If so, you’re not alone. Most people who operate in a support capacity experience this frequently. It’s one of the more complicated and uncomfortable dynamics of the support role.

Maybe you’re coordinating a leadership initiative, or organizing a rollout, or overseeing a cross-functional project where nobody directly reports to you. Still, you’re expected to make sure deadlines are met and deliverables are completed.

But you can’t rely on formal authority to make any of that happen.

This is where a lot of people start softening their communication without even realizing it, saying things like…

• “Can you do me a favor…?”
• “Whenever you get a chance…”
• “Sorry to bother you…”

You start treating legitimate work requests like personal favors because you know you’re not technically someone’s supervisor.

But here’s the important thing to remember:

If leadership has trusted you to coordinate a project, manage a timeline, or oversee the execution of something, then part of your role is to make sure people follow through on their commitments. You are communicating on behalf of the initiative and the leadership behind it, not simply making casual requests. You are not inventing authority for yourself. You are a representative of the leader and their authority.

This simple but powerful mindset shift can completely change the way you communicate.

Stop Sounding Like You Need Permission

Remember: When you delegate work, you’re not imposing on people. You’re coordinating responsibilities that are already connected to organizational goals.

Instead of this:

“Just wanted to see if you might have an update when you have time…”

Say something like this:

“We need the finalized report by Thursday so it can be included in next week’s leadership review.”

The second version sounds calm, organized, and clear. It’s not aggressive, but it’s not apologetic either.

People respond better when expectations sound normal and established rather than hesitant or overly softened.

Context Helps People Prioritize

People tend to be far more responsive when they understand why something matters.

If you delegate a task with no context, it’s easy for someone to mentally place it behind everything else competing for their attention.

But when you connect the request to a larger outcome, priorities become clearer.

For example:

“We need your team’s numbers finalized by Tuesday because the executive budget review is Wednesday morning.”

Now the task has visibility, timing, and organizational importance attached to it.

You’re helping people understand what else depends on their contribution.

This becomes especially important when you are coordinating across departments where everyone already feels overloaded and they don’t necessarily know how one thing impacts another. Context helps people decide where your request fits among competing priorities.

Follow-Up Is Part of Delegation

This is the part I think people struggle with most. Assigning a task once is easy. Following up when someone misses a deadline or stops responding is where things get uncomfortable, but it’s part of managing the situation. Note that I’m not saying “micro-managing.” Following up with people is NOT the same as micro-managing; it’s just managing.

Stop thinking of follow-up as an annoyance or inconvenience and start treating it as a vital part of the job. Leadership has entrusted you to successfully coordinate and execute the work, and follow-up is an essential part of that.

Try saying something like this:

“Checking back on this since we need the finalized version before Friday’s meeting. Where do things stand?”

This is a simple and direct request for a status update.  The goal is to maintain accountability without being overly aggressive. You are reminding people that they have made a commitment and you’re relying on them.

Visibility Strengthens Authority

One reason delegation becomes difficult is that work and communication are too fluid.

Someone agrees to something verbally in a meeting. Another person assumes someone else owns it. A week later, nobody is aligned on deadlines or responsibilities.

The more formal and visible you make the work, the easier accountability becomes.

That might look like:

• documented action items
• shared timelines
• meeting recaps
• ownership trackers
• status update reports
• clearly assigned deliverables

These things reduce ambiguity for everyone involved and make follow-up feel less personal because you’re referencing documented commitments.

Instead of this:

“I feel like this should have been done by now…”

you can say:

“This is still listed as pending on the project timeline, and we need it completed before budget approval.”

The conversation stays rooted in reality, not feelings or imperfect memory.

Sometimes You Need to Escalate

No matter how organized you are or how effectively you communicate, there will always be people who fail to meet their commitments. This can happen for a variety of reasons and it’s worthwhile having a conversation to find out what’s going on. But if and when the situation becomes unmanageable, escalation may be necessary.

A lot of people avoid escalation because they associate it with conflict or punishment. But think of it as operational transparency.

Leadership can’t help resolve issues they don’t know about.

The key is to keep escalation focused on facts and impact.

For example:

“We’re still waiting on the compliance review from James, and the delay may affect next week’s implementation timeline.”

That keeps the focus on the issue, the timeline and the consequences, not personal frustration.

