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Where to get Mein persönlicher Mutterpass

Elmlid — Wed, 28 Mar 2018 07:18:18 +0000

As you might know from The Bread Exchange book, I like book stores. I like to loose myself alone in them, I like to go there with my son and find treasures together with him. I also like to look at the design, the choice of paper, the colors, the bindings, and all the other thoughts and efforts that the designer has put into making something special out of the book. I simply love that there is so much more to books than the text that is in it. All that I like experiencing in the book store.

So, if you plan to buy my new book, lets support the local book stores! They can usually order the book within a day.

My personal favorite book stores in Berlin – Uslar & Rai - will be selling it. You will also find it at Dussmann in Friedrichstrasse. Or The Store Torstrasse. Where else? Other Cities? Please let me know and I will add them on my list!

And if you like to help me out a little bit – please ask for Mein Persönlicher Mutterpass in your local book store! Or leave a rating on Amazon and co!

Here a list of web shops stocking the book:

It takes a village. How to get on after #metoo

Elmlid — Fri, 20 Oct 2017 20:27:34 +0000

And what should we do now with the awareness that our friends being sexually harassed?

—-> Lets get down to basics.

A very easy start for all of us – men as well as women – is to simply oppose when we hear or see inappropriate stuff around us. This goes for EVERY SITUATION (big or small) when someone is not showing respect in daily life. It can be a racist comment (like from your uncle at the christmas dinner) or, like we discuss now, a sexist one (no need to specify anymore, thank god). It can be lack of respect at a playground even (hugging someone who does not want to is not giving anyone a good feeling really).

Because these respectless behaviours does not arrive out of nowhere. There have been tons of previous situations of approval – or lack of disapproval – in the past of these guys life that make them dare to go further. And this is where we can all make an impact.

So when you hear those shitty comments, show your disagreement. Not only to make the acting idiot feel like he is one, but also to show that he is alone in it. It will give strength to women/men around. It will give strength to others to do the same. It takes a village so lets start acting like one.

And if the situation gets physical, stand up and offer someone to stand with them – thats what two men in the Berlin Subway did for me once.

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Wie sollen und können wir jetzt mit diesem Bewusstsein umgehen, dass so viele unserer Freundinnen schon – oft auch mehrmals – sexuell belästigt wurden? Wie wäre es, ganz einfach zu beginnen.

Ein einfacher erster Schritt für uns alle – Männer wie Frauen – ist, sich zu widersetzen, wenn man Zeuge einer der vielen beschriebenen Situationen wird, in denen jemand unangebracht behandelt wird. Und das gilt wirklich für JEDE SITUATION – scheinbar unbedeutend oder offensichtlich bedrohlich. Wenn jemandem in Deinem Umfeld kein Respekt gezeigt wird, gilt es Zivilcourage zu zeigen. Es kann ein rassistischer Kommentar sein (vielleicht von einem Onkel beim Weihnachtsessen) oder, was im Moment öffentlich diskutiert wird, ein sexistischer (gottseidank wissen wir jetzt alle, was das heisst müssen hier nicht mehr spezifisch werden). Es kann schon am Spielplatz anfangen (hier geht es um Respekt – und Selbstrespekt zu lernen – Umarmungen gegen jemandes Willen erzeugen kein gutes Gefühl).

Diese respektlosen Handlungen kommen ja nicht aus dem Nichts. Ihnen gehen viele Situationen voran, in denen genau dieses Verhalten erlaubt wurde – wo es
niemanden gab, der sich widersetzte oder einschritt – und weshalb sich diese Männer bewilligt gefühlt haben, weiter zu machen und auch jedes Mal einen
Schritt weiter zu gehen. Und das ist genau der Punkt, wo wir eingreifen und etwas ändern können. Jeder von uns.

Wenn Du also einen ungerechten Kommentar hörst, zeig, dass Du damit nicht einverstanden bist. Nicht nur, um denjenigen, der den Kommentar von sich gegeben hat, als den Idioten zu entlarven, der er ist, sondern auch um zu zeigen, dass er alleine ist mit dieser Meinung. Das wird diejenigen stärken, die durch den Kommentar angegriffen werden. Und es wird auch andere ermutigen aufzustehen und sich gegen Diskriminierung zu widersetzen. Es braucht das ganze Dorf. Also lasst uns anfangen, als solches gemeinsam zu handeln.

