Elder Care Issues

February Holidays to Celebrate with Senior Citizens

2025-01-28T02:01:00.002-06:00

February and Quality Time With the Elderly

Winter can be a dull time of the year, especially for the elderly who may be stuck inside most of the time. While remaining indoors through the cold months can be safer and warmer for your elderly loved one, it can lead to the blahs.

And no one likes the blahs.

Now that January is nearing its end, and everyone has had time to recover from all the winter holidays, it might be time for a little lighthearted fun. February is coming up, and it has several occasions to celebrate. Or just use them as a way to interact with an elderly loved one, do some activities, and make new traditions.

Here are just a few reasons to look forward to February, and how you can enjoy them with your elderly loved one.

(This post may contain affiliate links. If you purchase through my links, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. Thank you for supporting this blog! Full disclosure here.)

Black History Month

First of all, February is Black History Month, and there are many ways to observe, celebrate and learn more about Black culture, history, contributions and achievements.

Read here for the history and ideas on how to observe and celebrate all month. Your local community may have events such as museum exhibits, and your library can provide recommendations on great literature and films to share.

Pie Month!

February is also known as "Great American Pie Month". An excuse perhaps to make or buy a favorite pie for a welcome treat?

Of course it is. Just keep your loved one's dietary needs (if any) in mind, before pie hunting.

A way to make this more inclusive for a senior, even one with dementia, is to research and discuss recipes together. Look at popular or traditional pies from different states and regions, and make a few recipe cards to try. (Or decide on a pie from your local bakery.)

If you are going to bake a pie at home, your loved one can probably help with some of the preparation tasks, which can help them feel useful and involved.

And of course, everyone gets to help by taste testing the result.

National Bird Feeding Month

While feeding wild birds is entertaining year round, doing so in the winter months is especially important. When its so cold, and food is scarce in the wild, birds can use a helping hand a little charity. Preferably in the form of their favorite bird seed.

Bird watching is a common hobby for the elderly. It is both soothing and amusing for the seniors who love nature. Plus, for those who cannot keep pets, its a way to be close to animals and still enjoy their company.

So, take this time to make a big fuss over the birds. You might already have feeders in place, but it might help to engage your loved one if you make or buy a new one. Decorating the bird house can be a fun activity as well.

You might also try making birdseed ornaments to hang in different locations.

And when your feeders are full and the birds arrive, spend time watching the birds with your elderly loved one. Take photos or videos, and use bird watching encyclopedias and the internet to see if you can identify your visitors.

Feb 1

Spunky Old Broads Day and Month

I think the name is pretty self descriptive, but you can read more about the history here. Its also Spunky Old Broad Month, so you can draw this celebration out for a long time.

How to include a senior? This might be a good time to reminisce and story tell. They probably have at least one good story about a friend, relative, neighbor etc. who matched the description.

Perhaps they have a celebrity they admired with spunky qualities. Sometimes the best activity is just a fun conversation.

If everyone is feeling more adventurous, maybe this is a month to do something just a little bit wild, or just out-of-the-comfort-zone. Maybe a senior's friendly dance or exercise class, or a snazzy makeover day.

February 2nd

Ground Hog Day

Sure, we don't really take this one too seriously, but it is still fun isn't it? Take a moment on Feb 2nd to hear what the ground hog has to say.

Feb 2nd is also National Tater Tot Day, and I think everyone should appreciate this. This is another opportunity to get a senior into the kitchen and thinking creatively. Search recipes, try new things, and let them help as much as possible.

If you are caring for a senior in their own home, you might try surprising them with a tater tot casserole or other tater tot dish. What better way to celebrate Ground Hog Day than with...tater tots?

Feb 4th

Homemade Soup Day

Another great excuse to include a senior in the kitchen experience. It is definitely the perfect time of year for a pot of soup.

February 5th

Shower with a Friend Day?

Well maybe you should skip this one. Perhaps a rubber duck might be a good substitute.

But! It is also National Weatherman's Day

Not only is it a good time to celebrate the contributions that people in the weather service provide, this can be a great time to brush up on weather safety.

For many, severe storm season (and tornadoes) are just around the corner. Take this day to go over storm safety with a senior. If they live in your home, go over any drills or safety plans you use.

If they live in their own home, make sure they have storm supplies, such as flashlights with new batteries, blankets, water, and so forth, as well as emergency numbers and a safe place to shelter.

Feb 7th

Send a Card to A Friend Day

This can be very meaningful for your elderly loved one. Help them pick out cards, (or sit and make some homemade one's together), and fill them out.

Being able to send a card or a note to a friend, relative or other special person in their life can be fulfilling. They just might need a little help with it sometimes, especially if they have poor vision.

Feb 8th

Eat Ice Cream For Breakfast Day

This holiday should be more famous! If eating ice cream isn't possible, maybe an ice cream related craft, like the cute bookmarks below. Or just reading up on the history of ice cream.

Feb 11th

Make a Friend Day

While it might not be possible to take a senior out and help them make a new friend all in one day, it can be a nice excuse to leave the house for a short time.

A little fresh air and some socializing, even if it is at a coffee shop, can be be mood booster for a senior who has been feeling lonely. (Its good for for the caregiver too!)

There might be some activity in your community going on where people can mingle. Or maybe just browse through a store together. If that doesn't work, visit a pet store and talk to the animals for awhile.

Feb 13th

Get A Different Name Day

While the idea here is to pick a new name for yourself if you don't like the one you have, the paperwork for that might be a bit complicated. However it can be fun to sit and think up names.

It might be even be fun to choose a nickname or change an old one. Perhaps the senior you know and care for would like to be called something else for fun.

Feb 14th

Valentine's Day

Of course there are tons of ideas for celebrating this holiday if you are keen to try them. Everything from elaborate themed parties to simple craft projects to pink cupcakes. A quick peek on Google or Pinterest will lead you to artsy projects, party games, and recipes ideas.

If going all out isn't in your budget, or would be too overwhelming for your loved one, a simple gift basket filled with a few Valentine's goodies might be enough. Ideas can include

Candy (if it is allowed in their diet plan) or another treat
Small plushie
Valentine themed fidget toy or stress ball
Stickers or stamps
A Valentine's card

Feb 17th

Random Acts of Kindness Day

This is a fun one. Help seniors make a list of acts of kindness, or help them plan one. Any act of kindness is great, even if it is as simple as dropping off a donation to the thrift store.

Just keep safety in mind, especially in winter weather conditions.

Feb 26th

Tell a Fairy Tale Day

Again, your imagination can be the limit. It can be as simple as telling stories, reading out loud from a book, or just sharing some family lore.

It could also be fun to watch a fairy tale themed movie, or create some art. (Adult coloring pages often have fairy tale themes)

And More...

That's not all the February days to observe. There's Margarita Day, Polar Bear Day, and even Thinking Day.

Of course you probably don't want to do something everyday, or go crazy and tire everyone out. But choosing a few little unique days can be fun, and they can give your loved one something to look forward to that isn't complex or overwhelming.

Celebrate New Year's With the Elderly

2024-12-30T03:51:00.002-06:00

New Year's Eve is almost here! Like any other holiday, it is one in which your elderly loved one might wish to take part. Of course, on this site, we are talking about elders who are usually requiring some level of caregiving. If your loved one doesn't need caregiving help at home or in a facility, then its likely they are making their own celebration plans! (But still, check in and ask!)

So maybe you are wondering; "Well, if I've included my loved one in all the other holidays, what is different about this one?"

And of course, the answer depends on what type of celebrations you are considering as well as your loved one. There isn't a right or wrong answer, but here are some things to consider before planning, so that everyone can be safe and have fun.

Two Things to Consider

The first and most important thing to consider before deciding is the health of your loved one. There are two aspects to consider.

1. Unlike other holidays, New Year's is something that can't be moved to any convenient time of the day. Staying up til midnight requires stamina even from younger people.

2. Its cold. And a lot of celebrations are outside, even if it's just for a few minutes.

So you have to ask yourself, is staying up late something your loved one can do? Is it something they would want to do? If they have a very rigid daily schedule this could affect them negatively for a day or two afterwards. Whenever someone might be eating or sleeping at a different time than usual, you have to be sure that it won't disrupt their medication schedules.

As for weather, that depends on what your planned even is. If it is just a family party in the living room with snacks, watching the ball drop on television, then temperature won't matter. Or maybe there is something local going on? If that is the case, take weather conditions into account. Will most of it be indoors? All outdoors? Will you need to travel far? What will the roads be like? Prepare accordingly.

Holidays and Dementia

What about the elder loved one with dementia or confusion? This is a tough question that really only you and your loved one can answer. If your loved one understands what the holiday is, and wants to take part, then that's great.

But with more advanced stages of dementia, a person might say yes and even be eager, only to forget later and become very confused or agitated. Again, this might be fine in your home, with just family around, but could become overwhelming in large crowds or unfamiliar places.

New Year's is a noisy holiday too. There might be fireworks, noisemakers, horns, bells, cheering, screaming, singing, and sirens. All of these loud sounds suddenly surrounding your loved one could be very frightening and traumatizing!

Taken into consideration how your loved one reacts to things like crowds, noises, strange places and changes in routine. You might feel that you are doing the right thing for them by spending as much time as possible with them, and including them in as many important moments as you can--but its not going to be fun for them, or a kindness, if it causes them a large amount of stress and fear.

Tips for a Good Holiday with Your Elderly Loved One

If you've decided this is something your elderly loved one would not want to miss, and plan to celebrate the new year in together, here are a few tips to make it easier, safer and better.

1. Plan for the Medical Supplies

Just make a quick list of what your loved one will need while they are with you. If they require a wheelchair or mobility aid, be sure plan for transporting it if you will be going out somewhere.

Also account for any medication they might need, such as insulin. If they have a special diet plan, review it in your head or make a note. This way they can enjoy party fare as well without consequences.

Alcohol is a huge part of New Year's Eve parties. Be absolutely certain you know whether your loved one can or cannot have a drink (due to health or medication reasons). You might have to keep a watchful eye during the party so that no accidents occur.

2. Plan for the Weather

Going out for evening? If you are in a cold location, be sure your loved one is dressed warmly. The basics are always layered clothing, thick socks, gloves, hats and a windproof coat. It may sound odd, but consider throwing an extra pair of socks in the bag, just in case you are walking through snow or step in accidental puddles.

Also consider taking a blanket (or a few). Blankets are cozy in the car, and for anyone who cannot move around frequently to help warm themselves up.

3. Plan for the Noise

If your loved one does have dementia or gets agitated in certain situations, but will still be with you, come up with ideas for how to deal before you get your venue. If they are agitated, will you be able to walk take them to quiet space or outside until they calm down?

Will you be able to leave early if needed? Will you have help (such as another relative?) Does your loved one have some item that they like to use that soothes them (such as a sensory or fidget device?)

Sometimes just paying attention is all you need. Being able to lean in quickly and say something like "Do you want to hold my hand? There are going to be loud fireworks in a minute." can help.

4. Vision and Hearing Issues?

Also please remember that people who do not have dementia, but who have hearing loss or are vision impaired may also become anxious and seem "lost". When someone cannot hear or see well, it can be confusing, especially if there are directions or an announcement that they might have missed.

Please communicate to a loved one with vision or hearing impairment what is currently happening. "We are all going to walk in there now to watch." or "We will need to get in that line for our refreshments."

5. Be Safe Out There

You've heard it before. Drive safe and be weather aware. If you will have your elderly loved one with you on New Year's Eve and you are travelling, it might be a good idea to have an emergency bag along for the ride. Aside from medications (mentioned above), you might want to include any necessary documents, ID or insurance information for your loved one, just in case of an accident or if they become suddenly ill.

Other things you could include might be some water and snacks, just in case you have to spend a long time stuck in traffic or otherwise waiting in your vehicle.

6. But What About In My Home?

Its always far easier to plan things in your own home, where you don't have to worry about surprises from weather or other people. But that doesn't mean there aren't some safety things to consider. If your loved one doesn't live with you, you may not have your house safety proofed full time. I think we covered some holiday safety tips in a previous Christmas article, but I will list a few top ones again.

As always, how much you need to do depends on your loved one's individual needs:

Remove throw rugs. These are some of the most risky trip hazards.
Tuck power cords behind furniture. Again, a trip risk
Make sure heaters and fireplaces have screens or are monitored
Create a clear safe area without sharp corners and edges. (or add padding, if possible)
Make sure there is a safe path for a walkers or wheelchairs if needed
Make sure outside steps are de-iced.

Have a Happy New Year!

Reducing Fall Risks For the Elderly

2022-06-15T23:24:00.016-05:00

Falls...one of the scariest incidents that can happen to the elderly, and one of the most dangerous. But let's face it, falling is bad for all of us, no matter what age we are. We've all taken a nasty tumble at least once, and maybe got by with just a bruise. Or maybe we had a cracked bone or a concussion.

In the elderly, even a slight fall can cause serious injuries. It can also be terrifying, especially if they have to wait a long time for help to appear.

Focusing on safety to prevent falls won't just lower the risk of physical injuries. It can help your elderly loved have peace of mind too.

Not all falls are going to have a big, obvious cause. And not all risks can be removed. I know someone who sneezed while walking, stumbled, and just couldn't right themselves before falling. Obviously a caregiver, no matter how vigilant, can't prevent a rare quirky incident like that!

However there are a many common risks (and some not so common) that can be removed or minimalized as much as possible. Sometimes it is as simple as moving certain items to other rooms. Other times it might mean installing hand rails.

Ice and snow of course are two of the greatest hazards. Wet porches, steps, walkways and floors can also be dangerous. You can't prevent snow or rain, but you know to dry up spills, and clear ice and snow from senior's porches and driveways.

How much safety prevention and preparation you do inside the house will depend on your loved one's needs and limitations.

So let's take a look at some ways to prevent falls, stumbles and other risky mishaps.

Environmental Hazards

These are usually the easiest to remedy. The areas most used by the elderly should be clear of hazards that can cause falls. These include:

Rugs (At the very least they need to be slip proof and have the edges secured. )

Loose carpeting or tile

Cords or cables across the floor

Areas of flooring that are slick

Small objects and furniture

Toys and clutter

Surprisingly, very simple things can cause someone to slip. People with poor balance or vision can slip on something as seemingly innocent as a piece of paper. Or even trying to avoid something they think they see. (For example they might mistake a patch of sunlight as a bit of paper or some other object and step over it, possibly losing balance.)

Some falls aren't caused by an object, but rather by a condition of the environment. This can include very bright or very poor lighting. Spots on the floor that are particularly slick, or that are very non-slick can both cause an equal amount of falls. Glare on floors or at eye level (such as bright uncovered windows) can be a problem too.

A person who scuffs their feet can trip when they walk across an area that does not allow them to slide their foot, taking them by surprise and upsetting their balance.

Illness, Surgery, Pain

A person's health can be one of the largest culprits when it comes to falls. Conditions such as these can all lead to falls:

Arthritis
Parkinson's disease
Alzheimer's
Dementia
Hearing Loss
Poor Vision
Vertigo

Less serious conditions can also lead to falls.

A sprained ankle can lead to a missteps

A headache can cause blurry vision (or they might be turning their head to avoid harsh light)

Nausea can lead to hurrying to a bathroom too fast (as well as feeling weak/dizzy)

Sleepiness can cause stumbling

A fever can cause disorientation

A surprise cough or sneeze can cause a stumble

Temporary conditions such as surgeries or uncomfortable medical treatments can also increase the risk of falls. When in pain, the elderly may be weaker, especially after a long convalescence that caused them to lose bone or muscle strength. They may also avoid using assistive devices if they cause pain the arms or hands.

Medications

Those who take a variety of medications may have an increased risk of falls. Especially those who take anti-depressants or anti-psychotics.

Some medications have bad interactions with each other. The effects of medication can be increased if the elderly catch a cold, get a UTI, or undergo a period of stress or pain. The time period directly after new medications are introduced or increased is a very vulnerable time when the elderly may be more disoriented as they adjust.

Stubbornness and Falls

It sounds mean to blame stubbornness on falls, but to perfectly blunt, the sometimes the elderly can be obstinate. When they refuse to use assistive devices such as glasses, hearing aids, walkers, canes, rails, and safe shoes...they increase their risk of falling and sustaining an injury.

The elderly may take these risks as a declaration of their independence. They may feel like they are justified because they have always done things the same way, without issue before. For those who are more mobile, using a device such as walker might feel like too much trouble for a few short steps to the kitchen.

In nursing facilities, many falls are caused by residents deciding not to call for help. Sometimes they just want to do it for themselves. Especially if they are still in denial that they need help at all.

As a home caregiver, you will encounter the same issues. An elderly loved one may not call for your help if they have decided they are capable of standing or walking on their own. They may also decide that since your back is turned, they can "sneak" by without using a cane or walker, or slipping on their safer shoes. (Especially for just a "short walk".)

Memory Loss

Someone with memory loss, such as in dementia, or loss of cognitive reasoning, may simple forget to ask for help. They may not realize that they can no longer stand, walk, or even transfer to a wheelchair without assistance.

In this case, it is often very hard for caregivers to monitor, because the elder can suddenly get the idea that they need to walk somewhere and just try to stand and go. And it can be at any time of the day and night. Many caregivers use small alarms that tell them if the person is moving or shifting their weight so they can hurry over to prevent a fall.

Room monitors with video and audio can help too when you simply have to be in another room.

Not Wanting to be a Bother

And then there are the elderly who may feel that they are being too much trouble. They might try to do things that are unsafe rather than asking for help. They might feel that its too much to bother someone for a small matter that they used to be able to handle themselves, like leaning over to plug something in, or reaching to get something off a shelf.