The calmer and more organized you stay during these moments, the more credibility you build.

Effective delegation without direct authority is not about sounding powerful. It’s about communicating clearly, following up consistently, and managing expectations professionally so that people understand the work is going to be tracked until it gets done.

When you do these things consistently, people begin taking your requests seriously. Not because they fear consequences from you personally, but because they respect you. They understand the work is being actively managed and tracked, and they don’t want to let you down. THAT is true influence and credibility. And over time, these things become their own form of authority, far more powerful than some fancy managerial title.

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It can look a lot like ordinary stress on the surface. You may find yourself unusually irritated by small inconveniences. Tasks that once felt manageable suddenly require enormous effort. Your patience gets shorter, your focus slips, motivation disappears. Even small or positive changes can start to feel like an overwhelming burden.

Sound familiar? If so, you’re not alone. We probably all feel a touch of it right now.

The problem is not necessarily change itself. Contrary to popular belief, most people don’t dislike change; it’s the adaptation that causes exhaustion.

• We love new technology that makes our lives easier but learning it is a challenge.
• We love living in a new house, but the process of moving is a pain.
• We love the new job, but struggle to get used to all the new routines.

Adaption requires huge amounts of energy. Constantly changing means operating in uncertainty and continuously recalibrating. New expectations, new systems, new priorities… Your brain never really settles in before the next disruption arrives.

Change fatigue is what happens when the disruption caused by change becomes greater than your ability to absorb it. In other words, your adaption muscles are depleted. This is not a sign of weakness! It’s a natural outcome in our modern world and it shouldn’t be ignored.

The Two Ways to Reduce Change Fatigue

If change fatigue happens when disruption outweighs capacity, it stands to reason that there are two options for dealing with it:

1. Decrease the disruption of the change, or
2. Increase your capacity to deal with it

Think of disruption as the amount of chaos you’re being asked to process, while capacity is the amount of physical, mental, and emotional energy you have available to handle it.

Sometimes you can do BOTH (decrease disruption AND increase capacity) but sometimes, you can only do one or the other.  That’s okay. Even small adjustments can help overcome change fatigue.

Decreasing the Disruption

You’re probably not in control every change happening to you or around you, but you can still reduce how much disruption reaches you personally.

Sometimes resilience is not about absorbing more chaos; it’s more about reducing your exposure to chaos. We can do that by creating more stability and predictability and reducing demands where we can.

That might mean:

• Reducing the scope, pace or complexity of the change
• Postponing nonessential parts of the change or other projects/commitments
• Delaying some changes until timing is better
• Simplifying outcomes instead of trying to optimize everything
• Breaking large changes into smaller, more manageable pieces
• Reducing the number of competing priorities
• Lowering/adjusting expectations for what’s reasonable
• Narrowing your focus (temporarily) to reduce information overload
• Avoiding unnecessary multitasking

People often underestimate their ability to impact timelines, expectations and workloads. Asking for clarity and pushing back against unreasonable demands is part of being an active participant in change. Reducing disruption is often about creating more manageable conditions for adaptation, even when you don’t have total control.

Increasing Your Capacity

When people feel overwhelmed by change, the instinct is often to just push harder. But constantly forcing yourself forward without recovery eventually shrinks your capacity.

Expanding your capacity requires time for restoration. That might look like:

• Protecting your sleep and recovery time more intentionally
• Reducing unnecessary decision-making (or batching decision making)
• Asking for help sooner rather than later
• Creating energizing routines that bring consistency
• Clarifying what actually matters most right now (Hint: it’s not everything!) and where your energy actually needs to go
• Talking through stress with a trusted advisor instead of carrying it silently
• Giving yourself permission to not adapt perfectly
• Redistributing responsibilities in other life areas

One of the most helpful things you can do during periods of intense change is stop expecting yourself to function normally. That sounds obvious, but many people never make that adjustment mentally. They continue holding themselves to the same standards, same pace, and same emotional output while everything around them is in transition.

Of course, that’s exhausting and unrealistic.

Another important shift involves acknowledging that life and work need to be paced strategically together. When one is demanding enormous adaptation from you, consider postponing major changes in the other. Not everything can or should be done all at once.

Change Fatigue Compounds

One of the most difficult things about change fatigue is that it accumulates gradually.

