Don't Give Into Them

5 Reasons To Accept Yourself

2014-11-27T15:19:00.000-08:00

Society is telling you to be yourself, but then it brings you down when you try. Why go through all of this trouble of accepting who you are when it feels much easier to just go along with what is "normal?" "Society is too judgmental and that won't be changing anytime soon."

The first thing we have to remember is that WE are society. If we continue to adopt this negative attitude, society will never change. It starts with one person, and that person might as well be you.

Now, you being yourself alone may not change the entire world immediately, but it will make you a better and happier person. Then over time people will begin realizing that being yourself is the first step to living a happy and successful life and society will change. If you're expecting society to change quickly and immediately, then you are being unrealistic. But just like anything that's worth changing, it's a process that takes patience. Here are a few reasons to ditch the society excuse, and be yourself!

People Are Going To Judge You No Matter What

The sad truth is that people are going to judge you no matter what! So if you're going to be judged for something, it might as well be for who you really are. What is there to lose?

You Will Make Real Friends

While you will almost certainly have people being negative towards you, you will also find that you meet people who are similar to you. This can be the most encouraging reason to be yourself. You won't have to pretend to be someone else around your friends, because you'll know that every friend you make likes the REAL you. You will find that you will be much happier with a few friends that you really connect with, over a bunch of people you feel you have to please all the time.

You Can Finally Take Control Of Your Life

Once your comfortable in your own skin, you will finally be able to focus on what you really want. You can start thinking about your career! Whether people will give you a chance is no longer an excuse! You will be more of a risk taker. Now that you know you are capable of reaching your goals, there is nothing holding you back from diving head first into them.

You Will Be a Better Performer in All of Your Activities

Now that you accept yourself, you will have a clearer mind, freeing up space to focus on the activities that you are in. Imagine trying to run a mile with ten-pound leg weights on. It would be no easy task and you would most likely either slug your way through it, or just simply quit. If someone allowed you to take off the leg weights, the task would be much simpler. When it comes to being yourself, it's up to you to take off those leg weights! You can either stare at it and hope they come off, or you can simply take them off.

Life is Just So Much Simpler!

It may not feel like it at first, but once you're past the mental barriers that are blocking you from being yourself, life simply just becomes easier. You feel free and more productive. Not only will you be able to take on more tasks, but you will be in a better mood when performing them, making the task much easier.

Being yourself can feel like the hardest thing in the world, but life is what you make it. We only have a certain amount of time on this Earth and the less time we spend enjoying it the way we want it, the more time we're wasting trying to do what everybody else wants. So now that you see some of the benefits, stop browsing the internet, and go do something that YOU like to do. Go do something for yourself and let go of any negative thoughts you have about it!

Why You Should Chase Your Dreams Instead Of Chasing Money

2014-04-04T03:21:00.000-07:00

Most of us have been at a point where we were torn between "playing it safe" and going for our dream career. Most of us end up taking the safe route and it's a huge mistake. We think that we all have to get into some huge university and major in something in order to get a successful job. Or that our dream job involves too much luck in order to succeed. However, when you play it safe, you find that you aren't fully satisfied no matter how much money you make.

Following your dreams is really hard! Especially if you want to be in some kind of creative career whether it be web design, painting, blogging, graphic design, etc. We often end up shooting ourselves down from these careers because there is no guaranteed straight-forward way to get there.
Something a lot of people don't understand is that getting a degree doesn't guarantee a job. Your degree is just something that you can add to your portfolio of accomplishments. Now I'm not telling you that college is a waste of time, but it's not a guaranteed ticket to success!
Most careers worth having all have one thing in common. You have to put your heart and soul into it to be successful. If you want to be a doctor or a lawyer, you have to work your ass off in school and try to be top of your class and work hard to build connections within the field so that somebody will hire you. If you want to be a musician, you're working your guts out perfecting your instrument, creating and producing music, sending it to recording studios, booking gigs, etc. Life isn't a free ride! No matter what your field, you have to dedicate everything you have to it.
So take "dream job" out of the question and start thinking of "realistic job"! Because dreams are just wishing it'll happen some day. Decide what you're passionate about. What do you want to do every day for long hours? What do you love? Once you find that out, go out there and make it happen! Don't expect life to give it to you. Don't waste any time! Do your research, establish connections, build a following, and most of all never give up. For some careers, it can take years for it to launch, but if you give it all of your effort you will succeed eventually!
You have to be so passionate about this job, that you're willing to work long hours with no pay (sometimes paying money) in order to achieve it. For a while, you may be living in a small apartment with some normal job and then staying up countless hours working on getting your dream job. If you're truly dedicated though, it'll all be worth it. If you chase your dreams you will be happier and most likely make more money in the long run! So stop wasting your time. Find your passion and work your ass off and get it!

