De-Ricky

My Way

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 23:42:00 +0800

As Frank Sinatra I've lived
and will always live in my own way,
saving wisely forgotten,
sadness, disappointment and illusion.

I face my destiny without fear,
More than once I got hurt.
Although it never broke my strength,
I hurt the stones of the road.

Lost dreams and loves tissues,
with the faith that gives youth
I remember the love that are gone,
how sad lament of a lute.

With all my goals I've accomplished,
I could not ever say: I can not,
I have no fear because of the experience.
And if something unfinished is lost,
Today over the years: I do not care.

There was no mountain that I climb,
Regardless of the time and distance,
I melted all day, with the clear night
then lost in the distance.

I have deeply wounded heart,
by old and deep wounds.
For beings who have left and have left
a history of light in his departure.

Since I can not change life.
I prefer to sing and not to mourn,
On each canvas trying to shape,
everything not to mention callous.

I have only to ask,
I won a thousand battles,
I can only melt,
present and past
love in this heart

And I will continue living in Spring
no clouds to obscure the way
Frank Sinatra taking my destination
and live like him my way.

By Reyna Mora McLarnon.

Peace out.

Father's Day

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Sun, 20 Jun 2010 12:07:00 +0800

When a child is born, a father is born. A mother is born, too of course, but at least for her it's a gradual process. Body and soul, she has nine months to get used to what's happening. She becomes what's happening. But for even the best-prepared father, it happens all at once. On the other side of a plate-glass window, a nurse is holding up something roughly the size of a loaf of bread for him to see for the first time.

4 years: My Daddy can do anything!
7 years: My Dad knows a lot…a whole lot.
8 years: My father does not know quite everything.
12 years: Oh well, naturally Father does not know that either.
14 years: Oh, Father? He is hopelessly old-fashioned.
21 years: Oh, that man-he is out of date!
25 years: He knows a little bit about it, but not much.
30 years: I must find out what Dad thinks about it.
35 years: Before we decide, we will get Dad's idea first.
50 years: What would Dad have thought about that?
60 years: My Dad knew literally everything!
65 years: I wish I could talk it over with Dad once more.

Appreciate... cause without 'him's, we are nothing.

Ricky.

Taste of Freedom for Stressful Life in the Heart of the City!

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Sun, 6 Jun 2010 22:32:00 +0800

Is urban life really complicated or do we complicate it ourselves? Urban life is cool, but with its ups & downs it becomes more complicated than rural life. In Urban Life there are many people who get stressed in a variety of situation. The tough stuff really gets to us. Look at the positive side of urban life & use it as an opportunity for enlightened living.

Stress levels are increasing all across society, because people don't have patience to handle things carefully. There are some articles & blogs have provided some big treasure hunt. There are many solutions to figure out stress management some times people read article, blogs, plays quiz’s etc. Here are some points really helps you to recover your stress.

Try to directly experience the real world, at least once, in this life. But there are many obstacles to cross.

We experience the real world only by the names, labels and meaning we give them. Slowly, these names and labels become full-fledged maps we carry in the mind. Over time, we only experience these maps and we stop experiencing the world.

To recharge your relationships with the people in your lives.

The more we dig in, the more mysteries seem to crop up. Isn’t that cool? You have to start to develop a sense of wonder for everyday living

We follow the trail of the 8 chambers to see where exactly we experience a tasty, sweet-smelling, crunchy red apple. We start with the eye, then go to the brain, cross the bridge, encounter the screen and then locate the projector.

To be always like the happy, wise guy & enlightened your life with joy.

Want to see hell in earth find the life of stressful person. Stress has its own importance in the life. Not saying it is never possible in humans life but saying make stress a thought.

Some one said "thoughts are the shortest emotions of man's heart"

Let these emotions come and go, keep your beautiful life enjoying!

Ricky.

Why Beer is Better Than Religion

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Wed, 26 May 2010 00:35:00 +0800

10 reasons why Beer is better than Religion.

No one will kill you for not drinking Beer.
Beer doesn’t tell you how to have sex.
Beer has never caused a major war.
They don’t force Beer on minors who can’t think for themselves.
When you have a Beer, you don’t knock on people’s doors trying to give it away.
Nobody’s ever been burned at the stake, hanged, or tortured over his brand of Beer.
You don’t have to wait 2000+ years for a second Beer.
There are laws saying Beer labels can’t lie to you.
You can prove you have a Beer.
If you’ve devoted your life to Beer, there are groups to help you stop.

