I resonated so much with this video that I immediately transcribed the highlights and recorded my own video on my take on “The Power of Vulnerability”.  I trust that this will provide you with sustained INSPIRATION.



“THE POWER OF VULNERABILITY”

COURAGE – from the Latin word “coeur” meaning heart.
Courage’s original definition is “to tell the story of
who you are with your whole HEART… Have the courage to be IMPERFECT…

COMPASSION to be kind to yourselves first then to others…
CONNECTION is a result of AUTHENTICITY…

Be willing to let go of who you think you SHOULD BE
in order to be who you ARE…

Embrace VULNERABILITY because it’s what has made you vulnerable
that makes you BEAUTIFUL…

Have the willingness to say “I love you first… ”

The Willingness to do something with NO GUARANTEES…

Invest in a RELATIONSHIP that may or may not work out.
We cannot NUMB vulnerability… When we numb vulnerability
and other negative emotions, we NUMB everything else -
JOY, LOVE, COMPASSION.

We are wired for struggle but WORTHY of LOVE and BELONGING…
To feel vulnerable means you are ALIVE and that YOU ARE ENOUGH….

- Brene Brown

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You Are Worthy of Belonging… is a post from: Emma Tiebens | The Relational Marketer

At around 7:00 pm, I stopped by the Post Office on Warner and Goldenwest in Huntington Beach to drop off some mail. The Post Office was already closed but the Drop Box area was still open.

As I walked close to the double glass doors, I noticed from the corner of my eye, that there seems to be a man, crouched behind a big empty terra cotta pot in the corner near the door. I wasn’t quite sure whether it was a pot for plants or if it has become a makeshift trash receptacle as it was rather dark. I immediately felt uneasy but what the heck, there were other people there so I was okay.

On my way out, I passed by that corner and once again, I chose to not look at him and pretend to not see him. I found that very interesting because I ALWAYS make it a point to help every time I see someone in need on the street. I always tell our son to never pass up an opportunity to make a difference in someone’s life, especially in those who are in need.

As I walked towards my car, it’s as if auto-pilot kicked in and I found myself opening the rear door and started rummaging through my grocery bags to see what I can give this man. I emptied one of the bags and made him a bag of water, food and yes, even a box of cereal and one of the Pringles! Funny… at that point, it made sense why I bought so many of them!

With a grocery bag and a $20 bill, I walked back towards where the man was sitting and it was only then that I noticed he had a cardboard sign and that yes, he was hungry… As I approached him, his head was down and when I said “Excuse Me…” He slowly lifted his head and I saw that he was a very young man… probably in his early 20s.

I gave him the grocery bag and the $20 and I will never forget that look on his face! There was that look of awe and gratitude, that someone actually cared…

I started talking to him and asked him questions.  I introduced myself and asked for his name.

His name is Bradley… he’s 23 years old…

The first question that came out of my mouth was… “Do you have a place to stay tonight?” He said: “I have a sleeping bag set up near a ditch and it’s pretty safe…” I felt that ache in my heart that even as I type this right now, I still wonder how can we live in this country of opportunities yet have someone like Bradley and millions of other homeless Americans sleeping on the streets, in park benches, behind buildings. The problem seems to be insurmountable and the interaction is not always this civilized and pleasant.

I then remembered I met a lady, who helps run a homeless shelter for men. I met her in front of Von’s supermarket as we’ve always supported her donation”bucket”. I even wrote a blog post about her 2 years ago. I got a piece of paper, wrote her phone number for him to call her, handed him the paper and the pen so he has something to write things with.

Bradley told me that he doesn’t want to go home because he’s a recovering alcoholic and his parents are both alcoholic and they force him to drink. I asked him if he has other relatives and he said “Yes, my Grandparents live close by and they would love to have me… I am just so embarrassed how my life turned out that I can’t face them… They would die if they know I am in this situation…”

I told him: “GUILT and SHAME are very bad cousins of PRIDE. They are a trap… There must be something that you really want to make out of your life – you are made for a purpose and as long as you believe that and pursue that, you will find it! I suggest you go live with your Grandparents temporarily to regroup and pursue that purpose….”

We talked for a few more minutes as people walked in and out of the Post Office door. Most of them had a perplexed look on their faces on why I was having this conversation with this young homeless man.

I said good-bye to Bradley and reminded him to go where there is love and find strength in that, though temporarily. Realizing that it’s just a stepping stone in the pursuit of his dreams. I suggested for him to get up and find a way to go to his Grandparents.

As I was backing my car out from my parking spot, I saw from my rear view mirror a most beautiful image. Bradley got up, got out of that corner, carrying the grocery bag I gave him. He turned the corner, wave to me and had this huge smile on his face. It was a smile of HOPE.

I just knew that instant that he made a decision. A decision to do something. While I may never know what that decision was. It’s enough for me to know that our short interaction could have potentially made a difference in his life.

If the purpose of my presence in his life, in that brief moment – was to get him out of despair and hopelessness and share a glimmer of hope to him, then I know God’s gift of encouragement has served a purpose.

Bradley inspired me just as much as I have inspired him. We receive what we give.
If you want more clients, you must be willing to invest in other people’s services as well. If you want to be trusted, you must learn to trust…

One of my favorite songs growing up was “Prayer of St. Francis – Make Me A Channel of Your Peace”.

Make me a channel of your peace.
Where there is hatred let me bring your
love.
Where there is injury, your pardon, Lord
And where there’s doubt, true faith in
you.

Oh, Master grant that I may never seek
So much to be consoled as to console
To be understood as to understand
To be loved as to love with all my soul.

