Answer: It can be super frustrating to desire to connect with a specific deceased relative and they never seem to show up to the party.

I recall reading for a gal and her dad was coming through really strongly. He told me his name, gave her some validation, and we were off and running. My client said, “Yeah, that’s my dad. He comes to every reading. He’s around all the time.” Meanwhile, she was frustrated because she also wanted to hear from her mother who never seemed to come through.

Why do some spirits always show up and others never come? There could be several reasons.

First, the deceased person may not want to come through. For whatever reason, they may simply not desire to communicate. That doesn’t mean they hate you. That doesn’t mean they can’t come through. That doesn’t mean they aren’t watching over you. Perhaps they don’t want to interfere in the course of your life. Perhaps they trust that you can get along without their guidance or interruption.

Second, the deceased person may not be able to come through. Deceased people don’t get to the other side suddenly able to speak energetically to a living person. It takes energy and finesse to communicate with the living. Your deceased loved one may not have figured it out yet. Give them time.

Third, the deceased may have disconnected. Some people cross over and are fully engaged with their new existence in the ether. They disconnect their energy from their old life and are simply done. They turn their attention in an entirely new direction. Don’t be insulted. You’ll understand when you reach the ether yourself that sometimes you stay emotionally connected with the living and sometimes you don’t.

Fourth, the deceased may be there but no one is hearing them. Sometimes the dead are jumping up and down around us, trying to get our attention, but we don’t detect them. It’s not easy. If it was easy, everyone would be doing it. Sometimes the medium is unable to get the right frequency. Sometimes the dead person is not transmitting in a way that the medium can pick up. If the medium is very clairsentient but the dead person is transmitting in a clairvoyant way, then the medium may be unable to detect the presence of the dead person. Keep trying with different mediums, or keep trying on your own.

I know it can feel very sad if you’re trying to get closure or reconnect with a loved one and they don’t seem to be there, but you don’t want to expend so much energy trying to communicate with a deceased loved one that you stop living your own life. This is why it’s vitally important to tell your loved ones how much you love them while they are still here.

In the meantime, send love to your dearly departed. They will receive it. Take comfort in knowing they are alright and that you’ll see them again when you reach the other side.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Here are the job details:

On the business side, duties include:
Managing emails and correspondence
Booking appointments
Client correspondence
Working with affiliates and partners
Interfacing with my web developer
Light administrative work
Research
Workshop assistance and event planning
Order fulfillment
Customer Service

On the personal side, duties include:
Running errands (bank, post office, office supplies, etc.)
Grocery shopping
Car maintenance

You must live in Las Vegas and have reliable transportation.

You will mainly work from your home but occasionally you’ll work with me in the office.

You must be energetic, reliable, friendly, punctual, highly organized, intelligent, enthusiastic, and flexible.

Hours per week will vary but figure 10-20 hours per week. Salary is hourly and based on experience. You’ll be an independent contractor.

To apply for this position, simply send me the following information:

Your name, phone number, email address
Why you want the job
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© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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What if what we think are major setbacks in our lives are actually blessings in disguise? What if these personal disasters are not disasters at all? What if a setback is the only way to untangle a knot and move you forward on your path? What if problems, personal disasters, and setbacks are mechanisms used to get you off of one path and onto another?

Years ago my boyfriend broke his leg. I took him to the hospital where they x-rayed his leg and found he’d broken his ankle. Big bummer right? For a very healthy and active person, this may have appeared to be a setback. But in the x-ray, the doctors discovered a strange growth on his shin bone. It was a tumor. They removed it and told him that breaking his ankle probably saved his entire leg. Was breaking his ankle a setback or a blessing?

When I first separated from my husband in 2009 I saw it as a huge setback. I was worried about how I was going to stabilize my income, take care of two children largely on my own, and cope with the loss of what I thought was going to be my companion for life. However, it didn’t take long for me to realize what a blessing our separation was. The sense of independence, freedom, and joy I have is monumental. I ramped up my business in ways I probably never would have thought of while in the confines of my marriage. And I found myself again, and grew into the person I am today, whom I love dearly. It was a difficult process, but definitely a blessing.

