When it comes to sex, many men tend to do away with foreplay and get into the act of intercourse right away. While that may fulfill your sexual desires, the same cannot be said of your woman. If you truly want to add some zest into your sex life and make sure she enjoys every moment of lovemaking with you, you should never skim on this important aspect of lovemaking. Keep reading for three essential foreplay tips that will surely light her passion and keeping her orgasmic engine revving wildly…

Foreplay Tip #1 – Bring on the adult books

There is something about adult literature that porn movies can never match up: it allows your partner to use her own erotic imagination to visualize what goes on in those story lines. Believe me, this is far more powerful than popping that adult movie into the DVD player. So grab one of those adult books and read them to her and watch as her vivid imagination goes wild!

Foreplay Tip #2 – Bring on the big toys

Sex toys are doing a thriving business these days and they play a far more essential role in your sex lives than you would probably imagine. Vibrators and dildos will help you learn more about her body and what turns her on the most. For instance, different women prefer different speed, intensity and even angles of penetration. By learning what she likes best when using these toys, you can mimic or replicate the same movements on her when making love so that she receives maximum pleasure from you. Well, sex toys are not just for ladies. For example, the penis ring is a great aid to help men last longer in bed and give her a more sensational experience to boot!

Foreplay Tip #3 – Talk dirty… with a difference!

How about engaging in a sexy conversation through phone? Many couples who are a little too inhibited in bed find themselves far more liberated when they talk dirty though the phone. It can take the shyness off her when she cannot see you face to face. By engaging in phone sex, you can really get her to loosen up herself, and with the help of a little dose of alcohol, you may even spice up the conversation! And you don’t have to be far apart to engage in phone sex. Call her at home while you are just in the next room!

By: Craig Foster

About the Author:

Yahir

There can be no denying that when it comes to sex, nothing beats the real thing. However, one cannot also ignore the popularity of several sex toys and the continued introduction of newer models to satisfy a demanding market. This market is growing and as such we should pay attention to how people integrate these items into their sex lives. You should be aware that sex toys can also be used to enhance your sex lives and bring you and your partner to a new level of closeness and intimacy.

Loosely defined, sex toys are devices meant to pleasure the user sexually, usually used on erogenous parts of the body. There are a lot of sex toys available in specialty shops and through the internet, though most condom retailers are offering a product called the vibrating ring.

Probably the most common and most popular sex toy is the vibrator. Majority of its users are women, and most admitted to curiosity as the primary reason for initial usage. Though some prefer to use vibrators in private, it can also be used with a partner. For heterosexuals, vibrators can be handy when the guy comes off too fast. It can also be a part of your foreplay, to arouse you and your partner to greater heights. In instances when the vibrator is shared, as in lesbian couples, slip a condom over it before inserting into the vagina and put a new one before handing it to your partner. Make sure that it is also properly cleaned before storing.

Dildos are also quite popular among the ladies, as they mimic the shape, texture, and size of a real penis, though they require considerably more effort than battery operated or rechargeable vibrators. Again, it would do some good if you slip on a condom over it before using, especially among lesbians who use it to pleasure their partners. And even if you are using it alone to masturbate, a condom would still be advisable unless you are pretty sure your storage place is totally devoid of germs and other irritants.

There is also one recently introduced product that is fast gaining a loyal following, the vibrating ring. It is a device that is slipped on the penis, and over a condom, and is used to enhance the pleasure of both partners. The vibrating ring has a small battery within the rubber casing. Women who have tried it claim of achieving multiple orgasms through the use of vibrating ring. And the best part of this is that men can take part of the action, too. A vibrating ring is known to extend the erection of the penis. It also has bumps and raised surfaces for heightened pleasure. And because it is stretchable, a vibrating ring can accommodate any size of penis. Vibrating ring users also revel in the fact that this device is portable, easily concealed and thus can be carried almost anywhere.

Though the use of sex toys to achieve self-gratification is an effective method of birth control, don’t think it will turn you away from the pleasure of real, consensual sex. With the availability of contraceptives and protective devices such as condoms and pill, sex is and will always remain to be life’s most enjoyable activity. However, there is still no denying that dildos, vibrators, and the vibrating ring afford much pleasure to their users and will continue to enjoy great popularity.

By: Ken Brower

About the Author:

Makaila

Toys aren’t just for kids anymore. And with the vast array of sex toys that are being made and created for adults, there’s no reason for you to not find something that pleases you—in so very many ways.

Talking about sex

The trick with talking about sex and things that you’d like to do in order to improve your sex life is to not bring it up right after or right before you’re actually doing the ‘deed.’

