This just came up suddenly or I would have given you a lot more notice!  Here is the notice from my friend Cathryn who is hosting the show:

TONIGHT!!!  5 PM - On BlogTalkRadio – Take A Soul Step With Me!  Join author and host, Cathryn Taylor, for a “live conversation” with my friend and colleague, Kiya Immergluck an EFT practitioner out of Chicago . 

“I just spent the week end with Kiya and one of the things she talked about was a new twist to EFT which she has coined, “Revenge Tapping!”   This is what Kiya had to say!’ 

“I went to hear a very wise woman speak recently, and she answered someone’s question in a very unusual way. A woman I’ll call “Jane” asked: “How can I get over the resentment I feel about being stuck taking care of my abusive mother now that she’s old and there are no other relatives?  I was sure the wise woman was going to speak about forgiveness, or the possibility of learning valuable lessons, or the “gift” of having time to heal a toxic relationship. But the message was very clear and very controversial. She said: “Entertain revenge fantasies!”

Kiya has added her own spin to it with EFT Sequences!  The concept is brilliant! 

Tune in at 5 PM to hear all about it. http://www.blogtalkradio.com/healthandharmonynetwork

or call directly 914-338-0821

Dr. Kiya Immergluck is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and EFT Coach who has had great success using EFT for emotional and physical issues related to extreme stress. She can be reached at: (773) 880-5492 or email kiya@eft-tap.com. Her web site is: www.eft-tap.com.

I have been reading a lot lately about “going beyond your comfort zone” and pushing the limits of your experience.  I did that twice in the last 2 weeks.  Ordinarily, I don’t like movies that have any kind of violence, especially “war movies,” I have very little interest in the fancy camera and graphic tricks that kids love, and except for “Shrek,”  I don’t like “cartoon” movies.  I don’t even like the arrogant “king of the world” guy who directed “Titanic,” James Cameron.

But twice in the last 2 weeks, I went and experienced “Avatar” in 3-D and I absolutely loved it!  Part of me was a little nervous when I went to an “Omnimax” theater.  I was afraid that some giant monster was going to jump out at me in 3-D, “Surround Sound” and a 360 degree screen and I would jump out of my skin!

I was very pleasantly surprised.  Because of truly amazing technology, the world of “Pandora,” a planet in some distant solar system was filled with life-like, magnificent creatures and plant life.

There was some violence, but nothing excessively gorey.  I thought the story was wonderful, and amazingly creative and I was totally mesmerized for almost 3 hours!  (I have the kind of learning disabilities that sometime make it difficult for me to stay focused for that long of a time).  I saw it twice and loved it twice.

What does this have to do with tapping?  Not much, really, except that I did a little tapping to get past my reluctance to see this film and I’m very glad I did.  Is there something you’ve been putting off doing because you ‘can’t face it’ or you’re a little scared, or nervous?  Try tapping.  You might be very glad that you did!

In the midst of so many holidays:  Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Christmas and New Year’s, I’ve decided to add another one just for fun.  I’m going to call it:  “Tell Someone You Love Them” Day.  Of course you can say it to your spouse or kids or grandkids, but how about reaching out to people like your favorite teacher, or good friend, or honest mechanic?

How many times a week do you say “I love you?”  I say it to someone every day (or at least to my cats!)  If you live alone and feel somewhat isolated, don’t hesitate to look in the mirror and say: “I love you” to yourself.  If you feel awkward or silly, you can always tap:

Even though I feel foolish saying “I love you” to myself, I’m going to try it anyway…

Then you could try Carol Look’s technique of alternating positive and negative reactions with each tapping point.  While looking in the mirror, you could tap and say:

EYEBROW:                          I love you.

SIDE OF EYE:                     No, I don’t!

UNDER EYE:                       I love you.

UNDER NOSE:                    Don’t be ridiculous!             

CHIN:                                    I love you.

COLLARBONE:                  Look at my fat cheeks!

UNDER ARM:                     I love you.

UNDER BREAST:               No, I don’t!

WRISTS:                               I love you.

TOP OF HEAD:                   I really do love you!

I’m going to call this a “floating holiday.”  You can wake up in the morning and declare:  “Today is my Tell Someone You Love Them holiday.”  Go to the mirror, kiss the glass and say:  I love you!

Then call your Great Aunt Zelda and say:  “Maybe I’ve never said this before, but I just want you to know that I love you!”

