tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507Mon, 16 Apr 2012 04:23:31 +0000mentorsolitudeonline advicesupportoffice romanceobscurityhearteenage pregnancyretirementfreecommunityaffairmarriagerelationshipsYuwieLizabeth Schmidtsurfweb ownerassistanceemotionsdear bettewealthcheatingself-esteemlinkmomside tripsservicestrafficeraPPPworkspecialkidsromanceearningsspousechildrenreviewsofficeadvicepregnantteendivorcestoreromanticexperiencepay attentiondreamearn incomereferwifehappywebsiteaccidentPay Per Postblogincomejourneylifeonlineclickparentspersonal adviceearnfriendshipdesperatewebsitesopiniondomestic abusefeelingshusbandself esteemlistennetworkfundebttrafficwritingreferrallovemoneyhospitalAdive given to those who request or whatever happens to be on my mind.http://askdearbette.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com (Unknown)Blogger75125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-446614791191293108Sun, 22 Feb 2009 23:31:00 +00002009-02-22T18:31:06.791-05:00Dear Bette, I had known this guy for about 7 months before I decided to show I was interested and to my surprise and relief he caught the bait. Before I knew it I was seeing him most days and he was making the plans even weeks in advance so I had to do little pursuing. He also shows great amounts of affection (kisses, holding hands in public, etc) and there is no question that he is interested. http://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2009/02/limited-attraction.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-5932135703075364701Fri, 13 Feb 2009 22:27:00 +00002009-02-13T17:27:38.344-05:00Dear Bette,   I'm in a serious rut.  A few months ago, my job as a graphic artist was eliminated due to budget cuts, and I joined the ever-growing unemployed of America.  Jobs in my field right now are few and far between, so to make ends meet, I recently took a job in client services for a tax preparation company.  However, I hate this job.  Yes, I hate it more than I could possibly describe. http://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2009/02/guidance-needed.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-8912563654193162118Fri, 13 Feb 2009 22:25:00 +00002009-02-13T17:25:30.202-05:00 Bette,I'm desperate. I am going through so much heart break right now it's unbearable. I was with this guy for 2 and a half years. While we've lived about two hours from each other, we had a relatively strong relationship. I was his first, and I love him unconditionally. Unfortunately, I go through states of depression, and for the past couple of months I kept breaking up with him, but we alwayshttp://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2009/02/hold-on-or-let-go.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-8024588856314106243Tue, 13 Jan 2009 00:30:00 +00002009-01-12T19:30:05.242-05:00Dear Bette, My relationship ended almost 4 months ago. The cause was her cheating, lying and deceiving me for a long period of time. I had no idea and it all came as a shock to me. Through all the pain that she has put me through, I have really tried to be her friend and understand why she hurt me so bad? She has told me that she did all the things she did and didn't tell me because she didn't http://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2009/01/cares-too-much.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-7718614114750487874Sat, 03 Jan 2009 02:36:00 +00002009-01-02T21:36:26.527-05:00Dear Bette, I've been best friends with a guy almost a year now, and i feel like our friendship has gotten closer than ever. He is always on my mind and always has been for a whole year. I told him how much I liked him but how i didn't want that to effect our friendship if he didn't feel the same way, and it has not. Me and him use to go to school together but this year he had to switch schools, http://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2009/01/more-than-just-friendship.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-525851643694311627Sat, 03 Jan 2009 02:27:00 +00002009-01-02T21:27:52.158-05:00Dear Bette, I am 17 years old and in my senior year. I have alot of friends but they are all guy friends. I dont hang around or talk to alot of girls even. I can talk to them fine but I really cant get any conversation started. There is this one girl I have liked ever since sophmore year. I cant get the guts to go up to her and even talk to her. We have shared alot of classes together in the pasthttp://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2009/01/how-to-approach-someone-you-like.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-1131236570216163938Tue, 23 Dec 2008 00:00:00 +00002008-12-22T19:00:06.898-05:00Dear Bette, My 25 year old daughter is married to a 46 year old man who treats her like a child in many respects.  However, I realize that I may be too critical, offering commentary or my opinion.  My blood boils when I hear telephone conversations that seem as if he is going to take something away from her if she gets a parking ticket or does some other thing he deems "wrong."   I don't want tohttp://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/12/how-not-to-be-mom.