You want to find a time that’s outside of the bedroom and unrushed. Talk in a secluded corner of a restaurant or in your kitchen. Stay out of the bedroom for the moment. You don’t want to cause any undue pressure and scare him or her away.

Be honest and open about what you’ve been thinking about. Are you thinking about trying some new toys in general or do you want to share some finds with your partner? Talk about the benefits that you’ve discovered, and see what their feelings are as well. They may be perfectly open to trying something new.

But if they aren’t, then you may want to avoid putting any pressure on them. See if you can discuss it further down the road, and let them initiate anything further.

When they’ve said yes

When your partner has agreed to try some things out, don’t jump up and down (wait until they’re gone for that), but start the conversation about things that sound like fun.

Many times, going onto an Internet site together is the best way to look without pressure or embarrassment. Not that there’s any reason for you to be embarrassed, but someone who is new can feel very vulnerable and timid. The anonymity of online can be very helpful. There are also user reviews many times as well as pictures.

There are many websites on the web to get you started on the road to pleasure. Look for the REAL user reviews as well as the great pictures. You’ll be sure to see something that you like, or something you’d like to try out. With the clear menus and thousands upon thousands of options, you’re sure to be caught looking for hours.

Online shopping gives you anonymity and discreetness. And without a salesperson or clerk looking over your shoulder, you can take your time and really pick out what you want. There’s no one trying to force you into buying something because they need a commission.

Starting off

One of the first forays into sex toys is usually a vibrator or dildo for a woman. Many women can not climax with just penetration or they need something to fill up the lonely days. Vibrators are terrific because not only can they stimulate vaginally, but they can also be used on the clitoris as well.

And although it seems like there aren’t as many toys for men, you just have to look a little harder. Why not try out a penis pump or a penis ring? Both of these can create an overwhelming sensation in the sensitive penis tip. Rings in general work by creating a sense of sensory deprivation, so that the man can ‘last longer’ until the opportune moment.

These can be especially difficult to purchase in person, especially if you’re a newbie. Try an online site to scope out the choices before settling on one penis toy or another.

A little more advanced

If you’re tried the vibrators and the penis toys, then you’re ready to venture into other areas. Anal play is something that many couples would like to try, but they’re not quite sure how to begin.

Anal beads can be a great way to give an added sense of stimulation during any other sexual acts. Of course, dildos and vibrators can also be used for this purpose, but these can be overly large and difficult for the beginner. Start off small and use a lot of lubricant to help with the beginning stages.

Tying it all up

And of course, there are always the non-mechanical toys for couples. Bondage play is a popular way to heighten the orgasm experience. By restraining one of the members of the couple, the other can taunt for hours if they want to.

With bondage however, you will want to start simple and work your way to more advanced restraint applications.

You might like to try a blindfold ,arm guards, collar and leash play or some effective looking accessories to make you look AND feel the part!

When it comes to toys, your imagination is your best guide. Talk about your fantasies and see how you might be able to make them come true. And do a little online voyeurism, who knows where that will lead when you’re done shopping?

By: Iris Emery

About the Author:

Glenn

Where Does Great Sex Begin?

The greatest sex you’ll ever have whether you are married, single, man or woman always starts as thoughts of having sex. Thoughts may grow into fondness, passion, desire or love. These are all key elements of feeling the earth move when you are having wonderful sex. Without the initial mental/ physical attraction in your mind, great sex will likely not occur for you. Having great sex every time includes every aspect of a relationship or marriage.

I Think I Found my Man, Now what?

Firstly, unless you had a warm fuzzy feeling. A feeling where you feel a sense of out-of-control inner passion then you know, there’s no “I think”! I have a great sex life and it comes from creativity and imagination within my relationship. The first time I had sex with my partner it I can recall my body shaking when we finally got down and dirty. This was after a 5 a year platonic relationship which ended up in a month of serious dating, then WHOA.

“Sex is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation. The other eight are unimportant.” — George Burns

How Important is Having Great Sex Life?

It’s a great bonus but there are people that live without a having a great sex life, I just don’t know how?. To keep my myself satisfied there are several ways I do this. We need to keep variety and spice in your marriage or relationship to have a better sex life. A woman’s guide to a great sex life sex may differ greatly from a man’s. This is where there is a meeting of the minds…a sexual discovery of a sort. A time where a newlywed couple engages in sexual activity designed to discover a the keys to a great sex life. Although having great sex in a marriage is not mandatory it is certainly icing on the cake. I am going to share a few crazy thoughts that run through my head that work great for me below.