You could be done for the day, but you might want to branch out.  Could I really say “I love you” to people in the elevator at work?  Would people think I was crazy?  Maybe I could show love by paying someone’s toll behind me at a toll booth, or letting people get ahead of me in traffic, or at the grocery store.

Try it.  The idea for this “new holiday” came to me when I visited my Mom in the nursing home this week.  At 93, she goes in and out of dementia and sometimes gets very frustrated that she can’t remember things.  Mom was always the kind of person who didn’t easily say “I love you.”  As a child, I longed for those words from her.

This week, she said to me:  I have so much trouble remembering things, but I always remember that I love you!

So, have a very Merry Christmas and Happy Holiday season.  And just to round out this New Holiday I have created (and decided to celebrate today), I want each and every one of my faithful readers to know:  I love you!

Blessings,

Kiya

To speak gratitude is courteous and pleasant, to enact gratitude is generous and noble, but to live gratitude is to touch Heaven.
– Johannes A. Gaertner

I just found this quotation and I thought it was perfect for this day. I am so very grateful for all the people who have touched my life this year. I am grateful for close friends and family, but also for my clients and students who so often teach me as much or more than I teach them.

I am grateful for the opportunities I have had this year to take workshops from some amazing world-wide healers, including Byron Katie, Esther and Jerry Hicks, and Lindsay Kenny.

I am grateful for the spiritual lessons I have learned this year, sometimes in unusual ways. By beginning to accept my mother’s condition (of physical and mental limitations), I have sometimes seen a fiercely independent, intelligent woman accept kind support from caregivers that she often calls her “good friends.”

Just a few days ago, a dear old friend passed away. Although I wasn’t in touch with her in recent years, I remember with great fondness her gentle, loving spirit and great faith. I was told that she faced her own death with great courage and acceptance because she believed without question that her life would continue on another plane.

What are you grateful for? I would love to know.

Blessings,

Kiya

For many of us, “Turkey Day” is probably more accurate. Unless we are vegetarians, we will probably get together with friends and family and eat a meal that includes turkey. Even many homeless people tend to find shelters where turkey is served on this upcoming holiday.

But do we ever take the time to reflect on what we are thankful for? I envision a day when the wonderful tool of tapping will be so widespread that no one would think it was at all strange for a group of people sitting around a table to tap about the things they are grateful for.

I have mentioned before the variation on the Choices Method that includes a gratitude list. Wouldn’t it be great to start a whole new tradition on Thanksgiving that includes both gratitude and tapping? You could go around the table and have each person add to the list of things they are grateful for. The whole group could be tapping on each point while repeating what each person said.

Here’s a hypothetical example:

EYEBROW:Aunt Bea: I am grateful for this lovely gathering of good friends.
Everyone: I am grateful for this lovely gathering of good friends.

SIDE OF EYE: Uncle Fester: I am grateful for all this great food.
Everyone: Tap and Repeat.

UNDER EYE: Howdy Doody: I am grateful for the great weather in November.
Everyone: Tap and Repeat.

UNDER NOSE: Clarabell: I am grateful for the changing of the leaves.
Everyone: Tap and Repeat.

CHIN: Garfield Goose: I am grateful for the sunsets over the Lake.
Everyone: Tap and Repeat.

COLLARBONE: Kukla: I am grateful for my good health.
Everyone: Tap and Repeat.

UNDER ARM: Fran: I am grateful for the support of my friends.
Everyone: Tap and Repeat.

TOP OF HEAD: Ollie: I am grateful for my cats purring.
Everyone: Tap and Repeat.

These are all very simple examples. What are you grateful for this Thanksgiving? Try tapping on your list (either alone or with a group) and notice how the energy of gratitude grows with each tap.

I am personally grateful for my family, friends, colleagues, students and clients who have made this past year filled with creativity, love and learning. The power of positive energy far outweighs any negative messages out in the world.

Come tap with me! The once-a-month Borrowing Benefits tapping group is meeting this Monday, November 16, 2009 from 6 PM until 8 PM. The cost is $50. The “Law of Attraction in Action” workshop will be held on Saturday, November 21, 2009 from 10 AM until Noon. The cost is $50. Both events are on the north side of Chicago. Call for questions and to reserve your space:
(773) 880-5492.

Blessings,

Kiya

Kiya being interviewed about tapping techniques on “Inner Quest,”  a TV show in Chicago, Part 1.

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Kiya on TV talking about tapping with kids.

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Conclusion of Kiya’s TV interview about tapping techniques.

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Nothing seems to push me further into the 21^stCentury than upgrades on cell phones and “new-fangled” gadgets for computers. 

