Ego Du Jour

Stop Settling. It Is Wrong (and Stupid).

2012-02-01T22:30:00.001-05:00

For the marriage hungry... Yes, yes, all of you have seen this blog post about "Folu" a woman who is marrying a man she is not in love with or even attracted to. I debated whether or not to write a blog post in response because I can be a bit...what is the word..."brash" when it comes to sensitive issues like this. I have little patience for women like Folu and only involve myself in an attempt to make sure I learn from their experiences and avoid repeating their mistakes. Today...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

Kim Didn't Want To Be Married Anymore: Thank God We Have Divorce!

2012-01-23T14:14:00.000-05:00

Folks, I am all for divorce when necessary. There are people who CLEARLY should not be married and can end up doing more harm than good to each other when they stay together. So, with my "open minded" view on divorce, I decided to watch this season of "Kourtney and Kim Take New York" (KAKTNY) to find out what happened between Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries. I tuned in every Sunday to watch the show so I could see what "irreconcilable differences" led to the end of their 72 day...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

On The Nigerian Fuel Subsidy. I Will Not Gloat.

2012-01-05T12:42:00.002-05:00

After years of REALLY disliking Nigeria (I don't like to use the word hate), this fuel subsidy issue has managed to do what no amount of insults, threats, cajoling, or arguing could have accomplished when it comes to my feelings about that place. I am actually experiencing pity. I have never felt sorry for Nigerians, even when I lived there. Really. I have been annoyed, irritated, flabbergasted, disgusted, laughed at things, but pity has never been part of the gamut of feelings till...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

Impending Apocalypse Or Not, I Look Forward To 2012

2011-12-30T12:17:00.001-05:00

Once again another year draws to a close. I blogged a lot less this year than last year, I just realized this looking at my archives. Only one post in November?! *hides head in shame*. Thanks to everyone who read and commented here. Although, due to a mishap in June, I lost almost all my comments from August 2009 to June 2011, I am glad that you all visited and shared your thoughts over the year. I hope 2012 is a good year for everyone and starts off great! I have things to look forward...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

Happy ChristmaHanuKwanzakah

2011-12-24T09:27:00.002-05:00

Happy holidays everyone! I shall be doing last minute Christmas shopping as every year I somehow end up waiting until right before the holidays to buy gifts. Hope you have a great weekend!

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

Money Can't Buy Happiness? Or Can It?

2011-12-22T14:46:00.000-05:00

"People" say money cannot buy happiness. I want to know, WHY not? This came up when I discussed my future plans with someone from my old old job (not the one I left this summer). I was explaining my "plans" for the future and she basically told me to "adjust" my plans. I will not get into how some people set low expectations for themselves and others, that is for another time. As a person of generally average means, I cannot understand why "money" would not make me happier. Mind...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

Cohabitating: When Two Decide To Find An Apartment

2011-12-15T18:16:00.000-05:00

I originally planned to write a post that was basically going to be about why money is good. However, that will have to be for next time. Perhaps over the weekend. Who am I kidding? This weekend I probably won't have time, but I will try. As some of you may have noticed, I have been a bit absent. Mostly because this whole moving thing has had some twists recently. Well, one twist. Sidenote: Packing up your life for a move this huge is kind of a pain in the a**. After I had...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

Cohabitating: When Two Decide to Become One, Sort Of...

2011-11-11T11:46:00.001-05:00

Welcome to what will probably turn out to be a series of "Cohabitating" posts. I have spent the last few weeks investigating various moving related topics: neighborhoods, apartments in said neighborhoods, transportation options (since I won't have a car for a bit), furniture, places to buy furniture, prices for "stuff", even cable providers (found out my only choice is Comcast, so annoyed), etc. At this point, I think its safe to say I know more about the northwest suburbs of Chicago...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

Cosmo Article Points Out The Obvious, Pushes Campaign Against Fake Orgasms

2011-10-27T15:05:00.001-04:00

Ladies, I have written previously about the dangers of magazine articles when it comes to "relationship advice". But, I don't think I covered the issue of pointless magazine articles as well as pointless "research" designed to share "insight" into relationships. Today, as I browsed the internet while eating my surprisingly tasty veggie cobb salad (chik'n is actually not that bad) I was drawn to an article titled, "Researchers Discover a Major Relationship Predictor". Hoping for...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