You deal with change after change. Adapt more and more. And then suddenly, it feels like one more thing will break you. But it’s not about that one thing; it’s the compounded weight of everything you’ve been carrying for a long time.

People cannot remain in a permanent state of disruption without feeling the consequences.

Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is not to demand more resilience from yourself. Instead, it’s to stand back and remember the two-sides of the formula: disruption and capacity. What can you do to reduce one and increase the other?

Change fatigue is not a sign that you’re failing. It’s a sign that adjustments are needed.

If you’re interested in learning more about effective change management strategies, consider joining the upcoming Change Championship Learning Lab. Learn more and sign up here. 

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This is the essence of what it means to be resourceful. Instead of waiting for help to arrive or relying on someone else to tell you what to do, you simply figure it out.

Resourceful people don’t shy away from the unknown. They sit with the problem, pull it apart, look for clues and test possibilities. They may still ask for help, but not before they’ve made a serious attempt on their own.

This process of “figuring it out,” is an essential skill that expands your professional acumen far beyond the task at hand. It builds self-sufficiency and self-confidence. It proves, to you and others, that you can connect the dots and think for yourself. It is the foundation upon which you can build a powerful professional reputation. Without it, career advancement will always be an uphill battle.

Some people are born naturally resourceful. Others learn it early, either through structured programs or because life demands it. For many of us, myself included, it’s a skill we develop later.

If you’re looking to expand your skills in this area, the following strategies will help.

Work the Problem Yourself

Before you ask for help, spend time trying to make sense of what’s in front of you.

This doesn’t mean spinning your wheels for hours. Just give yourself enough space to form an initial point of view.

What exactly is the issue? Where does it show up? What have you already tried?

Even a rough attempt is useful because it gives you something to build on.

You’re not trying to avoid asking questions. But you always want to come into the conversation with context. You want to be able to say, “Here’s what I think is happening, and here’s what I’ve tried so far.”

This approach changes the dynamic completely. You’re no longer asking to be rescued; you’re collaborating.

Research with Intention

Much of the time, answers are easily accessible if you know where to look.

We’re working in an environment where more information is at our fingertips than ever before. A quick search can provide detailed explanations. Internal files and past work often hold examples you can reuse or learn from. Online forums are full of people documenting the exact problems you’re trying to solve. And if you need help thinking something through, AI tools can help refine your approach.

The gap isn’t access. It’s initiative.

When you run into something you don’t know how to do, the instinct to immediately ask someone else might be strong. It’s faster in the moment. But it also short-circuits your ability to build this skill.

A more resourceful approach is to pause and ask: what can I find on my own first?

That might mean running a few different searches until you land on the right phrasing. It might mean digging through shared drives or old projects to see how something was handled before. It might mean reading through a few conflicting answers and figuring out which one actually applies to your situation.

And again, if and when you do eventually ask for help, you have proof of your efforts. You can say, “Here’s what I found, and here’s where I’m still stuck.”

Over time, you get faster at finding what you need and better at filtering what’s useful.

Look for Patterns

The more problems you work through on your own, the more you start to recognize familiar patterns. At first, everything feels new. But over time, you notice that many issues share the same underlying structure.

A breakdown in a project might come back to inconsistent management practices. A recurring error might point to the same root cause, even if it shows up in different ways.

When you run into something unfamiliar, it helps to ask: what does this resemble?

You may not have an exact match, but even a partial connection can give you a starting point.

After you solve something, take a minute to think about what kind of problem it really was. This small habit builds a mental library you can draw from later.

Practice Trial and Error

Resourceful people have a bias for action.

Waiting for complete certainty usually leads to delays. Trying something, even if it’s not perfect, gives you information you can use.

The key is to be intentional. Make one change at a time so you can see what effect it has. Pay attention to the outcome, then adjust.

Done in this way, it’s not guesswork. It’s a process of narrowing in on what works.

People who are strong at figuring things out tend to move through this cycle steadily. They don’t get stuck after one failed attempt, and they don’t overreact to early results. After all, “error” is an inherent part of “trial and error.” You have to stick with it long enough to learn from what you’re doing.

Shift Your Default Response

When you don’t know how to do something, your first move matters.