My Personal Fun Sex Prep Recipe

Think of great new sex ideas to drive your man crazy. Do you like getting tickled during crazy sex? What is the wildest time during sex you have ever experienced? Do you have good communication between partners? You’ve heard the term “mind sex”….is your mind into it? Is there a new sexual position that you might like to try?

By using your imagination and having a partner equally just as sex starved- it can be to the moon and back. Any stressful situation can be cured with a fresh and exciting round of fun sex, it will become a regular deal with practice. Keep the intimacy alive and wonderful sex will always be a positive factor in your marriage.

For Turbo Charged Sex People

These days there is no need to be embarrassed about walking into an adult shop and getting your own personal sexual toys. There many options and it can be allot of fun walking in and looking at the products. Some of the most popular sexual enhancement toys include:

Jokes Humor Vibrators Handcuffs Blindfold or masks Glass Toys Dildos Male Toys Massage-Lubes Anal Toys DVD’s and Erotica Erotic Clothing Furniture Liberator Shapes Sex Machines Accessories Novelty-Party Lesbian Toys Gay Toys Silicone Toys

You really don’t have to feel like a little kitten walking into an adult novelty shop, there are many men and/or woman that frequent the adult novelty shops to fulfill their sexual appetites or just improve a great sex life. Most sexual toys that are used for sexual penetration require proper maintenance and cleaning. So while you’re there pick up the proper cleaners as well. If you are the shy type, that’s OK to because you can order all of these items online. They are generally delivered in a non discreet packages for your convenience.

You’d be surprised at the number of men, women and married couples who have or have a great sex life all the time, and most of them are think about it right now. If you use any of the sexual aids listed above keep them cleaned and maintained as instructed. If you develop any irritations you should speak to your doctor immediately.

Otherwise, enjoy having the greatest sex

By: Maggie May Johnston

About the Author:

Rocio

Women’s capacity for orgasm is awesome. They can come over and over again, and still be ready for more! This capacity seems almost limitless. They can experience clitoral orgasms, g-spot orgasms, vaginal orgasms, ejaculatory orgasms, blended orgasms, and not only one but multiples of any of these! They’ve even been blessed with a body part, the clitoris, whose only purpose is sexual pleasure. This may all seem a bit unfair to men who typically reach a precipice, fall over the edge, roll over and go to sleep!

Why is it then that so many women are frustrated rather than satisfied? Why is it that for so many loving couples, the female orgasm remains an elusive dream; one in which she’s perhaps become resigned to sex that’s pleasurable but not truly satisfying, or even worse, faking it to salvage her partner’s ego. If it is really bad perhaps she fakes orgasm just to get the sexual ordeal over with! Or he sadly wonders: What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I make her come despite stiff fingers and aching tongue? His sexual self-esteem is wounded, and he secretly feels less of a man believing he has failed her.

The first step on the path to freeing a woman’s orgasm is for both men and women to understand that men do not give women orgasms. Women allow themselves to have orgasms. Despite popular belief, no matter how good a lover you may be, unless your partner can give herself up to the pleasures of her body, she won’t have orgasms. This realization alone can open the door to women becoming orgasmic. It takes the pressure to “perform” off of men, and it frees women to take responsibility for their own sexual fulfillment.

This is very important. If your woman is blaming you, and you may also be blaming yourself for her not having orgasms, it is quite possible, even likely, that you are both looking in the wrong place to solve the problem. Mind you, an unskilled, selfish, or insensitive male lover can be a real problem, and at the very least is certainly a dull bore. And to say that a woman is responsible for her own sexual fulfillment does not mean you revert to a slam-bam-thank-you-ma’am approach to sex and let her fend for herself. After all, the more skilled and attentive a lover is the more pleasure he himself receives, and although you can’t give her an orgasm you certainly can help her to have one, or even lots of them. So even though it’s not entirely up to you, there is something you can do to help.

The biggest barrier to orgasm for women is mental distraction – thoughts that float into her mind, catching her in her head, and taking her away from what’s going on in her body. As soon as she starts thinking, she is out of the moment and will lose touch with her senses and her pleasure. Some of these thoughts may trigger feelings of shame or guilt about experiencing sexual pleasure, for no matter how liberated our attitudes toward sex seem to have become, there yet exists the perception that “good” girls don’t! Even today women are divided into categories of “virgin” or “whore”. Those who engage lustily in the delights of the body are somehow morally questionable. You can help your delectable partner move beyond these pleasure stifling attitudes by letting her know how much you respect, admire and cherish her fully female sensual self. Tell her often, especially when you’re making love, that it thoroughly turns you on to see her let loose the passionate side of her nature.