But what is orchestrating these setbacks? Is it just random luck? Or is it orchestrated?

I personally believe our spirit guides and higher selves have a lot to do with it. Your higher self set an intention for you before you incarnated. Knowing you’d forget this intention, your higher self assigned you some spirit guides to help nudge you along and keep you on track. When your guides see you’re going down a road that is not aligned with your intentions, they begin looking for ways to adjust your course, to nudge you off one path and onto another. These spiritual detours sometimes appear devastating because you’re not expecting them and often they are severely uncomfortable, but sometimes they are the only way to get you on another path.

I have learned over the years to trust my guides. I may not enjoy the setbacks while they’re happening, but I trust that when something major happens to me that it is serving a purpose and that it’s in my highest good.

The way to turn a setback into a blessing is to have a paradigm shift when something “bad” happens. Instead of seeing it as devastating, begin to look at where it’s going to lead you.

Did you get fired? Maybe it’s time to start that business you’ve been thinking about for years.

Did you get into a horrible car accident and have to spend a month in the hospital? Maybe that’s where you’re going to meet your future spouse.

Did you have a miscarriage? Maybe the time and conditions are not quite right for that baby to arrive, but with some adjustments, the timing will be much better.

Is there any way to know where the guides are trying to get you to go so you don’t have to have a setback to get on track? Yes! Being in touch with your intuition and your guides can keep you on your path so you don’t have to get slammed in the face by disaster. Meditate to tune in to your guides, and determine your dominant intuitive modality so you can strengthen it. If necessary, you can get a reading with me and I’ll tell you what path your guides are trying to move you towards and how to get there without a huge setback.

When a setback happens to you, instead of getting upset and banging your head against the wall, ask yourself, “What’s good about this? What is the universe trying to get me to see? Why is the road I’ve been on now blocked by rubble, and which way am I being drawn to go next?”

When I was 10 years old, during a period of heavy rains, the hill behind our house came down in a huge mudslide. It was frightening watching tons of mud encroaching on our house, threatening its foundation. I remember my mom screaming for us to get out of the house before it collapsed onto us or buried us. After everything stopped moving, only our garage was filled with mud, but the house was intact. I remember my mom looking around the backyard at the damage and musing to herself, “You know… I always wanted a mound in the backyard. Now I don’t have to pay a landscaper to build one. It’s even in the right spot. How lucky is that?” Luck indeed.

Setbacks are opportunities to head off in a new direction that will likely make you happier. Instead of standing agape at the disaster, start to pick through the rubble and see where you might uncover a blessing. Trust me, it’s there. You may not see it right away. In fact it may take years and a lot of hindsight. But it’s there.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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I’ll tell you. Meet the Ego Imp. He sits on your shoulder and whispers disempowering things in your ear. And you know what? You don’t have to listen to him. That’s right, you are under no contract, legal or otherwise, to sit there and listen to him ramble on incessantly about how horrible you are and how you’re just going to keep failing. You can shut him down.

“But, Erin, my Ego Imp has a megaphone. For a little guy he sure packs quite a wallop! How am I supposed to shut the little guy up?” Fear not! There are two steps to putting a muzzle on the Ego Imp.

First, you must become aware of when he’s talking to you. Should be obvious right? But it isn’t. The Ego Imp attacks you when your vibration is low, when you feel disconnected from love, when you’ve suffered a setback or emotional blow. And he’s insidious. He sounds like your own mind. He sounds like he’s making perfect sense. He appears to mirror exactly what you think your own self would say.