AfroCandy Gets Engaged, "Good" Unmarried Naija Women Lament Their Failure

2011-10-05T17:54:00.000-04:00

I don't know anyone who was not surprised by the news that AfroCandy (aka Judith something or other) got engaged recently. But, the surprise turned to shock for many when they found out she was engaged to a "millionaire". Tells you a lot about Nigerian mentality, doesn't it? The moral of this story, doing everything your mother told you not to do may be the best way to snag a rich husband, especially in Nigeria. Okay, maybe I am exaggerating. This story has touched me...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

Saving Your "Man" From Your Family (Kim K Would Understand)

2011-10-03T14:08:00.002-04:00

Okay this post is based on my own "situation" although I am sure there are others like me out there. This week, Alpa Chino and I were discussing the possibility of finally ending this LDR and me moving to the midwest. The explanation of how this will work without my having to change jobs will come in another post at another time. I will know for sure about this possible move by December, but it looks like it will finally happen. So we were browsing a few apartments in...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

City Slicker: New York City Aint All That Afterall

2011-09-29T12:37:00.000-04:00

I am far from being a city slicker. Well, I may be a city slicker, but I doubt that right now that city is New York. Ladies and gentle folk, I have been doing the "commuting thing" for the last month. It has been interesting and eye-opening and it is my opinion that New York is not a city that lends itself to people like me. For those of you not living and/or working in New York City, consider this a helpful guide. There is one inescapable fact of being in this city. It is crowded. If...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

Help Wanted

2011-09-21T13:04:00.001-04:00

It occurs to me that blogging on Ego Du Jour has sort of taken a backseat. I'm on Twitter a lot more now, so you can blame it on that (and follow me of course). I haven't felt like I have had time to do anything else except work, take classes, sleep. Which is why I am taking a "summer" break from said classes. I am at the halfway point so its time. I need a break after simultaneous accounting classes frustrated me to no end and cemented my already unshakable conviction that I could...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

Where Am I From? It Depends...

2011-08-23T10:15:00.000-04:00

In my weeks of absence from blogging, a few things have happened. Of course there is the new job, but that is just one thing. I have discovered that I (legally at least) could claim South African citizenship if I really wanted. This revelation, startling as it was, occurred over chin-chin making one fine day with my mother. It's amazing what can happen when the whole "mother-daughter" bonding thing happens. Is this good news? YES. Does it change anything? For now, not really. Except I...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

My Leap In The Dark

2011-08-19T15:12:00.000-04:00

I know I have been MIA but I have good reasons! For the last 3 weeks, well 4 weeks really, I have been busy. Unemployment may seem like a "break" but not when you are me. Between scouring the web for job postings, then filling out applications, then having phone screenings, then 1st, 2nd, and even 3rd round face to face interviews, OF COURSE classwork, and other miscellaneous things, I haven't really had time to blog or even keep up with Twitter. But I am back for good. I...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

Is It Ever Okay For A Man To Hit A Woman?

2011-08-19T10:25:00.000-04:00

So, I came across this video that was recently shared on the internets this week and it is SHOCKING. I say shocking because to be honest I am not sure what to think. Sidenote: this video "premiered" on World Star Hip Hop and, as many of you may already know, that website is just...well..if you're not familiar with it please check it out. Some people think TMZ is bad but they've clearly never seen WSHH. Their slogan should be "making black people look bad is our schtick". In my...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

Women Are Powerful...According to Beyonce & Summer's Eve.

