It sounds
unbelievable but I'm, ahem... I am still a virgin.
Yes, it's true. You wouldn't believe it if you see
me. I'm 21 years old and pretty good looking, I
have to say. I did and do a lot of sports and I
think nobody in my environment would assume that
I'm a virgin. I don't know how this could happen.
Well, I did a little research in some German
internet newsgroups and forums. It seems that for
most women, this condition is not very pleasant,
to put it mildly. It's a big turn-off. They must
think you're a bloody loser and something can't be
right with you if you haven't managed to do it at
that age. And that's unlikely that you can give
pleasure if you are that inexperienced. It means
more work with you than fun. In the best case,
they judge it neutrally. And to come back to the
first part of the message, I don't know what to do
when we come together the next time. Tell her, not
tell her? I believe she wouldn't believe me or
think I'm dishonest if I tell her right off. At
least she would notice at some point... I don't
know what to do. Have you an answer? Please
include this in your next newsletter. Help is
greatly appreciated. D from Germany

>>>MY COMMENTS:

First, you're doing GREAT. Nice job.

You probably read the newsletter that I sent
out a while back... where I addressed this.

To summarize:

Don't worry about it.

The FEELINGS that you're giving her will FAR
MORE than make up for any lack of experience on
your part.

If you're with her, making out, and you stop to
say "You know, I don't have any experience in this
area" you're probably just going to kill the vibe.

Don't worry about it!

Just keep going... you're going to be fine.

By the way, I love your "I'm a Swiss guy who
evaluates the girls and the premises for a
snobbish swiss scene-magazine" line. Brilliant.

Also, love the guessing that she was 38 when
she was obviously in her early 20s. Great stuff.

***SUCCESS STORY***

What's up dave? I've emailed ya before so I won't
get into the "How Great Thou Art" speech..lol Got
your CD series, and of course it's Da Bomb! I just
wanna share a success story. Well right now I have
3 "project" women, so to speak. They all say they
"want" me, in more ways than one..hehe thanks to
your teachings I have the confidence to get any
woman I want, I can be choosey. I love it, it's
like a cool Jedi Mind Trick. Anyways on the the
story, I was talkin to a girl I'm considering
meeting (met her on the internet, she contacted me
first cause of my C+F personality). She brought up
the topic of goin out and she said, "so when are
you taking me out?", and I said (your gonna love
this), "I think the real question is when are you
taking ME out?". She said "I could do that". Then
I go on to bustin on her about how she better not
take me to McDonalds and the dollar theater, cause
you hafta wine and dine me a little..lol Later on
into the convo she said sometime about how the
conversation was making her so hot and bothered.
So I go on busting on her about tryin to have
phone sex with me and that I'm not that easy..
wow, she was lovin it. She begged me to come over
and well.. finish her.. hehe. Of course I turned
her down and told her, we would pick up where she
left off sometime later in the week.. cause you
gotta give them the gift of missing you. Your
stuff rocks!!! I have more women who want me than
I have time for. I play in 3 bands so my time is
limited and gives me an excuse to not call or not
be available all the time. BUY DAVE'S CD/DVD AUDIO
SERIES, IT ROCKS!!!!

-jedi in training in ohio

>>>MY COMMENTS:

You know, I love the shameless marketing you're
doing for me here.... nice.

By the way, you mentioned something here that
is just great... when a woman brings up sex on the
telephone, it's GREAT to make fun of her and tell
her to stop trying to have phone sex with you. It
says all the right things.

And turning it around when a woman says "So
when are you taking me out"... and asking her in
return is also a wonderful comeback.

Thanks again for the comments... when a guy who
plays in 3 bands says that my stuff ROCKS, it must
be true.

***SUCCESS STORY***

dave,

Great stuff... after slipping a bit in my late
20's with the ladies, your e-book and cd's have
helped me recapture what had made me successful -
c+f... even though I didn't know what it was
called or the science behind it, my past success
was always based on this attitude, as I am
naturally funny. Quick success from the other
night: I am with a few friends at a hot place
on the sunset strip and we see two hotties. One
is a 9, the other an 8.5. I see they are getting
their dinner check and tell the waitress to give
them a message - "You've been checking us out all
night (not true, incidentally) and you should
probably buy us a round before you leave." They
look totally confused when they get the message.
The waitress returns and says the hotties think we
should pick up their dinner tab. So, I pull out a
business card and write "If you think we're the
type of guys who go for gold-digging, you're sadly
mistaken. I think you owe us an apology and a
round of drinks." Well they get this, nearly keel
over laughing, and within minutes were seated at
our table. I never let up, busting her balls the
whole time before announcing in the middle of the
laugh fest that I needed to leave. They were
shocked and asked me to stay. I declined, saying
that I wasn't going to put out on the "first date"
and their begging was making me uncomfortable. I
left, digits from the 9 in hand. This stuff
works and I recommend it to everyone one of my guy
friends.

thanks, c in hollywood

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is one of my FAVORITES!

