Running Kakay

She

2019-10-24T01:02:00.000-07:00

SHE

She fell in love.

All she sees are beautiful possibilities and optimism.

Everything is in place, a match-made in heaven that gives her goosebumps and firework-feel of excitement.

Her eyes displayed that spark of joy and fulfillness - she was complete.

She walks light in the air and goes with the flow.

She's in a dreamland or paradise where sunrise and sunset bears beauty alike, she thought.

She woke up hurting.

Her eyes swollen from tears and her heart numb with pain.

Why?

Because, she thought she was enough.

Because, she thought she could make his world go round.

Because, she thought she's all that matters to him.

Because, she thought he would not leave her for another woman.

Becasue, she thought he loves her.

She was wrong.

She smelled fear.

She is losing her "love" and slipping that grip on herself.

She breathe deep and gave a heavy sigh.

Her thoughts are clouded with self-doubt.

Is it her fault?

Is something wrong with her?

Why can't she be enough for him?

All kinds of questions poured but left unanswered, she's too tired.

She stared on empty space and she knows she needed it.

She thought, she failed.

She fought hard, day by day.

Amidst pain, she kept the pace and trudge on.

One by one she untangled the bewilderment.

The hurt of losing a game, she thought and claiming with conviction that she was already a winner but realized the ending to be open.

She forgives and let go - making her an emblem of strength, wisdom and selflessness.

She stood unwavering, learning the lessons well.

She believed that it was not her fault- it was his choice.

There was nothing wrong with her - he was just weak, he easily falls prey,

She was enough, he just couldn't see it.

She was full of love, he doesn't deserve her.

And, she claimed herself back headstrong.

She doesn't fear anymore.

She is bolder now.

She may have wandered herself from love, betrayal and pain.

Yet, she found HER again, so she thought.

How does Running Helps Your Faith Stronger?

2019-10-21T02:37:00.001-07:00

"Churches are good for prayer, but so are garages and cars and mountains and showers and dance floors" - Anne Lamott

Running is considered a sport which is believed to primarily develop the physical aspect of a person - agility, stamina, toned bod and endurance. Secondly, it also covers the mental aspect - alertness, reduces stress and improved mood. These are the few advances that this sport offers, as most of the articles about running claims. Few have mentioned about what running could contribute in the spiritual aspect.

Runner as I am, and a catholic too, I do believe that this sport, without us knowing, is also a catalyst in our spiritual formation.

Talked to one of the seasoned ultra runners on what she did to surpass the race ( she joined the 210 km run in Cebu ) - she said "I prayed hard to God for strength and endurance to finish the race - it's not about reaching the finish line first, for it's the ultimate test of endurance and will power, so I asked for it, the spiritual tools that would cover me to cross that line." It was a bold and humble answer. Yes, you trained hard to prepare for the race physically. The mind and body will combat as the race progresses, but the "spiritual side" will help you get through.

The uphill road

BEFORE:

"While on training, every day before a runner hustles, he lifts his spirit above for guidance, protection and strength. He may not say a word, but as he stretches, he silently mumbles a prayer. He is looking forward and preparing hard for the race, though he conditions his body and health, he doesn't forget his spirit as well."

DURING & AFTER the race:

"Hours and hours, that will lead to days of running, especially the ultra runners - 160 km, 210 km or 500km, most likely physical and mental fatigue is setting in. Exhaustion is real. These are the times that most runners are on their lowest point - to move forward, decide whether to make it through or go for DNF (Did not finish). But these are the times also that they "talk-to-God". That is when they find 'company' amidst the isolation on the road while trudging the route day and night. This is how their spirits are lifted amidst the debility - it may sound strange but there is that unexplainable force that keeps someone going, on and on and on. When reaching the finish line, you will hear "Yes, Thank you Lord!" - If you have witnessed an ultramarathon or full marathon, this is a very common line from the runners. They may not be loud in expressing their faith, but those lines are the result of your heart and mind's joy. It overflows and readily comes out naturally.

As the quote said, you can pray wherever you are - garages and cars - even on the road. While doing the morning, afternoon or evening run, more so if you're running a full marathon or ultramarathon. It's not just about the display of one's prowess or might, it is but a holistic effort to perform what you are good at - and that is running. You do your passion but you maintain that deeper connection with a divine being that makes you do more - push your limit to its limit if there is any.

No matter what religion you belong, I know you do mutter an orison in silence for divine intervention. Regardless of who you call, this is just a proof that "running" brings you closer to God keeps you in touch with your faith.

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This picture was from my saturday run 19 October 2019 - I was awed with the wild beauty of the tiny pink flowers along the road, vine as it is, it hugged the metal road fence. Nobody notices it or might think of it as a wild grass or a mess that needs to be cut off to clear the road fence. I tell you, it was a work of art. You just need to take a closer look to appreciate its beauty.

It's Okay

2019-10-15T18:54:00.000-07:00

IT'S OKAY

You chuckled and laughed hard - on top of your lungs. Others laughed with you - genuinely, they find you "loco-but-wacky". Some smiled - they're just being civil. A few smirked - vivid enough to tell you they don't like you laughing that loud.

Should you care? Yes, because norms of society says so, you have to conform. No, because that is your life and that's how you feel. Distinct voices wanted to be heard, which of it will you heed. These are the things you consider, even in the smallest act that you do. Society dictates. There's always that line, to do this and do that, that's allowed and that's not.

But hey, at times...

It's okay to bend some rules, do a slight deviancy - break the pattern.

It's okay to snuggle in bed even if it's not sleeping time - lie when you want not because you need to.

