Dom Fernandez gets IT done ...

As I've aged, I've become kinder, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend.

I have seen too many dear friends leave this world, too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.

Whose business is it, if I choose to read, or play, on the computer, until 4 AM, or sleep until noon?

I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 50, 60 &70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love, I will.

I will walk the beach, in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves, with abandon, if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set.

They, too, will get old. I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten.

And, I eventually remember the important things. Sure, over the years, my heart has been broken.

How can your heart not break, when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody's beloved pet gets hit by a car?

But, broken hearts are what give us strength, and understanding, and compassion. A heart never broken, is pristine, and sterile, and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face.

So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver. As you get older, it is easier to be positive.

You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.

So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be.

Christmas Favorites

2011-12-15T15:34:00.001-05:00

Adeste Fideles by Frank Sinatra
All I Want for Christmas by Spike Jones
Blue Christmas by Elvis Presley
Carol of the Bells by Mormon Tabernacle Choir
Do You Hear What I Hear by Whitney Houston
Do You Hear What I Hear by Perry Como
Here Comes Santa Claus by Doris Day
Frosty the Snowman by Jimmy Durante
Feliz Navidad by Jose Feliciano
God Rest Ye Merry Gentlement by Nat King Cole
I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus by Jimmy Boyd
Jingle Bell Rock by Bobby Helms
Jingle Bells by Frank Sinatra
Joy to the World by Nat King Cole
Let It Snow by Dean Martin
Little Saint Nick by The Beach Boys
Merry Christmas To You by Nat King Cole
O Tannenbaum by Nat King Cole
Rockin' Around the Christmas Tree by Brenda Lee
Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer by Gene Autry
Santa Claus is Comin' to Town by Bruce Springsteen
Santa Baby Eartha Kitt & Henri Rene
Sleigh Ride by Leroy Anderson
The Little Drummer Boy by Bing Crosby
That Spirit of Christmas by Ray Charles
It's Christmas Day by The Balfron Christmas Stars
It's the Most Wonderful Time of the Year by Andy Williams
White Christmas by The Drifters
White Christmas by Bing Crosby

Holy Jolly Christmas 2011

2011-12-15T10:34:00.000-05:00

Lyrics | Christmas Songs lyrics - Holly Jolly Christmas lyrics Have a holly jolly Christmas It's the best time of the year Well I don't know if there'll be snow But have a cup of cheer Have a holly jolly Christmas And when you walk down the street Say hello to friends you know And everyone you meet Ho ho the mistletoe Hung where you can see Somebody waits for you Kiss her once for me Have a holly jolly Christmas And in case you didn't hear Oh, bygolly Have a holly jolly Christmas This year Have a holly jolly Christmas And when you walk down the street Say hello to friends you know And everyone you meet Have a holly jolly Christmas And in case you didn't hear Oh, bygolly Have a holly jolly Christmas This year

Embrace Change - it's the Only Constant!

2011-11-26T09:14:00.000-05:00

Embrace Change -- Grow With the Flow...

Are You Getting Better -- Or Just Getting Older? Learning can take many forms: classroom study, reading, travel, life experiences or collaboration with others. When you pay attention, there's always an opportunity to learn.

When you think of life as a spiral of continuous improvements, there's always a higher place to which you can aspire.

Who is Anna Hazare ???

2011-04-14T11:59:00.000-04:00

Anna Hazare is an ex-army jawan who fought in the 1965 Indo-Pak War, and is the only survivor of his Unit that was wiped-out in one of those encounters!

He has built a village Ralegaon Siddhi in Ahmed Nagar district, Maharashtra - this village is a self-sustained model wherein energy, for consumption, is produced in the village itself from solar power, bio-fuel and wind mills. In 1975, it used to be a poverty-stricken village. Today it is one of the richest village in India - making it a self-sustained, eco-friendly & harmonic village model!

Anna Hazare was awarded Padma Bhushan and is a known figure for his social activities. Today, he has taken up the cause of Amendment of a law that seeks to curb corruption in India!

He is advocating for a Bill, The Jan Lokpal Bill (The Citizen Ombudsman Bill), that will form an autonomous authority who will make politicians (ministers), bureaucrats (IAS/IPS) accountable for their deeds.

In 1972, the bill was proposed by then Law minister Mr. Shanti Bhushan. Since then it has been neglected by the politicians and some are trying to change the bill to suit their corrupt needs!

The first thing he is asking for is: The government should come forward and announce that the bill is going to be passed, after which a Joint Committee is got together to DRAFT the JAN LOKPAL BILL. 50% government participation and 50% public participation.