One of the best Cocky & Funny themes is
"reverse gender stereotypes."

If a woman says, "Give me your number" and you
say, "Look, I'm not that easy... don't think that
just because I give you my number that I'm going
to go out with you or sleep with you"...

Or if you're talking to a woman at a bar, and
the conversation is going well, you say "OK, let's
just cut to the chase... are you going to offer to
buy me a drink or what?"...

Attractive women INSTANTLY connect with the
humor because you're turning around situations
that they have happen ALL THE TIME... and making
something funny out of them.

Of course, you're also adding a Cocky
element... the element of "You want me, it's
obvious."

Incidentally, if you'd like to get a TON of
great Cocky & Funny themes and lines for specific
situations, then you really should check out my
"Cocky Comedy" DVD program. There are many
different "roles" you can play with women that
REALLY spike up the ATTRACTION... and I'll teach
you all about them in this program. You can go
check it out here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/CockyComedy

I'm glad you mentioned that the Advanced CDs
have helped you recapture what made you successful
in the past.

I think a lot of guys have had times in their
lives when they were successful with women... but
for whatever reason they have lost their old
"mojo." Maybe it was a marriage that went bad...
maybe a girlfriend that eventually turned them
into a Wuss Bag... whatever.

I get a lot of emails from guys who USED to be
good with women, but have been out of practice for
so long that they might as well be starting over.

If you fit in this category, or you're just
getting started and you want to get off on the
right foot, then I recommend you check out my
eBook "Double Your Dating", and then my Advanced
Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.

No kidding, this stuff has taken me several
years to learn, test, refine, and explain clearly.
If you want the best material available for
meeting and dating women, this is it.

The Advanced CD/DVD program includes over 12
full hours of digitally recorded and edited
footage of me teaching LIVE.

Go watch some great video clips of the program
here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

My downloadable online eBook comes with three
free bonus booklets, and it's the foundation for
everything I teach in these newsletters. Get it
here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

"WHY WOMEN TEST MEN, AND WHAT TO DO WHEN IT HAPPENS TO YOU..."

2010-05-17T18:40:00.000-07:00

Women test men.

That's the reality of the situation.

Women test men RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING, and
they keep on testing FOREVER.

If you don't know how to deal with the tests
that women throw at you, you have VERY LITTLE
chance of improving your success in the dating
world.

HOW DO WOMEN TEST MEN?

For most guys, the concept of a woman "testing"
them seems a little strange.

Why would a woman WANT to test a man?

What could she possibly gain from it?

The answer: A LOT.

By testing a man, a woman can learn THE MOST
IMPORTANT thing about him...

And I'll share what that is a little bit later
on in this newsletter.

TEST: A DEFINITION

So I was thinking about this particular topic
today, and I realized that I've never looked up
the definition of the word "test."

When I did, here's what I found:

1. A procedure for critical evaluation; a means of
determining the presence, quality, or truth of
something; a trial; a test of one's eyesight;
subjecting a hypothesis to a test; a test of an
athlete's endurance.

2. A series of questions, problems, or physical
responses designed to determine knowledge,
intelligence, or ability.

3. A basis for evaluation or judgment: "A test of
democratic government is how Congress and the
president work together" (Haynes Johnson).

OK, so take a moment and read those again.

The purpose of a test is to figure something
out. It's a way of getting "true" information
about something.

So back to my earlier question... Why do women
test men in the first place?

BECAUSE THEY HAVE TO.

If you walk up to a man and say "Hey, how much
money do you make?" he can LIE.

If you ask him if he is good in bed, he can
LIE.

If you ask him if he's strong enough to deal
with the challenges of life, support a family, and
reach his goals, he can LIE.

Are you with me here?

