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		<title>Stylish Travel Giveaway plus Etiquette Tips for Traveling with Friends</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 20 May 2013 15:33:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Memorial Day traditions usually include spending time with family and friends, often times, traveling together to a particular destination. I am offering a few travel tips to make the trip less stressful and more enjoyable for everyone. Today’s post also includes details on my latest giveaway; submit your entry in under a minute on my [...]]]></description>
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<p>Memorial Day traditions usually include spending time with family and friends, often times, traveling together to a particular destination. I am offering a few travel tips to make the trip less stressful and more enjoyable for everyone.</p>
<p>Today’s post also includes details on my latest giveaway; submit your entry in under a minute on my Facebook page <a href="http://apps.facebook.com/sweepstakeshq/contests/324581" target="_blank">here</a>.</p>
<p><strong>The prize includes:</strong></p>
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<li>A designer luggage tag and card holder from <a href="http://www.ameandlulu.com/" target="_blank">Ame &amp; Lulu</a> (value $32),</li>
<li>A Duracel Powermat Smartphone Backup Battery (value $49), and</li>
<li>A $15 Starbucks Gift Card.</li>
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<p><a href="http://apps.facebook.com/sweepstakeshq/contests/324581" target="_blank">Enter</a> by this Friday (May 24, 2013) for your chance to win.  Now, onto my travel tips!</p>
<p><b>Traveling with family and friends can be frantic or fabulous – you decide:<br />
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<li><b>Discuss details in advance. </b>You may be renting a condo on the beach or pitching a tent in the woods, but knowing who will be doing the cooking, cleaning, driving, navigating and other various duties would be good dinner conversation before packing your bags. You may expect the men to do the hard labor in the wilderness when both men on the trip have an aversion to the outdoors, a broken arm or don’t know how to use a tool. (Now is the right time to reroute and go someplace else!)Will you meet at the airport? Park in the security parking lot? Meet at someone’s house and drive to the airport together? Drive instead of fly? Share a room? Who’s making the reservations? Offering their credit card for a deposit? It’s important to be upfront with pertinent information early on to set the precedent for the entire trip.</li>
<li><b>Have a chat about money matters before departure. </b>It’s better to discuss how expenses will be shared before the awkward moment when the bill arrives. Decide how costs will be split. Also use this opportunity to agree upon how you plan to get around once you arrive at your destination. Make reservations for a rental car or town car in advance. Taxis, subways and airport shuttles are easy to use and more affordable, most of the time.</li>
<li><b>Pool your resources</b>. Marybeth Bond, founder of Gutsy Traveler and author of <i>Best Girlfriends Getaways Worldwide</i> recommends “each person put $100 in a nonrefundable kitty. If anyone backs out, they lose the $100 but it isn’t such a big hit to everyone else.”</li>
<li><b>Research your options.</b> Utilize sites such as Yelp, Zagat, and TripAdvisor when making decisions on where to go, what to see, and where to eat. The concierge is also a wealth of knowledge, and don’t underestimate the locals who can tell you about neighborhood restaurants that are hidden away. I like Yelp because it recommends restaurants within walking distance of wherever I happen to land during the day. There are also some great travel apps that can be useful, here are a few, but you can find others that may work best for your particular trip: <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/11/8-travel-apps-to-make-you_n_3060491.html" target="_blank">http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/11/8-travel-apps-to-make-you_n_3060491.html</a>.</li>
<li><b>Make a friend/family agreement to communicate. </b>Travel can bring out the best, and sometimes the worst in people, and being able to get through a rough patch with your fellow travelers will make a big difference in how your trip turns out. Make a pact now to resolve any disagreement in a swift, civil, mannerly fashion. Agree there will be no silent treatment, brooding, name calling or late night trips to the airport to catch the next plane home.</li>
<li><b>Bring your own toothpaste. </b>At least on the trips I have gone on (with my friends!), someone always forgets their toothpaste. I have an aversion to sharing my toothpaste, just saying. If you are out in the woods, it’s not as easy to go to the local Duane Reade, so make a checklist of necessary essentials. If you wear contacts, don’t forget to bring your glasses just in case you have to run from a hungry bear in the middle of the night.</li>
<li><b>Schedule some time to go solo.</b> Just because you are traveling with another person, or a large group, doesn&#8217;t mean you shouldn&#8217;t factor in some time for yourself. Even if you are traveling with your kids, take turns watching the children so that you can do a little shopping on your own. Everyone benefits from a short break.</li>
<li><b>No surprises. </b>If you are sharing a room with your friend and she doesn’t know you have to sleep with a night light, or that you sleep walk or sing in your sleep, you should speak up and let your friend decide if you are a desirable roommate.</li>
<li><strong>Keep the bickering private</strong>. If you are traveling with your mate, try your hardest not to argue about his bad table manners, or her bad habit of always being late. Keep your criticisms to yourself and if you must argue, do it privately.</li>
<li><b>T</b><b>ake plenty of pictures </b>to remember the fun, but don’t post on social media sites without permission!</li>
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<p>Happy Travels,
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		<title>Business Etiquette: Misused and Outdated Terms and Phrases</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 14 May 2013 15:24:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Diane Gottsman</dc:creator>
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<p>I grew up riding a bike with high handlebars and a banana seat and thought nothing of asking my best friend, Joe Harris, to give me a “pump” home. I would sit against the “sissy bar,” between the tall front handles, or behind Joe, perched on the long, narrow seat. While I fondly remember my past, my professional vocabulary does not include the term, “back in the day” – it’s dated, and sends a message that I was cutting down a cherry tree with George Washington!</p>