Und in Situationen, in denen es wirklich zudringlich und körperlich gefährlich wird, steh auf und biete dem bedrohten Menschen Deine Hilfe an – das haben zwei Männer einmal für mich in einer U-Bahn in Berlin gemacht.

Getting back to writing

Elmlid — Thu, 24 Nov 2016 08:36:21 +0000

To get back to writing after giving birth has been a huge challenge. It’s been harder than i thought. To be able to work in short time slots. I work best when I am glued to the desk and work non stop for 4 days. I am used being able to go somewhere and write non-stop in a new environment. I am used to being able to write at times that it suits ME. My bread exchange book was written pretty much on the road. Often early in the morning. This is not really possible these days. And I miss it.

I think it is not so much about having a child, for me it is more about being a family. I can bring Lode everywhere. But we are three and I can not – and I don’t want to- have Lode away from his Dad too long.

How do you all do it? Please give me your tips!

Luckily I am slowly getting back on track. This My writing desk in Helsinki. Can you tell I put effort into tricking myself into the mood? Stimmung.

Stil Voll

Elmlid — Sat, 24 Sep 2016 07:58:52 +0000

Last year, when I was pregnant, my friend Marlene was writing a book about Style. She asked me if I wanted to be interviewed for the pregnancy chapter. Sure, I said, I do have tips! I gave her the interview but I postponed the photography session again and again. I simply seldom felt comfortable being pregnant and when you don’t feel comfortable you definitely do not want to stand in front of the camera for a style book.

Then the day for my delivery came closer and it became the day before Lodes birth. I felt great. I felt so great that I was wishing for another week of pregnancy. So I called Marlene and said: “Ok, I’ll do it! Today or never.” So this is what I looked like 15 hours before I gave birth to Lode.

Today the book arrived in the mailbox and it is Beautiful! It is full of good tips and – as always – Marlene has a great and witty writing style that makes me smile. You can get the book at your local book store or here online. If you dont know Marlene yet, have a look at her blog Spruced!

To the Dads

Elmlid — Wed, 08 Jun 2016 08:38:25 +0000

I can still not get over that disgusting story about the Stanford rape.

I could not fall asleep last night thinking about this. Thinking about how to bring up boys in a way that these things don’t happen.

When I just became a mother I read about a rape case in Sweden. I remember thinking “Regardless how much I love my son, I really do not think I could have forgiven him for doing such a thing.”

Mothers are important teaching their children values but when it comes to respect for women, I believe that fathers play an even larger role. There are so many grey zones before to look out for. I say like my friend Mary:

It’s so much more logical to teach boys not to rape, instead of girls how to avoid being raped.

So dads, please read this text. It sums it up pretty well.

https://medium.com/@kim.saumell/i-was-never-raped-but-when-i-was-11-the-son-of-a-family-friend-copped-a-feel-whenever-we-were-b2c95ea1fdeb#.ik8qjhkj9

and, if you missed the Stanford case, Please take a few minutes and read the Stanford Victim’s letter. http://www.theguardian.com/…/stanford-sexual-assault-case-v…

One Year Ago

Elmlid — Wed, 18 May 2016 08:32:53 +0000

One year ago today I had my last day without a baby.

I was due end of May but had, due to a risk pregnancy, been given an earlier date for a cesarian (kaiserschnitt). I was not very happy about this as I felt it was too early. I was fighting it still the end. After convincing the doctors I was given one more week (c-section in week 38 instead of week 37). I dont think my body was ready. When Lode arrived the 18th of may I knew my body was right. The doctors told me that it was good that he had an extra week to grow in my belly. He was small but had been growing strong that extra week.

Still, the day before giving birth, I was not ready to be mother yet. I was way too fit. Still doing normal yoga. Still biking and jumping down the street. Not that there will ever have been such a thing as “ready to become mother” for me. Thank God :) Because thats is what makes me “ready”. Everything was just right. But still, I really wanted a couple of extra week for myself. And for me and Alex. We had taken time off. No more work. We went for dinners and walks. Slept in. Had breakfast out. All the things people say you wont do for a while after becoming parents.

I can’t believe a year have went already. So much have happened. Still, I feel pretty much the same as before. I have not lost my pregnancy kilos and that is fine too. We have continued to fill our life with things we enjoy. We still go to restaurants. I take more walks than ever. We still do breakfast out. We travel on our own. We travel together. The only thing we do not do anymore is sleeping in.