Make me a channel of your peace
Where there’s despair in life, let me bring
hope
Where there is darkness, only light
And where there’s sadness, ever joy.

Make me a channel of your peace
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned
In giving to all men that we receive
And in dying that we’re born to eternal
life.

On this beautiful Easter weekend, I urge you to find time for Reflection, Renewal, and Re-Birth!

You are a Channel of Peace… My question to you is “How Are You Making A Difference? Who Do You Choose to Leave Better Than You Found Them?”

Cheering You On To Your Success!

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Inspiration From A Homeless Man is a post from: Emma Tiebens | The Relational Marketer

March 19, 2012… I spent all day in bed… mourning the passing of my beloved father, Amado Yambao, Jr.  I debated whether to fly to Manila, Philippines or stay here and spend time to honor a man who has helped shape who I am today.  I chose the latter.

Yesterday, came home from a very successful and relaxing business/pleasure weekend in San Diego, CA with my family.  Before we drove home, we spent the entire Sunday morning in Historic Old Town San Diego.

There was this one store that we love… El Centro Artesano, a store that has thousands of wind chimes, terracotta pottery and knick-knacks.  It was so serene, so heavenly… I wanted to stay there all day and listen to each wind chime!

For some strange reason, Gary and I were drawn to this large Picotte Windchime – Tenor in B Flat.

The melodious sound it produced was so comforting that even at $140.00 for the chime, we just have to have it! We’ve been together for 19 years, have been around wind chimes but this is the first time we bought one, and on impulse to boot!

Around 11:00am, my Mom and I  decided to check  out the other stores as Garrett and Gary stayed at the wind chime place.  As we walked in between stores, I noticed a couple of ladies taking a photo underneath a huge pink bougainvillea tree.  For some strange reason, I felt a sense of spirituality and serenity in that area…  I asked my Mom to stand under it as I took a picture of her.

When we got back to the car, I was previewing the photos I took that morning from my camera and noticed this huge orb on my Mom’s left shoulder.  I immediately showed it to her and even said “Wow, Mom!  I wonder who wanted to be with you in that photo…  Could it be your sister who just passed away?” In the past, I never really paid attention to orbs or what they meant in photos… I just remember that I was attending a live spiritual event 2 years ago and I had a huge orb on my right shoulder in one of the photos and my good friend LaNelle Scwab told me that it was the presence of kind spirit which was captured by the camera.

We got home around 5:00pm… as I was unpacking, we received messages from my siblings, Ellen, Jojo and Elsa that our “Tatay” (Tagalog for Dad) just passed away…  I was in utter shock… I felt my body go numb.  I didn’t know how to feel.  My Mom started crying… I started weeping… Gary immediately came to comfort us.  For the rest of the evening, I anxiously waited for more updates and to hear form my sisters Ellen and Elsa on what’s going on and how they will implement my Dad’s last wishes for a simple, intimate and quiet wake and funeral.

For the past few years, I really didn’t talk much about my Dad.  My parents have respectfully separated when I was in high school… that’s over 30 years ago! There was that “hopeful romantic” part of me that wanted both of them to get back together but the pragmatic and realist part of me that said they’re better off separate to they can live the remaining years of their lives in peace rather than pain and disappointment.

My Dad had moved on to start another family while my Mom chose to stay here with me.  While I have never met his new family, I have a sense of deep gratitude to them, for taking great care of him in the last few years of his life especially after he had the first of his three strokes in 2001.

My Dad managed to come to the visit me here in the US quite a few times in the late 1990′s and I was so blessed that he was here to walk me down the aisle on my wedding to Gary on April 1998.  He looked so handsome in his tuxedo!  Wearing a tuxedo was a big deal to him as he normally wears the traditional Filipino formal wear “Barong Tagalog”.  He was quite the social butterfly!  I remember at the rehearsal dinner, he was so funny!  He doesn’t normally drink alcoholic drinks so when he sampled a glass of margarita, he started singing “Let Me Love You Margarita” acting like a playful young man singing and dancing and just having an absolute blast!

On my wedding day, he was so nervous  as he prepared to walk me down the aisle but I was nervous too…  But when he told me how beautiful I looked and he assured me it’s going to be a great evening all my fears melted away.

My Dad Amado F. Yambao, Jr. and I

As soon as the door opened and he saw over 125 of our guests waiting in their seats and all eyes on us, he got so nervous that when we reached the altar, he almost sat down without giving me a kiss and handing me over to Gary!  I had to remind him to give me a kiss… He was such a great sport!

The best and one of the most vivid memories I have of him was how he thoughtfully held the tips of my veil during the entire wedding ceremony as the wind was blowing it out of control.  What touches me about that is that to me that loving gesture symbolized his unconditional love and how he did what any Dad would have felt instinctively right at the moment without having to be told what to do.  He simply was a doting father, keeping a loving eye on me… I am so glad our photographer Gary Fong captured this timeless memory…

I AM MY FATHER’S DAUGHTER… I may not have spent as much time with him as most daughters should have but I have chosen to forgive, love and support him through the remainder of his life.  I have chosen to acknowledge the values and lessons he has instilled in me as a young girl, instead of feeling the disappointment of not having him in my life.  He taught me these invaluable lessons:

1) Appreciate the beauty in the simplest of things.
2) Be passionate and live fully.
3) Build strong powerful relationships.
4) Have a heart for those in need.
5) Love and respect animals.
6) Allow music to speak into your soul.
7) Learn to fix things around the house so you won’t have to wait for a man to do it.
8 When you cook, imagine the joy of those who will be so blessed to enjoy your labor of love.
9) Respect yourself and command that respect from others.
10)Knowledge is power, gain more and use it wisely and responsibly.
11)If you don’t know a skill, learn it and implement it.
12) Persistence pays… when life hands you lemons, you make lemonade.

