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My younger boy friend is embarrassed of me

Administrator — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 20:24:55 +0000

Tania writes, “I am a woman in my sixties who looks very young and could pass for someone in her 40s easily. I met a man 27 years younger by chance at a party and he fell in love with me. It was basically love at first sight. We have been seeing each other for 4 months now. I went through a period of 3 months of feeling confused and he would always tell to me not to worry about our age. Gradually I became comfortable with him and my age. We dressed up and went out on our first dinner date in our small town. I looked extremely young and sexy. We went in and I was feeling proud and very happy. To my surprise my lover freaked out and had a change of mind and didn’t want to be in the restaurant a moment longer than he had to. I found out later that he saw a few people that he knows and became embarrassed to be out with me thinking that everyone would know my age. I asked him to take me home and to please leave. I spent the next day talking to him on the phone and I decided it was the beginning of the end because I could not be with anyone that felt shame. I did not want to stop seeing him because I love him; so I suggested a breakup over a period of time to minimize the pain. He agreed and that is what we were doing but in doing so we both realized that we had fallen in love even more with each. Now what do we do? He has talked to friends that are his age and that was a huge mistake. So now we want to be together and we don’t know how to get a handle on our situation. He asks me what do we do now, he thinks we can’t make plans for the future. We love each other and we are very compatible and we both know that this will not last forever because of my age. We or he needs advice and he does not know where to go. Can you offer some advice on where we can go from here?”

How to be proud of dating an older woman?

What is happening in your case is not unusual. An age difference like this one, and that too in in a small town, unlike New York or London or Paris, can raise eyebrows. Having said that, he has to realize that he should have thought of this before.

My understanding is that love gives a person strength to take on the world. If one lacks that strength, then this person is not in love. Maybe there was something else going on in his life or he liked something about you, but then he really did not fall in love. I am also a little disappointed that his first reaction was to say that you two cannot make plans together just because you are in your sixties. If you will live, say, for another 20-30 years, that is what may happen to even a 20 year old who could die in an accident or an illness. We cannot live under fear of death and make no plans for the future because it can come any time.

Assuming that his love for you is genuine and you two really want to be together, ask him to draw upon his strengths to be proud of his choice of the woman and his decision. There is no reason to be apologetic or defensive; when a person A chooses B, there is no reason whatsoever for their attraction. It is a chemistry that only a couple can feel. Yes, some people will ridicule him or even criticize him but in the end when they see how proud he is of his choice in life, they will respect him and accept you as a couple.

Is there any way that you two can live in a city like New York or Los Angeles? Or how about Barcelona in Spain? Or Amsterdam or Paris? These are lovely cities for anyone who does not fit in the rest of the world.

I want to find out if my married ex girlfriend wants an affair

Administrator — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 18:17:23 +0000

Peter, a happily married man has revived his passion for an old flame, who is also now happily married too. Fate has brought the two couples together and they spend a lot of time together. Apart from having a good time at parties or going out or vacationing together, he wants to make their relationship more intimate. Since they are both married and have put their past behind them, Peter thinks that she is hiding her feelings for him which might still be alive. “I do not want to destroy my or her marriage but it is painful to be close to her so often and not even be able to look without raising suspicion. I just want to have an affair with her that hurts no one but makes both of us happy. I don’t know if she feels the same way and I am reluctant to ask her because I am afraid that she might breakup with me completely if she feels that I have something more on my mind. I am attaching an online chat transcript with her last night and I want you to tell me if she feels as strongly as I do?” he asks.

As I read through the transcript, I think she is pleasant, polite, maybe a bit shy, but definitely looking for
something more. I say that because for a married woman to chat with someone so freely means that she feels comfortable with you, trusts you that you will not go and tell the whole world about it, and is probably looking for more attention from you. That comment about you not looking at her enough means that she wants you to do that and probably comment more on her outfits.

It is also clear that she is conscious about the marital status of both of you and to me it is not clear that you have hinted to her that your interest in her is still more than just helping her with her chores when your families are hanging out together. I think you should try to talk to her more often not just about socializing. Maybe you will never be able to make love to her, considering all the constraints, but she could be a good romantic entertainment for you.

How to throw my boyfriend out of my house?

Administrator — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 18:52:57 +0000

Melissa writes, “I was with this guy last year, and I loved him so much but things went wrong. In the meantime he cheated on me with his ex-GF. Then I ended things with him even though I was so hurt and thought I will never love again. I tried to move on but it was not easy. Then he asked for a second chance that I gave him. 2 months later he was cheating again with the same gal. I don’t understand why they are seeing each other if they already broke up. I think he is fooling and hurting me. I’m trying to end things between us but he doesn’t wanna leave me.”

Based on what you say, he is addicted to women, and maybe, sex. To get that he is ready to lie and mislead if he has to. That is exactly what he is doing and you are too sweet to be strong and harsh with him and throw him out of the house.

You will need to be firm and strong and tell him to go away forever. If that means that you have to physically throw him (and his belongings) out of the house or need help from the police (or friends/family members), go ahead and do it. If need be, go to a court and get a restraining order if he still doesn’t get it.

This man does not belong in your life and the sooner you get rid of him, the more peaceful your life will be.

Relationship with my older boyfriend is not working out

Administrator — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 18:41:05 +0000

Samantha tells me (if you need help, please write to me), “I am currently 21 and my boyfriend is 39. The first few months were great but then it started going down hill. He wanted a more mature woman who would play out his fantasies but that is just not for me and we resolved that issue but it seems there is always one obstacle after the next to overcome. What advice do you have for me?”

What you are going through is somewhat common among couples with huge age gaps simply because they are at two different points in their lives. You are a young woman while this man will be entering his middle age any time now. When a couple is strongly attached to each other, they learn to deal with these differences by appreciating that they are at two different stages and need to respect that. It appears that he is struggling to respect those differences.

Having said that, the problems that you two have been having may also have nothing to do with his being older. There is a possibility that you two are just not compatible and would have the same problems even if he were same age as you are.

You have some thinking to do if you want to work on those problems or if it is better to end this relationship now. Considering your age, it will be much easier for you to find another man who is more compatible to you. That is why you are the one who will need to make that decision since he may not want to breakup with you (it is not easy to find a woman at his age).

Britney K-Fed lookalike couple

Administrator — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 20:15:21 +0000

There was a reason why Britney Spears dumped Kevin Federline and looks like he was a loser husband all along because they had a rocky relationship and since the divorce K Fed has become fat and ugly, though, he may have proved to be a better parent than Billy Ray Cyrus.

That is why when I ran into this photo of a couple ridiculing the them I couldn’t stop laughing, particularly when I saw how the woman is dressed in a shirt from which her red bra is peeking out, a look that was perfected by Brit.