This is not always easy for men to do. They may have internalized an unconscious conditioning that leads them to accept the rather misogynist belief that women can’t be good and pure, and also be fantastic lovers. If they believe this, they are placing themselves in a very unfortunate situation. This belief system inevitably leads to the man selecting one woman for a partner, spouse and mother, and a different partner for an affair or mistress. Adultery is about the only option left to a man who holds such a belief system. The resulting deceit and lying force a separation between the couple and the relationship ends soon enough, for example in breaking up or divorce. In this scenario, the man is at fault and the solution does lie with him. Only a change in his beliefs will solve this problem.

Sexual abuse is a horror and curse that is unbelievably common in our society. Women that have been sexually abused often have great difficulty in allowing themselves to trust their lover, let go into the sensual moment, and surrender to sexual ecstasy. If your lady is having difficulty experiencing orgasm; if you are a reasonably skilled lover; and if you have communicated to her that you honestly wish her to fully awaken as a sexual partner, then the problem could be some psychological damage from sexual abuse. Ask her about this with the greatest tenderness and caring that you are capable of. Be aware that many women actually blame themselves for their own sexual abuse, so this can be the touchiest of all possible subjects for discussion. If sexual abuse is an issue, it is advisable to encourage her to seek professional counseling or some other form of help.

Besides worrying about whether they are “bad” if they really enjoy and want sex “a lot”, many women worry about enjoying sex the right way. They worry about how they look, smell and taste. They worry that the cellulite in their upper thighs or the slight bulge of tummy fat may quiver unattractively. They worry about being “clean down there”. They worry about how long it takes to reach climax, how much time their man has to spend stroking, licking, and caressing to help them fly over the mountain. All of these thoughts take them out of lovemaking. To help her stay in the pleasures of her body tell her with words and sounds and looks that you adore her, you love to devour her with your tongue, you could keep on touching her forever, it’s a delight to you to give her pleasure. And mean it, because if you haven’t learned how to enjoy pleasuring your partner, pretty soon you won’t have one!

Once she’s able to relax into the joys of lovemaking and focus on the exquisite sensations her body can feel rather than listening to the demon distractors her mind can conjure up, a woman’s path to orgasm is much clearer. With particular loving skills of your own you can assist her to break that path wide open.

Most men enjoy having their genitals touched at any time, whether they’re sexually aroused or not. This isn’t usually the case with women. Think of the vagina as a “potential” opening, a magical door that will happily open wide to receive you, but only after you’ve called ahead to ensure your welcome. Be certain she’s eager for your genital explorations by focusing loving attention on other parts of her body first – lots of kissing, neck nuzzling, tender strokes on back, shoulders and arms, then adoring caresses of her breasts. Only after you sense she’s ready, through signs like rapid breathing, flushed skin, hardened nipples or enticing moans should you move to her vagina. Once your hand or mouth is at her sweet honey pot begin to explore it from the outside inward – outer lips, clitoris, inner lips, vaginal canal.

Generally women reach orgasm most easily through clitoral stimulation. The clitoris is extremely sensitive to touch of all kinds. Often the head of the clitoris, the pointed tip, is too sensitive for much direct pressure, so focus your attention on the sides. Touch around the clitoris instead of right on it, at least until her level of excitement increases. The skin tissue of your fingers is not nearly as sensitive as the tissue around her clitoris. But the tissue of your mouth and tongue is an almost perfect match in sensitivity. Unless you are more highly skilled in using your fingers, it is a much safer way to start by using your mouth for oral stimulation of the clitoris. Experiment with different pressures, strokes and speeds. Ask her which ones she likes best. A good way to do this is to try two different touches, then ask her if she likes “a” or “b” better.

If she’s willing, invite her to masturbate for you so you can learn exactly how she likes to be touched. Many women are shy to do this at first but with some gentle encouragement she may really show her wanton self. It can be a great turn-on for both of you. Many men are actually quite frightened by a woman who is fully sexually awakened. They may doubt their own ability as a man to keep up, or to be able to perform adequately. They may fear that if she is too much woman sexually for him, that she may go elsewhere and find what she wants. It may help you to overcome this fear if you remember that you are not responsible for giving your lady sexual satisfaction. She must do that for herself. But if this fear is very strong, you may seek counseling help to deal with it.

When you do find a particular stroke or caress that is really driving her wild, keep doing it and keep doing it and keep doing it. Don’t change anything about it. Don’t go faster, slower, softer, harder, or switch direction. Keep doing exactly the same thing until she lets you know she wants a change either through words or body movement. This holds true whether you’re pleasuring her clitorally or vaginally with your fingers or your mouth. Keep going even if your hands or mouth get really tired!