If your default is to look for someone to tell you what to do, you limit how much you develop your own capability. If your default is to engage with the problem (understand it, research it, test your thinking) you build something much more valuable.

You don’t need to get all the way to the answer on your own every time. Just meet the problem halfway.

Resourcefulness comes from repeated practice in small, everyday situations. Over time, you will become known as someone who can be trusted to handle things, even when the path isn’t obvious. And, more importantly, you’ll trust yourself to work through whatever shows up next.

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Think of it like this: You essentially have two broad routes for advancement:

• Internal advancement – staying with your current employer.
• External advancement – moving out of your current organization and into a different one.

Within each of these options, there are many further options to consider. So, let’s unpack this even more.

arrow forward iconInternal Transition: making a lateral move (i.e., maintaining the same or similar level and career path) to a different group or area of the business.

When this makes sense:

• You are happy with your organization and have established a strong internal reputation you can leverage.
• You want to expand your skillset and make yourself more visible to different stakeholders.
• You don’t want to confine yourself to your existing group’s growth trajectory.
• You’ve identified a work group where the opportunities and requirements match your interests and talents.

arrow forward iconInternal Promotion: earning a higher-level role within your same work group (typically with a title change and pay increase).

When this makes sense:

• You’ve already built credibility, relationships, and domain expertise where you are.
• You can show both a track record of past success and potential for future growth.
• Opportunities for growth are established, accessible and align with your long-term goals.

arrow forward iconInternal Change: moving in any direction (typically down or lateral) inside your organization but with the intention of changing career paths.

When this makes sense:

• You want to shift your path to something brand new and can leverage your internal relationships and reputation to get a foot in the door.
• You have identified transferrable skills that will help you be successful in this new role.
• You’ll have the support you need (management, mentorship, resources) to learn on-the-job.

arrow forward iconExternal Transition: making a lateral move (i.e., maintaining the same or similar level and career path) to a different organization.

When this makes sense:

• The internal career path is limited, or you’ve reached a career ceiling.
• You want a culture change, new industry, or fresh challenge that your current company can’t provide.
• You’ve defined your long-term goals and have new clarity on what kind of environment or role will support it.

arrow forward iconExternal Promotion: earning a higher-level role within a new organization (typically with a title change and pay increase).

When this makes sense:

• Any of the reasons listed above (for external transition).
• You’re able to leverage your experience and network to earn growth opportunities in an organization where you don’t have a track record.
• You’re willing to stretch into a growth position while also learning a new organizational culture and team.

arrow forward iconExternal Change: moving in any direction (typically down or lateral) at a new organization but with the intention of changing career paths.

When this makes sense:

• Any of the reasons listed above (for external transition and external promotion).
• You want to shift your path to something brand new and need an opportunity to get your foot in the door.
• You have identified transferrable skills that will help you be successful in this new role.

Here are some questions to help you decide which path is best for you:

• Where do I want to be in 2‑5 years? Does my next step (internal or external) align with that vision?
• What capabilities or experiences do I still need? Which path offers them most directly?
• What’s the disruption cost? (Internal usually means an easier transition and lower risk. External often means higher risk, possibly higher potential reward, and a more difficult transition.)
• How comfortable am I with change/risk? Do I thrive in new environments or prefer continuity and making deeper impact?
• What’s the culture and structure like in each scenario? Does the organization/team support the kind of growth I want?

Career advancement isn’t a one‑size‑fits‑all journey. Sometimes the most impactful move is to stay right where you are today. You can sharpen your skills, grow your influence, and build a track record with your current team. Other times, shifting sideways or stepping outside opens entirely new possibilities. As you weigh your options, focus on your long‑term vision and consider the skills you want to build and the kind of impact you want to have.

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While these terms often get used interchangeably, they each serve a distinct purpose. Understanding the differences can help you choose the right kind of support to get you from where you are to where you want to be.

Career counseling involves working with a trained practitioner to reflect on past experiences, behaviors, and patterns, some of which may have been detrimental or limiting. This work is usually focused on reviewing your history to gain insight into why certain choices were made and how those patterns might be reshaped moving forward. Counseling can help you understand what’s been holding you back so you can move forward with more clarity.

Counselors often have formal therapeutic training and may be licensed. If you are dealing with particularly complicated personal and emotional dynamics related to your career, a counselor may be better suited for addressing these things productively.