2011-07-29T13:33:00.001-04:00

I have met many a Beyonce fan who called me a hater after I expressed my dislike for some of Beyonce's songs. First of all, I laugh at anyone who seriously uses the word "hater", so if you read this post and feel the need to defend Beyonce by using this word to describe me, then save it. My issue with Beyonce's "woman power-ness" began with Irreplaceable. I will not lie and say that I didn't sing the song very loudly and out of tune, when it was released. I did. But in the back of my mind...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

In Bed With Google...Using Google+ (Plus)

2011-07-18T21:44:00.001-04:00

Readers, it has come to my attention that I may be a Google whore. I have evidence to prove this. Clearly, I use Blogspot for this blog (which is a Google product in case you did not already know)/ Next, I use Gmail for all my mail both for the blog and my personal email address. My mobile phone is an Android. I run blog ads with Google Adsense. Even as I type this up I'm using Google Chrome. I think it is safe to say that I haven't met a Google product that I didn't...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

A Tribute to Harry Potter...(1997-2011)

2011-07-13T19:51:00.016-04:00

Dear readers, from now on time shall be measured as B.HP and A.HP. Before Harry Potter and After Harry Potter. It is the end of an era. As the movie franchise draws to an end with the final movie premiere this week, I thought I'd do this piece on an iconic part of my childhood. This is my "tribute" to Harry Potter. 7 books, 8 movies, millions of fans, billions of dollars in revenue over a 14 year period, and it all ends this Friday, July 15th at a theater near you. In this age of...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

Marriage amongst Nigerians...Religion Is A Problem.

2011-07-05T16:47:00.002-04:00

We can all rest easy because that Nigerian husband didn't actually stab his wife to death. She did it to herself because, according to him, she was possessed. We have been having issues since the day we got married so much so that I have contemplated divorcing her but because I am a spiritual person and church I pastor, I decided to manage.This is from the husband, Mr. Kolade Arowolo. Nigerians, lend my your ears eyes. Divorce is always an option. In fact, I can volunteer one of...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

Mid-Year Check-In

2011-07-01T12:26:00.058-04:00

We're halfway through the year already. Is your glass half full or half empty? Happy new month! This is a momentous occasion which only happens once every 28-31 days (depending on the preceding month). Honestly though, we should be grateful for every month that comes and goes. Like joke, like joke, it is the second half of 2011. I think this year is moving so quickly that I'm going to blink and it will be Christmas. One day I will look back on my twenties and wonder what I spent all...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

Summer Plans

2011-06-21T13:12:00.002-04:00

Mine are nothing spectacular. Right now most of my time is spent at home. When I'm not banging my head against the wall that is my accounting class, I'm banging my head against the wall that is the job market. In between all that, I find time to watch as many TV shows and movies as humanly possible without neglecting the two previously mentioned responsibilities. I've been asked multiple times how my job search is going. The answer is, its going. Interviews have come, gone, and are coming....

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

The Grass Is Always Greener... (includes video)

2011-06-14T16:35:00.005-04:00

I'm not sure how familiar the people in this video are with Nigeria but hey, cute effort. Are they being sarcastic though? I still can't figure it out. If they are being "sincere" that they think Nigeria is better than (at least) Russia, then this is clear evidence that the grass is always greener on the other side. Especially considering that many Nigerians would rather be anywhere but Nigeria, as shown by the number of expatriate Nigerians. I'm always wary of people who love...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

RE: NotJustOk!

2011-06-09T11:56:00.004-04:00

I don't usually write entire posts in response to other people's blog posts. But I decided to make an exception this time just because I read something that gave me a real life headache. Over at GISTDOTCOM (CAPS only by the way) dear Sisi Yemmie expressed her disgust (?) at hearing that a "former friend" of hers was gay. It would seem she is no longer friends with this person because he is gay. For disclaimer purposes, I am friends with the person in question and have been for a while. I...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!

Make Up...Which Side Are You On?

2011-06-08T11:48:00.005-04:00

Recently, on a fellow blogger's site, I discovered an eyebrow makeup tutorial. What struck me was not the perfectly drawn eyebrows, but the time it took to complete just one eyebrow. The blogger mentioned that she goes through this process everyday, sometimes repeatedly if she doesn't get it "right" the first time, and I thought to myself--who really has time for all that on a daily basis? The girl with the perfectly drawn eyebrows, goes by the name Jennie Jenkins (not her real...

You can visit Ego Du Jour to read the full blog post and comment!