It’s a good idea to wait until she is very aroused before entering her vagina either with your fingers or your penis. Generally if she’s not wet, she’s not ready. It’s as simple as that. If your lover doesn’t have a lot of natural vaginal juices even when she is fully aroused be sure to use a good silicone or water-based lubricant. Nothing can be a quicker turn-off than rough, dry skin rubbing on soft vaginal tissues. Water-based or silicone lubricant is better because oil can clog the sensitive vaginal tissue.

The most sensitive part of a woman’s vaginal canal is the first inch to two inches. It’s here that most of the nerve endings are located, so when you first enter her concentrate most of your attention there. The elusive g-spot can usually be found in this general area, on the top of the vaginal wall, a couple of inches in. Imagine a glass lying on the floor. If you reach your first two fingers into the glass at the top, i.e., toward the ceiling rather than the bottom towards the floor, you should find it. It is difficult to reach the g-spot through intercourse, so you will find it much easier with you fingers than with your penis. There are also some interesting dildos and vibrators with just the right shape to reach the G-spot. Move your index finger or your first two fingers in a “come hither” motion (as if you were asking someone from across the room to come over to where you are) and gently stroke her. When you touch her g-spot you may notice a more bumpy or raised area of skin, but you may not. The best way to know you’ve found this highly intense love spot is by her reaction. Where you look is not quite as important as when you look. Unless she is excited through and through, perhaps from a clitoral orgasm beforehand, it can be difficult to find the g-spot.

Stimulation of the g-spot can produce extraordinarily intense orgasms. As a woman is approaching a g-spot orgasm she may feel she has to urinate. This may immediately cause her to tighten up, stop, and pull back from the edge of bliss. If she can stay relaxed and keep going through that “have-to-pee” sensation it will pass and move on into deep waves of sexual delight. The woman should urinate before intercourse begins, so she can be more confident that the feeling that she has to urinate is a misleading feeling and can be safely ignored.

For most women it is difficult to reach a climax through intercourse alone. This is because the sensitive clitoris isn’t easily stimulated just by thrusting motions; the g-spot is difficult to reach with even a fully erect penis; and because often the male partner goes over the edge into ejaculatory orgasm before the woman has had enough action to bring her to the heights. If you touch her clitoris before and during intercourse, and if you’ve pleasured her vaginally by touching the g-spot with your fingers, the chances are much better that she will have a deep vaginal orgasm while your penis is inside her.

Learn the strokes that turn her on. Tell her how fabulous it is that she’s sensual and sexual. Let her know you adore her body and love to touch and kiss it for hours. Help her forget about trying to make orgasm happen and focus instead on thoroughly enjoying every moment of lovemaking. If you awaken your multi-orgasmic woman you are going to like it!

By: Al Link

About the Author:

Jerry

1. What is a sexually transmitted disease or STD?

Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD) is the politically correct term for what used to be called “veneral disease (VD)”. These are diseases that are transmitted through or as the result of sexual activity (not just sexual intercourse).

There are no BDSM specific sexually transmitted diseases but like any other sexual activity BDSM activity CAN spread STDs.

Heterosexuals are a lot less STD aware than the homosexual world is, but they should be just as educated on the subject. As a result, the current risk groups for any STD are heterosexual women.

There are many different sexually transmitted diseases and certainly not all are directly related to the genital organs.

General information is freely and widely available from doctors, hospitals, first aid centers, pharmacies and of course on the Internet.

2. How does one get STD infected?

Some sexually transmitted diseases are viruses, others are caused by bacteria, some by plain and simple dirt. As a result, there are different ways, in which people can get STD infected. An important form of STD infection is the contact between bodily fluids (most importantly blood, sperm, vaginal fluids and mother milk). This is especially true the most lethal ones in the Western world: such as Hepatitis (around in different varieties) and HIV (Aids). As a result, contact with bodily fluids should be avoided by anyone who has more than one partner (even if that is only incidental) and partners who have not been solely together for MANY years (not months). Incubation time (the “lead” time before the actual infection shows itself), in the case of HIV for example may be as much as five to seven years.

Another well known cause of STD infection is lack of hygiene. In the BDSM world especially quite a lot of personal hygiene is neglected. Toys that have been on the floor or in a toy bag should not be used unless cleaned and – when brought into contact with the genital area – protected. One should wear latex gloves during penetration, especially when in a (more) public environment.

3. What do I do when I (think I) am STD infected?

There is only one answer: visit your doctor as soon as possible. Bear in mind that your doctor is not there to judge you, but to cure you. And yes, doctors have seen it all before and many times. If you feel troubled by having to go to your doctor, turn to a first aid center or a specific STD center if there is one in your area.