No offence. =)

Peace out.

Time is Short

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Sat, 1 May 2010 11:48:00 +0800

Time is short.
Opportunities will be lost.
If you think you are young
And you are going to live forever,
The people around you
Who care about
Will not be young and live forever.

In life, everthing passes very quickly and whatever has happened in the past doesnt matter anymore - it becomes like a dream. In time, even the dream fades. But the results from that 'dream' do not fade. Eventually, we will have to experience these results so we need to be aware of what we are doing right now that will be the cause for those results.

Ricky.

Peace On Earth, A Wonderful Wish, But No Way

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 19:15:00 +0800

When asked, "If you could wish for one thing only, what would that wish be?" almost everyone; from beauty pagent contestants, to politicians, to religious leaders, to children, to the average person on the street states, "Peace On Earth" or "An end to all wars". Those wishes, while exemplary, are meaningless. As long as humans exist there will never be peace on earth.

Throughout the history of humankind there has never been peace on earth. Cavemen fought other cavemen over territory, food and even women. Cain killed Abel over God's respect. Gabriel blew down the walls of Jericho. America fought the Revolutionary War for freedom and brother fought against brother in our Civil War for more freedom. There have always been wars and there will always be wars.

As long as humans can think, there will be wars. Wars over such concepts as freedom, honor, dignity, etc.. Wars over territory, greed, power, prejudice, etc.. War is a part of human nature. For example, every human being is prejudiced. If they don't like some race, nationality or religion, they don't like short or tall or fat or skinny or smart or not smart or loud or quiet people. Some people don't like children, some people don't like old people, some people don't like people with pets, or people that play their music too loud, or bad drivers, or people that believe in God or people that don't believe in God. What is right and proper to some people can be wrong or even enraging to other people.

Religion can not stop wars, in fact many wars are fought over religion (Note: I believe that religion is used as an excuse for war not the real reason for war.). Christians fought against Muslims during the Crusades, Many Muslims want death for all non believers. The Catholic Church killed heretics during the Inquisition. The Nazis killed millions of Jews and then started killing Catholics. The Russians under Stalin killed anyone even remotly religious. Protestants killed other Protestants for being the wrong type of Protestant. Muslims killed Muslims for being the wrong type of Muslim. Don't forget about Atheists (I believe that Atheism is also a religion, it is a religion of non belief.), Stalin was an Atheist and wanted to get rid of all religion. Most of China's leaders are Atheists and have jailed and killed huge numbers of religious people. History is rife with various types of religious battles.

The main reason for war, however, is the lust for power. The power to make others do and believe as you do and believe, the power to make other people render unto you what you believe is rightfully yours, the power to make other people treat you as you believe you should be treated, the power to gain what you want (ie: money, love, respect, etc.), the power to punish others for doing things that you don't believe they should do, the power to keep other from having things or thoughts that you don't have. In other words, the power to be, in some ways God, to make everyone else in your image with you as their ruler.

As long as people have the ability to think, there will be greed, envy, prejudice and anger. As long as those things exist, there will be wars. Most people believe, either religiously or secularly, in the rules set down in the Ten Commandments, but very few people can follow those rules all of the time because our ability to think causes us to want. Wanting causes us to break some or all of the rules. Humans are not perfect. If they were they would not be human.

Peace out.

Another Fucked Up Day

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Thu, 15 Apr 2010 22:32:00 +0800

Its a bloody hot day again! And I drove back to my hostel around 3 o'clock in the afternoon. Settled myself up and drove again to fetch that dickface and asshole! lol! Then, we headed to Sunway Megamall for dinner.

I had a Whoffer Double Cheese Burger. Huge one! And its filling every single corner of my tummy. Delicious! We planned to catch a movie at first but yea, no nice movies availabled. Plan A spoiled... So, plan B! Not really a plan B though. We stood and started looking at people who were skating from upper floor. Argh we're fucked up! Ended up doing nothing at Sunway! Kindda wasted my time there cause I still have a lot of assignments to be done by next week. Hopefully I can handle it! Anyway, we then came out with plan C. IOI Mall!

We met up with another 'abang' and went for snocker. Pool! Yeah! Asshole and I were paired up against 'abang' and dickface! lol! My luck wasnt good that time, I missed lots of free shots. Still, we won the game! How? Asshole scored all the points of course! After pool, we went bowling. And I havent been playing bowling for ages, man. It sucked. The ball wasnt going into the path as I thought! By the way, I was in second place though with only 73 points. lol! 'Abang' won the game by having 126 points in total. That skinny asshole scored 60% of zero point which made him the last place. He is too skinny, couldnt even handle the balls. His own ball? I dont know.