<p>Just as you keep your business attire current and your teeth cleaned and whitened, it would also be a good idea to lose some of the outdated terms <span>and phrases </span>that no longer apply. Here are a few that grate on my nerves when I hear a presenter use them:</p>
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<li><b>Surfing the Net.</b> Consider replacing this phrase with “online.”  Rather than “dialing up” the computer to check the “World Wide Web,” (and, yes, I recently heard someone say this!), hire someone to develop an app (or do it yourself) for your mobile customers who may need quick access to the information you offer.</li>
<li><b>The Big Cheese. </b>Does not refer to a large hunk of Gouda. This would be your current boss, 15 years your junior.</li>
<li><b>“Let’s Do Lunch.”</b> You don’t “do” lunch, you share lunch with a client or someone you are building a relationship with. If you are interested in sharing a meal and want to meet someone for lunch, make the call and set a date. Remember, if you extend the invitation, you are also expected to pay the bill and leave the gratuity.</li>
<li><b>The Boob Tube</b>. This ridiculous term is an outdated, unsophisticated term for the television. Remove, delete, purge from your vocabulary.</li>
<li><b>Stewardess.</b> According to <a href="http://airandspace.si.edu/americabyair/jetage/jetage11.cfm" target="_blank">America by Air</a>, “Reflecting the social changes of the 1960s and &#8217;70s, the term ‘stewardess’ evolved into gender-neutral ‘flight attendant.’ Flight attendants have a great deal of responsibility, among the most important is to keep you safe while traveling.&#8221;</li>
<li><b>Secretary. </b>The person who manages your business life, makes your travel arrangements, confirms your appointments, sends out your important documents, and makes you look good by acting as an Ambassador of your company would appreciate being called your “executive assistant.”</li>
<li><b>Tickled Pink.</b> I was recently a keynote speaker at an event where a very “genteel” woman, still reminiscing of her cotillion days, introduced me by slowly and painfully reading my bio, word for word, mispronouncing my name, and  then ad-libbed, “Now, I’m tickled pink to introduce…” Not an appropriate intro for a group of business executives. Lesson learned.</li>
<li><b>“I’ll Check My Rolodex”</b>.  Since most of us carry our contacts via our smartphones, the word Rolodex is often used out of context.</li>
<li><b>Tick</b><b>l</b><b>er File</b>. In an age when most files have gone digital, a tickler file has fallen by the wayside, next to “tickled pink.”</li>
<li><b>The Twitter</b>. The correct term is “Twitter,” and your friends are not “Twitts.” Yet another situation where the speaker was not familiar with terms that were being discussed as part of their own presentation. It was extremely  uncomfortable to watch – like a train wreck!</li>
<li><b>Maven and Diva</b>. If you want to be seriously considered as a businesswoman, don’t even think about getting these terms imprinted on a vanity license plate for your car.</li>
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<p>Words are constantly being updated to reflect the latest developments but a mannerly rule to live by is this: Never, use words to demean, degrade, or make fun of anyone else. Outdated, updated, overdated, or underrated – you are responsible for what comes out of your own mouth. Is there an outdated term or phrase that you would prefer to never hear again? Tweet me <a href="http://www.twitter.com/dianegottsman" target="_blank">@dianegottsman</a> or post on<a href="https://www.facebook.com/ProtocolSchoolofTexas" target="_blank"> my Facebook page</a>.</p>
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		<title>Setting the Perfect Mother’s Day Table</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 09 May 2013 16:25:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you&#8217;ll be hosting a Mother&#8217;s Day brunch or dinner, I&#8217;d like to share this helpful table setting guide with you (also available as a pdf here).  For more Mother&#8217;s Day  tips, refer to my dining etiquette article on Huffington Post and be sure to &#8220;like&#8221; the article there to get Facebook notifications of future [...]]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>If you&#8217;ll be hosting a Mother&#8217;s Day brunch or dinner, I&#8217;d like to share this helpful table setting guide with you (also available as a pdf <a href="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/Setting-the-Perfect-Table-new.pdf" target="_blank">here</a>).  For more Mother&#8217;s Day  tips, refer to <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/diane-gottsman/dining-etiquette-setting-_b_3238328.html" target="_blank">my dining etiquette article</a> on Huffington Post and be sure to &#8220;like&#8221; the article there to get Facebook notifications of future Huffington Post blogs of mine.</p>
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<p>Happy Mother&#8217;s Day,
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		<title>Celebrating Mother’s Day with an Afternoon Tea</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 07 May 2013 06:36:33 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you’ll be spending Mother’s Day with your mom this Sunday, sharing a cup of afternoon tea would be a wonderful way to enjoy the afternoon. Your menu can be as elaborate as homemade scones and petit fours, or as simple as tea and store bought sugar cookies. It’s the time together with someone you [...]]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><div id="attachment_4283" class="wp-caption alignleft" style="width: 206px"><a href="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/card.jpg"><img class=" wp-image-4283  " alt="A Mother's Day card, perfect for an afternoon tea!" src="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/card.jpg" width="196" height="302" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">A decorative card, perfect decoration for a Mother&#8217;s Day tea.</p></div>
<p>If you’ll be spending Mother’s Day with your mom this Sunday, sharing a cup of afternoon tea would be a wonderful way to enjoy the afternoon. Your menu can be as elaborate as homemade scones and petit fours, or as simple as tea and store bought sugar cookies. It’s the time together with someone you love that will be remembered and appreciated long after the tea pot has grown cold.</p>
<p>Consider your mom&#8217;s individual preference&#8230;would she love a relaxing hour with a bold cup of Earl Grey, light cucumber tea sandwiches, sweets, scones set on a beautiful tea table on the back porch? Or, would a cup of Chamomile and a lemon muffin, shared with her grandchildren running around the back yard be more of her taste? Any way you sip it, an afternoon tea is a lovely way to spend Mother’s Day for a few hours with someone you love. Here are my ideas to get you in the mood for a delightful Afternoon Tea!</p>