And here, Alex last sleep in:

My German Hide Away

Elmlid — Fri, 04 Mar 2016 21:45:44 +0000

In end February 2013 we set the table for the coziest brunch I’ve ever made. We were in the south east corner of Bavaria, close to the Austrian border, at one of the most down to earth place I know: Fischbachau, a village climbing up the mountain. We were at Rösler Haus, a place which has a more relaxing impact on me than both yoga sessions and red wine. Doll’s Butchery, from Baden, hade send a care package of sausage. Amely had prepared the house specials. And Sasha Gora, Nicky Stich and I had prepared our favourit brunch dishes to share with you in my book.

5 wintery recipes were shared with me in the Bavarian Chapter. Apart from the ones below there are 2 great spread: Blood Orange Curd with Rosemary and Pear Ginger Jam!

That day the snow was quickly melting in the February sun. Weather was perfect and we ended up taking a walk in the snow. Yorick, a photographer who also share my love for bread, captured the day and it ended up being a chapter of my book. Just like all my chapters this one has a theme; Traditions and Quality. Because this is exactly what has kept this region so lovable.

Now, 3 years after we photographed a perfect Brunch stilleben my book is being released in the German Language. We decided to celebrate in Münich, only 40 min away where we celebrated 3 years ago.

Breaking Bread in München

Elmlid — Fri, 04 Mar 2016 10:23:45 +0000

The Bread Exchange Book is FINALLY out in German!

Last week we met up at the Goldene Bar in Munich to talk Bread, fermentation processes, and why sourdough bread does not have to be glutenfree to be good for you. We talked about travels, how I selected the different places for my book, that I find the story about the recipe makers with whom I traded the recipies with more interesting than the recipes. We talked about pantone colors and why I have an 8 pages long thank you chapter.

And we talked about how to smuggle a sourdough overseas and how a sourdough is sometimes more demanding than my own baby.

The Goldene Bar is without doubt the most beautiful Bar I ever visited. Build in the 30′s, the walls are all covered in golden maps of the worlds wine regions with the idea that the customers would point to the regions from which the wanted to try the wine. The Bar luckily survived the heavy bombings in the 2nd world war and today it is run by Leonie and Klaus Rainer.

I ended up there one night in the summer of 2010. I was invited to champagne by the Klaus and in exchange I gave him -guess what- a loaf of my Bread. I could not imagine a better place to release my book at than The Goldene Bar.

Thank Everyone for coming to taste, discuss and meet!

You can buy The Bread Exchange book at your local book/lifestyle store (SUPPORT THEM!!!) or online.

More info on the book by my publisher PRESTEL Here.

A great Thank You to Susanne Schramke (image 1-4) and Susanne Groeger (image 5-11) for capturing this morning!

Here some images a blog post around the release:

Me for Anthropologie

Elmlid — Mon, 08 Feb 2016 16:39:08 +0000

The US brand Anthropologie contacted me in the beginning of the summer asking me if I wanted to be one of the faces for their Fall campaign.

Uff, I thought. I would just be a bit over a month after giving birth. Fresh out of the mom bubble so to say. I was definitely not going be back into my pre-pregnancy size. And most of all – I had not become friends with my post-pregnancy body yet.

What was they expecting? Did they really know what shooting a mam 6 weeks after giving birth was going to be like?

I gave it a day to think. I have friends that went straight into Personal Trainer sessions and diets after giving birth. But that is not me. I wanted to enjoy this time. I did not want to risk the breast feeding (loosing weight too fast after birth also puts the milk production in danger). And I had far more important things to take care of than the extra kilos I was carrying.

At the same time I really like that they asked me this question. I liked that they did not hesitate when I said that I will probably be 2 sizies bigger than the Malin they’d seen on pictures. No flat belly. Because that is what most women do look like after giving birth – and for quite some time after delivery.

But I did like that they still asked me this question. Because this is how I like to see women in fashion today.

So I said yes.

Here is a little film from the shoot at my place in Berlin in July last year. It is weird but it feels super personal as it was shotso short after Lode was born. And here is the interview with me.

Women of Character: Malin Elmlid from Anthropologie on Vimeo.

THE GERMAN BOOK

Elmlid — Sun, 07 Feb 2016 20:18:28 +0000

Finally Finally Finally!

On February 22nd The Bread Exchange book will be released in the German language.

I am super excited that the publishing house Prestel will be bringing out the book.

Can’t wait to get the book in my hands!

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Of course I am a fan of buying books at my local book store. If your local dealer is not having the book you can pre-order The Bread Exchange book here on Amazon.