Its 1.30 AM. We went back home. Cooked ourselves some awesome 'chicken rolls'. It was good. We then decided to watch a movie online. Its a nice movie though. No one talk. Just quietly enjoyed the movie. Indeed, everyone was watching it with their eyes closed! Argh! Another fucked up day! Yeah. But, I enjoyed. =)

Ricky.

Trivia

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Mon, 5 Apr 2010 20:56:00 +0800

I admit it .. I LIKE trivia, although it serves no purpose for me since I can never remember any to bring up in conversation. But still, it is fun, so I've created this list of amazing trivia that I found to be absolutely riveting.

1. Snails can sleep up to 3 years.

When you think about it, what do snails have to do all their lives? Sure, they leave great slime trails and make excellent targets for salt shakers and little boys, but other than that there’s not much more to do but sleep after an exhausting run across a sidewalk.

2. American Airlines saved $40,000 in 1987 by eliminating one olive from each salad served in first-class.

Until I read this, I was convinced that there was an olive missing from my salad, yet no one would believe me. Now I am vindicated! I am now searching for proof that the airlines have taken one peanut from each bag .. I'll keep you posted.

3. An ostrich's eye is bigger than its brain.

After reading this, I realized that I know of many people with the same problem!

4. Banging your head against a wall uses 150 calories an hour.

Well, I'd like to see anyone keep this up long enough to actually lose 150 calories. Now that I think about it, I DON'T want to see...

5. Donald Duck comics were banned in Finland because he doesn't wear pants.

This is completely understandable.. I mean, who wants to look at a duck with no pants on? Besides, I understand that it is the law for all birds to wear pants in the city limits of Finland.

6. If you pass gas consistently for 6 years and 9 months, enough gas is produced to create the energy of an atomic bomb.

Dont ever try to prove or disprove this!

7. In ancient Egypt, priests plucked EVERY hair from their bodies, including their eyebrows and eyelashes.

Now, this piece of trivia leaves ALOT to the imagination, which is probably a good thing. BUT, I would like to point out, you'd have to be pretty limber to get some on those hairs .. nuff said.

8. The ant always falls over on its right side when intoxicated.

I know this trivia fact isn't true 'cause I've gone drinking with my ants several times and I've watched them fall over in several different directions...

9. The average human eats eight spiders in their lifetime at night.

I don't know about this fact ... I've seen several spiders at night and never once felt compelled to eat one. Though I hear that spider is tasty if barbequed correctly.

10. And now for our final fun trivia fact:

Some lions mate over 50 times a day... No wonder the females do all the work.

Ciao

Non-Judgement

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Fri, 2 Apr 2010 21:48:00 +0800

Our judgements are the biggest stumbling blocks to satisfying relationships. We constantly judge what others say and how they behave. We live by our judgements, but how do we know they are justified? What right do we have to judge our fellow beings? We cannot know what is right for anyone other than ourselves.

Its not easy, but giving up judging is essential for inner peace. When we stop judging we become more tolerant. We see the things we used to judge differently, as opportunities to rise our vibration by thinking higher thoughts.

When you are tempted to judge another, remember that they are on the path which is right for them, and are where they need to be. Tell yourself to stop, drop the thought and replace it with an affirmation such as, 'I gladly and willingly accept... as it is/ they are.'

When we judge another, it says nothing about them but a great deal about us. Judging someone to be an idiot doesnt make them one, but it does expose you as a person who needs to be judge. Who would you be if you didnt have this need? How would your life be different?

As rain falls equally on the just and the unjust, do not burden your heart with judgements but rain your kindness equally on all.

The Buddha

Peace out.

18 Similarities Between Women and Computers

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 20:13:00 +0800

Before you read any further, please note that this is not a piece out to damage or cut down the important role of women in our society. Read below only as humour and nothing more. These are intended solely for a good laugh.

Women are unique in many ways (and by this I mean different than men) and its this specific uniqueness or certain traits that I refer to when likening a woman to a personal computer. Do not get offended; it is intended to create a smile.

1) A woman is like a computer in that she costs more than you thought it would.

2) A woman resembles a personal computer in that she will not do exactly what you thought it will.

3) After a while, you simply cannot do without both: your computers and your woman.