In other words, if you get to the end of one of
your college courses, the teacher COULD just ask
you if you have a comprehensive understanding of
the material you learned during the course.

But you could LIE.

So the teacher gives you a TEST to see if you
REALLY know what's going on.

Well, in the same way that teachers test
students, women test MEN.

And that means YOU, Sparky.

But there's one LITTLE TEENSY WEENSY difference
between the kinds of tests that women give you and
the kinds of tests that teachers give you...

Women don't tell you first... that they're
going to test you!

And they don't teach you what you need to know
BEFORE they test you.

They just do it.

Right when they meet you.

Within the first few seconds, actually.

Why?

Because women don't have the TIME to deal with
all the guys who are interested in them.

And they're not interested in getting together
with a man who doesn't "get it" in the first
place.

Beautiful women aren't looking for a guy to
TRAIN.

And the tests don't stop... by the way.

If you meet an attractive, interesting,
emotionally healthy woman, you can expect to be
tested until either:

1) The relationship ends.

2) You or she DIES.

WHAT WOMEN ARE TESTING FOR

Now, women will test men for ALL KINDS of
things.

Some women will test to see if you have money.

Some will test to see if you'll SPEND your
money on them.

Some will test to see if you're intelligent.

And some will test to see if you're loyal.

But BY FAR, in my experience, more women will
test you initially to see if you're a WUSSY!

That's right...

The VERY FIRST thing a woman wants to "know"
about you is whether or not you're a submissive,
ass-kissing boy who has no balls.

And if you ARE, then you might as well throw in
the towel.

If you are a Wussy, and you fail the "Wussy
Tests" that she throws at you, then you stand very
little chance of succeeding with the woman who is
testing you.

Of course, MOST men fail with MOST women...
MOST of the time.

As a side note:

There is one exception to this rule.

If you act like a Wussy, but you're willing to
pursue a woman for a few YEARS, and deal with the
idea that you have about a 1 in 100 chance, then
you MIGHT be able to convince her to marry you.

But like I said, the chances are VERY slim, and
the effort required just isn't worth it.

There is a FAR better way...

THESE TESTS ARE VERY SUBTLE

Probably the most interesting thing about tests
from women is that they're not OBVIOUS.

At least, not to most men.

In fact, I'd say that 99% of all the tests that
women use on men FLY BELOW RADAR.

They're right out in the open, obvious to other
women (and a few men), but for the most part, they
go COMPLETELY UNDETECTED.

For instance, let's say that you're standing at
a bar talking to some friends, and you make eye
contact with the cute girl standing six feet away
from you.

What do most guys do?

They look away.

And they do it FAST.

Of course, most guys will LOOK AGAIN within a
few seconds.

But it's already too late.

TEST FAILED.

Here's another...

Let's say you're at a bar talking to a girl,
and she says "Hey, buy me a drink."

You say "Great, what do you want?"

Guess what?

She just told you what to do, and you went for
it without a second thought.

Or maybe you've started a conversation with a
group of girls at a coffee shop.

One of them says that she doesn't like your
shoes.

You say "Oh, well I wasn't planning on seeing
anyone important today... I just put on whatever I
could find."

In other words, you MAKE AN EXCUSE for
yourself.

As you can probably guess, that's a BAD IDEA.

In that moment, you have just failed the test
with flying colors.

THIS HAS HAPPENED TO YOU

If you think back in your life about all of the
situations with women that went BAD, you'll
probably find that you were TESTED, and you
FAILED.

In one way or another, you probably missed some
VITAL clue that you were being tested, and you
wound up failing.

RESULT: She hit the road.

It's happened to all of us.

If I had a dollar for every time...

LOL...

I've been through this one so many times in my
life that it HURTS.

I should probably get the jackass award for
most tests failed with women.

And before I give you some tips on handling
tests from women, I want to say AGAIN: If you find
yourself failing tests from women on a CONSISTENT
basis, then you should get yourself some "in-
depth" reprogramming on a DEEP level. The best way
to do that is HERE:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/OnBeingAMan

HOW TO DEAL WITH TESTS

If you're going to successfully deal with tests
from women, you first need to "get it."

To say it differently, you need to learn how to
RECOGNIZE tests quickly... and know when they're
happening.

What's the best way to know when you're being
tested?

Well, one way that I KNOW I'm being tested is
my GUT.

Your gut doesn't lie.