Career coaching is forward-focused and action-oriented. It centers on helping you clarify your future vision and guiding you to create a plan to get there. A coach doesn’t tell you what to do; they help you arrive at your own conclusions, solutions, and strategies through structured guidance and thoughtful questioning.

Coaches may be trained in certain techniques and certified, but that’s not technically a requirement. (As a coach myself, I strongly suggest you seek someone who is certified and experienced.)

Mentorship is built on a relationship with someone who has walked the path you want to take. Mentors share from experience and offer perspective, advice, and encouragement rooted in a career you admire. It’s not about structured development; it’s about gaining insight from someone whose achievements, reputation, or skill set you respect.

Mentors don’t need credentials. Their value lies in their experience and perspective. Look for someone who “has what you want,” in terms of skills, character, career, etc.

Common Use Cases

When to seek career counseling:

• You’re stuck in recurring patterns you don’t fully understand.
• You want to explore past decisions and behaviors to better inform your future.
• You’re experiencing emotional resistance or fear around change or career growth.

When to engage a career coach:

• You’re ready to define a new goal or career direction.
• You want accountability, structure, and tools to take meaningful steps.
• You’re looking for a thought partner to challenge and support you as you grow.

When to look for a mentor:

• You admire someone’s career path and want to learn from their experience.
• You’re seeking real-world advice, encouragement, and networking support.
• You want perspective from someone who’s achieved what you’re aiming for.

How to decide what you need

Here are some guiding questions to ask yourself as you consider the options:

• Do I need to better understand my past or take clearer steps toward my future?
• Am I searching for insight, action, or inspiration?
• Do I feel stuck emotionally, strategically, or motivationally?
• How structured do I want the relationship to be?
• Do I need credentials and training or perspective and relatability?

Of course, these roles aren’t mutually exclusive, and you don’t have to pick just one. You can work with multiple people in multiple capacities if you want. Understanding the different roles helps you choose wisely and ensure the partnership actually meets your expectations and helps move you forward.

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While the transition between stages isn’t always exact or predictable, this framework offers a helpful lens through which to view your career progression. It reminds us that we don’t have to do everything all at once; each stage has its own purpose, priorities, and payoffs.

Learn: The Lifelong Foundation

We often associate the learning phase with early-career experiences, and for good reason. The start of your career is full of steep learning curves, new skill development, and lessons that come quickly and often uncomfortably. But the truth is, learning never stops being essential.

Even when you’re well into your later years, learning is what helps you keep your competitive edge. It’s how you’re able to stay relevant and continue adapting to new demands. No matter how far along you are in your career journey, it’s important to stay intellectually curious. When learning stops, growth stops.

You may begin your career in this stage, but you should never really leave it behind.

Earn: Leveraging Your Expertise

The “Earn” phase is where you begin to see the returns on your investment in learning. You’ve gained experience and (hopefully) developed competence and confidence. You’re contributing meaningfully, making a solid income, and enjoying the fruits of your labor.

Earning isn’t just financial. It’s also about credibility, influence, and choice. In this stage, you’re able to shape your work more intentionally. You know what you’re good at and what brings you fulfillment, and you have more power now to build your work around those strengths.

If you’re lucky, this stage can last for a long time. And while it can be deeply satisfying, most people begin to shift into the final stage as they begin to contemplate late-career growth and even retirement.

Return: Building Your Legacy

At this point, you’ve probably achieved many of your career goals. People might now come to you for guidance more often. Perhaps you’re starting to think more about impact than achievement.

This is the “Return” stage. It’s not retirement (yet). It’s not slowing down. It’s the season where you give back through mentoring, teaching, advocating for others, and creating opportunities that didn’t exist before. You’re sharing your hard-earned wisdom with others who are in earlier stages.

You draw on everything you’ve learned and earned, and you start to reinvest it back into your professional community. Typically, this stems out of desire to leave things better than you found them and to leave a legacy – something that lives on far beyond you.

And of course, you’re still learning and earning in this stage too. But your motivation changes. It’s less about climbing and more about lifting.

Understanding the stage you’re in can bring a sense of clarity and purpose. But more importantly, it can help you focus on what matters most in the moment and let go of unrealistic expectations and comparisons.

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So, what do you?