Every STD spreads like wildfire! They are among the most contagous diseases. In most cases if you are infected, you do not only have a responsibility to yourself, but also to your partner(s) and to an extent to you entire environment.

4. Can an STD be cured?

Some can, and some cannot. There are no cures yet for HIV, hepatitis C and various forms of herpes, for example. HIV and hepatitis C are potentially lethal. So is syphylus, but there is a good cure for this disease.

5. Does an STD only effect me?

Every STD will effect you but most will also effect your partner and maybe others (such as unborn children) if not properly taken care of. Sometimes an STD can be the cause of dead babies or incurable medical problems. Some will not really effect the bearer, but will badly effect the partner and – for example – cause infertility (in males especially).

6. How do I protect myself against STD infection?

Your first line of defense is strict personal hygiene. Wear latex gloves and use condoms, also on penetrating toys, such as dildos and vibrators. Regularly clean equipment and – for example – wash bondage ropes.

The second important line of defense is to educate yourself. Again, know what the risks are and avoid them.

7. Does an STD spread quicker, because of BDSM activity?

The BDSM community is very open. It is not unusual to temporarily exchange partners, people switch partners frequently and such things as BDSM parties open an easy risk for infection. Besides, BDSM activity implies much more physical contact than most other forms of sexual behavior and there is the frequent use of toys and equipment. So, there indeed are more opportunities for infection, compared to a standard vanilla relationship. As a result – although no real research has been done in this area – there should be a higher risk of spreading an STD.

8. What BDSM activities are likely to spread an STD?

All forms of penetration, genital or by means of toys, fingers, fists or the mouth are activities that can transmit an STD. In terms of BDSM there are also other activities. Whipping may occasionally cause small superficial skin wounds and any breakage of the skin is a serious crack in the bodies main line of defense against diseases, including many STDs. Bondage ropes, used in the genital area, are a well known vehicle for sexually transmitted diseases and so are internal toys (vibrators, dildos, Ben Wah balls, vibrating eggs, etcetera). Nipple clamps may also cause small skin wounds. In general, BDSM activity is much more physically intens and physically demanding than most other forms of sexual activity. As a result, you should be more careful.

9. Why do governmental and health organisation hardly ever mention BDSM-acitivity in their STD information?

Most forms of what is generally known as “alternative sexuality” (such as BDSM) are overlooked by governmental and health organisations, when it comes to information and education about STD risks. The reason for this is largely in the fact that such organisations simply will not believe there are that many practitioners and that such organisations have no clue about BDSM. “Alternative sexuality” in the entire education of health care professionals usually takes up as much space (and attention) as ONE PAGE IN ONE BOOK! That is, if alternative sexuality is being mentioned at all!

10. How can I help to inform people about STD risks?

If you happen to be active in a local BDSM community, or for example have a personal website about BDSM, try and devote some time and space to sexually transmitted diseases occasionally. For example, next to workshops about flogging, bondage or needle play, a workshop about STD prevention will be very helpful. But, since this is not a popular subject you may also want to settle for having leaflets available, writing something in your magazine or newsletter if you have one and putting information on websites.

By: Hans Meijer

About the Author:

Alexander

Do you and your partner have fun when making love? Individual sexualities and sexual activities should be enjoyed, and intimacy should be satisfying.

Do you and your partner have fun while having sex? Do you play with toys? Of course, you don’t need sex toys to orgasm, but they can add to sexual fun. So, you might want to invest in a few sex toys, for yourself and for your lover.

One sure fire way for women to achieve orgasm, is by clitoris stimulation. But, orgasm can be more powerful by experiencing vagina penetration and clitoral stimulation, at the same time. Women’s bodies are sensitive on the inside, as well as the outside, and sensations in both areas are deliciously sensual.

Of course, fingers can cause you to orgasm, but vibrators, dildos, and dongs can add that extra punch to the mix. Add vibrators, bullets, and clitoral pumps to clitoral sensations, and you’ve got an explosive situation!

IN THE BEGINNING:
A woman should know how to masturbate and climax, without the aid of a sex toy, before adding battery operated toys to her playtime. Knowing how to stimulate herself and reach orgasm allows her to get acquainted with her body and its pleasure zones before adding more stimulation.

But, if you are an experienced masturbater, or if you can’t get that orgasm by using just your fingers, there are toys available. In fact, there are so many sex toys on the market, that you’ll never want for anything again!

BULLETS:
For instance, a vibrating bullet is the best way to stimulate your clitoris while masturbation, and/or while having sex with a partner. These wonderful little bullets can arouse sensations anywhere on your body. Gently touching breasts, nipples, balls, or penis with these vibrating wonders, delivers a powerful punch. If you’re unfamiliar with bullets, they are toys that quickly tease your body into a frenzy. They’re small and won’t interfere with things your partner may be doing. And, if your all by yourself, a bullet will be your best sex friend. Bottom line – every woman must have a bullet!