<p><b>The Table:<br />
</b>A  cheerful spread is always welcome.  Using items you have around the house will make your tea feel extra special. Here is an example:</p>
<div id="attachment_4256" class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 330px"><a href="http://www.southernliving.com/food/entertaining/a-ladylike-tea-00417000081587/page5.html"><img class=" wp-image-4256 " alt="Special touches for afternoon tea via Southern Living" src="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/tea-napkin-l.jpg" width="320" height="320" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">via Southern Living</p></div>
<p>This is one of my favorite tea pots:</p>
<div id="attachment_4282" class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 410px"><img class="size-full wp-image-4282" alt="I'll be serving Mother's Day tea up in this pretty tea pot..." src="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/teapot.jpg" width="400" height="441" /><p class="wp-caption-text">I&#8217;ll be serving my mom tea in this pretty tea pot&#8230;</p></div>
<p>Do you have a tea pot that never comes out of the closet because it’s cracked or you’ve lost the lid? Turn it into a floral center piece for the table.</p>
<div id="attachment_4257" class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 279px"><img class=" wp-image-4257  " alt="via Laughing with Angels" src="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/teapot.jpg" width="269" height="403" /><p class="wp-caption-text">via <a href="http://laughingwithangels.blogspot.com" target="_blank">Laughing with Angels</a></p></div>
<p>As a Mother’s Day gift from the kids, you may consider buying some pretty gift cards, and a few more for the tea table. Even if it’s just the two of you, you can write something special inside of the card and your mom can keep it in a book or on her dressing table to remember the day.</p>
<div id="attachment_4299" class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 291px"><a href="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/photo.jpg"><img class=" wp-image-4299   " alt="A little note card on my 2013 Mother's Day wish list." src="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/photo.jpg" width="281" height="272" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">A little note card on my 2013 Mother&#8217;s Day wish list.</p></div>
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<p>Or, make a unique place card, garden inspired, that she can use in her own backyard.</p>
<p><b>The Tea Menu:<br />
</b>These cheerful scones will be on my baking “to do” list Mother’s Day morning, courtesy of sheknows.com: <a href="http://www.sheknows.com/food-and-recipes/articles/983647/strawberry-lemonade-scones-recipe" target="_blank">Strawberry Lemonade Scones.</a></p>
<div id="attachment_4260" class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 490px"><a href="http://www.sheknows.com/food-and-recipes/articles/983647/strawberry-lemonade-scones-recipe"><img class=" wp-image-4260 " alt="A Fruity Drink Turned Into A Scone via SheKnows.com (link here)" src="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/strawberry-lemonade-scones-recipe.jpg" width="480" height="320" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">A Fruity Drink Turned Into A Scone</p></div>
<p>I’m a fan of these delicious <a href="http://natashaskitchen.com/2013/04/03/gouda-and-tomato-tea-sandwiches/" target="_blank">Gouda and Tomato Tea Sandwiches</a>:</p>
<div id="attachment_4261" class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 304px"><a href="http://natashaskitchen.com/2013/04/03/gouda-and-tomato-tea-sandwiches/"><img class=" wp-image-4261  " alt="Gouda and Tomato Tea Sandwiches via Natasha's Kitchen (link here)" src="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/gouda-sandwiches.jpg" width="294" height="368" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">via Natasha&#8217;s Kitchen</p></div>
<p>And,  <a href="http://www.ohhowcivilized.com/blog/2013/1/29/tea-sandwich-cucumber-chive-butter.html" target="_blank">these cucumber and chive butter sandwiches</a>, are refreshing and savory.</p>
<p>And finally, you can’t forget the tea! My mom’s favorite tea is <a href="http://www.marthastewart.com/340248/ginger-tea" target="_blank">Ginger Tea</a> which has no tea in it at all. Here’s a tea tip, a tea without Camellia sinensis in it is called a Tisane. Ginger Tea is a soothing tea that is also good for you. I found this simple recipe at MarthaStewart.com but I also purchase Ginger Tea at my local Whole Foods.</p>
<p><b>Afternoon Tea Etiquette:<br />
</b>If you want to brush up on more afternoon tea etiquette tip, visit one of <a href="http://dianegottsman.com/2010/09/the-etiquette-of-afternoon-tea/" target="_blank">my past articles</a> featuring William Hanson. He is always a wealth of information.</p>
<p>Happy Mother’s Day,
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		<pubDate>Mon, 06 May 2013 13:32:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Diane Gottsman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[If there’s a graduation in your future, it’s likely you’ve already started thinking about what to gift to the graduate. Perhaps you’ve already ordered your multiple pen set gifts in bulk – but, I sincerely hope not. As gift-givers, we want to give something special to commemorate the occasion, but the truth is that the [...]]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-4278" style="margin: 10px;" alt="Happy_graduate" src="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/Happy_graduate.jpg" width="175" height="253" />If there’s a graduation in your future, it’s likely you’ve already started thinking about what to gift to the graduate. Perhaps you’ve already ordered your multiple pen set gifts in bulk – but, I sincerely hope not. As gift-givers, we want to give something special to commemorate the occasion, but the truth is that the items we often purchase aren’t the most practical or useful. I work with many young executives who recently graduated from college and the consistent feedback is both interesting and worth noting. While new grads immensely appreciate the thought of a gift such as a pen set or a basket full of cleaning supplies, what they most need is a head start to their independence…money to get started in the world. So is there a way to make a monetary gift feel warm and fuzzy? I consulted Dana Ostomel, the founder of an online gift registry, <a href="http://www.DepositaGift.com" target="_blank">DepositaGift.com</a>, and here is what she suggests when it comes to a modern approach to graduation gifts that may meet everybody’s needs:</p>