In fact, if us guys would just learn to use
this amazing "test detector" called our GUTS, then
we'd live happier lives.

Here's how it works...

Next time you're interacting with a woman and
she does or says something that makes your gut
tense up, you're probably being tested.

Now, I can't go into all the aspects of how to
deal with tests from women... because that would
take me several hours.

But I will say that the most IMPORTANT thing to
do is EXPECT tests... and then pay close attention
to how you're responding to them.

Most of the things we do with women are NOT
CONSCIOUS. When a woman looks at you, and you look
away, it wasn't a "conscious decision."

It just HAPPENS.

All of a sudden, you're feeling butterflies and
glancing away. It happens in an instant.

So you first need to recognize when it's
happening to you.

When a woman tells you what to do, she's
testing you.

When a woman tries to change plans or cancel at
the last minute, she's testing you.

When a woman asks you to buy her something,
she's testing you.

When a woman nags, whines, or complains, she's
testing you.

Learn to SPOT IT when it's happening.

Next, notice how you respond.

You've failed a million tests with women
already, so don't worry about ten more.

Just notice how you respond.

Most men respond by trying to win the woman's
approval.

If she tries to cancel plans at the last
minute, you'll say "Oh, no problem."

If she complains about something, you'll say
"I'm sorry, let me fix it."

You know what I'm saying.

Again, just notice what's going on when you
respond.

Finally, learn how to PAUSE before you respond,
and then UNDERSTAND how you need to respond to
each test.

Most tests will be tests to see if you'll allow
her to CONTROL YOU.

If you DO allow a woman to CONTROL you, you
will lose.

And you can take that one to the bank.

You will lose in one way or another, almost
guaranteed.

Women don't want men that they can control.

So make sure you pass those tests first.

The more you pay close attention, the more
you'll see the subtle tests that women are using
with you.

And the more of these tests you pass, the more
success you'll have.

YOU MUST GO BEYOND THE TEST

Now I'm going to share with you a secret that's
even MORE IMPORTANT than the idea of tests from
women...

If you REALLY want to have success with women,
you need to learn how to deal with tests even
BEFORE THEY HAPPEN.

Think of it this way...

In some colleges you can demonstrate a level of
mastery in an area that allows you to SKIP A
LEVEL.

In other words, you get credit for taking
classes, even though you've never taken them.

Well, the same goes with women.

There are certain things you can do that will
INSTANTLY communicate to a woman that you "get
it"... and don't require the INITIAL TESTS.

Don't get me wrong, women will always test
you... no matter what you do.

But you can SKIP TEN LEVELS of the initial
testing, and accelerate the process of "getting
together" with a woman DRAMATICALLY if you know
the right things to do.

And by FAR, the most important of these things
is to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you.

Sure, you can show her that you're a great
leader, or self-confident, or that you won't kiss
up to her before she tests you for it.

But this doesn't actually ACCOMPLISH anything.

It just gets you fewer tests.

If you REALLY want to skip ahead ten levels,
then you need to TRIGGER ATTRACTION inside of her.

As you probably know by now, Attraction Isn't A
Choice.

Women don't go through a logical process to
decide if they're going to feel ATTRACTION.

It just HAPPENS.

But it doesn't happen very OFTEN.

If you're one of those rare men who knows how
to use your body language, voice tone, and other
communication to make women feel ATTRACTION, then
you will have the kind of success that most men
only dream of.

And you'll deal with far fewer tests from
women.

In the last several years that I've been
studying this area of life called "Success With
Women", I've focused on the idea of making women
feel ATTRACTION.

It's something that no one talks about.

It's something that no one understands.

As a matter of fact, I'd say that not one in a
hundred men understands how to make a woman
actually FEEL ATTRACTION.

But I'll tell you something else...

Learning this particular skill has made ALL THE
DIFFERENCE in my life.

Now that I understand how to make women feel
that powerful physical and emotional response
known as ATTRACTION, I have the kind of success
and choice that most men only dream about.

The good news: any guy can learn this stuff.

I've spent a long time figuring out what makes
women feel attracted to some special men... and
then testing out what works in the real world.

I've spent hundreds and hundreds of hours
watching guys who are REALLY good with women...
and distilling the specific techniques that they
use.

I've also spent a tremendous amount of time
putting together systems that any guy can use to
improve his success with women.

I certainly wish this stuff would have been
available when I started out. It would have saved
me YEARS of frustration.