Reassurances and reminders can help, as well as clearly communicating which precautions are absolutely necessary. (And which ones they can totally keep their independence on to balance things out.) For example you might say "As long as you use your walker every time you go into the kitchen, then its fine for you to do that task yourself if you want. "

Consequences of Falls In the Elderly

Falling, no matter how old or young you are, can be embarrassing. Therefore, the elderly usually don't want to discuss it unless they are in serious pain. They may feel that falling is due to their age, rather than other hazards:

"When I was younger, I wouldn't have tripped on that hose."

"I can't believe I wasn't fast enough to grab that rail."

Or they can blame others. "Are you sure you didn't just move that table there? I could swear it wasn't there yesterday."

Denial about falling, or embarrassment can lead to undiagnosed injuries that can have major health implications. According to the CDC, falls are the leading cause of injury-related deaths in older adults, and the most common cause of traumatic brain injury.

Statistics reveal that men are more likely to die from a fall related injury, but women are more likely to suffer a hip fracture.

Where as hip fractures and head injuries are the most common injuries sustained in a fall, other parts of the body are just as susceptible to breaks, bruises, and other trauma.

When an elderly person falls, witnesses will usually ask if their hip hurts, or if they can move their leg. It is very important to ask about ALL pain and discomfort after a fall. Some injuries that can occur, include:

Broken or sprained arm or wrist

Dislocated or broken elbow

Sprained or broken knee

Sprained or broken ankle

Fractured pelvis or pubis

Concussion

Mouth injuries (from biting the soft tissue during impact)

Sprained, dislocated or broken fingers

Fractured spinal column

Damage to internal organs

Internal bleeding

Fractured or dislocated tailbone

Torn muscles or ligaments in any part of the body

Cuts, bruises, soft-tissue damage, scrapes, punctures, infections

In elders, a fall does not have to be complete to cause a fracture or dislocation. Bumping a body part against a piece of furniture, or grabbing something to stop the fall can also cause a reasonable amount of trauma.

Preventing Falls

In the medical profession terms such as "fall prevention" and "fall-free area" are used. However, most medical workers also know that not all falls can be prevented unless a person is being supervised 100% of the time. And sometimes even close supervision can't prevent a sudden accident.

It is more appropriate to say "reducing fall risks". To reduce the risk of falls, you can remove environmental hazards, and implement a few health and safety changes:

Have all medications reviewed by a doctor of dizziness, vertigo or stumbling occurs frequently

Make sure that eye care and glasses are up-to-date when applicable.

Insist on moderate amounts of exercise to maintain strength, coordination and balance

Make sure meals and snacks are eaten regularly to prevent hunger weakness and low blood sugar

Monitor conditions such as diabetes and blood pressure

Install safety devices such as grab rails, shower stools, and toilet risers to assist with daily activities

Make sure that non-skid slippers or sturdy, rubber-soled shoes are worn.

Keep items that are accessed frequently in areas that can be reached without climbing or bending

Remind them to use canes and walkers

Try to look at all areas from your loved one's point of view. Is sunlight blinding them when they walk towards a certain room? Is there enough light in rooms to show where all furnishings are? Is there room to maneuver canes or walkers without bumping something?

Handrails and grab bars are of course a great way to securely help support the elderly when they are walking. However its not usually possible to install them everywhere in a house. In places where you cannot have rails, look closely at furniture. Is it sturdy enough they can use it to support and guide them as they walk? If not, please anchor it to walls. If they DO grab un-sturdy or top-heavy furnishings to stop a fall, the injuries can be far worse.

If you have anything on wheels, like portable kitchen islands, make sure the wheels are safely locked so it wont roll if someone leans on it. And while it seems strange...make sure doors open easily. Having to use a lot of force to yank doors (even cabinet doors) open can cause someone to lose their balance.

In Case of a Fall

Keep calm and assess the amount of injury. Quickly.

If their is even the slightest sign or pain or confusion, or if you see blood, call the ambulance. (You should probably take them to be checked out even if they seem fine, but it might not be as urgent. You can always call their doctor and ask their opinion if you aren't sure, or just take them to ER just in case.)

Stay with the fallen person and keep them awake by talking to them. Have them tell you where they hurt, what happened before the fall...anything that you can relate to paramedics afterwards.

If the person does not seem injured and wants to get up, help them get into a chair comfortably. Keep them awake and warm and monitor them. Signs of injury may not appear for a few days, so be vigilant throughout the coming week. To be safe, go ahead and schedule a doctor's visit as soon as possible, since some injuries can go undetected.

After a fall, even if their was no trauma, the elderly may feel afraid. They may worry that it will happen again and that no one will hear them or find them.

As a consequence they might try to remain in bed or in a chair at all times in hopes of avoiding a fall in the future. This can lead to loss of strength and actually increase their risk of future falls, as well as other health related problems. Encourage exercise, but reassure them that you will be close by when they do so.

Preventing falls is not always possible, but you can greatly reduce the risk. It is also something of a team effort, between you, your loved one, your other family members, and your loved one's doctor. So make sure there are clear plans and be firm on the rules that matter.

7 Spring Wall Art Ideas for Nursing Home Rooms

2020-03-12T04:03:00.002-05:00

Spring is almost here! That means early flowers are blooming, songbirds are reappearing, butterflies are starting to flutter, and trees are beginning to bud out.

While most of us can open our windows to the fresh breezes and go outside for a walk in nature, those who live in nursing homes probably cannot.

If you have a loved one who is in a nursing home, and you've spoken to the staff about decorating their room, spring is an excellent time to change out some of the decor. For those who are bedbound or otherwise unable to go outdoors, there may be little indication of seasonal changes in their environment. Room windows are often draped, and even large, glass lobby doors might not provide scenic nature views. (Usually, these simply overlook parking lots and roads.)

So why not bring a little spring indoors for your elderly loved one? A photo or print may never be as good as the real thing, but they can help to cheer the room and provide a new point of view.

Here are some pretty options featuring nature at its Spring finest:

(This post contains affiliate links. If you purchase through my links, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. Thank you for supporting this blog! Full disclosure here.)

1. Bird and Flower Canvas Set

source: amazon

I like this set because while the colors are bright, they are not garish--which could be agitating to some elders. They are soothing, and show not only birds, but foliage and butterflies as well. Plus, with a set of four, you can arrange them to easily fit the available spaces around your loved one's room.

2. Spring Watercolor Flowers

source: amazon

A brighter set of watercolor flowers to bring in all the spring colors. The standard 8x10 size on these would make them easy to frame and arrange even in a small area. (Perfect for a shared nursing home room where wall space may be limited).

If there is a policy against hanging art on the walls, these are small enough for tabletop frames, and could be used all at once, or swapped out over the season to keep things interesting.

3. Nordic Animal Prints

source: amazon

For those who like animals, these prints are fun and playful without being too bright. They also don't look like generic prints one usually sees in banks, hotels or doctor's offices--making them feel more personal and not like something you would also find on any dollar store calendar.

The artwork is also not "busy", but rather a nice, easy place to rest your gaze.

4. Cactus Art

Source: amazon

For something a little different than the usual daisies and roses of spring, why not some fun succulents? These cheerful pieces will look good year round.

5. Rustic Dandelion Art

Source; amazon

What else signals spring and summer like the white fluff of a dandelion? Who hasn't blown away those seeds at one time in their life (with or without a wish attached)? Not only is this cheerful and bold, but it can bring back many good memories of childhood.

6. Forest Path

source: amazon

For someone with enough wall space, this beautiful photo poster would be like having a large window looking right into a forest.

7. Hummingbirds

source: amazon

And finally, these soft beautiful hummingbirds. Because spring wouldn't be the same without these busy pollinators.

Decorate Your Elder Loved One's Life

For someone in a nursing home, the view rarely if ever changes. Providing them with something new to look is a thoughtful way of letting them know how much you care about them and their well being. There are thousands of choices of wall art available, with themes and images to suit any sort of personality or preference. Things to keep in mind before buying for a nursing home include:

Weight: if you are allowed to hang art on the walls, you probably won't be allowed to use anchors or brackets. To keep the pictures from falling, choose lightweight frames. These are also not as likely to hurt someone if they are accidentally bumped off the wall.

Safety: for tabletop frames, look for frames with sturdy props. If possible, plastic or acrylic is better than a heavy, ornate frame with glass front. Always check that frames don't have excessively sharp corners, and that anything that will be hanging on the wall has a good, secure hanger or bracket.

Comfort: Very bright colors, reflective frames, overly busy prints, and anything with a sort of optical illusion tendency can agitate or worry someone with poor vision or cognitive impairment.
Also remember that if someone is bedbound or wheelchair bound, their eye-level is different than yours, so hang artwork at a level where they can see it easily.

Thoughtfulness: You might have an idea where something would look best, but please ask your loved one where they might want their artwork to hang. They live there 24/7 so they know far better than anyone else where something would feel right to them.

Neighborliness: If your loved one shares a room, you are not required to consider the opinion of their roommate, but it would be very kind if you made sure that any artwork you hang is all right with them as well.

For instance, something that your loved one enjoys might trigger a memory that makes their companion extremely sad. If possible, see if you can find something both would enjoy, since most of the wall space and surfaces can be seen almost equally by both inhabitants.

Ease-of-Care: Choose something that can be cleaned easily with no risk of damaging the art work.

Art, whether it is a print, a canvas, a sign or just a postcard in a frame is a wonderful gift for elders in nursing homes. It can be changed out with the seasons, so that there is always something new and cheerful to look at. And unlike a vase of flowers or a balloon, these gifts will remain vibrant and pretty for years to come.

Last Minute Gift Ideas for the Elderly--Themed Gift Baskets

2019-12-16T03:32:00.002-06:00

So it's almost Christmas, and you still need a gift for that special senior on your shopping list. Or maybe you just heard that an elderly neighbor in the community is in need of a little holiday cheer.

It's not always easy to buy for the elderly. They often won't say what they really want, and will claim to have everything they need. That doesn't mean they won't appreciate a thoughtful gift!

One of the easiest last-minute gift ideas is a gift basket. There are so many different ways to fill one, and they always look lovely. While you can fill them with just about anything, some of the nicest baskets are ones that are "themed"--meaning all the stuff inside (and sometimes the container too) go together.

As a bonus, gift baskets you fill yourself can have a perfect balance of practical items, items that can get used up, and "fun" things. This means they won't be overwhelmed with small cluttery objects (especially if they live in small spaces, such as in nursing homes) but the gifts aren't ALL boring and practical either.

To get you started, here are a few gift basket ideas to bring a smile to someone's face.

(This post may contain affiliate links. Whenever you purchase something through my links, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost you. Thank you so much for supporting this blog! Full disclosure here.)

NOTE! Before shopping for supplies, take time to make a few notes about the individual who will be receiving the gift.

Think about how and where they live (do they live independently in their own home, with family, or in any sort of home? Do they have physical or cognitive issues that need to be considered for the sake of safety? (Is it safe for them to have items such as candles, for instance?) Do you know if they have certain health issues that would change the type of gift they could receive (for example, are they diabetic?)

When you can't know for sure just use your best judgement when collecting items to fill the gift basket.

1. Self Care Basket

Everyone needs a little self pampering from time to time, and a self care basket is one of the easiest to assemble, and can be customized for either women or men. Here are few items to put in a self care basket:

Lip balm
Hand lotion/foot cream
Nice bar soap
Bath brush, pouf or face cloth
Travel size toiletries
Heating pad or rice bag
Nail polish
Fun emery board
Perfume or body spray
Face mask
Large print puzzle book or novel
Scented candle or plug in room freshener
Massager
Blanket
Socks

Container idea:

Instead of filling a cheap flimsy basket that just becomes clutter, consider using a sturdy plastic tub or canvas bin that can be used as storage somewhere in the house.

2. Kitchen Basket

For the senior who lives independently and still likes to whip things up in the kitchen, how about a kitchen themed gift basket? Almost everyone needs replacements for worn out kitchen items from time to time. Here are some things to fill a container:

Potholder set
Kitchen towels
Dishrags or bar mops
Nice soap dispenser
A set of wooden spoons
A small cast iron skillet
Trivets and hot pads
Jars of spices
Sturdy basic utensils
Small gourmet coffee or flavored teas
Candy or other snacks
Engraved rolling pin
Kitchen calendar

Container Idea:

Use a large plastic canister, dishpan or other item that can be reused in the kitchen.

3. Hobby Basket

If you know what sort of hobbies and interest a person enjoys, a basket filled with supplies can be a welcome gift. You might need to do some sleuthing to find out what they need, or what they might want, but here are some basics:

Books
Jigsaw puzzles
Model sets
Ergonomic crochet hooks or knitting needles.
Scissors
Threads or yarns
Paints
Drawing supplies
Blank wooden shapes to decorate
Fabric bundles
Gardening supplies (seeds, hand tools, knee pads, etc. to use when spring comes)
Plastic canvas
Scrapbook papers

Note: Before giving certain hobby tools and supplies to someone living in a nursing facility, please check with staff first to make sure it is okay!

Container Idea:

Preferably something suitable for holding the supplies or storing the finished project afterwards. For example, a sewing box for sewing supplies, a sturdy canvas or plastic bin/basket for threads and yarns. )

4. A Pet Basket

Know someone who is elderly with a pet? Often that pet is their pride and joy! It might seem strange to buy a gift for the pet rather than the owner, but you would be amazed at how happy this can make someone. Plus, pet supplies can be costly, and many elders live on small budgets. Here are some things both a senior and their best friend might appreciate:

Nice leash and harness/collar set
A personalized name tag
New feeding bowls
A plastic or rubber mat to go under dishes
A blanket (can be a small lap blanket from the dollar store!)
Milk bones or other edible treats
A brush
Toys (bells, balls, ropes, discs, squeaky toys, etc.)
A shirt or sweater
Bottle of pet odor neutralizer
Small sack of dried food
Canned food
Framed photo of their pet, or just the frame for them to use.

(If you have a photo of their pet, you can go to sites like Zazzle and make any number of personalized items with that photo on it. Things like coffee cups, magnets, and keychains!)

Of course, they may have a pet that is not a dog or cat. For birds, fish, and other pets you can still use food, treats, toys, cuttle bones, aquarium decorations (or supplies), and even bedding.

Container Idea:

A small plastic bin to store the toys in is good. But you could be extra awesome and use a pet bed as the container base!

5. Office/ Stationery Basket

Giving office supplies and stationery is really overlooked when it comes to senior citizens. Some of the most requested items seniors asked for when I worked in a nursing facility were blank cards, stamps, and pens so they could mail cards and letters to friends and family. However, this idea works for seniors living at home as well. Everyone can use a book of stamps, right? Here are some ideas:

Stamps
Notepads
Letter paper
Notebooks or journals (we had two residents that journaled daily!)
Envelopes
Blank greeting cards
Blank Thank You cards
Post-It notes
Return address labels
Nice pens
An electric sharpener (much easier to use with arthritis or grip issues)
Calendar
Small planner
Checkbook cover (many seniors still use checks frequently, and a bright colored cover can make the book easier to find.)

Container Ideas:

For someone living at home, any sort of bin or organizer that can be used on a desk or somewhere in the house. For a facility resident who probably doesn't have a desk, consider a plastic , three-drawer organizer that saves space and keeps all their supplies in one place.

This will make it much less frustrating for them or the staff to find something when it's needed. You can even include labels for the drawers!

So Many Ideas!

Those are just a few gift baskets to get you started. There are dozens of themes you could use. You could assemble a basket that is all edible treats, or go with a movie box that includes some favorite-genre DVDs and popcorn. You could use an all religious theme, or one based on a favorite flower or animal.

You might want to check out some of my other gift giving posts for extra inspiration:

20 Great Gift Ideas for Senior Citizens

12 Awesome Gift Ideas For Seniors In Nursing Homes

Care Baskets for the Elderly---Life Essentials

Senior Citizen Gift Guide

20 Great Gift Ideas for Senior Citizens

2019-11-26T02:41:00.003-06:00

Image Source

Every year I try to compile helpful gift guides for anyone struggling to buy gifts for the elderly. This year's list has plenty of variety.

Whether you are shopping for a close relative or taking an anonymous gift by a nursing home, this list will help give you some inspiration.

But first...

Things to remember when shopping for the elderly:

1. Know Their Age and Generation

Please please don't make the mistake of stereotyping all seniors as having lived through or remember the Depression era. Time moves on, and so do generations.

So if you are choosing nostalgic themed gifts, keep ages and dates in mind. The memories and nostalgia of someone who was a teen in the 50's (think Grease!) will be a lot different than someone who was a teen or young adult in the 30's.

2. Keep General Safety in Mind

Some gifts may be really "neat", but are they appropriate for every circumstance? Some examples of things to consider include:

Not gifting items that can create tripping hazards (cute rugs, stools, floor baskets, etc.) to someone who has low or poor vision.

Not giving certain food items to those on a medically restricted diet.

Not giving items that can cause burns (candles, wax burners, etc.) to someone with cognitive issues or dementia.

3. Everyone is Different!

There is no set list of gifts that are perfect for every elder. Take individuality, living circumstances, personal preferences, health, etc. into account. Find out what they like: do they prefer practical items, or do they like fun stuff? Do they collect anything? What do they like to read or watch on tv? What music do they like? Do they like puzzles or games? What is their favorite color? Do they have hobbies?

Don't assume these things...try to find out. You might be really surprised!
Every gift is better with a little personalization. So even if you are giving something practical like a potholder or flashlight--take the time to find it in their favorite color.