4) Computers are just like women: after you have gotten used to them and cannot do without them, you discover that one is not enough.

5) Some computers, like some women, serve many people.

6) You can work miracles with both by gently using your fingers if you only know the proper code.

7) If you are inactive with them for more than fifteen minutes, they go off.

8) Just like a computer, the one who runs her has more privileges than just anyone else who is just running her.

9) When there are short-circuits of electricity, they shut you off and then you cannot always return to what was before the short-circuit.

10) Normally, they are available and receptive in the night, but it’s a lot better when they are available and receptive in the morning.

11) When you are, at last, sure that they will do what you wanted, they go off and do something else.

12) The only thing that you predict about the future with them is that they will react unpredictably.

13) Just like women, so too for computers: every year a new model is released that is younger, more advanced and gives a lot more.

14) A woman is just like a computer: you are happy with what you have but when you see what your friends have got, you are sure you want what they have.

15) Women are like computers in that no matter how much you improve and put into them, they only improve for a short time and then go back to their same old pace.

16) Women are like computers in that every day a new program comes out promising to revolutionize your knowledge and use of them, but after spending a lot more cash you realize that none of them work better than the old one you had before.

17) Women are like computers: you always want what others have and they want what you have but you cannot switch even for a trial basis.

18) Women are like computers in that when you get them you are sure that they are the best. But when the days go back, you wonder why you did not get them with a replacement note.

Ciao.

Perfectionism

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Sun, 28 Mar 2010 22:50:00 +0800

What is Perfectionism? Perfectionism is defined as a meticulous drive to attain excellence. A perfectionist is one who has this characteristic.

'Perfectionism' is a most prevalent belief in our civilization. Notice that I used the word 'belief'.

Everywhere in this world of ours, perfectionism is regarded as good and desirable while imperfection is deem as bad or negative. Everybody wants everybody else to be perfect. Bosses want their employees to be flawless on the job. Parents want their kids to be the best. Perfectionists want their work and themselves to be perfect.

Since it is so strongly regarded as being positive, is Perfectionism really an absolute or universal value? In my opinion, it is not so.

To me, it is relative and is born of human conception. Perfection is an idea. It is an idea of a perceived ideal state of affair. However, things are the way they are. For every circumstances, the truth is what is at each instance. Perfection and imperfection are therefore merely attached values.

I am not suggesting that perfectionism is not good. I am suggesting that perhaps perfectionism can cast a controlling net over our expression of happiness. One can reach the required goal with or without being a perfectionist. To be a perfectionist, on the other hand, leave very little room for one to accept and love oneself unconditionally when a desired goal is not met. And when our desires are not met, we feel unhappy or cannot be fully satisfied. However, the truth is we only have each moment of the Present Moment to live in. By being perfectionist, our mind will be forever planning and thinking about the future or lamenting about what went wrong in the past. Because of these tendencies, many perfectionists are unable to feel satisfaction because in their perception they never seem to do things good enough to warrant that feeling of contentment.

From this, we can see a paradox of life. That is:

"How can one have
perfect peace, self-love and joy when one is a perfectionist? "

Ricky.

Get What You Want

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 22:36:00 +0800

When we want to get something, acquire or accomplish anything with lasting results, there are many ways and levels to attract it. If it is by looks, then we need to be disciplined in diet and exercise, etc. If it is by knowledge, then we need to put effort into studying. If it is by wealth, we need to make a lot of personal sacrifice and work hard over a period of time. If it is by a kind heart and maturity, then we have to mentally train ourselves through awareness practice and consistency. Whatever the method, effort with results is the key.

When we do things continuously and with effort, there will be results. When we do it sporadically, our results will be sporadic. If we only go to the gym once every six months, we will look like we only go to the gym once every six months. If we only drive by a gym once every six months, we will look like we only drive by a gym once every six months. Similary, if me focus, practise and control our minds with Dharma every single day, we will look like we control our minds. We will look like we are practising the Dharma. We will see transformation.

Peace out, Ricky.

'Shields Up!'

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 20:09:00 +0800

Occasionally we meet people whose energy is so negative and overpowering that we need to protect ourselves. The best way is not to fight back, but to affirm your spiritual power. If this fails, create a protective mental shield around yourself to stop their destructive energy getting through.

If you are a Star Trek fan, you will remember that when the Starship Enterprise is under threat, the Security Officer creates an electronic force field around the ship which repels the attack. Use this idea to protect yourself from physical attack. Say 'Shields up,' and imagine yourself surrounded by an impenetrable forcefield. Affrim that nothing can harm you inside your safety bubble.