Life hasn’t been all rosy for my Dad…  As the oldest son, he sacrificed not going to school so he could go to work early and support his younger siblings so they could go to school.  While he loved my Grandpa, he used to tell me stories of resentment on how he couldn’t comprehend my Grandpa’s anger and harsh discipline when he would fail on some tasks.  He absolutely loved his Mom and he truly cherished her.

Was he the perfect Dad and husband? Far from it.  Did he give the best he could offer? Absolutely!  At least I’d like to think so anyway.  Being expressive – touchy, feel-y, hugg-y, is not a typical Filipino trait – maybe for a select few, but definitely not one he was brought up with.  So he wasn’t able to raise us in an expressive home.  Despite the lack of expression, we knew we were loved, safe and protected.  When I came to the US, I noticed how expressive people here were and I felt so free.  I think that’s why I have an appreciation and desire to really love on others and give everyone hugs, even “virtual” big hugs online!

Growing up, my Dad was more of a “renegade” – a non-conformist.  He stayed home to take care of us 4 children while my Mom worked and I remember him doing a great job keeping the home in order and making sure we had 3 square home cooked meals each day.  I also remember that he was our official “barber”.  He would line all of us and gave us haircuts!  He was also the one who would announce when the rain started pouring and all of us would go out the door, get soaked and play in the rain! He truly was a great, caring and thoughtful father.  Thank goodness, I have told him what a great father he was, many times when he was still alive.

He disliked having a j-o-b.  He was more of an entrepreneur, a craftsman. He did beautiful work with his hands.  He perfectly created air rifles by hand, from hand carving the wood buttstock to assembling the barrels, triggers, scopes and the actual foot pump.  His air rifles was a highly coveted brand among hunters then.  Owning an “Amado Air Rifle” showed that your gun is of great taste and quality.

Aside from crafting air rifles, my Dad was an amaaaazing cook!  He has a signature dish called “Caldereta” and his famous dish is made of goat meat.  He would often be invited by his friends to cook for them and he did EVERYTHING – from finding a live goat, preparing it, getting the ingredients, setting up a huge makeshift stove and actually cooking a meal to feed an entire village and he did that as a favor.  He never asked to be paid.  To him, cooking was an expression.  A way for him to endear people to him… a way to serve…

My Dad had a passion for animals – I remember when I was in 6th Grade, he came home with a horse! We lived in the city and there was no way for a horse to live in tight quarters but he said he wanted to save her from being slaughtered.  He named the horse “Hit or Miss” and it didn’t take long for him to find a good home for it.  My Dad also loved dogs! Gosh, at one point, I think we had 10 dogs total in our household!

What I remember most about my Dad was his passion for these 4 things: Bicycling, Boxing, Singing and Beautiful Women!

When I was in grade school, he would get up early in the morning to ride his racing bicycle to ride up to the mountains of Cogeo, Tanay and Antipolo.  He was very meticulous about his bicycle and his gear… from his drinking bottle to his riding shoes.  He took great pride with his love for cycling and experiencing the beauty of nature when he did.  One of his dreams then was to compete in the “Tour of Luzon” the mini version of the “Tour de France”.  My Dad never got to live that dream because one day he came home with 2 missing front teeth and 2 broken ribs.  He fell off from his bike at top speed while riding down from the mountain.  I don’t remember him getting on his bicycle again since then.

As to boxing, the most unforgettable boxing match I remember watching him was “Thrilla In Manila” with Joe Frazier and “The Greatest” Muhammad Ali! I sat in front of the TV watching many boxing fights with him.  I am sure that our very own Manny Pacquiao had been one of his boxing heroes.

My Dad loved music and singing.  I remember how he would play the piano by ear and how he really wanted us to learn how to play the guitar.  He hired a private guitar teacher for my older sister Ellen and I and I remember my music teacher, Mr. Nick teaching me classical pieces like “Malaguena” and “Forbidden Romance”.  My Dad always asked me to play those pieces for him and would even invite friends to see me play.  I still  know how to play “Forbidden Romance” but “Malaguena” is a blur.  Dad loved “Ole Blue Eyes” Frank Sinatra and all of his songs, but most especially “My Way”.  He told me at one point, that song is his  life story.  I’ve uploaded this song on my iPhone and will play it over and over when I want to spend time with him.

“My Way” by Frank Sinatra

And now, the end is near;
And so I face the final curtain.
My friend, I’ll say it clear,
I’ll state my case, of which I’m certain.

I’ve lived a life that’s full.
I’ve traveled each and every highway;
But more, much more than this,
I did it my way.

Regrets, I’ve had a few;
But then again, too few to mention.
I did what I had to do
And saw it through without exemption.

I planned each charted course;
Each careful step along the byway,
But more, much more than this,
I did it my way.

Yes, there were times, I’m sure you knew
When I bit off more than I could chew.
But through it all, when there was doubt,
I ate it up and spit it out.
I faced it all and I stood tall;
And did it my way.

I’ve loved, I’ve laughed and cried.
I’ve had my fill; my share of losing.
And now, as tears subside,
I find it all so amusing.

To think I did all that;
And may I say – not in a shy way,
“No, oh no not me,
I did it my way”.

For what is a man, what has he got?
If not himself, then he has naught.
To say the things he truly feels;
And not the words of one who kneels.
The record shows I took the blows -
And did it my way!