It's okay to cry like a howling wolf when you can't pull yourself together. When you've got no one to turn to except your shadow - at least you are not thinking of ending your life. Do cry on.

It's okay to be a 'potato couch' - relax, that doesn't mean you are lazy. You needed time to stretch and lay low.

It's okay to mess up - you pick bad choices sometimes. You are not perfect, you are but someone trying hard to do what's best and righteous.

It's okay to get soaked and play in the rain - never a sin to let that kid like side of yours out, no matter how aged you are. Have some fun while you can.

It's okay to stir the seas and make waves - do not be too comfy on the placid waters. Be bold and loud. See to it that you are seen and heard.

It's okay to be different - true beauty comes from contrast, out of the web and chaos. You are your own version. You don't have to conform with the frames of the social media. Create and re-create grounded on your metrics not of anybody else.

It's okay to be left for someone else - to be able to feel the pain of betrayal and lies. You will learn the morals of love and relationships. You will grow and move on eventually, take your time and look at the bright side.

It's okay to shout, growl and say mean words at times - you are not a saint, at least you are expressing yourself. It will help you calm down - it is part of being a human, you fume up sometimes.

Everything in our existence plays along with balance. You strive to be a whole person, imbibe with values and morals you believed in. But there's that time when you snap, let loose and become unruly. That's the irony of life. No matter how hard you try to be the best version of yourself - the fall will always be there - IT'S OKAY.

➽Day 2 - 20 WC

What to do to beat stress from work?

2019-01-23T00:37:00.001-08:00

"Rest if you must but don't you quit" - Vic Johnson

Everyday hustle in court drives you exhausted, in all aspect. Sometimes we do fantasize of having a week off - free to travel, relax and just sleep the day out. In my line of job, you can't just go off. You have to consider the load for the week, if it is light then you can file a leave of absence, however, still, your application is at the mercy of your presiding judge if he is going to approve it - pray that he is in good mood when you're planning on tendering an application for leave on his table (Just kidding)
Don't get me wrong, I love my job. I am deeply thankful that because of it, bread and butter is always on the table. It's just that, stress, in this kind of job is a reality.

"Breathe in peace, breathe out stress"

We all know for a fact that too much stress causes several health problems. That's why we need to - it is a must - learn the ways to combat the everyday hustle. What should we do in order to drag ourselves to last the week energized and still in the light mood?

ENGAGE IN PHYSICAL ACTIVITY

It is a common knowledge that exercise boosts mood and energy. Make it a number one priority in your day to day list. Personally, I tried squezzing in my running routine to my daily activity, I can't run early in the morning due to my motherhood duties so I'm doing it after work. This is my daily dose of 'happy vitamin'. An hour or forty minutes run in the evening is all I need to sweat up and I'm done for the day.

We have different preferences, others may opt for workout in gym, others do "at home work-out", zumba, yoga, pilates and other top notched programs. Whatever choice you have, engage on it. That is for your health and fitness sake.

"I do believe that 30-minute-sweat-session a day takes the bad mood away."

DO YOUR "THING" WITH A GROUP

I am a running mom. This is my "thing" that put balance from work and my personal life. I am not doing it alone, I have a running community. At weekends, we do a group run - tasked to do a 20km distance run, afterwhich, we eat, sit, and laugh at each other.

Connect and interact with people who engages with the same passion that you have. Busy you may be but find time to keep in touch with other people. This will keep us sane, I tell you. No matter how hardtasked you are, give yourself a bit of fresh air. Dealing with clients is tight but dealing with individuals who share the same interest with you - is a relief. You get to loosen your tie and be the relaxed person you, sometimes, dream to be.

"Loosening up, sometimes, is all we need to see things in a better perspective"

Be the queen or king once in a while. You owe this to yourself.

Valentus Slimroast Coffee Review

2019-01-08T00:47:00.000-08:00

Make your coffee a habit, and do it the "valentus slimroast coffee" way.

I'm a mom-of-three, got an 8 to 5 hour job and a runner who needs to train for an upcoming marathon - in short a busy bee. Doing all those stuff is a struggle. At the end of the day, I'm literally exhausted, in all aspect. I needed an extra power to last the day energized. A friend of mine offerred me to try this coffee - the latest craze among individuals who wanted to lose weight with no strict diet and exercise and still feels vitalized the whole day.

After runnig in the morning, I'll take one scoop of VALENTUS SLIMROAST for my coffee ritual before I take my breakfast and I'm good for the day. (By the way, one tub lasts for a month) Before I knew it, I was emptying my first tub and was ordering my second tub.

This is not your ordinary coffee. It is an effective appetite suppressant! I used to have a huge craving but when I started this coffee, I still eat my fave food however, it is already in moderation. A big help in my weightloss journey.

It has helped improved my focus and keeps me optimized the whole day.

Initially, I was on my 58 kilo weight. After my first tub it was reduced to 55 kgs. ( my target is 50 kilos - the weight indexed for my age) Hopefully, after this second tub, I will be on it. When you see results you'll get hooked and crave for more!

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Plus: No palpitation; this is not a laxative!

Meet Hannia Tan, a very good friend of mine. She is a coffee lover and she switched to Valentus Slimroast Coffee. The pictures will vividly tell how effective the coffee was.

She started having coffee on the month of August with no strict diet and exercise. After four months of having this amazing coffee, her weight dramatically dropped and she looked more fabulous than ever!

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Fun Facts about All Women Ultra Marathon (AWUM) of Cebu City

2019-01-07T18:08:00.004-08:00

Photocredit - AWUM Page

All Women Ultra Marathon in Cebu City otherwise known as AWUM is gaining its popularity among Juana ultra runners all over the archipelago. It became a "must-attend-to" event each year and every one is buzzing about it.
I joined the AWUM 5th edition last March 12-13, 2016. My first and definitely won't be my last - the experience was all worth it. I have participated other marathons but this is unrivaled. Why? There's so much pampering and attention, I know, every Juana will love it!

