tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-50084769024801151652024-11-01T06:33:53.826-04:00From the Mind of Eboni to the World! Navigating, Analyzing, and Deciphering Life, Love, and Relationships!Eboni N. Faulkner aka MochaFoxxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05899894390048773957noreply@blogger.comBlogger74125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5008476902480115165.post-54845139591965198042011-04-21T12:09:00.001-04:002011-04-22T10:57:35.606-04:00

“Marriage is a lottery, but you can’t tear up your ticket if you lose.”~Unknown Says who?!  With many of the married couples I know, there seems to be a lot of contemplation about and/or tearing up of their ticket!  What used to be a one-way street into a lifetime of happiness, struggles and unity is now a super highway with the option to exit at every half mile!  How many couples

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Welcome to “Lowered Expectations”!  Are you a woman with low to no standards?  Are you tired of not finding your "list" man and ready to accept whatever you can get?!  If this is you, you have come to the right place!  Browse our growing inventory stocked full of men who are often overlooked, hardly dated and underrated!  If you ever found yourself saying the

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“…I give you all the love I want in return, sweet darlin' But half a love is all I feel It's too bad, it's too sad You don't want me now But I'm gonna change your mind Someway, somehow, oh baby…”~Marvin Gaye (“I Want You”) If it's no, then keep it moving! Be real with yourself, how often have you felt this way?!  Sometimes our obsession with wanting those who do not want us can leave us

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Lately I've been doing a lot of thinking about the patterns I see in my life.  Often I find myself making the same mistakes and feeling out of sorts for the parallel results of these choices.  While I was doing my spring cleaning, I found a poem that a client/domestic violence survivor of mine gave me years ago.  As I unravelled this crumpled piece of paper, I realized it

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Good Afternoon All!  Despite the fact that I revamped the site (hope you like the springy themeJ), I am shaking my head at how long it has been since I graced your presence with a post!  For good reason though because life is truly taking off!  I started my new blog. I MOTIVATES (check it outJ), I’m taking some classes, tackling my business and a slew of other positive and

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Disclosure Statement: This is not a post to blame or critique mothers.  With any rule, there is an exception.  Even within a two-parent home, there are no guarantees for effective parenting.  There are many examples of exceptionally strong and well-rounded men who were raised without their fathers.  As a young woman with a keen eye and discerning spirit, I am speaking of those

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  Leave it at the door! Have you ever mistakenly asked someone “So what happened with your last relationship?”  Many dating experts would say you should NEVER delve into someone else’s past.  I beg to differ.  This question, as touchy as it may be, can reveal a lot about a person.  Aside from the dancing skeletons and eye-popping confessions, this question has

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Happy Valentine's Day my loves!  I hope that you are enjoying this day of love, passion and dedication to the one's you care for.  If you aren't romantically connected with someone, don't remove yourself from this holiday.  You are surrounded by more love than you think.  You don't need a day to share the love you have in your heart or acknowledge the love people give you

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Of course we can...but what will the man be doing?!  Last week as I was getting my nails pampered, I flipped through a recent issue of Cosmo magazine.  Not impressed by the usual Kama Sutra crap, I stumbled upon an article entitled “Why Men in Love Are Dragging Their Feet.”1 BINGO!  Right up my alley and blog worthy!  This article left such a bad taste in my mouth about the

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 Happy New Year Everyone! With the New Year officially here, the world  is ready to change their ways!  All of a sudden our bodies are too fluffy, our daily habits are suddenly affecting our health, our goals are not being met and we are ready to breathe new life into our half-dead relationships.  Our “resolutions” are usually as fleeting as the countdown itself!  By&

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Hands down, Christmas is my favorite time of year!  The chestnuts are roasting on an open fire, Jack Frost is nipping at my nose, I am enjoying the sights and sounds of Christmas and spreading cheer wherever I go!  While out in the hustle and bustle that is Christmas Eve, I noticed some things.  People are a little bit nicer, the streets are a little bit brighter, children