For some of you readers, this scenario is all too real. So, let’s address it.

First, I want to acknowledge that this is a very disorienting place to be. You don’t want to leave; you just don’t want to stagnate.

When upward mobility is not available, but your ambition and curiosity are still alive and well, there are several options to consider.

Redefine Growth

If you’re only measuring career progress by title changes and salary bumps, it’s time to widen your lens. Growth can also mean deepening your expertise, expanding your influence, or taking on challenges that stretch you in new ways, even if they don’t come with a traditional promotion. (This is the difference between progression and advancement, which you can learn more about here.)

If you’re really happy where you are, you might want to focus on finding other ways to progress.

Maybe become a mentor for less experienced colleagues. Take ownership of interesting projects. Volunteer for a committee to work on a long-standing organizational challenge. These activities might not come with immediate rewards, but they can still help you build leadership skills and develop depth and breadth of expertise.

Reshape Your Role

If you’ve been in your role for a while, you likely have a unique blend of institutional knowledge, practical skills, and people insight. Use that mix to evolve your current role in the direction you want. Propose initiatives that align with business goals but draw on your specific strengths and interests. This process is commonly referred to as career crafting.

This isn’t necessarily about taking on more work. It’s about shifting your work to focus more on things that energize you and add value. Maybe your role can expand even if your title doesn’t.

Build Sideways, Not Just Up

Career development isn’t just a vertical game. Consider lateral moves that give you exposure to different teams, organizational areas or business functions. These transitions can build agility and perspective, and they make you a stronger candidate for future opportunities that might not exist yet.

You can also look outside your organization for professional growth that complements your current job. Speaking engagements, industry panels, writing, and training can build your reputation and satisfy your drive for growth without requiring a job change.

Understand What Matters Right Now

Before making any decisions, check in with yourself. What are your priorities in this season of your career? At certain times, stability might outweigh the need for advancement. In other seasons, the drive to grow, lead, or earn more might take priority.

Be honest about what you value most right now and what you’re willing to sacrifice to get it. Greater responsibility might mean longer hours or more stress. A title bump might mean relocating or leaving an organization you love. Knowing what matters most to you now will help you make decisions with clarity rather than obligation. Too many people feel a constant desire to advance not because it’s what they want, but because it’s what they think they SHOULD want.

Recognize When It’s Time to Move On

Sometimes, despite your best efforts, there’s no room left to grow where you are. That’s just reality. Ceilings exist at every level. If advancement is a priority for you and you’ve exhausted your options internally, it may be time to look externally.

Leaving a job you like doesn’t mean you’re disloyal or selfish. It means you’re aligning your career path with your goals. Just be sure that any move you make is a thoughtful step toward something you truly want.

To be clear: you don’t have to leap into a brand-new field or chase a title elsewhere to keep your career growing. There are often options right where you are, even if they aren’t traditional “upward” moves. However, if and when you’ve outgrown the space you’re in, it’s okay to seek more. Give yourself permission to move on.

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Give me a new notebook, some highlighters, and a few hours on a Sunday afternoon, and there’s nothing I love more. I can build the most beautiful timelines, map out projects in sophisticated software, and create flow charts that take your breath away.

It’s truly my happy place.

This kind of work feels productive. And it is…to a certain extent.

But planning isn’t actual progress. It’s preparation.

While preparation is necessary, it’s not a substitute for real forward-momentum action.

I had the unpleasant realization several years ago that my beautifully detailed plans had started to function less like a tool and more like a cozy hiding place.

I was no longer planning productively, I was procrasti-planning.

The False Sense of Momentum

Planning gives you structure, but it also gives you something else: a sense of control.

As someone who struggles with chronic anxiety, there is nothing I crave more.

When I’m neck-deep in a new plan, I feel on top of things. I’m organizing the chaos. I’m getting ready. And that provides the very pleasant illusion of control (but not necessarily the reality of it).

The problem is that “getting ready” can go on indefinitely. Planning activates the same parts of the brain that are involved in achievement (dopamine), so it’s dangerously easy to mistake that rush of productivity for the real thing.

If you’re a planner by nature, my experience might sound familiar. You know you’re in dangerous territory if you’ve ever…

• Spent hours outlining a goal but then failed to actually take the first step.
• Refined your schedule multiple times but still haven’t stuck to it.
• Set up new planners or time management software systems over and over again, and then never maintained them long-term.
• Felt busy but lacked the expected results.

