Changing Life

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2009-10-13T16:40:00.001-07:00

Finally return to blogging after a long break...
After got away from my boring life, I found a new hope to make my life anew...

Stress Can Lead to suicide, Take a Vacation!

2009-09-16T12:32:00.000-07:00

“Stress” is a well-known contributor to mood, mental disorders, and suicide risk. Stress is a term often used synonymously with negative life experiences, or life events. Negative life events conferring risk for depression, suicidal thinking, and behavior, includes interpersonal, occupational, and traumatic childhood events. Trauma, especially childhood trauma, has significant short and long-term impact on risk for suicidal behavior. Specifically, child abuse (emotional, sexual, and physical), parental death, parental mental illness, and witnessing domestic violence during childhood have all been linked to suicidal behavior, both acutely, and over longer time intervals.

Interpersonal life event also increase risk for suicidal behavior. Parental or spousal death, serious arguments with a spouse, and social "exit events" (e.g. a child leaving home) have been linked to suicide attempts among adults, while parental separation and relationship break-ups have been linked to suicide among adolescents and young adults. The interpersonal events most relevant to suicidal behavior appear to be those involving loss or conflict in existing interpersonal relationships, rather than simple social isolation.

I am almost perfectly isolated by my environment and sometimes I become very stress. And knowing that stress could lead to suicide, I decide to take a vacation, even though it is not holiday yet. My destination is BALI!!! I just can’t wait. I am not sure if I could update my blog, but I will try!

Suicidal thinking have not appear in my mind until now, and I know that my life will just getting better and better. Until now, I haven’t do anything from my “To Do Lists” but I WILL SURELY become a better person.

Maybe, you have this issue come up to your life or someone who you really cares about, please at least read this prevention guide.

· Distance yourself from any means of suicide. If you are thinking of taking an overdose, give your medicines to someone who can give them to you one day at a time. Remove any dangerous objects or weapons from your home.

· Avoid alcohol and other drugs of abuse.

· Avoid doing things you're likely to fail at or find difficult until you're feeling better. Know what your present limits are and don't try to go beyond them until you feel better. Set realistic goals for yourself and work at them slowly, one step at a time.

· Make a written schedule for yourself every day and stick to it no matter what. Set priorities for the things that need to be done first. Cross things out on your schedule as you finish them. A written schedule gives you a sense of predictability and control. Crossing out tasks as you complete them gives a feeling of accomplishment.

· In your daily schedule don't forget to schedule at least two 30-minute periods for activities which in the past have given you some pleasure such as: listening to music, playing a musical instrument, meditating doing relaxation exercises, doing needlework, reading a book or magazine, taking a warm bath, sewing, writing, shopping, playing games, watching your favorite DVD or video, gardening, playing with your pet, participating in a hobby, taking a drive or a walk.

· Take care of your physical health. Eat a well-balanced diet. Don't skip meals. Get as much sleep as you need, and go out for one or two 30-minute walks each day..

· Make sure you spend at least 30-minutes a day in the sun. Bright light is good for everyone with depression, not just people with Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).

· You may not feel very social but make yourself talk to other people. Whether you talk about your feelings or about any other topic, reducing your social isolation is likely to be helpful.

· Remember that while it may feel as if it will never end, depression is not a permanent condition.

Love Your Precious Life, Love Yourself!

Don't Get Near Me, PMS!

2009-09-12T22:23:00.000-07:00

Three days ago, I was having a lunch in some cafeteria with my friend Linda, and her boyfriend Andy. Everything was alright except my back pain, my joint pain, my bloated abdomen and breasts. Then the disaster came,

Andy:”Elle (That’s what my friends call me) you look sick. Are you alright?” He asked

Me:“I am alright.”

Andy: “Are you sure? You look like a big tired elephant.” He laughed.

I’m trying to control my emotion with taking a really deep breath. I just want to be alone. I guess my face turned red or something.

Linda: “Leave her alone, okay?”

Andy (still with his annoying smiling face):” She looks like a balloon with her red face and everything.”