My reasons for making AWUM on top of all the marathon list:

All Girls Event

Unlike other ultra event, AWUM is designed strictly for FEMALE RUNNERS ONLY. A 50km long distance run for the "Juana-run-addicts", which gunstarts at 10:00 o'clock in the evening with a cut off time at 10:00 o'clock the following morning. Organizers, in cooperation with LGU of Cebu City, made a mark on this concept. Since the 1st AWUM edition, yearly registration has been jam packed with running ethusiasts that they have to device a selection process since slots are limited.

2. Lipstick ON, before the finish line

On the 35th kilometer mark (if my memory serves me right), runners are halted for the LIPSTICK wearing. There are varieties of lip color to choose from, of course with the assistance of the kind organizers, pick one put it on and you're good to go! This station gives a "note to self" that you have to finish the race strong and poised... with lipstick on!

3. Rose for Juana

Two (2) kilometers more or less away from finishline, runners will pass a station that give one (1) long stemmed, red rose each and you have to bring that rose until you reached the finishline. One of a kind- it happens only in AWUM. Classic it may sound that flower makes a woman feel special, well, this gimmick works, AWUM is winning the heart of every Juana-run-addict in the country.

4. Hydration Stations - Plus service

The water stations are just a stretch away, from one station to the other. Candies, chocolates of all sort, banana, boiled eggs, gatorade, soda drinks and the like are all laid in the table like a feast. Pick and eat what you want or bring some - your choice. Plus service - I'm referring to the massage sessions they offer with an ointment of your choice. I tell you, after the massage, you will go back to the road with a big smile and good sigh of relief.

5. Too Much Pampering

I love the attention and I'm sure you too would love it. The pampering was overwhelming that makes it outstanding than the rest of the events. The Organizers, the City and the people of Cebu were prepared well for this event, from traffic enforcers that controls the car flow to give way to the runners and race marshalls that would check the roadrunners from time to time, you would really feel safe and taken cared of.

6. Professional Photographers are Everywhere!

Smile here and there as cameras are all over. Professional photographers of Cebu join forces to get that picture perfect moment of the runners. You don't have to worry if you don't have a camera with you. It is taken care of. Photos taken during the race are posted in the AWUM page - all you have to do is check and grab.

Nota Bene:

In sum, the hospitality of Cebuanos makes the experience superb. Road runners after the race would gladly say "Looking forward for the next AWUM, awooaa!".

See you AWUMers this 2019!

Be at peace to yourself amidst hitch!

2019-01-07T00:23:00.000-08:00

No matter how you want your life to flow calmly and smoothly, there will come a time that trials or problems will be knocking at your doorstep - a visitor you could not say no. It comes in unexpectedly - for certain reasons that you could not fathom.

Like cars or almost "anything" discovered or invented - it has to be road tested to make sure it is efficient and strong, and to correct flaws that will make it more servicable. Life is not an exception - you will sometime encounter tribulations that will shake your core - from values, beliefs and even norms - either it makes you a better person or turn you into someone full of negativity and questions.
While you are in zenith of everything, you rejoice and boasts your confidence and how good you are. That is why when an unexpected knock of setback comes accross you tend to ask why it has to be you. You have prepared all your life to suceed but not on problems that may pave your way. No one is exemp from being rocked up and down - It doesn't work that way. No matter how lucrative- free flowing your life is it will arrive in time you least expect.

"Do not ask "why me" instead gladly concede and say "some good things will come out of this - it is positivity!"

Everyone has its own hitch - that makes you human and alive. Believe it or not, it adds color and form as rainbows of your life. It will help you grow maturely and responsibly. May you be a married woman cheated by your husband, an employee recently fired from work or someone diagnosed with cancer - as it comes differently in every persons lives, acceptance is the key to embrace tranquility amids hitch. Bruised and broken you may be - if you have accepted lifes lesson - you will emerge victorious and healed. That inner peace will manifest in your words and your day to day dealings. Do not question yourself. Instead, accept and be ready to learn the lesson it offers - look into a positive perspective and say "something good will come out of this!"

"Do not let the pain and hurt turn you into a bitter person but a better one -Stronger and fiercer to combat difficult times."

Easy to say right? Healing and peace comes hand in hand but not as easy as counting one, two and three. It will take time. The process may be dragging - but with optimism and hope - the process will transform you into a more beautiful soul. Others have slow tolerance over negativies in life - makes them vengeful, challenged their values and sees life in its darker perspective. Forgiveness gives you the chance to heal and eventually have peace of mind. You have your choice - either to stay in that inner battle or to let go. A few step at a time is a progress and a new life.

"Do not become a villain - gracefully rise as a star after a foray."

Pass the word!

Benefits of Group Run!

2019-01-07T00:15:00.000-08:00

I used to set my alarm clock at 4:30 in the morning for my daily run. Sometimes when that laziness kicks in - alarm rings, I snoozed it and straight back to bed. It is quite frustrating, hours before that I've been promising myself to do a 10km run in the morning, but there I was snoring. Reality wise, sometimes the urge to snuggle in bed than run wins.

This is the point where I truly missed "group run" - our running club used to run in group If we need to train for an upcoming marathon. I find it a helpful tool to push yourself to train with ease and fun - lesser feel of struggle.

What happens when you run with a group?