These experiences mark the pivot point where planning becomes procrastination.

According to Adam Grant, procrastination isn’t a time management problem. It’s an emotional management problem. You’re not avoiding the task; you’re avoiding the feeling the task brings up.

In the case of procrasti-planning, I think we enjoy the feeling of planning and the false sense of productivity and control. However, the feelings that come up with taking action on the plan are far riskier. As long as we are planning, we feel safe.

So it makes sense why this happens. Now, we have to talk about how to get out of it.

What to Do When You’re Stuck in Planning Mode

Getting out of procrasti-planning requires some honest reflection and a shift in how you approach action. Here are a few strategies that help me (and that I train others to try):

Anchor your plan with a “doing” deadline.
I now set a cap on planning time. For example: I’ll take one hour to map the approach, and then I must move into execution, even if it’s just the smallest actionable piece.

Define “done” for your planning phase.
Clarity is powerful. Knowing when a plan is good enough prevents the perfectionism loop. Ask: What’s the minimum viable plan I need to begin?

Use planning to stage action, not delay it.
Planning is most effective when it clears the path for action. If your plan doesn’t make things easier to do, then it’s likely a distraction.

Check in with your emotional state.
Sometimes I can tell that my planning is a coping mechanism. I’m anxious about failing, or being judged, or not knowing enough. When I notice that, I try to name the fear and then move on. Planning doesn’t actually confront the issue; it just masks it. Action is often the exact thing I need to truly relieve the anxiety.

Commit to accountability partner.
When I say out loud, “I’m going to start this project by 3pm,” it creates external pressure, and it gently breaks the planning trance. Left to my own devices, I can fool myself. Having a supportive partner helps me get and stay on track.

Some of the most interesting and powerful work I’ve done, both personally and with clients, started with the realization that preparing to do the thing had become a comfortable stand-in for actually doing the thing. It’s not a character flaw, but it is a behavioral pattern. And once you see it, you can choose something different.

So, if you catch yourself polishing a plan multiple times today, pause and ask: Is this helping me actually move forward, or just making me feel like I’m in motion? Then, deliberately shift toward action. Imperfect, messy, real action is where progress begins.

If you want more help getting your planning and time management systems up to par, consider joining the upcoming Time Management Mastery Learning Lab. Learn more here.

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I have spent countless hours of my life staring at blank pages and fussing over how to phrase difficult ideas. It was uncomfortable and time consuming, but that mental effort is what made me grow as a writer and a thinker. Forcing myself to sit in that space of messiness sharpened my perspective, honed my instincts, and helped me develop a voice that is uniquely mine.

But lately, I’ve been reaching for AI before I’ve had enough time to sit in the discomfort. And my brain is paying the price.

AI creates content far faster than I can on my own. If I don’t pause to think first and do the messy, uncomfortable stuff, AI can produce something for me, but it’s not the same cognitive experience.

AI provides faster answers, smoother first drafts, and instant problem-solving. It’s made it easier to bypass the discomfort of thinking. And while these tools are incredibly powerful workplace partners, they also pose a real danger: the erosion of our own cognitive agency.

To be clear: I am an AI enthusiast. I use it frequently! I truly believe it has improved both my life and my work. But there is a cost.

When you let a tool do your thinking for you, you might be saving time in the literal sense. But you’re outsourcing your ability to wrestle with ambiguity, to make judgment calls, and to stretch your mental muscles.

AI is designed to please. It’s trained on patterns and optimized to deliver what the average user is most likely to want. It rewards conformity and nudges us all toward sameness. That might be fine for summarizing meeting notes, but when it comes to your voice, your ideas, and your leadership, conformity is the opposite of impact.

To stay cognitively engaged, I’ve recently adopted some countermeasures. I hope you’ll consider joining me:

• Resist the urge to delegate thinking. Use AI to check or enhance your ideas, not generate them wholesale. Start with your own messy first draft and then let AI point out the flaws, deepen your rationale and stretch your understanding. Ask it specifically to challenge you, not just affirm you.
• Allow a little discomfort. Take time to reflect before you reach for the AI shortcut. The moments when you’re stuck are often where growth happens and new ideas form.
• Ask yourself, “Is this mine?” When AI generates something for you, look at it carefully before you share it. Don’t just ask, “Does it sound like me?” Ask: “Is the substance a reflection of my own thinking? Or did I just approve what the tool handed me?” If it’s not your thinking, it’s someone else’s.
• Practice solitude. Not everything has to be optimized. Give yourself time and space to think, uninterrupted, without digital interference.