Now, on to the gift ideas:

*Note: This post contains affiliate links. If you use my links I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. Thank you for helping to support Elder Care Issues. Full disclosure here.*

1. Cat Shaped Candle Holder

Know someone who loves cats? This is a cute and fun gift. The holder can be repurposed after the candle has been enjoyed.

2. White Pineapple Essential Oil Diffuser

Oil diffusers are great gifts for the elderly. Different scents can be used for relaxation, general health, or just to make rooms smell great. This one is especially nice for several reasons. First, the LED lights! Not only does that mean it can be a nice night light, it also means that it is easy to see (and therefore less likely to be bumped over).

The white glass has a nice, classic-vintage feel that will fit in with just about any decor. That means it would even look good in a nursing home room.

And of course the cool mist is soothing and helps with coughs and congestion.

3. Magnetic Sculpture Fidget Toy

Don't the term "toy" put you off. Fidget toys such as these magnetic balls, fidget spinners and click cubes can be very therapeutic for the elderly, especially for people with dementia. Having a accessible items to "mess with" can help prevent unhealthy fidgeting, such as skin picking.

Anyone can have fun with one of these though. They are a great way to relieve stress, and they look cool on a side table or desk.

4. Felt Letter Board

While these sign board will probably drop off the "trendy" list soon, they look like a great gift idea for an elder. The letters can be used to create special messages, lovely quotes, favorite Bible passages, or lines from poetry or songs.

As a bonus, working with the letters and words can be therapeutic for those with cognitive issues. And it helps maintain and exercise motor skills.

5. Spaghetti Monster

I have to throw this one in because it is absolutely something my grandmother would have loved. "So ugly that it is cute." as she would say. This can add a fun touch and a pop of color to a kitchen without being too junky and silly. A colander is always useful, after all. Extra idea? Turn it into the container for a gift basket and fill with kitchen goodies and edible treats!

6. Puffer Fish Reusable Dryer Balls

Help someone save a bit of money on laundry day AND maybe make them smile. These are a gift that are both fun and practical.

7. Puzzle Balls

Another fidget toy! I actually have one of these and they are really cool. They are multipurpose too.

They work as a stress/fidget ball.

It takes a bit of hand/finger strength to move the balls around, so these would be great for someone who needs hand exercises for dexterity.

Moving the balls in order to match them to the correct holes requires mental focus. Basically brain exercise--which has been thought to slow down the progression of dementia.

Also these come in a 3 pack, so your recipient can share with friends.

8. Gourmet Popcorn Sampler

Sometimes an edible treat is the way to go, especially for someone living in a small space. This popcorn can be given as-is, or put into smaller containers to create multiple gifts. Would also make a great addition to a food gift basket.

9. Magnetic Wrist Band

This is an awesome little gadget. It's designed to hold screws and nuts while you work, but would also be fantastic for needles and pins. It's hard for anyone to locate a dropped nail or needle on the floor, but even more so for those with poor vision and mobility issues.

10. Wood Cheese Board

Another multi-purpose gift. A nice wooden board can be used for a cutting board or serving board. It also looks nice as a kitchen decoration.

11. Mail Organizer

Help a loved one stay organized with this really nice organizer. I love that it has plenty of room for mail and outgoing bills, plus things such as a checkbook and book of stamps. Even extra envelopes!
The drawer is a nice touch too for pens and a pad of Post-it Notes.

Idea! Use this as the base container for a gift basket. Fill with envelopes, a new book of stamps, a set of personalized return address labels, a nice pen, a note pad, and a small magnifying glass to make a complete gift set.

It could also be used for organizing or storing other items too.

12. Deep Lazy Susan Storage Bin

Everyone knows a lazy susan turntable is handy in the pantry or in those hard-to-reach corner cabinets. But what about gifting one to be used to hold medications, toiletry supplies, or other items. What a convenient way to keep a bedside table organized while still allowing easy access to everything!

These could also be handy for storing bathroom supplies, small kitchen gadgets, craft supplies, and so forth, making it easier for the elderly to find things without having to stoop, climb, or dig through cabinets and shelves.

Like the mail organizer, this could be made into the base for a gift basket. Fill with small "stocking stuffer" type items and wrap with pretty cellophane and a bow!

13. Embossed Rolling Pin

For the elder who still loves to bake, why not a fancy rolling pin? There are several lovely designs to make cookies, crusts, and biscuits. This would be especially nice for someone who likes to take baked goods to bazaars, fundraisers, and potlucks.

14. Candy Dispenser

Gumball machine candy dispensers are ageless and timeless. They have a vintage feel, but can still be presently practical. This one can be used for different candies, nuts or even coffee beans, which makes it a very cool, retro canister!

15. Small Cast Iron Skillet

A cast iron skillet is a multi-purpose piece of cookware than safely go from stove top to oven. A miniature size, like this one is perfect for eggs or a skillet meal for one.

16. Large Calendar

A nice wall calendar for the upcoming year is always a winner. This is one of my favorite gift suggestions for residents of nursing homes, especially those with dementia who may feel anxious if they can't remind themselves of the current day/month/year. Calendars with engaging photos or artwork are the most pleasant--especially if the theme matches the interests of the person receiving it.

(And come on, whether a person's "thing" is hot rods, sewing, flowers, cabins, paintings, or cute kittens, there is a calendar for it!).

17. Movies

In the age of streaming everything, DVDs have aged into being very affordable. If the person you know likes films, and has a player, why not buy a few DVD's and make them a "movie gift basket"? Maybe include a cozy lap throw and some candy or snacks.

Please don't "assume" which movies they might like based on age. Try and find out their favorite genre, actors, etc. We had a lovely 79 year old woman in our nursing home whose favorite movie ever was Back to the Future.

CDs and books also make great gifts and can be turned into creative gift baskets.

18. Personalized Pet Dish

Pets are very therapeutic for the elderly! If you know someone with a beloved dog or cat they adore, they might appreciate a customized pet dish. You could take it to the next level by making a pet themed gift basket. This is a great way to give useful gifts that are actually not boring! Things you can add include: feeding dishes, new collar and leash, pet blanket or sweater, a bag of treats, chew toys, and maybe even a nice framed photo of the pet!

19. Bed Organizer

This one is just practical...but in a good way! One or more of these allows your loved one to keep everything they need or want at night close at hand, without cluttering up a night stand or ending up on the floor.

20. Polaroid Camera

It's a little bit retro, and a little bit modern. Give a gift that brings back memories while capturing new ones!

Have a wonderful holiday season!

Here are some other gift guides you might enjoy:

100 + Gift Ideas for Senior Citizens

Ultimate List of Stocking Stuffers For the Elderly

17 Cool and Trendy Gift Ideas for Senior Citizens

2017-11-22T04:24:00.000-06:00

What should you buy an elderly loved one for Christmas? Which holiday gifts are most appropriate for senior citizens? What would your grandmother like in her stocking this year?

The possibilities are endless!

Remember, not all "elderly" may be as old as you think they are. When we hear the word "elder" or "senior citizen" we often think of "the Grandma's raised during the Great Depression". But just think! People who are close to retirement age this year were the teenagers of the 60's (and early 70's)!

And if your loved one has reached the amazing age of 75, (three quarters of a century!), or close, then they were the teens of the 50's...

They sort of invented "cool".

I always try to bring you some new perspectives into caregiving and caring for the elderly. I've done more traditional gift guides, (you can find the links at the end of this article) but you can (and should) think outside the box sometimes when buying for your aging relatives, friends and neighbors.

Sure, a person can probably always use another pair of fuzzy socks and some hand cream, and you should always pick gifts that are safe for a person's health conditions, but why not glam up your gift giving this year with some trendier, cooler, presents too?

Here are some fresh gift ideas, from prettier versions of practical gifts, to things that are just plain modern and fun.

*This post contains affiliate links. When you buy via my links I earn a small commission at no extra cost to you, which goes to support this blog. Full disclosure here. Thank you!*

1. Cactus Essential Oil Diffuser

Oil diffusers are always great gift ideas for the elderly. They can be therapeutic, or just add a lovely aroma to a room. This cactus oil diffuser has the added benefit of also being a fake plant and a humidifier! That makes it double-perfect for small spaces. Unlike some traditional units, it doesn't look "medical" at all.

2. Thought A Day Notepad

These would be a beautiful gift for a senior in any living arrangement. Everyone needs to make a list or write a note sometimes. Pair it with a lovely pen for the perfect gift set.

3. Cherry Blossom Umbrella

Umbrellas are a practical and common gift idea for seniors. This beautiful clear umbrella with a fountain of cherry blossoms would be a classy addition to a Sunday outfit, and a perfect accessory for everyday outings.

4. Fruit Slice Pill Organizer

The only thing worse than being stuck on a daily regimen of medication is being stuck using boring pill boxes and sorters that look like they belong in a hospital rather than a home.

Not these! They are bright and fun while still be highly functional. The small shape makes them easy to carry in a bag or purse.

(Safety Note: because these could be mistaken for candy containers by children or adults with cognitive issues, please make sure medications are never left in unattended areas.)

5. Plaid Throw

Buffalo plaid is in this winter, which means you can gift a nice throw blanket that's classic and unisex. Since plaid is so classic, it can be kept out all year long and look nice wherever it's used.

6. Apple Sticky Notes

A fun way to keep sticky notes handy. These look decorative while serving a universal purpose.

7. Wood Piggy Bank

Children aren't the only people who need a fun reminder to save change! This bank is cute and elegant at the same time. The glass window and natural wood frame will let it blend in with any decor, and it can be suitable for both men and women.

8. Classic Copper Kettle

A classic copper kettle can make any kitchen seem cheerier and cozier!

9. Posh Organizer/ Catch-All with Drawers

Everyone has those little odds and ends that need a home. An adorable little drawer organizer can tame a cluttery area. Perfect for dressers, nightstands, bathrooms, desks, the kitchen counter, and hobby areas.

10. Copper Fidget Spinner

Think of it as more than a trendy toy! Any type of fidget device can be beneficial to the elderly. It can be soothing and therapeutic for those with dementia and anxiety. In turn, this can alleviate unhealthy habits such as nervous skin picking or nail biting, (which can lead to infections and illnesses).

It's also cool and fun, and much more discreet than fidget blankets, jackets and aprons made for the elderly to wear.

(Safety Note: I would recommend avoiding any spinners with lights or odd shapes. A safe, durable spinner like the one below would be the easiest to handle for those with arthritis.)

11. Instant Camera

While digital cameras are great for capturing tons of photos, a lot of seniors would appreciate one of these nostalgic models that create "real" photos. A great way to relive old memories and make new ones. The photos are wallet sized, making them great for scrapbooks, journals, small albums, brag books, or sharing with friends.

12. Bamboo Spa Shower Seat

A shower bench can make showering safer and more comfortable. It can also make a bathroom look pretty luxurious! Whether it's for sitting on, or just a place to stack towels within easy reach of the tub, a bamboo bathroom seat is a nice gift for the person who needs a little extra help, but doesn't want a "medical" device in their home yet.

13. Decorative Door Stops

Have you ever visited someone's house and thought you were being nice by tidying up a pile of things by a door? Or maybe you moved a trash can back in place, tripped over a magazine rack, or caught your foot on a pair of shoes lying inside the bathroom? Then you get fussed at for "letting the door close".

That was my grandmother's house, and a lot of other homes I've been in as well.

You can give a great gift AND make a home safer (and tidier) with a nice, decorative door stop, such as one of these:

Cast iron owl doorstop

Stretching Cat Door Stop

Sitting Puppy Door Stop

Bright, Rubber Leaf Door Stopper Set

(Safety Note: Please make sure that heavy door stops contrast enough with the floor color to be visible, even in dim light. )

14. Perpetual Calendar with Wooden Blocks

Sleek, minimal, and easy-to-read. May or may not help reduce the clutter of paper calendars throughout the house. Either way, a perpetual calendar still looks elegant on a desk, counter, or nightstand.

15. Vintage-Style Post Card Book Mark Set

A beautiful set of 30 travel-inspired bookmarks. For those who love to travel the world in person, or just between the pages of their favorite books.

16. Pineapple Bookend

Also for the book lover, a set of attractive bookends.

17. Adult Coloring Book Set with Multi-Level Designs

And finally, some gorgeous coloring books with intricate designs. Coloring books can be relaxing for people of all ages. Having a creative outlet can reduce boredom and lessen the chance of depression. Managing coloring tools is also a good way to exercise motor skills. (TIP: for those with arthritis, slip on pencil grips can make coloring more comfortable.)

Unique Gift Idea for the Elderly: Organizing a Senior's Home for Efficiency and Independence

2017-11-08T01:06:00.002-06:00

It's almost the holiday season, and every year I hear people asking:

"What on earth can I possibly get for the aging loved one on my gift list? What do they really need?"

I've written a couple of posts on gift buying for the elderly, but for this post, I thought I would focus on something besides "just a gift".

I focused here on gifts to buy the elderly in nursing homes, and this post on what NOT to take as a gift to a nursing home.

So now I want to talk about a gift idea for the senior citizen who still lives in their own home.

What's the most amazing gift you can give to an elderly loved one who is aging in place? How about helping them live as independently as possible by organizing their living space?

Making the elderly home organized and efficient can go a long way to helping them be more independent. Too many times I've seen the inside of an senior's home, and their family or caretakers have merely stuffed things out of sight to make the house seem more clean.

That just means the elder has to spend more time rummaging for things they need...usually while either bending over or standing on a stool. Why not give your elderly loved one a gift that keeps on giving, by working with them to make their home more efficient for their needs?

You don't have to a major home overhaul either. Focus on the main rooms used by your loved one first...especially the kitchen, bathroom, and bedroom, where common items are used multiple times per day.

How to Start Organizing an Elder's Home?

The least overwhelming way to start is by visually assessing what you already have to work with.

Take note of potential safety risks.

Try a "mock run" of a certain chore, such as cooking breakfast, and then ask yourself questions like these:

How hard was it to find a skillet?
How long did it take to locate all the ingredients?
Did you have to climb or get down on hands or knees?
Did you have to walk to various cabinets and shelves to collect everything?
Were "like" items stored together?
Or say, was the wooden spoon on the opposite side of the kitchen from the spatula?
Did you have to dig through stuff that isn't used often? (Think holiday serving dishes, appliances for specialty recipes, etc.)

You can do the same thing in any room. Or have your parent show you how they do a routine so you can see which items they are likely to use the most.

Once you have that in mind, you can rearrange to make their routines much easier. Cut down the time it takes them to find necessary items by using bins, drawer dividers, and other storage solutions.

Store items that are used seasonally or infrequently in highest or lowest cabinets where they will be out of the way. For example, if they only use a slow-cooker for holiday meals, it can be stored more out of the way with similar appliances.

This can free up a lot of counter and cabinet space, which also makes it easier for your loved one to clean and disinfect their work area.

TIP: Matching bins with labels are better than color coded bins which can make a room look cluttered and confusing. Solid color, opaque bins are nice in outer rooms since they can make the house feel "company ready" with minimal effort, while keeping cluttery stuff out of sight.

Clear bins are best in the fridge and bathrooms where the contents can easily be seen. Plastic, metal and treated wood that can be wiped easily are better than porous surfaces, such as wicker, that can trap dust and bacteria. Remember, you want to make their life easier, not give them things that require specialty cleaning.

*This post may contain affiliate links. When you buy via my links, I receive a small commission, at no extra cost to you. Full disclaimer here.*

Storage and Organization Ideas for the Elderly

Organizing for seniors is a bit different than organizing for the needs of a busy, younger home.

Not everything has to be super organized and labeled though, unless there are memory issues. And not all "trendy" organizing ideas are going to be necessary. (For example, using labeled canisters for all the food makes a really pretty pantry, but that could be time consuming and exhausting for the elderly to maintain.)

The best solutions are items that are:

Sturdy (nothing that bows or bends when lifted or moved)
Non-breakable
Easy-to-grip (think large comfortable handholds)
Easy-to-clean (non-porous, forgiving materials)
Uncomplicated (complex organizational devices and systems are overwhelming!)
Well-labeled

Here are some easy ideas you can implement to help your loved one stay tidy and independent:

Kitchen Storage Ideas for the Elderly

The kitchen is one of the most important areas (along with the bathrooms) to keep tidy, safe, and easy-to-clean.

Skillet Racks

Any type of pot and pan organizer can help. Racks that hold the skillets apart can make grabbing the right pan easy and fast. Similar racks can hold lids and baking sheets too, so there isn't a messy jumble of cookware to dig through.

This prevents the need to stoop or bend repeatedly, which can lead to dizziness, falls, and other issues.

Also look into racks for sorting Tupperware and lids and pot lids.

Kitchen Drawers

Drawers can be tamed with a few baskets from the dollar store. Mostly, you want to focus on having everyday tools (like a cooking spoon) in the most convenient place, and things that aren't used often, (like corn cob holders and the ice cream scoop) out of the way.

Over-the-Sink Shelf

A nice simple shelf over the sink, and a little plastic basket can tidy up the kitchen and keep dish supplies accessible rather than hidden under the sink. Its also a cute place to keep a small potted plant if there is a window.

If the dish supplies on the shelf seem too untidy, a rack secured to the inside of the cabinet door under the sink will also put things within easy reach.

Canned Good Bins

Moving to the pantry or cupboards, consider something to contain canned goods, such as these wire dispensers.

I've opened cabinets before in senior's homes and caused avalanches of food items. Canned goods are particularly painful if they fall on your head or foot, and picking them up means bending or crawling around on the floor.