If you're just getting started, then I highly
recommend that you go download my online ebook
"Double Your Dating." It's a great introduction to
my main concepts, and it contains dozens and
dozens of great ideas for meeting women. You can
download it now, and be reading it in just a few
minutes. Download it here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

If you're ready for SUPER success with women,
then you need to step up to my Advanced Dating
Techniques CD/DVD program. It contains over 18
full hours of digital audio or video, and it will
take your game to an entirely different level.
Literally HUNDREDS and HUNDREDS of my personal
secrets for success with women... all taught by me
personally. You can watch and listen as I explain
everything in detail... and listen as my guests
reveal things that you won't see or find anywhere
else. The details are here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

And finally, if you'd like to have a unique
perspective that has helped me personally, you
need to check out my Interview Series. Every month
I interview a different guy who is VERY successful
with women... and you get to listen in as I GRILL
HIM... and get him to reveal his secrets. I'll
send you two double-length bonus interviews just
for TRYING this program. That's how confident I am
that you'll love it. All the details are here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/InterviewSeries

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

Getting A Girlfriend Fast

2010-05-13T23:24:00.000-07:00

>>>THIS WEEK'S QUESTION:

David, you have helped me a lot so far, and I feel
like I am somewhat of a different person now
compared to before by reading your dating tips
etc. I met a girl not too long ago, she is a
couple hours away from me, and I put to work a lot
of what you had said since talking to her online,
and during my meeting with her, and it all went
very well. We spent two awesome nights together,
and I gave her a ride up to the city on my way
home, and the whole time she was playing with my
hair and holding my hand. I was sad to say bye,
and I tried keeping my composure saying bye to her
and since when we have talked on the net, and I
have tried "leaning back" more...it is hard. I
even have been trying to talk to and meet other
women (I might have another fun day tomorrow lol)
but all the same, I like this one in particular,
and I am unsure of how to bring up and try and
head towards a relationship with her (at least
talking with her about it) without starting to
look like a wuss. I know from experience that
once the wuss factor kicks in I can kiss any
chance goodbye and will just be a LJBF for the
girl. Do I just try playing it cool and hope she
comes to me, and just try going with other girls
in the meantime, or do I approach her...and if I
do what do I say? I know she does have some
feelings for me, I kind of brought it up (minor
wuss episode). I want to on one hand be able to
know how to deal with women before getting
involved seriously with one, but if I met one I
want already, then I would be happy with that. I
think I would enjoy a long term relationship.
What should I do man? Thanks for everything,
you're the best.

JR

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a really good question... In fact, I
think that a lot of guys really wonder "Is there
anything I should do DIFFERENTLY if I'd like this
to turn into a relationship?"

I need to mention a couple of things here
before we go into this topic:

1. I don't normally talk about "relationships".
This isn't because I think that there's anything
wrong with them, or I have something against them.
In fact, I think that relationships are great, and
if you're fortunate enough to find an exceptional
woman (and you're the type that wants a
relationship), it can be a very fulfilling part of
life.

I've just decided to focus on the "meeting and
dating" part of the equation. There are 100 books
out there on relationships, but very few on how to
meet women in the first place (and in my
experience, most of the relationship books aren't
that great either).

So, don't take my lack of addressing
relationships as me thinking that you should avoid
them. If you want to have a relationship, go for
it.

2. The reason why I'd like to address this
question is I think many guys wonder if they
should do something DIFFERENT if they'd like to
pursue a relationship with a woman as opposed to
just dating her a few times for short-term fun.

I've also noticed a pattern: When a guy starts
to "like" a girl and feel the "I'd like to be in a
long-term relationship with this girl" feelings,
this can be a powerful emotional influence. Guys
often start acting differently WITHOUT EVEN
REALIZING IT, and then justify their new behavior
with the good reasoning of "I really like this
one."

...Soooo, I'm going to answer YOUR question by
answering the question "Should I do anything
DIFFERENT if I'd like this to turn into a
relationship?"

And hopefully in the process, you'll get a good
idea of what to do in your situation.

I have an idea... let's look at this from a few
different perspectives.

Let's think about some related questions, and
work through them to come up with an answer.

Here are a few that come to mind for me:

"If I act like I'm NOT interested in a
relationship, will that make a woman less
interested in me?"

"Are women automatically 'turned off' by guys who
aren't interested in relationships?"