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<li><b>Today’s gift givers are aware of the economy.</b> The people who love you the most will want to give you what you need the most: often it is cash. The reality is that money allows the graduate to purchase what they want when they need it.</li>
<li><b>Please, not another pen set</b>! While receiving a box of stationery, one commemorative college sweat shirt, or a nice pen set may be appreciated, after the first go around, some college grads resort to eBay to responsibly get rid of the excess. They then use the money for something they need or want…something that suits their new postgraduate lifestyle.</li>
<li><b>Money is essential for graduates with debt.</b> Statistics tell us that in 2012, 20% of households in the U.S. had outstanding student debt while the average wage for workers in the 25-34 age group has decreased by 10%. With this in mind, a cumulative nest egg, regardless of how small, can assist when the new graduate is updating his or her business wardrobe, putting a deposit down on an apartment and converting from a back pack to a brief case.</li>
<li><b>Using an online registry allows the graduate to state what they want without outwardly “asking.” </b>Whether you contribute a little or a little bit more, you are assured that you are giving the graduate exactly what they want and need. The grad’s ultimate goal may be to save enough money to replace his or her dinosaur computer or take a trip to an impoverished country to teach a foreign language for the first 6 months after graduation.</li>
<li><b>Social norms have changed</b>. Much like everything else in life, gift giving etiquette and social norms evolve throughout the years, and today’s graduate enjoys receiving a tangible gift (that is useful), as well as utilizing technology via an online gift site that can simplify the gift giving process for everyone involved, while still keeping the gift (of cash) personal.</li>
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<p><strong>Bonus tip for the graduate:</strong> Appreciate the sentiment. Regardless of the gift, the intention is the same&#8230;a sincere congratulations on a significant life milestone. Don&#8217;t forget a prompt thank you note.
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		<pubDate>Thu, 02 May 2013 13:32:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Diane Gottsman</dc:creator>
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<p>If you are a college student, you are probably looking forward to a summer break that includes visiting family, hanging out with friends, doing a little traveling and maybe hitting the beach for a summer tan.</p>
<p>But, now is the time to prepare for your next phase in life…a job after graduation. Summer break is the perfect opportunity to gain important professional skills, and perhaps put some money in the bank.</p>
<p><strong>10</strong><strong> </strong><strong>Tips</strong><strong> for Turning a College Summer Vacation </strong><strong>i</strong><strong>nto a Future Career:</strong></p>
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<li><strong>Don’t delay. </strong>To have the best chance at getting the job you want, start early and get on the company&#8217;s radar screen. Reach out and ask for a 10 minute interview, or ask when the company will be hiring and be sure to get your resume in at the proper time. Be the “squeaky wheel,&#8221; without stepping over the line and becoming an annoyance.</li>
<li><strong>Use your school&#8217;s Career Services department. </strong>They are specialists and trained to offer a wealth of information and guidance. Make an appointment in advance, and don’t wait until the last week of finals to speak with them.</li>
<li><strong>Don’t shy away from unpaid internships.  </strong>Though a paid internship is preferable depending on your financial obligations, accepting a position for the knowledge demonstrates your desire to learn.<strong> </strong><strong></strong></li>
<li><strong>Seek out a mentor</strong><strong>.  </strong>Reach out to a person you admire and ask if he or she would be willing to spend an hour with you, providing insight and guidance.  That hour could grow into a mentorship and your new mentor could potentially connect you with others in your desired field of work.<strong><br />
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<li><strong>Network within your own family circle. </strong>Your family is bound to have some professional connections with a high interest in a bright, young college student, willing to work hard.</li>
<li><strong>Don’t be afraid to aim high.</strong> Contact the company that may offer you a job or an internship; one that will expose you to skills relevant to your degree. It doesn’t matter if you find yourself in the basement of the company sorting mail, your foot is in the door and you will have the opportunity to make friends and influence the movers and shakers in the company.</li>
<li><strong>Don’t get discouraged. </strong>If you can&#8217;t find a job in your future career field, look for alternate opportunities. You will still gain valuable, real-world experience along with networking connections in virtually any job you accept. For example, being a server in a restaurant is one of the hardest and best jobs a college student can experience. With all of the challenges associated with serving food, such as unfriendly customers who don’t know how to properly tip, screaming babies, messy toddlers, and people sending back their food because they changed their mind after you put in the order, it’s a good lesson in keeping your composure and practicing your diplomatic social skills. You will learn the nuts and bolts of a service industry and have a great opportunity to hone your people skills.</li>
<li><strong>Take your job seriously.</strong> Whether it’s collaborating on an important project or walking through the halls to make copies on the copier, everything counts. Dress with pride, show up on time, stay late and do what is asked. As a matter of fact, do more than is expected. Learn as much as you can about your job and also what others are doing in the company.</li>
<li><strong>Don’t quit prematurely. </strong>Stay with the job most of the summer. It won’t be worth mentioning to a future employer if you only lasted a couple of weeks and you quit, or were asked to leave.</li>
<li><strong>Reward yourself.</strong> Schedule your last day of work with enough time to enjoy a couple more weeks of free time before you start back to college.</li>
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<p>Learning to balance your time during the summer with work, personal development and planning for the future will serve you well as you continue on towards reaching your educational, career and life goals. But, don’t forget to add some FUN into your summer – you deserve it!