YOU COMMIT - when you run with a group, you develop that sense of commitmment, discipline and respect of other's time. When you agreed to assemble at 3:30 in the morning and gunstarts at 4:00 that means that you have to be there before gunstart. It doesn't matter if it is bedweather, you will be forced to get up because texts and calls from your running buddies will be reinforcing your snoozed alarm.

If they can pull themselves out of bed why can't you. This tactic works - when you commit you tend to think of others not just yourself. And eventually benefits from your self sacrifice - before you know it you're on the road training.

YOU RUN BETTER - Watching your mates, observing their pace and manner of running, it makes you check on how your performance is. You have a point of comparison. Not that you want to compete with them - you are learning to become better.

Learning goes with sharing. There is that give and take relationship between running buddies - you share tips and ideas to enhance yourself and do good in the marathon.

YOU'RE HAVING FUN - Imagine doing a slow long distance run, let's say 20km. If you are doing it alone, it is in reality boring. However, if you run with a group, running atmosphere is light and fun. You won't feel the drag of that 20 km distance - you will have chats, jokes that will crack everyone out, and petty running lessons.

Paul, 32, a fast paced marathoner, one of our running buddies, he has that habit of running like a "gay" (no offense meant to gay people - in fact i have good friends and uncles that are gay and i love them). Everybody will be laughing at him while he does the swaying hips and flipping hair while running. Point is, no matter how much ache your knuckles are feeling, it will be unnoticed because of the fun you are having with the people along the journey.

STRONGER BOND OF FRIENDSHIP - These are not just people you have common interests with, these are your friends. You talk in the same manner and language - because all of you flips on the same page - that love for running. The bond you have with them goes deeper as you go through the same hurdles in training - the blisters, cramps and injuries - but with each others reliance and push, you will all made it.

This 2019, gather your gang and hit that road!

Happy running!

2019-01-06T23:56:00.001-08:00

All Women Ultra Marathon in Cebu City otherwise known as AWUM is gaining its popularity among Juana ultra runners all over the archipelago. It became a "must-attend-to" event each year and every one is buzzing about it.

I joined the AWUM 5th edition last March 12-13, 2016. My first and definitely won't be my last - the experience was all worth it. I have participated other marathons but this is unrivaled. Why? There's so much pampering and attention, I know, every Juana will love it!

My reasons for making AWUM on top of all the marathon list:

All Girls Event

2019-01-06T23:53:00.001-08:00

Firsy day mark of my training for AWUM (All women Ultra Marathon 50 Km Run in Cebu) and my weightloss journey.

All my life i've been weighing over the weight indexed for my age. I've had several attempts to trim down, however, I failed. Just in time, AWUM registration flooded the feed of every female ultra runners (if you successfully register - which I did, then prepare for the big event on 9 March 2019) so it came to me, I'll train and hopefully get that ageless bod as well. Easy to sound but it will be a hell of work, real hard run and sweat-like popcorn.

Today was a "rain-sun-rain" kind of day. I have to dance with the weather tempo and find the right timing to be able to run. Luckily, around 5:00 o'clock in the afternoon, the rain stopped - time to put the kicks on.

"Don't let the rain stops you from doing what your heart desires to achieve - do not make it an excuse to cheat on your goal, instead learn how to improvise - play along!"

Uphill Run on Day One

I was taking advantage of the timing that the rain had stopped. To start, I need a 5km run but have to choose a route that will beat me hard - makes me sweat and ache in no time.
Diversion road rolling hill was perfect. The struggle was real as I ascend the first elevation, an almost 500 meter stretch, I was panting, short in breath and profusely sweating, but this is part of the deal. Who says it will be a bed of roses. Still, I managed to reach the top in one piece. The downhill was a relief, it did relaxed my soring leg muscles and calm my breathing rhythm, however, my mind was already calculating how to reach the top of the next elevation, 1km more or less elevated stretch - indeed a helly climb I thought. Power walk and slow jog combined, I made it again. And so on, until the 3rd and 4th elavation and vice versa. Around 6:00 o'clock PM, i decided to call it a day.
Physically, it was exhausting! But the satisfaction and the sense of achievement was overwhelming. Made it through my first day. I know "eighty four days" is such a long journey. I will just take each step one day at a time. No fixed game plan. I'll have fun and learn the language of my body. Adapt to circumstances that may hinder on my goal realization - devise and revise each day.

Meal Plan for the day:

Breakfast - 2 hard boiled eggs, 2 bananas and coffee (valentus slimroast coffee)
Lunch - 1/4cup rice, 1 leg fried chicken and banana
Dinner - Yogurt and Apple

*I do not skip meals. And mostly my dinner is at 5:30 o'clock. But today since I did an afternoon run, had it at 7:00 PM.

*Do warm up exercises before you run, prepare your leg muscles always before beating it hard.

Personal fave is the forward lunge.

Thank You 2018!

2019-01-06T23:42:00.000-08:00

"I have lived my life like holding a beautiful red rose - clinging with awe and admiration to life's promise but bleeding enduringly in silence afraid to let it go..."

Year 2018 is concluding soon - I won't let it go without hearing my utterance of gratitude for having a fruitful 365 days.
Thank you for all the realizations I've reached anent to forgiveness or relationship issues. The past years before you were a twister - messed up actually. But I outlived those years and 2018, you're way better. You are my coping and healing year - the space needed to reflect and assess the situations I have been, what went wrong or how did it all happened. You helped me push that reset button and everything in my life starts anew.
Thank you for putting me back on track. I was lost - journeying through a pitch dark tunnel without a glimpse of even a tiniest spark of light. The query as to where am I really heading? Am I on the path destined for me or am I just walking in circles? But you came as a promising year - opening opportunities and bringing hope back . It is as if you know what my heart yearns - slowly I have come to terms with patience and faith.