"Are there clues or hints that women look for to
see whether you're interested in a 'short term' or
'long term' relationship... or a one-night stand?"

"Will a woman who thinks that you're interested in
a 'relationship' act differently towards you if
she doesn't KNOW what your intentions are?"

"Is it 'OK' to be NOT interested in a
relationship, but still want to meet and date a
woman?"

"How do women know when men ARE pursuing them for
a relationship? And how do women typically respond
to this?"

"Is there an attitude towards this whole subject
that not only works best, but is also the most
healthy?"

I'd like you to take a minute and answer these
questions the best you can, based on your own
ideas, experience, knowledge, etc.

These are great questions to ask yourself on a
regular basis, because they make you THINK about
things in a different way.

This ability to THINK ABOUT THINGS FROM
DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVES will give you a much
clearer outlook when you're dealing with a
situation like this one.

Now I'll give you my general answers...

And a quick thought before I do give you my
answers: If you don't KNOW the answers to these
questions, and you don't already know how to
trigger the type of ATTRACTION inside a woman
that makes her want to be with you NO MATTER
what she wants, then you really need to go
and look at this right now:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/SexualCommunication

I personally think that women have a basic
program when it comes to men who are potential
romantic interests. It says, "If he chases me,
run. If he doesn't chase me, chase him."

Of course, this is a big generalization, and it
doesn't always hold true... but it's true enough
in most situations.

If you call a woman all the time, she'll
probably not call you. If you take a woman to
dinner 4 times in a week, she probably won't be
inviting you over for dinner at her place.

On the other hand, if you go out with a woman
and she has a GREAT time with you, then you don't
call for a couple of days, or maybe you call once
for 3 minutes to tell her that you're busy and
make plans for a few days later, SHE WILL BE
THINKING ABOUT YOU ALL THE TIME.

I also think that women have other little hints
that they look for to see if you're interested in
getting into a relationship.

Do you talk about having kids? Do you ask about
her family and relationships with them? Do you
answer HER questions about these things in a
serious way, as if you're being interviewed? Are
you acting stilted and nervous, as if something
huge is depending on her liking you? Do you call a
lot and get her gifts? Do you check up to see what
she's doing all the time, even though you don't
know her that well?

All of these things are hints that women use to
tell how "relationship-minded" you are with her.

If you do seem like you're into a relationship,
then a woman has a much bigger decision to make,
and will be taking all kinds of things into
consideration... little gestures will take on new
meaning.

If you're ONLY looking for a "relationship",
then this will come across in all your dealings
with women. You'll be asking different questions,
answering questions differently, and playing to
the long-term. This can create all kinds of
problems when done "too much too soon."

My personal experience is that women will act
much more "real" if you don't put any pressure on
the situation. It's when you're acting like this
is either "marriage or we're breaking up" right
from the beginning that you're ASKING FOR BIG
TROUBLE.

Another key point I've realized is that JUST
BECAUSE I AM OR AM NOT LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP
DOESN'T MEAN THAT I'M GOING TO KEEP FEELING THAT
SAME WAY A WEEK FROM NOW.

I've had times in my life when I've been single
and thinking, "I'm not into a relationship right
now", and then I met a fantastic woman who
changed my mind.

I've also had times when I wanted a
relationship, but had more fun being single, so I
didn't pursue one.

Best idea: Approach the whole topic with the
attitude of "I'm open to whatever great
opportunities present themselves."

When you're with a woman you've just met, don't
put the pressure on. Lean back. Be cool.
(ESPECIALLY if the woman is unusually attractive...
attractive women are used to men falling for them
too quickly, and this turns them off.)

If the topic comes up say, "Well, I'm single
now, and if I meet a woman I really like, then
we'll see what happens." A lot of guys don't
want to come across as being "afraid of
commitment." But don't go overboard to prove that
you're not... because you'll come across as a
Wuss-Bag if you try too hard. A woman won't run
away from you if you're not calling her 10 times a
day. In fact, she'll PROBABLY run if you DO call
her too often.

Another perspective I have is that a LOT of
relationship problems are the result of people who
don't know each other, getting involved too deeply
and too quickly. This is another great thing to
MENTION if a woman pushes you on the topic.

But, back to the particular situation at
hand...

I think you're doing EXACTLY the right thing
(except for the Wuss episode, of course).