As a “lover of Beautiful Women”, what I meant was that he simply had the appreciation for how a woman should carry herself, to remain elegant, to walk tall, head high, chin up one foot in front of the other gracefully.  When I was in 4th Grade, I remember being out running errands with him, he met up with a group of friends who were saying how tall I was getting and I remember him saying “You watch, this daughter of mine will grow up to compete in Ms. Philippines.”  To a young girl, that meant so much to me.  I really felt that if my father thought I was beautiful, then that’s all that mattered!  We would watch all the Bb. Pilipinas, Miss Universe, Miss International, Miss USA and Miss World pageants on TV and it was interesting because he would always pick out the Top 10, then the Top 5 and ultimately the winner.  He would tell me which contestant would win and why she would win.  He knew exactly what the judges were looking for.  He had such an uncanny way of knowing, it was remarkable!  I would make a bet with him, we would both pick out our favorites and he always won! Miss Universe Pageant 1974 was memorable for us because it was held in the Philippines, we watched that together and yes, he loved Miss Universe 1974, Amparo Munoz and  he and I agreed that she was going to win!

If there was any skill he was lacking, my Dad would learn it and implement it immediately.  As a child, people would come to our house and look for my Dad… they called him “Amado, The Gun Maker” or “Amado, the Cook” or “Amado the Vet” or “Amado the Realtor” or  “Amado, the Jack of All Trade”.  He was a very popular man!  He was like a diplomat.  He didn’t have a lot of money but he sure had one thing not many people had:  Relationships and Influence.  Gosh, as I write this, I realize that I truly am my father’s daughter.  I guess that’s why I have become a learner, an implementor, an influencer and a relational marketer.  My life is a living extension to of my  Dad’s influence in my life!

My Dad was a brilliant man!  I know that he lives so much in me.  I know I have his “Lion Heart”… I have his strong will for survival that no matter what life throws at him, he knows how to think and act his way around it.  I have his charm – his influential nature that wherever he goes, people want to be around him because he truly loves being around people! His smile lights up a room! He was quite the entertainer!  He was also a risk taker – a gambler in his youth – but a risk taker nevertheless.  He taught me to not be satisfied with conformity and be okay to explore and experiment with new concepts and ideas.

When I was making a decision to come to the US in 1989, he was the one who confidently told me that I will be okay.  He was a bit uncomfortable with my decision but instead of stopping me, he assured me that I have what it takes to survive and create a good life for me and my future family.  I remember him saying:  “I will be there soon enough… you’ll be okay in the meantime.”

Despite half of his body being paralyzed, I was so blessed to have been given the chance to see him and spend time with him in 2007.  Garrett was able to spend time with him too.  My Dad cried a lot during our last time together.  I was told that hypersensitivity was common for people who have experienced strokes.  Every time he looked at Garrett, he would cry, feeling regret that he couldn’t be the Grandpa who could play with him.  He felt sorry he couldn’t make Garrett his own personalized air rifle.  I remembered the last time I was with him, we listened to Frank Sinatra’s “My Way”.  During that  time, he could only make gestures as he couldn’t really speak much.  He asked me to get something from his bedside table… it was the small photo album I gifted him with with photos from my wedding.  It was as if he was telling me that my wedding was the most memorable moment of his life and that he really enjoyed every minute he spent with being with my Mom.

His last few years weren’t the most comfortable.  He had a most difficult time living day to day because of his stroke, but he had high hopes that one day, he’ll come back to the US and make things right.  He wanted to get stronger but I believe that it was time for his meaningful earthly life to end so he can start over in heaven.  I know that his passing enables us to be connected spirit to spirit, so much more than we were able to do while he was alive.  He will continue to be my guiding light and I will find inspiration in the beautiful memories I have of him.  I will continue to live his legacy through the strong values he has instilled deep within my core.

The day we heard the sad news, Gary lit some candles and hung our newly bought wind chime near the door.  It was a very windy day and the slight breeze through the door created the most magnificent music – almost like church bells from a distance.  We immediately knew we bought that wind chime for a reason.  The glorious sound it produced plus the flicker of the candles brought me a sense of peace for the moment in honor of my Dad.  Our makeshift memorial corner with the wind chime and candles will continue to bring me comfort.  Now when I hear the wind chimes it represents the beautiful life my Dad lived and how those melodious tones will always remind me that he is always near and is always a part of me…

Oh and by the way… remember that photo of my Mom with the orb?  After talking to my sister Ellen, we determined that the time of my Dad’s passing was appx. 2:00am Monday, March 19, 2012 Philippine time, which was 11:00am, Sunday, March 18, 2012 California time.  It was around the same time that I took the photo of my Mom with the orb in it.  Now we want to believe that it was my Dad who wanted to say hello to us on that photo…

To my Mom Ely, sisters Ellen and Elsa and to my brother Jojo, your families, Tatay’s siblings, extended families and friends, I am here for you and will see the pain through together.  I know that Tatay has left a huge void in our hearts that can only be replaced by re-living happy memories of time spent with him. To those of you who who took precious time to read this post, I THANK YOU all for giving us strength in this time of grief…

Goodbye for now my dearest Dad… I know you can see my personal message… from my soul to yours…

“Tatay… I know you’re in heaven now and are in a place of utter peace.  Your life here on earth may not have been easy but I know that in your own way, you have positively impacted many people’s lives by your mere presence in theirs. I will continue to find courage and comfort in your unconditional love… You were bold, yet remained humble.  You were confused and perhaps didn’t make the perfect choices but then again, who’s among us is perfect?  I remain to be your number one fan!  Please rest in God’s peace knowing that we are here honoring you with the love and respect you absolutely deserve…