Bins that "dispense" canned goods also promote food safety, since older cans automatically roll to the front. No more cans getting pushed to the back to pass their expiration date under a blanket of dust.

Broom and Mop Holders

I can remember getting whacked many times by my grandmother's broom. It was tucked into different crevices, such as between the fridge and wall, between the washer and dryer, behind the bedroom door...

Sometimes, you stepped just right and it ninja-attacked you from it's hiding spot.

Not only did she never know where the broom was without hunting for it, it was a tripping hazard if it fell in the night. When it was hung up, it was on a hook in the laundry nook and you had to fight to get it loose around all the laundry supplies.

Good news, they make awesome holders for brooms that don't involve having to try to hook a broom handle on a peg, nail or hook. You just slide it in and out, and brooms and mops stay corralled in one place. If possible, find a place that doesn't require having to reach over other items.

Magnetic Knife Rack

No more dangerous drawers full of sharp blades, or accidental cuts searching for the paring knife. A nice magnetic knife rack is a safer place to store sharp tools, and it saves more space than using a knife block.

I'm always surprised when people don't consider knives and scissors as a hazard for the elderly. When they are jumbled in a drawer or a utensil holder, there is such a risk of getting accidentally cut, especially a person has impaired vision or difficulties with motor skills.

Clear Food Storage Containers

Good, clear food storage containers are the best. Opaque food storage containers (including repurposed food containers such as butter bowls) are not good. Unless your loved one is really good about eating or discarding leftovers in a timely manner, and can remember what is in every bowl, clear is better.

Also, this is one time when glass is better. And square/rectangular pieces store so much neater than round containers.

Command Center

Yes, they are trendy, and you've probably seen a million on Pinterest that are geared towards busy families. But they can be super helpful for the elderly too! If they don't have an office space, Find the place they naturally seem to keep things such as bills, pens, phone books and calendars and get all that stuff arranged.

Need some inspiration? Check out some command centers featured on Good Housekeeping.

A spare kitchen cabinet is wonderful, since it can also house their daily medications (away from steam!). A Large, easy-to-read calendar, a holder for pens, magnifying glass, calculator; a note pad, a tear off list for things like groceries, and other items can go here.

Also an inbox and outbox for mail. Keep the stamps and envelopes close by too.

Looking for a fun stocking stuffer idea? Check out these cute magnetic notepads.

TIP: Set the mail rack up so that there is a bin for mail that looks suspicious. Whenever they get a letter they can't understand, or aren't sure its legitimate, have them sort it there until they can discuss it with you or another trustworthy advocate.

Bathroom Organization Ideas for Seniors

Organizing a bathroom is pretty easy, and can make things so much easier for your loved one.

A Clear Pocket Organizer

These are technically "shoe racks". But you know what? They are great for so many things. I have one in my office to hold charger cables, craft supplies, batteries and other little things. Where are they most useful for the elderly? In the bathroom!

It's no secret that the elderly have just as many lotions and potions as the rest of us. Popping items together in these pockets makes them tidy, yet visible and easy to reach. Ideas?

Shaving supplies
Extra bar soap
Dental care supplies
Lotion
Frequently used OTC remedies such as rubbing alcohol.
Washcloths
Room freshener spray
Trash bags for bathroom
Wet wipes
Cosmetics
Handsoap refill

One great reason for getting everything in a pocket organizer instead of crammed into the bathroom cabinet is safety. Digging around under the sink where cleaning supplies are often stored can lead to accidental spills.

Also, things like toilet bowl brushes are probably under there. These things could contaminate medicines, lotions and other toiletry items and your loved one could inadvertently transfer germs and bacteria other areas of the house.

A Sturdy Toiletry Rack for the Shower

This is such a simple touch and can take away a lot of frustration when showering. Search for a corner shower caddy or one that secures to the wall so that it doesn't swing or tip.

Wrestling slippery shampoo bottles is hard enough for anyone with a wonky shower rack. Imagine trying to do that with arthritis or poor vision.

Plastic Storage Units

For things that are more private in nature, plastic storage carts with drawers are good. Smaller ones will fit under the sink (in the clean zone). You could also use plastic baskets on a shelf within easy reach.

Ideally: move towels and other linens to a center shelf or cabinet so they are both easy to access at bath-time and easy to put away on laundry day. The same rule applies for bathrooms as kitchens...the less it is used, the higher up (or lower down) it can be stored.

Try to keep all daily and weekly items between eye and hip level.

Organizing Other Rooms

Laundry

Laundry rooms would be third on my list of rooms to reorganize for safety and efficiency. This is because most laundry rooms are designed with storage overhead, and often that involves reaching over the washer and dryer to lift down heavy items.

You probably can't change where the storage shelves or cabinets are located, (especially in laundry nooks), but it can help immensely if you break all the items down and sort them into smaller bins with handles. So, instead of pulling down one huge caddy filled with cleaning supplies, they could access a smaller bin with just the supplies they need for a certain job, and everything will be in one place.

One thing that made my life with laundry a lot easier was moving my detergent from the box to a tub with a lid. It saves space, it is easier to get off the shelf, and it never spills accidentally anymore. Liquid detergent is probably best left in its own container though.

As with the bathroom, a clear pocket organizer can be amazing in a laundry room for holding things like lint rollers, dryer sheets, and scrub brushes. If it is also a utility room, then the pockets will hold cleaning rags, vacuum attachments and other little things that tend to clutter the tops of appliances.

Living Area, Bedrooms, Etc.

Just remember that bedrooms are highly personal. Make sure your loved one is on board with any changes you make. This is not an area to do a "surprise" makeover.

Cube Shelf with Bins

This is my one exception to the "plastic is best" rule for bins. The canvas bins that fit cube shelves do become dirty easily, but they can be replaced when needed.

These come in all shapes and sizes and they can be a tidier alternative to standard bookcases and side tables.

What can they be used for? Hobby supplies, magazines, photo books, extra throw blankets, shoes, pet toys...anything. Also things a person might want to have on hand, but not necessarily out in the open all the time such as heating pads, blood pressure monitors and other health related stuff.

Because they are so flexible they will work in just about any room, and can easily be labeled.

TIP: If you use a taller cube shelf or stacked units, please secure them to a wall. When the elderly stumble they instinctively grab furniture to support themselves. Any tall heavy piece of furniture can topple and seriously injure a senior! This can also make an elder feel safer if they have problems moving around a room but aren't ready to use an assistive device.

Rolling Cart By Their Chair

Even with a lot of nifty storage in place, your loved one probably wants to keep some things within easy reach when they are relaxing. If they have hobbies such as sewing or reading, a rolling plastic cart is much better than baskets on the floor. It puts the supplies higher up, and smaller baskets can be placed inside to keep things separated.

The top can also serve as temporary resting place for a drink, a snack or a project. Bonus? It can be rolled out of the way, and even out of sight whenever they want. No lifting and lugging.

Bedside Storage

Most elders I know keep a variety of medications and other items piled around their bed within easy reach. You probably aren't going to talk them out of the habit, so the next best thing is to make sure everything is organized.

Use plastic bins for this, because medicines and lotions can drip and leak.

Provide a separate bin or tray for things like a television remote, eyeglasses, and reading books.

They also make pocket holders that slip under the mattress for this, but in my experience, the nightstand is still going to collect most of the clutter because it is easier to reach. The pocket organizer can still be handy for things they don't use as often.

A simple bedside trick is to add a very small wastebasket. This provides an easy way to dispose of tissues, wrappers, cotton swabs and empty packets (instead of piling them on the tray or in the other bins to get rid of "later").

Under the Bed Storage

It's inevitable that the elderly are going to store things under the bed. My grandmother stored her extra cookware under the guest bed.

An elderly in-law stored miscellaneous clutter in shoe boxes.

An elderly neighbor kept photos, tons of pantyhose and craft supplies under the bed.

Good, sturdy storage made for under the bed means that what goes under, can come back out easily. Plus, it can be labeled and organized.

Ideally, the best solution would be to help them find a way to store everything in more appropriate places, and saving under the bed for things like seasonal outfits and bulky items (extra electric blankets, for instance. If that's not possible, then at least this means they can pull things out without having to be on the floor too long rummaging.

A Final Word About Organizing Your Elderly Loved One's Living Space

It is so easy to carried away with organizing and decluttering. And if feels great to be doing something for other people. But please do so with care and consideration.

Part of the reason your loved one wishes to age at home is because it is familiar and comfortable. In most cases, you don't want to go in and make so many huge changes that their home feels alien to them.

How much or how little you do should depend on:

Your loved one's physical needs

Their mental wellbeing

Their independence and self-care abilities

How much they need or want done

To sum those up quickly:

1. The more physically fit they are, the less they will need done right now. However, implementing some new changes can help them farther down the road.

2. If they have dementia or anxiety, smaller changes spread out over a longer period will be better than a lot of changes all at once. And of course, you should always ask first if they would like for you to help them a little. Some seniors may be offended, thinking you are critiquing their housekeeping skills. You know your loved one best, so if you think some changes would be good...approach the subject in a way that is suited to their unique personality.

3. If they are limited in what they can do for themselves, match the level of organization to their needs. Focus on easy, not on magazine-pretty. The goal is to make it easier for them (and caregivers) to access needed tools and supplies, prevent injuries, and perform daily tasks with minimal strain, risk or messes.

4. Like any part of caregiving, this can be tricky. It might to look through photos of spaces on places like Pinterest before you start, and ask "Do you think you would like this?"or "Would this make it easier for you to do this task?"

And have fun. It can be a job, but it can also be a great way to spend time with your loved one, talk, sing, and share some memories.

Houseplants for the Elderly--Practical Gift Ideas for Seniors

2017-04-19T02:04:00.002-05:00

6 Houseplants for the Elderly

Having a houseplant (or two, or three) is healthy for every human being. They purify the air and provide emotional and visual gratification. So why wouldn't the elderly benefit from some live greenery as well?

Actually, caring for a plant can help elders have a sense of purpose. For those who have spent their lives caring for a spouse, children pets, etc. and who are now alone, a plant can still feed those nurturing instincts without requiring too much expense or physical exertion.

Someone who spent a lifetime gardening outdoors, but can no longer do so, may still need that connection to nature. Making things grow and thrive is rewarding, and having the plants in the house to see all the time can be a mood booster.

Here are few plants that make great gifts for seniors, and some additional tips for making sure you give a plant that is an enjoyable, healthy gift:

*Note: This post contains affiliate links. If you use my links I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. Thank you for helping to support Elder Care Issues. Full disclosure here.*

Before You Choose a Houseplant for a Senior

Not all plants are a great idea. The more frail an elder is, the less likely that they will want to care for a plant that is high maintenance. Plus, a plant that is notoriously difficult to grow can die, and that can lead to a sense of failure and depression.

Luckily, there are several houseplants that are very easy to grow. They might not be totally kill-proof, but they are much more likely to at least survive, even if your loved one forgets to water them or they become temporarily pot-bound.

You should also take into account these things:

Plant size:

Eventually a plant will have to be repotted or moved for some reason. Big plants such as indoor trees are beautiful, but a smaller, easier-to-handle plant will be better. Just remember to read the tags that come with the plant. Not all of them will stay as small and cute as they are in the nursery. If you do opt for a large plant (and many of them are great options for the elderly), be available to help with any repotting or maintenance.

Rate of Growth:

Will a plant be happy for a long time in one pot, or will it outgrow several pots in a short time? If your loved one is willing and able to change out the pots and soil frequently then this isn't a concern, but if they might have trouble, you should search for a plant that grows slowly or be willing to help them.

Toxicity:

Some plants can be mildly to severely toxic to humans. Usually, this just shows up as skin irritation if it at all. Since older people have thinner, sensitive skin, even a non-toxic plant could cause irritation. Just remind them to wash their hands after handling the plant.

If a elder has dementia, and you think there might be a possibility they could forget and taste a leave or not wash their hands after handling, you should speak to your nursery about plants that are absolutely safe for humans and pets.

NOTE: even toxic plants have to be consumed in mass quantities to be fatal to an adult. However there can be some very uncomfortable and scary symptoms. Luckily, many edible plants make great houseplants!

Here are a few suggestions for easy plants to give the elderly:

1. Aloe Vera

The aloe plant is a beautiful and useful succulent. Not only is it very easy to care for, having the stems on hand to treat burns and scalds can be helpful in the kitchen. The juice will also help soothe many different cuts, abrasions and skin irritations.

Aloe plants can get very large, up to three feet in height and breadth. If you are getting an aloe plant for an elderly loved one, try to pick a small one or a series of small ones to start with. It takes awhile for them to grow to maturity. Every couple of years or so, the baby plants need to be potted separately. This is something you can help with if the owner is unable to do so.

Requirements: Bright light (any window or rooms with plenty of artificial light throughout the day), and sandy soil.

2. Peperomia

This plant is a nice light-weight plant. It rarely grows bigger than 6 to 12 inches, and can be kept on a narrow windowsill or petite side table.

This is a low-to-medium light plant. This makes it great for the person who keeps their home relatively dark. (Many elderly keep rooms dim because sunlight affects their vision.) It will even be happy in a north window!

The peperomia is also pretty to look at, with heart shaped, textured leaves and interesting spiky appendages. A good option for a hanging basket, too.

Requirements: Lower light, dryer air.

3. Mother-in-laws Tongue

This plant has the reputation of being immortal, and for a good reason. You really, really have to try hard in order to kill one. Unless you take it out of the dirt, soak the roots in battery acid and throw it out to freeze in Siberia, then this plant will probably be okay.

It is however a bigger plant that eventually needs to be in a floor pot. Your elderly loved one does not need to be trying to move or re-pot this plant without help. It grows to about 4 feet in height at full maturity, so it can really fill in and look like a lot of greenery, rather than needing several small plants.

This plant does have a toxic element. It is not the best plant for a senior who owns pets or who is visited by young grandchildren unless supervision is used.

It makes a nice corner plant for a bedroom, and doesn't mind being ignored.

Requirements: Any lighting, warm air, little water, no fertilizer.

4. Cast Iron Plant

This plant is aptly named. It is hard to kill. It grows slowly, and has beautiful leaves. It is another tall plant, like the mother-in-laws tongue.

Perfect for a dim corner near a window, the cast iron plant needs little in the way of special care. In fact, all it really wants is water, filtered or bright light, and average potting soil.

At its tallest, this plant will be about 20 inches, which still doesn't make it too tall for a table. Today, the plant can be found with the traditional glossy, dark green leaves, or a variegated leaf.

Requirements: Bright or filtered light, normal room temperature and humidity, normal soil conditions.

5. Pothos Ivy

I'm pretty sure that everyone has one of these plants already. They are very common, since they propagate like crazy from just stem cuttings. They can grow bushy in a pot, if trimmed correctly, or make lovely trailing vines if left uncut.

Since this plant comes from the jungles of South America, it is used to reaching lengths of 40 feet in great conditions. In the home though, it probably won't grow quite that much, but I've seen some that trailed the floor while hanging from the ceiling.

Still, if you don't want a plant that long, it is easy to keep the vines trimmed. And all those cuttings just mean more pothos if you want to propagate them. It also likes being pot bound to a degree. It can be happy in the same pot for years before needing to be repotted, as long as the soil is well drained so the roots don't rot.

The pothos pretty much tells you when it needs something too. It wilts when it wants water, and turns yellow if it is getting too much light. Just because it shows the signs doesn't mean the plant is doomed. Water it and move it to a less-sunny place and it will continue to flourish like nothing ever happened.

Pothos is another plant that can cause nausea, vomiting and irritation in pets and children. It needs to be hung out of reach if there are dogs, cats, or small children in the home.

Requirements: Water, indirect light, and a place to rest its roots. Namely, a pot with average soil. Cuttings will also grow hydroponically if you keep them in a glass of water.

6. Spider Plant

The ideal hanging basket plant, the spider plant is known for its fountain of vines, and little "baby spiders" that grow from longer trailing vines. It is a forgiving plant, but slightly more needy than the pothos ivy.

Spider plants like a little bit more sunlight, but not too harsh or too hot. It also likes to be watered frequently during warm weather, and prefers not to get too cool. As long as a person can manage watering and occasionally trimming this plant, and has a nice window, this plant will just hang out and purify the air.

Requirements: Bright, indirect sunlight, frequent watering in summer, frequent fertilization during summer, normal room temperature, no cold drafts.

One Last Word About Houseplants as Gifts

Plants are living things. If you give one as a gift, I recommend including the basic necessities for its care. It is just a courteous thing to do, especially if a senior is living on a budget. These items can include:

A nice pot (the flimsy ones from the nursery won't hold up).
A plant mat to prevent water stains on floors and tables
A clean spray bottle for misting (labeled to prevent chemical mix-ups)
A nice potting soil mixture as per the plant's instructions
A small thing of fertilizer if recommended
A strong hook or wall bracket for a hanging plant
A set of scissors just for plant trims (to prevent contaminating scissors that might be used near food.)
A printed card with care instructions if the recipient is unfamiliar with the plant needs.

Put all of the extra stuff into the nice flower pot and you have a gorgeous houseplant gift basket!

How to Win An Elderly Person's Trust--Tips from and Elder Companion (Guest Post)

2016-12-09T00:16:00.000-06:00

Sometimes the elderly have a reputation for being a bit irritable. This trait can manifest itself quite strongly when seniors are placed in the hands of new caregivers, companions or medical staff.

Care providers may face a tough first week (or longer) being met with distrust, dislike, and ill-temper from their new patients. So, how do you break the ice and make friends with the seniors you've come to help?