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		<pubDate>Mon, 29 Apr 2013 15:22:01 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Diane Gottsman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Did you know that second job interviews are often conducted over a meal? For the past 15 years I have had the good fortune of working with some of the best universities in the country, conducting their annual &#8220;Dining Etiquette&#8221; dinner. Career Service Counselors, Law Schools and MBA programs understand the importance of strong executive [...]]]></description>
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<p><strong>Did you know that second job interviews are often conducted over a meal?</strong></p>
<p>For the past 15 years I have had the good fortune of working with some of the best universities in the country, conducting their annual &#8220;Dining Etiquette&#8221; dinner. Career Service Counselors, Law Schools and MBA programs understand the importance of strong executive leadership skills and strive to give their students the competitive edge.</p>
<p><strong>Why is interviewing a new graduate over a meal so important?</strong></p>
<p>The dining interview offers the interviewer some additional insight about the applicant on a different kind of playing field. The new graduate’s success is based on several factors, including their confidence level, how they treat the server, their professional attire, and their ability to maneuver their place setting. Make no mistake, the lunch interview has very little to do with the food!</p>
<p><b> 15 Job Interview Dining Etiquette Tips for the University Student/Graduate:</b></p>
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<li><b>Don’t show up to the interview hungry.</b> Eat a small snack before you arrive so you can focus on the conversation rather than your growling stomach.  Arriving ravished will leave you distracted, making it difficult to focus on the conversation.</li>
<li><b>Don’t dive into the bread basket.</b> Always allow the host to lead; your interviewer is considered the host of the meal. Only after he or she offers should you take the first piece of bread. (Leave everything set at the table until your interviewer arrives.)</li>
<li><b>Men, keep your jacket on and your tie down. </b>Although you may not be as comfortable eating your meal, you are at a business lunch or dinner and you must maintain a professional image throughout the meal (you’ll leave a better impression).</li>
<li><b>A woman’s handbag belongs off the table and chair.</b>  Place the handbag on the floor, underneath the table (between your feet). A small wallet or purse may rest on a woman’s lap with her napkin placed on top to cover it. Avoid wearing a “wristlet” to a job interview.</li>
<li><b>Think of your dream car…B-M-W. </b>A good way to remember which is your water glass is to visualize <b>B</b>read on the left, <b>M</b>eal in the middle, and <b>W</b>ater on the right.</li>
<li><b>Stay away from the spaghetti.</b>  Spaghetti falls under the category of “difficult to eat” foods, right along with cherry tomatoes, BBQ ribs and whole artichokes.  If you plan to order pasta, select a pasta that you can eat in one to two bites such as penne or bow tie pasta.</li>
<li><b>If you are offered liquor…the answer is, “No thank you.” </b>Your interviewer is testing your good judgment and by saying “yes” to the offer, you just unintentionally communicated a lack of discernment.</li>
<li><b>Pass food counter clockwise around the table. </b>Bread, salt and pepper and other food items are passed around the table counterclockwise. The exception would be if someone directly to your left asked you for an item on the table directly in front of you.</li>
<li><b> </b><b>If you drop your utensil on the floor, you may leave it on the floor and ask for a fresh utensil. </b>Make sure and move the utensil out of the aisle or away from traffic and discreetly ask your server for another clean utensil.</li>
<li> <b>The napkin is placed on the seat of your chair when leaving the table temporarily</b>.  It is placed back on the table again at the end of the meal, left side of the plate or center of an empty place setting<b>.<br />
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<li><b>It is not necessary to thank the server every time he or she brings food or beverage to the table. </b>While you want to be polite to the server at all times, an occasional smile, nod or comment is all that is necessary, and not every time he or she comes to the table. Your main focus of attention should remain on the interviewer and the interview.</li>
<li><b> </b><b>When the interviewer pays, it is not expected that you offer to leave the tip.</b> The etiquette of paying the bill is the person who extends the invitation also pays and leaves the gratuity.</li>
<li><b>Do not stop at the toothpick dispenser when you are walking out the door.</b>  It is never professional to clean your teeth with a small stick.</li>
<li><b>Turn off your technology. </b>Your smartphone should not be visible, in your hand, on the table, or in your lap, during any part of the dining interview. That includes hearing the vibrating noise of a cell phone that has been silenced – it’s a huge red mark against the interviewee.</li>
<li> <b>Skip the doggie bag.</b> Even if you are left with a heaping plate of food, forgo asking for a doggie bag during a business lunch or dinner.</li>
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<p>Ultimately, the employer is interested in observing how the potential employee will conduct themselves at the table with their most valued client. University etiquette dinners are designed to empower the student, boost their self esteem and focus on the interview rather than the food.</p>
<p>Good Luck,