It came to me, when your prayer goes unanswered, don't stop, don't ask question or don't think that you are not doing well, instead continue believing and Trust God's timing.

Thank you for the struggles, pain, tears, disappointments, hatred, resentment and fear. You did not just gave me a year of joy, you also gave me days of tests. Still, I'm thankful, those weary days draw me stronger and wiser. Candidly speaking, I hit rock bottom - the struggle was real hard and the pain was beyond words - even cried myself to sleep. It wasn't easy at all, but I have to pull myself together. No one can help me in this except myself. I learned well - I can now listen to the rhythm of everyday hustles - balance emotions and get a good hold of myself. I do not know if I did passed your tests, all I know is I have been bruised and beaten, however, in the end I emerged a whole person - ready to combat and enjoy life again.

Thank you for making me understand that I am enough - the real essence of joy lies within and not with someone else. I learned to value my worth and appreciate the reality that most of the time "you have to rely on yourself not with anybody else".

Thank you for letting me face my fears. I do have it - lots and lots of it. Fear of losing someone dear, fear of not reaching my dreams and "what if's" in life. This year gave me that tug of overcoming some of it and pursuing dreams that are long overdue. I've come to accept that we can't prevent things from happening and facing it with a positive perspective -is already a mark of courage.

Thank you for all the smiles, giggles and laughs. Moments that made me forget all the rest - doubts, failures and frustrations. All mixed emotions are overpowered by these times - when a joke makes me crack, smiles from kind gestures or giggles with friends. Simple it may seem, but it create life's balance. Smiles are but little gestures yet it has an impact that could change a person.

Thank you 2018!

"It's okay to Fail!"

2019-01-06T23:40:00.000-08:00

Streets are on a busy mood. People hustle here and there - preparing for the zenith of christmas celebration - eight (8) days from now. Also, traditional christmas parties are everywhere - and that means booze and food until early morning! This is the time of the year where people loosen up, shake their booty to the tune of frolicking and spirit of fun. Admittedly, I forgot I have a timeline to keep and a goal to achieve - been dancing with the season. I felt so bad - just started my challenge days ago and here I am savoring that guilty indulgence. Don't get me wrong, I may be faulty yet I'm not giving up. This day may be a downside still, I'm hopeful that tomorrow is a better one.
The same note goes to you, don't be so hard on yourself GIVE IN, INDULGE And do not fear failure.

"Life is naturally designed to be flawed. Nobody lives the grandeur of ease without the roller coaster ride. Failure is inevitable - it exists for a good reason. Embrace it and learn well."

History wise, inventors, leaders, kings and queens did encounter fiasco. However, it did not stop them from guiding the arrow to the bull's eye. It takes a real hard work, dedication and patience. It may be bitter but its produce is sweeter than honey - success.

Because In failing you....

Understand the dilemma of others - "I feel you", the phrase you'd say to a person who's going through the turmoil you've been once. The sense of empathy drives you to help and do more to ease the pain. It becomes a moving factor that makes you care and be extra sensitive to others - you start putting yourself On the shoes of the person grieving. You go beyond feeling - you act!

Get back UP - You are caught unprepared - failures comes in all angle leaving you shattered. Fear not, check your left chest where you can feel the heartbeat, if youcan still feel the "tugs, tugs, tugs", well it is a music - sound of life, you are still alive. You have to keep in mind that as long as you're alive you will survive the test of time. Just a matter of picking yourself back up, piece by piece until you are whole again.

Create Fresh perspective - down moments of life allows you to dig deep, evaluate and recalculate the steps you took. You take the time and space to innovate and approach life anew.

Become Meek in Spirit - going through the downside is life's way of teaching humility. To keep you on track and on the ground. It maintains balance - a reminder to appreciate what you have in life and be thankful.

Grow in Strength and Wisdom - Failure gives the best lesson in life - like a hard core teacher that leaves a student wise and strong. You become the bamboo that sways with the wind - you bend but doesnt break. It leaves a remarkable resilience on your person, making you geared on anything that life throws at you.

Discover your "fiery" side - You will unearth a part in you that stands for a fight. No matter how blue your world becomes, you will struggle to survive and eventually heal. There is that nature in us that overcome all challenges. It lay sleeping within but once triggered, it will naturally come out - giving you that tug to get back up.

We've been through a lot, yes, you and I. The ordeal we've been through may vary, but I know that the degree of pain and misery toys on the same gauge - beyond words. We may have cried mercilessly and questioned our worth, however, we emerged in one piece and managed to cope.

When everything else fail, give your shoulder a tap, hey! It's okay, "legends are made out of polished failures".

Live, fail, get back up and succeed!

When Your Husband Chooses "The Other Woman"

2018-11-05T00:32:00.001-08:00

It was a 2:00 o'clock in the morning confrontation with my husband, "the other one" and me. This i called the zenith of my amatuer- investigative-work after a month of suspicion over my husband's infedelity. The hard-painful truth was infront of me - he indeed was cheating with this girl! And then everything stopped when he dropped the bomb "Yes, I am in love with her! There I thought, the father of my three kids had finally left us and we are so over. Mixed emotions fluxed. It was literally a three sleepless night. I took a leave from work, couldn't think straight. My weight dropped from 60 kg to 55 kg. (stress is an effective slimming tool, haha). It feels like I hit rock bottom.

How did I get over this nightmare?

"CRY IT OUT!"

I cried mercilessly. And to my amazement, after each cry I feel good. It is as if I have been purged from the grief, sadness, anxiety and frustration.