Today's guest post talks about just that. Leah has worked with seniors for over 20 years, as a home health worker, nursing assistant, and personal companion. She gives her best tips on winning the trust of the elderly below:

My first job as a personal companion to a senior began 9 years ago. Having worked in the health care industry for quite some time, primarily with the elderly, I felt seasoned and well-prepared to take on this new caregiving role.

I was hired by a lovely-yet-frazzled middle-age gentleman, "Dan", to be a day companion to his aging mother, "Judith". Dan was acting as primary caregiver since his father passed away two years before.

Although he enjoyed caring for his mom, he reluctantly admitted that she was growing more irascible daily, as well as more dependent on him to help her with her daily needs.

Since Dan couldn't afford to quit his job, he had hired a series of people to sit with his mother during the day, and all but one other lady had quit after only a few days.

I hate to say it but whatever stereotypes exist about "grouchy old ladies", Judith fit them all. She was highly suspicious, she threw insults, and she accused everyone of any crime she could think of.

When she wasn't testing the limits of caregiver patience, she was sitting by the window making insulting remarks about people walking on the sidewalk outdoors. She told me on the first day that she was going to run me off, but I was determined to be the stubborner person.

It wasn't easy, but eventually Judith and I developed a strong bond, and I remained her caregiver until she passed away three years later. She was the toughest elder I ever won over, but she wasn't the last. These are my tried-and-true tips for anyone who works with seniors in any setting:

1. Get to The Root of the Problem

Why are some elderly people suspicious and angry at caregivers? There could be a number of reasons:

a. They have so many care providers come and go that they don't want to get attached.

b. They are physically uncomfortable.

c. They may be depressed, or just scared about this new stage in their life where they need stranger care.

d. They may have the beginnings of Alzheimer's or dementia

e. They may not fully understand what is happening

f. They resent their loss of privacy and independence

Those are just a few. In Judith's case, she resented losing first her husband, then her own independence. When her son could no longer provide 100% of her care, she thought that a hired companion was only in it for the paycheck. Ironically, to test her caregivers to see if they liked her for her own sake, she was being as unlikeable as possible!

She felt that a companion or caregiver that tolerated all the abuse was a "truly" good person. It wasn't the best way to find out, but it was what felt important to her, and the loss of all the other caregivers seemed to validate her theory.

2. Find a Solution

If possible, see if there is a way to "fix" whatever bothers the person you are caring for. It could be something easy, like respecting their schedule. One gentleman complained that all the home companions were too noisy.

Eventually, it was discovered that he liked to nap after a meal, and the sound of cleaning up during that time disturbed him greatly.

By working with the family and creating a more flexible schedule (the companion didn't wash dishes until after the gentleman's nap), everyone was happy. The man learned that his new caregiver was willing to take his needs into consideration.

3. Be There

To win trust, the first step is to say you will be there for someone. And then be there for them. This means not just being there on days you are supposed to be there, but being available at other times. Make sure the family has your number and let them know that if they need you for even an hour or so, you will do your best to be there.

This isn't always possible, but do so as often as you can.

The more they see you, the more they will trust you.

4. Surprise Them

Once you've worked with a person for awhile, show up sometimes off the clock. Bring them a small gift or a card, or just drop by to ask about them. Make a phone call. This was key in winning over Judith. If I drove past her house, I would take ten minutes to stop and check in on her.

I wasn't paid for these visits, but I wanted her to know that if she ever needed me, I would be there for her.

If you do want people to trust you, and you do truly care for them (which I hope you do in this job!) then building that trust is crucial. It means they may tell you something that they keep hidden from a family member (a health issue that could save their life), that they might call you right away instead of waiting hours if they are hurt, or scared, or sick.

5. Listen to Them

Oh, how I hate the false cheerful conversations between caregivers and their people. "Oh really, Ms. Brown? That's nice. Now let's move you to this chair."

Ugh!

This might be the only way in certain facility settings, but if you care for a person in their home, then you should really take the time to get to know them. All those things you know about your own parents or grandparents or friends:

Their favorite color
Their favorite season
What they like to watch or listen to
Their family member's names
Their birthday
What they did in the past as a profession or hobby

All those things that make a person an amazing individual, not just "an elderly person".

If that person is lucid, then don't rely on their relatives to supply you with what they like, want or hate. Get it from them personally.

6. Let Them Know You

This is tricky. A lot of advice (and sometimes policy) says that you should keep your life completely private and share no details. I disagree wholeheartedly.

I don't think you should come in and unburden all your troubles or gossip on the people you care for, but they aren't going to trust you if they don't know anything more about you than your name.

Often, they just want to find something in common with you, such as whether you have children, where you were born, what your favorite things are. Use discretion, and don't share anything too private, but at least let them know you are another human being.

7. Don't Argue With Them

You don't have to agree, but you don't have to argue either. If they start an argument, or make an accusation to start an argument, then you have to handle the situation professionally.

It's always possible that they make a statement, accusation or assumption because they truly believe it. (Especially in cases of dementia)

They could just be baiting you to see how you will react. "Arguing" can also be defined as denying accusations, defending yourself or your beliefs about something, opposing an opinion or statement they offer up, etc.

They could just really love to argue. If this is the case, eventually you will probably learn to enjoy good natured debates with them, but not in the beginning.

Rather than argue, diffuse the situation by:

Agreement--If it is logical

Distraction--make a new statement or change the subject if it seems like you are being baited.

Validating their concern--focus on the reason they are saying what they say, not what they are saying.

Handing it Back-- this is my personal term for asking them what you can both do to fix a situation they dislike.

8. Let the Insults Slide

Occasionally you will care for someone who has unlimited insults. They may insult your size, shape, name, color, accent, methods, manners, work, clothing, etc. Or they may insult others and try to get you to agree with them.

Sometimes you can find out what is really bothering them and come up with a solution (as mentioned above). Sadly, sometimes the person is just being the same person they've always been, and its very unlikely they will change.

You have to have a thick skin. Don't let them bait you into an argument, and don't stoop to countering with more insults.

9. Be Amazing!

Does that seem impossible? It isn't! An amazing caregiver is someone who:

Takes time to listen and learn
Remembers they are caring for another human
Respects that person's opinions, likes, and dislikes
Shows affection and kindness
Uses lots of patience and understanding
Laughs
Gives just a little more than they have to
Stays a few steps ahead

By staying ahead, I mean learning enough about that person that you can predict when they need a listening ear, having the things they want ready before they ask, remembering their important dates before they have to mention them, etc.

Hopefully that helps both new and seasoned caregivers with "grumpy" seniors. Just remember, they are probably only trying to test your character to see how much you really care. No words will ever speak as loudly as your actions, so show all the care and love you can.

Bonus Tip: (Leah sent this as an afterthought and it is a wonderful idea) When caring for a person who is a shut-in, take lots of photos of interesting or pretty things before you go to work.

Start the day by piquing their curiosity "Guess what I saw today?" and share the photos to help break the ice and open up some discussions.

-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Post may contain affiliate links. Buying through these links earns me a small commission at no extra cost to you, which helps support this blog. Full disclosure here.

photo source: Pixabay

What Caregivers Should Know About UTI's In the Elderly

2016-08-03T23:23:00.000-05:00

UTI's can be deadly for senior citizens. Caregivers should be aware of the signs and symptoms.

Urinary tract infections, also called UTI's, in the elderly are bad news. For the average person, a bladder/kidney infection can be nothing more than a brief nuisance, or it can cause major discomfort and require medicine and rest.

For the elderly, a UTI is an emergency that requires immediate treatment. The elderly are at higher risks of developing UTI's, but don't exhibit the same symptoms as younger sufferers. Because of the apparent lack of signs and symptoms, the entire body can be affected before an infection is even suspected and diagnosed.

Here are some things caregivers should know about UTI's, and how they exhibit themselves in seniors.

What is a UTI and What Causes It?

When bacteria makes it's way into the urethra, bladder, or kidneys, a urinary tract infection can occur.

Usually, the infection is caused when E. coli bacteria enter the urethra and travel to the bladder. From there the infection can spread to the kidneys.

Urinary tract infections can affect all or different parts of the urinary tract system:

Cystitis--is the term for an infection in the bladder.

Urethritis--is an infection in the urethra

Ureteritis--is an infection of the ureter tubes

Kidney infection--when the infection affects the kidneys.

When the kidneys and ureters (not urethra) are affected, it is called pyelonephritis.

Although both women and men can suffer from urinary tract infections, women are more susceptible. Part of this is due to the urethra being shorter in women, making it easier for bacteria to travel to the bladder.

Women who are sexually active are more likely to get a UTI, both because intercourse can push bacteria towards the urethra, and because the use of some contraceptive methods can irritate the urethra.

Not urinating frequently can also lead to UTI's. Women may not empty their bladders as often as needed for many reasons. Some of these reasons may include: inadequate bathroom breaks at work, difficulty walking to the bathroom, inconveniently located restrooms, clothing that is difficult to remove or just simply being too busy to remember.

When they do get the chance, they may not have time to completely relax and empty the bladder. They may compensate by not drinking, which can exacerbate the issue.

Women are also more likely to refuse to use a bathroom that is dirty. Lets face it, men have it a lot easier (and cleaner) when they need to urinate.

As women age, the lining of the urinary tract weakens and thins. This can lead to more irritation and more susceptibility to UTI's after menopause.

In men, UTI's become more frequent after the age of 50. As men age, the prostate can enlarge. This can obstruct urine flow, leading to retained urine in the bladder.

If women suffer UTI's more often, then men suffer them more severely. Almost all cases of male urinary tract infections will require hospitalization.

In both elderly men and women, some risk factors that can increase the chance of an urinary tract infection include:

Catheterization
Immobility
Dehydration
Diabetes
Kidney stones
Bladder prolapse
Poor hygiene habits
Certain medications

Incontinence can also contribute to the risk for bladder infections. This is especially true for those who must wear adult diapers.

Adult diapers, no matter how often they are changed, can allow fecal matter to enter the urinary tract very easily, even after minimal contact. Likewise, elderly persons who cannot (or will not) efficiently clean themselves after toileting may introduce bacteria accidentally to the urethra.

Signs and Symptoms of Urinary Tract Infection in The Elderly

The elderly can present with all the same symptoms as a younger person.

However, they may show none of the "normal" signs or symptoms. Instead they may experience flu-like symptoms. Younger people will rarely present with flu like symptoms with a UTI.

The signs and symptoms of UTI for all ages include:

Painful urination
Burning when urinating
Burning sensation in genitals
Lower abdominal ache or cramps
Urgency or frequent need to urinate
Cloudy or foul smelling urine
Blood in urine
Tenderness in back, under the ribs (kidneys)
Sensation that urethra is swollen or raw (urethritis)
Painful intercourse (women, from urethral irritation)
Fever and chills
Nausea
Symptoms of UTI in the elder may include:
Confusion
Dizziness
Nausea and vomiting
Shortness of breath
Cough
Fatigue
Malaise
Confusion

UTI's and Dementia

Urinary infections can cause worsened behaviors in those with dementia. The dementia may seem to become worse practically overnight.

A person who has not been diagnosed with dementia, or who is in very early stages, may suddenly exhibit symptoms of progressive dementia.

This can include cognitive difficulties, confusion, delirium, hallucinations, and anxiety.

Existing dementia behaviors may increase in frequency too. Sundowning may be worse, the person may either have unusual insomnia or excessive sleepiness.

If an elderly person suddenly begins to show signs of anxiety, agitation, confusion or delirium, especially if coupled with any other symptoms such as fever, nausea, cough, or dizziness...contact a doctor or take your loved one to the hospital as soon as possible.

It is better to be safe than sorry. Don't assume it is simply the dementia "taking a turn for the worse", especially if the onset is very sudden.

This is especially important if your loved one is unable to communicate to you how they feel. They may simply become irritable or withdrawn, or the may say they just feel tired.

Dangers of Untreated Urinary Tract Infections in the Elderly

In a person of any age, an untreated UTI can enter the kidneys and create scarring and further illness. Sepsis can occur if the infection spreads.

In the elderly, the immune system is already weaker. If they have a pre-existing medical condition such as high blood pressure or diabetes, the infection can cause this issue to worsen, since the immune system is suddenly overburdened.

An untreated UTI could also lead to permanent incontinence.

If an elder with dementia has an untreated UTI, they can suffer dehydration, vertigo, falls, and injuries, all which can further affect their dementia.

Preventing and Treating UTI's in The Elderly

If a urinary tract infection is suspected, a doctor will take a urine sample and sometimes a blood test. The infection may be treated with a simple round of antibiotics.

If infections are recurring or if the doctor suspects an obstruction, a CT scan or other imaging test may be used. A cystoscopy may also be ordered. (this involves a tube with a lens being run into the bladder to check for abnormalities.

In some cases a catheter may have to be used to collect a clean sample. If so, this may cause further agitation in someone with dementia. It can also lead to further infections. Ask if there any other options before agreeing to allow catheter use on a loved one under your care.

Many infections can be prevented with some simple tips and rules. First off all, make sure that the elderly stay hydrated! This can be a difficult struggle if they are embarrassed about incontinence. Always provide their favorite drink in a readily accessible area.

To to make access to bathrooms as easy as possible. Offer a bed pan if that will help reassure them and convince them to drink more fluids. If adult diapers or pads are used, change them frequently, clean the perineum between changes.

All linens such as towels, bed pads and underwear that come in contact with even a small amount of urine should be sanitized frequently to kill bacteria.

Water is best for flushing the urinary tract, but any fluids that they enjoy drinking will help keep infections at bay. Encourage them to drink glasses of water in between other beverages as well.

Remember that although cranberry juice is thought to help prevent infections, it can also irritate infections that are already present in some people.

Other preventions include:

Teaching good hygiene
Emptying the bladder frequently--don't wait until it is uncomfortable
Remind those with dementia to use the toilet frequently
Sexually active seniors should urinate immediately after intercourse
Avoid perfumed soaps, deodorants, toilet papers and douches.
Provide wet wipes to make cleaning up easier after toileting

It is not advisable to try to treat a urinary tract infection in the elderly with a home remedy. Consult with a physician before implementing any care plan.

Also remember that excessive fluid intake may place some elderly persons at risk depending on their pre-existing medical conditions and their medication.

Check with the doctor about any concerns and make sure you understand all complications and considerations. Every elderly person is different, and their unique health status will help your doctor decide which treatment option and preventative measures are the safest and most effective.

Caregiver Respite for Peace of Mind (Guest Post)

2016-05-02T13:32:00.002-05:00

Respite care for caregivers can provide peace of mind.
Photo courtesy of author

Caregiver respite is the topic of today's guest post, and its a very important subject. Not enough caregivers take time to care for themselves. The result is a struggling caregiver who is spread too thin to take care of any of his or her responsibilities safely and efficiently.

Jacqueline Hatch of Seniorly.com shares some options for overworked caregivers below:

Caregiver Respite is Not Selfish

Family caregivers are strong individuals. They often find themselves part of the sandwich generation, simultaneously caring for young children and aging parents, balancing the needs of others while also holding part- or full-time jobs. And with so much to juggle, it’s no surprise that self-care often gets pushed to the wayside, becoming more of an afterthought than an obligation.

It’s common for family caregivers to feel responsible for their aging loved ones, and as a result, feel guilty about needing some time off to focus on their own needs. But caregiver respite is not selfish; it’s necessary. Research shows that caregivers who neglect self-care often become ill, and caregivers who embrace it are stronger, healthier, and better able to care for their aging loved ones.

Fortunately, there are several ways that family caregivers can get respite AND peace of mind:

-Ask for help:

A close friend or family member should be able to take over your caregiving duties for a day or two so you can take some time off. Use this time to catch up on sleep, go to a yoga class, or just catch up with friends you haven’t seen in awhile. Even one day of respite can have a positive impact on your mental and physical health.

-Consider adult day programs:

There is bound to be an organization in your area offering adult day programs for your aging loved one to participate in. Simply contact your local Area Agency on Aging and inquire about programs near you. A majority of programs will have a trained nurse on staff to help with basic health care needs, so you can rest assured that your loved one is being cared for properly while you are away.

-Find short-term senior housing:

If you’re going on vacation or need a longer break, many senior communities offer one- to two-week respite stays in senior housing, where your loved one can have access to 24-hour supervision, assistance with daily activities such as showering and dressing, and even medication management.

These communities generally offer dining, laundry, and care services that are included in the price of the short-term stay. Senior communities also provide tons of opportunities for socialization, including group activities such as fitness classes and movie nights, so your loved one can feel engaged in the community and maybe even make some friends while you’re away!

Its Okay to Take a Break

If you’re at the end of your rope and just need some time to rejuvenate, it’s okay! There are several options that may work for your family. Find some peace of mind with the suggestions above or design your own kind of respite. What matters most is that you’re focused on your own health, too, and not always sacrificing it for others. Because we all need a break sometimes.

For more information on topics that matter to you, visit Seniorly >>>>

Seniorly.com is a free resource for elders and the loved ones who care for them. Find hundreds of articles on elder care issues on our website, or connect with us on social media to engage.

Elderly Caregiving--Who Are The Medical Professionals?

2016-04-11T07:00:00.000-05:00

A guide to medical professionals who care for the elderly.

From surgeons to Home Health Aides, from family caregivers to psychiatrists--the field of geriatrics is broad and often confusing.

If you are embarking on the journey of caregiving for an elderly loved one, it may be surprised how many medical professionals you will get to know. They all play a special part in caring for your relative, and many will be there to support you as well.

But at first, it may be confusing. Who are all these people? Do you need them? How are you supposed to which person is the right one to tell about each issue or concern?