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		<pubDate>Thu, 25 Apr 2013 07:05:05 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Diane Gottsman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Our technology (smartphones, tablets and laptops) has become such an integral part of our lives that we often lose perspective on how these devices can affect our behavior. Your boss, clients and colleagues may or may not tell you, but make no mistake, your behavior is under scrutiny and your livelihood is at stake. Inappropriate [...]]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p><img class="alignleft" style="margin: 5px 10px;" alt="Texting Etiquette" src="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/texting-etiquette-300x199.jpg" width="300" height="199" />Our technology (smartphones, tablets and laptops) has become such an integral part of our lives that we often lose perspective on how these devices can affect our behavior. Your boss, clients and colleagues may or may not tell you, but make no mistake, your behavior is under scrutiny and your livelihood is at stake.</p>
<p>Inappropriate smartphone or tablet use at work may also be contagious. If one person is constantly glued to his or her device, it gives others the incentive to do the same, causing a domino effect of bad technology manners. If you have ever been a customer waiting for service from someone who clearly is distracted by their cell phone, you know that it&#8217;s not okay.</p>
<p>Following are a few office technology etiquette tips:</p>
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<li><b>The people in front of you are always the priority. </b>Make this your golden rule. If you interrupt a face-to-face conversation to respond to a text or take a call, you are communicating to the person you are speaking with that they are less important.</li>
<li><b>B</b><b>e respectful</b><b>. </b>We all have to take an occasional call at the office, but take your conversation to a private space, away from the hustle and bustle of the workplace common area. Your office or cubicle is a good choice, but refrain from going to your car and sitting there for an extended period of time.</li>
<li><b>Take advantage of </b><b>voicemail. </b>If it’s not a call from your child’s school or your elderly mom’s caregiver, let the message go to voicemail. It’s easier to allow the call to go to a message system than offer an excuse, “I can’t talk right now.”</li>
<li><b>Don’t video or take photos without the permission of others.</b>  Your colleagues or boss won’t appreciate the unexpected, and unflattering photo or video of the staff meeting where you wore a funny hat to get a laugh. Only post if you have your boss’s okay.</li>
<li><b>Set the example. </b>One single employee can start a downward spiral with his or her bad tech habits<b>. </b>The same holds true if you’re a boss who walks through the corridor constantly checking your technology without connecting with your employees.</li>
<li><b>If </b><b>you are having an issue in your office, or if you want to detour a potential problem, put it in writing</b>. A company policy makes it perfectly clear what is expected from the staff and can be referenced when needed.</li>
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<p>Although a “no phone zone” isn’t always realistic in company meetings (especially when you manage a sales staff who rely on their devices to contribute to the company’s bottom line), <b>avoid smartphone use when conducting or attending meetings unless you are the exception</b> (and most of us are not!).</li>
<li><b>Let your friends and family know the rules. </b>Emergency calls only, or leave your message on voicemail and wait until the lunch hour.</li>
<li><b>Silence it.</b> Change your phone setting so that it’s not blaring P!nk’s (Yes, I did the “!” on purpose!) latest song in the middle of a board meeting. The buzz, buzz, buzz of the vibrate tone is even more disturbing. At least P!nk has a great voice!</li>
<li><b>Get others involved. </b>Do your part to encourage participation from your colleagues to maintain a professional work environment, with limited access to unnecessary texting and cell phone use when it is taking time and ultimately money away from the bottom line of the company. When one person sets the bar high, other’s will follow.</li>
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<p>And finally, while it goes without saying, the restroom is not a place to conduct personal or social business with their technology. There is a time and a place for everything. You determine when to use your technology, rather than allowing your technology to dictate the rules.
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				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>There are few terms that cause as much confusion in the office as “Business Casual.” A recent study found that nearly 90 percent of workplace dress codes have become less formal over the past 10 years. Now some employers are trying to reverse the declining trend and finding it difficult to get their employees on board.</p>
<p>So what’s the problem? Many companies don’t have a clear dress code policy, nor are they consistent with an existing policy if one is already in place. Adding to the confusion, certain companies are more relaxed in their definition of &#8220;Business Casual,&#8221; while others expect employees to dress conservatively, five days a week. You can’t always depend on your colleagues or supervisor to be your best example, either! Who cares and who’s watching? Your client and your competitor…</p>
<p>Here’s a guideline that may help you find order in your “Business Casual” chaos:</p>
<p><b>Men&#8217;s Business Casual Office Attire<br />
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<li><strong>Shirts: </strong>A crisp, cotton, button-down is your best option. While white or blue are the best colors for a conservative business suit, casual Friday permits a range of darker colors that would not be considered suit appropriate. Still, steer clear of solid black (too severe), chocolate brown (you will look like a chocolate candy bar), and mustard yellow (do you watch the television show &#8220;The Office&#8221;&#8230;Dwight?). Polo shirts are acceptable in some offices and golf shirts, unless you plan to spend the afternoon on the golf course, should be reserved for your Saturday outing with the kids.