This may seem wacky at first, but give it a try. Like all techniques, it becomes more effective with practice.

Peace out.

Fishing or Sex?

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 20:35:00 +0800

Four men went fishing. After an hour of sitting on the riverbank, one said,

'You wont believe what I had to do to get permission to come away fishing this weekend. I had to promise my wife that next week I'd redecorate every room in the house!'

The second man said,

'Thats nothing! I had to promise my wife I'd tuft the whole of the back garden and build swings and a slide for the kids.'

Man number three smiled.

'You dont know when you are well off! he exclaimed. 'I had to promise my partner I'd renovate the whole of the kitchen for her and build a pergola in the garden!'

They continued to fish in silence. Then they realised the fourth man hadnt spoken.

'Hey Jerry!' said the first man. 'What did you have to do to be able to come away fishing?'

Jerry struggled casually.

'I just set my alarm for five thirty,' he said. 'When it went off, I turned it off, cuddled up to my wife and asked, 'Fishing or sex?' She turned over and said, 'Dont forget your jacket.''

Cheers.

The Law of Reciprocity

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 20:58:00 +0800

The Law of Reciprocity is better known as the Golden Rule: 'Treat everyone as you like to be treated.'However, as others have their own values and preferences, it is better expressed as, 'Treat everyone as they would like to be treated.' Most people like to feel accepted, approved of, respected, listened to and appreciated.

The Law of Reciprocity reminds us that we get back what we give out. Thoughts create effects which rebound, and so do words and actions. If you want more friends, be friendlier, if more love, be more loving; if more happiness, help others to be happy. Ask not, 'What do I want this person to do for me,' but, 'How can I help? What can I do for them? Everytime you meet another's needs, you meet needs of your own and feel better about yourself.

Peace out.

The Biology of Love

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 19:41:00 +0800

Scientists who have been researching how the human brain operates when a person is in love have concluded that there are three distinct brain system for mating and reproduction - lust, romantic love and long term attachment.

Each of these systems is associated with distinct hormone activity that cause specific feelings and behavioural changes in lovers. When you think of love in terms of these three systems, it makes it easier to follow what stage a person is in and to better understand their actions.

Love has been shown to be the result of a specific group chemicals and brain circuits working in specific areas of the brain. In simple scientific terms, love is triggered by a combination of brain chemicals, including dopamine, oxytocin, testosterone, oestrogen and norepinephrine; in much the same way, these chemicals drive other mammals to find suitable partners. Once our brain has identified a suitable partner based on certain criteria, the brain goes into overdrive to rpoduce the chemicals necessary to create the environment to attract that person.

Throughout human history, marriages were an arranged event based on wealth, status, family rivalries, tribal groups and politics. Today, this approach has generally dissppeared and most people now marry for love.

When it comes to mate selection, humans focus their attention on just one person. This distinguishes them from most other animals. A courting male pigeon, for example, will puff up his feathers and approach as many potential partners as his energy will allow. Humans, however, usually have a shortlist of candidates but intensely target just one.

Ricky.

Different Flowers For Different Occasions

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 19:55:00 +0800

Whether for your mother, sister or girlfriend, buying a woman flowers can be a minefield. Turn up to a birthday bash with a petrol station bouquet of frayed petals and flimsy stalks and you might find yourself wearing the bouquet down the back of your trousers. Take on board this little lesson in the language of flowers, on the other hand, and you will be heralded as a model gentleman.

To say 'sorry'.
It may be the hardest word, but so much easier to say with flowers. The rare blue rose symbolizes peace and being hard to come by will earn you extra brownie points. Daisies are said to cheer people up and mark new beginnings. Hydrangeas represent understanding, tulips and hyacinths forgiveness, and bluebells suggest sorrowful regret. Alternatively, you could give her a guilt trip with a handful of withered flowers, the symbol of rejected love and petrol stations.

Anniversary or Valentine's Day.
Forget-me-nots for true love, constancy and memories. Cacti, despite being prickly, symbolize endurance. Red roses are a little passe but if you must go for them buy one or dozen - eleven red and one white with the white representing your true love. Just be prepared for the question, 'Who do the other represent, you cheating bastard?'

Mother's Day.
Yellow flowers are bright and cheery and symbolize adoration, gracefulness and friendship. Dahlias, elegance and dignity, magnolias, magnificence and benevolence, and violets loyalty.