Judith Orloff, Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry, she encourages her patient to cry out the sadness. She said https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/emotional-freedom/201007/the-health-benefits-tears "Tears reduces stress hormones and after crying, our breathing and heart rate decrease thus giving us a calmer biological and emotional state."

"LET GO"

There are things beyond repair. Case at hand, my relationship with my husband. In fairness to him, he loves his kids. The kink that needs an ironing, in our 'familyhood', was our relationship. I've wanted us to raise our kids and grow old together, but reality sets in. He chooses the "other one". To buy peace, though it hurts, I have to be happy for him. I know it won't be easy. It will take time and a struggle to peacefully move on.

"FORGIVE AND LET GOD "

Pray. Pray and Pray. If all efforts fail, let God work things out.

Prayer made me look at myself - a deep introspection, rather than focus on the wrongdoing of my husband. I become more touched with my spiritual side that after that surge of anger and frustration I softened in faith and love.

Forgiveness comes hand in hand in prayer. I myself is a perfectly flawed persona. I strived to be a better person because there are these people around me who keeps on giving me chances. They have not given up on me amidst my failure. Now, here comes my husband who, at his lowest point in life, needed, the most, someone who could understand him. (I'm not a massochist nor a martyr). I do believe he deserves a second chance. Everyone does. https://www.ucb.co.uk/content/how-many-times-should-we-forgive-someone

Tide turned in my favor. He was apolegetic, remorseful and wanted to be accepted again.

"Jesus says forgive each other “seventy times seven times” - Matthew-18:22".

Life, Being Defined!

2012-10-08T21:45:00.000-07:00

I was asked by a colleague to define life. I told her, "how do you want me to define it"? She replied, "illustrate it in anything that term arrives at you, just be realistic". I like that phrase, "just be realistic", we are more likely to describe LIFE in its real sense if we are going to see it in that perspective. You could read a lot of articles touching the definition of life, most of it are beautifully choreographed, wittingly engineered and perfectly crafted. It entails life existence but not to the specifics of how really it is.

Life is the pattern of WAKING UP and going to SLEEP!

This is the first thing you should do, WAKE UP! That's the prime of living. This is a routinary activity that one must embrace inorder to take the forwarding steps of success, achievement, goals and etc. It is a day to day action one must indulge into, to finish unfinished business, to close deals, to meet up with friends, making up with someone you have disappointed, saying thank you, dating, to go to work, to receive pay-outs, do the facebook and a lot more to stipulate. Living life is keeping the pace of pattern between "wake up and sleep", the former marks the beginning of new sense of existence or continuance, and the latter post for the break or rest, readying oneself for another day. After the rigorous pile of schedules you have in a day, pin the others as reserved or unfinished, ready it out for tommorow as you prepare to indulge yourself to an 8 hour pampering rest called SLEEP.

Life is a PLUS and MINUS

Have you observed, emotions goes to two strings of extremities, now you're laughing out loud, next time you'll know depression is coming in and is making you shed tons of tears. No matter how we assail that we are living a contented and happy life, still, these emotions play us like, 'now you see them, now you don't'.

Life is WORKING our asses HARD, yet knowing later that we've got piles of bills to pay for.

Most of us, works our butt 8 hours a day and if given the chance, overtime will do. Why? "Oh, got electric and water bills to pay", "Examination Fees are due", "Today is the deadline for my credit card", "My insurance policy", "My telephone bill", "I've got 'yaya' to pay for", etc. etc. List and list of reasons where we allocate our money. We strive to earn so that we may have something to spend.

Life is BLACK and WHITE.

It is like good karma and bad karma, "What you do sums up to what you become". Strive now and you'll get rewarded later. It's like "No pain, no Gain". You won't get what you want without sacrificing something, may it be your time, effort and even the slightest enjoyment you have. Waste your time on nothing and you'll end up wandering, no sense of direction and life amiss. It has been designed in the law life that consequences are the fruits of all our labors. What we do at present makes our future, and there is reciprocation in the process.

Life is SURVIVAL

We adapt and adjust.

OFW's, they goes abroad for a greener pasture. New land, new culture, new adjustments, they have no choice but to adapt inorder to live well while in a foreign land. How would you survive the intricacy of a different culture except by living with it. The families left also struggles, missing someone you dearly love is an agony. They are living in constant combat with their emotions.

On the daily mark of crises, problems and complexity of situations, from work, family and friend relations, one tends to maintain the sanity equilibrium. The ups and downs and life hurdles the focus of one's mind, yet not being clouded by it, one learned to adapt, adjust and make the most out of it. That's how we live, "we must learn to dance in the rain".

We may like it or not, we LIVE our life, to DIE, later of course.

I'm not a pessimist, only a realist.

Why do we do good things or strive to do God's will? Simply because, unknowingly, we are anticipating that we are going to die and if we do, at least we would live as promised by God, when one lives in accordance with his will.

No matter how we define life, it is up to us how we live and handles it. Complex as it may seem, it is just but simple if we live it right.

Simple Truth about Siesta!

2012-10-08T06:42:00.001-07:00

"Having a well-rested body would make someone, sound!", this is an echoing statement of my father, almost everyday when he is persuading us to have a nap. Upon agreeing on his wish, he too would climb on his hammock and immediately drift to a merciless snoring before we could shut our eyes. This is a routine especially during summertime. After a heartful meal, a small chit chat follows and little bit later there goes the warning of that routinary activity know to be 'siesta'.

Being a kid, who would always love to play, I do abhor the idea of taking that 'post lunch sleep'. To my young mind, it spoils the fun, it cuts off the time I should be spending with my friends outside.