I am glad that I was able to tell you how much you mean to me through my letters and when we were together.  Otherwise, I would probably live a life filled with remorse and guilt.  Instead I can honestly say I rejoice with the Angels that you’ve now gone back home to our Father in Heaven… Gary and Garrett miss you too and they send you their love.  Mom does the same…
On behalf of Nanay Ely, Gary, Garrett, my sisters Ellen, Elsa my brother Jojo, their families, your siblings, your family, your friends and our collective family friends, we will make sure that your legacy lives on… We will honor your wishes to be buried in your beloved hometown Jaen, Nueva Ecija, perhaps near your favorite Nueva Ecija/Pampanga River:

Tatay, I know that you’re there in heaven, riding your prized race bike on the zigzag roads paved with gold and are singing with the angels, playing with your pure bred dogs and appreciating more beauty.  The air is fresh, crisp and clean and you are in your best tip-top shape ever!  You flash your effervescent and infectious smile on everyone you meet and you are free of worries and concerns.  You are reunited with your beloved Mom, Grandma “Lola” Rita and your Dad, Grandpa “Lolo” Amading and all there is are love and forgiveness.  Perhaps there are no boxing matches in heaven nor the need for air rifles but there are plenty of new, more profound and pure knowledge to acquire and share!  Most importantly, I know you are up there receiving the best hugs of all… hugs from our Heavenly Father and from the saints and angels who welcome you with so much love…

I urge you to now rest in God’s peace my dearest Tatay… Someday soon, we will see each other again and I know our reunion will be filled with peace, joy and love.  I love you so, so, so much.  I hurts to know you’re no longer here physically but it’s reassuring to know that you’re love remains to cheer me on and inspire me and our family.  I will ALWAYS love you and you will always remain to be my absolute HERO…  I have always been proud to call you Dad… I remain in utmost gratitude for all that you are in my life…”

With Utmost Love and Respect…

Your Proud Daughter,

Emma

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I Am My Father’s Daughter… My Loving Tribute is a post from: Emma Tiebens | The Relational Marketer

I have many dreams and I’ll let you in on a secret – before I go to bed, I live one of my dreams in the form of a vivid imagination as if I was already living that desire and yes, sometimes, after I say my bedtime prayer, I do talk to my spirit and I say, “Okay, I am going to bed now. I know you never go to bed so I’m going to ask you to get us closer to the attainment of our dream…”

I know it might seem overly simple to you but this secret strategy that I have learned and continue to implement, from the book “Grow Rich While You Sleep” by Ben Sweetland has enabled me to take massive leaps in my business in the past 6 months!

Okay, are you ready for a super exciting news??

I am soooo excited to share with you as this one is a REAL BIG DEAL. One of the biggest dreams I’ve had for the past 2 years now, was to be one of the new “Heroes” of Traffic Geyser. That DREAM CAME TRUE a few weeks ago!!!

On Friday, March 16, 2012, I am driving to San Diego, CA for LIVE interview at the Digital Cafe Studios to be interviewed at a live global ” Proofcast” by Traffic Geyser Founder himself, Mike Koenigs and powerhouse, Paul Colligan! This has been a dream for me for the past 2 years now because I know that my story will empower and equip thousands of entrepreneurs worldwide. (Google Traffic Geyser and the names I mentioned here and you’ll see how HUGE this is!

Mike Koenigs and Emma Tiebens

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Come join us at this LIVE Proofcast/Webcast entitled “You. Everywhere. Now” with Mike Koenigs, Paul Colligan and International Speaker, Best Selling Author, Grant Cardone and the other featured “Heroes” and learn how to leverage technology, video marketing, high conversion sales strategies and so much more! Tickets are normally $200 but right now it’s $19.

I would LOVE to “see” you all there… please say hello on the Chat Box as I will either see your name live or when I get a recording of the webcast.

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Dreams Come True… When You Have One! is a post from: Emma Tiebens | The Relational Marketer

I just got back from Passion2Profit – a 2-day live event my by beloved mentor, Joel Bauer.  As always, the quality of people in attendance was very impressive.  The “Who’s Who” of major industries were represented there and I had the pleasure to meet most of them!

I also had the opportunity to speak with a lot of new and transitioning entrepreneurs.  Their main concern?  How to

TURN THEIR PASSION INTO PROFIT.

After speaking to about 60 people this weekend, it was so interesting that about 40% of them had one common challenges:

1) They have too many passions and talents.
2) They are not quite sure which of their passion to monetize.

3) Those who are able to identify one passion are doubtful on how they can monetize it.
4) They are doing something right now that’s not necessarily what they want to do but they are monetizing and therefore challenged to step out and do something in alignment with their passion.

It was quite obvious that one or a combination of these  challenges were blocking people from moving forward.  The good news is that Joel gave attendees the tools to go home and work on the exercises and find tune their choices even more.

The sad thing is that I know from experience, that unless they make a DECISION that they’re going to be able to identify and clarify their passion, it will take them months if not years to be able to do something with it.  They will continue to live a life of compromise and will remain distracted and unproductive.  A year later, they’ll be on the same boat, confused and wondered what could have happened.

I realized that there are 2 major kinds of CLARITY that a lot of entrepreneurs need right now.

1) Clarity of Passion
2) Clarity of Message

It’s interesting to note that many of them are already jumping into marketing – learning social media, video, email marketing BEFORE they truly identify their core message.