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Let's stop toasting nonsense! Ahh, good old Kanye West!  Leave it to him to turn toasting into something negative!  In his song Runaway, he is crooning about the men who do women wrong and toasting them for it.  I feel that the jerks and scumbags are getting a little too much credit for nothing.  Being a real/good man has lost its appeal lately and it’s driving me insane!&

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Prelude: This short and sweet gem is an OLD Facebook note that I found.  I wanted to share it with you guys because I am currently researching my next post and working out the kinks with that one.  Hope you enjoy! Once again, talking with a good friend and we got on the subject of being friends with benefits. This guy wants to be friends with benefits with her, but he can't seem to get

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When you put the cart before the horse, you don't get very far! Our society has gone from anticipating a kiss at the end of a first date to having an escape plan for the morning after!  Even with all the looming consequences, many people are rushing into sexual relationships with strangers without reading the fine print.  This “faster than a speeding bullet” mentality is resulting in

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  I have always said that I would rather see the knife coming than have to pull it out of my back.    I’ve also said that the people you love and care about can hurt you most.  Some friendship crimes are so heinous that they require immediate attention.  I recently found out that a long-time friend of mine was communicating with my ex-boyfriend. 

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   When it is ok to accept? What is on my mind at the current moment, where I like to vacation, that embarrassing picture from college, how I feel about my favorite television show, where I work, who my closest friends are, my goals for the future, my birthday, my relationship status, my general location in the world and what I like to do with my time.  All of these things should

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"We should give as we would receive, cheerfully, quickly, and without hesitation; for there is no grace in a benefit that sticks to the fingers."  ~Seneca With Christmas less than a week away, there are a lot of loose ends to tie up!  For many who are dating someone new, this may not include tying a bow on a gift.  I was very tempted to vent on the ignorance known as

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She may be dragging him now, but he will be running off later! Many women would LOVE for the man of their dreams to propose at the beginning of the week and wed them by the end of it, IF they could have their perfect wedding.  Now, place the glass slipper on the other foot.  Imagine a woman proposing to a man on a Monday, throwing together a ceremony all week long and dragging him

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"What the?!  I can't possibly be all of these things!" We all know someone like her.  The woman who has a mile-long list of qualities that she MUST have in a man.  This list practically trails the floor and crosses city and state lines.  It has jagged edges from months of additions and side notes.  Its detailed content surpasses the U.S. Constitution! If you ever got a

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Good Morning World!  This post is not just for those celebrating Thanksgiving Day, but for everyone.  A tradition for those who do celebrate this holiday involves going around a food-filled table of family and friends and stating what we are thankful for.  As lovely as this is, I am making a vow today to be grateful everyday of the year.  We are not privy to the contents

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Even when surrounded by others you can feel alone.  Find your inner peace and happiness to combat that sinking feeling! Have you ever seen a movie where a single, lonely person is standing forlorn in the rain watching a happy couple eat dinner through a glass window?  I always wondered why that person never dried off, went inside and got a table for themselves! 

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PSA: To all the men out there…KNOW WHAT YOU WANT!  If you want nothing, you want nothing and let it go!  If you want friendship, you want friendship and pursue that!  If you want sex, you want sex and pursue that!  If you want a relationship, you want a relationship and pursue that!  Quit merging and mixing emotions, needs and wants!  Stop playing games because

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Keeping with the For Colored Girls theme, I wanted to share this FB note written by a woman named Terri Bryant.  I don't know her personally, but this did come by my e-mail and I wanted to share it with my audience.  I don't believe this is just about black women...this is about ALL WOMEN!  We need to do better and learn to support each other. Enough from me though, please

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Allowing yourself to be pierced by the world can lead to lasting damage. When I was in college, I devised a theory I like to call the “Pincushion Theory”.  I used to sew and I noticed that before a pincushion is used, it has certain solidity to it.  When you introduce a needle, it is never the same.  The needle that punctures it goes unscathed and unharmed, but after some time

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Pop the champagne and let’s celebrate!  This is officially my 50th post!  Kind of hard to believe that in the span of three months, I have had this much on my mind!  I’ve covered motivation, relationships, friendships, love, life, and even animals!  I must say that I am really enjoying this blogging thing. ☺    Up until now, you have seen many sides of me. 

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