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-8877678426423192900Sat, 13 Dec 2008 22:59:00 +00002008-12-13T17:59:32.063-05:00Dear Bette, I was bullied so much in middle school that now I'm emotionally scarred. I feel like everybody thinks badly about me and that anyone who is nice is only trying to be polite, even though I know this isn't always true. I don't talk to people because of this, so I don't ever really make new friends. I'm very outgoing and I'm not a shy type of person (I'm an actress, and I love it!) but http://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/12/bullied-in-past-how-to-live-in-now.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-8648190612967225636Fri, 12 Dec 2008 00:32:00 +00002008-12-11T19:32:43.387-05:00Dear Bette Im worried im pregnant... Last week my long term boyfriend and i made love for the first time and as it was unexpected we didin use protection. We didn't in the traditional sense have sex though as we didn't move. He didn't ejaculate either and i was on the second last day of my monthly cycle which i know is supposed to be the "safest" time to have unprotected sex. We were both virginshttp://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/12/pregnant-or-not.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-6211383119521386134Fri, 05 Dec 2008 02:00:00 +00002008-12-04T21:00:29.258-05:00Hello Bette, My name is Jeff and I'm in 8th Grade. I'm sort of in a AP class as I take Earth Science which is normally a 9th grade class. Science is my weakest subject and I just consider it an honor to be in this class. It's so far been a tough year. I almost had an anxiety attack because I'm afraid of the NY State regents. My mother tells me to pray and I guess it works. I study but my teacher http://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/12/stressing-over-studies.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-4398339221983562251Sun, 09 Nov 2008 00:47:00 +00002008-11-08T19:47:59.013-05:00Dear Bette, I'm not really sure how to word my question so I guess I'll just come right out and say this. As a child I grew up in an abusive home. Unlike "traditional" abusive homes (I use quotes because it's not something that should ever be considered a norm) it was my mother that was the abuser and my father was the victim in most cases (though my brother and I did receive our share of the http://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/11/how-not-to-be-your-mom.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-4130562206493888470Sun, 09 Nov 2008 00:30:00 +00002008-11-08T19:30:08.196-05:00Dear Bette, My girlfriend cheated on me and said she loved me. I don't know what to do. I am heartbroken but am thinking of taking her back. Can you cheat on someone and love them? I don't understand. -Confused and Lost   Dear Confused & Lost,   Believe it or not, it is possible to love someone yet have a physical relationship with someone else.  Love and sex are two different things and http://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/11/to-take-her-back-or-not.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-3184122277201594507Thu, 06 Nov 2008 05:29:00 +00002008-11-06T19:20:34.947-05:00husbandmomchildrenmarriageDear Bette, I desperately need your help!!!!!! I've been married for 11 years and have 3 children.  My family means everything to me, including my mom and dad. I grew up in a family who was always there for each other.  My mom and dad have been there for me....in good times and bad. They have supported me and stood by me everyday of my life. My husband, on the other hand, grew up in a familywherehttp://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/11/mom-or-husband.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-8725730229661106671Wed, 05 Nov 2008 16:07:00 +00002008-11-05T11:07:48.161-05:00Dear Bette,         I need a reason to live. I feel like a waste of breath. My parents have split up, and I moved to a new place with my mom. I've always been taught to be tough and never show my weaknesses, and that has calloused me to the point where I can't cry, even when I'm alone. I feel sort of useless because no one really depends on me. I've never had a significant other, well I'm only 13http://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/11/dont-ever-give-up-on-yourself.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-5253358697806932041Thu, 30 Oct 2008 22:16:00 +00002008-10-30T18:16:57.128-04:00dear bette, i have this friend whom i've gotten to know better for a couple of months now. he's really nice and over all a really sweet guy. i just dont know exactly what to do because i do have a boyfriend but this guy keeps flirting with me and i dont intentionally do it back. and my friends point it out and i try to act normal but i dunno if he actually knows i have one, or what exactly his http://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/10/unintential-flirting.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-6861878861511576666Thu, 30 Oct 2008 22:13:00 +00002008-10-30T18:13:23.457-04:00Dear Bette, I'm not going to lie. I am a horrible person. I hate myself and I have no structure of faith even though i try to convince others that theres a higher power protecting us. I am about to celebrate my one year with a man that i feel only "puts up with me" and I am unsure if I love. I want to be with a man that lives many miles away but I don't think cares about me in the same way, http://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/10/uncertain.