The core message is tied to your passion.  There is a reason you do what you do.  There is a driving force for why you do things and while money is a major motivator, there is something else inside of you that prompts you to dig for a deeper meaning and reason for what you do.

Once you identify that, the possibilities are endless.  It’s like discovering a compass… a new direction… a new meaning for your life.

I am excited for those who are going through the motions of getting clearer about their passion and their message because if they choose to stay on that path, I KNOW they will find it!

Agree…. Disagree?

Click here, for my Free Video E-Course if you need help with how to gain more clarity and start your  path with truly understanding how you can get more clarity and connect with your target audience in a deeper and meaningful level.

Cheering You On To Your Success!

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Clarity Begins With Your Core Message is a post from: Emma Tiebens | The Relational Marketer

Today, I came home from my son’s 10th birthday lunch, I was pleasantly surprised with an email from a community I am so proud of, Traffic Geyser (affiliate link).

The email was a Newsletter from Traffic Geyser and guess what?

They featured me as one of their Member Success Stories! The title?

“Member Success Stories: Emma Tiebens: From No Experience to Total Expert”

Traffic Geyser, (affiliate link)  Founded by Mike Koenigs, Rocket Helstrom and Frank Sousa is one of my “best kept secrets” on how I went from a NEWBIE marketer to now Expert Relational Marketer, Speaker, Author and Brand Marketing Strategist.

Here’s what Traffic Geyser wrote about me on their newsletter that went out to over 100,000 of their subscribers as well as on their blog, today. Click on the link or read entire story below:

When Emma Tiebens first attended a Traffic Geyser live event two and a half years ago, she was “totally clueless” about video marketing, in fact, she says, she was terrified of video!

Just a year after that, she had become an author, speaker, marketing and branding consultant, blogger, pitch builder, trainer and video marketing strategist. She is even reached a level where she charges some clients $15,000 for setting them up with a “Done For You” program.*

Emma enables authors, speakers, coaches and entrepreneurs and service Professionals to leverage technology while advocating that “the heart of marketing is marketing from the heart”.
Her proven Relational Marketing Strategies and Systems generate real results for highly successful clients by enabling them to create a V.I.P. brand that is VISIBLE, INFLUENTIAL and PROFITABLE! Her guaranteed blueprint helps you go from “INVISIBLE Best Kept Secret to To highly VISIBLE Trusted Authority” in 90 days or less!

In Emma’s own words:

“Right after your event, I braved my first video. It’s still out there on YouTube and it was horrible! Now I have over 220 videos on YouTube!  I have become a “Trusted Advisor” and now I teach people how to overcome their fear of video to be seen, be heard and be found online!

Armed with Traffic Geyser, and the new passion I discovered, I started to become unstoppable! I applied my new knowledge of technology, social media, video and email marketing to create deep and meaningful relationships with new clients as well as industry leaders I wouldn’t have been able to reach before!

Using video Traffic Geyser, I have managed to effectively brand myself where industry leaders started taking notice of who I am and what I can offer.  In 2010, my mentor, Joel Bauer, allowed me to be one of the very few people he trusts with a campaign for his events.

That year, I also co-authored a book with the “Pied Piper of Social Media” herself, Mari Smith, entitled “The Relationship Age” which became an Amazon Bestselling book in three categories within the hour of its release.

That venture has enabled me to instantly and officially become a “Bestselling Author” too!

My own book, “The Relational Marketer” will be released next year and I am planning on getting that book and the concept of Relational/Relationship Marketing on TV and Radio.

Traffic Geyser has changed my life and that is why as long as Mike and Traffic Geyser are around, I will remain to be one of your loudest and most loyal advocates.  What they offer simply transforms lives and it continues to pay forward.

Here’s a quick glimpse of how a newbie marketer, who only two years ago attended a Traffic Geyser event ,now successfully equips other entrepreneurs and businesses to thrive in this economy:

Traffic Geyser enables me to generate thousands of dollars, but what’s really important is now I have:

1) A sustainable business,
2) A trusted brand
3) Success and results-driven client offerings
4) A REAL business.
5) Passion and tools to equip many more businesses!
6) Gained self-worth
7) Gained respect of family and friends.
A Purpose-filled life.
9) A way to be blessed and become a blessing.
10) HOPE for my family and other families

Wow! Reading this post gave me more hope that those 2-3 years were invested for a purpose and now I am able to ENCOURAGE, EMPOWER AND EQUIP more entrepreneurs.

THANK YOU to my Traffic Geyser Family… Mike Koenigs, Laurie Hull, Gaby Vangstad as well as (Rocket, Frank and Carter), Traffic Geyser Team and “Heroes”  for inspiring me and enabling me to share my story and it is my fervent hope that my story will inspire Traffic Geyser users old and new to never give up and use the resources you so meticulously provide us because THEY ABSOLUTELY WORK!!!

Expect Miracles,

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How I Went From Newbie To Expert is a post from: Emma Tiebens | The Relational Marketer

This weekend, it was so nice to catch up with friends either bumping into them while shopping at the mall or at holiday parties and neighborhood mixers.  Of course with the usual, “What are you up to these days?” sort of question, I couldn’t help but notice that there are still a lot of business owners out there who are still resistant to online marketing.  Interestingly enough, some of them still don’t know what a blog is and for the few who do, it’s there is still a resistance in their mind about blogging, social media, video and email marketing.

See?  And most of us in our online circles think everyone knows what we know and that we don’t know enough to make a difference in other entrepreneurs, right?  Well, if you’re beginning to feel that way, it might be time to seek out other ponds to fish out from.  I guess that topic is for another day… Let’s stick with “Why Do You Blog?”