You have a woman who lives a couple of hours
away that you've known in person for a couple of
days. You're not going to be able to spend much
time with her ANYWAY.

If I were you, and I REALLY liked her, I would
call her a couple of times a week, and see her
every week or two for a few months. Get to know
her better.

And in the meantime, if you want to see other
women, go for it. Do what feels right to you.

What you're doing now is OBVIOUSLY ATTRACTIVE
to her, so KEEP IT UP. Don't change what you're
doing because you ASSUME that she wants you to act
differently towards her to "signal" that you want
a relationship.

The relationship will evolve on its own, so let
it. You're not in middle school anymore. You don't
have to send her a note that says, "Will you go
with me?"

But, always remember, don't turn into a WUSSY
if you do get into a relationship. If you do,
you'll either find yourself being dumped or wake
up one day with a ring through your nose and a
leash around your neck... and an unhappy woman in
your life to boot.

That's my story, and I'm sticking to it.

...and if you're reading this right now and
thinking to yourself, "OK, I've been reading these
newsletters for a while and it's probably time
that I learned the REAL stuff"...then come to my
website and download a copy of my book, "Double
Your Dating." Inside you'll learn many things that
you'll never read in one of these newsletters.

It's the foundation for everything I teach, and
it's all of my best thinking and techniques. Just
go to:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

And if you're ready for SUPER success with
women and dating, then the only place to go is my
Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD program.

I've spent years and years putting together all
of the pieces of the puzzle... and organizing the
concepts, theories and step-by-step techniques for
approaching, meeting, dating, and "getting
physical" with women... all with a minimum of
"rejection" and such.

The best part?

I'll send it to you to check out at MY RISK.
You check it out. You try the ideas. You decide if
it's for you. If not, send it back. Pay nothing.
No questions, and no hassles.

I'm that sure that it will take your success
with women up dramatically.

...you can get it here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/AdvancedSeries

And I'll talk to you in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David D.

Why "Cocky & Funny" Attracts Women

2010-05-11T17:38:00.000-07:00

WHY THE COCKY & FUNNY ATTITUDE IS ATTRACTIVE TO
WOMEN... AND HOW TO USE IT

I get a lot of email from guys who don't quite
get the Cocky & Funny attitude.

It just doesn't make sense to some guys that
teasing women, busting their balls, being slightly
arrogant, not kissing up to them, etc., could or
should make them feel attraction.

I can understand this because I was exactly the
same way the first few times I heard it and saw it
being used.

I kept thinking to myself, "If I do this cocky
and funny thing, I'm only going to come across as
arrogant... and that can't make women like me
more."

Well, was I wrong.

You must always remember that ATTRACTION isn't
logical. It doesn't follow the rules that it
"should" follow. ATTRACTION is a very powerful
emotion that has reasons and triggers that don't
make any sense at first glance...

I'm sure you've seen many attractive women with
guys who mistreat them, abuse them, and were
exactly the opposite of what you'd expect a woman
to accept.

Why?

ATTRACTION. In the beginning she felt
attraction, and as bad as it may sound, almost no
amount of being "bad", abusive, or jerk-ish can
convince a woman, feeling a strong attraction to a
guy, to leave.

So let me take the opportunity to talk a bit
about the Cocky & Funny attitude, why it works,
and how to use it to attract women (without having
to be an abusive jerk).

First of all, you have to remember that the
formula is Cocky PLUS Funny. Always both.

If you act too cocky, you'll only come off as
arrogant and insecure.

If you're just funny, always telling jokes, and
making people laugh, you will probably come across
as "too goofy."

But if you use BOTH together, you will create
magic. Cocky + Funny is like sparring... it's
sport... it's fun... it's challenging... it's
interesting when used with skill.

So let's get clear about what "Cocky + Funny"
is.

Here's a cocky statement:

"Her dress makes her look fat."

Here's a Cocky + Funny statement:

"If she doesn't find a dress that fits better, the
fashion police are going to send in the SWAT team
for her ass."

Get it?

Start with arrogance, then add humor.

So why does it work to attract women?

Well, the short (email-newsletter size) answer
is:

COCKY AND FUNNY ATTRACTS WOMEN BECAUSE IT QUICKLY
AND DIRECTLY SAYS ALL THE RIGHT THINGS ABOUT YOU.

Women are attracted to "alpha male" types - We
all know that. Women are attracted to a sense of
humor. We all know that one too.