When the Bill becomes Law a LokPal will be appointed at the centre - this individual will have autonomous charge (similar to the Election Commission of India). In each State a Lokayukta will be appointed. The job is to bring all alleged corruption-charges to trial within 1 year.

The guilty would be punished and justice served within two (2) years - unlike scams such as Bofors, Bhopal Gas and many more that are still under litigation for more than 25 years!

Anna Hazare is not alone in this cause! Baba Ramdev, Ex. IPS Kiran Bedi, Social Activist Swami Agnivesh, RTI activist Arvind Kejriwal and many more are actively involved. Prominent personalities like Aamir Khan (film-actor) is supporting his cause.

What can we do?
Spread this message through emails, Social-networking sites and step-up the tempo!

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2011-04-05T12:41:00.000-04:00

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2011-04-05T09:59:00.000-04:00

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2011-03-25T17:32:00.008-04:00

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2011-03-25T13:34:00.002-04:00

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2011-03-17T13:14:00.000-04:00

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Would You Agree???

2011-03-07T12:56:00.000-05:00

I believe that we were all sent here for a reason
and that we all have significance in the world.

I genuinely feel that we are all blessed with unique gifts. The expression of our gifts contributes to a cause greater than ourselves.

Would you agree?

Have You LAUGHED Yet, Today???

2011-03-05T08:56:00.000-05:00

"An optimist may see a light where there is none, but why must the pessimist always run to blow it out?" ___ Michel De Saint-Pierre

Act Cheerfully -- Have More Fun.
SMILE... SMILE... SMILE...

Do you need to work on your happiness habit?Call a friend who makes you laugh, read the comic page, smile at yourself in the mirror,ask someone for a good joke, rent a funny movie or play a game you loved as a kid.

Productivity increases with happiness. Produce some now.

Enthusiam >>>

2011-03-05T00:16:00.000-05:00

A State of Mind that inspires and arouses a person to action!

It is contagious and affects not only the enthused, but also everyone with whom he or she comes in contact.
It is vital moving force, like gasoline to an engine!

If you mix enthusiasm with your work, you will become a powerful influence on others,
AND your work will never become difficult or monotonous!

Feel Good >>>

2011-03-01T13:56:00.000-05:00

Do you feel good, AT LEAST once or twice a day!?!

Acknowledge and preferably write it down!

We are often good at blaming ourselves and others for not living up to our expectations of perfection! And, we focus on weaknesses

- ours and others. We expend energies on the negative - when we look for things to be grateful about, we elevate our thoughts
and expectations to generate more of the same.

One way to magnify our strengths (as well as those of others) is to acknowledge ourselves (and others) for at least one thing done well daily.

Let us train ourselves to look for what may be missing, that if put into place, would bring about results we desire.

(WoW [words of wisdom] ... now to put it into PRACTICE!)

Opportunity > Danger >

2011-02-18T09:36:00.005-05:00

"Wherever there is danger, there lurks opportunity;
whenever there is opportunity, there lurks danger.
The two are inseparable. They go together."
~ Earl Nightingale
Focus on Tasks that give you much satisfaction
(since rewards are in-sync with your wants)!
Use Time wisely - identify unimportant activities and discard them.
Spend time on those that "pay-off"!

Perform To Your Full Potential - Choose Success over Failure.

Eliminate NEGATIVES ... focus on your POSITIVES.

Goals ...

2011-02-13T16:58:00.000-05:00

Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan, in which we must
fervently believe, and upon which we must vigorously act. There is no other
route to success. Stephen A. Brennan

The tragedy of life doesn’t lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies
in having no goals to reach. Benjamin Mays

Without goals, and plans to reach them, you are like a ship that has set
sail with no destination. Fitzhugh Dodson

You must have long term goals to keep you from being frustrated by short
term failures. Charles C. Noble

Man is a goal seeking animal. His life only has meaning if he is reaching
out and striving for his goals. Aristotle

You Will Never Grow Old ... While ...

2011-02-07T09:32:00.001-05:00

I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less grey hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've become kinder to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend. I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio. I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant.

I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.

Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 AM and sleep until noon? I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 60 &70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love ..... I will.

I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set. They, too, will get old.
I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things.

Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody's beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.

I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning grey, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face.
So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver.

As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think.. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong.

So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day (if I feel like it).

MAY OUR FRIENDSHIP NEVER COME APART,
ESPECIALLY WHEN IT'S STRAIGHT FROM THE HEART!