A friend just set me up with a computer storage “thingy” that will store all of my files, all of my pictures and all of my programs with lots and lots of space to spare.  When she told me that it had some “terabytes” of memory, I really thought she was making that up.  I still remember my first computer:  an old clunker with something like 60 RAM of memory (whatever that means).  It was already outdated when I got it.  When it died a few years later and I asked my “computer guy” what to do with it, he said:  Throw it out the window!

All of this has very little to do with tapping, except that I think it can be scary for some of us early Baby Boomers (or War Babies) to deal with our constantly changing world.  When I see my single digit great-grand-nephews and nieces easily do things on a computer that baffle me, I am tempted to tap:

Even though I feel like an idiot when it comes to technology….

Even though I think that I am too old to learn any of this stuff…

Even though I’m afraid that I will be left behind in this “brave new world”…..

I totally and completely love, accept, and forgive myself anyway!

A lot of new stuff is happening in the world of tapping.  I am reading an exciting new book:  EFT and Beyond that is a compilation of articles by many of the EFT Masters dealing with many new innovations that go way beyond Original EFT.  I am beginning to use their new term more and more:  MTT (Meridian Tapping Techniques), an umbrella term for all of the tapping techniques including EFT.

I am teaching my first MTT Workshop in Chicago on Saturday, October 24, 2009 from

10 AM until 5 PM.  The cost is $100 for the 6 hour class. You will learn (or review) basic EFT plus lots more.  Space is limited so please e-mail or call me if you would like to attend.  I am offering special discounts to all my former students.  Call: (773) 880-5492 or e-mail: kiya@eft-tap.com to reserve your space.  The discounts apply if you register by October 15, 2009.  The class is conveniently located at 1726 W. Belmont (near Belmont and Lincoln).  It is easily accessible by public transportation and it is one of the few places left in Chicago without metered parking. I hope to see you there. 

Blessings,

Kiya

I was talking with a friend recently about the fact that every single awful thing that ever happens to a person inevitably contributes to their growth as a person.  We were discussing the old adage:  That which does not kill me makes me stronger and I came up with my own new adage:

If a diamond wasn’t abused, it would just be a rock.  Kiya Immergluck

In a couple of weeks, I will be doing a fundraiser walk for Breast Cancer research.  I am a 15 year survivor who is eternally grateful that I have survived and thrived after that awful experience.  I often think how much easier my experience might have been if I knew back then about tapping techniques.

Believe me, I had plenty of other difficult experiences in my life that helped to sharpen the edges of my “diamond-in-the-rough” self, but cancer was probably the deepest facet of all.  I wouldn’t wish the experience on anyone (including myself), but the fact remains that I grew and matured as a direct result of that life-and-death chapter of my life.

Here are some of the ways I would have used tapping to ease the stress of that experience:

1. I would have tapped as soon as I found a lump in my breast:  Even though I have this lump in my breast…
2. When the doctor told me that the lump had to be removed surgically, I could have tapped again.
3. When the doctor announced that it was cancer, I could have eased my terror by tapping.
4. I might have been able to stop or slow down the negative effects of chemo by tapping.
5. I could have tapped to get past any fears that I was going to die from this cancer.

So, all you great diamonds out there, know that hard things often happen in life and that tapping can ease the pain even while you are becoming a lovelier and lovelier diamond.

If you would like to make a contribution to my Breast Cancer Cure Walkathon (called Making Strides Against Breast Cancer), please send me an e-mail at:  kiya@eft-tap.com with your name, e-mail and pledge amount and I will send you the link to my personal page.  For some reason, I can’t get to it now.

Also, if you or anyone you know might be interested in a tapping class for Moms and Kids at the Infinity Foundation in Highland Park, please sign up at their website:  www.infinityfoundation.org for the class on Sunday, October 11^th.

If you would like to take my Tapping Techniques Workshop in Chicago on Saturday, October 24, 2009 from 10 AM until 5 PM, please call or e-mail me to reserve your space:  773.880.5492 or kiya@eft-tap.com.  We will be reviewing all of the basic tapping techniques plus lots of new and innovative extras.  The cost is $100 per person, or $75 if you reserve your space before

October 1^st.

My interview on Cable TV about tapping is on YouTube. The half hour show is shown in 3 segments on YouTube. Check it out:

1. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGrsDlFDxis
2. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9QCa5mxEE7g&feature=youtube_gdata
3. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1wDAafsTaxU&feature=related

As soon as my TV show is put on the Internet, I will send everyone a link so you can watch it.  And then my wonderful “cable guy,” Boris will put it right on my website.