This is why it’s vital that you become aware of when the Ego Imp is whispering sweet nothings in your ear. You’ll recognize the thoughts because they are always disempowering, and they are not based in fact. The thoughts are based on conjecture alone. Are you REALLY never going to find love? Are you REALLY never going to make it in your chosen profession? No! That’s just speculation. These thoughts are just a conclusion drawn in a disempowering way designed to make you give up, feel bad, and take your ball and go home.

So the first step to stifling that Ego Imp is to become aware of when he’s talking to you. When you realize you’re having the disempowering thoughts, say, “Oh, I see you there, you little bugger. I know you’re whispering at me.” Seriously, that’s half the battle. The Ego Imp thrives on you not noticing when he’s talking to you. So shine a light on his impy ways and let him know that you know he’s there.

Now you’re ready to take him down. Get into position, bend your knees, find your center of gravity, and get ready to rumble! You’re about to do battle with your Ego Imp.

When he says, “You’re never going to find love,” you fire back with a more empowering thought; one that is just as accurate, if not more so. For example, “Oh yeah? I’m willing to wait for the right person and I’m not going to settle.” Score one for you.

Then the Ego Imp might say, “You’re nobody special.” So you counter with, “I’m unique, there’s no one else in the world like me. That right there means I’m special.” Burn! You: 2 Ego Imp: 0

Ego Imp is getting nervous, so he fires with, “You’re worthless. You can’t do anything right. You’re never going to succeed!” He’s sly, but you respond with, “I can think of at least 10 things that I CAN do right, and I will figure out how to put something together that is of value to others and run with it. I can’t be stopped unless I stop myself.”

Ego Imp is sweating now. His bullets are hitting Kevlar. He takes one final stab, “You’re not worthy of love!” Oh, ouch! Right below the belt. Ego Imp has hit a nerve, but you’re still standing and reply triumphantly with, “I was BORN worthy of love and that will never change no matter what happens!”

Game, set and match. Ego Imp slumps to the floor in defeat, waving his white flag in surrender. You’ve just shut down the Ego Imp. He’s completely depleted. He knows that no matter what he says to you, you can ALWAYS find a more empowering thought.

If you want, you can flick Ego Imp off your shoulder. Heck, stomp on him a couple of times if you’re in the mood. Then delete him and go on about your day.

The fact of the matter is that no one, not even yourself, can make you feel bad without your permission. You’re the one that lets the Ego Imp in, and you can escort him out just as easily. Once you do, you make way for more resourceful thoughts. You allow your mind to open to new possibilities. You can make new plans. It’s a good time to listen to your higher self, the one that knows your greatness already, the one that knows what you planned for yourself in this life, and wants to help you get it.

So there you have it… how to shut down the Ego Imp. Next time he clears his throat and gets ready to barrage you with disempowering thoughts you’re going to say, “Pfft, off with you, you little monster. You are not welcome on THIS shoulder!”

Winner and still champion: YOU!

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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The Readings
Last year I tried a new way of doing readings. I put all my readings into one week so I could have 3 weeks of each month to work on other projects. This worked really well for the first half of the year. Then in August I added the 15-minute reading option, which really took off, and suddenly the demand for readings tripled. I thought the 15-minute option would cannibalize my 30-minute reading option, but it didn’t. I was getting the same number of 30-mins and twice that in 15-mins. By the end of the year I was back to doing readings every week to keep up with the demand.

This is a pace I can’t afford to continue. It leaves me no time to work on products, trainings, workshops, teleseminars, and books, which are things that benefit more than just one person at a time. So this year I’m going back to being stalwart in setting aside time for non-reading projects. I’d rather not increase the prices on readings, so the wait times are likely to be a little longer. If you’ve been thinking about getting a reading, book sooner rather than later because if the demand is the same as it’s been, there’s a price increase in our future.

Blogging
Last year I tried a new way of blogging. I spent one day a month writing four articles. That was awesome! I had articles queued up for a month and it only took me a day to do it. By the end of the year, I had lost that rhythm and started to get behind.

I prefer to blog when inspiration strikes me, but I like to have one or two articles posted each week. I’m going to try doing them in advance again and see if I can maintain that pace.