I am not new to blogging… I have been blogging for the past 2 years and what’s interesting is that it I still get asked by a lot of entrepreneurs on why they need to blog.  I find it really odd that most of them are still highly resistant to blogging.

What’s interesting is I totally understand their hesitation.  It took me an entire year before I felt comfortable launching my blog.  From entertaining the idea of having a blog, to thinking of what to write on my blog, to getting over the vulnerability of sharing who I was and what I am about was a HUGE deal!

How did I overcome blogging?  I realized that I have life’s lessons that entrepreneurs can learn from.  I also have specialized branding, marketing and relationship skills that I can share which will enable entrepreneurs and those who are transitioning from the workplace into becoming business owners.

I also believed then that like the “Good Steward”, every good and perfect gift that has been given to me, will be taken away – or will become useless and of no value – if I don’t use it.

I have always kept a journal… I had “diaries” from when I was in grade school… trust me, that’s a loooong time ago and yes, I still have them all with me.

So, I made a decision to blog and at that point, it didn’t matter to me whether my blog would be read by one person or one million people.  My goals were simple – to ENCOURAGE, ENLIGHTEN and EMPOWER Entrepreneurs!

ENCOURAGE with inspiration from personal life’s experiences

ENLIGHTEN – with Mindset and Spirit Driven Personal Development Principles

EMPOWER – with specialized branding and marketing skills, resources and relationships I have invested thousands of dollars and hours on, through the years.

I know there is always room for improvement.  I know I could use more efficient plug-ins, I could drive more traffic and optimize my blog site.  That’s precisely what I am in the process of doing.

The lesson I want to share is that I didn’t wait until I fully understood what blogging was, or what it will do for my business.  I didn’t wait until things were perfect and everything was in place for me to get started with blogging.  I just went ahead and did it…

Now 2 years later, I was able to connect with many prospects and clients, right at the heart, with my blog posts and I have built a site that has a decent ranking on Alexa, that now positions me as someone who can help others incorporate blogging as one of the key strategies to position them and their business for Visibility, Influence and Profits.

My blog is also a place where I showcase my videos and this is truly an extension of who I am and what I offer.  This is where people find the real me where they can get a feel for who I am and what I have to offer. This is where my prospects get a small sample of me before they choose to work with me.

My blog is my “home” online while Facebook and Twitter are the “parties” where I pre-qualify those I want to invite to my “home”.  In my home, I pre-qualify my guests further – those who are just invited to my backyard and those who will be allowed to have access to the “inner sanctum” of my home.

I believe that choosing not to blog is a huge mistake!  Savvy consumers now demand freshness, relevance and currency of content.  Your prospects would like to know how consistent and committed and congruent you are with your message.

After all, I know that even children are blogging these days!  I figured, if a child can blog, then what’s my excuse?  Even our 9-year old son Garret has his own blog!  In fact he has 2 blogs now…  GemstoneKid.com and TheMartialArtsKid.com.

While his passion has changed and is no longer updating GemstoneKid.com, it was a wonderful experience for him.

Now, almost 3 years and hundreds of blog posts later, my blog has evolved and continues to evolve… My specialized skills have honed into being a Branding and Marketing Strategist and now more than ever, I am an advocate of helping entrepreneurs create an online brand that will take them from invisible best kept secrets to highly visible Trusted Advisors online!

Shortly, you will see the next evolution of The Relational Marketer and it will be quite remarkable and distinctive! Stay tuned… to be notified of our upcoming updates and receive my 10 Free Videos on How To Use Relational Marketing To Grow Your Business, please go to:
www.RelationalMarketingSecrets.com

So, why do you blog?  Or, why don’t you blog?  My curious mind wants to know…

Please leave me your comments, click on the Share and Like buttons above and join us to our exclusive “The Relational Marketers Facebook Group”…

Cheering You On to Your Success!

Emma

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Why Do You – Or Don’t You – Blog? is a post from: Emma Tiebens | The Relational Marketer

My Mom lives with me and thank goodness for her iPod touch, she’s able to connect with our super extended family in Marikina City, Philippines – my beloved hometown.  That’s when she gets real time updates on the progress of Aunt Emilia – special mention and thanks to Ellen Muriel – De Guzman and Emma de Guzman for  keeping my Mom posted on her progress.

It was so sad to see my Mom cry thinking of her sister everyday and how she may never see her again.  I then thought about Skype video chat!  We immediately set up our computers and connected on Skype! Looking back, why didn’t we think about it early on?

This was a photo taken 3 weeks ago when my Aunt Emilia’s images first appeared on screen… before she even saw my Mom’s image on her monitor.

When my Mom saw her, she cried even louder – she couldn’t believe how tiny she has become. Garrett immediately jumped into the camera and was in awe of seeing my Aunt who shares so much resemblance to my Mom… Garrett kept on telling her “You are so beautiful, Auntie… I love you!”

What was truly touching was when I saw both sisters, reaching out to each other on the screen and started touching the screen to “hold each other’s hands”.

That  loving gesture brought a smile on my Aunt’s face!  Just look at the difference from the initial photo to the the photo with her aura completely changed and you can see JOY in her eyes!  Oh that smile!

Seeing my Aunt Emilia and her relationship with my Mom, reminded me of the deep bond they have for each other and rightfully so.

My Mom is the youngest of 8 children and Aunt Emilia was 11 years older than her.  During the World War II when my Mom was 12 years old, the Americans who were fighting against the Japanese Army, accidentally bombed Marikina City and their parents – my grandparents – died in that bombing.  I never got to meet them though my Mom always told me that I looked like my Grandma Braulia.

