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How to get rid of bad friends?

Administrator — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 21:04:15 +0000

Debbie writes, “I take a close look at what’s going on in my relationships and try to evaluate the situations and make the best and healthiest choice for myself but I have two girlfriends that I secretly am at a major crossroads with. I struggle to decide if we can have a meaningful friendship. Will being in contact with these two girl friends affect my life negatively? Because long story short, both of them are completely codependent and cannot go more than one day to a month without being in a relationship with a man. And very unhealthy relationships might I add. Relationships where every free minute they have is spent with that person, choosing that person over friends and family. They are with people who dictate their lives (whether they know it or not) and they continually get with guys that are of bad character, that is, mentally, physically and emotionally abusive people. Guys that are still married, or in the process of a divorce, guys that have children they do not support, take care of or even see, guys that have criminal backgrounds for very serious offenses, one of which was convicted of rape. I do not agree at all with their choices and really don’t enjoy being around them or talking to them like I used to but at the same time I don’t want to be a “cold shoulder” or a “bad friend” but I have continued to give them advice that just falls on deaf ears. Where do I go from here to better my life and relationships with these people? What should I do?”

Regarding those girl friends, my suggestion is that it is OK to spend some time with them occasionally to have a meal together or go shopping, but count them out as your friends. There is no reason to waste your time in trying to change them — it is nearly impossible even for a spouse to change adult behavior. I think eventually they will move on and it will be a polite and amiable end to the friendship with no one hurt since you will cut them off gradually.

Your time is precious and use it wisely.

My wife does not like me wearing panties

Administrator — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 21:39:16 +0000

William writes, “I am a heterosexual, 52 year old male and I love to wear panties. I like the French-cut or hi-cut styles, with colors, and lace also. I wear them secretly, and have done so all my life. I am married and finally built up the nerve to expose my fetish/desire to my wife about a year ago and she wants no part of it! Well, what can I do, go back to secretly wearing them? I love the feel and comfort, and yes, it is erotic as well. It actually makes our sex life very exciting, but she does not appreciate my fetish.”

You are not alone in sending me an email like this. Many men in your situation have told me that their wives completely freak out; one guy even ended up with a divorce because his wife thought he was a pervert or gay or just not for her.

Having said that, many women do warm up to the idea if one starts off slowly rather than just saying right away (in which case they start to think that you are probably gay, a thought more scaring to women than if you were a murderer or terrorist). Some men have had success when they put her panties on as something playful while having sex or something that made them bond with their wife better or they are out of clean underwear. See if you can come up with something clever like this and let her realize that you are not gay or bisexual; you just enjoy them for their fabric and design choices.

Can a man wear a skirt in public?

Administrator — Wed, 06 May 2009 19:16:02 +0000

We have crossdressers and then men who like to just wear feminine underwear in secret or occasionally with the approval of their partners as a way to spice up their relationship. However, men wearing pantyhose or men in skirts in public is still somewhat rare.

No wonder then that the New Orleans Police Department harassed Jeremy Don Kerr, who wore a black pinstriped skirt with button-down oxfords or T-shirts. According to him, skirts more comfortable than pants. Who could argue that?

What is even more interesting is that according to Kerr, “Women love it.”

Model Lena Song

Administrator — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 18:00:51 +0000

As you all know, I always like to feature sexy women on my blog. My latest find is Liuyin (Lena) Song, a 22-year old model currently residing in Madison, WI where she is finishing up her BBA in Marketing, Management, International Business and getting a Certificate in French (hmmm…wonder why not France, but hey, we Americans will take anyone’s money!) from the University of Wisconsin-Madison.

Born in Shanghai, China, Lena moved to the States when she was 3-years old and has lived in Kansas and Wisconsin. Lena is effervescent, reliable, independent and professional. She started modeling one year ago when she was introduced to Model Mayhem. She has worked with a range of photographers, MUAs, stylists, and models so far and is striving to make an appearance in the commercial and print sector. In addition to her part time jobs, Lena enjoys ballroom dancing, rock climbing, tennis, and ice-skating in her free time. She has a passion for food, fashion and accessories. Oh if you are on MySpace, become her friend here.

How can a foreigner become a movie actor in Japan?

Administrator — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 18:44:51 +0000

Candy writes, “I read your very interesting article about how foreigners could become a star in Japan (with the right look..). In fact I love the country and would like to live over there, trying to become hired as a “star” (maybe film, because I can’t sing well). Would you have any names or addresses of film-companies etc. that I could contact for that purpose? What exactly are the steps I need to take in order to be promoted? I think my look is sufficient and appropriate for Japanese taste, but I am rather short (1.63m) and speak only English/French/German and a little Japanese! Thanks for any information you could give me concerning this project.”

Unfortunately, I do not have contact info for what you are looking for and if I were to help you, I will simply search on Google. I think you can start the search yourself based on your interests, also try to see if you know someone in Japan even if it is through MySpace or Facebook. There are many communities online of foreigners in Japan and you can try to join them and start asking around.

There is also another route: go to Japan as a language teacher, if possible, and then spend the spare time looking for a job as movie actor.