Ask Erin
In the beginning of the year I started creating a YouTube series of Ask Erin questions which was fun for me to do. People really enjoyed being able to see me instead of just read me, and it generated a lot of new traffic. But the videos were a little more work than I thought they’d be, and my camera died midway through the year. I went back to writing my Q&As and have yet to replace my camera.

At the end of 2011 I started an Ask Erin series of questions where I posted a short Q&A article every Monday through Friday. That was fun! But I couldn’t sustain that either. I’m still collecting questions, and I’ll turn some of those into articles and some into Q&A.

Professional Intuitive Trainings
Last year I had a blast training students to become professional intuitives. One request I’ve been getting all year has been to find a way to train people remotely so they don’t have to fly into Vegas to do the 4-day training.

It took me a bit of thinking, but I believe I’ve come up with a way to do the trainings remotely. This will save everyone a lot of time and money, and I can still do it in a way that feels ethical and robust to me. The part of the program that is the most important is being able to hear my students give several readings to practice clients so I can make sure they’ve learned the method successfully. In order to graduate my course and receive certification, all students must be able to demonstrate their ability to give accurate readings. Once I figured out how to do this remotely, the rest was easy. It’s going to be awesome!

If you’ve been interested in doing the training, please sign up for my newsletter as I will announce it there when it’s ready.

Products, Teleseminars, and Workshops
My goal this year is to release a product on intuition development. I’m also wanting to do some classes via teleseminar so look for those on the horizon as well. If I can get my act together, there will also be a live intuition development workshop. I’d like to write a book too.

These goals are a little more vague because I haven’t committed to them as fully as I’ve committed to creating the remote intuitive trainings and getting the readings back in line. Once I’ve succeeded with that, I’ll pick another project and run with it.

No More Forums
Steve removed our forums over at his site. If you want to discuss an article or connect with me, then right now the best way is through Facebook. Please never send me a message on Facebook. Those messages get super low priority and it can take a month or longer to get a response, if ever. Please use my contact form instead.

New Website
One big project last year was getting a new website designed and launched. I started that process in August but hit a bunch of snags. I’m back on track and we should see a new website in the first quarter of 2012. Woo hoo!

My Challenges
Besides running my own business, I’m a full time single mom as well (that comes with its own challenges!). Recently I took a look at my schedule and realized that I have just 6.5 hours per day when my kids are in school. That’s 32.5 hours per week where I can work in peace. That disturbed me a little because I’m sure I’ve got more than 32.5 hours worth of work each week. No wonder I’m running behind and getting frazzled and frustrated that I can’t get more done.

Trying to balance my work and family life has been a big challenge for me, but one I intend to work on more this year. I’m not sure if that means cutting out some of my work-time, working more on weekends and evenings, or hiring someone to help me with the kids or the errands. I’ll experiment and figure it out. But triaging my time has become super important to me.

I’m still working on some health challenges, and have been experimenting with diet a little. I’m not 100% vegan anymore, but still very vegetarian. I’m working on finding a diet that works better with my personal health situation, and am willing to continue to experiment until I find something that works for me.

Steve and I still have not filed for divorce, but we’re getting closer to working out the terms of our divorce. I expect this will happen before mid-year.

I’m devoting a fair bit of time to two of my passions: the Red Cross, and paranormal investigations. I’m taking more classes with the Red Cross so that I can begin making presentations to families to help them prepare for disasters. I may even become an instructor at some point. And I am continuing to serve as a disaster action team member at least twice a month.

And I’ve begun doing more paranormal investigations which is a hobby of mine. My team and I do not charge anything to do an investigation. If people are plagued by entities, demons, or poltergeists, I want to help. If you’re in the Vegas area, or within a 4 hour drive, and you need help, contact me.