<p><div id="attachment_4110" class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 324px"><a href="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/striped-biz-attire.jpg"><img class=" wp-image-4110 " alt="Business Casual Dress Attire via Brooks Brothers" src="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/striped-biz-attire.jpg" width="314" height="381" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">Business Casual Dress Attire via Brooks Brothers</p></div></li>
<li><strong>Pants: </strong>Khakis or chinos are a good choice, but make sure they are clean, pressed and free from frays at the hem. Corduroy works only in the cooler months and only if it&#8217;s approved by your boss. At all cost, avoid linen pants. You will look like a wrinkled mess within seconds of putting them on. Keep your color choices conservative yet casual—think tan, gray, or dark blue.</li>
<li><strong>Shoes: </strong>Select a simple leather loafer in black and brown.</li>
<li><strong>Coat and tie:</strong> Always have a sport coat available in the event you are called out to an impromptu business meeting where you need to &#8220;up&#8221; your image. The same holds true for a tie. You can&#8217;t go wrong with having both hanging on the back of your office door.
<p><div id="attachment_4093" class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 290px"><a href="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/business-casual-men.jpg"><img class=" wp-image-4093 " alt="Business Casual option for men via Pinterest by Ashley Knapp and Vanda Fine Clothing." src="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/business-casual-men.jpg" width="280" height="420" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">Business Casual option for men via Pinterest by Ashley Knapp and Vanda Fine Clothing</p></div></li>
<li><strong>Jeans: </strong>Some companies not only allow, but encourage, jeans in the office. If you are working for this particular company, keep your jeans dark, buy a regular fit rather than a low rise with metal buttons on the back pockets and wear a belt.</li>
</ul>
<p><strong>Men&#8217;s “Business Casual” Don’ts:</strong></p>
<ul>
<li>T-shirts</li>
<li>Hawaiian shirts</li>
<li>Faded, frayed, or colored jeans</li>
<li>Beachwear of any kind</li>
<li>Tennis shoes</li>
<li>Deck shoes or topsiders</li>
<li> Sandals or flip-flops</li>
</ul>
<p><b>Women&#8217;s Business Casual Office Attire<br />
</b></p>
<ul>
<li><strong>Skirts or slacks:</strong> Staple pieces in a woman’s “Business Casual” wardrobe include dress slacks and an assortment of knee length pencil skirts. Don&#8217;t be afraid to add color to your wardrobe (in a less conservative office) by choosing a pencil skirt in kelly green, pink, or other seasonal colors. Pair with a solid blouse and a sweater or jacket.
<p><div id="attachment_4087" class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 290px"><a href="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/business-casual.-jpg.jpg"><img class=" wp-image-4087 " alt="Business Casual option via Pinterest by Patty Lownes" src="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/business-casual.-jpg.jpg" width="280" height="430" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">Business Casual option via Pinterest by Patty Lownes</p></div></li>
<li><strong>Shirts</strong>: Every woman should have a nice assortment of cotton blouses, patterned shirts and a variety of sleeves, depending on the climate and company policy. A silk blend (think Ann Taylor, Banana Republic, J. Crew) worn with a pair of slacks or skirt look stylish and still feel comfortable. A variety of light weight sweaters, in different colors, compliment the outfit and keep you warm in the chilly air conditioned office.</li>
<li><strong>Shoes</strong>: A small heel is best to help tie your business casual look together, or a nice pair of flats with a stylish pair of slacks. But beware, not every &#8220;body&#8221; can pull off flats and some women may appear a bit dowdy based on the choice of shoe and pant or skirt.</li>
<li><strong>Jeans</strong>: If jeans are an option for your office, select a pair that have a dark wash, flattering cut and will look good with a jacket if you need to run out to a last minute meeting. Steer clear from colored or skinny jeans, and anything that has a fade, fray or hole.</li>
</ul>
<p><strong>Women&#8217;s “Business Casual” Don’ts:</strong></p>
<ul>
<li>Yoga pants</li>
<li>Leggings</li>
<li>Skinny or colored jeans</li>
<li>Sandals with straps between the toe</li>
<li>Tennis shoes or flip flops</li>
</ul>
<p>When in doubt, it’s best to err on the side of caution.
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		<title>15 Simple Ways to “Go Green” That We All Can Do</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 22 Apr 2013 14:33:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Diane Gottsman</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[In honor of Earth Day I am making a concerted effort to up my “Green” efforts and thought I would share some easy ways we all can incorporate these simple tasks in our daily lives. Some I already do, some are on my “to do” list, but today I’ve decided to flip the switch (or [...]]]></description>
				<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p><b></b>In honor of Earth Day I am making a concerted effort to up my “Green” efforts and thought I would share some easy ways we all can incorporate these simple tasks in our daily lives. Some I already do, some are on my “to do” list, but today I’ve decided to flip the switch (or rather, turn off the switch) to &#8220;Go Green&#8221; every day.</p>
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<li><b>Switch to Fluorescent and LED</b><strong> lights</strong> – they use approximately 80% less energy than incandescent bulbs. If you are afraid that eco-friendly lighting doesn’t provide the same warm ambiance as traditional bulbs, think again.  Inhabitat <a href="http://inhabitat.com/24-gorgeous-green-lamps-that-look-great-with-energy-saving-led-bulbs/philips-24-green-lamps/?extend=1">shared a gallery</a> of 24 green, designer lamps that go well with low energy LED bulbs. This pendant lamp (seen below) would be so much fun for a kid’s room. No matter your budget, you can find a &#8220;green&#8221; option when it comes to lighting.