To help, here is a quick look at some of the many health care workers you may meet while being an elder caregiver:

You, The Caregiver

You already know that you are a care provider. You know what you do every day. But do you know everything about your position?

Basically, you are the eyes, ears, and mind of the person for whom you care. Without you, they would be alone and vulnerable. You notice everything about them; when they aren't eating normally, when they appear depressed, when they seem a little incoherent.

You stand between those with physical impairments and cognitive issues and a world fraught with dangers, and when something, even the slightest change, appears it is you who brings it to the attention of their doctor.

Caregivers should never allow anyone to tell them they aren't part of the "team". In essence, you are the heart and soul of the team.

Doctors

There are many different physicians that might be care providers for your loved one. Some doctors specialize only in adult medicine, others specifically in geriatric medicine.

There may be DO's or PA's (physicians assistants) when a specialist is not needed.

What type of doctor you choose depends on the needs of your loved one and the availability of different medical providers in your area. A general practitioner is often used for everyday complaints and check-ups. They will refer your loved one to a specialist if needed.

Your loved one may need only one specialist. Or they could require many. If you have good doctors, they will be a network working together in the best interest of your loved one.

Caseworkers

If your loved one has insurance such as Medicare, then they may have a case worker as well as other team members that manage their profile. Sometimes these are known as geriatric care managers.

Nurses

Whether in a hospital, nursing facility or doctor's office; nurses play an key role in the care of your loved one. In the doctor's office, a nurse is often the receptionist as well.

She manages the appointments and can give some advice via the phone, (such as what to give in case of a fever). She can also relay information to and from the doctor. In person, she takes vital signs and records any information that the doctor will need to know.

Depending on the facility, the nurse may do most or all of the assessment which the doctor will later read. In a nursing facility they are responsible for even more--managing charts, administering medications, and acting as go-betweens in the relationship between doctors and patients.

Nurses may also be private care, meaning that they come to the home to care for the elderly. These could be brief visits, or they could spend an entire shift--something that is often done in instances of hospice care.

Physical Therapists

Most people thing that physical therapy is only helpful to those recovering from an injury. But the benefits of PT cover much more area than that!

Therapists help elders maintain independence by strengthening their mobility, flexibility, balance and endurance. This treatment is necessary not just after injuries, but after illnesses and for those with certain conditions too.

Physical therapists also know how to use alternative pain treatments to relieve symptoms. PT's have to be stern and demanding to keep patients motivated, and they are often unloved by the elderly. Without physical therapy, many elders would be placed in skilled nursing care long before their time.

Aides and Assistants

On the medical team, you will meet many aides and assistants. Nurse's aides, medication aides, PT aides.

Just like nurses are the link between doctor and patient, aides are often the link between patients and nurses. In hospitals and care facilities, nurse's aides are the people on the floor delivering personal patient care. They can provide everything but medical care. Medication aides or nurses will administer medication, while nurse's aides (CNAs) handle bathing, grooming, changing, room maintenance feeding and more.

Aides and assistants also keep an eye out for any problems. They notice physical and emotional symptoms and report to their nurses.

Physical Therapy aides assist therapists. Home health aides perform duties similar to CNA's, only they do so under the supervision of a Home Health Nurse, in your home.

In some places, the terms "aide" and "assistant" are used interchangeably. But usually, assistants have higher levels of training.

Optometrists and Ophthalmologists

Eye care is important at any age. For regular eye exams and glasses, an optometrist may be all that is needed. However, if there are more serious issues such as glaucoma or cataracts, an ophthalmologist may become part of your care team.

Podiatrist

Like eye care, foot care is essential for the elderly. Any type of pain in the feet can lead to poor mobility, which increases the chance of falling.

A specialist may not be needed in most cases, but are recommended if the elderly suffer from diabetes, a condition that places their feet at risk of infections and gangrene without proper care.

Dentist

Dentist and dental hygienists see to the oral health of the elderly. Even elders who wear dentures need routine dental checkups to make sure their dentures are still fitting properly and that there are no diseases in the mouth or gums.

Since the elderly produce less saliva, it is easier for bacteria to build up in their mouths. Also, a lessened sensitivity to taste and temperature can lead to injuries of the mouth that can cause discomfort or infections.

Routine oral check-ups can also reveal other health issues, so the dentist becomes part of your loved one's important network of carers.

Pharmacists and Technicians

Doctors may be the people we trust to make the diagnosis and the best prescription...but sometimes small details escape their notice. Often, nurses will notice discrepancies in medications and treatments.

When they don't, it is the responsibility of the pharmacist and the pharmacy technicians to catch an errors before they can harm anyone. May lives have been saved because someone in the pharmacy happened to noticed a dosage error or a prescription for drugs that could cause harm when used together.

Pharmacists also offer advice on over-the-counter medications, and the safety of taking prescriptions and certain OTC drugs together. They will also make sure you understand the proper way to use, store, and time medications, as well which side effects are normal.

Many More Professionals

Here are more members of the health care team with whom you may work while you care for a loved one:

Phlebotomist--this is the person who draws blood for medical testing

Lab Tech--This person will draw blood then perform diagnostic tests to determine illnesses or disease.

Emergency Responders--EMT's and paramedics respond to 911 calls. As well as providing on site care, they transport sick or injured people to the hospital and perform life-saving techniques.

Chiropractors--chiropractic adjustments are sometimes helpful in treating arthritis and other painful conditions.

Dietitian--for those with nutritional needs, dietitians and nutritionists help educate the elderly and their caregivers about proper diets and healthy eating habits.

Respiratory Therapist--helps with breathing issues and oxygenation issues.

Speech Therapists--assist patients who have experienced strokes. They also do assessments for those with swallowing difficulties.

Audiologists--if your loved one has decreased hearing, they may be assessed to see if they need hearing aids.

Geriatric Psychiatrist--there is a whole field dedicated to the mental health needs of the elderly. Geriatric psychiatry comes with its own dumber of doctors, therapists, nurses and other specialists.

Why A Health Care Team is Important

Over the years some, or all, of these professionals may assist you.

No one can manage the total health care of a senior entirely alone, although the home caregiver can play many aspects of different roles.

The important thing to remember is that no one person is more important than the next--but rather, without any single person, the health and well-being of the elderly would be severely compromised.

Choose a good team, and play your part with pride.

Newbie Caregiver Guide to Different Types of Elder Care Facilities and Services

2016-03-30T06:30:00.000-05:00

Guide to Different Types of Senior Care Facilities.

Respite Care or Skilled Nursing Care--What is the Difference?

Are you a new caregiver? Are you a bit overwhelmed by the many different types of elder care facilities and services you see advertised?

You aren't alone. Even seasoned caregivers sometimes get confused when it comes time to choose the most appropriate place for their elderly loved one.

In this guide, I hope to clarify the basics of the many types of senior care options available to you. From here, you can choose to research the most relevant services for your individual situation.

Elder Care Services:

Even if you caregive in your own home, you are not alone. There are a range of services that help the elderly when they live by themselves or with family.

Family Caregiver

That is you! (sometime this can be a friend as well.) The family caregiver is the person who takes on the responsibility of caring for an elderly relative either in their own home, in the home of their loved one, or even from a distance.

Distance caregivers routinely check in on their relative via phone, internet or physical visits as often as needed, and provide a certain number of care tasks if needed. In some instances, a family caregiver may have sole responsibility for a senior's physical, medical, legal, and financial well-being.

Home Companion

An elder companion is a person who sits with the elderly for an alotted time each day (just like a babysitter). They may also take the elderly places they need to go, do some housekeeping, and maybe even cook. They are not usually medically trained--their job is to keep the elderly company while helping them with certain tasks.

Companions are often employed when the elder either has no one to care for them, or they have caregivers who cannot be with them 24/7.

Respite Care

Respite Care is simply a break for a caregiver from his or her job. Respite caregivers may be other family members, friends, neighbors, or community volunteers. There are also agencies that employ trained caregivers that you can hire.

Respite care is not full-time. Usually, this service is used when you need a break, for a few hours or a full day. They are like home companions, but respite care is not usually a daily thing--rather, it is a replacement for you so that you can take time to do something for yourself. It is also beneficial for the senior, since they get to interact with a new face for awhile.

Respite care services are also provided at certain facilities, such as assisted living. This makes them similar to adult day care, in that you take your loved one to the facility for a few hours. However, it is not a daily routine like adult daycare.

Home Health Care

Home Health is a hired service. Home health workers come to the home of the elderly and perform medical assessments and/or custodial care (personal care such as bathing). Usually, nurses will come to the home to check vitals, change would dressings, or administer certain medications.

Home health aides will come to help with certain care tasks, such as bathing, dressing, etc.

Adult Day Care

This is similar to respite care, except that it is not in-home. Adult day care takes place at centers and facilities specially designed for seniors.

These places usually watch your loved one during your working hours, and provide them with activities, exercise, meals, naps, and socialization. They also have nursing staff to monitor your loved ones health.

Some facilities may offer more medical supervision than others, and may be called Adult Day Health Care.

Hospice

This is a specialized nursing field. Hospice workers are trained to take care of your loved one if they are dying or suffering from a terminal illness. There are hospice facilities, but hospice also comes to hospitals, your home, or any nursing facility to provide care.

Home health nurses visit the elderly in-home

Elder Care Facilities:

Standard nursing homes for everyone are quickly becoming a thing of the past. Today, your loved one has many options. Even though there are several different types of Long Term Care facilities, they fall into two basic categories: With medical supervision, or without medical supervision.

The line gets a bit blurry too, since some set-ups provide a combination of both types of living.

Independent Living

Rather than being a skilled facility, independent living is a way for seniors to age in place. These set-ups provide rental units dispersed over a campus.

Depending on the facility, it may offer customizable options for different living arrangements. Some offer cleaning services, dining and laundry services.

The units may be apartments or even full houses, all located in a community. The point is to allow seniors to live in a safe environment, where they can have access to social activities and transportation, but still have assistance (if wanted) with home management tasks).

Independent living communities may also retirement communities or CCRC ( Continued Care Retirement Community)

CCRC

This type of care facility provides the best of all worlds. Starting with low-level independent living units, and progressing to skilled nursing facilities. A Continuing Care Retirement Community allows your loved one to age in place as part of a community no matter how their needs change over the years.

The elderly can begin by living independently in their own apartments or homes. As their needs increase, so does the amount of care provided bu the CCRC.

These communities offer a host of advantages:

Spouses and lifetime partners can live together
Future care needs are already planned out.
Transportation
Social activities
Monitored aging in place

Assisted Living

Assisted living usually follows independent living. These facilities offer help with activities of daily living, such as dressing and bathing, but the residents are not under 24/7 medical supervision as they would be in a skilled nursing home.

Assisted living facilities provide the opportunity for the resident to live as independently as possible. However, there will be staff available at all times to help with housekeeping, laundry, meals, etc. There will also be nurses and aides available at certain times to help with medication and other health needs.

Skilled Nursing

A skilled nursing facility may also be called a Long-Term Care Facility. They are usually known as just nursing homes.

These centers are needed for elders who can no longer live independently, or who can no longer be cared for at home or in other types of elder care facilities. Nursing homes always have a nurse on shift, as well as aides, to help with everything from activities of daily living to basic medical treatments.

Depending on the nursing home, they may also have physical therapy and hospice services. Situations that most often qualify a person for skilled nursing include:

Stroke
Dementia
Advanced stage Alzheimer's
Physical disabilities
Mental disabilities
Terminal illnesses or conditions that require constant supervision

Caregivers often choose to relocate their loved ones to an SNF when they develop several needs that make it no longer practical to care for them in the home. (For example: someone with dementia who has choking issues and requires a catheter).

Memory Care or Dementia Care

These are specialized units that focus solely on caring for those with dementia or Alzheimer's. They are sometimes separate, but often part of a larger LTC facility.

Convalescent Care

A place where people recovering from a long-term illness, certain medical treatments or injuries stay while recovering. These more home-like than hospitals. Unlike nursing homes, these centers provide short-term care for the time needed to convalesce.

Sometimes CC may be included as part of a nursing homes features.

Board and Care Homes

These are residences in private homes or neighborhoods where a small number of seniors may live and receive assistance with activities of daily living.

These are basically assisted living facilities, but are much smaller and usually set up in houses rather than buildings built specifically for residential care. They do not provide nursing care.

May also be called an Adult Care home or a Group home.

Other Terms You May Hear

Custodial Care--Another term for a skilled nursing home
Long Term Care Facility--may be used to describe any elder care facility
Residential Care--Any care where a person becomes a resident of a senior care facility or community
Special Care Units--Usually refers to the Memory Care/Dementia Care units.
Inpatient Rehabilitation Center (IRF)--another term for convalescent care.
Congregate Care--the same as assisted living
Mixed or Integrated Care Facility--sometimes used to refer to nursing homes that care for the elderly as well as developmentally disabled adults of all ages.
Adult Foster Homes--Board and Care homes
Residential Care Home--Board and Care home
Retirement Community--A term that describes all independent living communities

Many terms for care facilities and services are interchangeable. Some are only used in certain circumstances or regions.

Before making a decision on the best long-term care option for your loved one, be sure to assess state licensing, care level needs, and insurance requirements--as all of these will vary from state-to-state, person-to-person, and facility -to-facility.

Happy Easter From Elder Care Issues

2016-03-27T06:30:00.000-05:00

May everyone have a wonderful holiday filled with fun, chocolate and precious memories to cherish.

Don't forget to include the elderly, and always remember...you can never take too many photos.

Happy Easter!

Is Telehealth the Solution for Rural Caregivers?

2016-03-05T05:29:00.000-06:00

Telehealth is a growing trend in modern healthcare. This form of remote medical care could soon improve the lives of thousands of elders and caregivers.

Isolation is not a new issue for caregivers. With the majority of caregiving responsibilities falling on one person, it can quickly lead to problems. Sadly, not all caregivers have access to respite care, home health aides, and other means of temporary relief.

What does this do?

It can lead to caregiver burnout. It can also lead to health issues for the caregiver as the needs of the elderly intensify with time. This can be a problem anywhere, but it is more severe in rural areas.

The Issues With Rural Senior Care

We all like to think that caring for the elderly is so mainstream now that we all have access to dozens of tools and services to make it safer, easier, and more affordable.

But we don't.

Seniors and caregivers who live in rural areas and small towns may have little more than a local clinic with an overworked doctor to help them through times of need. Major emergencies are transferred to larger, distant hospitals, and minor issues, including emotional support, are often brushed aside with a "do the best you can" attitude.

Often, serious health conditions may be overlooked or misdiagnosed due to small facilities with limited testing equipment.

For caregivers, respite care and support groups are not even a possibility, and combined with the daily stress of caregiving comes the anxiety over whether or not a loved one could be transported in time if a major emergency arose.

How could telehealth help that?

The possibilities are endless and amazing. With simple technology, caregivers could have access to medical advice at all times. Not only does that relieve a tremendous amount of stress, it could provide immediate solutions to problems occurring in real time.

Better than waiting for hours for someone to answer a question on a forum or medical website.
Better than waiting for a call back from a busy clinic
Better than suffering through a medical crisis with no way to access healthcare

With remote monitoring available for certain health conditions, seniors may even have the choice to age in place longer.

Resources

Personally, I am excited for this "trend" to become the new mainstream. Not only can it benefit the elderly and their caregivers, it could help small hospitals too. Imagine a world where no matter where you were, you had instant access to some of the best healthcare.

Here are some articles with more information on telehealth:

Telehealth Services: Great News for Seniors and Their Caregivers

Hospitals Look to Telehealth

New Tools for Family Caregivers--AARP

About Home Telehealth

Managing Healthcare for Your Elderly Parent

2016-02-24T03:32:00.003-06:00

When you take on the role of caregiver, managing a senior's healthcare becomes a full-time job.

If your elderly relative can't make decisions for themselves, then you may be doing everything from scheduling appointments to making sure that two prescriptions are safe to take together.

Getting organized from the beginning can help make these new responsibilities less stressful. But before you get in too deep, here are some things to consider and some tips.

*post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase through my links, I receive a small commission that helps support this site. Read full disclosure here.*

Advanced Directives and Legal Protection

Before a family member can legally speak on behalf of their parent in regards to medical care and end of life care, they must obtain an advanced directive.

Quite simply, this is a form that tells medical professionals about the patient's wishes regarding medical procedures, resuscitation, and end-of-life care provided the patient is not able to communicate their wishes at any given time.

If possible, such a form should be completed by a person well in advance of the time when they will need it.

Usually, an advanced directive will name a durable health care power of attorney. This is the person chosen to speak for the elderly person if they cannot do so. This is usually a spouse or close family member who can be trusted to follow the patient's wishes.

As a caregiver, you will need such documentation in order to manage your parent's money and medical expenses, as well as being their medical spokesperson.

Save yourself time, stress and grief by taking care of this paperwork as soon as possible. Without it, you can't help your loved one receive the medical care they desire.

Choose One Spokesperson For Doctor's Visits

To avoid confusion at doctor's visits, a decision must be made as to who should be the main advocate. Even if more than one family member shares the responsibility of caregiving, too many advocates can create confusion.

This does not mean that only one person should have a say in any medical and personal care decisions. It does, however, mean that one person should be the most prominent voice. This person should be the one listed in the advance directive.

This is the person who is responsible for keeping up with all medical records, insurance forms, medication lists, doctor's appointments, etc. This is also the person who speaks to the doctor about any concerns, behaviors, or other issues.

