Divorce Him

Maybe I am not Ready to Date!

2009-09-21T16:00:00.002-04:00

I have been on two dates in the past few weeks. When I was asked when they could see me again, my first thought was, "not on the weekend!"

My best friend lives almost two hours away and he comes up on the weekends to hang out with me.

I am not ready to give up any part of that time to go on dates yet. I am having too much fun just being with my friends, acting stupid and feeling care free.

So I think for now, unless someone that I just adore and think is truly wonderful... I am going to enjoy this time with my friends.

I feel like I never got to hang out with friends and have fun since I got married at 16.

I feel happy right now, so I am going to enjoy it and keep going on the same track that I am on!

I Went on My first date!

2009-09-08T14:09:00.002-04:00

My friends and I were hanging out at the pool on Saturday when this guy drives up on his boat. He gets off the boat and we start talking and he gave me his number... So weird how that happened cause I don't ever meet anyone.

I haven't ever been on a real date before. Not even with my ex-husband. I was soooo nervous, I wasn't sure if I was gonna throw up at one point.

I got up and got ready so I started drinking! Figured that would take the edge off. I was so nervous! I installed Loopt on my phone so the guys could track where I was at and one of the girls gave me a knife to take with me! HA! Then I text them as soon as we got to the restaurant with the restaurant name.

He forgot to open my door the first time we got in the car but he opened it all the other times.

We went to breakfast then went back to the house and he was totally cool with hanging out with all my gay friends. That is a big deal for me because most straight guys aren't cool with hanging out with gay men. We hung out by the pool then went to the gay beach, then we went to my friend Shane's house and ate dinner and he came there too. So I ended up spending the whole day with him.

I told him that I will be taking things slow and he seemed pretty respectful of that and said I was always in control.

Now I hate this part where I have to figure out what is the best time I should call him now. Do I wait a few days, do I text him, do I let him call me???? All these questions are running through my mind! OMG! Doesn't dating come with a road map!?

Divorce Cake with Barbie on Top

2009-08-08T14:28:00.000-04:00

Divorce Cupcakes

2009-08-05T14:20:00.000-04:00

Happy Birthday Divorce Cake

2009-08-04T14:56:00.000-04:00

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I think this is cute and I should have done this myself! I actually had a party on the One Year Anniversary of my divorce but after talking with friends we decided to call it a housewarming party for my new place!

Divorce Cake... She kicks him out!

2009-08-03T14:17:00.000-04:00

Divorce/Single Again Cake

2009-08-02T15:20:00.001-04:00

Flickr

Divorce Cake...

2009-08-01T14:15:00.000-04:00

Divorce Cake - Prince lost his Bride!

2009-07-31T14:50:00.000-04:00

Flickr

Divorce Cake... Take the trash out!

2009-07-30T14:13:00.000-04:00

Divorce Cake...

2009-07-29T14:48:00.000-04:00

Divorce Cake... I am free from the dumbass!

2009-07-28T14:12:00.000-04:00

Jon and Kate Plus 8 Divorce Cake

2009-07-27T14:41:00.000-04:00

Jon and Kate Plus 8

Divorce Cake... He moves in to a tent and she gets the house!

2009-07-26T14:11:00.000-04:00

Another Cute Divorce Cake!

2009-07-25T14:35:00.000-04:00

Thanks Pink Enlightenment!

Happy Divorce!

2009-07-24T15:57:00.001-04:00

Happy Divorce!, originally uploaded by nuther.com.

DIVORCE cake!! the headless groom!!

2009-07-24T15:55:00.001-04:00

DIVORCE cake!! the headless groom!!, originally uploaded by cdgleason.

A Divorce Cake with the Wedding Ring Coffin

2009-07-24T13:53:00.004-04:00

I had posted a few months ago about the Wedding Ring Coffin. My mom sent me this picture this morning and someone made a divorce cake and incorporated the Wedding Ring Coffin into it.

You can purchase your own Wedding Ring Coffin here and bury your sadness forever!

The Wedding Ring Coffin has been featured on Rachel Ray, Good Morning America, Time Magazine and many many other news outlets!

The New Girlfriend Leaves Another Voicemail!

2009-04-13T21:10:00.001-04:00

The crazy new girlfriend of my ex-husband called again over the weekend. I haven’t spoken a word to this girl since December. Why does she keep calling me!? What could she have to say that I would care about? I saw her number come up on my caller ID and handed my phone to a friend to answer. They told her to stop calling me but she is relentless. She called three times yesterday. I was hoping she would leave another message so I could post it for everyone to hear but she didn’t. Maybe it was my ex-husband calling but I doubt it. I am sure in a few more days she will grace us with another drunk message.

Ex-Husbands New Girlfriends Voicemail

2009-04-06T19:02:00.004-04:00

This crazy girl won't leave me alone (ex-husbands new girlfriend). She calls my phone all hours of the night when she is drunk and sometimes when she is sober. This call came out of the blue last week so I decided to have fun with it and post it on the internet for my own amusement and for others to laugh at her. Enjoy!

Men Don't Change!

2009-03-17T16:11:00.003-04:00

I found an old USB drive today and started looking at the documents on it. I found this post that I wrote and never posted. It says I saved it June 18th 2007. Little did I know when I wrote it that I would have moved out and be on my way to a divorce less than six months later. I have grown so much since I wrote this. I am kind of proud to post it because I know I am so much better today...