<p><div id="attachment_4149" class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 234px"><a href="http://www.ylighting.com/david-trubridge-design-coral-painted-pendant-light.html"><img class=" wp-image-4149  " alt="David Trubridge Design via Y Lighting" src="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/ylighting_2260_514555729.jpg" width="224" height="224" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">David Trubridge Design via Y Lighting</p></div></li>
<li><b>Walk, ride, or carpool to work and school</b>. If you’re looking for a carpool buddy or rideshare, visit <a href="http://www.ridesearch.com/">ridesearch.com</a> or <a href="http://www.ridebuzz.org/">ridebuzz.org</a> to get started.</li>
<li><b>Remember to turn off the lights when you leave for the day and unplug your electronics when you aren’t using them</b> – coffee pot, hair dryer, blender, lamps (40% of all electricity powers appliances that are off).</li>
<li><b>Adjust your thermostat</b> – consider a programmable thermostat and learn how to use it. According to the U.S. Department of Energy, turning your thermostat back 10° to 15° for 8 hours in the winter can save you 5% to 15% a year (the reverse approach also applies in the summer months).</li>
<li><b>Take reusable bags to the grocery store</b> – I’m guilty! I have them but forget to bring them. Put them in the trunk of your car. This green chevron bag (seen below) can be monogrammed and wipes clean with a damp cloth.
<p><div id="attachment_4148" class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 186px"><a href="http://www.etsy.com/listing/119323992/personalized-shopping-bag-green-chevron?ref=sr_gallery_7&amp;ga_search_query=reusable+shopping+bags&amp;ga_view_type=gallery&amp;ga_ship_to=US&amp;ga_search_type=all"><img class="size-full wp-image-4148" alt="via Etsy" src="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/chevron-bag.jpg" width="176" height="186" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">via Etsy <a href="http://www.etsy.com/listing/119323992/personalized-shopping-bag-green-chevron?ref=sr_gallery_7&amp;ga_search_query=reusable+shopping+bags&amp;ga_view_type=gallery&amp;ga_ship_to=US&amp;ga_search_type=all" target="_blank">here</a></p></div></li>
<li><b>Fix your leaks and drippy faucets and take shorter showers;</b> run less running water when you shower and wash dishes.</li>
<li><b>Get your family involved in growing your own garden</b> – learn which bugs are the “good” bugs and don’t kill them. Refer to <a href="http://www.eatingwell.com/food_news_origins/seasonal_local/gardening/how_to_start_a_vegetable_garden">this Eating Well article</a> if it’s your first time starting a vegetable garden (includes a free pdf garden plan).
<p><div id="attachment_4151" class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 451px"><a href="http://www.eatingwell.com/food_news_origins/seasonal_local/gardening/container_gardening_with_salad_greens"><img class=" wp-image-4151 " alt="Short on space? Container gardening may be for you! Image via Eating Well" src="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/planter_greens_630.jpg" width="441" height="175" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">Short on space? Container gardening may be for you! Image via Eating Well</p></div></li>
<li><b>Buy local</b> because it saves on fuel, emission, pollution (most of the food we eat is grown and raised thousands of miles away). <a href="http://www.localharvest.org/">Localharvest.org</a> maintains a helpful directory of local farmers markets and family farms across the U.S. for those who need to locate one.
<p><div id="attachment_4152" class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 310px"><img class="size-medium wp-image-4152" alt="Look for a CSA veggie share. Image via LocalHarvest.org" src="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/veggies-300x225.jpg" width="300" height="225" /><p class="wp-caption-text">Look for a CSA veggie share. Image via LocalHarvest.org</p></div></li>
<li><b>Don’t do laundry until you have a full load, and use warm or cold water</b> (up to 90 percent of the cost of washing clothes comes from heating the water). When it’s time to replace your washing machine and/or dryer, look for the HE seal.</li>
<li><b>Make something old new again</b> – give away, donate, get creative and shop for vintage jewelry at antique and consignment stores instead of buying brand new pieces.</li>
<li><b>Don’t toss your cell phone and technology</b>. Recycle and if it still works, hand down to your kids.</li>
<li><b>Ask about eco-friendly options on your next oil change and tune-up</b> (<a href="http://www.ecopoweroil.com/">Eco Power</a> motor oil is a great option).</li>
<li><b>Opt for stainless steel or other eco-friendly lunch box designs</b> like <a href="http://www.ecolunchboxes.com/" target="_blank">these</a>. The investment is greater at first but you’ll be reducing your waste significantly.  Also scrap the plastic cups and start using a travel mug on your way to work.
<p><div id="attachment_4153" class="wp-caption alignnone" style="width: 310px"><a href="http://www.ecolunchboxes.com/index.html"><img class="size-medium wp-image-4153" alt="via ecolunchboxes.com" src="http://dianegottsman.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/eco-lunch-300x167.jpg" width="300" height="167" /></a><p class="wp-caption-text">via ecolunchboxes.com</p></div></li>
<li><b>Look for fair trade coffee and chocolate</b>. The Daily Earth shares 19 of their favorite organic and fair trade chocolates <a href="http://www.thedailygreen.com/healthy-eating/latest/fair-trade-chocolate-organic-chocolate">here</a>.</li>
<li>Switch from disposable diapers to cloth ones. I have a friend who started reluctantly doing this only 3 days a week and now has switched completely!</li>
</ol>
<p><b>Bonus tip:</b> Start a recycling program in your office. Office Depot shared 20 tips on “Going Green” in the office <a href="http://www.community.officedepot.com/top20list.asp" target="_blank">here</a> for those ready to get started.</p>
<p>Happy Earth Day,</p>
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