A lot of exciting things are coming up in October, so stay tuned.  On October 11th, I will be teaching a Tapping Techniques Workshop for Kids and Caregivers. The details are below.  On October 18th, I will participate in the Making Strides Against Breast Cancer Walk to raise money for cancer research. And on October 24th, I will teach an all-day workshop on Meridian Tapping Techniques in Chicago, Illinois.

This coming weekend begins the Jewish New Year, 5760.  Whether you are Jewish or not,  I think the Fall always represents a time of new beginnings.  May this Fall be a time of new hope and beginnings for all of us.

Blessings,

Kiya

Emotional Freedom Techniques for Kids

Help your children stay calm and let go of anger

Kiya Immergluck, LCPC

Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is a very simple form of emotional acupressure that children and adults can learn quickly and easily. This simple and fun technique will help your children stay calm, relieve stress, and quickly get over anger and minor aches and pains. Stories, games, puppets, and teddy bears will be used to teach your kids how to help themselves at school and at home. You will also learn how to use EFT for your own parental stress. Grandparents and other child caregivers are also welcome. The workshop is suitable for children between the ages of 7 and 12 accompanied by an adult. One adult free with one child, 10% off for each sibling.

Course 092153

Date Sunday, October 11

Time 1:30 - 3:30 PM
Cost $35/30 payment 10 days advance

Click below to sign up at the Infinity Foundation in Highland Park, Illinois. 

http://tinyurl.com/pbt464

Isn’t it amazing that the title of that famous old book, “The Power of Positive Thinking” by Norman Vincent Peale is now a favorite topic with scientists who explore Quantum Physics?  I don’t pretend to understand a thing about Physics of any kind but I do believe that we can heal ourselves and our planet by becoming more optimistic and refusing to run our lives based on fear.

I believe that negativity is a bad habit similar to smoking.  We all know on some level that it is bad for us, but we just can’t seem to stop.  Tapping will definitely help anyone to get rid of fear and negativity.  And with Pat Carrington’s Choices Method, a lifelong “negativity addiction” can be changed very quickly and replaced with a tendency to look on the bright side of things.

Wayne Dyer’s quote shows how enormously powerful that shift away from negative thinking can be for us and for our world.  Happy Tapping!

Be sure to contact me before the end of September to set up my “two-for-one” telephone sessions.  You can extend your sessions into October, but you must make an appointment with me in September in order to get the discount.  Call: (773) 880-5492 or e-mail me at:  kiya@eft-tap.com. 

Here’s Wayne Dyer’s quote:

Whatever others want, want it for them so strongly that you disperse this energy outward and act from this level of spiritual consciousness.

Consider this:  

One individual with the energy of optimism and the willingness to be non-judgmental counterbalances the negativity of 90,000 people.

One individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of love and reverence for all life counterbalances the negativity of 750,000 people.

One individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of illumination, bliss, and infinite peace counterbalances the negativity of 10,000,000 people.

One individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of grace, pure spirit beyond the body counterbalances the negativity of 70,000,000 people.   Wayne Dyer

When she told me about this program called “Right Mate for You,” I knew that it would be a wonderful opportunity for single women of all ages to learn how to attract a loving, lasting romantic relationship. Unlike most other programs that introduce a woman to potential “dates,” this program actually trains women how to find their own dates (and mates).

Go to the website and read the testimonials. The class has a very high success rate with graduates getting married and staying married. If you or someone you know is frustrated with the dating world, send them to this site.

In the past, this course was only offered as a live workshop in the Chicago area. Now, anyone can sign up for the Webinar from anywhere on the planet.

If you are interested in this class, but aren’t ready to make the commitment, give me a call. Don’t forget, I am offering two-for-one tapping sessions throughout the month of September. No matter what kind of issues you may be dealing with, tapping can help. Call me at: (773) 880-5492.

I had a great example this week of the power of words and attitude.  I am on a wonderful vacation in Monterey, California with 3 of my good friends.  For one friend’s birthday, we decided to go whale watching.  She told us that she has waited her whole life (half a century) to finally see a whale in person.

The boat trip was exhilarating:  choppy waters that sometimes felt like a roller coaster, a pelican that practically landed on our heads, layers of clothes that kept us warm in the chilly ocean air, and a sense of shared anticipation as each of the passengers searched for sightings of whales and dolphins and sea turtles.  At some point past the second hour of our journey, the usually overly enthusiastic guide began to sound discouraged.