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-3598467329423195025Tue, 28 Oct 2008 04:03:00 +00002008-10-28T00:03:55.831-04:00Dear Bette,So there's this guy I just recently met right before the school year started. I am a freshman, he is a Junior. I like him a lot, we have a lot in common and he has a good sense of humor. But I'm just not sure if he's interested in me. He says he's only interested in older women and then put a 'jk' a little afterwards. I really don't know if it was a 'jk' just to make me not feel bad, http://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/10/young-confused.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-143002983353442265Tue, 28 Oct 2008 04:00:00 +00002008-10-28T00:00:38.526-04:00Dear Bette, I have an opportunity to study abroad in Ireland for six weeks through my university. However, the time slot coincides with my boyfriend's high school graduation and prom. (He is a year younger than I am.) He thinks I should go to Ireland because we went to my prom together, but I feel as though this would not be fair to him. The program in Ireland is yearly so it is possible that I http://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/10/chance-of-lifetime.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-5387063774399183409Fri, 24 Oct 2008 23:23:00 +00002008-10-24T19:23:58.444-04:00Dear Bette,My friend came out to me as bi sexual and I am just fine with that.  But I have liked her for a long time and I'm not sure what to do.  She is my greatest friend and iI do not wish to loses her.  I always want to be around her or talk to her. Please help me. Sincerely, Jet   Jet,   If you're fine with it, then there's no problem!  If you think she feels as you do, you did say you havehttp://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/10/keep-friend.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-4088368445325817499Thu, 02 Oct 2008 22:16:00 +00002008-10-02T18:16:15.414-04:00Bette, My father passed away due to tragic circumstances ten years ago. My mother committed suicide out of grief and depression less than a full year later. After my mother's death the state stepped in and requested many family members from my father's side to take my brother (two years older than me) and I in. My father's family refused and the majority of my mother's side was unstable or also http://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/10/wondering-about-her-history.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-7142996714298541052Thu, 25 Sep 2008 22:40:00 +00002008-09-25T18:40:21.332-04:00 dear bette. it seems so silly to ask you this.. but i dont know how to keep a journal. or needless to say, a diary. i write everyday. i guess you could say i'm like a wannabe writer. someone that could create a masterpiece that would be so.. innovative and refreshing to the mind. its probably psychological but after i write an entry. the next day i'll rip it out of the journal, notebook, or whathttp://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/09/writing-and-mom.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-9056311313022472412Mon, 22 Sep 2008 12:53:00 +00002008-09-22T08:53:05.213-04:00My family is the lowest type of middle class in financing stability. And I don't mind not being some spoiled rich kid who always gets what she wants, but a ton of times the amount of money in the bank afffects on my dreams and projects. For example, I wanted to play drums, but our apartment is too cramped, and we don't have enough money to buy a better house. I tried saving up money, but my mom http://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/09/keep-your-dreams.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-4283668120784665387Sat, 13 Sep 2008 02:09:00 +00002008-09-12T22:09:36.595-04:00Dear Bette,I am writing for some serious help... I wrote in about 2 months ago with a question regarding my situation with my mother and my boyfriend. He is from the Middle East, while she is racist and hates him. I am 22 years old and I recently had to move into my parents house because of my financial situation, and she immediately began trying to bribe me to leave him. After about a month of http://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/09/surviving-racist-mother.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-1129344554793306674Fri, 05 Sep 2008 15:29:00 +00002008-09-05T11:29:09.122-04:00Dear Bette -  I have a complicated situation that I hope you can help me to sort out. My sister-in-law is getting married in in San Diego in May. I have 3 children and she has decided to ask 2 out of my 3 children to be in the wedding.  My child who will be almost 3 (34 months) at the time of the wedding is being left out.  They have chosen 3 children - my two and a cousin's child. (ages 9, 7 andhttp://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/09/one-child-left-out.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7832075959692347507.post-6346332035236776331Wed, 03 Sep 2008 19:23:00 +00002008-09-03T15:23:36.226-04:00Dear Bette,   I am a 51 year old mother of three daughters.  My sister and I are very close.  Her children and mine are more like sisters then cousins. 2 of my nieces got pregnant within a couple of months of each other.  My oldest niece with her 2nd child, and my youngest with her first.    My sister and my youngest niece have had a falling out and are not on good terms with each other. It http://askdearbette.blogspot.com/2008/09/baby-shower-concerns.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Unknown)1