Persist With Passion >>>

2011-02-05T10:59:00.000-05:00

Need Results >>> Persist Until Results are Attained...
If You Don't Ask >>> You Don't Get! Take risks >>> without commitment and courage, not much is ACHIEVED!

Get out of your Comfort-Zone, and a whole NEW world is opened out for you!

Minimize Mistakes ...

2011-02-04T09:23:00.000-05:00

"Excellence is doing ordinary things extraordinarily well."~ John W. Gardner

Minimize Mistakes by Following Checklists...

Write down each item that is a to-do item, no matter how small. Keep your lists in one easily found location i.e., one file or one book. Your lists are your map. Refer to them often to see where you've been, where you are and where you're going.

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2011-01-29T21:16:00.000-05:00

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2011-01-27T19:58:00.001-05:00

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Owning Your Car ...

2010-12-22T10:47:00.002-05:00

Can you imagine having the same car for 82 years?!!!

I guess it was no longer under warranty...

"How Long Have You Owned a Car?"

Mr. Allen Swift ( Springfield , MA.) received this 1928 Rolls-Royce Picadilly P1 Roadster

From his father, brand new - as a graduation gift in 1928.

He drove it up until his death last year.....at the age of 102 !!!

He was the oldest living owner of a car from new. Just thought you'd like to see it.

He donated it to a Springfield museum after his death. It has 170,000 miles on it, still runs like a Swiss watch, dead silent at any speed and is in perfect cosmetic condition. (82 years)

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THE MESSAGE OF CHRISTMAS ... Tulip DSouza (nee Fernandez)

2010-12-22T09:36:00.000-05:00

The Christmas story we are told…….occurred many centuries ago

Yet it sure would not hurt-if I were to relate it once more………

For the message of Christmas is---Peace, Joy and Love

Gifts that the Good Lord sends from above!

It tells us about……

A young maiden-so pure and trusting:

She said “Yes” to God’s Word----without hesitating.

It tells us how a young man

Had so much love that he willingly complied with God’s plan!

It tells us how-in the whole of Bethlehem

There was no one willing to share their room

And so, in a stable…..with hay for his cradle

The little babe Jesus was born!

While angels sang : about this good news to shepherds-

Three wise men noticed a unique and new kind of star moving up ahead-

….and so-they came: from far and wide

To look upon this special child!

Peace and Love – were the gifts that he brought

A reward!?----He ne’er sought

He showed us by example – how to be simple and humble,

To keep on giving even if and when we feel incapable.

If only we kept the door of our hearts wide open-

The poor and the needy will find shelter within!

The secret of true contentment is to serve and to love---a hundred percent.

So let us quit distributing all those material presents----

And let us gift ourselves body and soul-

That dear friend-is a true Christian’s role.

It is also the common teaching of every belief and religion

--to always find room in our hearts and our homes

To shelter a needy person.

So, as we wish one another ‘A Merry Christmas’

Let us also remember- the Christmas message that was His…….

For although He lived and died many centuries ago

His message of Peace and Love

Is just as relevant today as it will be tomorrow…..

No candy and yummy goodies - no Ho!Ho! and jolly howdy!

No Christmas polka dance or mistletoe kiss-

The little babe Jesus brought us things that are more valuable than these --

Care for creation and spread love not litter---in all the cities!

Let us stop misusing God given natural resources to make way for

man- made monstrosities…..!

let us not wait anxiously for Santa Claus to bring us that elusive gift-

let’s become someone’s Santa Claus and gift them something with a true Christmas spirit-

- it could be someone you know :who needs comfort and cheer

It could be someone troubled with worries who just needs- a listening ear.

It could be someone you need to forgive-or a stray annoying dog you need to let live!

It could be your child who needs you and your time

So do not neglect their needs just coz you are too busy putting up those Christmas bells and chimes.

It could be your spouse who needs more than just your presence in the house!

It could be your neighbor who needs a small favor

Would you shut the door of your heart to any of these?

If you do the reason for Christ in Christmas will become meaningless

And so the reason for the season too will cease!

This then-is my gift to you my friend-that your Christmas celebration will never end.

May you be blessed with the Christmas gifts of Peace, Hope, Joy, Love and New Birth

The gifts for which God became man and walked like us on this earth.

May you in return share these gifts with all your loved ones, colleagues, friends and foes!

Sharing in all your joys and woes and wishing you and yours

My gift to you is my love endless through all of the coming years……..

A MERRY CHRISTMAS and A JOYOUS NEW YEAR 2011.

Message written by Mrs.Tulip D’Souza.

New revised and edited version (16^th Dec 2010)

Original poem written in Dec 1989 as Ms.Tulip Fernandez.

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