Being Yourself is ALWAYS The Answer

2014-04-02T17:43:00.002-07:00

I've spent a majority of my life being afraid of who I was. Everything seemed so clear. I had the whole world in front of me. By the age of 14, I had a job doing something I really loved. I'm a Tae Kwon Do instructor. I have great connections, a good heart, and recently qualified to compete against the entire country in California. I have a family who loves me. It all just seems so perfect doesn't it? Well it's not.

At a young age I knew that I liked boys. I never admitted it and I was all but myself to everyone I met. Until I got to my senior year in high school, it didn't even really matter to me. I was fine with just avoiding that part of my life and living a lie while maintaining my dream job. I couldn't let that one thing interfere with everything I had worked so hard for. I had everything I had ever wanted, or so I thought. This year, everything changed. Everything in my life suddenly felt fake and I didn't even know who I was anymore. I had built up this great big lie over the years. Everyone knew me as just being bulletproof and letting nothing effect me. People respected me for it because I "didn't get hurt by anything".
As much as I wish they were right, they weren't. I felt like none of my friends even knew who I was and I didn't know if they would still love me if I showed them the real me. It got so bad to the point where I wouldn't even be able to fake a smile. When people would ask me what was wrong I would literally make up problems to try to get my feelings out, but I ended up just feeling bad about it later because it was all a lie. The real problem was that I couldn't even look at myself in the mirror anymore.
My best friend wasn't the most accepting person in the world either, but I had a crush on him and I wasn't going to let my secret get in the way of being his friend. This year we stopped being friends, and not for that reason. It was just random. He wouldn't tell me the real reason why but I assume it's because I was getting in the way of his new social status. He was a huge social climber. But you know how it is right? When you like someone and care about them, you only see the good things about them and ignore their flaws.
I felt so alone for a long time. I didn't know what to do because I felt so helpless and alone. It had finally happened. I started rethinking everything in my life while I lay in bed sobbing quietly so no one could hear me. What was I doing? Did anyone really love me? Or did they love the person they thought I was?
I decided the charade was over. I called up a close friend of mine and I told her I was gay. It was really hard, but she was super accepting. What did I have to lose anymore? For the first time, I was forced to deal with the demons I have been hiding my whole life. Over the next few days I told more and more people. It got easier every time. Unfortunately, I lost a lot of my good friends because of it.

No one would strictly tell me: "We can't be friends because you're gay" but I just knew things were changing and that they were trying to get away from me. But as the famous line from Katy Perry's song "Firework" says: "After a hurricane, comes a rainbow." I finally got the courage to tell my family. I'd have to say telling them was the hardest part, even though they all still treat me the same afterwards. I've also gotten close with two of the most amazing people I've ever met and I'm proud to call them my best friends. After that, I was fearless. I questioned my job, and unfortunately with all of the stereotypes for gay people I don't think it's the job for me. I will always be a Tae Kwon Do competitor, but I don't think I can teach it. I've decided to get back into some of my old hobbies like web design and writing. It's been really great getting back to my creative side!
I've always been a good teacher. I'm just naturally gifted at helping people understand things and I really like to teach. So I hope to combine my interests. I want to help everyone find themselves and to love who they are. Anyone who knows me knows I am not money hungry. I would rather live in a small apartment doing what I love than have a mansion with a job that I hate. Money can go away in a heart beat, but your ideas, your brain, your heart, and your creativity are apart of you.

Being yourself is always the answer! After all, if you lose everything because the whole world is crashing down on you, you always have yourself. So make yourself great! We were put on this planet to build off each other's ideas and create beautiful things no matter what our race, gender, sexuality, etc. I think it's about time I give back to the world. I hope this will be a learning experience for me as well to help me become a more positive, healthy, and happy individual. This will not be a blog where I talk and you read. I want to build a community around the world and create a safe environment for people going through hard times. We will be the next stage in human evolution. We will base all of our principals on love and dedication. If I can just change one person's life with this blog, then I feel I have done my duty.