Grandma's Birthday.
Pink roses sit well with the oldies as they speak of friendship. Purple flowers are often related to royalty and admiration - perfect for the Queen Mum in your life. Irises denote faith and wisdom. A word of warning: dont send Granny orange flowers or chrysanthemums, or worse orange chrysanthemums (orange symbolizez lust! And, well. chrysamthemums are usually put on grave).

Ciao.

Being Lonely Is Blissful

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 22:46:00 +0800

Being alone is something that everyone fears. What they do not understand is that loneliness is a state of mind, it is not who you are with or not with. You could be with someone and be extremely lonely - you cannot relate to them or understand them. When some peole are with other people, they are even lonelier than they were without anyone. Some people are alone but not lonely.

Loneliness is not about being with someone or having to be wtih someone. Loneliness is a state of mind where we do not accept who we are inside and what we need to improve. We therefore need to be distracted with other people to make us look away from ourselves.

Loneliness is not about being somewhere, being something, having something or being with someone. Loneliness is about not daring to look at our faults and pushing towards improvement, and therefore, wanting to be distracted from what we see in ourselves that we do not like. So, we surround ourselves with loud music, parties, beautiful people, friends, books... We want to have anything and everything to not think about what we are inside.

Being alone is not boring. It is blissful. It is powerful and transformative. So, do spare some time with loneliness, to rise the level of consciousness of your mind, and get to know who you are; what you want inside.

Ricky.

Spirituality Inclined People Are Happier

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 21:28:00 +0800

Psychologists once spent most of their time studying mental illness, but recently they have turned their attention to what brings health and happiness. They have discovered that happiness is largely influenced by non-physical factors such as values, attitudes and beliefs. For example:

Across all cultures, people who have a happy marriage, spend time with their families, and enjoy caring friendships, a varied and rewarding social life and worthwhile goals which are enjoyable to persue tend to be happier than average.

Wealth is not a good predictor of happiness; people do not grow happier as they grow richer, unless they start below the poverty line. Lottery winner, as I mentioned in the previous post, for instance, are not happier than rest of us, and despite the massive increase in wealth in developed countries in the last fifty years, levels of happiness have not increased.

Age, gender, education, nationality and race are unrelated to happiness.

Spirituality inclined people are generally happier because they have sense of meaning and a belief in something bigger than themselves that brings hope and optimism and faith, all of which are closely linked to happiness.

All in all, studies support the conclusion drawn by the broadcaster and writer Hugh Downs.

'A happy person is not a person with a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.'

Peace out.

Placebos

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 21:58:00 +0800

Placebos are pills and potions with no active ingredients. They have much to teach us about the connection between beliefs, health and healing. Placebos are often used in clinical trials as 'controls'. One group of 'guinea pigs' takes the test drug, the other a placebo, and the outcomes are compared. It is not unusual for the improvement to be similar in both groups. Some patients even get the same side effects from placebos as if they had taken the actual medication.

The main factor in successful healing with placebos is the belief of the patient, hence the size, shape, colour of the tablets influence results, as does the healing procedure. Anything that makes the treatment seem more credible, such as the doctors uniform and bedside manner, improves the placebo effect. Placebos are least effective when the patient is unconscious or unaware of what is going on for other reasons.

Placebos tell us something important about the mind-body connection. They are rarely used these days because doctors consider it unethical to tell patients a pill has an active ingredient when it hasnt. Pity. How much potential for safe, effective healing is being lost?

Ricky.

Are You What Others Think You Are?

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 21:34:00 +0800

Many people think so. If someone repeatedly calls someone an idiot, they begin to believe it. But if you are what others think you are, to whom should you listen? Different people have different opinions of you, and they change over time. Some know you from work, others from home. Some know you when calm, others when you are angry or stressed. Meanwhile, your deepest sense of 'I' stays constant and remain intact.

The real you is to be found inside. What others think of you - your reputation - is outside, in their minds. Your reputation is not of your making and is beyond your control. How can this be who you are?

Ciao.