I’ve never seen anything like it.  We usually see humpbacks and sometimes a blue whale.  For sure we see whole families of dolphins, but today we have only seen an occasional otter.  Something is really wrong…

We didn’t see any whales at all.  One friend said, only half kidding:  Now, we’re going to all be depressed for the rest of the day! I said:  No, we won’t!

We were all given “rain checks” to go out and try again.  We immediately decided to go in another couple of days.  Although all of us were disappointed by the lack of sightings, we all commented on how much fun we had anyway.

And then one friend put a spin on the experience that satisfied all of us.  You know what, we didn’t go whale “watching,” we went whale “scouting!”

And then we all laughed and enjoyed the rest of our day.  Think about all the times something didn’t turn out the way you wanted it to.  For a number of hours or days, we lament on the missed opportunity.  I have noticed in my own life that often after some time has passed, I realize that the missed opportunity turned into a whole new adventure that I didn’t even imagine at the time.

Remember the old adage:  You want to make God laugh?  Plan your life!

We can’t know for sure what’s around the corner, but if we are willing to “roll with the punches,” we can enjoy even the illusion of disappointment.  As usual, if you find it difficult to let go of your original plans, try tapping:

Even though I waited my whole life to see a whale, I am willing to enjoy this moment with my friends and know that I eventually will see a whale…

I love the work of Byron Katie.  The title of her first book says it all:  Loving What Is.  If we accept that whatever is happening is exactly what is happening, and we don’t fight it by thinking:  This shouldn’t be this way, then we really never need to be upset or disappointed by the twists and turns of life.

So, if you don’t get to whale watch in life, be sure to enjoy whale scouting!

I’m off to do some whale watching in Monterey, California.  I’m sharing the experience with 3 friends whose birthdays are close enough in July and August to have a wonderful 3-way celebration.  I am very much looking forward to time away, beautiful scenery and especially hanging out with friends.

Many people I know get very stressed out when it comes to planning, budgeting, and even enjoying vacation time.  Here is a list of some of the typical pressures that people may struggle with:

1.                  I can’t afford the expense.

2.                  I can’t take the time off of work.

3.                  I am afraid to fly.

4.                  I always over-pack.

5.                  What if the weather is lousy?

6.                  What if they lose my luggage?

7.                  How can I leave my sick mother?

8.                  What if I fight with my spouse, friend and/or traveling companion?

9.                  What if I spend all that money and have a bad experience?

10.              What if the people I meet don’t like me?

As I’m sure you’ve guessed from my previous messages, any and all of these issues or concerns can easily be dealt with by tapping.  In fact, if you apply either Lindsay Kenny’s “Bundling Baggage” technique or my “Tap and Whine” idea, you can tap on each of your separate traveling issues in one long rant.

Instead of doing separate rounds for each of the issues, you can complain about them all together while tapping on each topic.  As soon as you notice that you have brought all the numbers down on the traveling stuff, you can begin to incorporate CHOICES for your ideal vacation:

I choose peace.

I choose to easily afford all of my expenses.

I choose to get ahead at work so that I feel comfortable leaving the office.

I choose to be comfortable on my flight.

I choose to pack appropriately.

I choose to enjoy the weather, etc.

Have a great vacation, even if you stay at home and take a break from your daily routine.

Blessings,

Kiya

I am always delighted when the phrase, try it on everything works well for one of my students.  Recently, I gave my tapping class the homework assignment to do some tapping at home.  I encouraged them to tap on themselves or on willing friends, or even on their pets.

One woman mentioned in the first class that she was having lots of problems with one of her dogs.  She lives on a farm where all of her other animals co-exist peacefully.  One of her dogs behaves well in most circumstances, but he keeps killing her chickens and proudly bringing them to her.

Obviously, the dog is some kind of a hunting dog, so my student wondered if it could be possible to tap on an animal to go against his natural instincts.  I have had lots of positive experiences with cats and dogs, so I encouraged her to try.

My student came to the next class and was very pleased to report that the tapping worked!  She tapped around the dog’s eye, beneath his snout, on top of his head and on his paw.  I didn’t teach her about surrogate tapping yet, so she tapped directly on the animal.  She said out loud while tapping on him:

Even though I want to kill that chicken, I’m a great dog.

She repeated that phrase with each tapping point, and after a few rounds, the dog seemed to be totally blissed out.  A baby chick walked right past him and he totally ignored it.  The dog hasn’t chased or caught or killed any more chickens from the coop!