Vibrators can be the next best thing to a bullet. They’re actually a longer version of the small bullet, but can be used externally or internally, and add more options for stimulation. Usually, vibrators make louder, and distinctive sounds, so if secrecy is an issue, you might want to stick with a bullet.

Try running the vibrator over your body, up your stomach, and down your thighs. Place it between your vaginal lips, and let the slow buzz build a fire. Gently place the tip of the vibrator on your clitoris for tremendous pleasure, or insert it and use a finger for clitoral stimulation. Vibrators are multi-purpose and can add a lot to your play time.

DUAL ACTION VIBRATORS:
Dual Action Vibrators are another best friend. These gems go above and beyond, doing double duty with insertion and clitoral stimulation at the same time! These toys are wonderful, but you should know how to climax without toys, before you invest in any of these marvels. Some dual action vibrators are waterproof, some spin, some are big, and some are small. All you need to do is find the one that works the best for you. These vibrators do all the work for you, so if you want quick or multiple orgasms, this type of sex toy is your best bet.

CLITORAL PUMPS:
Clitoral Pumps add just a bit of extra stimulation. They work by pumping up the clitoral area and help to fill it with blood. If you’re experiencing difficulty to reach climax, a pump might be your answer. This toy makes the clitoris sensitive and responsive to anything and everything! And, pumps can be found with a vibrating function.

Definitely, all of these toys have a place in the line of pleasure. Here’s a few techniques and advice to enhance their abilities. Always take your time, go slow, enjoy the ride, and build-up to the big moment. Use your fingers to get yourself aroused.

Toys, like bullets or vibrators, to heighten stimulation, and help you reach climax. If you want to experience sexual frenzy, use the toy to stimulate your clitoris, bringing your body just to the brink of orgasm – then STOP. Your body will scream for more! Now, touch your excited clitoris with the toy, and be prepared to have an explosive orgasm. You’re sensitivity level will be off the chart, and most likely, you’ll be able to have multiple orgasms!

But, why stop now? Becoming multi-orgasmic can be the ultimate experience, and a gift to you and your lover. Masturbating with a toy for the second, third, and fourth rounds easily turns this goal into a reality. You’ll never be satisfied with just one orgasm again!

It’s important to remember to use sex toys as an enhancement; they are not a replacement for self-touch. Once you’ve learned how to successfully give yourself an orgasm, time and time again, you can try new techniques and toys. But, the key is to go slow, arouse yourself, and thoroughly enjoy the experience. If you choose, you might want to share your toys and techniques with your lover, and enjoy your new-found freedom and exquisite treats, together!

ENCOURAGEMENT
Information within this article explores different ideals and concepts, and provides basic masturbation techniques. Self-touch and pleasure is a personal thing, and if you have developed ways that work for you, good – GO FOR IT!

If you have and use toys, that’s great! Just remember to use your fingers for a slow build-up before playing with your toys. Sex toys are wonderful enhancements for any sex life – solo or with a partner. Don’t be intimidated, find something and give that will give you the gift of pleasure. Whether you’re alone or with a partner, masturbation is essential to have healthy and satisfying sex. This article is meant to provide basic tips and techniques for self pleasure. Masturbation is a personal experience, so do what you like and thoroughly enjoy!

By: Jessie Penn

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Sexual health is as important as the physical health. Sometimes boredom sets in and you need to find newer ways at creating the sexual attraction.

New ways at sexual experience

1. Use props. Props tend to bring novelty to sex. You should consider them especially if your partner enjoys using them when he or she is masturbating. There are different props which could be from the dildos to vibrators and massaging creams. Props go well with role plays.

2. Try different places. A place change could be handy. Just a simple change of place can trigger senses of uniqueness. You would not just enjoy it but also have a completely unique experience which you can remember for the rest of your life. It is something like you trying to remember your couch at home and the green park. You would definitely go for the green park. All the excitement of getting caught and thought of being one with nature.

3. Surprise each other. Try to take her out to a romantic restaurant on a hill station. Go for a surprise vacation over the weekend. Get some props for her if she loves it. Anything that has a feel of bringing novelty should be your target. If you shaved your genitals for her, say that cosily to her. It might be a gesture she was longing for.

4. Explore each other. Erogenous parts need stimulation before you are satisfied. Know the exact spots like the back of the neck, opposite side of the juncture of knee cap and even the arm pit for that matter.