People often ask if I’m dating or if I’m seeing someone. I’ve done some online dating, but nothing major has come of it. And I’ve spent some quality time with some gentlemen that I hold dear, but I would say officially I’m not currently dating anyone. If I can find some time to date, I’m definitely going to get on that. I’ve become very discerning, so for a man to capture my attention he has to be pretty stellar. I’d rather get it right than get it often.

Here’s to a fabulous 2012. Rest assured, the world is not going to end on the 21st.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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The reason I’m mentioning this is because my sub-forum there will also be shut down. If you didn’t know already, I’ve had a forum there for a while where people could go to discuss my blog articles. Each time I generated a blog article, the forum system would automatically create a topic on the Erin Pavlina forum over there.

So where should you go to discuss my articles now?

I’m going to enable comments on my blog, probably January 1. I’ll probably have to moderate them to prevent a wall of spam, so when you comment please be patient as I will get to approving them as soon as I can.

Also, every time I post an article I generate a link to it on Facebook and most of the time people go there to discuss it. So if you haven’t friended me on Facebook, please do.

I enjoy hearing from my readers. If you’ve been one of my friends on Facebook for a while you’ll know how fun it is over there. So if you’re new, come on out and join the party. Peace!

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: In my best Morpheus voice, “Do you think that’s air you’re breathing? Hmm.” Time does not exist over there the way it does over here. Likewise, beings of the caliber you’re talking about can absolutely put their consciousness in more than one place at the same time.

It would be difficult to explain or understand how this works from our current physicality/density, but trust me, angels and other beings are more than capable of interacting with and assisting throngs of people at the same time.

Like I’ve mentioned in other posts, this life experience you’re having is more illusion than real. And the people you see wandering around the streets, are more you than not you. What’s really awesome is that you have unlimited access to anything and everything because you are All.

Most people spend their entire lives in a state of disconnection from their Source, but luckily we are still connected even when we forget that connection.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: I don’t know anything about DNA activation. But I can give you a general answer about how to determine if something is legitimate.

First, the reviews are helpful. If you trust the reviews posted on someone’s site, that’s a good start.

Second, I would try to find someone who has had the procedure done and get a personal testimonial from them, ask them questions, etc. Try to find at least 3 people.

Third, make sure it’s something you really want to get. Make sure the outcome is something you are really seeking. Some people go to psychics for a mediumship reading. Bad idea. Go to someone who specializes in what you need done.

Fourth, talk to the practitioner, ask your questions and share your concerns or if the person is too busy, look for a FAQ on their site.

Fifth, ask your gut. Does the person seem legit? Does their website look professional? Do they have any certifications or are they accredited? Have they written a book?

And lastly, make sure that after the procedure you’re going to actually notice or feel a difference. You don’t want to buy snake oil. Is there some measureable way to determine if you got what you paid for?

Good luck!

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: If a deceased person is coming to you in your dream and showing you what really happened to them the day they passed away you should pay careful attention, as it could very well be true.

First you need to determine if you are really having communication with a deceased loved one.

Next, does their version seem plausible? If so, you’re probably get correct information.

Lastly, you may need to act on the information you get. Especially if the person was murdered or if there were extenuating circumstances. Sometimes spirits reveal they committed suicide when it really seemed like an accident. And sometimes the reverse is true.

Spirits who are not at rest or who have unfinished business or who are seeking justice will often send dreams to their loved ones in an attempt to notify them of the truth. So definitely pay attention and take those dreams seriously.

I’ve had several personal experiences and professional experiences where new information came through that turned out to be correct once tracked down and investigated. So it’s definitely possible, and in many cases, likely.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: Technically you can, but I don’t recommend it.

First, a Ouija board is just a piece of wood with preprinted lettering on it. By itself, it’s not a problem. But Ouija board use can become a problem if you open a door and let the flies in while you’re trying to let in your guides.

Negative and low vibrational spirits often use a Ouija board to communicate messages designed to put you in a place of fear. And often people don’t realize they are being lied to by these spirits. So I would urge extreme caution before using the Ouija board to talk to your guides.