Women AREN'T attracted to men who give away
their power, kiss up to them, smother them with
attention, act like whipped puppies, and get
nervous just being in the same room with them.

And by the way, giving away power to women is a
much more complex topic than using humor, etc. If
you have a problem giving away your power to
women, or becoming a "Wussbag" when you're around
a woman that you like, then you need to try THIS:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/OnBeingAMan

If you meet an attractive woman, and
IMMEDIATELY start giving her a hard time about
something, busting on her, and having fun, it
basically says to her:

"You are interesting enough to talk to, but
you're going to have to do a lot more than just
look good to impress me. Your beauty doesn't make
me nervous in the least, I'm perfectly calm, and
in fact, I'm so comfortable that I just noticed
something about you that I'm going to make fun
of..."

There is no faster way on earth to communicate
all the right attitudes, beliefs, self-image,
comfort, confidence, and power than to be Cocky +
Funny.

(Except maybe to put on a perfect Brad Pitt
costume.)

Once you start using this attitude, you will be
totally astounded at the results.

Here's a low-risk example:

Next time you're at the grocery store in the
checkout line paying for your groceries, say:

"So how much of this cash do you get to keep?"
(as you hand her the money)

She'll probably laugh and say: "None... I
wish."

To which you can respond with:

"Oh, I figured you were pocketing 10 or 20%...
I assumed you were rich and could support me, but
now I'm not interested... I want a rich girl."
(Turn up your nose.)

This is a great one. It's always fun to ask a
woman if she's rich or famous, then when she says
that she's not, tell her that it messed up her
chances with you, and that you're not interested
anymore.

One of the keys to the Cocky + Funny attitude
is to never "crack." If she opens her mouth and
gives you the "I can't believe you just said that"
look, you need to turn it up a notch...

Most guys will crack and say "Oh, I was just
kidding."

DON'T DO THAT! It makes you look like a wussy.

In the example above, if the checker looks at
you and gives you the open mouthed "I can't
believe you said that" look and says, "Hey! I may
not be rich, but I'm nice!", you just look at her
and say "Nice isn't good enough, I need RICH AND
nice."

Your goal is not to upset a woman, but to get
under her skin enough by teasing, busting on her,
and acting cocky and funny so that it ignites the
magical challenge/attraction mechanism.

And once you can see that you're getting a good
response from a woman, GET HER NUMBER. Or get her
email. Don't stand around like a dork trying to
make her laugh.

As you become better and better with these
tools, you can then begin "extending" the
conversation... increasing the attraction... and
taking things to the "next level."

So get out there and use it, because the magic
formula of Cocky + Funny will create all kinds of
good things for you. You'll see.

And if you're reading this right now and
thinking to yourself "I really need to learn how
to master this Cocky & Funny thing", then I
AGREE!

In fact, learning how to be Cocky & Funny is
one of the FASTEST, EASIEST, and MOST FUN ways you
can make women feel ATTRACTION for you.

If you'd like to get a "fast track" education
on Cocky & Funny, then I HIGHLY recommend that you
check out my Cocky Comedy DVD/CD program.

This program features me and several amazing
guest speakers teaching you STEP-BY-STEP how to
master the technique... along with DOZENS and
DOZENS of specific Cocky & Funny "lines" and
"comebacks" for every situation you can imagine.

Go watch some of the preview video clips, and
see for yourself how valuable this program is:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/CockyComedy

Another skill you need to learn is how to use
your BODY LANGUAGE to trigger and increase
ATTRACTION with women. As you've probably heard, I
recently released an entire DVD program on this
exact topic.

Just like my Cocky Comedy program, this is a
cutting-edge education that isn't available
ANYWHERE else... at ANY price.

Using tools like Cocky Comedy and Body Language
to attract women has MANY advantages. You don't
have to buy women gifts, you don't have to chase
after them... and you don't have to take them out
to dinner hoping that they'll "magically" feel it
for you because they appreciate the food so much.

Just like my Cocky Comedy program, I've put up
a set of preview video clips for you to watch...
and I think you need to go check them out right
now. They're here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/BodyLanguage

Oh, and if you haven't taken the time to
download my online eBook "Double Your Dating",
then you need to go and do that RIGHT NOW. You can
download it and be reading it within a few
minutes. Go and download it here:

http://www.DatingTechniques.com/eBook

I'll talk to you again soon,

Your Friend,

David D.