I couldn’t control my anger and I point my finger at him.

Me:” Shut up!” I stood up and took my bag and left with anger, going back to my house.

I lock myself in the rest room and crying heavily.

Have something like this ever happened to you?

So I decided to have PMS. Can we even decide PMS? Not, really...

Well, so I’m trying to get myself to the sanity and looking for treatment for PMS (Women's Most Terrible Syndrome)

What is the treatment for PMS?

Many things have been tried to ease the symptoms of PMS. No treatment works for every woman, so you may need to try different ones to see what works. If your PMS is not so bad that you need to see a doctor, some lifestyle changes may help you feel better. Below are some lifestyle changes that may help ease your symptoms.

Take a multivitamin every day that includes 400 micrograms of folic acid. A calcium supplement with vitamin D can help keep bones strong and may help ease some PMS symptoms.

Amounts of Calcium You Need Each Day
Ages	Milligrams per day
9-18	1300
19-50	1000
51 and older	1200
Pregnant or nursing women need the same amount of calcium as other women of the same age.

Exercise regularly.
Eat healthy foods, including fruits, vegetables, and whole grains.
Avoid salt, sugary foods, caffeine, and alcohol, especially when you are having PMS symptoms.
Get enough sleep. Try to get 8 hours of sleep each night.
Find healthy ways to cope with stress. Talk to your friends, exercise, or write in a journal or Blog?
Don’t smoke. Which, I can’t help not to smoke, I find it hard to have a day without cigarette.

PMS is a very disturbing problem not only for women… But also for men…Watch this funny tips to deal with PMS.

And I make Banana Oatmeal Cookies Special Edition For PMS, it really helps to soothe the mood swing.

Banana Oatmeal Cookies For PMS

Ingredients

2 ripe bananas
1/2 cup butter softened
1/2 cup dark brown sugar
1/4 cup white sugar
1 1/2 teaspoons vanilla
2 large eggs
1 cup whole wheat flour
1/2 cup flax meal
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 teaspoon salt
1 teaspoon cinnamon
3 cups old fashioned oats
1 cup peanuts
1 cup chocolate chips

Directions

· Pre-heat oven to 325 degrees. Spray cookie sheets with cooking spray.

· Cream together bananas, butter, and sugars with a mixer. Add vanilla and eggs, stir until well combined.

· In a separate bowl whisk together flour, flax meal, baking soda, salt, and cinnamon.

· Add dry ingredients to banana mixture and mix well. Stir in oats, peanuts, and chocolate chips.

· Drop tablespoon-size balls of dough onto greased cookie sheets. Bake for 12 to 15 minutes, or until browned. Cool on sheet for two minutes before moving to a cooling rack.

My First Posting

2009-09-10T02:36:00.000-07:00

Well, I finally made a blog. And it's my first posting!
I don't really understand how to blog, I hope somebody could tell me what should I do...

I begin with introduction, well I don't know why should I even introduce myself, but it's just me...
Well, I just hope a blog means a new life. I want to start living to a new positive ways, and have friends here to support me. Coz, well in my real life I'm just a loser, I don't even have a lot of friends, and I blame my big fat butt I have here. Thanks 'butt' for getting me to become a low-esteem person. I'm just felling so lonely, I'm single and unhappy with it, the worst part is my family always ask when will I get married.

But, well I want to make a change. And make 10 list I have to do for changing my damp life. Maybe, I'll just post it here.

My 10 life changing to do lists:
1. Think forward. When picking clothes I have to wear... well just think what people would say when I pick clothes or which part of my body will get criticized people.
2. Get myself SLIM.. Lose some weight, okay..
3. Stop drinking any kind of alcohol.
4. Become better in every aspects of my life
5. Have more friends.
6. Learn about diet, and anything that will make me lose some of this hanging fat.
7. Learn to speak in front of public.
8. Write in my blog regularly... I don't know about this.
9. Hmm... I don't even know what else. It doesn't have to be 10 right? Maybe if I find a new thing in the future I'll just have to add it here...

Do I need professional help, I don't know...