It is fine if other members of the family (especially those who provide hands-on care) are present and willing to offer support, but care should be taken not to create a chaotic environment in the doctor's office with several family members trying to tell things or ask questions at the same time.

Organize Appointments Before You Go

If more than one caregiver wants to voice a concern or ask a question, there is no reason why they need to be physically present at a doctor's appointment. This can be stressful for everyone involved. A better solution is for everyone to sit down before an appointment and organize a list of questions for the doctors.

Along with queries, the list should contain updates about your elderly loved one's behavior changes, dietary changes, etc. Formatting such a list in a precise fashion can help a doctor to understand the worries of the family and address them in the best manner. It also prevents you from suffering sudden memory loss in the doctor's office.

Become Familiar With The Entire Health Care Team

The person in charge of managing their parent's care should take the time to get to know the different doctors, nurses, therapists and specialists that provide care.

Diplomacy can go a long way toward ensuring better medical attention. Be courteous, organized and punctual. Keep a list of medications and dosages handy. Make certain that all medical professionals know what medications and therapies (including home remedies, vitamins, and herbs) are being taken by your elderly relative. This can prevent any dangerous drug interactions.

Ask Direct, Pointed Questions

Doctors and other health care professionals can sometimes be as vague as politicians. Usually this is because they don't yet have answers to your questions. Or perhaps your question was non-specific. In this case, the doctor will usually give you an answer that makes you feel optimistic, without actually providing you with any data.

A question such as " Will Mom feel better soon?" is non-specific. No test known to mankind can answer this question. However, a doctor will probably answer you with a similarly vague answer, such as " We will just have to see." or " Well, we are doing everything we can to ensure that she does."

For adequate communication between caregivers and care providers, questions should be asked in a direct manner, and should focus on objective information (readable signs) rather than subjective opinion:

Is this procedure likely to cause a lot of pain?

What possible side effects of this medicine should I be aware of?

Are there any changes we should implement in Dad's diet to help with his cholesterol levels?

These are questions that a doctor can actually answer!

Manage Medical Expenses and Health Insurance Responsibly

A caregiver is responsible for seeing that their parent has proper medical care. This also means they need to manage any insurance and medical bills if their relative is unable to do so.

Since the elderly can often amass a hefty amount of paperwork, medical records and insurance forms, an adequate filing system is a must. Everyone's medical information should be filed in separate locations to make access easier and quicker in case of an emergency.

Research various programs and insurance carriers to help cover unexpected medical expenses. Talk to physicians about substituting generic medications to help lower the cost of prescriptions.

Educate Yourself About Certain Healthcare Procedures and Tasks

Although it may not be a pleasant prospect, as a caregiver you may be faced with performing tasks that were once performed by medical professionals. If home health assistance is not an option, you may be expected to change adult diapers, give showers or baths, give injections, provide catheter care and dress wounds.

For most people, these tasks will never be easy. It is especially difficult to perform painful procedures on a loved one. The best way to become confidant in these duties is by becoming as educated as possible.

Speak to those who work in the medical profession for advice. Ask your doctor or nurse to demonstrate proper technique and to monitor you while you practice. The more confidant you are in your skills, the less likely that you will cause un-necessary discomfort to your loved one. In turn, they will be more likely to cooperate during these tasks.

Take Lots of Notes

You may feel too overwhelmed to write down all the things that happen during the day. Keeping a journal or log though can help you communicate better to your parent's doctor.

You don't have to rewrite "War and Peace" here, just jot down notes for the day about aches, pains, behaviors, moods, meals, etc. A normal daily planner with a place for short notes should work just fine. Here is a cheerful planner and journal set that can help you organize everything about your caregiving year!

Help Yourself As A Caregiver

It may take a few months to become comfortable with your new role as advocate for your parent's health. If you are organized and proactive, the routine will become much easier. Be sure that you have a good health care team.

If you feel at any time that your loved one is not receiving the proper care or that your concerns are being ignored, don't be afraid to change doctors. It may seem awkward at first to take control of such decisions, but having a proper system will make caregiving easier for you and easier on your elderly loved one.

Helpful Terminology for New Caregivers

2016-02-15T23:41:00.001-06:00

A helpful guide to caregiving terms and abbreviations.

Have you just taken over the role of family caregiver? If so, you may soon find yourself bombarded with hundreds of unfamiliar words and confusing terms.

If you aren't a medical professional, then you can be quickly overwhelmed with you see these words appear on paperwork. (and there will be a lot of paperwork).

The following guide won't make you an expert overnight, but it will give you a quick introduction to some of the most common terms you will hear and read as a caregiver:

Basic Care Related Terms and Abbreviations

ALF

The abbreviation for an assisted living facility.

LTC

Abbreviation for long term care

SNF

Abbreviation for skilled nursing facility (you may hear some refer to this as a "sniff")

Hospice

Specialized end-of-life care provided by professionals specifically trained to provide palliative care.

Palliative Care

A care method that takes in the whole person and their needs, and focus on quality of life rather than prolonging life. This is usually the type of care given to those at the end of life or those with terminal illnesses, and it revolves around keeping them safe, comfortable, pain-free and emotionally supported.

This is similar to, and sometimes the same as, holistic care.

Holistic Care

A "whole body" approach to medical care. For example, in traditional care a person with diabetes would be given insulin. In holistic care, they would be given diet plans, nutritional support, emotional support for coping with the illness, etc. As well as safe alternative therapies such as massage for leg pain and circulation issues.

The point of holistic care is to care for all aspects of the person's needs rather than just the affliction.

Care Plan

The complete encyclopedia (it seems) of your loved one's medical and personal needs. Care plans are individualized guides to what a person needs in every aspect of their care.
You may never see one, but if your loved one is in a facility you may be asked to go over one or to agree to treatments and procedures listed in the care plan.

Legal Terms Regarding Caregiving

Not only do you have to become an overnight nurse when you take up caregiving, you also need to be a lawyer! Here are a few legal terms that caregivers need to know:

Conservator

A person assigned by a court to handle the financial obligations of another person. A conservator is named when a person is no longer capable of making sound decisions on their own.

Advanced Directive

A legal document that a person writes to clarify their wishes for future medical care and treatments. It usually goes along with a living will, durable power of attorney and durable power of attorney for healthcare.

Living Will

Much like an advanced directive, a living will states what a person wishes as far as their care, should they no longer be able to make decisions for themselves.

Durable Power of Attorney

A contract that delegates power to a third party for financial responsibility. Without this paper, a caregiver may not be able to arrange for payment of medical care.

Durable Power of Attorney for Healthcare

This is where a senior citizen designates a specific person oversee their medical care in the event that they are no longer capable of making rational decisions.

Executor

The person responsible for carrying out actions listed in a will.

Ombudsman

A person who receives, investigates and answers complaints and issues regarding care facilities.

Guardian

The person responsible for legal, medical, and financial decisions made on a senior citizens behalf. This may or may not be the primary caregiver.

APS

Adult protection services. They function just like child protection services, and are responsible for investigating and reporting neglect, poor living conditions, and cases of abuse to or by an elder.

DNR

Do Not Resuscitate order. This is an order written by a doctor by request of a patient or guardian. In basic form, it means that medical professionals are not supposed to try to restart a heart that has stopped beating. The DNR can sometimes be more complex, depending on a person's personal beliefs, wishes, and condition.

Just remember when you see this on paperwork, it is not medical shorthand for "donor".

GCM

Geriatric Case Manager. A person who works with older adults and their relatives to make certain the older person's individual needs are being met, and the appropriate services are arranged.

Medical Terms for the Caregiver

Durable Medical Equipment. This doesn't mean sturdy, top-quality equipment. It is a term that refers to reusable equipment, such as hospital beds, wheelchairs, walkers, etc.

Insurance companies sometimes pay for these items to be purchased or rented.

ADL's

Activities of daily living. These are everyday tasks that your loved one could once do for themselves, such as dressing, grooming, eating, cleaning, cooking, etc. The more ADLs a person can perform alone or with minimal assistance, the better their quality of life.

Autonomy

A person's ability and freedom to make decisions about their own body and care. In a care facility, "autonomy" is a resident's right to eat, sleep, bathe, dress, act etc. when and how they want, (as long as it is safe for themselves and others). It also relates to how they want to spend their time, arrange their environment, socialize, and decide for or against medical procedures.
The more autonomy an elder has, the better their quality of life.

Enteral Nutrition

Any nutrition or medication delivered via intravenous (IV) or stomach tubing.

PEG Tube

Percutaneous endoscopic gastrostomy. This is a big term for a small tube that is introduced through the abdominal wall in order to deliver food, liquids and medications directly into the stomach.

Decubitus Ulcer

The medical term for a bedsore or pressure ulcer. You may hear someone refer to one as simply "a decubitus."

Acute Vs. Chronic

An acute illness or pain is one that comes on suddenly and is usually temporary. Chronic pain or illness is one that repeats, cycles or is always present.

Sign Vs. Symptom

When assessing patients, or asking caregivers for information about a senior, doctors will ask for signs and symptoms. A sign is any symptom which can be seen, heard, smelled, or felt by someone other than the patient. A symptom is something that only the patient can feel themselves.

For example, a headache is a symptom, a rash is a sign. These may also be referred to as objective or subjective symptoms (confusing right?) An objective symptom is a sign (rash, fever, racing pulse, wound, etc.) that can be measured by anyone. A subjective symptom is one that can only be felt by the patient.

Demand Clarification

There are literally thousands of medical terms and abbreviations that you will encounter as a caregiver. Many will be in writing, others will be spoken by professionals in the health care industry.

If you don't understand what something means, demand clarification. This is especially important with regards to legal documents and insurance policies. Not having a crystal clean understanding of unfamiliar terms can lead to serious medical issues and major financial woes. Caregivers should always research everything, get second opinions, and insist that things are explained as simply as possible.

5 Things That Can Cause Poor Appetite In Seniors

2016-02-01T17:52:00.004-06:00

Having less appetite as a person ages can be normal. Food may not be as appealing, and the body needs fewer calories.

Decreased appetite can be abnormal though if it begins suddenly, if it leads to rapid weight loss, if it causes or if it causes other health problems. A sudden and unusual change in eating habits could be a sign of an underlying issue, such as dental problems or declining cognition (forgetting when the last meal was eaten or not recognizing hunger pains.

An abrupt change in a person's eating habits should be brought to the attention of a doctor. However, there may be a non-health related reason for low appetite too. Here are five reasons why a senior may be eating less:

1. Decreased Sensory Perception (Taste, Sight, Smell)

When the senses are no longer acute (either from age or medication) food may no longer seem appealing. An elder may not be able to smell the food cooking, see the pretty colors, or taste all the flavors.

This often leads to the overuse of salt and sugar to make food palatable. Whereas you can't fix sensory perceptions, you can monitor the use of salt, and instead season food with robust herbs such as rosemary that can be easily tasted.

Other flavorings such as lemon or lime might help appease the craving for salt.

2. Decreased Metabolism

If seniors are mostly sedentary, their bodies may simply not send hunger cues as usual. The elderly may eat smaller and smaller meals, or skip meals, until they have difficulty eating a normal-sized portion.

Helping seniors get out and get active can boost metabolism. As they engage in enjoyable activities, they can build an appetite. At the same time, serve small meals and snacks more often throughout the day.

If portion size is overwhelming to an elder, they may enjoy "grazing" on small items from a snack tray. There are lots of healthy options that can be placed on a tray, such as whole-grain crackers, nuts, dried fruits and vegetables.

Other foods can be assembled in small containers and placed in the fridge at eye-level, where they are are easy-to-access. (cubed cheeses, sliced fresh veggies, fruits, small strips or cubes of lean meat.) This can help the senior who only grabs junk foods because they don't want the fuss of preparing a full meal.

3. Loneliness

Some people enjoy eating alone. Some seniors however may feel that it is too much trouble to prepare and eat a meal by themselves. Those who have lost a spouse or who rarely have guests may find mealtimes more sad than pleasurable.

If loneliness is leading to food apathy, it may help for a person to eat a few meals a week in a social setting. Eating with a friend, a relative, or with a group of people might perk up the appetite. In turn, it could lead to more enjoyment of meals at home.

4. Low-Income

Poverty is a real issue for many seniors, and some are trying to pay an entire month's expenses with only a few hundred dollars. For this reason, they may decide to eliminate their need for groceries by not eating, or by only buying a few of the cheapest items that won't spoil.

If you suspect money issues to be behind a poor diet, you can recommend community programs, or arrange for care baskets or homecooked meals to be delivered.

5. Change of Food Preference

An often overlooked reason for poor appetite can be a simple change in food likes and dislikes. This can happen when relatives or friends are helping with food shopping and preparation. They continue to buy what the person has always enjoyed, but the senior no longer cares for those food items as much.

Just changing up the cuisine could help! Add some new dishes and flavorings. Have a senior help create a master list of foods they now enjoy out of each food group. They may simply like things now that they never cared for before.

There are plenty of alternatives to every food choice, and plenty of ways to pique a poor appetite before you resort to medication.

Monitor Changes in Eating Habits

While a lessened appetite isn't necessarily a reason for sudden alarm, it does need to be monitored seriously. That doesn't mean urging or nagging at an elder to eat, eat, eat. Simply watch how they eat, and make some simple changes (if they will allow it).

Note everything--what works and what doesn't. If the matter doesn't improve and you fear it will negatively impact your loved one or client, then please don't hesitate to speak to their health care team.

Healthy Eating Tips for Seniors (Guest Post)

2016-01-27T01:52:00.000-06:00

In a fitness-conscious world, it is hard to ignore the food and drink that we put into our bodies. A well-balanced diet should consist of fruits, vegetables, proteins, and whole grains. Everyone, young and old, should be consider the following healthy eating tips to enjoy a happy and healthy 2016!

Never Skip Breakfast.

You have probably heard this time and time again, but breakfast is truly the most important meal of the day. It jump-starts your metabolism and should keep you full until lunch.

If you find yourself not feeling that hungry first thing in the morning, try to eat something light like a bowl of whole grain cereal and a fruit.

Load Up On the Fruits and Veggies

Not only do they contain essential vitamins and nutrients, but fruits and veggies also fill you up and can leave you feeling full until your next meal without having to consume foods high in calories. Remember that the more colorful your plate, the more vitamins and nutrients you are ingesting.

(Caregiver Note: If a senior is having difficulties gaining or maintaining weight, speak to a doctor about adding, healthy higher calorie foods to their diet. They may recommend adding more fats and dairy products to regular meals.)

Say Yes to Whole Grains

Oatmeal, quinoa, and brown rice are just a few types of delicious fiber-rich foods. Whole grains help lower cholesterol, reduce your risk of heart-disease, and can potentially lower your risk of type 2 diabetes.

Eat Healthy Fats

Not all fats are bad! Healthy fats can be found in foods like avocados, seeds, and olive oil, and are essential for any good diet. Try to steer clear of bad fats–fats found in over-processed foods in the form of saturated and trans fats.

Consume Lean Protein

Chicken, fish, turkey, eggs and beans are lean proteins that are vital to any diet. They increase muscle-growth, provide heart benefits, and promote weight loss.

As we get older, our bodies start to lose muscle mass, which is why it is so important that seniors aide in steady muscle-growth by eating lean protein.

Don’t Forget to Drink

Water is one of the most important – if not the most important -part of your diet. Not only is water an essential component for everyday bodily functions, but it also promotes healthy kidneys, boosts metabolism, and aides your cognitive health.

Ask For Help Grocery Shopping

If you are still unsure of which foods you should be eating or avoiding, ask a friend or family member to join you on your shopping trip.

They might be able to guide you in the right direction of the foods you should and shouldn't be eating.

Healthy eating may sound like you're limiting your dietary options, but there are many ways to spice up a balanced diet. Make sure to follow these tips to ensure that you're getting the nutrition that you need.

Byline: Ruth Folger Weiss is a blogger for New Eastwood Rehab, an Easton, PA nursing home.http://neweastwoodrehab.com

*image courtesy wikimedia public domain*

Caregiver Burnout-Are You At Risk?

2016-01-21T22:35:00.002-06:00

If you provide care for an elderly loved one, then you are at risk for caregiver burnout. The act of caregiving for another person full-time can take a huge emotional, mental, and physical toll on providers, and no one is automatically immune.

If you are wondering if what you are feeling is normal stress or the beginnings of a full-blown burnout, researching the signs can help you feel more in control, and to recognize when you need to take action:

Signs of Caregiver Burnout

Feelings of helplessness

Focus on negative emotions

Anger and irritability

Apathy

Lack of focus

Poor judgement

Insomnia

Elevated blood pressure

Nervous eating or other habits

Unusual weight gain or loss

Depression

Anxiety

Caregivers that are beginning to burn out may also:

Begin tasks with enthusiasm, only to abandon them before completion

Have difficulty following a usual routine

Overreact to small problems

Avoid socialization or show poor socialization skills

Begin to obsess about their own death or health

Ignore their own health/grooming/family/etc.

Become overly impulsive (shopping, eating, etc.)

Even though caregivers are doing their absolute best to promote health and well-being in another person, they tend to ignore their own needs. Its important to know the signs, because it doesn't take long for burnout to manifest itself...

Timeline for Burnout

How soon can a caregiver expect to experience a burnout? That depends on your own personal circumstances. The amount of care you are providing plays a big role in how soon you begin to feel the stress.

On average though, caregivers can experience the beginnings of burnout in less than two years. That is a relatively short time when you consider that you may be playing this role for 5 or more years.

The impact is phenomenal. While you may be adding years to your loved one's life, the act of caregiving may actually be shortening your life by 2-8 years.