Women's Mental Distortion

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:02:00 +0800

Women have this built in desire to tell even their fat ugly friend that she is pretty. Or funny. Or talented. When in fact she is none of the above. Ask any guy and he will tell you - when a guy's wife or girlfriend says oh you just gotta meet my friend blah blah blah she is so funny and so great, the first thing we ask is - is she hot? The pause right before they answer is all the information you need. No - the pause is telling you - she is not hot. At all. Listed below are the first five things most chicks say about their available friends, followed by the truth:

She's really cute, she's got great eyes and she's funny. (She's got cute lips, nice eyes and snorts like a stuck pig when she laughs.)
She looks like Michelle Pfeiffer. (If Michelle Pfeifer had just been in a car crash.)
She's very very very pretty. (She's fat.)
She's got an amazing body. (But the face...)
She's incredibly smart. (She wont shut up.)

Likewise, if you hear any woman describe another woman using the terms listed below - almost the exact opposite will be true:

She's an idiot. (She's got massive tits.)
She's anorexic. (She's got great legs and flat stomach.)
She's so self-centered. (Guys love her.)
Her ass is huge. (She's Jennifer Lopez)
She's a bitch. (She's gorgeous and funny and will fuck your brains out five minutes after she meets you.)

Chicks will take precious time and carefully chosen words to spend on chubby or homely or big-boned female friends - referring to their beestung lips or slow metabolism or zaftig curves. Agree? Yes? No? Find it out yourself.

Cheers.

Clear The Clutter

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Tue, 9 Mar 2010 20:21:00 +0800

Free yourself of unnecessary possessions. Dont hang onto things on the off-chance that one day they may come in useful. This attitude is born out of fear that one day your needs wont be met, which keeps you rooted in poverty consciousness.

If you dont need it, get rid of it. If you havent worn something for a while, get rid of it. Recycle anything you cant use or give it to charity. Clear out your drawers, cupboards, shelves and every nook and cranny, and once you have cleared a space, dont refill it. A good clear-out leaves you feeling lighter, stimulates flow - and clears the channel to recieve more of what you really need.

Wealth beyond what is natural is of no more use than an overflowing container.

Epicurus

Peace out.

20 Ways To Make Someone Smile

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Mon, 8 Mar 2010 21:52:00 +0800

Do you want to put a smile on someone's face today? Maybe make their day a little better. It won't cost you a single penny or much time to do just that. And because smiling is contagious, it probably won't just be one person you make smile today.

Here are 20 ways to turn that frown upside down.

Send some flowers to your partner at work.
Compliment a friend or work colleague on their appearance.
Donate something to charity.
Take a friend out to lunch.
Let someone know you miss them.
Make a surprise telephone call to your partner at work, just to say hi.
Hold a door open for someone walking behind you.
Hug your partner for no reason.
Leave a joke on a friends answer machine.
Send a card to a friend letting them know what a good friend they are.
Give up your seat on the train to someone when there aren't any left.
Share your umbrella on a rainy day.
Ask a friend if they need anything while you're out shopping.
When it's raining, plan an indoor picnic with your children.
Leave a love letter somewhere where your partner will find it.
Send someone an unusual and unexpected gift like chocolate, flowers or sex toys.
Tell your child you're proud of them.
Tell someone you thought about them the other day.
Cook a surprise meal for your partner one night, especially if they normally do the cooking.
Tell your partner you love them.

Did you know it takes only 17 muscles to smile, but 43 to frown. Why waste all that energy frowning when you could just smile.

Here are 5 more facts about smiling.

Women smile more than men.
Smiling releases endorphins that make us feel better.
We are all born with the ability to smile, it's not something we learn from others.
A smile is a universal expression of happiness.
A smiling person is thought to be a more pleasant, attractive, sociable, sincere and competent than a non-smiling person.

Just remember, smiling is the easiest and cheapest way of improving your looks.

Cheers, Ricky.

Colours Tell Personalities (Result)

noreply@blogger.com (Ricky) — Sat, 6 Mar 2010 23:53:00 +0800

What'd your ideal room say about you? Find yourself though colours. Wall's colour would narrate your main personalities. Combine with other minor colours. That would be you!

Red is the color of fire and blood, so it is associated with energy, war, danger, strength, power, determination as well as passion, desire, and love.

Energy - Passion - Vitality - Determination - Courage - Confidence - Action - Speed - Sex Drive

Pros:

increased enthusiasm and interest
more energy
action and confidence to go after your dreams
protection from fears and anxieties

Cons:

lose your temper quickly, become agitated, angry, overbearing, demanding, un-nerving, oppressive or even violent.

Orange combines the energy of red and the happiness of yellow. It is associated with joy, sunshine, and the tropics. Orange represents enthusiasm, fascination, happiness, creativity, determination, attraction, success, encouragement, and stimulation.