TRIVIA

This term comes from the latin word "hora sexta" - meaning the 'sixth hour' (counting from dawn, thus, making it a mid-day rest). This practice had been introduced by spaniards to the Philippines, however, other cultures also embraces the luxury of siesta. Like in Pakistan, a post nap lunch is exercised, a 20 minute closing of the eyes known as "kaylola". Sourth German speaking regions also dip into the common practice of closing shops and stores alloted for the mid-nap of the workers. In Japan, certain companies even allocates room for the employees where they can rest during breaks and overtime.

COULD BE...

According to a research, the geographical location of the countries which practices siesta, the high temperature and high food intake, when combined it creates a 'post lunch drowsiness' explaining the sleepylike tendency in the wee hours between 1:00 to 3:00 in the afternoon. But to others, scientific and logical explaination does not matter, to them it is a customary way that has been passed up and until now is enjoying a wide audience of practice.

HEALTH ADVANTAGE

A recent study suggested that taking a mid-day rest reduces the risk of having heart diseases, for daytime sleep lowers the stress level and the blood pressure.

A little snooze relaxes and soothes our senses. It charges the body that is why you'd wake up energized! But, note the fact that nothing ever beats the benefit of physical activity to revitalize one's health. Don't take it in the lazy bone perspective of cutting up short cuts to have a fitted health. Siesta plays both the 'ex-factor' we want in a certain activity, the indulgence of relaxation and the health positive contributory factor. So little time exerted yet helds the power to level off the tons of burden piling up from morning to noon. It is worth notetaking to spare your time a little snooze before you start your afternoon hubtivity, for a more sharp and an edgy kick to any undertaking you would have in the next few hours of the day.

Though nowadays, there is a decline in practice of siesta, because of hectic work schedules or work distanced situation, and some would work out for an extra or overtime jobs rather than taking the nap, yet still, some are coping through weekends or anytime of the week that is linient with their schedules.

In my childhood days, this whole "mid-day sleep", I did not understood its concept nor my father's insistence for its health reasons. But as I grew up, which I learned to enjoy it myself, I acceded to the thought that this is a part of every Filipino's life-larger than customs or health rationale.

De-stressing secrets!

2012-10-03T21:41:00.001-07:00

Cramming for a lenghty coverage of exam, meeting deadlines, top-over schedules for kids activity at school - these are just some examples of situations that causes your heart to pump faster, pressurized and tensed. Whoever could have invented the word stress, must owe something to those who devout themselves de-stressing affected ones.

STRESS

It is the feelings created as we repond to certain situations or events we encounter in our day to day existence. Contrary to what we commonly believe, this term comes in a plus and minus. The plus or positive stress scopes on how we respond positively on certain crises, like an unexplainable strength during a fire or in any case with actual danger. The minus or bad stress relates to our feelings on certain situations which needs longer period of recuperating to its normal state, like in a break-up-relationship situation, loss of job or someone - these cases depletes our body and mental resistance, weakens our immune system and further causes health problems.

De-stressing Secrets (for bad stress)

Stay on the affirmative side of the coin.

Bear in mind that while one still breathe, tons of problems are piled up to be dealt. Take things lightly and console yourself that on every problem, somehow somewhere is a solution. Look around and you'll see that others have greater gravity or conflicts.

Sweat out!

A 30 minute exercise everyday that will sweat you out is good for the body and mind. It realeases hormones that will release ones body from the clog of anxiety.

Talk to a friend.

Either your mother, your husband or your closest friend. Its about airing out what you are keeping within. Loosening yourself to someone helps out ease burden.

Relax and have fun.

Dont be stiff. Sway it out, move, jump, shout, sing, dance. Do things that you like best.

Take a lot fluids and fruits.

The body needs vitamins, minerals and fluids to rejuvenate. It replaces the energy efforted by the body in dealing certain situations.

Pray.

Nothing beats the intimacy you have with the ONE above. It gives you some inner balance and peace. The mystery of the power of prayer is undeniably extraordinary. The unsaid comfort and assurance, though unspoken begets someone the strenght to move up onwards amidst hay and dust!

...picking up a choice...

2012-10-03T07:16:00.000-07:00

That big day so called "election" is fast in pacing through our calendars. Would-be-candidates are already on its stir of thudding and tapping peoples shoulder, implying for a futuristic nod.

We have to carefully examine these aspirants for political posts, for a slight injury in writing a wrong name in our ballots would leave us in demise for an agonizing count of years. Promises would be laid.

Let us not be vouched by these sweet tongue, we have to be scrupulous in weighing our choice. As Gandhi had emphasized "What we do today, will be our tomorrow", so then, we should bear in mind to take each of our time to look closely as to who deserves to be scribbled when the time comes.

Politics had been rigorously defined as a "dirty arena" to be on. Well-learned and analyst on politics asserted on the practices of politicians, drawing influences and dominance with the use of the power affilliated to them. Negative as it may generally speak, some are still in their sense of being true to public service, outnumbered though by those rotten tomatoes. Still, let us hope for the best, for our country.

On that day that we inked up the paper with names that would hold post in our country, we are the pilot that would drive the history of our nation. The persons we would picked to be OUR CHOICE will serve as our voice, our representation.

....In a room...

2012-10-03T05:01:00.000-07:00

Empty stares.

The hush sound of the wind gushing by through the window seems audible. It is like an encryptic language needs to be decoded with deep thoughts and focus.

The curtain which seems to dance in the rhythm of the wind blows, swiftly glazes, in harmony with the nature. It must have been in communication with the wind as it ushers its waves of grace in subtle movement of pattern.

The cricket sound, symphonizes the entire room from outside.

The stillness of my room amplifies the slight movements and sounds from the outside realm of my world.