Try meditation or lucid dreaming. You can try automatic writing as well. Find your dominant intuitive modality and then use it to connect to your guides.

If you must use a Ouija board, make sure you are in a nice high vibration before using it. Make sure you protect yourself energetically, ask for ONLY your guides to attend you, and ask the angels to protect your session. Also do not use the Ouija board alone. Make sure someone else is using it with you, and that they too are at a high vibration.

It takes a lot of effort for a spirit to move the planchette around on the Ouija board. So start out by asking simple yes-no questions before you ask it to spell out entire paragraphs. The Ouija board is a slow and complicated way of talking to your guides which also carries risks. Be careful!

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: I’ve done readings for people where their guides were pushing them pretty hard on a certain path, often leaving no time or energy for relationships or other things my client wanted in his or her life. As such, these guides were not nudging, plotting, or planning for my client to have a relationship, even though it was something my client dearly desired. In this case, I suggested to my client to bring in new guides who were on board with their plan. You can do this. But before you ask for new guides, make sure you know why your current guides are pushing or blocking.

You know that saying, “Before you tear down a fence find out why it was put up in the first place?” Same thing applies here. In the cases with my clients who had the snorty guides, their life purpose hinged greatly on their career path. So the guides were pretty pushy.

However, because of free will, we have the right to go down any path we desire, even if it’s destructive, and even if it’s against the design of our higher self. You just must accept the consequences of your actions. If you came here to be a world class quantum physicist who is going to discover something amazing and you derail yourself because you want love instead, then when you get back to the ether you’re probably going to kick yourself.

Now, now, that’s not to say a world class physicist can’t have love. But I’ve read for people who literally came here to accomplish something that will help the planet and a relationship really WILL derail them. Their guides know that, so their guides are not pushing in the direction of love.

The bottom line is if you want something in your life that you aren’t attracting, sometimes you can ask for a specific guide to come in and help you with that. It doesn’t mean firing your current guides. I wouldn’t do that unless it’s a dire situation. Ask the universe to bring you a guide whose job it is to bring you love. And see what happens.

Just do it while meditating, or speak it out loud at night before you go to bed. “Dear Universe, I want love in my life. Will you please assign me a guide who will help me find it. Thank you! You’re awesome. I love you. Goodnight.”

P.S. Don’t even try asking for Lottery Guides. No such thing. But you can ask for a guide to help you with your abundance or financial flow.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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Answer: On the other side there are no days, and we don’t have bodies, so definitely no eating, drinking, sleeping, or playing the harp.

Spirits on the other side do many things. They do “hang out” with other spirits they know. They commune with each other, share information, ideas, and philosophy.

Some spirits become spirit guides, so they actively work to help guide incarnated souls on their journeys.

Some spirits continue their “studies” on the other side, going to a sort of “school” as it would seem to us.

Spirits experience; anything and everything they want to. They travel the cosmos and meet other beings.

Some spirits help other spirits cross over. Some assist in the Akashic Records.

On the other side, we are energy, not matter, but we retain our consciousness. We look in on our loved ones, we plan our next life, and share our energy with others. It’s unlike our lives here in many ways, but it should be interesting for sure.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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6. Signs From the Spirits
7. Will I see a loved one on the other side if they’ve already reincarnated?

Answer: When I connect with a deceased person during a reading I am always connecting with the persona that my client would recognize. So if Aunt Clara is coming through for my client, I’m connecting with the personality that was Aunt Clara in life. I am not connecting with Aunt Clara’s higher self.

I have never been looking for a deceased friend or relative and was presented with a person’s higher self instead.

So when does a person slough off the persona from their previous incarnation? I believe it varies by person. Sometimes a person “hangs on” to their old life because they are still emotionally connected to their living loved ones, or they are waiting for someone, like a spouse, to die so they can move on together. At some point every spirit lets go and merges back with their higher self.