Happiness - Courageous - Creative - Successful

Pros:

spice things up when you feel time is dragging
become more involved in something
increase creativity
relief from things becoming too serious

Cons:

self-centered and self serving, disregarding the needs of others, pride, and arrogance can will push you out of balance.

Brown says stability, reliability, confident, solid, genuine, maturity, wistfulness, orderly and approachability. It is the color of our earth and is associated with all things natural or organic.

Earth - Order - Dependability - Stability - Humility - Grounded

Pros:

a solid wholesome feeling
blend with the background
a connection with natural earth and the stability this brings
orderliness and convention

Cons:

One-way thinking, Naive.

Gold evokes the feeling of prestige. The meaning of gold is illumination, attaction, loyalty, power, self-esteem, wisdom, and wealth. Gold often symbolizes high quality.

Illumination - Wisdom - Prosperity

Pros:

increased personal power
relaxation and enjoyment of life
good health
success

Cons:

self-centered, seeking personal power.

Yellow is the color of sunshine. It's associated with joy, happiness, intellect, optimism, cheerfulness and energy.

Wisdom - Intellect - Enthusiasm - Joy - Optimism

Pros:

clarity for decision-making
relief from 'burnout', panic, nervousness, exhaustion
sharper memory and concentration skills
protection from lethargy and depression during dull weather

Cons:

inability to focus, or complete one task at a time, and even become critical and demanding.

Green is the color of nature. It symbolizes growth, harmony, freshness, honesty, self-respect, desire to expand and fertility. Green has strong emotional correspondence with safety.

Growth - Abundance - Prosperity - Hope - Fertile

Pros:

a new state of balance
feel a need for change or growth
freedom to pursue new ideas
protection from fears and anxieties connected with the demands of others

Cons:

placid, lethargic, lazy, and slow, to the point of becoming moody and depressed.

Blue is the color of the sky and sea. It is often associated with depth and stability. It symbolizes trust, loyalty, wisdom, confidence, intelligence, clarity of thought, protection, faith, truth, and heaven.

Tranquility - Trust - Truth - Intuition

Pros:

calm and relaxation to counteract chaos or agitation
open the flow of communication
broaden your perspective in learning new information
solitude and peace

Cons:

melancholy, dogmatic, negative, arrogant, self-righteous, and self centered.

Purple combines the stability of blue and the energy of red. Purple is associated with royalty. It symbolizes power, nobility, luxury, and ambition. It conveys wealth and extravagance. Purple is associated with wisdom, dignity, sophistication, independence, creativity, mystery, and magic.

Spirituality - Strength - Passion - Meditation - Magic - Mystery

Pros:

use your imagination to its fullest
re-balance your life
remove obstacles
calm overactivity or to energize from depression

Cons:

irritability, impatience, and arrogance.

Pink is youthful, fun, and exciting, while vibrant pink has the same high energy as red; pink is sensual, gentleness and passionate without being too aggressive. Pink signifies romance, love, and friendship. It denotes feminine qualities and passiveness.

Friendly - Loving - Compassionate

Pros:

calm feelings
neutralize disorder
relaxation
acceptance, contentment

White is associated with light, goodness, peacefulness, innocence, purity, simplicity, sincerity, kindness and virginity. It is considered to be the color of perfection. White means safety, purity, and cleanliness. As opposed to black, white usually has a positive connotation. White can represent a successful beginning. In heraldry, white depicts faith and purity.

Faith - Purity - Innocence - Truth - Peace - Humility

Pros:

clear clutter and obstacles away
start a fresh beginning
bring about mental clarity
purification of thoughts or actions

Cons:

Cold, Drained, Lifeless, Bare, Vacan't

Black is associated with power, elegance, independence, formality, depression, death, evil, and mystery. Black is a mysterious color associated with fear and the unknown (black holes).

Protection - Independence - Mystic Allure

Pros:

become inconspicuous
open the door to mystery
prepare for the unknown
a restful emptiness

Cons:

generates negative mind, lack of motivation, boreness.

Gray is the color of intellect, knowledge, and wisdom. It is perceived as long-lasting, classic, and often as sleek or refined. It is a color that is uninteresting, serious, dignified, conservative, and carries authority.

Dignity - Self control - Wisdom - Responsibility - Organization - Insight

Pros:

emphasize your willingness to comply
neutral, non-invasive feeling
reduce the intense energy of another color
feel detached or isolated

Cons:

Rigid, Dull, Melancholy, Lonely, and Lifeless.

Peace out.