Much of my own thinking on this subject was shaped by the book, “The Comfort Crisis,” which examines the value of doing uncomfortable things and how that’s been lost in our technologically advanced age. I highly recommend it if you’re interested in exploring this topic further.

My own experiences have also led me here! I have found that, when I leverage AI too soon in my thought process, it often steers me in the wrong direction. I have gone down many rabbit holes because something sounded good, but then later I realized it wasn’t actually an accurate reflection of my beliefs and goals.

There’s no doubt that AI is here to stay. It’s evolving rapidly, and when used thoughtfully, it can absolutely augment our thinking. These tools should add to your own mental acuity, not replace it.

We have something AI never will: lived experience, gut instinct, values, and perspective. Those are too precious to be sidelined in favor of efficiency.

The next time you reach for an AI shortcut, pause. Listen to your own mind first. Then use AI to sharpen your own insights.

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But here’s the truth: an overwhelming workload isn’t necessarily a personal shortcoming. Often, it’s simply a logistical mismatch that requires deliberate recalibration.

Having trained professionals across industries for more than 15 years, I’ve discovered that there are only three real options when you’re overwhelmed. Everything else is a distraction or a delay.

Option 1: Reduce the Workload

This is the most obvious (and usually the most resisted) option. You can reduce your workload, but it requires conversations that most people want to avoid. You might need to renegotiate deadlines, reallocate responsibilities, delegate more intentionally, or leverage technology more effectively.

Resistance usually comes from a well-meaning place. You want to be seen as a reliable, capable, team player. But being overwhelmed doesn’t serve your team, your goals, or your personal wellbeing. You are a human being, with normal, natural human limitations of time and energy.

If your plate is overfull, ask: Who else can contribute here? What are more reasonable expectations I can advocate for? What tools or systems could help reduce my manual busy work?

Option 2: Increase Efficiency

Sometimes the workload is just unchangeable, at least in the short term. When that’s the case, the next step is to get smarter about how you tackle it. Instead of working longer hours, work more intentionally.

Start with prioritization. Not everything on your list holds equal weight. Then look for where you can streamline: Are there recurring tasks that can be batched? Meetings that can be emails? Emails that can ignored or automatically filed? Reports that can be templatized? Processes that can be improved?

Audit your time honestly and figure out where you’re wasting time and do everything in your power to reduce it. Efficiency is a skill you can build but (like all learning) it first requires self-awareness.

Option 3: Shift Your Mindset

The third, often overlooked, option is to change your relationship with the work itself. Sometimes what overwhelms us isn’t the work itself, but the expectations we’ve layered onto it.

You’re not the only one feeling the pressures of “too much to do and not enough time.” This is the state of the modern workplace.

Accept that you’re not going to get everything done TODAY. That’s not defeatism; that’s reality. And more importantly, it’s not the point. The goal is not to finish everything right now; it’s to understand what matters most in this moment and focus your energy there.

I’ll share a useful metaphor I first heard from Joan Burge of Office Dynamics. Picture yourself juggling. Some of the balls are rubber, some are glass. The rubber ones will bounce if dropped. The glass ones won’t. The work you are juggling is the same.

The skill lies in knowing the difference between the tasks that are made of glass and can’t be dropped, versus the ones made of rubber that will be just fine if you set them aside for a while.

That mindset shift doesn’t lower the volume of work, but it can dramatically change how you experience it. It supports self-compassion and a renewed sense of agency. You are not a victim. You are an active participant in defining when and how work gets done.

And here’s the best news of all: You don’t have to figure all this out on your own. If you want support applying any (or all) of these strategies in a way that fits your role, goals, and work style, consider joining the Time Management Mastery Learning Lab. You’ll learn a proven 4-part framework for managing high-volume workloads with greater control and clarity.

Let this be the moment you stop managing the chaos and start reshaping it.

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