The littlest creature that crawl and flew seemed noticeable.

The world stops at nothing, and there sets placid vibes.

Though at times a flood of wrecking feelings rocks your serenity,

it gushes sudden rush of stressing emotions which would engulf you, and your entirety, that humming stillness would then put a gravity of loneliness.

Tears would lushly flow form your eyes, bitter emotions are bursted out, its as if cleansing your inner being, letting it flow.

That's what happens if you sit IN A ROOM alone.

drypers ivy: Getting lined up for the tour inside the cave. P...

2012-08-14T04:14:00.001-07:00

drypers ivy:

Getting lined up for the tour inside the cave. P...: Getting lined up for the tour inside the cave. Poses a bit for souvenir pictures. Fully geared, aye! Such a wide grin after the...

2012-08-13T06:55:00.002-07:00

Getting lined up for the tour inside the cave. Poses a bit for souvenir pictures.

Fully geared, aye!

Such a wide grin after the ultimate experience!!

PALAWAN, Puerto Princesa, known for its Underground River, hailed to be one of the seven wonders of the world.

This has been the trip i've never dreamed of becoming a reality, but alas, i've been there!

I have set foot on one of the famous mystic of nature, the Underground River!!!

Long, creamy-white, fine sand beach welcomes the tourist before going to the main attraction-the cruise inside the cave. This sight alone enthralls the beauty of nature which makes one, sigh in contentment. Its serene and placid vibe overwhelms every person that visits the place.

The point of entry and exit of the entire escapade. A one kilometer cruise via boat, with a trained boatman of course. Inside, it showcases different rock formations or stalactites. A wondrous and ticklish imagination would gave you variations of images, which is quite fascinating. And bats too would grace the trip all the way through.

Saluyot: “Inexpensive health and beauty booster”

2012-03-19T09:00:00.001-07:00

When I was kid, I used to play with jute leaves, the elongated sprout of it used to be my green banana, and the leaves I seemingly cook it and sell it to my friends (the usual 'cook and sell' kids do) only to find out later that my supposed 'plaything' is a plant of wonder.

Historians reported this to have existed since 6000 BC and had been widely used in the cuisine of ancient Greek people. They believed that "Mulukhiya" as they call it "is the food for the nobles and kings". It was was even deemed to be one of the beauty secrets of Cleopatra.

Saluyot, with a scientific name of Corchorus Olituris Linn, as famoulsy called, is also known as 'jute leaves', 'molukhiya', 'mallow leaves'. It is green, leafy, shrublike vegetables that sprouts anywhere, almost unnoticed; if cultivated, it requires less care and can be grown whole year round. It is known for its characteristrics as slimy like that of okra. The leaves can be used fresh and dry. It can be added to soups. Dried leaves are used as tea and believed to cure headache, dysntery and ulcers.

WHY SALUYOT?

Health experts suggest that each individual should consume a half cup of saluyot a day, as it contains the necessary dietary nutrients our body needs.

The mallow leaves are rich source of iron, protein, thiamin, riboflavin, niacin, phosphorous and potassium. It also contains vitamin A, which aids in reparing the body cell and improve eyesight; Vitamin C or ascorbic acid, which improves circulations, helps prevent cataracts and other eye disorder and helps hasten the healing of wounds; Vitamin E, which slows down the aches and pains associtaed with aging, holds infertiluith at bay and increases stamina; and a high percentage of calcium, which contributed to strong teetn and bones. Regular consumption of saluyot stabilizes blood pressure and cholesterol level. It helps reduce the risk of asthma, cancer, diabeter and heart disease.

ANTI- AGING

Due to its amazingly high anti oxidant activity, primarily in the form of vitamin e, aµ tocopherol, eating it reduces the appearance of wrinkles and fine lines in the face and body and regular consumption of it can make you appear young. Saluyot was said to be the ‘culprit’ behind Cleopatra’s beauty and Egyptian royalties, further attested to be behind the long life and youthful looks among Ilokanos living in Ilocos region in the Philippines.

Variety of recipes can be found in the internet involving saluyot. It became a sudden fever for the ‘health conscious’ individuals, an awareness that skyrocketed, paving way to organics. Thus, amidst innovations, technological advancements of medicines, recent studies proved that health and beauty preservation does not have to be costly or synthesized. There are still inexpensive and natural ways of staying young, beautiful and healthy.

Simply being with my kids

2012-03-17T01:42:00.000-07:00

Weekends with the kids

From a whole week of heavy loads, pressures, deadlines from work- weekend rewards off all those 'heavy sigh' especially if you've got to spend it with your family. It's obviously bonding time with the kids and your husband.

This is Ivan and Ezra, my two bubbly angels who sometimes burns out my patience. They just love to play with the camera, do whatever they can think about. Ezra is the eldest, she acts as the director, instruct ivan, her younger brother to imitate her and reminds him not to forget to smile infront of the camera, ha ha ha, limelight lover!!!

Ivan the action hero, loves to be with me all the time, so if I sit with my computer, he would be in my lap then and destructs me with all his might!!!! He'd say "mumu man" that's for spiderman, that means he wanted to see the pictures of spiderman...

Meet my youngest, Ivy, she's cool, so cool with those full blown big eyes.
It knocks me off when she says "dadadadaadada".

I'm a "working-mom-who-works-an-hour-and-3o-mins-away-from-my-family" and could not go home every night. That's why when weekend comes, I see to it that the two day alotment should be spent at its most.

Even the smallest details of holding up my little girl, making her sleep, seeing her smile and giggle, watching my two grown up babies toddle, run and play with each other, this is the best DESTRESSING TIME I could hope for. It looses me out on the stiffness of my work and pressures.