That is why it is important for caregivers to monitor themselves closely, and admit when they need to seek help.

How Caregivers Can Help Themselves

It can never be said too much:

Caregivers need to take care of themselves first.

Here are some ways that you can help avoid burnout, or lessen the effects once it has begun:

Eat correctly (even if it isn't perfectly healthy, don't skip meals. Not eating can lead to low blood sugar, which can aggravate feelings of apathy and stress.)

Get outside--Even if its for five minutes a day.

Seek help--respite care, a home aide, a friend...occasionally you need a break.

Seek support--try an online support group, or ask your doctor about local programs.

Learn to say no--to unreasonable demands from your elder and from others.

Loosen your schedule--Prioritize the tasks you do.

Find a form of relaxation--a hot bath, a cup of hot chocolate, meditation, music...anything that can calm your nerves for a few minutes a day.

Find a hobby--that is low stress. Look for something you can do easily. Portable hobbies such as crochet are excellent.

Spend time with other loved ones--Don't put your spouse, kids, siblings or friends on the back burner all the time. They are your support group.

Journal--on paper or online, a journal is a great way to vent, work through problems, and jot down memories.

You Have a Choice

As long as you know what to watch for, then you can avoid burnout. It can be hard for a caregiver to admit that they are having difficulties. Everyone wants to juggle multiple responsibilities with a smile.

That is not always possible, and pretending that things are fine when they aren't can be devastating to everyone involved. Make a choice to help yourself, your loved one, and your family.

Watch for the signs, admit when you need help, seek support, and take some time to relax and rethink things.

Denture Care, How to Clean Someone Else's Icky Teeth

2016-01-08T05:21:00.001-06:00

Do you know what they DON'T tell you before you come a care aide or a caregiver? They don't tell you that at some point, you may have to hold someone's teeth in your hands.

*This post contains affiliate links. When you make a purchase through an affiliate link, I receive a nominal commission (at no extra cost you). Please read full disclosure here. *

Its vaguely mentioned in the "personal grooming" section. It doesn't really highlight the joy you feel the first time someone plops a set of dentures in your hand right after they've eaten a bowl of chili. Or, (ick) spinach.

Luckily, I was no stranger to dentures, and really, they don't bother me. Some people really do freak out at the thought of touching them, though.

It WAS strange to have to clean them for the first time, but it is an important part of caregiving that shouldn't be overlooked, and hopefully this guide will help you feel more comfortable about taking on this task.

A Little About Denture Health

Some elders choose to wear their teeth all the time. Others may rarely insert them unless they are eating or "going out". No matter how often they are worn, dentures should fit well.

If someone does NOT like wearing their dentures, a caregiver needs to find out whether or not this is a personal choice, or if it is because they are uncomfortable.

A person's gums change over time, so dentures need to be checked often, and may even need to be replaced. Just like eyeglasses, a person may need a new set every year.

If they aren't properly cared for, or if they have been damaged, dentures may need replacing even if they fit well. (They can actually get dull, which affects a senior's ability to eat well.)

Dentures that fit poorly can cause jaw pain, gum soreness, difficulty chewing and swallowing, blisters, abrasions, and infections. It is recommended that dentures be removed for at least eight hours a day to allow the mouth rest.

This should be done at night to prevent the person from grinding their teeth and eventually wearing down the mold.

Its gross, but occasionally you will come across an elder who never takes their dentures out and never cleans them. Or they just set them on the bedside table and leave them to collect dust and germs between uses.

One lady we cared for was convinced that if she cleaned her teeth too often they would wear out faster (like clothing), and she didn't want to buy another pair.

As a caregiver, you may have a tough job educating an elder about the health risks of dirty dentures.

Sometimes a person is just not able to take care of their teeth. They may not be able to see well, or they may be afraid they will drop the dentures and break them.

Here is how you can help:

Cleaning Dentures Step-By-Step

Dentures should be cleaned at least once a day, but preferably after every meal.

Never use hot water to clean dentures. This can cause them to warp.

1. Lay a soft cloth or towel in the sink. This will protect the dentures if they slip from your hand.

2. Give them a quick rinse to dislodge the majority of food particles.

3. Use a very soft brush to gently brush (not scrub) the dentures. You can use a child's toothbrush with the softest bristles, but still remember to use a light touch.

4. If they are stained or particularly bad, you can use a mild dish soap to clean them. (Remember to rinse them very well!) You can also soak them before brushing them standard denture cleanser.

5. Store dentures in water overnight, or whenever they won't be worn for awhile. They can also warp and become brittle if they are allowed to remain dry too often. Store them in water (in a closed container) even if they have just been cleaned.

6. Always sanitize the denture cup and brush after each use. Do not store dentures in the same cup over and over again without cleaning! A regular plastic denture cup can be washed in hot, soapy water. It can be bleached if it becomes discolored. Keep a spare cup so that you can always have one clean.

7. Don't brush dentures while they are still in the mouth. You can't see what you are doing well enough, and you could damage the teeth or the gums when you move the dentures around.

Also, dentures are not like real teeth. No matter how well they fit, they will get food underneath. This can lead to bad breath and infections if not cleaned.

8. After removing dentures, the owner needs to have his or her gums and tongue brushed gently to remove food and bacteria. Another myth people believe is that once you have false teeth, you never have to put a toothbrush in your mouth. In reality, you need to brush, and rinse with a mouthwash as recommended by your dentist.

There! It wasn't so bad, was it?

If you are new to caregiving and you've never touched a set of teeth, you may be surprised to learn that they don't feel "gummy" or slimy. They are hard plastic, just like your phone or computer mouse. Nothing gross there.

If you still have reservations, ask your dentist demonstrate denture care for you. They usually have a model you can touch that has never been in someone's mouth.

Oral Care for the Elderly

As well as cleaning dentures, caregivers should routinely examine the inside of the mouth. Look for red spots, white patches, sores, bumps, abscesses and anything else unusual.

The elderly should also continue regular visits to the dentist.

Things to Watch For:

When assessing whether or not dentures may be uncomfortable (if the person can't or won't communicate the fact) or loose-fitting, watch and listen for:

Clicking or sucking sound when talking or eating
Grinding
Fiddling with dentures (with hands or tongue)
Slurred speech
Refusal to eat or difficulty eating certain foods
Increased incidents of choking while eating
Swallowing food whole rather than chewing
Excessive use of denture adhesive
Apathy
Mumbling or not joining in conversations
Refusal to wear dentures even if they are embarrassed to be seen without them

Don't Neglect Dentures

Caring for false teeth may not be your favorite task, but it is a vital part of caregiving. Dentures are also an expensive piece of equipment and need proper maintenance.

It only takes a few minutes a day, but caring for your loved one's teeth can keep them healthy and safe.

Useful Tools for Caregivers

2016-01-03T05:47:00.004-06:00

Caring for the elderly comes with its unique share of problems. Having a supply of useful tools on hand means a safer, easier experience in caregiving.

*This post may contain affiliate links. If you purchase through one of these links, I earn a nominal commission that goes to support this site. Read here for my full disclosure*

What tools do you need? Just like owning strollers and baby gates helps parents care better for young children, having a few pieces of safety gear can relieve a lot of stress and bring peace of mind to you and your elderly loved one.

Items that help the elderly maintain mobility and independence during their daily activities can improve their emotional well-being. If any task can be made easier, with a gadget or a tool, then it is almost always worth the investment. Caregiving is stressful enough without doing the everything the hard way!

Check out these basic tools that could make your caregiving tasks much easier!

Elevated Toilet Seats

These provide several inches of extra height to a regular toilet seat. Your loved one can sit and stand without having to bend their knees so far.

They can also help reduce the fear (and sensation) of "falling" that some seniors can have (people with cognitive decline or issues with vertigo, for example) when using low toilets.

If your loved one has to be physically helped up and down when toileting an elevated seat may make this a bit easier on your back as well.

Toilet Bars

There are a few different styles that fit to your toilet. They provide a good, sturdy support for both sitting and standing. Excellent choice if the toilet is located too far from a wall to make regular grab bars impractical. (Having grab bars too far away, or at odd angles can be just as bad as having none at all.)

Shower Chairs

A bath or shower chair allows seniors to sit safely in the shower without tiring. These are affordable, and easy to keep clean. They are also small enough to store out of the way when not in use.

A good shower chair can also alleviate hygiene issues. When a elder feels safe, they are more likely to cooperate with showering.

Tip: if your loved one seems anxious or worried about the sturdiness of the chair, or whether they can sit on it easily, encourage them to try it "dry"--outside the shower, in an area where they feel secure.

Back Brushes

Many people use these, but forget that they can be incredibly helpful to the elderly. A long-handled scrub brush can allow them to wash their back, feet, and legs without having to twist or bend (reducing the risk of falling.)

Any sort of "tool" like this allows an elderly loved one a sense of independence as well. The more they can do without needing hands-on help, the better they can feel about their own abilities.

Easy Grip Nail Clippers

These are designed with wider handles that don't slip as easily as standard small clippers. Not only are they easier for the elderly to use themselves, they are easier for caregivers to use too, which can make nail trimming faster and safer (a plus if it agitates your loved one).

Waterproof Mattress Bags

These are a must when dealing with incontinence. They also protect mattresses from food and drink spills if your loved one eats in bed.

Not only are you protecting the mattress, you are preventing the build-up of potential bacteria, and putting a barrier between the elderly and dust-mites.

Safety Latches and Locks

At first it seems mean to lock a grown person out of cabinets or drawers. Sometimes it is a necessity. In cases of advanced dementia for example, these items can become very dangerous:

Medications
Cleaners
Knives
Scissors
Poisons
Certain household tools
Foods that may be a choking hazard (or may not be allowed due to allergies, medications, diet plans, etc.)

In some cases, if an area wouldn't be safe for an unsupervised baby, then it may not be safe your an elder with dementia.

This includes bumpers to prevent doors from smashing fingers, and thumb latches to prevent elders who wander from leaving the home without your knowledge.

Bumper Guards

The same rubber corner guards you put on coffee tables when babies are learning to crawl can be a huge blessing to the elderly. Many older people receive nasty bruises to their hips or ribs from bumping into furniture with sharp corners.

Video Monitors

If you have a large or multi-level house, a video monitor in your loved one's room can comfort you both. You can check in on them from time to time, and they don't have to worry that you won't hear them should they fall or need help.

Alarms

Bed and chair alarms are helpful when you have an elder who doesn't need to stand unassisted, but may try just the same. These are non-restrictive, but give caregivers a heads-up so they can prevent an injury.

Gentle-Reminder Chair Restraint

These may be necessary for an elder who is at serious risk for injuring themselves if they stand without help, and yet who aggressively attempts to stand without help.

These are not a full restraint. Often, it is something as simple as a soft lap belt, or a strap that clips to the back of their clothing. It probably won't prevent some from leaving their chairs, but it buys a caregiver more time to arrive at their side.

For others, having that small bit of resistance when they try to stand reminds them that they are supposed to ask for help first.

Utensils, Tools, Grabbers

There is a huge selection of items designed to help the elderly with tasks such as opening jars and reaching items that have fallen to the floor.

Specially designed plates, cups and large eating utensils can provide a more stress-free meal time.

There Is an Answer For Every Problem

No matter the issue, there is probably a great solution already available. From wheelchair trays with edges to prevent spills to devices to help seniors put on their own socks.

Every job needs the right tools, and finding the right ones for you can make caregiving pleasant and safe for both you and your loved one.

3 Caregiver Goals for the Year (That Anyone Can Do!)

2015-12-31T16:01:00.000-06:00

Don't make resolutions, make micro-goals instead!

Instead of resolutions, which were meant to be broken, why not set yourself a few goals for the coming year? If you are a caregiver, then you probably don't have time for extreme resolutions-but goals can come in all sizes, and they aren't as restrictive.

What goals will benefit you the most over the next 12 months? Most likely, the ones that can be done at your own pace and will be meaningful far into the future. Lets take a look at what caregivers can plan for themselves:

1. Create More Free Time

Impossible! Yes?

Actually, no. It isn't impossible to create more free time. Its how you define "free time" that makes or breaks this goal. Are you shooting for time that you absolutely aren't doing anything at all? Or just some time that is not related to caregiving and general household tasks? The latter is highly possible.

In order to create more hours in your day, you have to pull a few minutes here and there from other areas. You might not be able to kick off work a few hours early, but you can spend less time on certain tasks, (such as cleaning, or bill paying.)

Utilize technology, delegate tasks to other family members, and cut out some necessary steps in your everyday tasks, and soon you will be able to create a block of free time to use for fun or relaxation. It is easy to do after you get used to saying no to tasks and people that hold you back.

Caregiver stress and burnout can be avoided if you work proactively to give yourself some breathing room.

2. Make More Memories

This one is easy! You don't have to create a Pinterest-worthy party or book a pricy vacation.

Take more photos with your loved ones.

Create more family videos.

Create projects together that can be cherished.

Also, do things together. Take your elderly loved one with you places. Whether you are pushing their wheelchair through the park or holding their hand through a local theater performance, its good for you to get out together and do something besides medical appointments and shopping.

Even if they won't remember, you will. And sometimes the simple, low-stress activities will be the ones that create the most pleasant memories.

3. Take Care of YOUR Future

You are busy caring for a person who needs you almost constantly. You have other family that needs you to do things for them. You have a home, a car, a pet, a job, a social group...all things that require you to focus on what you need to be doing now.

But are you ready to be elderly?

It is never too early or too late to start asking yourself what happens when it is YOU who needs care. Will it be a spouse, a child, or another relative? Will you want to stay at home or move to a facility?

Make it your goal this year to re-evaluate your long-term plans for yourself. Go over all the paperwork, organize your documents, tidy up your finances. Keep things updated.

It may sound grim, but many caregivers have been shocked when something happened to them while they were busy caring for others. So make sure you have a provision in place in case you suddenly can't be there to care for your elderly loved one too. (who cares for them if you had an unexpected illness or injury?)

Only Three Goals?

Who needs more? If you think you do, set some micro-goals. Make yourself some Post-It notes and stick them on a wall or poster board.

Most importantly, cut yourself some slack. Slough off stress and activities that aren't crucial, spend more time focusing on yourself and your loved ones, take lots of photographs, and at least once a day...

Take a moment to breathe!

Elder Care Issues

February Holidays to Celebrate with Senior Citizens

February and Quality Time With the Elderly

Celebrate New Year's With the Elderly

Tips for a Good Holiday with Your Elderly Loved One

Reducing Fall Risks For the Elderly

Environmental Hazards

Illness, Surgery, Pain

Medications

Stubbornness and Falls

Memory Loss

Not Wanting to be a Bother

Consequences of Falls In the Elderly

Preventing Falls

In Case of a Fall

7 Spring Wall Art Ideas for Nursing Home Rooms

Last Minute Gift Ideas for the Elderly--Themed Gift Baskets

20 Great Gift Ideas for Senior Citizens

17 Cool and Trendy Gift Ideas for Senior Citizens

More Gift Idea Posts

Gifts You Should Absolutely Take to the Nursing Home Gift Ideas for Elderly Caregivers Senior Citizen Gift Guide Unique Gift Idea for the Elderly--Organizing Their Home Stocking Stuffer Ideas for the Elderly 20 Gifts for Senior Citizens--2019 Picks!

Unique Gift Idea for the Elderly: Organizing a Senior's Home for Efficiency and Independence

How to Start Organizing an Elder's Home?

Storage and Organization Ideas for the Elderly

Kitchen Storage Ideas for the Elderly

Skillet Racks

Bathroom Organization Ideas for Seniors

Living Area, Bedrooms, Etc.

A Final Word About Organizing Your Elderly Loved One's Living Space

Houseplants for the Elderly--Practical Gift Ideas for Seniors

6 Houseplants for the Elderly

Before You Choose a Houseplant for a Senior

1. Aloe Vera

2. Peperomia

3. Mother-in-laws Tongue

4. Cast Iron Plant

5. Pothos Ivy

6. Spider Plant

One Last Word About Houseplants as Gifts

How to Win An Elderly Person's Trust--Tips from and Elder Companion (Guest Post)

What Caregivers Should Know About UTI's In the Elderly

What is a UTI and What Causes It?

Signs and Symptoms of Urinary Tract Infection in The Elderly

UTI's and Dementia

Dangers of Untreated Urinary Tract Infections in the Elderly

Preventing and Treating UTI's in The Elderly

Caregiver Respite for Peace of Mind (Guest Post)

Caregiver Respite is Not Selfish

Its Okay to Take a Break

Elderly Caregiving--Who Are The Medical Professionals?

You, The Caregiver

Doctors

Caseworkers

Nurses

Physical Therapists

Aides and Assistants

Optometrists and Ophthalmologists

Podiatrist

Dentist

Pharmacists and Technicians

Many More Professionals

Why A Health Care Team is Important

Newbie Caregiver Guide to Different Types of Elder Care Facilities and Services

Respite Care or Skilled Nursing Care--What is the Difference?

Elder Care Services:

Family Caregiver

Home Companion

Respite Care

Home Health Care

Adult Day Care

Hospice

Elder Care Facilities:

Independent Living

CCRC

Assisted Living

Skilled Nursing

Memory Care or Dementia Care

Convalescent Care

Board and Care Homes

Other Terms You May Hear

Gifts You Should Absolutely Take to the Nursing Home

Gift Ideas for Elderly Caregivers

Senior Citizen Gift Guide

Unique Gift Idea for the Elderly--Organizing Their Home

Stocking Stuffer Ideas for the Elderly

20 Gifts for Senior Citizens--2019 Picks!