I’ll bet it’s possible for a higher self to still come through as a previous persona, but I have never had that experience with a spirit.

No medium can guarantee contact with a specific deceased person. What I’ve noticed is sometimes I’ll bring a spirit through and my client will say, “Yep, he comes through every time I do a reading with a medium.” That’s a spirit who is still connected, hovering, and hanging around their loved ones. I’ve also had situations where a certain spirit never comes through no matter how many readings a person gets with a medium, and I suspect those spirits have disconnected and moved on.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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4. Do deceased family members know when someone is going to die?
5. How Can Psychics Reach Deceased Relatives Who Have Reincarnated?
6. Can I contact a deceased relative on my own?
7. Can Dead People Negatively Affect Your Life?

Answer: Unless you are strong and practiced at psychic self defense, you should not open yourself up to a negative entity to communicate with it. It’s very dangerous. As soon as you tune in, the entity is going to “push” its energy onto you. If you’re not ready for it you could become influenced or possessed. If it’s a demon, you’re going to be in serious trouble. If it’s a low vibrational entity, you’re most likely going to need help shaking it off.

If you encounter a negative, low vibrational presence in someone’s home, ask it to go away, but without opening yourself up to hearing its story. Tell it that it must go, that it is not welcome, and that it should never come back. If it’s a demon, that may not be enough and you may need assistance from professionals who handle that sort of thing. But 99% of the time, it’s not a demon, it’s a ghost or a low vibrational entity from the astral plane.

Keeping your vibration high is critical when you’re around a negative presence.

If you are a medium or a psychic you could attempt to communicate with the entity but only if you have learned how to shield yourself while you do it. I have been in situations where I allow an entity to tell me its tale without warming up to it and letting it come inside for tea and cookies.

But as a cautionary tale, if you read the story of my paranormal investigation at the Amargosa Hotel, you’ll see how I ended up getting influenced by a low vibrational entity and how it really caught me by surprise. I was too tired, and too “nice” to it and it tried to get me to hurt my friends.

You may also want to ask yourself why there is a negative presence in your friend’s home and work with your friend to remove it.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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2. Can you give psychic readings to your family and friends without bias?
3. How can I get a deceased loved one to communicate with me?
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5. What is channeling and can anyone do it?
6. Demons, Entities, and Possession Oh My!
7. How can I purge myself of the negative energy sticking to me?

Answer: This is a great question and I’m glad you asked it.

While it may seem as if lightworkers are not engaging in social issues, the opposite is actually true. While everyone else is out there fighting, arguing, debating, pushing, warring, and creating conflict, a true lightworker knows that the way to change our planet is to hold the vibration of what we want: peace, love, compassion, kindness, gratitude, and joy. While everyone else is sinking down into the mud to fight about things, the lightworkers are cleverly keeping their vibration high.

And do you know what that does? It changes the world from within. One person at a time. That may seem slow, but it is the only way. And there are many lightworkers affecting many people. Oh you won’t hear about them on the news. “Today in the mall someone cast love at 80 people.” You only hear of the violence, “Today in the mall someone opened fire and killed 10 people.”

If lightworkers focus on the negative, if they allow themselves to become upset, angry or fearful, then the other side wins. The dark takes over. We cannot change our problems with the same thinking or actions that caused them. We must rise above. It may sound airy fairy to some, but that’s okay. For every man out there with a rifle and a vendetta, there are 10 lightworkers casting love at people in the mall, the grocery store, on a blog, at a conference, or a family event.

We are not turning a blind eye. Not remotely. We are well aware of the fear, greed, control, and anger. We are well aware of the needless deaths, the irresponsible acts, the horror and violence. We hold our light anyway. We are being in the world what we want to see in the world. We are speaking, not always with our voices, but with our vibration. We are keeping our candle lit, sheltered from the winds of violence snuffing it out.

And we are many and growing every day.

© 2006-2011 by Erin Pavlina.

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7. Why does God allow bad things to happen to good people?