There should be a special place in heaven for wives like me that put up with as much turmoil as I have over the past 11 years. For as many years as I have hung in there and waited for him to hit bottom, I keep thinking that we have to be there by now.

He isn’t an angry drunk… not usually. But he does stay up all hours of the night, sometimes until the sun comes up the next day. Our dog and I are restless the entire evening that he is drinking. Even our dog can’t settle down and go to sleep until everyone is in the house for the night. I wake up periodically wondering if he has come in yet and he hasn’t. I wake to the sounds of my husband and the neighbor “hooting” and “hollering”., falling down, yelling, and falling in to things.

I will get up the next day to a backyard full of beer bottles, cigarette butts, liquor bottles and a mess. When he runs out of beer he raids my liquor, which I will have one drink every now and again. When he drinks liquor he blacks out and can’t remember much. This time he wakes up at 3:00 pm on Saturday, still drunk… and angry, blaming me and telling me that I have an attitude problem and I can pack up my stuff and leave.

His family are all alcoholics at best, every last one of them. Alcohol changes my husband. If his family calls when he is sober, he usually doesn’t want to talk to them. But when he drinks, he calls them or will pick up the phone when they call. He will stoop to what I call “their level” and act just like one of them.

I often feel left along the way-side wondering when this tornado of a marriage will finally end. I keep asking myself, how long should I keep my promise to God? For better or worse... At what point is enough, enough? I am sick of having that sick feeling in my stomach on the way home from work, wondering whether it is going to be quiet night or not. I have had so many extremely embarrassing drunken episodes with him on vacation, the whole time we are gone I am in fear of what is going to happen.

He doesn’t think that he has a problem. But he does…
He has no self control. It can’t be one or two, it is either all or none. He doesn’t understand any of my feelings. I keep looking for signs of what I should do, all of my friends and family wonder why I stay. I wonder sometimes too. I guess if I could pack a suitcase leave in my car without hurt, pain, anger, and memories… I would. But it isn’t that easy, I wish it were.

Undergoing MyBlogLog Verification

Divorce via Text on your iPod!

2009-03-04T11:00:00.003-05:00

My Very First Date Was Psycho!

2008-12-23T01:21:00.002-05:00

A guy messaged me on MySpace and asked if I would like to meet up for coffee or a drink.

He had cute pictures, so I figured... why not?

So we met at Starbucks and talked for about 45 minutes. Then we parted and things seemed OK.

The next day he sent me an instant message and asked if I would like to come over that night for a few beers. I reluctantly agreed. I didn't know the guy and figured that this is a little dangerous.

I asked him to come to my place. He said..."Don't you have roommates?" I said yes so he said he wasn't coming here. I thought this was suspicious.

So I agreed to go to his place after going against my better judgement. He called me from the store and said that he was picking up beer, rope and duct tape to tie me up with. I told him that wasn't funny.

He sent me a text a few minutes later saying that he is home and to come over.. AND "the axe is real sharp."

I said there is no way I am going over there. That isn't something to joke about when you don't know the person.

I sent him a text saying that I am staying in for the night. He immediately calls and I didn't answer and left a raging mad voicemail. I called back about 30 minutes later and he said he had steam coming out his ears cause I canceled. I thought to myself... if he gets this mad about this, what would happen if we got in a real fight.

So that was my first dating experience and I think for now I will continue to hang out with my friends and have a good time. If I happen to meet someone by some large chance then great, if not, I will be single forever.

I Left Him One Year Ago Today

2008-12-08T11:37:00.004-05:00

I wish I wouldn't have remembered this anniversary so early in the day, but I did.

I moved out one year ago today. I can't say that I could pack more emotions and life experiences into one year. I look back at the last year and think about all of the places I have gone both mentally and physically and I dumbfounded.

Not only was this one of the toughest years mentally for me but I can say that in the past year I have experienced so many different and new things it has been amazing.

I just threw a Christmas party this past weekend and over 100 people showed up. That wouldn't have happened if I was still married. I have so many friends now. Before I had a handful and finding the time to hang out with them would be tough.

I have visited so many new places and traveled more this year than in any other year of my life. I can honestly say that I had a blast this past year. While there were some trying times for me as far as sadness goes but then I would go out and have a blast with friends.

I have grown more this year I think than any other year of my life. I am excited to see what the next year will bring to my life...

So here is a toast to the next year of my life and a toast for making it through the past year!

Why Does She Keep Calling Me?

2008-12-03T23:42:00.002-05:00

My ex-husbands new girlfriend called me again last night. Why won't she leave me alone? She called and babbled on for a while...

I told her that he and I are going to remain good friends for the rest of our life and she needs to accept the fact that I will never quit calling there.

He says everytime I call, she blows up and they get in to a fight. She claims that she doesn't get mad but that isn't true.

She said to me... "I found a nice picture of you guys and I am not even going to tear this one up!"
WTF? I told her not to tear up our pictures because we spent 12 years together and she has no right to tear things up in his home.

WTF is wrong with this girl? I immediately called my ex when I got off the phone with her and told him the entire conversation. She started beeping in on each of our phones and neither one of us answered it, which I am sure burned her up. HAHA!