If you have an unruly animal at home, try tapping on it.  You may be surprised at how well it works.

HOW TO PLANT YOUR GARDEN (source: unknown)

First, you Come to the garden alone, while the dew is still on the roses…

FOR THE GARDEN OF YOUR DAILY LIVING, PLANT THREE ROWS OF PEAS:

Peace of mind
Peace of heart
Peace of soul

PLANT FOUR ROWS OF SQUASH:

Squash gossip
Squash indifference
Squash grumbling
Squash selfishness

PLANT FOUR ROWS OF LETTUCE:

Lettuce be faithful
Lettuce be kind
Lettuce be patient
Lettuce really love one another

NO GARDEN IS WITHOUT TURNIPS:

Turnip for meetings
Turnip for service
Turnip to help one another

TO CONCLUDE OUR GARDEN WE MUST HAVE THYME:

Thyme for each other
Thyme for family
Thyme for friends

WATER FREELY WITH PATIENCE AND CULTIVATE WITH LOVE.

THERE IS MUCH FRUIT IN YOUR GARDEN BECAUSE YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW.

To me, happiness is not a goal to be chased, but tiny moments that need to be noticed and cherished. A client said to me recently: I don’t think I have EVER been happy! What she meant was that she had no memory of an extended period of time in her life that was totally free of emotional pain.

With that kind of definition of happiness, who could ever claim it? That’s why I believe that true happiness is more a function of simply paying attention, remembering and savoring tiny moments of bliss.

Since I’m always looking for more and more ways to incorporate tapping into daily life, I think tapping is an excellent way to energetically remind ourselves about tiny happy moments. For instance, I had lots of great little happy moments when I went up to Grand Rapids, Michigan recently to watch my actor nephew, Matthew film a series of television commercials.

I had many happy moments there. Everywhere we went, people recognized my nephew and his friends and treated them like big-time celebrities, asking to take pictures with them and to get their autographs. The next day, I got to witness the process of filming a commercial, and all the people involved.

The whole experience was fun, enlightening and happy. Now, all I have to do if I’m having a bad day is tap on the words: Matt in Grand Rapids and add some of the specifics and I can re-live those happy feelings.

What’s funny to me is that I notice that most people (including myself) are often energetically programming ourselves to remember tiny unhappy moments. For example, someone runs over your foot with their shopping cart and doesn’t apologize. You instantly have the double whammy of foot pain and anger at the inconsiderate shopper.

For the rest of the day, every time your foot hurts you think about the moment and the inconsiderate guy. Then you go home and tell your friends: I had such an awful experience today! And then your friends will share their awful stories. Then months might pass, and you drive by the same store and say to yourself: That’s where that guy ran over my foot!

We don’t tend to put nearly as much focus on the tiny happy moments. Try tapping when you notice something entirely pleasant. It may help you next time someone runs over your foot!

I haven’t written much this month because I have been dealing with my Mom being hospitalized, and my friend getting suddenly very ill and dying on Friday. Tomorrow is his funeral and he was only in his early ’50’s. I will miss him very much. My Mom, who is 93, is in Rehab now and hopefully will be home soon.

I am reminded of the fragility of life. And the importance of treasuring the people who touch your life, and remembering to let them know how much you care. To all of you who read my newsletter and blog, I send you blessings and caritas. I like that word, “caritas” because it implies a sweet, platonic kind of love. Some of you I have never met, and don’t even know, but just the fact that you take the time to read my words touches my heart.

As I deal with my own grief, I am reminded of the on-going discussions about tapping under these circumstances. So often, when a person comes to me dealing with grief, there is a sense of resistance. Often, people feel that it is disrespectful to their loved one to try to move past their grief too soon.

I always remind people that we tap, not to change our love for someone who has died, but to shift away from obsessive or morbid thoughts, and to pave the way to be able to function again. I believe that when we shift the energy around a great loss, then the love comes to the surface more easily.

My mantra continues to be: “Try it on everything.” In my own case, I will tap on my fears about my Mom’s illness, and my grief that my friend is gone from this physical realm. I know that I will soon be able to get to the “Choices” and I will begin to say: I choose to remember my friend when he was healthy; I choose to be happy that he is free of pain; I choose to celebrate that I had the chance to know him, however briefly; I choose to be glad for my faith as I imagine him in Heaven; I choose peace for him and I choose peace for me.

Blessings,

Kiya