From that point forward, it was my Aunt Emilia who took care of my Mom and stepped up as her Mom and Dad rolled into one person!  I can only imagine how a 22 year old can take over as the matriarch for a brood of 8 siblings!

Right there speaks of what courage and faith my Aunt Emilia had.  I remember as a young child how generous and open-hearted she was.  She would come to our house from time to time to check on my Mom and her kids.  Yes, she was very strict and firm yet beloved by many because she has such a great sense of humor.  She’s a teacher by heart and worked as a teacher while having to rear 6 children of her own.

What I really remember so vividly from my Aunt Emilia was her love for education and books.  I remember when I was in 4th grade, she came to our house with a big brown box full of books from America!  Really old and used hardbound books with  short stories for children.  They were surplus books from their school and she wanted us to have them so we’ll start reading…

That was the beginning of my love affair with books and cultivating a thirst for knowledge.  When everyone else played outside,  I would stay in my room surrounded by books for hours and feeling the gratitude to her for giving us those books!

I remember when my Uncle Ponce – her husband – passed away probably almost 30 years ago – she would go visit his grave at the cemetery EVERY SINGLE DAY!  She did that consistently and without fail for 30 years.  I have never seen such dedication, commitment and love… EVER!

Through her inspiration, my life was never the same.  It was her who inspired me to gain the love for reading and to this day I kept that love and passion for books.  It was through her actions that I learned the love and commitment for family and to my husband.  Her life story taught me to be courageous and have faith, against the odds.  She truly is one of my most favorite aunts and to this day, she continues to inspire me!

Two weeks ago, her family asked my Mom to fly back to the Philippines and frantically, we booked her on the next flight out.  My Mom spent 2 weeks with her and although my Aunt Emilia’s strength started dwindling and she was getting weaker and weaker by the day, it was so wonderful to know that she was surrounded by the love of her grateful family, yes including my Mom.

My Aunt Emilia passed away yesterday and my heart grieves…

I am grieving from sadness yet with joy, knowing that she’s in a much better place… A place that’s free from pain and struggle.  It’s so reassuring to know that she is now with her beloved husband my Uncle Ponce and are bound to spend eternity together, hand in hand, living in pure love…

My Aunt Emilia’s life’s purpose has been absolutely served.  She lived an absolute full life and has planted so many seeds of greatness among many.  I am just one of the many people she has inspired just by living a life of faith, hope and love!

We could only hope that we too are able to find and serve our life’s purpose doing what we love with those whom we love.  Through my Aunt Emilia’s inspiration, I found mine and it is my fervent prayer that you too will do whatever it takes to find yours and use that purpose to serve others.

To my Aunt’s Emilia’s family, I love you all and I am right there with you, grieving yet celebrating her life with utmost GRATITUDE.

With Love…

Emma

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My Aunt Emilia… My Heroine is a post from: Emma Tiebens | The Relational Marketer

The table is set, turkey is in the oven,  Emma’s “World Famous” stuffing ingredients are chopped up, Cranberry Orange Relish is simmering, and everything is a go with my Baked Yam, Green Bean Casserole, Creamed Corn and bottles of wine and champagne is chilling nicely.

It’s my 22nd Thanksgiving in the US… Funny, there were times when people greeted me with:
“Happy Thanksgiving to your family in the Philippines!”  I remember being a smarty pants, responding to them, “Thanks… but the Pilgrims didn’t really make it to the Philippines!”

As clever as that may seem, we don’t really need to have a pilgrim experience to be grateful.  I believe that while Thanksgiving Day is truly special and means so much to so many, I also believe:

GRATITUDE should be part of our daily life – we don’t need to wait for a special occasion to be grateful…

It’s truly sad when I hear some people who are bitter and just have the hardest time finding something to be grateful for.   Yes, just like a New Year’s resolution,  gratitude somehow finds a way during some of the main seasons in their lives – their birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, Thanksgiving, New Year, etc.

Gratitude is not as easy as it seems.  In my experience, I had to train myself to be grateful.  I had to make a constant decision to look at a situation and find something to be grateful for in that very moment.

Gratitude is not simple.  It’s much easier to find the bad, to complain and invite people to our pity parties.  The truth is, no matter how we think our friends will come to our pity parties, they really don’t care and don’t want to hear it.  Most of them are just being polite as they too might decide to have a pity party one day and would want to invite you too!

Today, I am thankful for GRATITUDE.  I am grateful for gratitude.  For the ability to really find the good in a seemingly bad situation and be able to “pivot” or train my mind and heart to find some sense in what’s going on around me, good or bad, and for the most part really digging for the good… digging for the golden lesson.

Without the ability to be grateful or to even be aware that gratitude exists is equivalent to having no faith and purpose.

Gratitude opens up doors that no one can shut…

Gratitude is your invitation to the banquet table of abundance…

Gratitude enables you to receive so much more of what it is that you’re grateful for…

Gratitude elevates you to a position in your life you never thought possible.

So, on this Thanksgiving Day, I just want to say I am grateful for you my dearest friends, readers and subscribers and I am grateful for the opportunity to serve, inspire and equip you with my life’s experiences that is predominantly borne out of gratitude.

So as you enjoy your festivities and precious time with friends, remember to be GRATEFUL FOR GRATITUDE itself because to have that grateful heart, 24 in 7, 7 days a week is really a gift we must train ourselves to receive and put into use.

What will you commit to doing from now on to be sure that you remain in the state of gratitude?

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Cheering You On To Your Success!

Emma

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Grateful for Gratitude is a post from: Emma Tiebens | The Relational Marketer