By: Pramod Shet

About the Author:

Ayana

You do not have to be stuck in a rut when it comes to your sex life. You can use role playing as well as explore each of your fantasies to bring a whole new meaning into your sex life together! Here are 3 ways to get started with some hot sex moves that will surely bring your girl to tantalizing orgasms every time…

#1 – Write 5 of your fantasies down and put them in a hat

Have her do the same. The draw out one of the fantasies out of the hat and decide to act it out. You can choose from a variety of different role playing fantasies that you can then put into use to really give your sex life the spark that it needs. It can be difficult to discuss the fantasies, but once you let loose and write them down, there will be no stopping either of you!

#2 – Watch an X-rated film

There are plenty of opportunities to watch x-rated films today. Find out what you like about these films by way of what goes on in the movie and then decide to act it all out. Watching an X-rated film together is one sure way to get you both heated up. Make sure that the film that you choose is more of a soft porn film that is made to titillate a woman as opposed to hard core porn that is made primarily for the gratification of men.

#3 – Use sex toys

You no longer have to be embarrassed to purchase sex toys by going to the adult shop. You can purchase vibrators, dildos and other sex novelties that you can use in your sex life to give it a bit of a rejuvenation right online. A vibrator can make a woman reach a shooting orgasm in less than a minute if placed on her clitoris. Use these sex toys as part of your sex life and they will open up a whole new erotic world for both of you!

By: Evan Kinney

About the Author:

Damarion

How many out there have thought of going into an “adult” shop but have never done so out of embarrassment? “What if someone recognizes me?” is a popular excuse or maybe you feel they are “dirty” places where perverts go to get their jollies. So what if someone recognizes you. Throw it right at them before they can say anything or look at you in anyway. Say, “Yeah I was just in this sex shop here and boy do they have a good selection of butt plugs. I would have bought some only I already had this enormous vibrator and these crotchless panties.” Sex is nothing to be embarrassed about, sex is fun, and you’re supposed to have fun with it. If fun for you means body chocolate and leather chaps then you go for it, go all out for it.

As for those who feel that sex shops are dirty and the realm of perverts, there’s a whole new genre of sex shops out there catering for more sensitive, selective and aesthetically picky women. Oh yes, women. Women are taking charge of their own sexuality, this means more than women leading sexually risky lives and it means more than women taking more initiative within their sex lives as a couple. It means that they are taking control back of their sexuality completely. Sex toys allow women to take control of their own pleasure. They decide which toy, where, when and how long. They decide whether or not to include their partners if they have one. And they can decide how much to include their partners.

One advantage of sex toys that you may not think of, other than all of the obvious ones, is that they can increase communication in your relationship. They are a good way of demonstrating how you want things done, and of showing the results of having it done properly. They open up the communication lines regarding sex and once you can talk freely about sex, really what can you not talk about? Virtually nothing is taboo. Your relationship becomes more open and honest and benefits all around. And you have all the fun in the world at the same time.

Another quite popular thing at the moment, and something that a lot of women are far more comfortable with rather than actually going into a sex shop, is Pleasure-Ware Parties. Think Tupperware parties but with dildos and lubricant instead of tubs and lids. These are organised by one adventurous/curious woman who invites as many friends as possible (15 is usually a good number) and they all get together one night for a good giggle and some elucidation. The friends need not all be women, couples are more than welcome but most parties are usually women only because that’s how women feel most comfortable. It’s when they feel freest to touch and examine the products to their hearts content and also, to ask the boldest, most direct questions. When hosting a Pleasure-Ware party it is important to let people know what to expect, the party must be consensual for all concerned. A large table is needed to display all of the products. Alternatively you need a lot of putting place. There are a lot of products that need to be displayed.

Some recurring questions, usually to do with vibrators, are regarding size and design. The key recommendations here are start small and start simple and when you are used to these, move up. If you have a boyfriend/husband you may use him as a size reference. It is also recommended that you always use lubricant; it makes everything easier and more fun all round. Do not forget to clean your toys after use. This is very important. It is important because it is basic hygiene and we all love hygiene, and it is important because cleaning your toys will help them to last longer.

After all the giggling and laughing and examining and questioning and explaining have been done, there is an opportunity for everyone who is interested to place orders for their favoured items.

The world of sex is far more mainstream now than it has ever been before. It is now welcomed into the living rooms of housewives and business executives with ease and anticipation. If it can be so easily welcomed into our homes, surely it is no stretch for us to be able to walk towards it and enter sex shops with equal equanimity? Embrace the true sexual revolution. Do not be embarrassed about the leather harness or edible undies that you buy. People envy those who are sexually free. Its time you took those steps and liberated yourself.

By: Sandy Cosser

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Nia